The message the Church

tends to send…

The message the Church

tends to send…

The problem with

“just don’t do it”

The problem with

“just don’t do it”1.Emphasizes

legalism

The problem with

“just don’t do it”1.Emphasizes

legalism2. Ignores

wisdom

The problem with

“just don’t do it”

The problem with

“just don’t do it”1.Emphasizes

legalism2. Ignores

wisdom3. De-emphasizes

relationship

Changing the

conversation

Start early!!

1. Get your senior pastor on board

Start early!!

1. Get your senior pastor on board

2. Over communicate to

parents

Start early!!

Get Comfort

able

1. Use a humorous video clip

Get Comfort

able

1. Use a humorous video clip

2. Have students do a skit

Get Comfort

able

1. Use a humorous video clip

2. Have students do a skit

3. Have them all yell “Sex is

great!”

Get Comfort

able

1. Use a humorous video clip

2. Have students do a skit

3. Have them all yell “Sex is

great!”4. What else have

you done?

Get Comfort

able

Teach them to

think

Teach them to

thinkFour conversations:

Teach them to

thinkFour conversations:1.Have you talked with

God? (Genesis 2:18-24)

Teach them to

thinkFour conversations:1.Have you talked with

God? (Genesis 2:18-24)

2. Have you talked with Yourself? (Genesis 2:24)

Teach them to

thinkFour conversations:1.Have you talked with

God? (Genesis 2:18-24)

2. Have you talked with Yourself? (Genesis 2:24)

3.Have you talked to others? (see Proverbs)

Teach them to

thinkFour conversations:1.Have you talked with

God? (Genesis 2:18-24)

2. Have you talked with Yourself? (Genesis 2:24)

3.Have you talked to others? (see Proverbs)

4.Have you talked to him/her? (2 Cor. 6:14-18)

Put things in Context

Put things in Context

Put things in Context

Put things in Context

Acquaintances

Put things in Context

Friendship

Put things in Context

Put things in Context

Put things in Context

dating

Put things in Context

Serious Dating

Put things in Context

Engagement

Put things in Context

Marriage

“There is no such thing as ‘premarital’

intercourse in the Bible.

Intercourse…constitutes the sexual union that we call marriage.”

- The Blue Parakeet pg 118

Put things in Context

Put things in Context

82% of female high school seniors and 70% of

males say that “having a good marriage and family

life” is “extremely important” to them.(Rutgers, 2007)

Put things in Context

Students Want to get married someday…

They watch

adults

Put things in Context

…and they “learn” about marriage every

day!

They watch

adults Celebrities

Put things in Context

…and they “learn” about marriage every

day!

They watch

adults Celebrities Entertainment

Put things in Context

…and they “learn” about marriage every

day!

Make it personal

1. When you are vulnerable,

your students will follow suit

Make it personal

1. When you are vulnerable,

your students will follow suit

2. When you share your messes,

it makes it real & teaches wisdom