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Geing from Here to There in Labor
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Table of Contents
THE JOURNEY ................................................................... 1
THREE TIMEFRAMES ............................................... 2
WHAT IS LABOR? ...................................................... 3
AN IMPORTANT FACTOR
ABOUT PROGRESSIVE LABOR ................................ 4
WHEN TO USE WHAT PINK KIT SKILLS? ........................ 9
PRACTICE DURING PREGNANCY ........................... 9
PRE-LABOR .............................................................. 10
1ST STAGE ................................................................ 11
2ND STAGE ............................................................... 13
3RD STAGE ............................................................... 17
END OF THE ROAD: MAKING MEMORIES ..................... 17
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The Journey
Birth is a journey. Like any other journey, if you look toward the end, it can seem too
far away. Progression is how you get to and through that end and keep your sanity
in the meantime. As the journey progresses, you must focus on what is immediate.
That’s how the athlete, dancer, or artist with skills behaves, and your job is the same
as theirs. You know that the goal is reached by the small, discrete steps you take
now.
Everything occurs in a timeframe
Let’s create a picture together. You’re pregnant or a father-to- be right now.
Somehow, you have to get rid of the big belly and replace it with a babe-in-arms.
Duh! But how do you get from your pregnant state to holding your baby? Of course,
you give birth! In order to appreciate exactly what this means, though, we have to
discuss timeframes.
When you look back on this past year, you’ll truly appreciate how much your life has
changed within that short timeframe.
When you rst fell pregnant, the last thing on your mind was the birth. In fact,
during the timeframe of the rst few months, you might have experienced morning
sickness which you believed would never go away! You probably also believed the
“fat” feeling was going to last forever—until you began to show.
During the middle of your pregnancy, you might have felt really good, like many
other women, and time just ew by. On the other hand, if you continued to have
uncomfortable health issues, the pregnancy seemed to drag on.
Now, during the last phase of pregnancy as you approach the birth, you may become
uncomfortable again. In the last few weeks, as your baby gets ready to be born, it
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sends messages to your body to change. Your hormones gradually soen and ripen
your body, preparing it for this new activity that marks the end of pregnancy: giving
birth.
Through pregnancy, you’ve discovered that time expands and contracts. Sometimes
you feel it ies by; others you feel that every minute lasts forever.
How you behave, act, or even think during these timeframes can make a huge
dierence on how you feel about what you are experiencing and the memories you
take with you. Skills always help any person to cope with timeframe uctuations beer than if time just passes you by, with you bumping into things you’re not
prepared to deal with.
In other words, time is something you do. If you already have children, you know
that, when your rst was born, you suddenly woke up to how much time it takes to
take care of a baby. Many women and men express it this way: “What did I do with
my time before I had a baby?” Time is something you ll with “doing.”
Three Timeframes
From your reading in other childbirth books or through your childbirth education
class, you probably already know that childbirth has three timeframes, or stages,
although most of the focus is on the rst two.
1st Stage: During this Stage, your baby moves down through the hole in your pelvis,
and your cervix opens. You’ll be told by your doctor or midwife how open your
cervix is (“You’re ve cm dilated”) and how much of your baby has moved through
your pelvis (“Your baby is engaged, still high, or well down”). These terms can be
quite cryptic. That’s why The Pink Kit teaches you how to personally feel what ishappening inside you. It’s your body and your baby, and the more you can get your
head to understand where your baby really is, the more you can make sense of what
is happening to you.
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At the end of 1st Stage is a period of labor called “transition,” which can be the
toughest, yet shortest, part of 1st Stage. This is the period when the cervix opens
entirely and your baby’s head moves all the way through your pelvis and into the
top of your vagina (its birth canal).
2nd Stage: This Stage is what people call the “delivery” or “birth.” Your baby moves
through and out of your vagina and into your arms.
3rd Stage: This Stage is when you deliver the aerbirth/placenta.
What Is Labor?
Labor is composed of contractions and a space between. Your baby stimulates its
home (its mother’s whole body and specically the muscles of the uterus). This
stimulation causes the uterus to tug open its closure (the cervix). The tugging open is
the contraction, and then the uterine muscle rests, which is the space in between.
Each contraction has ve phases, and you will work through each phase.
You will inhale and exhale through one breath cycle aer another, using eective,sustainable breathing skills that give you the ability to work and cope with the
sensations of each contraction.
