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77 SECRETS

To Make Every Man Adore You, Chase You,

Love You, and Commit To You

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77 Secrets to Make Every Man Adore You, !ase You, "ove You, and omm#tto You$ #s co%yr#g!ted w#t! all r#g!ts reserved. &t #s #llegal to co%y, steal, or

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Ta*le o) Contents

/ntrodu.tion ..................................................................................................

!e 0 Sources of All Your Men roblems .............................................

Chater 0 & A1akin! to Your Stron!est Sel) .........................................

Secret 1 "ove 3are #s (ar 3are .............................................................

Secret 2 lear ur%ose Attracts Men ....................................................

Secret 0 ur%ose of a -omant#c -elat#ons!#% ......................................

Secret 4 S#m%l#c#ty 5ets You -esults ...................................................

Secret 6 ake t!e S!ortest at! to t!e astle........................................

Secret 8nowledge #s ower ...............................................................

Secret 7 9ever !ange (!o You Are ..................................................

Secret / You an :o &t ; &r#g#n of t!e 3emale &nst#ncts ....................................

Secret 1? err#f#ed of *e#ng Alone ..................................................

Secret 11 My lock #s #ckl#ng$ ....................................................

Secret 12 Money, ower, and Status ................................................

Secret 10 -e%et#t#ve -e#nforcements ..............................................

!ree 0s !at Are 9ot So ute ...........................................................

Secret 14 onv#nc#ng Your Man ......................................................

Secret 16 om%la#n#ng to Your Man ...............................................

Secret 1 ontroll#ng Your Man ......................................................

wo @#tal :#st#nct#ons You Must 8now ....................................................

Secret 17 ontrollable vs 9onontrollable ..................................

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Secret 1/ 9eed vs. :es#re ................................................................

3#nal Ste% of :eto) ................................................................................

Secret 1= Erase t!e ast ...................................................................

Chater 34 Emotional /ntelli!en.e .........................................................

Secret 2? Emot#onal &ntell#gence for :at#ng ........................................

Secret 21 Manage Your Emot#ons ........................................................

Secret 22 !reeSte% System to ult#vate Your E& ..............................

Secret 20 Manage Your Man

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Chater %4 Male sy.holo!y ...................................................................

Secret 41 Ber#g#n of Male &nst#ncts ........................................................

Secret 40 lay Bard to 5et ; t!e -#g!t (ay ........................................

Secret 44 >n -e+ect#ons .......................................................................

Secret 46 -eal Menut .......................................................

Chater '4 Lessons )rom Le!endary Sedu.tresses ...............................

Secret 6? Allow B#m to &deal#e You ...................................................

Secret 61 Always Bave t!e '%%er Band ..............................................

Secret 62 'se :#stance to reate -es%ect and :es#re ..........................

Secret 60 reate >bstacles for B#m to >vercome ................................

Secret 64 S!ow "#m#ted Ava#lab#l#ty ....................................................

Secret 66 5#ve B#m "#m#ted >%t#ons ...................................................

Secret 6 !e rom#se of Se) ...............................................................

Chater 0$4 Ele.troni. Communi.ations Eti;uette..............................

Secret 67 Bow to Bandle !one onversat#ons w#t! a Man ................

Secret 6/ Bow to Bandle e)t Messages w#t! a Man ..........................

Secret 6= Bow to Bandle Ema#ls w#t! a Man ......................................

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Secret 2 (!at reates Se)ual ens#on ...............................................

Secret 0 'se t!e Se)ual ens#on to Your advantage ...........................

Chater 034 =o1 Emotional Bondin! =els You Seal the -eal ..........

Secret 4 !e Essence of Emot#onal *ond#ng .....................................

Secret 6 Emot#onal *ond#ng vs. !ys#cal *ond#ng ............................

Secret S#gns t!at Be (ants to *ond ................................................

Secret 7 S#gns t!at Be :oesnnl#ne :at#ng .......................................................................

Secret 74 Bow to 3l#rt ......................................................................

Secret 76 Se)ual A%%eal t!e :ouble Edged Sword .............................

Secret 7 9ever Cu#t ............................................................................

Secret 77 !e rue *eauty of an 'nforgettable (oman ......................

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A New Beginning

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/ntrodu.tion

:ear 3r#end,

"et me start t!#s book by ask#ng you a few Fuest#ons. Bave you ever felt

frustrated because your man w#ll not g#ve you stra#g!t answersD Are you annoyed

w!en !e tells you, 9ot!#ng #s wrong,$ but you 89>( somet!#ng #s

:E3&9&E"Y (->95D Bave you ever wondered w!at !e #s -EA""Y t!#nk#ng

and w!at !eGs not tell#ng youD (!y canGt a man +ust tell you w!at !eGs -EA""Y

feel#ngD And w!y do t!ey get annoyed or defens#ve w!en you ask t!emD

(ouldnGt #t be great #f men came w#t! a userGs manual t!at told you e)actly !ow

to -EA: t!emD

(ell, &Gm w#t! you on t!#s oneH !#ngs would be so muc! clearer and s#m%ler #f

guys commun#cated w#t! us #n a way we understood. *ut t!#s dream of ours w#ll

only come true #f we women l#ve on MarsH &f you !ave readMen Are from Mars

And Women From Venus, youGll know t!at men and women are on com%letely

d#fferent levels w!en #t comes to commun#cat#on styles. Men are confus#ng to

read, !ard to understand and easy to m#sread.

After a lot of #nde%t! researc!, &Gve com%#led t!#s ebook to !el% you #m%rove

!ow you can -EA: and '9:E-SA9: men, so t!ere w#ll be fewer

m#sunderstand#ngs and Fuest#on marks. *ut #t does not end t!ere. & w#ll take you

one ste% furt!er to t!e %lace t!at very few women !ave ever been to ; t!e !oly

land of seduct#on.

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!e women w!o !ave been t!ere were legendary seductresses. You may !ave

!eard of some of t!em leo%atra, (all#s S#m%son and t!e now #nfamous am#lla

arker*owles. !ese women were ne#t!er t!e smartest nor t!e most beaut#ful

I%lease tell me you know someone w!o looks better t!an am#llaHJ.

*ut t!ere #s one t!#ng t!ey know and understand better t!an ==.=K of women #n

t!#s world ; t!ey know B>( > &93"'E9E ME9. &n ot!er words, t!ey know

!ow to al#gn men to t!e#r way of t!#nk#ng and make t!em want to sat#sfy eac!

and every one of t!e#r l#ttle w#s!es. !ey also make men fall so dee%ly #n love

t!at #n t!e case of (all#s S#m%son, 8#ng Edward @&&& gave u% !#s t!rone to s%end

!#s l#fe w#t! t!e woman & love.$

!#s #s t!e %ower to #nfluence men. !#s #s t!e value of al#gn#ng men to your way

of t!#nk#ng. &tGs t!e %ower t!at w#ll del#ver t!e man of your dreams and t!e love

l#fe you could only !o%e for r#g!t to your doorste%. ell me t!#s #s somet!#ng you

donGt want to learn and masterH

o ass#st your learn#ng, &Gve s%ent a lot of t#me f#lter#ng t!roug! a !uge amount of

#nformat#on, s#m%l#fy#ng #t and condens#ng t!e most useful, %ract#cal adv#ce #nto

t!e least amount of mater#al for you. & want you to Fu#ckly d#gest t!e #nformat#on

and start a%%ly#ng #t #n t!e real world to see !ow %owerful #t truly #s. &Gve

carefully selected 77 secrets and grou%ed t!em #nto d#fferent categor#es to

corres%ond w#t! t!e 0 most common sources of all t!e dat#ngLrelat#ons!#%

%roblems. Bere t!ey are

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Sour.e 04 La.kin! no1led!e /n Male sy.holo!y

& want you to look back at your l#fe and t!#nk about one e)am%le w!ere youGve

successfully #nfluenced anot!er %erson. :#d you know t!at %erson wellD Maybe a

b#t too well to know w!at !#s or !er !ot buttons$ wereD :#d you kee% %us!#ng

t!ose !ot buttons$ to get t!e ot!er %erson to res%ondD :#d you try to ada%t your

commun#cat#on style to w!at t!at %erson was most res%ons#ve toD E)actlyH

(#t!out understand#ng w!at your man res%onds to, you cannot #nfluence !#m,

c!ange !#m and make !#m do w!at you want. You may !ave some luck !ere and

t!ere, but w#t!out know#ng w!ere to a#m, !ow many u%#ds Arrows do you !ave

to waste unt#l you f#nally !#t t!e targetD

>nce you know w!at t!e !ot buttons are, you A99> >SS&*"Y fa#l #n

attract#ng and kee%#ng men. Bow can you fa#l w!en you target t!e t!#ngs t!at

men are most res%ons#ve toD Bow can you fa#l w!en you know e)actly !ow to

el#c#t certa#n res%onses #n menD Bow can you fa#l w!en you can -EA: ME9

"&8E A *>>8D Bow can you fa#l w!en you know men better t!an t!ey know

t!emselvesD You cannot fa#l #n attract#ng and kee%#ng a man w!en you fully

understand t!em. !e only reason t!at you m#g!t fa#l #s You :onGt 8now

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Sour.e #4 La.kin! no1led!e

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Sour.e 34 La.kin! Su))i.ient ra.ti.e To

Be.ome An Exert Sedu.tress

!ere #s a !uge d#fference between know#ng somet!#ng on a t!eoret#cal level and

know#ng !ow to do somet!#ng on a %ract#cal level. &tGs t!e d#fference between

dreamers and doers. &f you want to be t!e woman w!oGs #n control of !er love l#fe

and w!o !as t!e %ower to attract and kee% any man of !er c!o#ce, you need

suff#c#ent %ract#ce. & can tell you all t!e r#g!t t!#ngs you need to know, but you

!ave to %ract#ce, %ract#ce and %ract#ce to !one your sk#lls. !#nk about #t as

start#ng a new +ob #t takes %ract#ce to become really good at w!at you are do#ng.

!e same rule a%%l#es !ere. &f you %ract#ce enoug!, you

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Chater 0

A1akin! To Your Stron!est Sel)

0 Love Fare /s +ar Fare

>ut of all t!e t!#ngs #n t!e world, a woman !as t!e most at stake #n t!e battle of

love !er t#me, !er re%roduct#ve resources, !er l#fe and !er !a%%#ness. A woman

can be t!e most successful E>, but #f !er love l#fe #s a mess, s!e w#ll always be

d#sa%%o#nted. :ur#ng a recent survey, more t!an 76K of t!e female e)ecut#ves on

(all Street cla#med t!ey would be w#ll#ng to d#tc! t!e#r !#g!%owered career for

t!e man of t!e#r dreams.

