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A Publication of Hospice of Lubbock Spring/Summer 2010
SIGN OF THE D VE
Where to startPg 14
Financial Planning Services
Wisdom Shared With LoveYou will make it
Pg 16
One Mans Hospice JourneyLiving while on hospice care
Pg 8
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Hospice o Lubbock has proo that
a basic menu can provide big results. The
21st Annual Mayors Beans and Cornbread
Luncheon raised $60,115.03 in two and a
hal hours time on Friday, March 5 at the
Lubbock Memorial Civic Center.
From 11AM, to 1:30 PM, volunteers
served up beans and cornbread catered by
Riversmiths to more than 2,000 people. At-tendees could add a Klemkes Raider-Alley
Sausage to their plate or a donation o $2.
While the event is known or its menu, thats not the only
thing that keeps people coming back or more, according to
Charley Wasson, the director o Hospice o Lubbock.
You never know who you are going to run into at Beans and
Cornbread, Wasson said. However, the frst person will most
likely be your mayor, since they greet you at the door.
Area mayors have hosted the popular event every year since
its beginning in 1989. This year, Levelland, Wilson, Idalou, Sun-
down, Tahoka, Plainview, Wolorth, Morton, Ransom Canyon,
Shallowater, Post and Lubbock had their mayors in attendance.As people enjoyed their meal, Jim Douglass and Je
Klotzman with Fox Talk kept things running smoothly as the
luncheon emcees.
Holly Kennedy
Live music rom Don Caldwell and The Lubbock Texas
Rhythm Machine also kept the crowd entertained. The band re-
ceived help rom other local musicians, including Mary Fletcher,
Je Bailey, Sheena Fadeyi, Butch Avery, The Itty Bittys and The
Cactus Cuties.
Local celebrities and community leaders worked diligently
as waiters to earn extra tips which directly benefted Hospice o
Lubbock. For the second year in a row, Linda Gaither took home
the Golden Apron trophy, earning a total o $1,319.79 in tips.Its people like Gaither who continue to make the luncheon a
success, Wasson said.
People do not just attend this event and volunteer because
its un, Wasson said. Each person who attends has a special
place in their heart or Hospice o Lubbock.
Money raised rom the event will directly beneft Hospice
o Lubbocks nonunded and underunded hospice patients and
amilies, along with its Grie Recovery Center and Childrens
Grie Camp each summer.
Every year I am blown away by the generosity o the
people o the South Plains. This event would not be possible
without the help o local business owners, community leadersand everyday citizens, Wasson said. You are why West Texas
is the best place to live, and I cant wait to see you at the 22nd An-
nual Mayors Beans and Cornbread Luncheon in 2011.
2010 MAYORS
Benefit of Hospice of Lubbock
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2010 Golden Award winner, Linda Gaither with Tony Lloyd
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BOArD MEMBErs
Hospice of Lubbock Foundation
Development Board 2010
Amy Baugh
Debi Bostick (Chair)
Cathy Buchanan
Krista Bumstead
Amber Dean
Becky Garza
Michael Hardin, PhD
Mary Jo Lovingier
Sue Moore
Cathy Pope
Frank Ryburn, MD
Ross ShamburgerSarah Weaver
Kim Wheeler
MIssIOn sTATEMEnT
To provide palliative and
compassionate care for
terminally ill patients while
enhancing natural death with
dignity and comfort, regardless
of ability to pay.
COnTACT us1102 Slide Road, Suite 3
P.O. Box 16800
Lubbock, Texas 79490-6800
806.795.2751 | 800.658.2648
www.hospiceoflubbock.org
Message from the Director
CHARLEY WASSON
Medical Director .....................................................Derek Skinner, MDAssociate Medical Director .....................................Melanie Oblender, MD
Associate Medical Director .....................................Michael Ragain, MD
Associate Medical Director .....................................Jeremy Brown, MD
Chaplains................................................................. Elizabeth Abraham, Bruce Cotton
Director ...................................................................Charley Wasson
Clinical Manager .....................................................Cindy Land, RN
Grief Recovery Supervisor ..................................... John Southern, Med, LPC
Volunteer Coordinator .............................................Cheryl Keefer
Community Liaisons ...............................................Rose Chase, Merina Lisman
Editor in Chief......................................................... Merina Lisman
Editor....................................................................... Janet Silver
Bruce and Mary Parks Interview ............................Merina Lisman, Rose Chase
Article Contributions: ............................................. Elizabeth Abraham
.................................................................................Linda Cook
.................................................................................Shirley Eagle
.................................................................................Cheryl Keefer
.................................................................................Paula Miser
.................................................................................Susan Nemec, LBSW, ACBSW, CT
.................................................................................Lydia and Rayli Robinson
.................................................................................Frank Ryburn Jr., MD
.................................................................................Charley Wasson
Design and Printing.................................................Craftsman Printers, Inc.
Katharine Graham, the former publisher of the Washington Post, wrote, Death is
as much a reality as birth, growth, maturity, and old age. It is the one certainty. I can-
not fear death. And yet it seems as a culture we do fear death whether it be our own
or of our loved ones.
Hospice philosophy teaches us what Ms. Graham so eloquently wrote: death is the
one certainty and one should not fear it. Life is about transitions, and death is our nal
transition. I think so often we fear death because it is unknown: we cannot ask those
we trust what it is like or what to expect.
I recently had a hospice patient, a beautiful 83-year-old woman, ask me, Why
can I not die today? I have fought my ght and I am ready. Why can it not happen?
My best answer to her was there are times our soul is ready before our body and othertimes our body is ready before our soul. There comes a time where our body and soul
are in sync with God and that is when that last transition occurs.
Hospice encourages us to recognize and embrace dying and death as sacred. It is
during this sacred time that our soul and body come into harmony, so that we can ex-
perience our nal transition. It is our hope at Hospice of Lubbock that we can support
patients, families, caregivers and those closest in life not to fear death, but to celebrate
life in transition.
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Wih Ls
Hospice of Lubbock Features
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In EvEry IssuE
Physicians Perspective Page 6-7
HoL Community Volunteers Page 10-11
HoL Grief Recovery Center Page 14
Chaplains Perception Page 16-17
Chair for customers to try on
shoes in Thrift Shop
Several towels, preferably dark color
Hanging clothes rack -
to hang aprons for storage
Left to right: Mark Grifn-Community Leader,Floyd Price-Councilman, Jim Gilbreath-Councilman
Lettig Go...A Coageo DeciioPage 6-7
Oe Ma Hopice JoePage 8-9
new Fiacial Plaig seicePage 14
Piate, sop & Idia WaioPage 15
Widom shaed With LoePage 16-17
remembeig DaielPage 23
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A good death does honor to a whole life.
Petrarch (1304-1374)
In life we are sometimes faced with painful decisions relating to our own death. This is the story of two charming, mature and
courageous women in that dilemma.
In recent months I had the rich experience of being at the bedside of two very special women at the time of their dyinga sacred
time. Both were friends but before that were patients of mine for many years. Evelyn was a highly skilled nurse, a woman of greatmusical talent as an accomplished singer and later in her career a dedicated worker in hospice. Florine, or Flo, as called by her
friends, was an elegant lady, a musician who played the organ at her church for many years. She also had early training in drama. Both
Evelyn and Flo were devoted mothers of sons. They were women of faith with that unique charm that goes with patience, good humor,
generosity and fullness of life. Ones face reflects the inner person, and both these women had smiles that reflected both condence
and kindness.
Both Evelyn, in her seventies, and Flo, in her eighties, had advanced and refractory malignancies. They had had extensive radia-
tion and chemotherapy and both elected against further aggressive therapy. At this point all proven effective therapy had been com-
pleted and it was their carefully considered decision to Let Go and gracefully accept the fact that their time was limited. At that time
I had the perception that both Evelyn and Flo shared a deep feeling expressed by Randy Pausch in his book, The Last Lecture, When
Physicians Perspective
Letting Go
A Courageous Decision.
