RomanceWhat
should I do?
Mental States
Emotional States
Physical States
Altered States
Atmosphere
SensesSensual
Putting the kink in it
Chapters
What should I do?
Mental
• A woman need to be mentally stimulated in order to acknowledge a man’s intention.
Emotional
• A woman wants to be emotionally stimulated.
Physical
• Sensual touch vs. sexual touch is an important distinction.
Altered Stated
Atmosphere
• Creating a romantic atmosphere can be simple or complex, depending on the mood.
Senses
• Stimulation of the senses can enhance romance.
• Smell • Tactile• Visual
Sensual
• Sensual touch vs. sexual touch can communicate romantic messages.
Timing
• Timing is important for romance
Putting the kink in it - The Basics
NegotiationPleasure and pain
Spank meTie me up, tie me down
Candles can be fun
D and STools of the trade
Fetish WearPhysiologyToo Much?
Chapters
Negotiations
• In a vanilla relationship there are a lot of power struggles.
• During the “Scene” you must agree on who is “Dominant” and who is “Submissive”.
• The “Safe Word” must be established.• The submissive drives the scene and can end it
with a word.
Communication is key
• Communication is the key to any relationship. • Communication of your fantasy and interests
must be mutual.• Communication of your fantasy and interests
must be honest.
Pleasure and Pain
• Pleasure can be derived from some minor pain.
• Remember that if you can’t laugh while you’re playing, its too rough.
Spank me
• Spanking is a fine art.• Warm up is necessary and desirable.• Spanking can be fun!
Tie me up, Tie me down
• Bondage can be fun!• Use smooth and sensual materials.– Silk Scarves– Smooth RopeTie loosely, in a comfortable position, your partner
should be able to “escape” with little effort.
Candles can be fun
• Pure paraffin candles – light colors• Use at height• Don’t light your partner on fire!• Wax is hot, messy and a wonderful sensation!
D and S
• D = Dominant• S = submissive• The Dom(me) sets the scene, plans for it and
seduces the sub.• The sub drives the scene (see negotiation) and
allows the Dom(me) to take control.
Out of the bedroom
• D and s is over when the scene is over.• The normal relationship resumes outside of
the bedroom.• D and s is not to be abused, it is a mutual
decision.
Tools of the trade
• There are many “tools” one can purchase on line for lots of money OR you can go to a hardware store and find plenty of “tools”
• Cane• Clips• Tape• Paint stirring sticks• Smooth rope cut by the foot
Fetish Wear
• Fetish wear can be expensive, but is fun!
CorsetsGlovesBootsHeelsStockings
Physiology
Too Much?
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