11 15 col 3 18-14-1 relationship is key

CLASSROOM AVENGER PROFILE by FBI

• To try to identify potential shooters

• 2 shooters & 17 before that

Three Basic Ingredient to the Profile

All White…

Middle Class…

Father is either absent, distant or non-involved in the parenting process

Study – How family structure impact a child’s environment to drugs, alcohol, violence etcResult: Child raised in a single parent

home where the mother is the head are

Children raised in a two parent family, but with a fair to poor relationship with the father

Children raised in a two parent family, but have a good to excellent relationship with the father

Chances of using Drugs, Alcohol or be

Violent:

30% more

68% more

6% less

THE EPISTLE OF PAUL TO THE COLOSSIANS


And we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the Lord

and may please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work,

growing in the knowledge of God.…

General Outline of Colossians

I. Chp 1 : DOCTRINEChrist's Supremacy & Sufficiency DECLARED

II. Chp 2 : DANGERChrist's Supremacy & Sufficiency DEFENDED

III. Chps 3-4 : DUTYChrist's Supremacy & Sufficiency DISPLAYED

Sermon 9Properly ATTIRED for ETERNITY Col 3:12-17

We Are …Chosen …Holy (Set Apart) …Loved …

THEREFORE‘Put On’ the CHARACTER OF CHRIST

the PEACE OF CHRISTthe WORD OF CHRISTthe NAME OF CHRIST

and BE THANKFUL, BE GRATEFUL ….

Sermon 10

Col 3:18-4:1 Relationship is Key

3:18-19 : MARITAL RELATIONSHIP

3:20-21 : PARENTAL RELATIONSHIP

3:22-4:1 : SLAVES-MASTER RELATIONSHIP

(Employee-Employer Relationship)

ContextAt that time… Place of WOMEN IN SOCIETY : strongly patriarchal …under man’s authority : father, husband…

whom she called "lord." Expectation: to bear children, take care of the

family & run the household …(*exceptions)a ‘thing’… can even be sold as a slave (Ex 21:7) Jewish man’s prayer : “Blessed are you O God,

who has not made me a Gentile, a slave, and a woman.

ContextAt that time… Place of CHILDREN IN THE FAMILY:Under the authority of parents esp the fatherAt birth : ‘thumbs up or down’…Total obedience commanded & expected …Children can be sold, sacrificed etc …Jewish laws … stoning for …dishonoring parents (Deut 27:16)disobeying parents (Deut 21:18-21)cursing parents (Exo 21:17)

‘children’ : Gk ‘tekna’ includes youths, teenagers…

At that time… SLAVES IN THE COMMUNITY:50% of popn. – ? 60 million…‘conquered’ people….educated, intelligent & capable …

considered a ‘possession’ with no rights…could be killed, sold, discarded …

very, very low social position ….the Christian Faith found a ready audienceearly Church ‘majority slaves’ …Colossae Church ?? mainly slaves …

Eg Onesimus & Philemon…

Context

Col 3:18-19 Relationship is Key3:18-19 Marital Relationshipv18 Wives, submit to your husbands,

as is fitting in the Lord.

Eph 5:22-24, 33 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord… as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything … the wife must respect her husband.

1 Peter 3:1 Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands…

Col 3:18-19 Relationship is Key18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

Wife - SUBMIT to Your HUSBAND…. 3 times … Submit ≠ Obey …

≠ Inferiority … Submit: Gk military term – ‘to arrange one’s self

under a delegated authority.’ Needed for proper order & function…

Q: Any issue with applying Eph 5:21 ?‘Submit to one another’ out of reverence for Christ….

18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Conditional… “as is fitting in the Lord” “as is fitting for those who belong to the Lord.”

Submit only in what the Lord will approve…not a ‘blank cheque’ for abuse…

Submission is from the Lordto the Lordin the Lord

Q: How is your relationship with your husband?Q: Are you happy in your marriage ?* IF your marital relationship is good & you are

happy – SUBMISSION is not an issue

Col 3:18-19 Relationship is Key

Col 3:18-19 Relationship is Keyv19 Husbands, love your wives …Eph 5:25-33

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the

church and gave himself up for her to make her

holy, cleansing her by the washing with water

through the word, and to present her to himself

as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or

any other blemish, but holy and blameless.

In this same way, husbands ought to love their

wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife

loves himself….