Frank M. Ryburn, Jr. MD
DR. FRANK M. RYBURN, JR. MD
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he was dying of pancreatic cancer at a very young age, he wrote, I felt at peace and fullled. My life had come full circle.
In our current scientically advanced medical climate there is often pressure from family and sometimes over-zealous physicians
to push for the use of new modes of potent, often quite toxic chemotherapy. In reality there are some physicians who have great dif-
culty Letting Go when time of cure is passed. Herein lies the beauty and value of hospice care, that is focusing on expert profes-
sional care of patient and family for the remainder of that persons life.
With the unknown nature of death there are two existential fears in the soul of each of us, i.e. the fear of being forgotten and the
fear of dying alone. The continuity of families from generation to generation, and especially the memory of loving family relation-
ships, helps to reassure those facing impending death that they will not be forgotten. It was the second fear, dying alone, in addition to
inadequate control of pain in terminal illness in patients in the hospitals of England, that inspired and motivated Dame Cicely Saun-
ders to establish St. Christophers Hospice in London in 1967.
In those last months and weeks Evelyn and Flo had more frequent visits with their friends and family. There was power and reas-
surance in the presence of those who came. These were enjoyable, good and useful times, looking back on many pleasant and mean-
ingful events of their lives. As the weeks passed their appetites decreased, they began to lose weight. Naps, morning and afternoon,
became more frequent and longer. In the last few days their thoughts and speech became less lucid at times. Communication became
more difcult, but they seemed to be at peace.
It was late fall when Flos last day arrived. Early that day little had
changed from the day before, so Miles, her son, who had been at Flos bed-
side, returned to Amarillo to care for his patients. A few hours later there was
a marked change in respiration and within the next two hours respirations
ceased. Her dying was peaceful and at that time her other son, Blair, and herhospice nurse, Heidi, were at her bedside.
It was early March and Evelyns breathing had become short, requiring
oxygen. On that last day she became less lucid, fading in and out of alertness.
That morning Gwen, her nurse and Elizabeth, her chaplain, both from hospice
had visited. At the time of her death, Bob, her husband, Marty, her daughter-
in-law and Vickie, her long time friend, were in her presence. That afternoon
of her death her sons Don and Adam were en route from Dallas and arrived
shortly after her death.
In those last months and days Flo and Evelyn enjoyed and appreciated
the presence of friends, family and those who loved them. In her book, Cicely
Saunders, The Founder Of The Modern Hospice Movement, Shirley Du Bou-ley vividly conrms the value of presence.
This article is dedicated to Gwen Akeroyd, RN, CHPH, in honor and
appreciation of her many years of skillful and dedicated end of life care to our
patients and their families.
The way in which the staff of
St. Christophers respond to the
spiritual needs of the dying is
summed up in Christs words to
His disciples in the Garden Of
Gethsemane, Tarry ye here
and watch with me.
Edited by: Mazie Ryburn, Stephanie Rodda and Janet Silver
Evelyn Cash, August 7, 1934 to March 25, 2010
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This is part two of a three-part interview with Bruceand Mary Parks. Due to the overwhelming response to part one
in the Winter 2010 Newsletter, Im sure everyone is anxiously
waiting to read this next installment. Bruce is a retired clergyman
who graciously agreed to share his day-to-day experiences on his
hospice journey.
I have to say that you dont look like an 86-year- old man. Get-
ting involved in the health world when you did sure kept youyoung.
Mary: It sure did. That and prayers. At 79 Bruce lost most of his
blood supply and the doctors in Amarillo just shook their heads.
They couldnt believe he walked into the hospital.
Bruce: It was because I was in such good physical shape.
Mary: He nally said, Bruce had the cardio vascular system of
a college athlete. Believe me, in 1964 no one was out exercising
and running. In the different towns we lived in, people would say
to me, Whats he doing getting up at ve in the morning and
running? I saw him running down the street, whats he doing?
And I would say, I dont know, he said he feels better.
Bruce, you were ahead of your time.
Mary: Yes, he was.
So you were a Methodist minister? Well, give us a little bit about
your background. When did yall meet? When did you get mar-
ried? Tell us a bit about your life.
Bruce: Well, we met in MacMurray College and we both lived
in Throck Morton County when we were children. Shes is ve
years younger than me.
Bruce looks over at Mary with a twinkle in his eye as he said,
Thats fair, even though she doesnt look it.
Mary: Im 81, might as well tell it. When you get this age you
show it. (She doesnt.)
Bruce: Anyway, we met in college and
Mary: In 1947 and we married in 1948 so weve been married61 years.
That is awesome.
Mary: He nished MacMurray and I nished at Tech later, but
then he went to SMU to do graduate work.
Bruce: I told Mary this morning that I want to put together a
little book of poems that I have written over the past 40 years for
this Christmas.
Mary: More than that. You wrote when you went overseas in
World War II.
Bruce:Yes. I used to write a Christmas poem every year and Ive
got many of them. Im going to go back and get what I think are
my best and make a little book of Christmas poetry and send it
out this year for Christmas.
What a wonderful idea. How many children do you have?
Mary: We have three and they all live in Lubbock. They travel
with jobs, but one is a librarian for the Frienship School System.
I tell you, when you come to this place in life, you learn the value
of family and friends. We have a lot of friends here. I cant imag-
ine what Id do without these wonderful friends.
I can tell you are very much loved by your fellow Methodist
Minister Association.
Mary: Well, were all friends. We were in MacMurray with
some of them. Over 60 years ago. We go way back.
Bruce: When we rst retired, we were co-presidents of the Sec-
ond Milers, though we havent been able to be with them much.
Mary: We have attended meetings only twice this year (2009).
We couldnt get over the fact that you were there giving a presen-
tation on Hospice of Lubbock. We had no idea. It was the one
time that month we could attend. It wasnt just a coincidence;
God just works things out.Bruce: My current interest is to put some of these poems in a
book for this Christmas. My daughters will help me, but Ill work
on it.
Mary: And he was writing a book on his life. Hes always been
a very good writer, but he hasnt been able to nish it.
Bruce: I think my daughters will be able to end it for me.
Mary: He covers his childhood, we grew up in the depression.
About the time the depression ended we graduated high school,
World War II started and he joined the Navy. He joined before
Pearl Harbor was bombed and he remained there until a year
after the war ended. His book covers his childhood years and our
librarian daughter said, Dad you give the best description of
childhood in the depression that Ive read. And shes a history
major. She loves history.
Bruce: Those were some marvelous times in our country.
Mary: Then his book continues through World War II and
includes his entry into MacMurray College at 23 years of age.
Since he became ill he hasnt been able to complete it.
Can you dictate it?
Mary: Well, our daughters have taken notes and
Bruce: They remember my stories. It will be more about my
experience as a pastor more about my relationships than about
myself. Ive had a great exciting life.
Thats beautiful.
Bruce: Thats my rst one.
When you compile that book we would love to have a copy.
~See next issue for part three
In 1944 I was in Okinawa on a ship and I was a patient in a hos-pital ship off of Okinawa and I wrote this:
I hope that this is understoodId do better if I could
But Christmas caught me hanging roundA place where store bought things arent foundBut store bought things soon rust or fade
And lose the value that weve paidIll just send a prayer this year
God keep you safe from harm and fearAnd may next years Christmas bringThe peace on earth the angels sing
The value of my prayer will stayA material gift would pass away
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Hospice of Lubbock Volunteers
CHERYL KEEFER
Mary Jo has volunteered for Hospice of Lubbock since 2004. During that time, Mary Jo has continually grown with this organiza-tion, learned new volunteer positions and taken on new responsibilities.
After a personal experience with Hospice through the death of a loved one, she chose to give her time as a support volunteer in
our administrative ofces. As she learned more about the Direct Patient Volunteer program, Mary Jo attended our 24-hour training
program and began spending time with hospice patients and their families. Because this experience touched her so, Mary Jo now
actively participates as a HoL training presenter, encouraging new volunteers to nd their niche and persist in their growth as volun-
teers.
Within an ever-changing healthcare climate, she continues to challenge herself, as well as provide consistency and reliability as
she carries out her responsibilities. She doesnt, however, give up one task to take on anothershe just keeps adding to her repertoire!
