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A woman's whole life is history of affections :
as a daughter
as a sister
as a wife
as a mother
as a sister in law
as a mother in law ......................
and this endless history of affections go on..............
giving her strength to rule the world and bring everyone close to her with her love and
affection and transfers her power to the whole family and finally the world as a whole.
The Power of a WomanThe empowerment of a women begins within herself, if that women loves herself; shehas that authority to love anyone she chooses.
The power of a women becomes even stronger when she finds herself and knows whoshe is; and doesn't let anyone tell her otherwise.
The power of a women can make her strong enough to stand on her own two feet; and
finally that women is independent .She will not be afraid to ask for help or help herself.
The power of a women is stronger then the grip of a lions teeth when his prey is in hismouth.
The power of a women is endless;so stand tall, and represent for all the women in the world.
From the Editors Desk.
Tuticorin PALMS Toastmasters
Presidents Message 2
An Ideal Woman 2
3 Toastmasteringlessons from mylittle daughter...
3
Division Governors
Speech made attOTP
4
Public Speaking 5
The Coke Salesmanin Israel
6
Overcoming fear ofpublic speaking
7
Inside this issue:
Why Join
Toastmasters?
Learn to communi-cate more effectively
Become a betterlistener.
Improve yourpresentation skills
Increase your leader-ship potential
Become more suc-cessful in your career
Build your ability tomotivate and per-suade
Increase your selfconfidence
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A-Z of Leadership
Behaviours
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AN IDEAL WOMAN
Care, Compassion, Sympathy, Service, Sharing -- all qualities are fem-
inine. The women who was a personification of all these qualities was
Mother Teresa. In the war between the heart and the head, it is the
heart that will always win. Being kind, is not a sign of weakness but a
sign of strength. There is a vast difference between being soft hearted
and being weak hearted, and women should not confuse themselves
on this.
Woman have to realize their inner strength and potential that exists within their feminine qualities.
Women always perform better when they play on their strengths, rather than trying to cover up
their weakness. Women perform well, in areas that hasa emotional touch. One such area is PAR-
ENTING. It is always the mother who scores over the father when it comes to parenting. The fa-
ther provides, but the mother gives. There is a subtle difference. If God did not want to make a
difference, he would not have created two sexes. All qualities of the women are complementary to
that of a man and not against it.
Tears can melt a hardened heart. Gandhiji did not win freedom for this country, through the mas-
culine qualities of physical strength but through the feminine qualities of emotional strength (non
violence). Be proud to be a woman.
TM.D.Senthil Kannan
I am happy and feel privilleged to interact with all of you through the 2 nd edition of
Trumpet E-zine. I take this opportunity to wish all our Women Toastmasters Happy
Womens Day on the occasion of International Womens Day on 8 th March 2012. I
congratulate our TM Uma Maheshwari for having volunteered to be the Editor for the
month of March coninciding with Womens Day celebrations.
I hope empowering of Women to become leaders will be a reality through Toastmasters. The Trum-
pet shall serve all our Members for sharing their thoughts and to develop writing skills. It is in this
backdrop, I would urge all our Members to prepare their speech in writing and it shall be sent to a
Mentor within our Club or to any other Toastmaster in other Clubs for fine tuning and improving their
speech. We all can enhance our writing and speaking skills through such mentoring process.
During the month of March, it is time for Exams for the children and I convey my best wishes to all
the Children for doing their best in the Annual Exams. For Toastmasters, the month of March is the
time of renewal of Membership by payment of the dues within 25 th March 2012.
TM. C.Karthikeya Prabu
President
PRESIDENTS MESSAGE
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I got a message from our Chief Editor TM Uma... She requested (actually, ordered! ...) "Saro! We are producing a
newsletter this month. You are writing an article for that ... and it is going to be about Women's day. By the way, the
article is due next week".
I was thinking about it for a week. I don't want to give a gyan about Women's achievements and their importance in
our society. I wanted to write something about women which will also be relevant to toastmasters.