Your body will always be in some position or posture throughout the labor, and
you will learn how to nd positions that truly relax you inside, help you stay
open, and create space for your baby to move through and out of your body.
Your husband/partner will be there to help you cope with the hard work. This is
not the same role as for your birth provider.
Remember the process! Basically, it’s quite a simple plumbing journey. Your baby
has to open the closure, or diaphragm (the cervix), to its home (the uterus). Once thediaphragm opens all the way, the baby begins its journey out of its home by moving
into the tube in the bones that protects its home (the pelvic hole). Your baby will then
travel the short distance down through an aperture (the vagina/birth canal.) Finally,
your baby will stretch open the end of the aperture and be born.
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You can read much more about the physiological journey a baby takes in any
childbirth book. In the Pink Kit, you’ll come to understand concepts at a more basic
level. However, you’ll be able to overlap the information you get from other
resources with the skills in The Pink Kit. Other resources tell you how the process
happens; the Pink Kit teaches you how to work with the process.
What can you expect during progressive labor?
Most people think that the three Stages of childbirth each have a very clear beginning
and ending. That’s not always accurate. The beginning part of 1st Stage can beterribly unclear, manifesting as “false labor,” “pre-labor,” “niggling labor,” or “non-
progressive labor.”
On the other end of the 1st Stage is “active labor,” which birth professionals consider
to start when you are about three cms dilated and your contractions are one minute
long and three minutes apart. Progressing, active labor is NOT the same as
progressive labor.
During progressive labor (which happens in the 1st Stage),
contractions get longer (timeable),
the space between contractions gets shorter (timeable), and
contractions get more intense (not timeable, but felt by the woman).
Short form for this: longer, stronger, closer together. Although your doctor or
hospital probably doesn’t want you to come in before your labor is “established,”
you can still have hours of contractions at home, growing in intensity and frequency
every hour or two.
An Important Factor about Progressive Labor
When labor is progressive, each contraction has a bell-shaped curve that can be
drawn on a graph, as it starts, gets more intense, reaches a peak, subsides, and ends.
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If you have a fetal monitor strapped to your belly, you can actually see the shape of
the contractions. It is also oen reected in the sounds a woman makes.
For some women, the bell curve can be a bit o -center. For example, the contractions
can become very painful very quickly, which brings the peak of each closer to the le
-hand side of the bell. Other contractions can start quite slowly, with the heightened
pain coming toward the end and the contractions ending quite abruptly. This puts
the peak toward the right side of the curve.
The operative word is “bell,” rather than “plateau,” which has no dened peak. Flatcontractions indicate a stalled labor. They sound sort of like an almost-sneeze.
What stalls labor?
Luckily, there are a nite number of reasons. We’ll start with some of the more
uncommon ones:
a short umbilical cord
cord wrapped around the baby’s body
placenta in the way
the baby in an unusual position
the baby just too big to come through the pelvic tube
You need to discuss these things with your birth professional. They are infrequent
occurrences and not always easy for professionals to identify.
However, this is your baby and your birth, and you need to feel a high degree of
safety, so ask. Furthermore, while you cannot prevent these situations, you can have
a huge impact on whether they actually compromise your baby by preparing yourpregnant body and then working with your baby’s eorts to come down, through,
and out.
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There are a few other, more common things women do without realizing that these
things (in their particular birth at the moment) are hindering the process. This is
where the Teamwork between the woman and her birth coach is so vital. As a
woman, you will be engrossed in the process. As a coach, you get to see what the
woman is doing. Together, you can make certain you do everything possible to keep
your baby’s container (the woman’s body) as open and relaxed as possible. If you
take your skills seriously, you do have control over these problems!
Being tense. Example: Tense up your rectum right now. Would this tension help
or hinder a small grapefruit from coming down, through, and out? Obviously,tension will hinder the passage. Likewise, any inner tension in your cervix, pelvis,
or vagina can make your internal space harder to pass through. Obviously, any
woman would want to remain so and relaxed inside to help her baby, wouldn’t
she? So what’s the deal? Pain. Contractions are most oen accompanied by
intense, naturally occurring pain. Your skills will help you consciously choose to
let go of internal tension, even if you don’t like the pain.
