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Explain the principles of relationship building with
children, young people and adults
The basic idea behind the principles of relationship building is that wherever we
communicate with others, if we are all at ease with one another, our communication
in both directions will be more effective. 'More effective' when discussing
communication, means that information is more easily transferred from person to
person, more easily understood, and more easily responded to.
In situations where misunderstandings take place, or we somehow make people feel
uncomfortable in some way, for example, if we are overly bossy or abrupt to them, or
very withdrawn, people tend to avoid communicating directly. This can clearly
exacerbate bad situations.
Positive relationships are the result of a series of techniques and ways of thinking
that can be built upon by all the parties involved, and as classroom support, you
have a lead role to play in this.
Relationship building.
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Make key points clearly Understanding is the key aim of most communication, but in some specific
circumstances it becomes even more important. At any time where you are delivering
instructions, or communicating something that must be remembered, a good
technique is to get your listeners to repeat back to you the key points you have made.
This helps them remember it better, but it also helps to ensure that you can see
whether or not they understand. This way, if you see they don't understand, or if the
point has been missed, you can say it in a different way that enables their
understanding (and ask them to repeat it back to you again, to be sure).
Be considerate to others
It is so important to remember that not everyone has a 'good day' everyday. Some
people and children may have situations going on outside of school that cause them
stress in some way. Sometimes people feel grumpy and don't really want to
communicate with others.
Being considerate for the way that they feel, trying to understand why they behave in
a particular way – especially if it is out of character for them – and otherwise giving
them the space to feel what they feel, are all part of communicating effectively. The
act of consideration gives them space, not just you, and allows them to consider their
own actions and responses as well as yours.
Listen to others
Part of showing respect and courtesy for others is found in listening to them properly.
Sometimes a child may want to confide in a trustworthy adult; sometimes what they
want to say may not seem very important. However, by always showing an interest in
whatever they say, by demonstrating positive and attentive body language, and by
responding appropriately, you effectively model the type of behaviour that promotes
courtesy and respect. Remember things that are important to them Positive relationships are easier to build with someone if that person can see that you
have remembered certain things about them. Just something as simple as
remembering a child's birthday can have a big impact on the way they interact with
you. The same goes for your interactions with colleagues and other professionals.
All people appreciate being remembered, and they tend to be sensitive to the
difference between being physically remembered (as in recognised) and being
properly remembered (as in aspects of their lives being remembered).
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Show respect for others
Even if someone's point of view is incompatible with yours, showing that person
respect by giving them time to say what they need to convey, and by answering them
in a way that doesn't belittle or squash their opinion or thoughts, is an important aspect
of modelling respect for others.
The world is full of people from different cultures, different ways of thinking, and
different attitudes and values; understanding that people have a right to think what
they like and believe what they want is all part of promoting positive relationships.
Maintain a sense of humor
There is no situation that cannot be made worse by a grumpy, negative attitude.
School can be a challenging place, and ridiculous situations can put a lot of stress on
people, particularly those in a position of responsibility. However, it is acceptable to
see the funny side (in most circumstances).
Although humour has to be appropriate in both content and timing, causing laughter
can be a real relaxation for you and others in the situation, and can relieve the
stresses that might otherwise take over.
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