Post on 26-Jun-2020
HOW TO GET OVER THE HURT
Thank you for purchasing this eBook. It is going to
help you get over the hurt and become happy again.
So let's get started. Every time you think of your ex
so many emotions come up. They are hurt, pain,
tears, blame, anger, sadness, confusion and more.
The ultimate goal is to get you to the point where if
the thought of your ex comes to your mind, you
won't feel these emotions anymore.
To start, let's first understand that the reason you
keep going through all these types of emotions is
because you KEEP THINKING ABOUT THAT PERSON.
Understand this important fact and that is if you are
NOT THINKING about that person, you WON'T feel
the emotions. Let me give you an example. If you
are watching a really good TV show for 30 minutes,
guess what, because you are TOTALLY into the TV
show, during those 30 minutes you are NOT
THINKING about your breakup. Now when the show is
off and you're doing nothing but sitting around, the
thoughts come into your mind. I am going to show
you what has to be done to get through these
moments to a point where it doesn't get you down
and upset anymore. Below are different things you
can do to get rid of this pain. You MUST do these.
If not, then you've just purchased something to read.
Let’s now start to begin reading this information.
(THINK ABOUT SOMETHING ELSE)
When the thought of that person comes to your
mind, ((IMMEDIATELY)) think about something else.
What happens that makes it hard getting over
someone is that they keep coming into your mind.
Think about it, if they NEVER popped up in your
mind, you would NEVER have to think about them
and you would heal much quicker. But let's go back
to thinking about something else when they come
into your mind. Even though you can't control
someone popping up in your mind, what you CAN
control is what you do AFTER they come into your
mind. You see if you let them STAY in your mind for
even 5 seconds, that is 5 seconds too long because
ALL KINDS of things about them will come and then
your emotions will get involved and before you
realize it, you are THINKING MORE AND MORE about
them and now your pain INCREASES and it's only
getting worse.
To make this work, you CAN'T wait for it to happen
for you to then think about something else. This
would DEFEAT the purpose and it won't work. You
have to PREPARE NOW what you're going to think
about. This is how you prepare. Right now, WRITE
DOWN 3 to 5 things you can think of that would put
you in a TOTALLY DIFFERENT frame of mind from
thinking about your ex. These 3 to 5 things should
also be something that will put and keep a smile on
your face, which will keep your mind occupied and
as long as your mind is OCCUPIED with something
else, you WON'T be thinking about your ex.
Remember, NOT thinking about your ex is the
WHOLE PURPOSE for doing this.
(LEARN TO STOP LOVING THEM)
Another reason you can't seem to get over your ex
is because you still feel you love them. Think about
something. You are no longer in the relationship for
whatever reason, but for it be over, something didn't
go right. Normally it is the other person that did the
wrong thing and that is why you are no longer in it.
Now it's time to re-evaluate this LOVE thing you say
you still have for them. Is it REAL love you have for
them or is it the THOUGHT of love and how the
relationship SHOULD have been? Sometimes people
love the IDEA of love. The way you really know
whether you truly love them is by how THEY
TREATED YOU and by what they have DONE for you,
(Not By How You FEEL When You Are Around Them).
Remember (Feelings and Actions) are 2 totally
different things.
LOVE between 2 people are when you BOTH are
DOING THEIR BEST to make each other happy. When
you love someone, you TREAT THEM RIGHT. Now let
me ask you a question. If your ex was ALWAYS using
profanity at you and putting you down, how can you
love someone who DOES NOT care about your
feelings and even care about how their words are
tearing you up inside. If they are CONSTANTLY
physically beating up on you giving you bruises and
cuts and broken bones, how can you love someone
who DOES NOT care about the physical side of you,
who DOES NOT care whether you are hurting and
have to go to the hospital. Without making any
excuses, answer this question to yourself. Do you
really love the person who is doing all these
TERRIBLE AND HORRIBLE things to you or are you
loving the IDEA of love and the way a real
relationship should be or how your ex would be if
they changed? When you realize this you will start to
stop loving them because you will finally understand
that you can't love someone who through their
ACTIONS proved how they really and truly felt about
you.
(STOP LISTENING TO SLOW SONGS THAT
BRING BACK MEMORIES)
It is that special slow song you heard when you met,
it is that other special song you heard when you
first got into a relationship. These slow songs as well
as others you made to be both of your songs are
the songs you HAVE TO STAY AWAY from. These are
the songs that will bring back the memories and
make it seem like it was yesterday. After a breakup,
it is your job to STOP thinking about your ex, not
start thinking about your ex. When you keep listening
to these songs, you are only hurting yourself more
and PROLONGING the healing process. So if you
have these certain songs on your mp3 player or
other devices, stop listening to them and let the
healing process begin.
(WRITE DOWN SOME NEGATIVE
THINGS ABOUT YOUR EX)
The old feelings you have for your ex have to be
removed. Let me ask you a question. Let's say there
are 2 people, 1 being a total stranger and the other
is your ex. The stranger called you all kind of
derogatory names and put you down and said some
nasty things about you, would it bother you? The
answer is NO. You know why, it's because there are
NO FEELINGS for that stranger, there is no emotional
ties to them. Now, your ex, that is a different story.
You have to get to the point where you view your ex
like you view the stranger. The way that you can get
to this point is sometimes you have to think of the
NEGATIVE things about your ex. In fact write down
the negative things about your ex that will make you
say (I am so glad to not have to go through that
anymore.) It could be they used to physically abuse
you, now you DON'T have to go through that
anymore. They used to start unnecessary arguments,
now you DON'T have to go through that anymore.
