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Caring for Aging Parents
Jeremy B. Yorgason, PhD, School of Family Life
BYU Wellness, Winter 2008
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Caregiving• How many of you currently provide care for an aging
parent?
• How many of you currently provide care for both aging parents and children in the home?
• How many of you have provided care for a parent in the past?
• How many of you are here in anticipation of things to come?
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Objectives
• Raise common concerns
• Provide some brief answers
• Provide some resources where you can find more direct and complete answers to your specific situations
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Caring for Aging Parents: Examples
• Savior to Peter on the cross– Caring for a loved one
• Nephi, Sam, Jacob, Joseph, Laman, Lemuel – caring for Lehi and Sariah– 2nd generation behavior affecting the health of
the 1st generation
• Ruth and Naomi– Loyalty
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The maturing of parent/adult child relationships• Parent/Child relationships maturing
• Role changes
• Life coming full circle
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The maturing of parent/adult child relationships• When caregiving starts…
• Encourage a healthy balance between autonomy and dependence
• Allow parents to give
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Talking about aging concerns
• Bring up the hypothetical – “What would you want if…” Frame this in your parent’s best interest.
• Research: Concern, Urging, Action
• Difficult decisions often follow crises or are based on safety issues (driving, moving residence, increased level of care)
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Caregiving
• Health care– www.careutah.com (see Geriatric health care
providers)
• Primary caregivers, secondary caregivers, long distance caregiving (working?)
• In home, in assisted living facility, nursing home, hospital
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Important documents
1. Will
2. Durable power of attorney (for finances)
3. Advance directives (living wills, durable power of attorney for health care)
www.hsdaas.utah.gov/pdf/ADInstructions4.pdf
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Family Meetings• Communicate desires
– Important documents– End of life care– Financial situation
• All together• Individually• Video/audio• Whatever works!• http://www.eldercare.com/modules.php?op=modload&name
=CG_Resources&file=article&sid=868• http://www.eldercareteam.com/resources/articles/familymee
ting.htm
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Healthy living• Physical health
• Mental health– Be aware of the three D’s (Depression, delirium, and dementia)– Dementia care– www.alz.org/utah/ – www.alzheimers.org
• Social health– Activity theory, disengagement theory, socioemotional selectivity theory
• Misc. issues– Driving (
http://www.aging-parents-and-elder-care.com/Pages/Checklists/Elderly_Drivers.html)
– Attending church, serving in church callings
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Paying for care
• Medicare, Medicaid, long-term care insurance, out of pocket expenses
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Paying for care
• Medicare (www.medicare.gov)• http://www.longtermcarelink.net/
eldercare.htm • http://www.longtermcarelink.net/
a16four_steps_book.htm • Take home message: Medicare does not
pay for assisted living, and only pays a portion of nursing home care.
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Caring for the Caregiver: Get Help
• Eating, Sleeping, Exercise• Respite• Emotional support• Transitioning to and from primary caregiving• http://www.acsu.buffalo.edu/~drstall/hndbk0.html• http://www.aafp.org/afp/20001215/2613.html• A little blurb on the book, “The 36 hour day”
http://www.sleephomepages.org/books/36hourday.htm• The Kansas Caregiver’s Guide:
http://www.agingkansas.org/Publications/caregivers/cg_index.htm
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Facing death
• Hospice services• At the death• Healing rituals (funeral, burial)• Grieving (stages, yet different for all)• Sorting through belongings, assets
– Take time to relate memories, be fair/generous, remember that all parties are likely still grieving (be forgiving)
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We’re the Next Generation
• Preparation– Physical– Relational– Financial– Spiritual