!#s %o#nts to t!e fact t!at love fare #s t!e one battle a woman cannot afford to

lose. &n anc#ent t#mes, w!en a woman lost !er man to anot!er female, s!e would

face e)t#nct#on. S!e needed a strong !unter to %rov#de food and resources to

surv#ve. !#ngs are not as deadly ser#ous #n t!e modern world. *ut #f you want to

com%letely succeed and make #t$ #n today

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about refus#ng to be t!e sad woman w!o, at t!e end of t!e day, says t!at s!e was

unlucky #n love. !ere are no unlucky women #n love, only lay women w!o

refuse to s%end t!e t#me learn#ng w!at really works. !e w!ole %ur%ose of Secret

1 #s for you to understand t!e #m%ortance of learn#ng !ow attract#on works. & want

you to take #t ser#ously and start tak#ng res%ons#b#l#ty for your own !a%%#ness.

"uck and success follow t!ose w!o take res%ons#b#l#ty and w!o never blame t!e#r

c#rcumstances.

2 Clear urose Attra.ts Men

(!en you are 1??K clear about w!at you want #n l#fe, ama#ng t!#ngs start to

!a%%en success, !a%%#ness, good fortune, !#g!Fual#ty men, +ust to name a few.

*e#ng laserbeam clear about your goals, w!at your l#fe %ur%ose #s and w!at your

%lace #s #n t!#s world w#ll create t!e mag#c to transform your dream #nto real#ty.

o %rove my %o#nt, & want you to do a s#m%le e)erc#se. !#nk back to a t#me #n

your l#fe w!en you were confused about w!at you wanted at t!at %art#cular

moment. (!at !a%%enedD :#d you l#ke t!e end resultD :#d you feel t!at you

could !ave done so muc! betterD :#d you w#tness !ow t!#ngs went from bad to

worse because #t all started w#t! a vague, confused, nondef#ned %ur%oseD

& used to !ave neverend#ng bad luck w#t! men. Somet#mes & even wondered

!ow t!#s could !a%%en to me. &f & !ad bad luck once, s!ouldnGt my good luck be

wa#t#ng round t!e cornerD 'nfortunately & w#tnessed !ow my bad luck turned #nto

worse luck because & wasnGt clear about w!at & wanted. & allowed myself to get


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#nvolved and ste%%ed #nto t!e role t!at t!e man at t!e t#me wanted me to %lay.

(!en you are not clear about w!at you want, you become t!e su%%ort#ng

c!aracter #n someone elseGs l#fe. Your l#fe #s about you, your v#s#on and your l#fegoal. lar#ty attracts t!e ty%e of man you want. (!en youGre crystal clear about

!ow you env#sage your love l#fe to be, you send out a mag#cal #nv#tat#on to t!e

%erfect man to +o#n your l#fe.

3 urose t!erw#se,

#t doesn

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A cl#ent of m#ne used to feel dee%ly tra%%ed #n !er marr#age w#t! a man w!o

worked all t!e t#me. S!e felt !er !usband !ad no feel#ng or t#me for !er

w!atsoever. S!e felt unloved, una%%rec#ated and wort!less. S!e could not see a

way out and came to me for !el%. !e solut#on was Fu#te s#m%le I1J S!e e#t!er

ad+usts !ow s!e feels about !er marr#age and #f s!e canGt, I2J s!e gets out. >nce

you bel#eve t!e s#m%l#c#ty of solv#ng your %roblems, you w#ll start see#ng !ow

clear and manageable your love l#fe truly #s.

Take The Shortest ath To The Castle

&Gm a f#rm bel#ever t!at you s!ould s%end t!e least amount of t#me try#ng to get to

w!ere you want to go and t!e most amount of t#me en+oy#ng t!e fru#ts of your

labor. Some of my female readers Iw!o & love very muc!J !ave a t!#ng for tak#ng

t!e labor#ous %at! #n love. &t seems l#ke t!ey are more comfortable about earn#ng

t!e#r way by tak#ng t!e long %at!.

You need to start g#v#ng yourself %erm#ss#on to take t!e eas#est, s!ortest %at! to

loveH &f you are t!e #nderella, youGll want to take t!e s!ortest %at! to t!e castle

and s%end t!e most t#me danc#ng and catc!#ng your r#nce !arm#ng. &tGs t!e

same way today. *el#eve #n your good fortune. *el#eve t!at good t!#ngs can

!a%%en to you. And, most #m%ortantly, bel#eve t!at you can get to t!e castle and

l#ve !a%%#ly ever after by tak#ng t!e s!ortest %at!.


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8 no1led!e is o1er

&n a way, dat#ng #s no d#fferent from your career. !#nk about !ow many years

youGve devoted to your educat#on, t!e long !ours and late n#g!ts bu#ld#ng your

%rofess#onal network. You %ut so many years of !ard work #nto your career. :onGt

you t!#nk your %ersonal l#fe deserves t!e same nurtur#ngD

"#ke learn#ng about t!e sk#lls you need to be successful #n your career, dat#ng and

relat#ons!#%s reFu#re you to s%end t#me try#ng to understand t!e o%%os#te se).

8nowledge #s %ower. &t canGt be truer t!an #n t!e world of romance. As

Beracl#tus, t!e *yant#ne em%eror sa#d

There is only one wisdom: to recognize the

intelligence that steers all things.

7 2ever Chan!e +ho You Are

A lot of my female cl#ents ask me, (!at an & !ange About Myself to Attract

More MenD$ (rong Fuest#onH You donGt try to c!ange t!e s!a%e of your feet to

f#t #nto your s!oes, do youD You are w!o you are, you can always ref#ne yourself

and be a better you, but you can never c!ange w!at makes you un#Fue. You canGt

c!ange your core values, bel#efs, and your way of see#ng t!e world. &nstead, take

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some t#me to understand yourself, ref#ne yourself and attract t!e -&5B ty%e of

man #nto your l#fe w!o f#ts you.

% You Can -o it & /ll Sho1 You The +ay

&f & wr#te about my %ersonal dat#ng !#story, #t would become a 9ew York

*estseller called, What Not To Do If You Ever Want To Attrat And !ee" A

Man#$ &Gve unfortunately made many m#stakes but !ave 3>-'9AE"Yd#scovered t!e road to success. !#s g#ves me t!e knowledge and e)%er#ence to

s!ow you t!e way. &t m#g!t be a b#t of a cl#c!N but & canGt f#nd anot!er way to say

#t better. *ut !ereGs t!e trut! &f & can do #t, you can do #tH So, are you ready to

come w#t! me on t!#s l#fec!ang#ng +ourneyD 5reatH "et me s!ow you t!e

s!ortest way to Your rue r#nceGs astle and Beart.

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Chater #4 -etox 2o1

*efore we start learn#ng t!e great t!#ngs you can do to #m%rove your love l#fe, we

want to get r#d of t!e bad t!#ngs t!at are !old#ng you back. & call t!#s %rocess

:eto) 9ow$. &n t!#s sect#on, & want to focus on some notverycute be!av#ors

t!at +ust k#ll, k#ll, k#ll t!e attract#on. (e donGt want t!ese t!#ngs #n our system and

we need to get r#d of t!em once and for all.

Three Female /nstin.ts That +ill Enslave You

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(orse, t!ese #nst#ncts generally cause an)#ety and #nsecur#ty, so you w#ll be

mot#vated to take act#on to fulf#ll natureGs des#gn #nstead of your own.

(!en a woman allows t!ese #nst#ncts to control !er feel#ngs and act#ons, s!e runs

#nto all k#nds of %roblems, from feel#ng un!a%%y, #nsecure or needy, to be#ng

unable to attract and kee% a man.

!ere are t!ree dom#nant #nst#ncts #n a woman, w!#c! can be summar#ed #n t!ree

%!rases I1J Attract and mate w#t! t!e most resourceful man I2J -e%roduce w!en

s!e #s ca%able of do#ng so and I0J 3eel m#serable w!en s!e #s alone.

Modern women, no matter !ow successful, are st#ll under t!e %ower of t!ese

#nst#ncts. !ey control !ow s!e feels and reacts, es%ec#ally w!en #t comes to

dat#ng and relat#ons!#%s. 3or e)am%le, #t #s not sur%r#s#ng t!at most women f#nd

men w!o !ave %ower, status and e)ce%t#onal ab#l#t#es e)tremely attract#ve. S!e

cannot !el% but feel t!e butterfl#esH

(#t!out understand#ng and learn#ng !ow to manage t!ese #nst#ncts, you w#ll

constantly feel confused, an)#ous and #nsecure. All t!ese feel#ngs w#ll mot#vate

you to do t!#ngs t!at you may later regret. !ese #nst#ncts are not your fr#ends, so

work w#t! me to get r#d of t!ese enem#es t!at are dragg#ng you away from your

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0$ Terri)ied o) Bein! Alone

*e#ng alone, #n anc#ent t#mes, was dangerous and d#sadvantageous for a woman.

*y be#ng alone, a woman was more l#kely to fall %rey to large %redators and d#e.

Also, !ow can a woman attract a man w!en s!e #s alone all t!e t#meD &t #s t!e

anc#ent eFu#valent of Bey, #f you want to meet a guy, you need to get out of your

a%artmentH$

!#s #nst#nct com%els a woman to do t!#ngs t!at make !er look inse.ure and

needy, w!#c! are e)tremely unattract#ve to a man. So !ow s!ould you learn to get

t!#s !armful #nst#nct under controlD

3#rst, letGs look at t!e bad way your bra#n !as tra#ned to t!#nk w!en you are alone

1. Your senses convey t!e #nformat#on t!at you are alone.

2. Your bra#n Fu#ckly tells you be#ng alone #s *ad.

0. You )eel anxious and a)raid of be#ng alone.

!#s leads to call#ng t!e man >> M'B, ask#ng !#m !ow !e t!#nks about you

and w!ere t!e relat#ons!#% #s go#ng. &t also causes you to get annoyed w!en !e

fa#ls to g#ve you t!at reassurance.