I'm fortunate to have seen the multiple faces of women - thanks to my mom, sister, wife and little daughter. Each
one of them is different and they make my life's equation complete. To stay away from controversies at home, I de-
cided to write about the toastmastering skills that I learned when raising my little daughter :)
1) Yes! You can do it: It was about 5 years ago. My wife and I were helping our little daughter to walk... she was10
months old, then. She took a few tentative steps, and fell down. My wife and I didn't show our disappointment on
our face, when she fell down. We continued to cheer her up "Mitra! You are doing great... try again..." "Mitra ! It is
OK... You can do it".... "Mitra! Only a few steps more... Common".
When Mitra took her first 5 steps continuously without falling, we became so proud.
Don't we do exactly the same thing in our toastmasters meetings? When a fellow member couldn't answer a TableTopic or forgets a speech in between, we continue to encourage them to talk. There are times when we even pray
that our fellow toastmaster shouldn't fail. We never criticize our toastmasters when they fail. Rather, we provide
them a constructive feedback. Thus, we provide a safe environment for everyone to experiment, fail, learn and im-
prove. We always tell them "Yes! You can".
2) Vocal Variety / Body Language : "Dad, I saw a HUGE elephant today when coming back from school"... My
daughter was narrating her experience of seeing an Elephant on the road... with her eye balls popping out and arms
stretched wide. I was quite impressed by the tone of her voice and her gesture. Her face was literally glowing when
she said that.
I'm sure all of us were expressive when we were kids. But, somehow we lost our voice and body language when we
grew up! I guess it was because our elders always told us to "lower our voice" or "not to raise our hands", when
speaking.
Now, we are trying to rediscover those skills by doing speeches in toastmasters :)
3) Getting repeatable good behaviors: I read a book called How to teach so that kids can listen. The book talks
about How to motivate kids to get repeatable behaviors?. The author says Dont just compliment your kid, but
compliment them for a specific reason.
I tried to experiment it. Most of the times, my daughter doesn't clean up her room before going to bed in the night.
There will be toys spread all around. My wife ends up cleaning them every day. One night, my daughter cleaned up
the room herself, without even being told. I wanted to appreciate her for that. Instead of just saying Great job Mi-
tra !, I said Mitra! I like the way you are keeping your room neat and clean. You are saving a lot of time for mom. I
wish you can do that every day. Great job. When I communicated the specific reason for which she is getting the
appreciation, she understood that Im getting this appreciation because I kept the room neat and clean. Now eve-
ryday night, she cleans her room before going to bed.
You can use the same technique for adults also. After all, we were also kids once upon a time.
For example, instead of saying Senthil! You did a great job of publishing our first newsletter, you can say Senthil!
You displayed extraordinary commitment and passion to produce our first newsletter. You were able to make it hap-
pen despite the challenges you had in getting articles from our friends. Your persistent follow-ups paid-off. Great
job. Now, Senthil will be motivated to display his commitment, passion, and persistency whenever he gets a
chance. I wish all the toastmasters of our Tuticorin Palms Toastmasters Club a very happy Womens day celebration.
3 Toastmastering lessons from my little daughterBy TM.Saro Velrajan, Division Governor
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I welcome all of you to the first major event of
Division G in the year 2012. Happy new year to all
of you.
Congratulations to all the new leaders of our
clubs!
Do not go where the path may lead, go instead
where there is no path and leave a trail a beauti-
ful quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson.
What kind of leader you would like to be? There
are 3 types of leaders in this
world:
1) You give them a vacant
land ... they involve a number of
people and build a beautiful cas-
tle, plant trees, develop gardens.
They do things that benefit NOT
only the current generation, but
also the rest of the generations
to come. They are the Builders.
2) You give them a vacant land; they put a fence
around it. They protect the land. They pay daily
visits and make sure that NO HARM is done to it.
However, the vacant land, continues to remain
vacant. They are the Maintainers.
3) You give them a vacant land. They don't do
anything with it. They don't care about the land.
They let weeds grow. They let people dump gar-
bage and waste into it. The land becomes a dump
yard. People don't love to visit the land, because
it stinks. They are the Destroyers.
Toastmasters, the club is a vacant land given to
you today. What kind of leader you want to be -
builder, maintainer or destroyer?! What do you
want to do with the club - build, maintain or de-
stroy?!