Keep in mind: As a man, you MUST help your woman accept the painful process
that is the journey of your child out of her body, where you planted it, into yourarms, where you will both parent it. Internal tension can be soened even if it’s
unpleasant, because it’s for the higher good: your child’s birth.
Bending over, leaning forward. For some babies, this bends their passage or their
body in relationship to the inside passage. Example: a woman is siing on the
toilet, leaning back, and the contractions are bell-shaped, strong, steady. In fact,
she feels they are ecacious. Someone suggests she change positions, so she turns
around, facing the back of the toilet, leaning forward. The contractions change;
they become shorter, less intense, and spaced further apart. The woman’s
husband notices this aer half an hour and talks to his partner. She’s noticed it aswell, but really liked the break because the contractions were geing so intense.
He asks if there is anything more he can do to help her cope, because both of
them realize they need to work with the intensity, as it means the labor is
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eective and they don’t really want to do anything that stops that. So they gure
out how to incorporate whatever set of skills they need to use right then.
Keep in mind: If your baby feels ne even if you’re leaning forward, your
contractions will stay strong and ecacious. Whenever you change positions, you’ll
know whether your baby is okay with your decision within three contractions. The
rst one, the baby is thinking, “Hm.” Second one the baby thinks, “Naw” or “Yeah.”
On the third one, the baby shows either the “Naw” or “Yeah.” “Naw” contractions
will be at. “Yeah” contractions will be bell-shaped.
Being closed or not being in open positions. At every single moment of your life,
your body is in some posture or position. This is why you need to learn pelvic
skills, so that, whatever posture or position you are in, your pelvis tube is open
and the so tissues are pliable and so. This is not always easy, because the pain
is real and very strong. As stated above, you have to be determined and use your
willpower to overcome your instinctive or intuitive response to pain, which is to
tense up! It’s your conscious choice to accept the pain (even if you hate it) and
work with the pain (use of skills) that will make you a skilled birthing woman
and skilled coaching man.
Can a woman recognize when her labor is or is not progressive?
The answer is YES, even if it’s a woman’s rst birth. She can feel that the contractions
change every hour or two. Oen, it’s the woman who realizes the labor has stalled or
the baby is stuck, because the contractions all seem the same, with no change.
A progressive labor should run start to nish for about 4-15 hours. That’s a
reasonable timeframe for the progress. If the labor is too rapid (i.e. shorter than
4 hours), a woman can feel very overwhelmed. (Although a very short labor certainly
tells you that the big object got out of its container with no diculty!)
If a labor doesn’t become progressive, or a progressive labor stalls and takes more
than 15 hours, this is a clear indicator to you that the “object” is having some
diculty doing what it’s supposed to do. Your jobs are to
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keep your labor progressive,
recognize in a reasonable time if labor is stalling, and
gure out where your baby is stalling and use skills to get it going again.
Always keep in mind the relationship between the 3-dimensional baby and 3-
dimensional body. Your birthing body basically uses three parts:
The Cervix
In your Pink Kit resources, you’ll learn skills such as the following to help your
cervix open:
Pelvic Clock
Cervical Relaxation
Deep Touch Relaxation
Directed Breathing
The Pelvis
As you keep in mind the metaphor that giving birth is an exercise in plumbing, you
can imagine what happens if a big object can’t easily move through a tube. It getsstuck. Luckily, the pelvic tube is exible. Your Pink Kit resources teach you the
following pelvic skills:
Mapping Your Pelvis
Body Positions
Hip Li
Kate’s Cat
Sacral Maneuver
Deep Touch Relaxation
The Birth Canal or Vagina
In your Pink Kit resources, you will learn how to do Internal Work on your birth
canal. This important skill can make all the dierence in the world to the nal
journey of your baby. These are some of the Internal Work skills you’ll learn:
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Sit Bone Spread
Kate’s Cat
Sacral Maneuver
Body Positions
When to Use What Pink Kit Skills?
Practice During Pregnancy
Think about a sports or music performance. Obviously, you learn skills, practice,
then get ready for the performance, and you use your skills at every moment from
rst picking up the bat to crossing home plate, from rst drawing a bow across
strings to holding the nal note as the crowd applauds. It’s a seamless progression.
Labor is no dierent. You learn your Pink Kit skills, practice them more and more as
you get closer to the birth experience, and use them throughout the birth.