:o you see !ow your bra#n #s follow#ng natureGs order, rat!er t!an your w#s!D o

get r#d of t!#s bad #nst#nct, you !ave to retra#n your bra#n. BereGs t!e key to


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esca%e natureGs des#gn and f#g!t for your !a%%#ness

Ste% 2 #n t!e above seFuence #s cruc#al because t!atGs w!ere your bra#n makes an

evaluat#on of t!e s#tuat#on as be#ng e#t!er %os#t#ve or negat#ve. &f you can rew#reyour bra#n to make a d#fferent evaluat#on of t!e same s#tuat#on, t!e an)#ety and

fear you e)%er#ence #n ste% 0 w#ll not !a%%en. "etGs see !ow t!#s works

1. Your senses convey t!e #nformat#on t!at you are alone.

2. You start to tell your bra#n to make a d#fferent evaluat#on +ust en+oy#ng

myself somet#mesis !oodbecause & !ave t!e freedom to do w!at & truly

want to do, rat!er t!an bow#ng to ot!er %eo%leGs w#s!es.

0. Your evaluat#on leads to a sense o) hainess and a )eelin! o) *ein!

lu.ky.

You sto% call#ng your man every few !ours, sto% corner#ng !#m about w!ere !e

t!#nks t!#ngs are !ead#ng and sto% conv#nc#ng !#m to o%en u% to you.

!e best %art #s t!at w!en you sto% try#ng so !ard to conv#nce your man, !e gets

&9-&5'E:, '-&>'S and -EA:Y to BASE Y>'H !#nk about #t !ave

you ever been #n a s#tuat#on t!at after not call#ng !#m for a cou%le of days, !e

3-EA8E: >' and called you aga#n and aga#n to f#nd out w!at was go#ng on.

Yu%H !atGs !ow you do #t, my g#rlH


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00 My 9Clo.k /s Ti.kin!:

(!en a woman #s #n !er teens or early

2?s, everyt!#ng #s about fun, fun,

funH (!en a woman gets #nto !er 0?s,

!er !ormones beg#n to c!ange, w!#c!

tr#ggers !er an)#ety about %roduc#ng

bab#es. All t!#s makes evolut#onary

sense because a womanGs evolut#onary

funct#on #s to re%roduce, re%roduce and

re%roduce aga#n.

(!en a woman feels t!at !er clock #s t#ck#ng,$ s!e can become an)#ous about

f#nd#ng a man to settle down w#t!. (!en s!e meets a man s!e #s attracted to, s!e

w#ll o%en u% and commun#cate t!#s des#re !onestly and d#rectly. &n most cases

t!#s #nformat#on +ust sl#%s out #n conversat#on w#t! t!e man because #t #s

constantly on !er m#nd.

'nfortunately, w!#le a man may !ave ot!er k#nds of an)#et#es, !e never !as t!e

an)#ety of !#s clock t#ck#ng$. A man #s ca%able of re%roduc#ng well #nto old

age. Even after !e !as lost all !#s teet! !e can st#ll !ave se). So before a woman

commun#cates !er an)#ety, s!e needs to understand t!at a man w#ll res%ond #n t!e

follow#ng ways

A man wonGt understand #t. S#nce a man doesnGt !ave t!#s an)#ety, !e w#ll

be %erfectly #nsens#t#ve towards #t. (orse, !e w#ll t!#nk #t #s totally not !#s


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%roblem.

A man w#ll %an#c. >nce a man senses t!e %ressure from a woman to settle

down, !e may unconsc#ously want to run away to %rotect !#s freedom. A

woman w!o #s #n a !urry to settle down tr#ggers t!e dee%est fears #n a man

about comm#tment.

A man w#ll t!#nk you are tak#ng all t!e fun out of dat#ng. At t!e beg#nn#ng

of a relat#ons!#%, a man #s normally look#ng for a good t#me. Be wonGt

start worry#ng about your %roblems unt#l !e !as emot#onally bonded w#t!

you, w!#c! takes mont!s or longer. (!en you s!ow !#m t!at you want

!#m to fulf#ll a ser#ous need of yours, !e w#ll feel forced #nto somet!#ngt!at !e may not want. &n t!#s case, a man w#ll react l#ke !e #s f#g!t#ng for

!#s l#fe.

-eal##ng a manGs negat#ve react#ons towards t!#s #s not only necessary but

cruc#al. A manGs dat#ng t#meframe #s l#ke t!#s

& am !av#ng fun... & am !av#ng fun... & am !av#ng fun... & am st#ll !av#ng fun...

Bmm, s!e does make me feel good & am !av#ng fun... & am !av#ng fun... & am

!av#ng fun... (ow, #t !as been a few mont!s and & st#ll en+oy s%end#ng t#me w#t!

!er. AwesomeH & am !av#ng a good t#me... My t#me alone #s not as muc! fun as

w!en & am w#t! !er... Actually, & start to m#ss !er w!en s!e #s not around & want

to s%end more t#me w#t! !er... & !ave feel#ngs towards !er now... & may even be

fall#ng for !er & feel an emot#onal connect#on w#t! !er.

!e trut! #s a b#t c!#ll#ng but a man w#ll not truly care about your %roblems and

concerns for a w!#le unt#l !e develo%s an emot#onal bond w#t! you. &n fact,


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d#scuss#ng your %roblems early on turns men off. Aga#n, t!e ne)t t#me you t!#nk

about t!e clock t#ck#ng,$ try t!#s new way of evaluat#on

>bservat#on & am 04 and s#ngle.

Evaluat#on & wonGt allow my #ntense des#re to !ave c!#ldren to d#stract

me from tak#ng t!e t#me to carefully e)am#ne t!#s man for !#s %otent#al to

be my l#fe %artner. &n t!e meant#me, & w#ll +ust en+oy dat#ng !#m and !ave

a good t#me.

onclus#on & am not #n a !urry to settle down and & wonGt d#scuss t!#s

w#t! a man unt#l we are #n a comm#tted relat#ons!#%.

& understand t!#s #s d#ff#cult to do, es%ec#ally #f you !ave always loved and

wanted k#ds. *ut understand#ng w!at works w#t! men and avo#d#ng counter

%roduct#ve strateg#es #s t!e fastest and best way to ac!#eve your goal attract#ng a

!#g!Fual#ty man w!o loves you, treasures you and wants to kee% you #n !#s l#fe

forever.


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0# Money, o1er, and Status

M#ll#ons of years ago a manGs %!ys#cal a%%earance was not Ms

"ucyGs foremost concern. -at!er #t was !#s ab#l#ty to %rov#de

resources. As a result c!aracter#st#cs t!at demonstrate a man

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onclus#on & want to date !#m.

!ere #s not!#ng wrong about want#ng to date an accom%l#s!ed man. :onGt we all

adm#re an eff#c#ent and successful %ersonD *ut t!e %roblem ar#ses w!en a womanallows a manGs status to d#stract !er from real#ty. BereGs an e)am%le

>bservat#on !e m#ll#ona#re you are dat#ng always yells at you for not

return#ng !#s %!one calls on t#me.

Evaluat#on A man w#t! money and %ower #s a better boyfr#endL!usband.

onclus#on & w#ll %ut u% w#t! !#s anger %roblems. IAt t!e same t#me, you

kee% tell#ng yourself t!at !e wonGt do #t aga#n unt#l !e does #t aga#nJ.

:o you see !ow your evaluat#on of t!#s s#tuat#on #s b#asedD A man s!ould always

treat you w#t! res%ect under any c#rcumstances. As one woman once sa#d &f you

wonGt %ut u% w#t! t!at k#nd of be!av#or from t!e bank teller, donGt allow yourself

to %ut u% w#t! #t from t!e bank %res#dent.$ &f you allow t!e attract#ve Fual#t#es of

an eff#c#ent and successful man to d#stract you from !#s negat#ve Fual#t#es, sooner

or later you w#ll run #nto trouble. So !ow s!ould a woman avo#d lett#ng a manGs

%ower and status %revent !er from observ#ng !#s true c!aracterD

Aga#n, t!e evaluat#on ste% #s t!e key. A woman !as to learn !ow to ob+ect#vely

evaluate facts. -at!er t!an lett#ng your !o%e It!at t!#ngs w#ll work outJ #nfluence

your evaluat#on, you need to see t!e facts clearly and +udge t!em ob+ect#vely. *ad

be!av#or #s bad be!av#or. !ereGs no e)cuse for #t.


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!e great %art #s t!at once a man real#es t!at you !ave taken note of !#s

unacce%table be!av#or and !ave used #t as a way to +udge !#s su#tab#l#ty, !e w#ll

be mot#vated to correct !#mself for you. Be w#ll also develo% strong feel#ngs

towards you because of t!#s. As a man sa#d to me once & am look#ng for a

woman w!o makes me a better %erson.$ (ell, gett#ng r#d of !#s bad att#tude #s t!e

f#rst ste% towards mak#ng !#m a better %erson.

3or a woman, money and %ower s!ould only be a bonus, rat!er t!an t!e ma#n

focus w!en evaluat#ng a man. &n fact, a manGs ab#l#ty to earn money !as ero

correlat#on to !#s ab#l#ty to be a rel#able l#fe %artner. A manGs c!aracter, !owever,

#s t!e sure #nd#cator of !#s %otent#al as a longterm boyfr#endLl#fe %artner.

03 Reetitive Rein)or.ement

Your #nst#ncts !ave been #n your genes for m#ll#ons of years. !ey are %owerful

#nst#ncts t!at are !ard to com%letely get r#d of. &f after follow#ng t!e above system

you st#ll somet#mes feel t!ese #nst#ncts, donGt beat yourself u%. & !ave a %lan * for

you. o rew#re your bra#n and make #t l#sten to you, rat!er t!an natureGs des#gn,

use t!e %ower of -e%et#t#ve -e#nforcement.$ & want you to constantly #nvolve

your consc#ous m#nd to ac!#eve t!e most construct#ve results. BereGs !ow

You can c!ange t!e way you evaluate s#tuat#ons and see t!e world v#a re%et#t#ve

%ract#ce. &tGs l#ke %lay#ng tenn#s. &t takes tons of %ract#ce and re%et#t#on to make

t!at %erfect stroke. You kee% us#ng t!e above system and kee% retra#n#ng your

bra#n to evaluate s#tuat#ons #n a %os#t#ve way. "etGs see an e)am%le to use

re%et#t#ve re#nforcement w!en you feel t!e #nst#nct of be#ng an)#ous w!en youGre


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alone aga#n

3rom now on, w!enever you are alone, t!#nk of t!ree reasons to +ust#fy t!e

benef#ts of be#ng alone.