You may ask, "What do I get by spending time in
building the club"? NOTHING. Toastmasters is a
voluntary organization... you don't get paid for
your service, you aren't going to lose your promo-
tion if you don't do your job, you aren't going to
lose your pay hike or bonus when you fail here.
However, if you are able to
get members to attend
meetings, where you aren'tgetting paid... if you are able
to motivate your members
to complete their CCs/CLs,
when you aren't getting
paid... if you are able to
build a successful club, when
you aren't getting paid...
With all the skills and experience that you gain
here, imagine the difference you would make at
your workplace where you are getting paid.
Where you are getting paid - to build a great
product, where you are getting paid to build great
teams where you are getting paid to bring the
best out of people.
What toastmasters can DO to you, is largely de-
pendent on what you DO to toastmasters.
Todays training program will help you become a
great builder. With the skills that you gain today,
Im sure youll convert our clubs into castles a
place where everyone would like to visit, join and
discover their real communication and leadership
potential.
Speech of Divion Governor TM.Saro Velrajan,
made at the OTP on 22nd Jan 2012 @ Virtusa
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Public speaking requires both the ability to speak
up and to relate to others. It isnt just about stand-
ing in front of a podium and speaking to a large au-
dience. It also means speaking up in meetings, com-
municating effectively with clients, and answering
tough questions presented by a team of colleagues
and superiors. It means being able to convey your
ideas effectively on the telephone, one-on-one and
to small and large groups of people. It is the ability
to influence and inspire others and to effect change.
It means to speak with agency, credibility and au-
thority. It means to have impact. It means to be vis-
ible, to take a risk, to take a stand. It also means to
listen well and to establish a strong relationship and
connection with the audience. And, finally, it means
to be fully ourselves, to be authentic to be confi-
dent enough to show our humanity, our frailties andour vulnerabilities along with our strengths, wisdom
and knowledge.
As women, we are natural leaders. We have all the
skills and competencies necessary to influence and
inspire people to change and move forward. Howev-
er, to really get this out into the world, we must al-
low ourselves to be visible, to speak up, to speak
out, to simply speak While some women are natu-
ral extroverts who find their way back to their voice
with relative ease, many of us must make conscious
and courageous decisions and work very hard tomove away from the silence that holds us back and
to assume our natural roles as leaders.
Do you get that "nowhere to run, nowhere to hide"
feeling before you start a speech or presentation? If
you're stressed or nervous about that speaking gig,
you might want to factor in your speaker personality
type, since the introverts among us, especially, will
need to be by themselves before and after a speech
or presentation.
But any speaker who's nervous about speakingmight need to find a comfort zone right on the
spot at the meeting venue. Here are five comfort
zones that any speaker should be able to accessto help you regroup, calm your nerves and face
that audience:
The stall or the stairwell: Long favored by
speakers as a private place where they can
stretch, do some deep breathing, and generally
escape the other meeting attendees, those near-
by restroom stalls and stairwells offer inelegant
but practical places to gather your courage. Just
be sure you haven't been wired for sound in ad-
vance.
Your breathing: Can't say it enough, but your
breathing is essential to give you energy, calmyour nerves and focus your attention before a
presentation. So breathe in and out deeply a
dozen times before you go on. This is my favorite
pre-speech comfort zone, and it's largely invisible
to others, so can happen anywhere.
Closed eyes: Your comfort zone might need to
erase all that visual stimulation before a talk.
Closing your eyes for a few moments lets you
retreat from the crowds without having to leave
the room. Just make sure you're not facing the
audience when you do this one.The lectern: Lecterns are the original speakers'
armor, serving as a comfort zone right on stage
or at the front of the meeting room. They hide
two-thirds of you physically, give you a place to
keep a photo or other feel-good reminder near-
by, stash your script--all of which might make
you feel more in control. Not every speaker uses
or needs a lectern, but if it helps you, go for it.
A smile: Along with breathing deeply, smiling
does everything from mask those nerves to cre-
ate the feel-good chemicals that can internallyboost your mood and make you feel more re-
laxed. It also helps to counter the natural ten-
dency of most mouths to look either flatlined or
downturned when at rest. Get balance in all
senses of the word and smile before you speak.