They used to call you all kinds of very hurtful
names, now you DON'T have to go through that
anymore. This will definitely help because remember,
the objective is that it will eventually NO LONGER
bother you and that your ex should and will be a
NON FACTOR in your life. They should be like a
stranger to you and that if a person mentions your
ex's name to you, you should be able to respond
back with ((WHO?)).
(LISTEN TO THE RIGHT KIND OF MUSIC)
Music is so very POWERFUL. It can change your
mood INSTANTLY - What I am about to ask you to
do will help TREMENDOUSLY in your healing process.
Make a playlist of about 50 songs that are upbeat,
enjoyable, easy listening and that can make you feel
good, make you smile, brings you joy and gives you
a positive attitude.
(GET A PET)
Animals have a healing power that is extremely
helpful. Animals love unconditionally and they are
always happy, which will make you happy and smiling
all the time.
(LOVE YOURSELF AGAIN)
Many times you can't get over the hurt to move on
is because you have been drained emotionally and
mentally. You probably have low self-esteem because
in the middle of heated arguments, they said certain
things to tear you down and it became an everyday
thing. From this moment on, you have to change the
way you look at yourself. I need you to write down
5 things that you really enjoy doing. Those things
normally connects with who you are as a person.
Things you like doing brings out a certain part of
your personality which is something you have inside
that you love about yourself even though you may
not see it at first. So start writing at least 5 for right
now and as time goes on, you will realize that there
are so many things about yourself that are so great.
Not only will you love these things about yourself
but other people will love those same things about
you as well.
(STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF)
You can't keep putting yourself down just because it
didn't work out. In life it is going to happen. It
doesn't mean anything is wrong with you because it
didn't work out. People like different things. For
example if you go into a donut shop and the first
person in line asked for a glaze donut, the 2nd
person asked for a chocolate covered donut and the
3rd person asked for a powdered jelly donut, does
that mean that something was wrong with any one
of those 3 donuts?
The answer is NO. The reason being is that each
person likes different things so just because it didn't
work out with you in the relationship you just got
out of doesn't mean anything is wrong with you. You
just have not yet met the person that is perfect for
you. So repeat after me, (NOTHING IS WRONG WITH
ME)!!
(STOP WORRYING)
One thing that can sometimes hold you back from
moving forward is that even after the breakup,
especially if it was a bad breakup, you are worrying
about what they think of you because you want all
your breakups to never end on a bad note. Here me
when I tell you this, that is not always going to
happen. I need you to change this IMMEDIATELY and
STOP worrying about what they think of you. Why is
it so important that you wished they still think nice
of you? Whatever your answer is, it should not
matter to you anymore. Think about it. Were they
worried about you when they did what they did?
Were they worried about you when they were doing
their dirt? Were they worried about your feelings?
The answer is NO. If they did worry about you, you
would not be reading this now, but you would still
be in the relationship and the relationship would be
happy. They are NOT thinking about you right now,
so stop thinking and worrying about them.
(FILL YOURSELF UP)
If there is a clear glass with dirt at the bottom of it
and you put it under a faucet and turn on the water
and let the water flow in and keep running,
eventually that dirt will rise and go out of the glass
to the point that the only thing left in the glass is
CLEAR WATER. That clear water is your POSITIVE
THOUGHTS, your POSITIVE ATTITUDE and the
POSITIVE ACTIVITIES that you do that will get rid of
those negative thoughts and emotions connected to
your past relationship.
(GET YOURSELF INVOLVED IN DIFFERENT
ACTIVITIES)
This is so crucial in your healing process and getting
over the hurt. Remember the objective is to occupy
your time and your thoughts with POSITIVE things
because they will soon fill your mind with HAPPY
thoughts and make you feel better about yourself,
your life and your FUTURE without your ex. Just to
get you started with a variety of activities you can
get yourself involved in, notice all the ones below.
LEARN HOW TO PLAY THE PIANO
DO SOME KARAOKE
VOLUNTEER AND HELP CHILDREN
TRY NEW COOKING RECIPES
VOLUNTEER IN YOUR COMMUNITY
GO SCUBA DIVING
PLANTS & GARDENING
POTTERY
RUNNING
WRITE A BOOK OR POEMS
GO FISHING
GO TO THE GYM
WATCH A GOOD MOVIE
GO TO SCHOOL AND START A CAREER
LEARN HOW TO MAKE JEWELRY
SWIMMING
READ A GOOD BOOK
SEWING
YOGA
BIKING
SPEND TIME WITH FAMILY
SPEND TIME WITH FRIENDS
GO BOWLING
GO SHOPPING
GET MORE INVOLVED IN WORK
TAKE UP PHOTOGRAPHY
ACT SILLY
GO HORSE BACK RIDING
DECORATE YOUR HOME
GET PAMPERED
LEARN HOW TO PLAY THE GUITAR
LEARN TO CROCHET
As you can see there are so many activities that
you can do to occupy your mind and that will help
you get over the hurt. Last but not least…..
(ALLOW YOURSELF TO CRY UNTIL
THERE ARE NO MORE TEARS)
When you cry, in those tears are the pain, the hurt
and the memories. Cry until you can’t cry anymore.
You need to get that one last cry out because after
this, you will be on the road to recovery with a new
attitude and new outlook.
You have the tools from this ebook to make a fresh
start, to get over the hurt and to fight the thoughts
when they come into your mind. This ebook is like a
can of paint, it means nothing until you APPLY IT.
So like the paint, apply the information in this ebook.
When you do, you can get better, you will get better.
Use it and allow it to make you move on and be
happy again.
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