3or e)am%le, one benef#t #s t!at you can focus on yourself and your own

develo%ment. Anot!er #s t!at you can f#nally make t#me to take u% t!at !obby t!at

you always wanted to do. !#nk about t!e sacr#f#ces you !ave made #n t!e %ast

w!en you were w#t! a man. All t!ese t!oug!ts are to res!a%e your bel#ef system.

(!en you f#nally succeed at t!#s task, you w#ll real#e t!at rat!er t!an %us!#ng a

man away, you are attract#ng t!em l#ke never before. &t was a man w!o once sa#d

!ere9@&9&95 your man, I2J

>M"A&9&95 to your man, and I0J >9->""&95 your man.


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05 Convin.in! Your Man

:o you know t!e number one t!#ng t!at most women Ime #ncludedJ do w!en we

feel t!e guy #s los#ng #nterestD (e try to >9@&9E !#m to c!ange !#s m#nd.

(!en a man +ust #snGt #nterested, we beg, c!ase, %lead and do everyt!#ng we can

to try to c!ange !#s m#nd. *ad #deaH & tr#ed #t and #t never worked. BereGs t!e

t!#ng w!en #t comes to kee%#ng a guy #nterested, try#ng to >9@&9E !#m or

A"8&95 B&M &9> l#k#ng you never works.

!e worst t!#ng t!at a woman can do #s to >9@&9E a man to l#ke !er. Every

t#me you do t!#s #t eats away t!e attract#on !e st#ll feels #ns#de. So t!e ne)t t#me,

my dear reader, w!en you f#nd yourself try#ng to c!ange !#s m#nd Ies%ec#ally at

0am w!en !e #s des%erate to go to slee%J, :>99@&9&95 be!av#or t!at s#gnals to a guy t!at !e BAS to l#ke you, !e

BAS to love you, !e BAS to stay attracted to you and !e BAS to s!ow !#s

affect#ons to you #s bad. !#s be!av#or #s not cute at all, so let

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about somet!#ng !e cannot c!ange, #s e)tremely frustrat#ng to !#m. 3or e)am%le,

w!en a woman com%la#ns to a guy t!at !e BAS to l#ke !er more. &tGs really

somet!#ng !e canGt +ust make !a%%en. Be cannot make !#mself love you more. Be

!as to 3EE" #t. Be !as no control over t!#s. (!en a woman com%la#ns to a guy

t!at !e !as to make c!anges to somet!#ng !e !as no control over, !eGll get

annoyed and u%set. "etGs be caut#ous about com%la#n#ng to !#m for t!#ngs !e !as

no control over.

08 Controllin! Your Man

!e t!#rd t!#ng t!at makes a guy annoyed #s any controll#ng be!av#or. & see t!#s

most w!en a guy wants to go out w#t! !#s budd#es for a boysG n#g!t out. Suddenly

a woman tr#es to control !#s soc#al calendar and tells !#m w!en !e can go out and

w!en !e canGt.

an you #mag#ne !ow s!ameful your man w#ll feel w!en !e !as to call !#s

budd#es one by one and tell t!em t!at !e !as to m#ss t!e boysG n#g!t out because!#s g#rlfr#end sa#d soD an you #mag#ne !ow long after t!at %!one call !eGll be

%#cked on by !#s budd#esD (orse, every t#me !#s fr#ends %#ck on !#m Iyou bet

t!ey w#llJ, !eGll assoc#ate t!at resentment w#t! you. (e really donGt want t!at.

(e want our men to only !ave good, lov#ng, warm t!oug!ts w!en t!ey t!#nk

about us, not resentment or annoyance. So, letGs try to d#tc! t!e controll#ng

be!av#or now.

o sum #t u%, t!e 0 s t!at are not so cute are I1J >9@&9&95 your man, I2J

>M"A&9&95 to your man and I0J >9->""&95 your man. Sto% do#ng

t!e 0 s and your man w#ll f#nd you gett#ng cuter and cuter everyday.


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T1o 6ital -istin.tions You Must no1

17 9Controlla*le: vs 92onGControlla*le:

A sense of control and %ower over your l#fe w#ll only come w!en you feel t!at

you are fully ca%able of %roduc#ng an e)%ected outcome. 3or e)am%le,

We fee% good when we fu%fi%% our "romises to others#

We fee% good when we finish the wor& '( the dead%ine#

We fee% good when our efforts are a&now%edged '( our "eers and 'osses#

&n t!e above s#tuat#ons, you feel %owerful and %os#t#ve about yourself because

your act#ons !ave %roduced e)%ected outcomes.

&n dat#ng, !owever, your act#ons donGt always result #n t!e outcomes you

e)%ected. (!yD *ecause t!e e)%ected outcome only !a%%ens w!en t!e

follow#ng t!ree t!#ngs !a%%en

1. A man sees t!e s#tuat#on exa.tlyas you see #t.

2. A man evaluates t!e s#tuat#on #n !#s m#nd exa.tlyas you evaluate #t.


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0. B#s exa.t evaluat#on of t!e s#tuat#on causes !#m to be!ave exa.tly t!e

way you want !#m to.

&n ot!er words, for a man to act e)actly t!e way you want !#m to, you are ask#ng

!#m to t!#nk e)actly l#ke you, feel e)actly l#ke you and act e)actly l#ke you #n t!e

same s#tuat#ons. !#s #s an unreal#st#c e)%ectat#on because we, as !umans, do not

!ave full control over anot!er %ersonGs emot#ons and act#ons. &f you understand

anot!er %erson well, you can learn ways to el#c#t certa#n emot#ons and act#ons

from t!at %erson. *ut to t!#nk t!at anot!er %erson w#ll always be!ave #n t!e way

you want every t#me #s #rrat#onal. &n real#ty,

You always have control over your own thinking, feelings and actions.

You never have full control over a mans thinking, feelings and actions.

&n ot!er words, you dont!ave full control over t!e fact t!at

Be fa#ls to say t!e t!#ngs you really want to !ear

Be fa#ls to buy you t!e %erfect %resent

Be fa#ls to call you w!en you want !#m to

Be fa#ls to be!ave t!e way you e)%ect !#m to


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*ut you do!ave control over

Bow you react w!en !e fa#ls to call you

Bow you rat#onal#e t!e fact t!at !e forgets your b#rt!day

Bow you react to !#s #nsens#t#ve comments.

>nly by focus#ng on t!e t!#ngs you do !ave control over, your t!oug!ts, your

feel#ngs and your act#ons, you can control your own l#fe. >n t!e ot!er !and, #f

you try to control t!e uncontrollable, !#s t!oug!ts, feel#ngs and act#ons, you w#ll

feel %owerless and unsat#sf#ed. &f !#s mom canGt c!ange !ow !e be!aves after 1/

years, you canGt c!ange #t after 1/ !ours of dat#ng !#m.

3rom now on, w!enever you feel d#ssat#sf#ed by a manGs act#ons, ask yourself

t!#s

Am / tryin! to .ontrol the un.ontrolla*le Hmeanin! the manIs *ehaviorsJK

&f t!e answer #s yes, #mmed#ately s!#ft your t!#nk#ng

Althou!h / .ant .ontrol his a.tions, / .an de)initely .ontrol my a.tions andho1 / vie1 and )eel a*out the situation

!en, follow u% by ask#ng yourself


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=o1 .an / vie1 this situation )rom a ositive erse.tive that 1ill al1ays

!enerate !ood )eelin!s a*out mysel)K

:o you see !ow t!#s worksD *y focus#ng on t!e t!#ngs you can control, yourself,you are act#vely c!oos#ng a construct#ve solut#on t!at w#ll always generate a

%os#t#ve feel#ng. "etGs use an e)am%le to #llustrate t!#s

Situation4After not !ear#ng from !#m for two days, you called !#m at work.

Sound#ng d#stracted and busy, !e brus!ed you off Fu#ckly and sa#d !e would call

back.

Tryin! to .ontrol the un.ontrolla*le My gos!H Be canGt get off t!e %!one fast

enoug!. Be !as no feel#ngs towards me. & donGt feel l#ke !e loves me at all. Be

s!ould !ave acted more cons#derately after not call#ng me for two days. (!en !e

does !ave t!e nerve to call back later, &Gll let !#m know !#s act#ons are totally

unacce%tableH$ I:o you see !ow t!#s a%%roac! #ncludes many sentences t!at

beg#n w#t! !e s!ould$DJ

Controllin! the .ontrolla*le4:o & need to feel loved every s#ngle m#nute by

t!#s manD >f course & donGt. & am a busy woman. & am also #nde%endent and !ave

many !obb#es. &n fact, & w#ll %lan somet!#ng w#t! my fr#ends ton#g!t and go and

see t!at mov#e. (!en & called !#m earl#er today, !e sounded busy. &f !e becomes

less busy, !e w#ll call and let me know. 3or now & s!ould en+oy myself and maybe

try t!at new Mart#n# #n t!at trendy restaurant w#t! my fr#ends after t!e mov#e.$

I:o you see !ow t!#s a%%roac! #ncludes many sentences t!at beg#n w#t! &$ and

#ncludes t!#ngs &$ can do to make myself feel goodDJ


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(!#c! a%%roac! do you %referD

!e #rony #s t!at w!en a man real#es t!at you donGt de%end on !#m for !a%%#ness

and sat#sfact#on, !#s des#re towards you #ntens#f#es to suc! a degree t!at !esomet#mes goes cray. (ell, not l#terally, but let me s!ow you w!at & mean.

My fr#end Susan was dat#ng an e)tremely attract#ve man w!o ran !#s own

com%any. (!enever Susan wanted to get toget!er, !e always sa#d !e was too

busy. #red of wa#t#ng for !#m, Susan dec#ded to go on a s!ort tr#% w#t! !er

g#rlfr#ends for t!e weekend.

(!en s!e drove back !ome late Sunday n#g!t, s!e saw t!e guy wa#t#ng #n front of

!er !ouse. *efore s!e could even get out of t!e car, !e rus!ed to !er and swe%t

!er #nto !#s arms, !alf yell#ng, (!ere were youD & was so worr#ed. (!y d#dnGt

you return my %!one callsD$ &t turned out t!at !e not only left enoug! messages

on !er vo#ce ma#l t!at #t became com%letely full, !e !ad also been wa#t#ng #n front

of !er !ouse s#nce Sunday afternoon. So muc! for someone w!o !ad cla#med !e

was too busy.