It is through your practice that you integrate the skills between your body and mind.This goes for both of you. The biggest hindrance to truly converting your Pink Kit
skills into a body/mind connection is the fact that most families have lile experience
with the birthing process.
If you had been present at 100 births, you would have seen some women who used
skills, stayed focused, and overcame the urge to just give in and whine. You’d have
seen other women who didn’t have skills or didn’t use them and ended up feeling
overwhelmed by the experience. You’d have noticed that those women who stay on
top of contractions and stay focused on whatever skills they were using were the
ones who felt best about their experience.
This goes for the fathers, too. Fathers who really help, not just wipe a brow or give an
ice chip, are the ones who have skills that are integrated between their mind and
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their birthing partner’s body. They are paying aention and modifying at every
moment. They are more likely to feel proud of themselves as men, partners, and
fathers. Men who do this are also deeply loved by their partners.
These are the important reasons why you want to ready yourselves with skills.
The process your baby is going through deserves your full aention. When you
use your best level of skills, you’ll always be working with your baby.
You and your partner will truly become a team with the goal of working with
your baby’s eorts. Birth is the literal gateway between being pregnant and being
parents, and you want to go through the gateway together.
Practiced? Now Use the Skills During Pre-Labor!
Aer months of practicing your skills while pregnant, you are now actually
beginning to work with the eorts your baby will make shortly to come down,
through, and out your body.
For example, as you feel a Braxton Hicks contraction, recognize it as having four
phases. (During active labor, there will be ve distinct Phases of each contraction.) Itstarts, your belly gets tense, it eases, and time passes before another one.
The Braxton Hicks contractions trigger the exact same mechanism as labor
contractions, except these are soening your cervix while labor contractions open it.
As you start to experience these pre-labor changes, it is a good time to begin the
“touch relaxation” to help calm down the hormone rushes. Also, begin using some of
your other skills.
Kate’s Cat—Oen, women experience backaches in the few weeks before labor
starts, as the baby moves into the pelvic tube. By using Kate’s Cat, you truly beginto mobilize and open your sacrum. This can reduce discomfort.
Body Positions—Now’s the time to go through your “open” labor positions (don’t
forget about where your upper body is).
Start your teamwork, as well.
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When you start to t all your skills into what is happening during this timeframe,
you are training yourself to respond automatically to the bodily sensations you will
have from now on until aer the birth. Think of this as the opportunity to apply what
you’ve practiced, minus major pain.
As labor becomes regular, then grows in intensity, time shis and compresses. Every
single moment, every inhalation and exhalation, becomes an exquisite moment by
itself.
Use the Skills During 1st Stage
This is what you need to focus on during the 1st Stage: use your skills to work with
each contraction and each space in between. Although this early period of the
birthing process may not be clear or dened, and even if your labor niggles or
doesn’t immediately get into a rhythm, rest assured, labor will sele down over time.
When you drive your car , do you use your driving skills one aer another or a
number of them at the same time? Do you have to pay aention to the environmentoutside your car? Do you also have to pay aention to how others are driving? Does
your aention change depending on the weather or road conditions?
Geing from A to B in a car is a journey. The journey can be dened or viewed from
the distance traveled. In other words, a 300-mile journey passes by lots of land.
You’d see a change in the environment, the trac on the roads would vary, the
landscape might range from dense urban to isolated forest. The journey can also be
perceived from the time it takes. During that time, you might feel hungry, need to go
to the toilet, hear a funny story, feel tension in your neck or back, or stop for a rest. In
fact, that same journey could be viewed by even more angles. You could be entirelyfocused on your car’s performance, or the purpose of the journey could occupy your
every thought.
No maer how you view this one journey, you still need to use a complex set of
driving skills at every single moment of the time you are driving. Labor is the
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same—with perhaps one exception.
Notice that, during this driving journey, you stopped to rest. You can’t do that in
labor. There is no stop (except the times between contractions) until your baby is
born. This means two things:
No maer what is happening on this birth journey, you cannot choose one
convenient, long rest stop. Instead, you will have many, many short ones that
happen when your baby feels like it.
Even during your brief rests, you cannot put your skills aside as you do when
you break an auto journey. You must use energy-conserving skills in between
contractions.
In between contractions, when you will have lile or no pain, use your active
consciousness to talk to yourself: “I’m going around the Pelvic Clock.” Or use it to
see yourself doing specic actions with your internal vision: you “see” some specic
area inside your pelvis and soen there. You can also combine the two, using a short-
form internal dialogue to say a specic word (“soen,” “relax”) while envisioningsoening inside a specic place in your pelvis.