She still comes to HoL regularly to do the same support work she started out doing in 2004.
Recently, Mary Jo spent several weeks completely reorganizing the kitchen in our Grief Recovery Center, enabling those who
use it to have much more efcient access. She continues to be an active volunteer at HoL fundraisers, our childrens support programs
and other special events, is a member of the Hospice of Lubbock Foundation Board (serving on the Employee Recognition Commit-
tee), and a member of the Board of Directors!!! She actively learns all she can about hospice, and spreads the word about our mission
throughout the community and soon the world!!!
As if her accomplishments here werent enough, Mary Jo has developed a workshop hospice care that has been presented the
past three years at the state meeting of Delta Kappa Gamma, an organization of educators. (Mary Jo retired after 28 years as a Special
Education teacher.) This summer, Mary Jo will have the honor of presenting her workshop to theInternationalDelta Kappa Gamma
conference. What an opportunity to get our mission, along with our name, out on a global level!
One of the most impressive and touching qualities about Mary Jo goes back to the word VOLUNTEER. Mary Jo has achieved all
of this without earning one penny for her enthusiasm, dedication and hard work. She truly exemplies the value of excellence, and we
consider ourselves blessed that she chose Hospice of Lubbock as the benefactor of her kindness!
One of the most impressive
and touching qualities aboutMary Jo goes back to the word
VOLUNTEER. Mary Jo has
achieved all of this without
earning one penny for her
enthusiasm, dedication
and hard work.
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Cathy Buchanan, Mary Jo Lovingier, Sarah Weaver
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volunteer Bonnie Hunt who continues to make
wonderful holiday goodie baskets for Hospice ofLubbock patients and their families.
BonnieHuntandBelindaTor
res,CNA
We Appreciate...
Heidi Hodges, RN was presented the Dr. Alex Munsen
Tender Touch Nursing Award by Covenant Health System
Outpatient Division. It takes a special nurse to hold the
hand of a dying patient, reassuring both patient and family
that death is a natural part of life and all is going to be okay.
Caring for a dying child takes a gifted nurse with a specialheart and skill set that ensures compassion, dignity and
sense of peace. Heidi Hodges is a truly gifted human being
who not only has proven herself as a hospice nurse, but
also has excelled as a pediatric hospice nurse. She has been
recognized by patients, families, staff and physicians for her
excellent nursing skills and her compassionate heart. Heidi
never fails to go the extra mile in helping her patients and
families.
Marisa Ochoa, RN, was presented the Nursing Differ-
ence Award for Hospice/Palliative Care by Covenant Health
System. Marisa is truly a go to nurse for us at Hospice of
Lubbock. Her vast experience lends itself well in both the
community and hospice setting. Marisa lives in Levelland
and truly is a community advocate for end-of-life care. She
has established strong rapport with doctors, the hospital,
nursing homes and community leaders in explaining the
hospice benet for those dying. A dedicated member of her church, Marisa reaches out to those she sees in need and extends
the helping hand of Christ in whatever way she can. She is often called on to explain disease, dying and the death process to
those in her community. Recently, when Hospice of Lubbock faced a difcult challenge through competition, Marisa took
additional patients and did admissions well above the call of duty to ensure patients and families felt supported and knew
they had someone close by if needed.
TWO OUTSTANDING
Hospice stars
Left to Right: Heidi Hodges and Marisa Ochoa
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John Wayne
Silver Spurs
Branding Iron
White Hat
EMCEES
Jim Douglass ~ Je Klotzman
(FoxTalk in the Morning 950. AENTERTAINMEN
Don Caldwell &The Lubbock Texas Rhythm Mach
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Xcel EnergyGranite Construction Co.
Resthaven Funeral HomeSuddenlinkTexas Tech UniversityUniversity Medical CenterUnited Supermarkets
Armstrong MechanicalHeritage OaksKohlsLubbock Proessional FirefghtersMcCleskey, Harriger, Brazil & GraRIX Funeral Directors/
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DIAGNOSTIC
RADIOLOGY
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Special Performers
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Raymond Martinez - MortonRobert Englund - Ransom
CanyonRobert Olmsted - Shallowater
Thressa Harp - PostTom Martin - Lubbock
Gary ZhengGaylon & Coretta KerrH. Terry HinesJ. Ted HartmanJ.Q. Warnick, Jr.
Jack Strong, Jr.Mary Nell StrongZelda StrongTrey StrongMary Kathryn StrongJames MorrisJoe RapierJohn P. CervantezJohn RichardsonJohn TyeMarciano MoralesMary Beth Mittemeyer
Amber McCloudAndy TurnerArden HawkinsBobby RodgersBrent Noble
Carroll & Nadine McDonaldChanda & Josh AllenCheryl & Joe MayesCory DulinDale HoltonDan AldersonDela EsquedaDorris FaverDr. & Mrs. Bruce MaunderDr. Idris Rhea Traylor, Jr.Dustin BurrowsGail Kring
MAYORS CO-HOSTS
AND MORE!!!Abuelos Mexican Food EmbassyBorder Management Co.JAZZ: A Louisiana KitchenZoo-Kinis
ONSORS
thank these special 2010for their Hospice Hearts
Golden Apron Winners
2007 Linda Gaither ~ 2008 Joe Muree ~ 2009 Linda Gaither
REGIONAL Mayors
MEDICAL DIRECTORS
Melanie Oblender, MDDerek Skinner, MD
n-Kind Sponsors
Mayfeld Paper CompanyDelwin JonesRandy NeugebauerStandard Sales/Joe NemethSignProFrame Pro
Land Pro/Richland EstatesContainers On WheelsTexas Tech Red Raider ClubWentz Orthodontics
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tors, Inc.o Fritch, TXnnel 11g
Amber Dean
Amy BaughBecky GarzaCathy BuchananCathy PopeDebi Bostick (Chair)Evelyn Cash (Emeritus)Frank M. Ryburn, MD (Emeritus)
Kim Wheeler
Krista BumsteadMary Jo LovingierMichael Hardin, PhDRoss ShamburgerSarah WeaverSue Moore
DEVELOPMENT BOARD MEMBERS
Bo Bowman - LevellandDonald Klaus - WilsonJack Bush - IdalouJim Winn - Sundown
John Baker - TahokaJohn C. Anderson - PlainviewL.C. Childers - Wolorth
Maurice StanleyMike KempNorma PikeQuincy WhiteRoger Karr
Ron McClendonRudy RosalesScott CollierScott GibsonScott McLaughlinSteve WarrenSuzie BakerTed WillisTom & SammiePratherTruett CratWinn Sikes
Ofcials
City Secretary, Becky GarzaCounty Commissioner, Bill McCayJudge Drue FarmerCouncil Member, Floyd PriceCouncil Member, Jim Gilbreath
Michael Ragain, MDFrank Ryburn, MD (Emeritus)
Council Member, John LeonardSheri Kelly RoweCounty Commissioner, Mark E. HeinrichCouncil Member, Paul R. BeaneCouncil Member, Todd Klein
AYORS
Mary Fletcher
Je BaileySheena FadeyiButch AveryThe Itty Bittysand The Cactus Cuties
, River Smiths Catering
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HoL Grief Recovery Center
The Grief Recovery Center of Hospice of Lubbock
is excited to announce a new partnership with the Texas
Tech University Division of Personal Financial Plan-
ning! This new partnership, under the supervision of
Dr. John Salter, Ph.D., CFP, AIFA, and Dr. Dorothy
Durband, Ph. D., AFC, from the Division of Personal
Financial Planning, will offer an internship for masters
level nancial planning students to provide assistance for
families in reviewing their legal and nancial affairs at
no cost!
This new partnership will allow the nancial planning
interns to meet individually with families to review their
wills, trusts, and other legal affairs to ensure that they
are up to date. They can provide assistance to individuals
and families struggling with money problems. Whether
providing educational seminars or individualized coun-
seling, the interns can assist individuals and families who
lack the income and assets needed to retain a nancial planner on their own. The interns do not sell products or services while engaged
in pro bono activities and cannot draw up wills or trusts, but can make suggestions and direct you to where you need to go. In some
instances, they can network with other pro bono associations at Texas Tech to help families get their affairs in order.