Maybe you donGt want to date someone l#ke SusanGs cray$ boyfr#end. *ut you

do want your man to des#re you, r#g!tD &f so, start f#ll#ng your calendar w#t!

act#v#t#es t!at you know w#ll make you feel good, rat!er t!an wa#t#ng for t!e guy

to enterta#n you. ontrol t!e controllable and dec#de for yourself w!en you can

sm#le and w!en you must cry.


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0% 92eed: vs 9-esire:

!ere are a few t!#ngs #n l#fe t!at fall under t!e 9eed$ category t!#ngs we !ave

to !ave for our surv#val. E)am%les are

3ood

S!elter

A certa#n degree of !ealt!

Some source of #ncome

(#t!out t!ese t!#ngs, we w#ll !ave trouble surv#v#ng. >t!er t!#ngs, !owever, are

not necessary for our surv#val, but we des#re$ t!em and want t!em very muc!.

E)am%les are

"ov#ng %arents

"oyal fr#ends

A successful career


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5ood #ncome

A n#ce !ouse #n a good ne#g!bor!ood

A good, longterm relat#ons!#%Lmarr#age w#t! a lov#ng man

And last, to look and dress l#ke Oack#e 8ennedy and %res#de over fabulous

%art#es at t!e (!#te Bouse. :ream b#g, s#sterH

!ese t!#ngs fall under t!e des#re$ category. (e want t!ese t!#ngs very muc!

because t!ey en!ance our l#ves. *ut w#t!out t!em we can st#ll surv#ve. &n t!e case

of t!e last %o#nt, #f we canGt be t!e 3#rst "ady, we can st#ll !ave a very fulf#ll#ng

and !a%%y l#fe.

&n dat#ng a clear d#st#nct#on between w!at you need$ and w!at you des#re$ #s

cruc#al. 3or e)am%le, w!en you wrongly ass#gn your des#re$ to !ave a lov#ng

boyfr#end to t!e need$ category, you are #n for a b#g d#sa%%o#ntment. &n ot!er

words, #f you demandt!at t!e only way to be !a%%y #n l#fe #s to !ave a lov#ng

boyfr#end, you w#ll feel d#ssat#sf#ed w!en you donGt !ave a lov#ng

boyfr#end. "etGs see !ow t!#s %lays out #n my fr#end "#ndaGs l#fe

"#nda !as Fu#te a good l#fe. S!e #s well educated and !as a good career, lov#ng

%arents and loyal fr#ends. !ereGs not!#ng terr#bly wrong w#t! !er l#fe, e)ce%t onet!#ng)inda stu''orn%( 'e%ieves and demands that she has to have a man who

adores her and %oves her unonditiona%%(.


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&f s!e doesnGt, "#nda bel#eves !er l#fe #s a b#g fa#lure. All t!e ot!er good t!#ngs

s!e !as are not enoug!.

"#nda, a lovely woman, never !as any trouble attract#ng men. *ut after a w!#let!ey all leave. !e t!#ng #s t!at w!en t!e man fa#ls to s!ow !#s uncond#t#onal love

or absolute adorat#on of !er every s#ngle m#nute t!ey are toget!er, "#nda

com%la#ns. Eventually, after %utt#ng u% w#t! !er c!#ld#s! be!av#or for a w!#le, t!e

men all leave because #t #s no fun be#ng around !er anymore. S!e becomes an

emot#onal burden because s!e confuses w!at s!e needs$ w#t! w!at s!e

des#res.$

(!en a woman demands somet!#ng s!e merely des#res, s!e creates t!e follow#ng

%roblems for !erself and t!e man s!e #s w#t!

S!e feels d#sa%%o#nted because a man w#ll not do t!#ngs e)actly t!e way

s!e wants.

S!e feels un!a%%y because !er needs are not constantly met.

S!e feels %owerless w!en s!e real#es t!at +ust because s!e demands$

somet!#ng, #t doesnGt always !a%%en.

At t!e same t#me, a man feels t!at s!e #s too demand#ng, needy,

burdensome, negat#ve and no fun to be around.

(!en you demand somet!#ng you des#re very muc!, you set yourself u% for


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d#sa%%o#ntment.

Final Ste o) -etox

0' Erase The ast

!e f#nal ste% of deto) reFu#res one t!#ng from you ake t!e B#g! -oadH (e

women !ave all met some men #n our l#ves Ime #ncludedJ w!o !avenGt treated us

t!e way we s!ould be treated. Some of #t was t!e#r fault w!#le some may !ave

been %art#ally caused by us not stand#ng u% for ourselves. (!atever #t #s, now #s

t!e t#me to forg#ve and say t!e f#nal goodbye.

Forget the Past

!m"race Your Fa"ulous Future#


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(e !ave all !ad our s!are of !eartbreakers. (!en we look back on t!em, we can

st#ll feel t!e cracks #n our !earts from t!ose days. *ut t!ese bad memor#es are

best ke%t #n a secret bo) t!at you never need to o%en aga#n. *ecause look#ng back

at t!em br#ngs back not!#ng but %a#n and may even affect !ow you be!ave #n

your current relat#ons!#%s.

!e best wea%on to use aga#nst t!e %a#nful %ast #s to f#rmly bel#eve t!at t!ereGs no

connect#on between %ast fa#lures #n relat#ons!#%s and future %oss#b#l#t#es of

re%eat#ng t!em. &n fact, because of %ast m#stakes, you are more l#kely a w#ser

woman now, w#t! a clearer v#ew of w!at you want from a man and from your

l#fe. &f you sto% lett#ng t!e to)#c men from t!e %ast !aunt you, you w#ll !ave t!at

%os#t#ve m#ndset t!at makes you so #rres#st#ble and cute t!at youGll be a man

magnet.


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Chater 3

Emotional /ntelli!en.e

#$ Emotional /ntelli!en.e )or -atin!

Bave you ever wondered w!at t!e s#ngle most #m%ortant factor #s #n attract#ng aFual#ty man w!o #s #ntell#gent, loyal, de%endable, emot#onally mature, f#nanc#ally

#nde%endent and w!o #s look#ng for a comm#tted relat#ons!#%D

&tGs not %!ys#cal beauty. &tGs not your educat#on. &tGs not your +ob. &tGs not your

fam#ly background. &tGs not your rel#g#ous bel#efs. &tGs not your cook#ng sk#lls. &tGs

not your soc#al grace. &tGs not !ow well you can decorate !#s !ome. &tGs not your

ab#l#ty to rock !#s world #n t!e bedroom, alt!oug! !e would love t!atH

$t is your !motional $ntelligence

&n 1==? %syc!olog#sts eter Salovey and Oo!n :. Mayer def#ned emot#onal

#ntell#gence as t!e ab#l#ty to mon#tor oneGs own and ot!ersG feel#ngs and

emot#ons, to d#scr#m#nate among t!em and to use t!#s #nformat#on to gu#de oneGs

t!#nk#ng and act#ons.$

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A womanGs ab#l#ty to I1J -ecogn#e !er own emot#ons and I2J Manage t!em to

%roduce %os#t#ve outcomes.

A womanGs ab#l#ty to I1J -ecogn#e a manGs needs and emot#ons and I2J Bel%!#m manage !#s emot#ons to %roduce %os#t#ve results.

(#t! !#g! emot#onal #ntell#gence, you w#ll start to see t!e world w#t! clearer

eyes. You w#ll be able to observe a %erson and understand !#s or !er t!oug!ts,

feel#ngs, mot#vat#ons and des#res. &n add#t#on you w#ll start to understand !ow to

tr#gger certa#n emot#ons #n yourself and ot!ers.

A mature man w!o #s look#ng for domest#c bl#ss w#ll f#nd t!#s e)tremely attract#ve

and know t!at #t #s a rare Fual#ty #n today

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e)%er#ences #ntense emot#ons suc! as anger, frustrat#on, and gu#lt, s!e #s able to

manage !er emot#ons and d#rect !er be!av#ors #n a way t!at #m%roves t!e

s#tuat#on. (!en t!at !a%%ens to you, you w#ll feel so %roud of yourselfH (!en a

woman #s ca%able of manag#ng !er emot#ons no matter w!at s#tuat#on s!e #s #n,

s!e #s stron!#n !er essence. And t!at #s a %owerful, %owerful t!#ng. 3or a man,

t!ereGs not!#ng more attract#ve t!an a woman w!o #s strong #ns#de.

:evelo%#ng emot#onal #ntell#gence #s not easy #t takes t#me and effort. *ut you

need to start now and kee% do#ng #t even w!en you t!#nk you get #t. &t #s s#m#lar to

e)erc#s#ng. You need to kee% at your card#o and strengt! tra#n#ng to ma#nta#n

your !ealt! and f#tness, r#g!tD &tGs t!e same w#t! your emot#onal #ntell#gence.

## ThreeGSte System To Cultivate Your E/

Ste 0 Start %ract#c#ng monitorin! your emot#ons. You can ac!#eve t!#s by

kee%#ng a +ournal and reflect#ng on t!e occas#ons w!en you feel #ntense

emot#ons. (!at are t!e events t!at tri!!er t!ese emot#onsD (!at about t!ose

events t!at make you react #n a certa#n way emot#onallyD Are you act#ng on t!ese

emot#onsD Are you su%%ress#ng t!emD (!at are t!e act#ons t!at normally follow

you e)%er#enc#ng t!ese feel#ngsD Are t!ese act#ons !el%#ng or !urt#ng t!e

s#tuat#onD

Ste # !e ne)t t#me you feel any k#nd of #ntense emot#on, rat!er t!an focus#ng

on your feel#ngs at t!at moment, try to deta.h yourself, analyet!e causes of

t!ese feel#ngs and ask yourself #f act#ng on t!em w#ll lead to a construct#ve

solut#on.


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Ste 3 (!en you f#nd yourself #n a confl#ct#ng s#tuat#on w#t! a colleague, a

fr#end, a loved one, or a fam#ly member, %ause for a second before react#ng to

t!em. :etac! yourself from t!e #ntense feel#ngs you !ave at t!at moment. lay

t!e role of a t!#rd %arty observer and reevaluate t!e s#tuat#on. !en try to get

under t!e ot!er %ersonGs sk#n by look#ng at t!e s#tuat#on from !#s or !er %o#nt of

v#ew. Bow does t!e ot!er %ersonGs mot#vat#on or #nterest contr#bute to !#s or !er

act#onsD Bow does your own mot#vat#on or #nterest come #nto %lay #n t!e

s#tuat#onD Are you rea.tin! to t!em or are you .ons.iously look#ng for a

construct#ve solut#onD

#3 Mana!e Your Mans Emotions

!e b#ggest m#stake a woman can make #s to assume everyone t!#nks as s!e does.