Col 3:18-19 Relationship is Keyv19 Husbands, love your wives …

1 Peter 3:7

Husbands, in the same way

be considerate as you live with your wives, and

treat them with respect as the weaker partner

and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life,

so that nothing will hinder your prayers.


v19 Husbands, love your wives …Husband : Gk ‘one who holds the house together.’ Called not only to LOVE but also to … exemplary, sacrificial, preparatory, teacher, thoughtful, respectful, joyful, fruitful …a

v19 Husbands, love your wives and …do not be harsh with them…do not be embittered against them…

o Harsh : make bitter, irritate, affliction, misery…

o Hebrew culture - anything poisonous eg plant or water was called ‘bitter’ eg Exo 15, Num 5 …

Ref Heb 12:15 “… that no ‘root of bitterness’ springs up and causes trouble, …

Love our wife …

AND also ….

Must treat with gentleness and respect …


Col 3:18-19 Relationship is Key19 Husbands,

love your wives and do not be harsh with them…

• Love exemplary, sacrificial, preparatory, teacher, thoughtful, respectful, joyful, fruitful …

• No ‘bitter root’…

18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

• Submit … Allow him to

lead …• As is fitting in

the Lord …

PLU

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Col 3:20-21 Relationship is Keyv20 Children, obey your parents in everything,

for this pleases the Lord. WHO : Children - Gk ‘tekna’ - include youths as wellWHAT : Obey parents…WHEN : ‘in everything’… WHY : ‘pleases the Lord’…

Eph 6:3 "that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.”

WHAT IF – Disobey / Rebel ….treat same as witchcraft, idolatry ….


v21 Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.

Father : Gk ‘pater’ – 413 x in the NT incld God

Include ‘Parents’…

Ref Heb 11:23 By faith Moses' parents (Gkpater) hid him for three months after he was born, because they saw he was no ordinary child, and they were not afraid of the king's edict.

Do not allow bitterness to take root…

Col 3:20-21 Relationship is Keyv21 Fathers, do not embitter your children,

or they will become discouraged. 4 ways any parent can DISCOURAGE a child:

1. Ignore them : insecurity & resentment...2. Indulge them : spoilt, demanding, prideful…3. Insult them : low self-image or a bully…4. Intimidate them: low self-esteem, timid …

BUT instead to Encourage them …Q: How ?

– will share at the end

"I know that my father loved me-

but he did not seem to wish me to see it."

Luther's father was so stern that all his days he found it difficult to pray:

"Our Father."


22 Slaves, obey your earthly masters in everything; and do it, not only when their eye is on you and to win their favor, but with sincerity of heart and reverence for the Lord.

23 Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men,

24 since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.

25 Anyone who does wrong will be repaid for his wrong, and there is no favoritism.

4:1 Masters, provide your slaves with what is right and fair, because you know that you also have a Master in heaven.


Col 3:22-4:1 Relationship betwn Slaves & Masters• no slaves today !! ….

? modern day slavery…• Our Work Environment :

EMPLOYEE – EMPLOYER RELATIONSHIP … Employee to work … Submissively … good & diligent Sincerely … best input & effort Spiritually … accountable ultimately to God

Employers to be … Right … no exploitation … Fair … just in demands, pay & benefits Also Accountable ultimately to God

Q: What is the P&C Ratio ?

Praise to Criticism Ratio -

1:1 2:1 3:1 4:1 5:1 6:1 7:1 8:1 9:1 10:1 11:1

‘Team Languishes’Relationships Breakdown

Creativity dies, Productivity

falls

‘Team Flourishes’Relationships Enhanced,

Creativity Thrives,Productivity Rises

The ‘LOSADA ZONE’

‘LO

SAD

A line’

2.9013:1

Marcial Losada

The Losada Line

The 7 A’s Building Relationships That Transform

(How To Encourage Your Child)

1. AFFIRMATION : Sense of Authenticity

2. ACCEPTANCE : Sense of Security

3. APPRECIATION : Sense of Significance

4. AVAILABILITY : Sense of importance

5. AFFECTION : Sense of lovability

6. APPROACH their world : Sense that you are

interested in what they care about

7. ACCOUNTABILITY : Sense of Responsibility

BEHAVIOUR

VALUES

BELIEFS

RELATIONSHIPS


RULES without RELATIONSHIPS leads to REBELLION

TRUTH without RELATIONSHIPS leads to REJECTION

DISCIPLINE without RELATIONSHIPS leads to ANGER, BITTERNESS &

RESENTMENT

KIDS @ HIGH-RISK10 years longitudinal study on youths at

high risk …Studied those who DID NOT get involved…• Result : 80% did not get involved because

there was ONE PERSON who took a personal interest in their life….40% said it was a TEACHER….


And we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the Lord

and may please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work,

growing in the knowledge of God.…

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