Brent Groves is the rst intern of this partnership. Brent began his
internship by doing a presentation to the on-going grief group, giving an
overview of wills, trusts, and nancial affairs. The information prompted
many questions, and several people scheduled one-on-one appointments with
Brent.
These free services are available to current Hospice of Lubbock patients, be-
reaved hospice families, families in the community served by Hospice of Lubbock,
as well as staff and volunteers of Hospice of Lubbock.
To schedule a visit with Brent and to take advantage of these free
services, contact the Grief Recovery Center at 795-2751.
New Financial Services
Available To Hospice Families!
The interns can make
suggestions and direct you to
where you need to go.
SUSAN NEMEC, LBSW, ACBSW, CT
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Welcome all people who have lost someone near and dear to you! Grief Camp helps us kidslearn more about how to get through our grief. Over the last few years I have learned it is ok
to cry. Grief Camp can really help your child and you. Please consider joining our Grief Campthis year. You will like it. It is a good place for children! The teachers that help us are verynice! They will let you cry if you need to. You may be able to see Lydia, Rayli, Kylar, Cade,and Creed if you come to camp. Please consider sending your kids to Grief Camp. It will help
them throughout the years. Thank you for listening to this important message!
By: Rayli (8 years old)
You may ask what in the world do these three things have in
common with kids. Follow along with Rayli and me to nd out.Three years ago this May my husband, David, and I had a
26 year-old daughter, Neshia, die from a very rare form of bonecancer, Ewings Sarcoma. For a mom or dad, there is no deeperor greater pain than having your child die. To make matters even
more devastating, my daughter was a single mom to ave year-old little girl named Rayli. But, as wehave discovered rst hand, when life throws
you a humdinger of a curve on the seaof life, you choose to either sink orswim. You can opt to be like the
Indians and put on your warpaint and battle the struggles towin at this thing called life.
Now, Im not just Raylisgrandmother, but as Raylisays, her mother here on
earth. She is also veryquick to let you know herReal Mommy is in Heaven.Rayli is truly my angel here
on earth!In comes Hospice Grief
Camp for Kids. What an awe-
some concept for my grand-daughter - to go to a day campespecially designed for grieving
children of all ages. Raylis rst griefcamp was a short four weeks after hermothers death. The theme that year, 2007,
was Pirates on the Sea of Grief. She had a fun-lled, yet emotionally packed day. Each and every grievingchild learned that day that it is okay to cry and its okay to laugh
while on their sea of grief. Rayli realized it was all right tohave different types of emotions like feeling sad, having tears,and even laughing. At the end of the day, all of the families and
children came back together for a very special event releas-ing of the balloons. Anyone that so chose could write his orher deceased loved one a note and attach it to a balloon. We all
released our balloons at the same time!! WOW!! Not a dry eye!I felt my daughter was looking down from Heaven and smiling
upon every one of us.Year two into our grief, 2008, Hospice offered Grief Soup
camp. As soon as the letter came in the mail, Rayli was jump-
ing for joy and couldnt wait to go. She kept asking if she would
be in her same group with Ms. Peggy and Ms. LaLani. The verynext second, I heard Rayli calling her cousins, Kylar, Cade, and
Creed inviting them to camp! Rayli was ecstatic to nd out thatshe and Creed would be with her favorite camp leaders, Peggyand LaLani. Rayli and her cousins (as well as the other kids at
camp) used different types of vegetables to describe theirfeelings and grief. Then each camper could take
home whatever vegetables he or she used to
express their grief, and make their ownGrief Soup, with their parents help.
Rayli and I had a great bonding mo-
ment making our soup and talkingabout our feelings.
In our third year, 2009, Grief
Warriors was offered. Onceagain Rayli and her threecousins were excited and ready
to go to Hospice Grief Camp.While there they made neck-laces with beads in a variety ofcolors. Each color represented
different feelings and emotionsexperienced in their grief. Rayli
made a variety of Indian Warrior
type artifacts that let her expressher emotions and grief. It helped
her to see she could put on her Indian
War Paint and be a warrior in grief andlife and still be a winner!Now as we approach summer 2010, Rayli
and her cousins are ready to go to Hospices GriefCamp and have even more fun than ever. They are excited to seetheir friends and camp leaders, and learn even more about how to
handle grief.If you or someone you know a child - or even a teenager -
dealing with loss and/or grief, encourage them to attend this
years Hospice Grief Day Camp. It will denitely be a learningtool for them to use in their grieving process. As for the parent/guardian/caregiver of a grieving child, you, too, can benet from
Hospice Grief Day Camp. Hospice offers a session during thisspecial day for you the adult to share and talk about your
feelings, emotions, or whatever may be on your heart or mind.We ALL need love, help, and encouragement when riding on thesea of life. Hope to see you there!
Pirates, Soup,
Raylis Heartfelt Words And Thoughts About Grief Camp:
Indian WarriorsBy Lydia Robinson
Lydia, Rayli and David Robinson
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WisdomShared With Love
Mommy. Why does
daddy have to go to heaven
right now? He is too young,
and we still need him to be
here with us. This is a portion
of a conversation between a
young mother and her 5-year-
old daughter shortly before
their beloved husband and
father died very peacefully intheir loving presence.
I am often at a loss to
know how to help prepare young mothers and fathers
deal with the enormity of saying goodbye to their spouses
prematurely, navigating the uncharted, chaotic territory
of grief, and then creating a new and uncertain future for
themselves and their children.
When Hospice of Lubbocks Director, Charley Wasson,
was 15, his father, Jimmy, died of a heart attack, leaving
Charleys mother, Shirley, with the daunting task of manag-
ing a household, raising the last of her four children, and
working to support her familys many needs. When Shirleyheard how Susan, a brave young woman, enabled her dear
husband to die with much dignity and love and is now car-
ing for the needs of her young daughters, she was moved
to write the following letter to Susan. Shirleys inspiring
words hopefully will give Susan and others whose lives
have been forever changed by the loss of a loved one, the
courage, determination and grace to embrace a new life
lled with hope, memories, dreams, faith and great love.
Dear Susan,
Though I have never met you, my heart and prayers are
with you now and in the days and years to come. I know
how it feels to be in your shoes, as 19 years ago this past
January I became a young widow, left to raise a child. My
heart is full of empathy for you and for your daughters.
There are so many things that I wish I had been told
as I began my journey and I hope that I can offer a few
thoughts of wisdom to you. I hope something I have writ-ten offers you some assurance and peace.
I wish I had someone tell me that life after Jimmys
death was going to be the biggest trial I would encounter,
but that I was going to make it. I had my doubts many
times, but with the love of family, friends, and most im-
portant, the love of God, I made it and feel like I am now
a better person. My oldest brother died a month before
Jimmy, and I remember thinking to myself, Both of them
are gone. Who is going to take care of me? That was
many years ago and I survived it all.
I wish someone had told me to trust my gut feelings
when making decisions. It is so hard to make a decisionyou are the only one responsible for it. Family support is
wonderful to lead you in the right direction, but you are the
one who has to walk the path. I also know now that if you
have not been alone and totally responsible, you have no
idea what it is all about. Others cannot make your deci-
sions. But advice is good, so dont be afraid to listen.
I wish someone had told me that I would be just plain
mad at my husband for dying and leaving me with our son
Preface by Elizabeth AbrahamHospice of Lubbock Chaplain
Chaplains Perspective
ELIZABETH ABRAHAM
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to raise, forcing me to make all the important decisions in
life. I was also mad he left his four children. I felt I had lost
my security. I felt very vulnerable. But I have learned it is
okay to be mad at him it doesnt mean you love him any
less, you just simply wish he were there holding your hand.
I wish someone had told me how frightening it is to go
in a restaurant and eat alone. There are so many things you
have to do for the rst time without your husband. There
will come a time that something little that means nothingto anybody else really catches you off guard. Take a deep
breath and say a prayer. My best advice is to make a date
with a friend or family member to help you feel at ease
with these events.