(!en a woman #s #n love, s!e bel#eves t!e man feels t!e same. As a result, s!e

#gnores t!e s#gnals and !#nts t!at t!e man sends. !ese m#g!t say, &

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a%%earances can be dece#v#ng.

A cl#ent of m#ne #s a worldclass sc#ent#st. Be #s among t!e most #nsecure %eo%le &

!ave ever known. *ut you would never !ave guessed w!en you see !#s conf#dent,s%arkl#ng and c!arm#ng a%%earance.

:ur#ng your courts!#% w#t! a man, you must start ask#ng yourself Fuest#ons based

on your observat#ons of !#m. (!atGs t!e general %attern #n !#s %ast

relat#ons!#%sD (!at k#nd of woman #s !e attracted toD (!at s%ec#f#c

c!aracter#st#cs #n t!ose women does !e f#nd %art#cularly allur#ngD (!y does !e

f#nd t!ose c!aracter#st#cs attract#veD Bow does t!at reflect !#s value

systemD (!at mot#vates !#mD (!at turns !#m offD !ese are t!e k#nds of

Fuest#ons you want to ask yourself.

YouGre not try#ng to be a s%y. *ut you are a busy woman w!o !as %roblems to

solve, goals to ac!#eve and dreams to fulf#ll. You are s#m%ly too busy to allow

yourself to dr#ft #nto w!atever seems amus#ng. You canGt +ust freely g#ve your

love and affect#ons to any man w!o comes along. You must be select#ve. And

select carefully before allow#ng yourself to comm#t your t#me and your !eart to a

man.


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#5 Three Case Studies

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#n t!e %eaceful sky. *y t!e end of t!e n#g!t !e felt t!e romance as muc! as you

d#d and couldnGt wa#t to !ave some #nt#mate t#me w#t! you.

%cenario (

You real#ed recently t!at your !usband of ten years was commun#cat#ng

freFuently w#t! one of !#s female coworkers. !ey talked on t!e %!one, c!atted

on t!e #nstant messenger and +o#ned t!e same bowl#ng league. You understood

menGs des#re for se)ual var#ety, so rat!er t!an gett#ng u%set or feel#ng !urt, you

reflected on your relat#ons!#% and searc!ed for w!at was m#ss#ng. At t!e same

t#me you f#rmly commun#cated to your !usband t!at you were not comfortable

w#t! !#s afterwork contact w#t! t!e ot!er woman. You started to %ay more

attent#on to !#m #n a lov#ng way and got yourself #nvolved w#t! t!e act#v#t#es !e

loved. You +o#ned !#s bowl#ng league and %lanned an e)ot#c tr#% w#t! !#m to

Bawa##.

3rom t!e above scenar#os, can you see w!y emot#onal #ntell#gence #s so attract#ve

for !er manD A woman w#t! !#g! emot#onal #ntell#gence #s guaranteed to make a

man !a%%y and make a longterm relat#ons!#% work.


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Chater 5

Your 6alue System )or -atin!

# 6alue System )or -atin!

Men, es%ec#ally t!e clever ones, !ave develo%ed a radar system over t!e years to

assess w!at & call a womanGs value system for dat#ng.$ (!at does t!#s meanD

!#nk about t!#s (!en you l#ve your l#fe every day, do you !ave a set of values

t!at gu#des your be!av#orD & bet you do. 3or e)am%le, #f one of your values #s to

kee% your %rom#ses, youGll feel bad #f you fa#l to kee% your %rom#se, even for

leg#t#mate reasons. & felt terr#ble w!en & could not attend a g#rlfr#endGs baby

s!ower w!en & sa#d t!at & would. Same w#t! dat#ngH A woman w#t! !#g!

emot#onal #ntell#gence !as a set of values t!at gu#de !er dat#ng be!av#ors. (!y #s

#t #m%ortant to !ave suc! a value systemD

!e f#rst benef#t #s t!at you w#ll be amaed by t!e amount of res%ect you get from

guys. "et me ask you t!#s do you res%ect %eo%le w!o l#ve t!e#r l#ves w#t!out a set

of valuesD & bet you donGt. &tGs t!e same w#t! guys. 'nless you !ave a set ofvalues t!at govern your dat#ng l#fe, a guy w#ll not res%ect you because !e knows

t!at !e can %us! you around and get w!at !e wants.


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Most !ot guys know t!ey are attract#ve, get a lot of attent#on from women and

!ave many o%t#ons w!en #t comes to women. !ey know t!ey can get away w#t!

many t!#ngs t!at most guys canGt, suc! as s!ow#ng u% late for dates, not return#ng

%!one calls, forgett#ng a g#rlGs b#rt!day, refus#ng to comm#t and even c!eat#ng.

!ey also know t!ey are be#ng r#d#culous and unreasonable a lot of t!e t#me but

t!ey canGt !el% #t. !ey want to feel t!e emot#onal !#g! of know#ng t!ey are so

attract#ve t!at a woman w#ll %ut u% w#t! anyt!#ng +ust to be w#t! t!em.

:ee% #ns#de, !owever, t!ey crave t!e k#nd of women w!o w#ll f#nally %ut a sto%

to #t all. Bave you ever wondered w!at guys really mean w!en t!ey say, & want

to be w#t! a woman w!o makes me a better manD$ (!at t!ey really mean #s t!#s

& want to be w#t! a woman w!o canGt be %us!ed around by me.$

!e second benef#t of !av#ng a value system for dat#ng #s t!at you w#ll be muc!

!a%%#er and avo#d a lot of dat#ng drama. Bave you ever not#ced t!at w!en you act

accord#ng to your value system, you feel greatD ArenGt you %roud of yourself

w!en you res#st t!e tem%tat#on and do w!at #s r#g!tD E)actly. !e same %r#nc#%le

a%%l#es to your dat#ng l#fe once you establ#s! your dat#ng values and act

accord#ng to t!em, you w#ll feel #n control, !a%%y, em%owered and res%ected all

t!e t#me.

!roug!out years of dat#ng e)%er#ences most of us !ave develo%ed certa#n bel#efs

and values we use to govern our dat#ng l#ves. Many of us are not consc#ous of

!ow t!ese bel#efs affect our be!av#ors and, most #m%ortantly, !ow t!ey affect t!e

ways men %erce#ve us. & want to s!are w#t! you some dat#ng values & !aveobserved #n many women. Some of t!em are benef#c#al to your dat#ng success

w!#le ot!ers are detr#mental and need to be corrected as soon as %oss#ble.


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#8 =arm)ul -atin! 6alues

"etGs start w#t! some !armful values

t!at need to be erad#cated from your

dat#ng value system. BereGs a tr#ck you

can use to #mmed#ately tell w!#c! value

#s benef#c#al and w!#c! one #s !armful.

(!en you act accord#ng to your

benef#c#al value, you feel good about

yourself and your dat#ng l#fe. (!enyou act accord#ng to your !armful

value, you feel !orr#ble about yourself

and e)%er#ence all k#nds of drama #n

your dat#ng l#fe.

Bere are a few =arm)ul 6alues t!at need to be erad#cated from your value

system as soon as %oss#ble

& absolutely need a%%roval from men to be !a%%y.

&f & fa#led once #n a relat#ons!#%, & w#ll fa#l aga#n.

& !ave no control over my feel#ngs or !ow e)ternal c#rcumstances affect

me.


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#7 =ealthy -atin! 6alues

Bere are some benef#c#al and =ealthy 6aluesto be #ncluded #n your dat#ng value

system. Also, #t w#ll be great #f you can add more of your own benef#c#al values.

&t #s an #nd#v#dual matter after all.

&f a man s!ows any d#sres%ectful be!av#or, & wonGt allow myself to %ut u%

w#t! #t.

(!en a relat#ons!#% %roves to be destruct#ve or negat#ve, & wonGt allow

myself to stay #n #t for t!e sake of be#ng w#t! a man.

&t #s very des#rable to !ave a man w!o loves me dearly and w!o #s always

su%%ort#ve and understand#ng. *ut & wonGt get angry or u%set w#t! a man

w!en !e fa#ls to s!ow !#s love, su%%ort and sens#t#v#ty every m#nute. &

need to g#ve t!at guy a break once #n a w!#le.

& wonGt de%end solely on a man for my !a%%#ness and fulf#llment. & w#ll

always kee% t!#ngs #n my l#fe t!at can cont#nuously br#ng me +oy,

regardless of my dat#ng s#tuat#on.

&Gll allow a man to make m#stakes and be wrong somet#mes.


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3#nally, add your own values #nto your value system. !e values you add

s!ould be t!#ngs t!at truly make you feel goodH

#% Four Stes to Create Your 6alue System )or -atin!

Ste 0 !#nk of a recent dat#ng s#tuat#on w!en you felt bad about yourself. !#nk

about w!#c! value was res%ons#ble for t!e way you acted. ut t!#s value under t!e

Barmful @alues$ category.

Ste # !#nk of a recent dat#ng s#tuat#on w!en you felt great about yourself.

!#nk about w!#c! value was res%ons#ble for #t. ut t!#s value under t!e

*enef#c#al @alues$ category.

Ste 3 Make a consc#ous effort to el#m#nate t!e !armful values$ from your

bel#ef system, w!#le kee%#ng and u%dat#ng t!e benef#c#al values$ #n your bel#ef

system. -emember, t!#s e)erc#se #s not myster#ous. You can always tell w!et!er

t!e value works for you by t!e way you feel.

Ste 5 >nce you !ave sol#d#f#ed your value system, start %r#or#t##ng t!ese values

based on !ow #m%ortant t!ey are for your %resent goals.

3#nal word a %ersonGs value system c!anges all t!e t#me because we !ave

d#fferent %r#or#t#es at d#fferent %o#nts #n l#fe. *e o%en m#nded and know t!at your

value system #s not f#)ed but #s flu#d.


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Chater 4 Searate the (!ly Fro!s

)rom Your True rin.e

#' Assess a Man

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t!ere for !er w!enever s!e needed !#m. at!y reasoned (ow, #f ete treats !#s

mom t!#s well, !e w#ll be a great !usbandH$

After t!ey moved #n toget!er, at!y real#ed t!at ete was a com%letely d#fferent%erson w#t! !er. Alt!oug! !e earned a s#)f#gure #ncome, !e suggested t!at at!y

%ay for !alf t!e rent, !alf t!e food and !alf of t!e#r e)%ens#ve vacat#ons. ete also

e)%ected at!y do all t!e !ousework. !e last t#me & talked to at!y, s!e sa#d #n a

%ul#ng vo#ce (!at !a%%ened to t!e ete w!o was so attent#ve to !#s momD$

Anot!er m#stake & see #s t!at women assume a s#ngle dad w#ll be a great !usband.

