Thematic Table Topic:“Perceptive

Communication”

April 21, 2010Topic Master:

VP of EducationKim, Sung-Jin

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Topic: Communicating Mindfully

“Reflective Listening Skill”• Mindfulness:

1) Being fully present in the moment2) Seeing things as they are without trying to

change them

• Reflective Listening:“A skill that involves listening intently for an individual’s feelings and values, as well as the issue(s) to be resolved”

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The Purpose of Today’s Topic

Develop ways of pulling yourself into the present

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Key Factor: Identification of feeling, values and issues

• It sounds like you’re really concerned about your girl friend and her safety is important to you. Is this right?

• It sounds like you’re annoyed that your neighbor wants you to keep it down while you’re having a ball at night, and you appreciate it your personal choice. Did I get that?

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Combination of Key Factor to Mindfulness

• How-To

“Emotional Intelligence”

{ self-awareness, resilience, empathy }

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Examples of Positive Feeling

Accepted; appreciated; apprehensive

balanced;connected cared for;supported comfortable confident; proud delighted; happy deserving;respected eager, anxious

• Negative

encouraged; elated; enthused;exhilarated

focused grateful; gratified hopeful relieved responsible; secure sympathetic

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Examples of Negative Feeling abandoned;alienate;alo

ne accused;attacked;

blamed afraid;fearful;

frightened; terrified annoyed;agitated;aggr

avated;angry;bitter;infuriated ambivalent;uncertain

anxious; concerned confused cheated;betrayed empty

ashamed awkward beaten;defeated bewildered bored burned out;drained compromised crushed;devastated desperate disappointed;disgust

ed overwhelemed

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Example of Values

acceptance accomplishment;succ

ess accuracy acknowledgement appreciation belonging cleanliness;neatness consistency commitment

cooperation;teamwork

spontaneity

creativity dependability independence discipline;self-

control diversity;flexibility fairness family;friendship integrity personal choice privacy safetySU TOAST, Syracuse University Students Chapter of Toastmasters International

Reference

• Reflective Listening Skill SIRU Conflict Resolution Workshop hosted

by Robbi: www.communicating-mindfully.com

• Mindfulness & Emotional Intelligence Dan Huston’s materials Daniel Goleman, “Emotional Intelligence”

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