Session 1:Intro & Thoughts

Barossa Youth Leaders Training

Travis Doecke and Dan Sawade13 September 2012

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Travis blogs at www.upstreamcraving.com

Dan blogs at www.thekingdomisnthard.wordpress.com

Where are we going?

Who do you say that I am?

The Fathers Heart

Lead Like Jesus

King David

How’d Jesus do small groups?

Cultural Understanding

What do you want?

Who do you

say that I am?

Who am I?

Who am I?

Jesus. That is all.

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• Is that too simplistic?

• How much of Jesus is reflected in the Barossa?

• Matthew 16:13-20

“Who do you say that I am?”

Identity

Security

Purpose

We must operate out of our sonship (called), or we will slip into being slaves (driven) people

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Who am I?

Whose do I belong to?

Whom am I called to?

Who am I? IDENTITY

Whose do I belong to? SECURITY

Whom am I called to? DESTINY

For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God. The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry, ―Abba, Father.‖ The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God‘s children. Romans 8:14-16

I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master‘s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you. You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit —fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in my name the Father will give you. John 15:14-16

Lead Like

Jesus

‘Lead Like Jesus’ Leadership Model

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• The ‗Lead Like Jesus‘ leadership model is based on a book by Ken Blanchard and Phil Hodges.

• It unpacks the head, heart, hands and habits required to lead like Jesus.

Hands

Heart

Head

HabitsLead Like Jesus Testimony

‘Lead Like Jesus’ Leadership Model - HEART

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• EGO: Edging God Out or Exalting God only?• The most persistent barrier to leading like Jesus

is a heart motivated by self interest.• Therefore if you have any encouragement from

being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. Philippians 2:1-4

• Driven (own everything) leader vs Called (loan everything) leader

‘Lead Like Jesus’ Leadership Model - HEART

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Edging God Out • Whom I worship

• My source of security and self worth• My audience, ultimate authority, my judge

PRIDEAn overly high opinion of

yourself, exaggerated esteem of self, arrogance.

Romans 12:3

PROMOTING SELF• Boasting, • Taking all the credit• Showing off • Doing all the talking

• Demanding attention.

FEARAn insecure view of the future producing self

protection. Proverbs 29:25

PROTECTING SELF• Hiding behind position• Withholding information• Intimidating others• Hoarding control• Discouraging honest

feedback.Always Separates• From God, others & self

Always Compares• With others

Always Distorts• The truth into false security or

fear

‘Lead Like Jesus’ Leadership Model - HEART

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Exalting God Only• As the object of my worship

• As the source of my security and self worth• As the only audience and judge of my life decisions

HUMILITY• Something lived but never

claimed• Looking out the window rather

than in the mirror to praise• A kingdom perspective of cause

and effect.

CONFIDENCE• Resting assured in God‘s nature,

goodness, purpose, plan, process and provision

• Transparency and effectiveness• Proceeding in faith one step at a

time

Community and FellowshipContentment and Generosity

Trust and TruthInspiration and Commitment

Am I a servant leader or a self serving leader? Discuss.

‘Lead Like Jesus’ Leadership Model - HEAD

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• Creating a vision for your followers to be inspired by

• Implementing what you know to be true and correct. The vision

• Have a set of values that you will never pass on

• Sound set of beliefs about life and faith• Self-governing so you remain pure and stable

in heart• Establishing goals, both short and long term• But we have the mind of Christ.

1 Corinthians 2:16

Draw your vision for your church community?

‘Lead Like Jesus’ Leadership Model - HANDS

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• From Jesus‘ call to his final commission• We have a job to do• Skills• Gifts• Talents• Personality• Experiences• SHAPE assessment• God has made as unique and individual

What am I good at? What gifts has God given me? Discuss.

‘Lead Like Jesus’ Leadership Model - HABITS

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• Addressing and consolidating your character

• Solitude• Prayer• Study and application of scripture• Accepting God‘s unconditional love• Involvement in supportive, healthy

relationships• But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places

and prayed. Luke 5:16

What is it you love about reading the bible and going to Church?

King David

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15 After Nathan returned to his home, the LORD sent a deadly illness to

the child of David and Uriah‟s wife. 16 David begged God to spare the

child. He went without food and lay all night on the bare ground. 17 The

elders of his household pleaded with him to get up and eat with them, but

he refused. 18 Then on the seventh day the child died. David‟s advisers were afraid to

tell him. “He wouldn‟t listen to reason while the child was ill,” they said.

“What drastic thing will he do when we tell him the child is dead?”19 When David saw them whispering, he realized what had happened. “Is

the child dead?” he asked. “Yes,” they replied, “he is dead.”20 Then David got up from the ground, washed himself, put on lotions,

and changed his clothes. He went to the Tabernacle and worshiped the

LORD. After that, he returned to the palace and was served food and ate.21 His advisers were amazed. “We don‟t understand you,” they told him.

“While the child was still living, you wept and refused to eat. But now that

the child is dead, you have stopped your mourning and are eating again.”22 David replied, “I fasted and wept while the child was alive, for I said,

„Perhaps the LORD will be gracious to me and let the child live.‟ 23 But why

should I fast when he is dead? Can I bring him back again? I will go to

him one day, but he cannot return to me.” 2 Samuel 12:15-23

David was over looked time and time again

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• More ‗qualified‘ brothers were looked at first

• The Kingdom is here and now, it is in your field

• Humble and content

• Formed in his everyday

Where is your field/opportunities?

David’s Leadership was “after God’s heart”

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• Sought his Heavenly Father‘s heart, good or bad (Psalms)

• When David had done wrong and was punished, he still ran

to God‘s heart

• Had a close and intimate relationship with God

• Prayed, sang and even danced before God

In what ways can you be after God’s heart?How does this impact leadership?