A s#ngle car#ng dad w#ll be a s#ngle ... car#ng ... dad. !#nk#ng t!at a car#ng

fat!er w#ll be a car#ng !usband #s l#ke bel#ev#ng a man w#ll love one woman t!e

same as !e loves anot!er. Bow a man #nteracts w#t! !#s mom #s not a true

#nd#cator of !ow !e w#ll #nteract w#t! !#s g#rlfr#endLw#fe and ne#t!er #s !ow a man

acts towards !#s c!#ldren. Bow a man treats you and be!aves towards you are t!e

only ev#dence you need to +udge !#s relat#ons!#% %otent#al.

3$ ualities That Your True rin.e Must =ave

After do#ng a lot of researc! and talk#ng to many !a%%#ly marr#ed cou%les, & !ave

not#ced t!ree common Fual#t#es #n a man t!at are essent#al for !av#ng and

susta#n#ng a fulf#ll#ng longterm relat#ons!#% w#t! a woman.


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enerosity4

&

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/nte!rity

&ntegr#ty #s so #m%ortant & canGt stress #t enoug!. &f youGve d#scovered any k#nd of

ly#ng be!av#or, & recommend you break #t off w#t! !#m. A man w!o l#es #s morel#kely to be a c!eater. Somet#mes women are forg#v#ng w!en #tGs +ust a l#ttle l#e,

but & t!#nk a !ab#t #s a !ab#t. &f a guy l#es once about a l#ttle t!#ng, !ow can you be

sure t!at !e would never l#e on a b#gger t!#ng, suc! as see#ng anot!er woman on

t!e s#deD

Bein! suortive

A su%%ort#ve man #s one w!o res%ects and adm#res t!e fact t!at you !ave goals

and as%#rat#ons for yourself. Be wonGt l#m#t your %ersonal growt! and try to

def#ne you w#t! trad#t#onal roles. 'nfortunately some men look for women w!o

can %lay a certa#n role$ for t!em. A guy once sa#d to me & d#dnf course, !e can !ave 1?? t!#ngs

t!at make !#m adorable, fun and se)y. And !e can also be stunn#ng #n bedH *ut as

t#me goes by, #tGs really a manGs c!aracter and %ersonal#ty t!at make a relat#ons!#%

strong, fulf#ll#ng and last#ng. &tGs also a man

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Seven Tyes nce you !ave done your work and ac!#eved a !#g! level of emot#onal

#ntell#gence, #t w#ll be a waste of your t#me to try to educate someone w!o !as a

low EC. &t #s a d#fferent story #f !e #s w#ll#ng to c!ange. *ut #n most cases, men

arenGt w#ll#ng to c!ange. !ey wonGt c!ange for you and t!ey wonGt c!ange for

t!e#r mot!ers. !ey are w!o t!ey are.

Some men can only develo% emot#onal #ntell#gence as t#me %asses. &t may takeyears or decades. &n some cases, t!ey wonGt become emot#onally ready for a

comm#tted relat#ons!#% unt#l t!ey are #n t!e#r late 0?s or early 4?s. As a busy and

!#g!ly des#rable woman, you s#m%ly donGt !ave t!e t#me or t!e energy to try to

c!ange someone w!o res#sts c!ange. &nstead, look for an emot#onally mature man


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w!o #s ready and w#ll#ng to !ave a !a%%y, comm#tted relat#ons!#% w#t! you and

w!o w#ll be su%%ort#ve and lov#ng dur#ng t!e good and bad t#mes. !at #s true

com%an#ons!#%. S#gns t!at !e !as low Emot#onal &ntell#gence

Be gets emot#onal, angry, u%set, or e)tremely !a%%y or sad Fu#ckly and

freFuently. You w#ll not#ce #f !e !as fast and freFuent mood sw#ngs.

(!en t!ere #s any %roblem #n your relat#ons!#%, !e says !e doesnGt want

to talk about #t and becomes u%set w!en you want to address and solve t!e

%roblem.

Be acts #m%uls#vely w#t!out t!#nk#ng t!#ngs t!roug!H

B#s %arents !ave !ad a traumat#c relat#ons!#% t!at #s full of drama.

Alt!oug! #t #s not fa#r to +udge someone based on !#s %arents, #t !as been

%roven t!at c!#ld!ood e)%er#ences !ave a b#g #m%act on a %erson

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3# Men +ho Are

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33 Men +ho =ave Cheated Be)ore

!ere #s an old say#ng, >nce a c!eater, always a c!eater$. "ad#es, t!#s #s a w#se

say#ng. Alt!oug! #t #s true t!at men are b#olog#cally dr#ven to s%read t!e#r seed

among as many se)ual %artners as %oss#ble, you are look#ng for a mature man

w!o #s able to control !#s se)ual urges. You are look#ng for a man w!o #s able to

!onor t!e onemanonewoman relat#ons!#% t!at !e !as %rom#sed. As one of my

!a%%#ly marr#ed g#rlfr#ends sa#d (!en a man #s fa#t!ful, #t #s not because !e

doesn

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3 Men +ho =ave Bi! -reams But Little Talent

!ere are men #n t!#s world w!o !ave !#g! amb#t#ons, dreams and as%#rat#ons to

become someone great. At t!e beg#nn#ng of t!e relat#ons!#%, a woman may be

Fu#te #m%ressed by t!ese amb#t#ons. Bowever, a woman needs to carefully

evaluate #f !#s ab#l#t#es w#ll actually allow !#m to ac!#eve !#s grant goals. !ere #s

not!#ng wrong w!en a man tells a woman !ow !e wants to !ave a waterfront

!ouse, a orsc!e, a country club members!#% and enoug! money t!at !#s w#fe

won

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38 Men +ho =ave Addi.tions Hsu.h as 1ork, drinkin!,dru!s, and !am*lin!J

Any k#nd of add#ct#ve be!av#or #s bad news Iunless !e #s add#cted to you, but

even t!at can be a b#t muc!J. (!en a man #s add#cted to somet!#ng, a woman w#ll

#nev#tably feel neglected. !e %!rase golf w#dow$ descr#bes t!e lonely w#fe of a

successful man w!o #s obsessed w#t! t!e game of golf. &n t!at case, all t!e money

#n t!e world won

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>nce a woman #s #n a relat#ons!#% w#t! someone, f#nanc#al !ab#ts become one of

t!e most #m%ortant #ssues. &f you d#ffer on your a%%roac!, #t w#ll cause countless

%roblems later on. (!en you are t!e more sens#ble one w!en #t comes to money,

#t w#ll become unbearable for you to l#ve w#t! someone w!o wastes or s%ends

money carelessly.

'nfortunately, t!e e)!usband of t!e female %!ys#c#an #n t!e above e)am%le was

unable to deal w#t! !#s %roblems after t!e d#vorce and eventually comm#tted

su#c#de. !#s traumat#c event almost ru#ned t!e female %!ys#c#an and !er sonnce a woman #s #n love, #t w#ll be too late.


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Chater 84 Be A 6alue Creator

3% Be A 6alue Creator, 2ot a 6alue -estroyer

& t!#nk t!e most certa#n way to stay #n a manGs l#fe for a long t#me #s to be a value

creator. (!at do & meanD A man s!ould feel l#ke you en!ance, add values and

br#ng somet!#ng valuable to !#s l#fe. &t m#g!t be your valuable adv#ce #t m#g!t be

your e)%ert#se #n a s%ec#f#c area t!at !e needs !el% w#t! #t m#g!t be your

com%lete !onesty to kee% !#m grounded. (!atever #t #s, w!en you f#nd !ow you

can create values, you

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Chater 7

Lessons )rom the 92aturals:

& !ave read %retty muc! all t!e books on t!e market on dat#ng, attract#on and

relat#ons!#%s. *ut & %robably learned t!e most from observ#ng women w!o are

naturally good w#t! guys. Bere are a cou%le of t!#ngs & !ave d#scovered about

t!ese successful women

3' The 92aturals: +innin! Mentality

A w#nn#ng mental#ty all starts w#t! a few lucky successes w#t! men t!at %lant t!e

seed of t!e#r w#nn#ng outlook. After ga#n#ng t!at %ers%ect#ve, #t #s an easy w#n

every t#me. !#s #s w!at t!e#r w#nn#ng cycle looks l#ke

A 3ew "ucky$ Successes w#t! Men P (#nn#ng *el#efs P More Success

*y c!ang#ng your bel#ef system, you can transform your dat#ng l#fe.


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5$ +hat 92aturals: -o to et the Men

Tease men in a funny "ut slightly arrogant way

& saw one of t!em walk u% to a !ot guy and say Bey, #s t!#s seat takenD$

(#t!out wa#t#ng for !#m to re%ly, s!e sat down and sa#d (ell, too lateH$ !e

guy +ust loved #tH

)ee* their interactions with men short and fun

& rarely see t!em s%end more t!an f#ve m#nutes w#t! any s#ngle guy for small talk.

Oust w!en t!e guy wants more, s!e #s gone.

They intentionally get more guys interested than they can handle

!ey %retty muc! fl#rt w#t! everyone, #nclud#ng some below average guys

Iactually, waaaaaay belowJ t!at you +ust want to say, S!e can

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went from t!ere to !ow #t rem#nded !er of a !aunted !ouse #n Scotland. !en

t!ey started talk#ng about mystery novels and all k#nds of cray stuff. !ree

m#nutes #nto t!e conversat#on and s!e !ad t!at guyGs com%lete attent#on.

Their "ody language

!ey touc! t!e#r !a#r, t!e#r knees, t!e#r arms, t!e#r faces and t!e man

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Chater %

Male sy.holo!y

50 =es a Man, a Man, a Man *e)ore Anythin! Else

& always tell t!#s to my cl#ents & donGt care w!et!er !eGs a m#ll#ona#re, a baseball

star, a celebr#ty, a E>, an average Ooe, or t!e most attract#ve man youGve ever

la#d eyes on !eGs a Man, a Man, a Man before anyt!#ng else. BeGll t!#nk l#ke men

do. BeGll res%ond to t!e t!#ngs men res%ond to. (!en you date a guy, never feel

lost because youGve never dated someone Fu#te l#ke !#m. &f !eGs a man and you

know !ow male %syc!ology works, you w#ll be more t!an f#ne.