As contractions get more intense, you will increasingly move from the verbal (le
hemisphere of the brain) and into the visual, right hemisphere. You will just “see”
yourself using good birthing behaviors, while choosing not to do tense up with the
pain. Yes, your visual right hemisphere still makes choices.
As for the working phases themselves (contractions), you have another whole set of
skills.
Directed Breathing—Helps you cope with the natural pain during contractions and
helps you achieve deep relaxation
Pelvic Clock—Helps you relax the so tissue of the pelvic oor, both during
contractions and rest periods.
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Cervical Relaxation—Helps you relax the so tissue of the cervix.
Leing Down Refex Relaxation—Helps with a pinched cervix.
Uterine Li—Improves the eectiveness of contractions.
Thai Massage—Helps the baby move down into the pelvic inlet.
“Bony Structure” skills (e.g. Hip Li , Rocking the Sacrum , Kate’s Cat)—Create
structural and internal relaxation.
Choosing Body Positions that help create internal relaxation and eliminate internal
tension no maer what posture or position you are in.
Stay on top of what your head is saying
Just as your body is always in some posture or position, you are always carrying on a
conversation in your head. We comment constantly on our own lives. We say nice (or
unpleasant) things to ourselves about what we are feeling or experiencing.
Labor causes this internal verbal conversation to become very focused. In fact, you
can determine the overall process of labor by what you are saying to yourself and
how well you are listening to what you are saying. Men, much of what a woman is
thinking, she does not verbally express, but there are times when women will explain
exactly what they are experiencing and doing in response.
Keep in mind: You’re lucky if you’re saying “This isn’t too bad; I can cope.” And
even if your head is saying “I HATE THIS,” you can also think “Boy, I’m managing
this well.”
During the 1st Stage, dilation is very much an exercise of fortitude. Remember “The
Lile Engine That Could”? “I think I can, I think I can, I knew I could!” Once you get
to the “I knew I could,” you are approaching or actively in 2nd Stage.
Use the Skills During 2nd Stage
Once the cervix is completely open and your baby has moved down through the tube
of the pelvis, its nal passage is through its birth canal. The pain associated with
dilation stops. Oh, what relief!
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If the birth canal is stretchable and not lled with tense tissue, each contraction
brings your baby further down this short passage (2-3 inches—you can feel this
distance when you work through the audio CD Internal Work). If the movement of
your baby down through its birth canal is not hindered by internal tension, there is
an urge to “bear down” or “push.” In other words, your body begins to eject your
baby.
When there is a spontaneous urge to bear down, the sensations are oen satisfying
and pleasurable (“productive”). But even with spontaneous bearing down, if the ring
of the vaginal opening is tight, you will experience a “ring of re.” A tight vaginalopening is the nal tension your baby tries to reduce. The Internal Work prevents or
reduces this sensation, as well as reduces any tension inside the birth canal.
Otherwise, your midwife or doctor might deal with this tension by cuing the
vaginal ring (episiotomy).
On the other hand, if the upper part of the vagina is tense, there won’t be a
spontaneous bearing down, nor will your baby continue down the passage. This can
be frustrating. Aer all the great work to open the cervix, to have your baby get
delayed at this point can seem unfair.To reduce or prevent a delayed 2nd Stage, your job is rst to prepare this area during
pregnancy to become stretchable tissue, and second to use your skills to keep your
active labor progressing. This nal part of your baby’s journey is still an exercise in
plumbing—an object has to come down, through, and out this last part of your body:
your vagina, your baby’s birth canal.
These are the skills you’ll use to keep this phase of labor progressive:
Breathing into the Perineum
Leing Down Refex Relaxation , to counteract your instinctive reaction to feeling the baby coming down
Internal Work
Sit Bone Spread
Hip Li
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Kate’s Cat
External Massage
Anterior lip
An anterior lip is caused by your baby pinching the front of the cervix against the
pubic bone, thus preventing the nal full dilation. Your job is to help your baby
move backward in your body, toward your sacrum. Your ability to relax this very
hidden and unreachable area of your female body is an important aspect of helping
your baby to birth.