Jesus and

small groups

Did Jesus do small group ministry?Or was there more to it? Was he in it?

Jesus didn’t do small group ministry, He lived it

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• He invited them

• He lived with them

• He taught them

• He cared for them

• He served them

Where is the Kingdom in your groups?

Cultural

Engagement

Our world has changed. What worked 30 years ago, no longer works today.

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Here are some points of interest about our world today:

• Time poor

• Better connected via online technologies

• Dual incomes. Both parents working and children mostly brought up in childcare centres

• Christianity in mass decline. Maybe, maybe not? People walking away from institutions, but not necessarily the faith.

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• Cost of living vs cost of luxury? Pressure to keep up with ‗the Jones‘s‘ but also to simply keep up with everyday bills

• Divorce is an accepted option, making mixed families unstoppable. (see new Foxtel add)

• Co-habitation before marriage is generally accepted

Mark Sayers identifies these changes:

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• Hyper-consumerism – Consumerism is no longer about buying and selling products. Consumerism now almost affects every facet of western society. We now approach religion, citizenship, love and human relationships in the way that we would approach buying a product. This is so extreme that we, ourselves, have become products. What we have and what we own determines ‗who‘ we are.

• Technology – Internet, better medicines, international travel. Technology is deeply changing the way we live our lives.

• Death of Truth – Our culture has become relativist. It believes that it is impossible to have absolute truth. Truth is what you the individual believe it to be. The central codes that are used to define our moral choices are no longer relevant to many. People are making their own choices in regard to identity, sexuality, ethics etc. People are able to hold several conflicting beliefs at once. They are OK if 1 + 1 = 3.

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• Multiculturalism – Our society has become a collection of societies. In an increasingly large number of western cultures, cities and suburbs have become melting pots of religions, races, nationalities, special interest groups, socio-economic groups and sub-cultures.

• Hyper-Individualism – Our culture holds in a high place, the right of the individual. The individual is at the centre of our culture. People make the majority of their choices in life based on their own wishes. Experts note that younger generations are becoming even more self-focussed. Self is definitely King.

• The Global village – In our media saturated age it is hard to hide away from what is happening around the world. The world has become a confusing place filled with competing ideals, poverty, extreme wealth, terrorism, war and mixing of cultures. In many ways our neighbourhoods have become micro worlds in themselves. In the past, missionaries had to go to find other cultures, now other cultures are coming to us.

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• Suspicion of Institutions – People have become highly suspicious of the large institutions that used to form the centre of society. People are questioning banks, ‗big‘ business, governments, schools and universities, the legal system and organized religion. The church, in the eyes of many, has a highly questionable track record.

• Pleasure society – Our society places the pursuit for pleasure as one of, if not its highest value. The idea of ‗delaying gratification‘, incorporating personal discipline and sacrifice for spiritual growth and purpose is alien to most.

• Image driven society – ‗Thirst is nothing. Image if everything,‘ said an advertisement of a few years ago. Where as cultures in the past focussed on values such as character, chivalry, kindness and compassion, our culture is obsessed with image and surface. Thus many, instead of looking for inner, more spiritual answers, attempt to change their lives through a make-over of themselves or the things that they own.

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• Achievement driven – In a capitalist society which values material things over the spiritual, humans are told that the main way to find meaning is through ‗achievement.‘ Education, career, sport, personal fitness, children, finances and even hobbies, have all been dislodged from their original purposes and now have become battle grounds of personal loss, triumph and achievement.

• Post-Christian – an increasing majority of people in the west now see Christianity as a redundant non-option. Christians are viewed, at best, as out of touch and eccentric and at worst intolerant bigots. As a popular bumper sticker reads, ―Jesus save me from your followers.‖

• Adrenalin culture – People today live in the ‗buzz‘. Citizens of the 21st century change relationships, careers, relationships and places of residence at an amazing rate, failing the commitment test.

• Experience – Our culture, especially youth culture, process everything through the lens of experience. We are shifting from finding truth through cold hard examination to finding truth through experience.

The changes we are seeing, bring enormous opportunities.

Christ will build His church

What do you

want?

What do you want? Same question, your choice…

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Then James and John, the sons of Zebedee, came to him.

“Teacher,” they said, “we want you to do for us whatever we ask.”

“What do you want me to do for you?” he asked. They replied, “Let

one of us sit at your right and the other at your left in your

glory.”

“You don‟t know what you are asking,” Jesus said. “Can you drink the

cup I drink or be baptized with the baptism I am baptized with?” “We

can,” they answered. Jesus said to them, “You will drink the cup I

drink and be baptized with the baptism I am baptized with, but to sit at

my right or left is not for me to grant. These places belong to those for

whom they have been prepared.”

Mark 10:35-40 (NIV)

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As Jesus and his disciples, together with a large crowd, were leaving

the city, a blind man, Bartimaeus, was sitting by the roadside begging.

When he heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth, he began to shout,

“Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!” Many rebuked him and

told him to be quiet, but he shouted all the more, “Son of David,

have mercy on me!” Jesus stopped and said, “Call him.” So they

called to the blind man, “Cheer up! On your feet! He‟s calling you.”

Throwing his cloak aside, he jumped to his feet and came to Jesus.

“What do you want me to do for you?”

Jesus asked him. The blind man said, “Rabbi, I want to see.” “Go,”

said Jesus, “your faith has healed you.” Immediately he received his

sight and followed Jesus along the road.

Mark 10:46-52 (NIV)

What do you want? Same question, your choice…

What do you want?

May I never put anything above the

cross of our Lord Jesus the Anointed. Through Him, the world has been

crucified to me and I to this world.

Galatians 6:14

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