During the rst year, do not make any decisions you do
not have to make.
Wait until you can
think rationally.
The rst year
on Christmas,
birthdays, and
other special days Ichanged our usual
routine just enough
to know it was
different, because
it would be differ-
ent the rest of my
life. I did not get
rid of or forget all
our traditions, just
adjusted them. We
moved the Christ-
mas tree from the
living room to
our den (that is where we still put it every year). We had
always celebrated Christmas with the kids and our families
in the living room, so this was a small change, but a change
that signied that things were different, but still okay. It is
also amazing how much changing the furniture will do
and change it often if it makes you smile.
The best advice I have for anyone who has lost a loved
one is to rst trust in God with all your heart and know it
is not His fault. I will not tell you that you will ever really
understand why this has happened, but your faith in God
and lots of prayers will get you through the tough times.
And realize you are never alone. Find your comfort spot.
Find the dearest friend you can, one who will listen and
gently guide you when times are really bad. Friends seem
to sense your inner feelings and even though they want to
help and protect you they are different from family. Family
often wants to just shelter you from any hurt, but there is a
certain amount of anguish you must go through to heal.
I strongly believe in opening the door and letting the
sunshine in. Try to put at least one smile on your face daily
and tell someone that you love them. Try to do something
special at least once a week, and with time it will get easier.
Let your kids know you love them and you are going to
be okay, but you need their love and help to get you all
through this tough time.Remember to tell your kids often good things about
their Daddy; memories are the most important thing you
can instill in them. Dont be afraid to talk of your husband
and dont be afraid to let others talk about him. Memories
carry down for generations. There are things that Charley
has difculty to re-
member about his
Dad, and he was
older than your
daughters. Even
today we talk about
Jimmy and goodtimes we have
both learned and
remember things
that bring warmth
to our hearts,
smiles to our faces
and occasionally
tears to our eyes.
I can imagine
how hard the last
few months have
been for you. It is
tougher than tough
to watch your husband ght a disease and then lose the
battle, especially at such a young age. There will be tough
days ahead, but you will make it through this rough time.
You will do the right things for you and your daughters
even as you wonder if you have made the right decision.
You will emerge from this dark time stronger and a better
person.
Please know that there are many praying for you, and
my heart truly goes out to you and your daughters. Should
you ever need someone to talk to, my time is yours.
May God keep and bless you and your girls.
Much love and prayers,
Shirley Eagle
M e m o r e s c a r o w n
f o r g e n e r t i o s .
Charley Wasson with mother, Shirley Eagle
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Jesus said: I tell you the truth, whatever
you did for one of the least of these brothers
of mine, you did for me. Matthew 25: 40
As Medical Social Workers for Hospice of
Lubbock, we have a ministry to serve as we
have the opportunity to walk in many differ-
ent life situations and assess the needs unique
to them. We look at a patient and familys
physical, social, and emotional environment
and identify problems and their underlying potential. We look at
the patients medical status, symptoms, medications, and exacer-
bations of the disease. Many times just listening and caring may
be our role for their situation.
Medical Social Workers advocate for patients and their
families. We provide counseling for emotional stressors related to
their terminal illness and assist with resolving family conflict is-
sues. Medical Social Workers provide crisis intervention in situ-
ations where patient and families lack adequate food or housing,such as providing food boxes from the South Plains Food Bank.
Often times we assist with utility bills that are past due. We
educate and refer to community resources, such as applying for
government programs (Medicare, Medicaid, etc.). We assist with
long term care placements usually when a patient is no longer
able to live alone or the caregiver is no longer able to care for the
patient.
By Linda Cook
Why Do I NeedA Social Worker?
Many times Medical Social Workers write various letters
for patient and families such as a letter to the Mexican Consulate
in Texas border towns for their love ones in Mexico to travel to
patients homes. Also, letters to Texas State Prisons when wanting
a family member who is incarcerated to be allowed to visit the
patient and say their nal goodbyes and resolve any unresolved
issues.
Legal documents are an important part of what we do to as-
sist patients with completing Last Will and Testaments, Medical
Power of Attorney, Financial Power of Attorney, Living Wills
and out of hospital DNR (do not resuscitate).
Seeking donations to provide special items for patients can
be funeral expense for an infant, transportation to send the patientback to Mexico for burial, buying car parts to have their auto-
mobile drivable again, and even a MP3 player for an infant on
service to listen to soothing music to calm her in her restlessness.
These are just some of the things we assist with for our Hos-
pice of Lubbock patients and families. It is a ministry of love to
be part of these unique situations as a Medical Social Worker for
Hospice of Lubbock.
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Let me count the waysThe Hospice of Lubbock Foundation needs your supportfor the important work our staff performs daily as we go aboutfulfilling the Mission of Lubbocks ONLY non-profit hospice.What does it mean to be a non-profit organization?
Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines non-profit this way:
Not conducted or maintained for the purpose of making a
profit. A primary difference between a non-profit and a for-
profit organization is that a non-profit does not issue stock or
pay dividends, and does not enrich its directors. The en-
richment for Hospice of Lubbock comes not monetarily but
spiritually and emotionally through service to this community.
Hospice of Lubbock does not distribute its surplus funds
to owners or shareholders, but instead uses them to help pur-
sue its goals and mission.
When profit for shareholders or owners is not a consider-
ation, the decision-making process is altered tremendously.
What is best for body, mind and spirit becomes the focus.
Serving the under-served is rarely an option when profit is
the motivator.
Charitable donations are a major part of the viability of a
non-profit. Hospice of Lubbock depends upon the generosity
and spirit of philanthropy that permeates this community.
How can you help?Lets count the ways:Memorial and Honorarium Tributes: Making a donation in
the memory of someone who has passed or to honor some-
one who is living (such as for birthdays and anniversaries) is a
very easy way to help.
Fundraising Events: Supporting the two annual fundraisers
for Hospice of Lubbock is an important way to give. The May-
ors Beans & Cornbread Luncheon every March and Light Up
A Life every December help to provide patient care to those
on our service who may not have insurance or whose insur-ance has been exhausted.
Planned Giving and Bequests: Providing for Hospice of
Lubbock in a Will, Bequest, or Planned Gift is another way
that donors show appreciation and support for the work at
Hospice of Lubbock.
If you would like more information about how to donate,
please contact Hospice of Lubbock today at 806-795-2751 or
visit our website at www.hospiceoflubbock.org and become a
part of the Spirit of Hospice.
Giving
By Paula Miser
The enrichmentfor Hospice ofLubbock comesnot monetarilybut spiritually
and emotionallythrough service tothis community.
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We gratefully acknowledge the following
contributions from January 1, 2010 to April 30, 2010
Every effort has been made to correctly list all contributions to Hospice of Lubbock.
If you note a mistake or omission, please accept our apologies and inform our ofce
of any corrections or changes by calling 806.725.6089.
MEMORIALS
Pauline Arnold
G H P Trucking
Mr. and Mrs. Monty Woody
Edward Aryain
Ms. Vicky Robins
Don K. Baker
Ms. Glenda JonesKenneth Baker
Ms. Leta F. Baker
Robert Baker
Mr. and Mrs. Brian Legan
Mr. and Mrs. Jim WilsonLynn Bales
Fidelity Charitable Gift FundTommy Bednarz
Mrs. Frances Sowder
Connie Beesinger
Ms. Phyllis G. Leath
Patsy Berry
Ms. Donna Powers
Verlon Bigham
Mrs. Lou D. DiekemperMr. and Mrs. Joe D. Scott
Mr. and Mrs. Alfred O. Costanzo
Ms. Carrie T. Miller
Bigham Brothers
Dr. and Mrs. Ennis Moss, Jr.