&t #s d#ff#cult to d#scuss male %syc!ology w#t!out look#ng #nto t!e or#g#ns of male

#nst#ncts, w!#c! are t!e sources of a manGs mot#vat#on, des#res and w!y !e #s w!o!e #s.

5#

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M#ll#ons of years of evolut#on !ave s!a%ed !umans #n a certa#n way. !ere are

some bas#c #nst#ncts t!at rema#n #n all men. Some may demonstrate more, w!#le

ot!ers may demonstrate less. 'se t!em as a bas#c framework. *ut you also need

to rely on your own observat#ons to add t!e deta#ls. Bumans are, after all,

com%l#cated creaturesH

&n order to %ass along t!e#r genes t!roug! a long !#story of env#ronmental

!ards!#% and warfare, t!e surv#v#ng men e)%ress certa#n c!aracter#st#cs se)ual

aggress#on, narc#ss#sm, com%et#t#on, t!e ab#l#ty to focus on t!e task at !and,

#nde%endence, and so on.

!#nk about #t w#t!out t!ose c!aracter#st#cs, t!ey would never !ave made #t. &f

t!ey are not se)ually aggress#ve, t!ey wonGt f#nd females to mate w#t! t!em. &f

t!ey are always n#ce and s!are everyt!#ng w#t! everyone, t!ey wonGt !ave enoug!

resources to su%%ort t!e#r women and c!#ldren.

8now#ng !ow destruct#ve aggress#on and narc#ss#sm can be to a %eaceful soc#ety,

%ol#t#cal and rel#g#ous leaders #ntroduced moral#ty and value systems to teac!

men ways to manage t!e#r aggress#ve #nst#ncts.

Some men w!ole!eartedly ada%t c#v#l#ed ways. Many, !owever, manage to !ave

t!e a%%earance of c#v#l#ed men and !#de t!e#r dee%w#red #nst#ncts #ns#de.

At work men control t!e#r emot#ons and mostly use t!e#r log#cal s#de to solve

%roblems. *ut #n t!e#r %r#vate l#ves, w!en t!ey date and court a woman, anot!er

s#de of t!em w#ll surface. !erefore, understand#ng a manGs #nst#ncts w#ll !el% a

woman #nter%ret !#s be!av#ors #n !er dat#ng and love l#fe.


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&n t!e rest of t!#s sess#on, & w#ll d#scuss !ow menGs #nst#ncts #nfluence t!e#r v#ews

and styles #n dat#ng, relat#ons!#%s and comm#tment.

53 lay =ard to et & the Ri!ht +ay

!e trut! #s t!at t!e men w!o are t!e %ursuers, aggressors, !unters and warr#ors

are t!e ones w!o surv#ved t!e !ars! env#ronmental cond#t#ons and brutal

warfare. !ey are t!e ones w!o %ass t!e#r genes to t!e ne)t generat#on. A manw!o #s %ass#ve eventually gets w#%ed out of t!e gene %ool.

(!en you allow t!e man to %ursue

you, you %erm#t !#m to court you #n

t!e way t!at most e)c#tes !#m.

A man #s #n !#s true element w!en

!e %lays t!e aggressor. Be feels

%owerful, strong and !ero#c w!en !e

c!ases you.

Be feels l#ke a manH


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!ere #s also somet!#ng dec#dedly e)c#t#ng w!en !e feels l#ke !e #s seduc#ng you,

mak#ng you unable to res#st !#m and fall#ng !el%lessly under !#s s%ell. &t g#ves

!#m a sense of accom%l#s!ment and v#ctory.

Moreover, lett#ng t!e man %ursue you w#ll allow !#m to assoc#ate t!e e)c#tement

!e gets from t!e c!ase w#t! you. Most men donGt understand t!at t!e t!r#lls t!ey

get are from t!e act of c!as#ng. *ut w!at t!ey do know #s w!en t!ey are w#t! you,

t!ey are e)c#ted. !erefore, you are t!e source of t!e e)c#tement.

&n anc#ent !#na a man l#terally !ad to f#g!t ot!er men to w#n a womann t!e ot!er !and, w!en you c!ase t!e man, you not only take away t!e t!r#ll !e

gets from %ursu#ng you, you also take away !#s mascul#n#ty.

-at!er t!an feel#ng l#ke t!e brave !unter, !e feels l#ke t!e an#mal t!at #s be#ng

!unted. !as#ng a man tr#ggers !#s surv#val #nst#ncts and makes !#m run for !#s

l#fe.

&n anc#ent t#mes, a man was weak com%ared to larger %redators suc! as t#gers or

l#ons. !ey !ad a bu#lt#n res%onse to flee w!en t!ey were be#ng c!ased.


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!at #nst#nct #s st#ll #n t!em. (!en you come on too strong, you #nev#tably

act#vate t!e#r fl#g!t$ #nst#nct. !ey w#ll be so busy runn#ng away from you t!at

t!ey w#ll fa#l to real#e !ow great you truly areH

Some men !ave confessed to me t!at t!ey d#d en+oy be#ng not#ced by a woman

and !av#ng !er %lay t!e aggressor #n#t#ally. *ut eventually t!ey grew bored and

t!en annoyed w!en t!e woman was always t!e one w!o called, #n#t#ated dates

and #n#t#ated se). !e only way for t!em to ga#n control of t!e s#tuat#on, t!ey

sa#d, was to re+ect !er.

!as#ng men may g#ve you a sl#g!t edge at t!e beg#nn#ng because men do love to

take t!e easy %at!. *ut you w#ll suffer #n t!e long run because !e w#ll know t!at

!e can s#t back, rela) and let you do all t!e work to move t!e relat#ons!#%

forward. &t w#ll e)!aust youH

Anot!er benef#t #s t!at 1hen men are the ursuers, you !et the o1er :at#ng

#s d#fferent from %ursu#ng your career. &n dat#ng t!e aggressor #s #n a weak

%os#t#on. !e %ursued, on t!e ot!er !and, #s #n a strong %os#t#on because !e or s!e

!as t!e ult#mate %ower to e#t!er acce%t or re+ect t!e ot!er %erson. A smart woman

w#ll never g#ve u% t!at %ower.

As 5#acomo asanova once sa#d,

Be the f%ame* not the moth#$


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!e best way #s to be fr#endly enoug! t!at !e would g#ve #t a try and know t!at #f

!e does get re+ected, you wonGt +um% on !#m or scold !#m.

5 Real MenIs Take

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58 Se.urin! =is Bloodline

Men are dr#ven by t!e #nst#nct to %ass along t!e#r genes to t!e ne)t generat#on.

(omen #n anc#ent t#mes understood t!#s an)#ety and used #t as a barga#n#ng tool.

!ey %rom#sed to w#t!!old se) from ot!er men #n e)c!ange for resources. See#ng

no alternat#ve, t!e man agreed.

3or a man w!o #s seek#ng a longterm relat#ons!#%, one of t!e most #m%ortant

cr#ter#a #n a woman #s !er )idelity. Es%ec#ally w!en a man !as to g#ve a large

%ort#on of !#s resources to su%%ort t!e women and !er c!#ldren, !e wants to be

certa#n t!at t!e c!#ldren are !#s.

!#s b#olog#cal #nst#nct makes a woman w!o #s !#nt#ng at be#ng %rom#scuous a

b#g turnoff for a man w!o #s ready to settle down. !e Fu#ckest way a woman

can turn off a man w!o #s look#ng for a relat#ons!#% #s t!roug! un)aith)ul and

romis.uous *ehavior. *ut #f a man #s searc!#ng for a cand#date for a s!ortterm

fl#ng, t!#s Fual#ty of be#ng %rom#scuous #s dec#dedly attract#ve.

Male #nsecur#ty about t!e#r bloodl#ne e)%la#ns some reasons w!y a !ardtoget$

strategy works #n many cases. By layin! hard to !et, a 1oman su!!ests that

she is extremely sele.tive 1ith her mates. S!e #s demonstrat#ng to t!e man t!at

#f s!e eventually c!ooses !#m, s!e w#ll rema#n fa#t!ful. !ere #s w#sdom #n

mak#ng a man wa#t for se) unt#l !e !as %roved !#mself. &t #s a t#metested

strategyH


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57 +hat Makes a Man 2oti.e YouK

o draw a man #n, you need to !ave Fual#t#es !e #s attracted to w#t!#n t!e f#rst few

m#nutes of see#ng and talk#ng to you. S#nce a man Fu#ckly makes dec#s#ons about

a%%roac!#ng a woman, t!ose Fual#t#es need to be %erce#vable and

unamb#guous. !ey need to convey a clear message #n a glance. o !ave a man

not#ce you and want to a%%roac! you, you need to !ave

%eually -harged Presence /**roacha"ility

!#s means t!at you need to accentuate your %!ys#cal attr#butes t!at a%%eal to a

man lusc#ous !a#r, rosy c!eeks, clear sk#n and r#%e l#%s.

A se)ually c!arged %resence !as l#ttle to do w#t! age and more to do w#t! your

effort to %resent your most allur#ng self. lay u% t!e %!ys#cal attr#butes &

ment#oned above and you w#ll f#nd you are draw#ng attent#on #n a way you could

!ave never #mag#ned before.

Also, use your fac#al e)%ress#on and body language to convey t!e subtle message

t!at you love men and you are del#g!ted by t!e#r %resence.


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Men are #nsecure w!en #t comes to a%%roac!#ng

a total stranger. 9o matter !ow attract#ve you

are to t!em, t!ey w#ll not a%%roac! you unless

t!ey bel#eve t!ey !ave a good c!ance of

#m%ress#ng you. -esearc! !as s!own t!at #f a

man bel#eves t!at !e can never #m%ress or

%lease you, !e wonGt even try. So a fr#endly,

o%en and goodnatured %resence #s #m%ortant to

encourage men to a%%roac! you.

A word of caut#on you never want to reveal your #nterest too muc!. So, never

stare. A few se)y glances and a fr#endly sm#le w#ll be suff#c#ent. You want to

a%%ear only li!htly #nterested. !at way, !e w#ll feel bot! encouraged and

c!allenged.

&f you !ave done all t!e above and t!e man st#ll does not a%%roac! you, !e may

e#t!er I1J Bave reasons not to, suc! as be#ng #n a comm#tted relat#ons!#%, or I2J

9ot be very muc! #nto you.


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