Review by Ruth Anderson Western Culture Review: Dating, Marriage and Families 1.
Talking to students about dating, sex...and marriage
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The message the Church
tends to send…
The message the Church
tends to send…
The problem with
“just don’t do it”
The problem with
“just don’t do it”1.Emphasizes
legalism
The problem with
“just don’t do it”1.Emphasizes
legalism2. Ignores
wisdom
The problem with
“just don’t do it”
The problem with
“just don’t do it”1.Emphasizes
legalism2. Ignores
wisdom3. De-emphasizes
relationship
Changing the
conversation
Start early!!
1. Get your senior pastor on board
Start early!!
1. Get your senior pastor on board
2. Over communicate to
parents
Start early!!
Get Comfort
able
1. Use a humorous video clip
Get Comfort
able
1. Use a humorous video clip
2. Have students do a skit
Get Comfort
able
1. Use a humorous video clip
2. Have students do a skit
3. Have them all yell “Sex is
great!”
Get Comfort
able
1. Use a humorous video clip
2. Have students do a skit
3. Have them all yell “Sex is
great!”4. What else have
you done?
Get Comfort
able
Teach them to
think
Teach them to
thinkFour conversations:
Teach them to
thinkFour conversations:1.Have you talked with
God? (Genesis 2:18-24)
Teach them to
thinkFour conversations:1.Have you talked with
God? (Genesis 2:18-24)
2. Have you talked with Yourself? (Genesis 2:24)
Teach them to
thinkFour conversations:1.Have you talked with
God? (Genesis 2:18-24)
2. Have you talked with Yourself? (Genesis 2:24)
3.Have you talked to others? (see Proverbs)
Teach them to
thinkFour conversations:1.Have you talked with
God? (Genesis 2:18-24)
2. Have you talked with Yourself? (Genesis 2:24)
3.Have you talked to others? (see Proverbs)
4.Have you talked to him/her? (2 Cor. 6:14-18)
Put things in Context
Put things in Context
Put things in Context
Put things in Context
Acquaintances
Put things in Context
Friendship
Put things in Context
Put things in Context
Put things in Context
dating
Put things in Context
Serious Dating
Put things in Context
Engagement
Put things in Context
Marriage
“There is no such thing as ‘premarital’
intercourse in the Bible.
Intercourse…constitutes the sexual union that we call marriage.”
- The Blue Parakeet pg 118
Put things in Context
Put things in Context
82% of female high school seniors and 70% of
males say that “having a good marriage and family
life” is “extremely important” to them.(Rutgers, 2007)
Put things in Context
Students Want to get married someday…
They watch
adults
Put things in Context
…and they “learn” about marriage every
day!
They watch
adults Celebrities
Put things in Context
…and they “learn” about marriage every
day!
They watch
adults Celebrities Entertainment
Put things in Context
…and they “learn” about marriage every
day!
Make it personal
1. When you are vulnerable,
your students will follow suit
Make it personal
1. When you are vulnerable,
your students will follow suit
2. When you share your messes,
it makes it real & teaches wisdom