Mr. Edward MurraySheriffs Department EmployeeAssociation
Ms. Lindy Jones
Mr. and Mrs. Terry S. Key
Plains Capital Bank
Mr. and Mrs. James P. Moss
Lubbock National Bank
Ms. Peggy A. BostonMs. Maurine Selman
Ms. Maurine H. Hearn
Mr. and Mrs. Clarence Monroe
Mr. and Mrs. Ronnie Paulger
Mr. and Mrs. Dennis Richardson
Mrs. Margaret Talkington
First United Methodist Church
J.E. Murfee & Son
Mr. and Mrs. Glory FullerBob Blackwood
Ms. Donna Blackwood
Tye Blankenship
Team Baugh, LLC DBA Home
Instead Sr. C
Mrs. Glenna WylieMs. Tammy Glenn
Ms. Sonja H. Nash
Brad and Virginia L. Bradshaw
Ms. Sonja H. Nash
Pauline Brown
Mrs. Frances Sowder
Kay Buckman
Mr. Sanford Swope
Mr. and Mrs. Roy StanleyMr. and Mrs. Rayburn D. Clark
Mrs. Dorothy L. Collins
Ms. Sandra Searsy
Mrs. Bob Mayo
78th & University Church of Christ
Bobby & Helen Jennings
Ms. Joyce AdamsMs. Marilyn Neill
Mr. and Mrs. Gene Fullingim
Mr. and Mrs. Greg Grothusen
Ms. June SmithMr. Stan Edwards
Pauline Caldwell
Lonnie Wheeler
Mr. and Mrs. Darrel F. GriffithMs. Gayle Settle
Mr. and Mrs. Phillip Lee
Ms. Linda Farris
Ms. Charlotte Burt
Mr. and Mrs. Don R. Parks
Mr. and Mrs. Leon Ware
Grace CampbellMs. Gayle Gray
Douglas Carlson
Ms. Henrietta Cannon-Stover
Billielee Carr
Ms. Joyce M. Combs
Mr. and Mrs. Joe L. Murfee, III
Mrs. Lou D. Diekemper
Mr. and Mrs. George GilkersonLubbock National Bank
Dr. and Mrs. Clifford Breaud
Mr. and Mrs. Kirby J. Hurley
Mr. and Mrs. Michael O. Kerr
Mr. and Mrs. John Blakey
Mrs. Marg McLeod
Lubbock Country ClubMrs. Betty L. Blumrosen
Mrs. Ruth Smith
Mrs. Margaret Talkington
Jimmie Carr
Ridgecrest Baptist Church
Earl Carver
Mr. Roger CarverEvelyn Cash
Mrs. Frances Sowder
Ms. Carolyn M. Feminear
Dr. and Mrs. James R. Moyes
Mr. and Mrs. Michael J. Buchanan
Mr. and Mrs. Darrell Vines
Mr. and Mrs. Mark Brock
Mr. and Mrs. Leon MillerMs. Susan Dorchin
Ms. Leslie Hebert
Mr. and Mrs. Glynn Morgan
Mr. and Mrs. Frank Kilcrease
Mr. and Mrs. Charles H. Brueske
Ms. Edith C. Blackburn
Ms. Donna Cash
Ms. Maxine C. Sigman
Ms. Victoria Thornley
World Vision International
Mr. and Mrs. Don Worten
West Inland Energy, IncMrs. Ruth Hood
Mrs. Mary Jo Lovingier
Ms. Marjorie Manning
Mr. and Mrs. Michael C. Barton
Dr. John Scott
Bruce ChamblinMr. and Mrs. Philip W. SmithMr. Gary Loden
Mrs. Rita Chamblin
Dr. Charles M. Jenness
Mr. and Mrs. John McLarty
Mr. and Mrs. Johnny Franklin
Ms. Shirley L. Peterson TTEE
Ms. Deborah D. OlsonMr. and Mrs. Wilford D. Watson
Mr. and Mrs. Wade Newsom
Ms. Carol Pritchard
Sanford & Tatum Insurance Agency
Dreammaker Bath and Kitchen
Mr. and Mrs. Gerald B. Frank
Mrs. Llona Steele
FirstBank And TrustMr. and Mrs. Christopher S. Sage
Mr. and Mrs. Paul Rivenburg
Ms. Martha Stine
Whit Childers
Mr. and Mrs. Jimmy L. McKenzie
Ms. Tammy Glenn
City BankMs. Marge Nordyke
Rene Chambers
Mr. and Mrs. Robert Mertel
Mr. Harold Rasberry
Mr. and Mrs. Cory Newsom
Mrs. Frances Sowder
First Baptist Church - Wolfforth
Mr. and Mrs. Joe V. SandersAnonymous
Mrs. Judy RostadMrs. Beverly G. Reynolds
Ms. Sheila Schulmeyer
Ms. Lisette Borg
Ms. Bonnie G. Reilly
Mrs. Dorothy D. MooreMs. Paula J. DeForrest
Ms. Sheryl A. Sancibrian
Clenon Cox
Mr. and Mrs. Dalton Oden
Willis Crain
Mr. and Mrs. John M. Penn
Eugnee CrumplerBolinger, Segars, Gilbert & Moss,
LLP CPA
R. Curran
City Bank
J. C. Darnell
Mr. and Mrs. Duane A. Reeves
The Honorable and
Mrs. William R. Shaver
Lubbock Bail Bond
Ms. Wanda ParkerFirst Texas Bank
Mr. and Mrs. John C. Owens, Sr.
Mrs. Carolyn Taylor
Cam Fannin Insurance Agency
Mrs. Ethel McLeod
Mr. Carl PierceMr. and Mrs. William Carlton
Dorothy Davis
Mr. and Mrs. Allen M. Everson
Mr. Lloyd Davis
Ms. Virginia Cain TTEE
Mr. and Mrs. Conrad L. Lohoeffer
Mr. Robert Rigler
Mr. and Mrs. Clark BarnettMs. Mary K. Verhalen
Ms. Dorothy M. Cunningham
Ms. Henrietta Cannon-Stover
Mr. and Mrs. A. I. Chenoweth
Kent Davis
Mr. Tommy Anderson
Mr. and Mrs. Craig Patterson
Ms. Jana GregoryAnonymous
Ms. Brenda Wilson
Mr. and Mrs. Randy Bedwell
Mr. and Mrs. Neal G. Smith
Ms. Brenda Wilson
Ms. Sue S. Castles
Jill DeckmanMs. Dena D. Tilson
Bill Detournillon
Ms. Ruth Earsley
Mr. and Mrs. Harvey Lutrick
Ms. Sharon Dixon
Mr. Roger Carver
Randall Drennan
Ms. Anna C. BorgDorothy Dunbar
Mr. and Mrs. Roy ByrdAnonymous
Mr. and Mrs. Arlan Youngblood
George Fennema
Ms. Susan Fast
Tommie Sue FlemingMr. and Mrs. Billie Elms
Marvin Floyd
Mrs. Charlotte Lynn
Willouise Fortenberry
Mr. and Mrs. Jim Wilson
Pat Foster
Mr. and Mrs. Don GreenBertha Fritz
Mr. and Mrs. Donald R. Jones
Mr. Bob Cope
Ms. Claudia Williams
Fred Jones Farms, Inc.Ms. Kelli Burkes
Jerry Gailey
Mr. and Mrs. Clayton T. Dani
Mr. and Mrs. A. B. Enloe, Jr.
Mrs. Wanda J. Williams
Mr. and Mrs. Mackie Lawren
Texas AgriLife Research Cen
Mr. and Mrs. Harvey GarrisoMr. and Mrs. Dick Liebner
Mr. and Mrs. I.G. Mayfield
Mr. and Mrs. Max ChristopheMr. and Mrs. E. L. Stephenso
Mr. Joe H. Hodges, Sr.