These are the skills:
Leing Down Refex Relaxation
Sit Bone Spread
Kate’s Cat
Hip Li
Sacral Maneuver
Energy/tiredness
Because any internal tension can delay the birth process, the baby makes certain
tension doesn’t happen—by puing the woman to sleep between contractions. There
is another purpose: a woman must have lots of energy to expel her baby, and resting
helps her to renew her energy. Particularly during late labor, women oen get very
sleepy. This seems to be inconsistent with the intensity, but it makes sense when you
remember that the woman’s body is working very hard.
Unfortunately, this sleepy period is oen perceived of as an indication that labor has become too hard for the woman. Just remember, if there is no medical concern, sleep
is a natural part of giving birth.
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This means you want to encourage and support sleepy periods. Of course, there is a
hitch. When a woman sleeps during rest periods, she oen wakes up suddenly in a
full- blown contraction. This makes it dicult for her to control herself. However, she
will give you a clue if you are watching over her or slightly touching some part of
her body. There will be a slight movement as her body starts another contraction.
This tells you that you have to resume using your skills right away.
Let your partner know that you are totally there for her and that she should rest and
sleep to restore her energy. Let her know that you will be aentive so she can begin
to apply her skills right away once a contraction has started. Helping her to rest well,stay hydrated, and stay well-nourished will help her stay on top of the process.
You, too, can sleep with her, but you have to be touching her body and able and
willing to come out of your sleep as soon as her body motion tells you another
contraction is coming.
Keep in mind: Being tired in labor is not an alarming issue. Women need to rest.
Labor is hard work. It’s strenuous. Resting is good. Continue to use your skills; just
choose which ones work best when she feels energized and when she wants to rest.
Medical concerns
As you can tell, resolution to a stuck or hindered birth process is all about opening
up the pelvic area, thus, an exercise in plumbing.
If you have a concern that there is a medical problem, it’s the birth coach’s job to ask
your doctor or midwife. If they are also frustrated that the labor is hanging up but
don’t think there is a medical concern, then your knowledge of your partner’s
pregnant body is all the more vital. They might not understand what you are doing, but that’s ok. Medical teaching does not include plumbing.
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Use the Skills During 3nd Stage
Oen, the most dangerous period of a progressive labor is aer the baby is born and
before the placenta is delivered, because this is the time when a woman might bleed
excessively. If excessive bleeding occurs, the woman will be given an injection that
will contract her uterus. Use what skills you can t in, let the professionals do the
rest, and just be thankful you live in a modern country with modern medical care.
Basic take-away
Birth is unknown until it unfolds. You just have to work with what you have, but
there are two very important things that you have huge control over:
1. Don’t go into labor tired.
2. Don’t overreact to contractions when they are lasting 15–30 seconds and are 5–
20 minutes apart. Instead, quietly learn about your contractions and teach
yourself how to relax in this early phase, so you develop good labor management
skills for the later stages.
End of the Road: Making Memories
Giving birth is seen from several time perspectives. The rst perspective is when
you’re pregnant and you look forward to the birth experience, knowing it’s
unknown until it happens. Then you view the experience as it unfolds and as you
experience it. Then you look back immediately aerwards with opinions and
emotions. Finally, you periodically look back throughout your life. The birth of your
baby is always something you look back on.
Only the human mind has the ability to imagine the future, be so self-reective in the
present, and recall experiences in the past.
Because you have imaginative power, you can project dierent scenarios. Imagine
that you are looking back right now to your child’s birth, in which you did not have
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or use your Pink Kit skills. Without skills, you can hinder the birthing process, but
not stop it, which means it will only get more tiring the longer you make it last.
Long, tiring labors are also more likely to end up with medical interventions. Now
imagine you are looking back to your birth experience in which you did have and use
skills. Which way do you want to give birth?
The human mind also endows you with the remarkable ability to see yourself as you
are using your skills, even if this is your rst baby, no dierently than you can see
yourself taking complex driving directions to a new place. You can both see all the
turns, as well as how you drive the car. You are in charge of what you do and howyou manage the experience, just as you are in capable of engaging with the natural
physiological process of birth.
Because the birth of your child is a one-time event and remains as a lasting memory
for life, it’s vitally important that you do feel skilled. You may not be able to control
much during the birth experience, but you can always control your skills. They are
what will empower you throughout the whole of the progression, from now until
you hold your baby in your arms.