PUBLIC SPEAKING
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To catch the reader's attention,
place an interesting sentence or
quote from the story here.
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According to most studies, peoples number one
fear is public speaking. Number two is death.- Jerry Seinfeld
If you have the fear of public speaking, you are not
alone. You must first recognize what fear is. Fear
is the anticipation of pain. Is your fear real or im-
agined? Here are some great insights into Over-
coming Fear of Public Speaking.
Fears - The fear of being judged, making a mis-
take, not measuring up, getting hurt either men-
tally or physically can get in the way of a good per-
formance (speech, seminar, sales presentation,
etc). Remember that people in the audience really
want you to succeed. Nobody is standing there
hoping youll be boring or bad. If you are coming
from an authentic place, and you cover the materi-
al with clarity, youve won 3/4 of your inner battle
with fear.
Learn how to enroll and engage your audi-
ence -If you havent yet taken a professional de-
velopment course on public speaking, consider
finding a public speaking training course appro-
priate for your needs. Learning the art of public
speaking can enhance your results in a board-
room, in a sales presentation, and even acceler-
ate your climb up the corporate ladder. It is a
must-skill for any executive and/or businessowner.
Practice - Find business organizations, networks
and clubs in your area (such as Toastmasters)
that can afford you the opportunity to practice.
Remember to choose topics that you are already
an expert on. Speaking on a topic that you are
not familiar with will increase your stress, and
impede on your performance.
Use recording software - Record everything onyour PC/laptop. Review it to see where you can
improve. Have speaking pros attend your live
presentation to give you feedback. Allow yourself
the opportunity to learn more every time you go
out.
Remember, even the top professionals learn
something new every single time they go out!
Overcoming Fear of Public Speaking
A-Z of Leadership Behaviours
A - Assertive, Approachable, AccountableB - Balanced, Brave
C - Creative, Coherent, Curious
D - Decisive, Delegating
E - Enthusiastic, Empowering, Encouraging
F - Focussed, Flexible
G - Goal-Orientated, Governing
H - Honest, Helpful, Happy
I - Intuitive, Intelligent
J - Just
K - Knowledgeable
L - Listener, Lawful
M - Motivational, Mindful, Mentor
N - Nurturing, NobleO - Objective, Open, Opportunist
P - Perceptive, Progressive, Personable
Q - Questioning
R - Reliable, rational
S - Self motivating, Strategist
T - Trustworthy, Thinker
U - Understanding
V - Versatile, Venerable
W - Willing, Wise
X Xenophilou
Y - Yearning
Z - Zealous
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HATS OFF, GIFTY!
We are proud of you
Our member, Dr.Gifty Immanuel MDfrom Tuticorin, India was
elected into the prestigious Pontifical Academy at Vatican. The Acade-
my deals with the defense of life in matters related to euthanasia,
stem cells research etc. Members are drawn from a diverse group of
physicians, bioethicists and scien-
tists worldwide. The picture was
taken during Papal audience after
induction of new members into the
Academy.
We wish him all the success fromTuticorin Palms Toastmasters.
BIRTHDAY WISHESTM. GIFTY IMMANUEL, celebrates his birthday on Mar 26.TM.SANTHA SAMUEL, celebrates her birthday on Mar 29.Mr. DINESH BALAJI, son of TM.Uma Maheswari celebrated his birthday on Mar 2.Mrs. KAVITHA, spouse of TM. Sagayaraj celebrated her birthday on Mar 17.Mrs. KAVITHA, spouse of TM. Ponvenkatesh celebrates her birthday on Mar 28.Mr. ARUMUGASAMY, spouse of TM.Uma Maheswari celebrates his birthday on Mar 23.
RUMPET MAR, 2012
TUTICORIN PALMS
TOASTMASTERS CLUB
www.toastmasters.org
Administrative Ofice:
20/1,VVD Road,
Tuticorin-628 003.
Tel.No.: 0461-2330856
Training Centre:
PALMS Centre,
84-D, South Raja Street,
Indian Chamber Building,
Tuticorin-628 001.
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