Mr. and Mrs. Arlys Askew
Mr. Tommy O. MiddletonMr. and Mrs. Rex R. Davis
Mr. and Mrs. Gary Meador
Mr. and Mrs. Charles A. Moo
Mr. and Mrs. Joe D. Bryan
Mr. and Mrs. Roger Andersen
Mr. and Mrs. Gerald Ince
Ms. Edna HensonMr. and Mrs. Wanda Mullins
Mr. and Mrs. Howard Garling
Mr. and Mrs. John Maxwell
Mr. and Mrs. Weldon Day
Mr. and Mrs. Bob Etheredge
Mr. and Mrs. Ray Bertrand
Mr. and Mrs. John Camp, III
Creative Critters TaxidermyMs. S. Katy Hilliard
Mr. and Mrs. Randy Hooks
Clifton Gardner
Ms. Linda C. Huffaker
Mary L. Goodnight
Ms. Mary G. Maw
Ms. Mary LutrickMs. Fern Gordon
Mr. and Mrs. Roger McMillan
Betty Tom Graham
Ms. Katie G. Ross
Otice A. Green
Mrs. Frances Sowder
Mr. and Mrs. Choc R. HutcheJosephine Gronda
Mr. Steven Johnson
Ms. Earlene Guess
Ms. Melanie Burkholder
Jessie Gujardo
Head-Duarte Funeral Home
Alvera (Birdie) Hagedorn
Mrs. Lewis J. ChaseMr. and Mrs. Don R. Parks
Diane Elizabeth Hall
Mr. and Mrs. Michael O. Ker
Bob Handren
Mrs. Frances Sowder
Memorials and Honoraria
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Margie Hawkins
Mrs. Frances Sowder
Charles Heathman
Ms. Reta B. Moore
E.H. HillgerMs. Sharon Parr TTE
Fred Holder
Ms. Emilia Mendenhall
Reba Hollinsworth
Ms. Tanya Stocking
Mr. and Mrs. Preston Glazner
Garland HuguleyMs. Renea Livesay
Jane HumphriesMs. Kathy Kendrick
Mr. and Mrs. Bill Felty
Mrs. Tracy D. Gage
Mr. and Mrs. George Gilkerson
Mr. and Mrs. Van MayLevia Ingram
Freedom Post Office
Lewis James
Mrs. Claudene Merriman
Hildegard Jeppson
Mrs. Mary Lou Turner
Evelyn Jeter
Mr. and Mrs. Roland A. BrawnerMs. Bobbie Jeter
Jim Johnson
Ms. Sue HabererMr. and Mrs. Harry Millican
Doris Gayle Jones
Mr. and Mrs. Berhl L. Robertson
Mr. and Mrs. Dennis LilesMr. and Mrs. Arthur W. Hedges
Mr. and Mrs. Donald Caddell
Mr. and Mrs. Donald Garth
Mr. and Mrs. Jimmy D. Carter
Mr. and Mrs. Marion Hagler
Ms. Dorothy Liles
Ms. Leola Sprayberry
Mr. and Mrs. Edwin DawsonMs. Marcelete Oestermyer
Wayne Jordan
Ms. Sue Moore
Arlene B. Kerr
Ms. Amy DrennanMrs. Eunice Pace
Pat ChapmanMr. and Mrs. W. Paul Faulkner, Jr.
Ms. Mary Lutrick
Mr. and Mrs. Eddie M. Hodges
Mr. and Mrs. John Krister
Mr. and Mrs. William K. Lane
Mr. and Mrs. Crispin Green
Ms. Jean GoddardMr. and Mrs. Jerry Fuller
Ms. Pat Hale
Mr. and Mrs. Phillip Marcy
Mr. and Mrs. Tim Kerr
Mr. and Mrs. Harvey Lutrick
Mrs. Cheryl Thompson
Rebecca (Becky) M. Kidd
Mr. Brad Allen
Ms. Laurie Hubbard
Pratas, Smith & Moore
Mr. Chris Sterner
Ms. Lyn JacksonMrs. Peggy T. Spaugh
Ms. Carolyn S. Johnson
Pat Kidwell
Mr. and Mrs. Clark Barnett
Ms. Henrietta Cannon-Stover
Chris KitchensMr. and Mrs. Stephen D. EasterlyMr. and Mrs. Jerry Martin
Lillian Kountz
The Honorable and Mrs. William R.
Shaver
Grace House
Dr. M. M. Ayoub
Mr. and Mrs. Waylon R. CarrollMr. and Mrs. James Walker
Mr. and Mrs. E. E. Rankin
Mr. and Mrs. Charles T. Louder
Fidelis Sunday School Class
Mrs. Covie Williams
Ms. Jackie Wilson
Juanita Kring
Dr. and Mrs. Robert JohnsonDoris Lang
Ms. Ruth Richburg
Robert Lewis
Ms. and Mr. Frances M. Privett
Mr. Rosetta Blackmore
Mr. Harry Hutcheson
Martha M. LoganCarmyn H. Morrow
William (Bill) H. Logan
Mr. and Mrs. Frank Kilcrease
Cindy Lucas
Mr. and Mrs. Charles Sheakley
John Lynn
Mr. and Mrs. John Lynn
Mary MassoniMrs. Johnnie M. Leslie
Elaine MayMrs. Frances Sowder
William H. Mayer-Oakes
Ms. Alice W. Portnoy
Mr. and Mrs. Jimmy Maynard
Ms. Margaret M. McPhersonFreddy D. McLean
Mr. and Mrs. Donald Caldwell
Lois McWherter
Mrs. H. L. King
Butch Medlock
Weiss and Associates, Inc.
Ms. Kay Jones
Mrs. Ethel McLeod
Ms. Jill Watkins
Rushing Family Foundation
Ms. Cynthia Reed
RJD Management Co, Inc.
Joe Mims
Mr. and Mrs. Jerry B. Harrison
Sandra MontgomeryMs. Peggy Lee Reckner
Dale Moore
Mr. and Mrs. Robert L. Parks
Wanda Moore
Mr. and Mrs. Donald Moore
Homer MorrowMr. and Mrs. James Truelock
Neven Mote
Mr. and Mrs. Bryce J. McGregor
Eddy Mudd
Mr. and Mrs. Jim Welch
Hearing Technologies, Inc.
Wolfforth First United Methodist
ChurchEmily Ruth Mukley
Ms. Linda C. Huffaker
Bledsoe OBrien
Ms. Henrietta Cannon-Stover
Charles Owens
Ms. Peggy Bruton
Glenn Peters
AnonymousEula Pierce
Mr. and Mrs. Harve Shavor
Mr. and Mrs. James Acker
Mr. and Mrs. Donald R. Jones
Mr. and Mrs. Joe Schoenig
PlainsCapital Bank
Beatrice PsencikMrs. Frances Sowder
Carl W. Rambo
Mrs. Suzann Brown
Sarah Reed
Mrs. Sheila Butterfield
Mr. Clark Nisbett
Don Sager
Mr. and Mrs. Joe FarrisG. Lynn Shurbet
Mr. and Mrs. Emerson E. TuckerJimmy Skipworth
Mr. and Mrs. Ronald F. Hunt
Mr. Richard Snyder
Central Compress
Mrs. Nelda A. RollinsMs. Jane Alexander
Larry Skylstad
Mr. and Mrs. Kirby J. Hurley
Irene Smith
Ms. Meg Gann
Otha (Pete) Smith
Mr. and Mrs. Roger McMillan
MoDean Sorensen
Mr. and Mrs. George Zweig
Ms. Gayle Settle
Mr. and Mrs. Lewis Eggenberger
Ms. Dena D. TilsonMrs. Tess Williams
Mr. and Mrs. Randy Laycock
Taylor Elementary School
Wanda M. C. Sorensen
Mustang Social Fund
Norma Starnes
Mrs. Joyce Hicks
Doris Stephens
Mr. and Mrs. Charles T. CooperElouise Sukenis
Mr. and Mrs. Randy Via
Ms. Emily Willingham
Ms. Jonnie Bartlett
Ms. Mary Beth Jenkins
Ms. Jerri SukenisRobert Taylor
Mrs. Wanda Taylor
Colorado Springs Internal Medicine
Cleta Thomas
Mr. and Mrs. Randy B. Peeples
Lucille Thomas
Mr. Blaine E. Thomas USAF/Ret. LT.
Col.Hank Thomson
Southwest Business SystemsThe First National Bank of Amherst
Mr. and Mrs. Neal Morgan
Sandefur & Swindle
Mr. and Mrs. Sam Bruce
Caprock Business Forms, Inc.Ernest B. Todd, Jr.
Mr. and Mrs. Clarence W. Hobgood
Billy Tomlison
Ms. Linda C. Huffaker
Wesley R. Tunnell
Ms. Barbara Hannah
Ms. Faye N. KennedyOman Turner
Mr. and Mrs. Richard Ginsburg
Ronald Tyson
Ms. Tonya Jackson
Pinky WaltonRogers, Morris, and Ziegler
Mr. Phillip Semenick
Seymour WaltonMr. and Mrs. J. N. Cotton
Mr. Fred P. Sackbauer, Jr.
Elva Watterson
Mr. and Mrs. Leslie Watterson
Mr. Bill Derrick
Freddie Whillock
PlainsCapital BankMr. and Mrs. Harold Wright
Mrs. Carol Kitten
Mr. and Mrs. Willard Adair
Mr. and Mrs. Johnnie R. Sto
Theodocia Farms
Harden Farms
Mr. and Mrs. Jack Darnell
Wayne Wilbourn
Mr. and Mrs. Randy Bennett
Mr. and Mrs. Clarence E.Henniger
Ms. Linda M. Shipp
Mrs. Barbara Payton
Loretta Williams
Mr. and Mrs. Willard Adair
Mr. and Mrs. Bobby L. Fulle
Raymond M. WoodMrs. Mary J. Lovingier
Loveta Woods
Ms. Loveta Woods
Anneitta Wright
Mr. and Mrs. Clarence W.
Hobgood
Lois Wynn
Mr. and Mrs. James L. PorteThe Real Estate Company
Mr. and Mrs. John Ledbetter
PlainsCapital Bank
Lubbock Remax
Mr. Alan Nelson
Mr. Phillip Gibson
Ms. Barbara A. FrankhouseMr. and Mrs. Greg Parr
Glenda Yerby
First Baptist Of New Deal
HONORARIA
Elizabeth Abraham
Mr. and Mrs. Bill Caldwell
Evelyn Cash
Mr. and Mrs. Eric McKnight
Mr. L. Willis
L. N. Willis
Ms. Kaye AdamsMs. Patricia L. Freier
Ms. Nancy M. Edwards
Mr. Lloyd A. Hendrix
Mr. and Mrs. Tommy E. Patt
First United Methodist ChurBruce Cotton
Mr. and Mrs. Ben B. TrotterElizabeth Hudson
Mr. Frank Hudson
Bonnie Hunt
Ms. Sue T. Phares
Victoria Thornley
Ms. Maxine C. Sigman
Charley J. Wasson
Mr. and Mrs. Charles T. Lou
We gratefully acknowledge the following
contributions from January 1, 2010 to April 30, 2010
Every effort has been made to correctly list all contributions to Hospice of Lubbock.
If you note a mistake or omission, please accept our apologies and inform our ofce
of any corrections or changes by calling 806.725.6089.
Memorials and Honoraria
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22 HOSPICE OF LUBBOCK Spring/Summer 2010
Belle Sandner, long-time Hospice of Lubbock volunteer,
died May 6, 2010. Those of us at Hospice knew her as a loving,
condent, resilient woman whose ability to catch you off guard
with her sense of humor was unmatched! She worked as a direct
patient volunteer and also helped in the Thrift Shoppe. Belle
loved to play Bunko with the other volunteers and always had
a special homemade dish to share. We will miss her quick wit,
mischievous smile, and caring heart.
Evelyn Cash, long-time Hospice of Lubbock board member
is remembered on pages 6-7.
Hospice of Lubbock is seeking volunteers for our Memory Bears program. Volun-
teers create a special bear for a family member of a Hospice patient by using a special
article of clothing, such as a shirt, robe, quilt, blanket, etc. Once the Memory Bear
is completed, Hospice of Lubbock staff will give the special keepsake to the family.
Each volunteer will be given a bear pattern to use.
For more information, call Cheryl Keefer,
Volunteer Coordinator at 806-784-4822
Memory BearsProvide Comfort
Belle Sandner and Evelyn Cash
Do you like to sew?
Do you like to do things for other people?
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Spring/Summer 2010 23HOSPICE OF LUBBOCK
By Charley Wasson
in the face of his disease. Im going to order that WWII helmet
in case I should fall, I wont hurt my head, Daniel said one day.
Daniel taught us that we should remember to tell those we love
how much we care for them. He had conversations with all of
his family and assured them he would still be present, even after
he had passed away.
There was a peace that resided in Daniels soul that radiated
out to all of us who knew him. Psalms 46.10 says Be still and
know that I am God. Daniel fully understood that he was of
God and God was with him as he approached death. While I do
not fully understand the reasons for Daniels cancer and sub-
sequent journey, I do know that God used Daniel to enrich the
lives of those around him.Grace is a virtue that is not easily attained. Few of us truly
understand and display the beauty of grace. Grace is the knowl-
edge of self, displayed in the softest, most subtle manner during
the greatest times of stress and strain. Daniel was the denition
of grace, especially in his nal months of life.
Just days before he died, Daniel saw Clash of the Titans
with 14 family members and friends. It is appropriate as it tells
the story of a special young man who must go on a journey to
improve himself and save others. Daniels six-year journey led
him through struggles and successes, and while he is no longer
physically here, he left a signicant legend that will be told and
retold for many years to come.Today, I know that the words of II Timothy 4:7-8 truly
speak of my friend Daniel, I have fought the good ght, I have
nished the race, I have kept the faith. Finally, there is laid up
for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous
Judge, will give to me on that Day, and not to me only but also
to all who have loved his appearing.
God had a role for Daniel to teach us about grace, love
and of being true to oneself. There is little doubt that God
received His faithful servant and commended him on a battle
well fought, a life well lived and said, Welcome, My good and
faithful servant.
It was a cold day in January when I rst meet Daniel, a
15-year-old cancer patient, who had been admitted to hospice. I
had brought Daniel a University of Texas T-shirt from my most
recent trip to Austin even though I am a dedicated Red Raider.
His nurse had encouraged me to stop by and see Daniel myself.
During that rst visit Daniel began to tell me about his week
at the hospital. It was not a typical visit to the hospital. Daniel,
the most focused and determined young man I think I have ever
met, had developed a rather long list of things to do before he
died. It was during this hospital visit that Daniel had accom-
plished several key parts of his list.
Charley, it was so cool. I got to drive both a Ferrari and
a Maserati. Can you believe it? I think you need to have that
doctors head checked Im not seeing so well out of this eye
Daniel said as he smiled and pointed to his right eye. Dr. Althos
Colon had heard that Daniel wanted to at least ride in an exotic
car and had picked Daniel up and let him drive the cars, creating
a memory of a lifetime.
Our conversation turned more serious. Daniel had always
wanted to hold a baby something that he was scared to do,
but nevertheless wanted to do. Covenant Childrens Hospital
was caring for a child that was a ward of the state, having been
severely and permanently injured by an adult. The baby boy
arrived to Daniels room crying. Daniel told me how he held
the baby in his arms and how the baby fell into a deep, peaceful
sleep. Charley, if I ever questioned that there was a God, I knew
He was real at the moment. Daniel would tell the baby, Ill
be your brother as long as I am here, then Ill be your guardian
angel.
The next three months would be a life-altering time for those
of us who knew Daniel. Daniel would remind us to laugh, even
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1102 Slide Rd., Suite 3
P.O. Box 16800
Lubbock, Texas 79490-6800
Phone 806.795.2751
Phone 800.658.2648
24 hours / 7 days
www.hospiceoflubbock.org
Non Profit Org
U.S. Postage
PAID
Lubbock, TX
Permit No. 80
Saturday, July 24, 2010
8:30 am - 3:30 pm
Hospice of Lubbocks annual day-long grief camp is for children, ages 5-17,
who have experienced the death of a family member or friend
within the last two years. There is no charge for the camp and lunch
is provided, but you must call to register by July 2nd!
To register or for more information, please contact:
Susan Nemec at Hospice of Lubbock 806-795-2751