The Essential 6 Rs of Bullying
PreventionHow to Create Safe, Caring, Moral Learning Climates and Reduce Bullying on Our School
Campuses
by Michele Borba, Ed. D.
1. Set clear rules.2. Teach how to recognize bullying.3. Teach how to report bullying.4. Teach how to respond to bullying.5. Teach how to refuse bullying.6. Replace current beliefs or behavior.
The Essential 6 Rs
“Any failure to treat bullying, abuse and violence seriously,
because it occurs between students, within schools, is a violation of a child’s human
rights.”
Social banter Hurtful teasing Mean, subtle body language Aggressive physical behaviors, e.g. pushing, shoving, kicking Malicious gossip, e.g. online bullying, chat rooms Sexual, gender, racist, religious harassment Social exclusion – in person, electronic Mobbing Hazing Extortion/bribery Phone, cyber abuse Damage to property Physical violence Use of weapons Criminal act Murder
“Any failure to treat bullying, abuse and violence seriously,
because it occurs between students, within schools, is a violation of a child’s human
rights.”
* name-calling
* harassing, yelling, insulting
or nagging
* verbal demands or threats
* making a noise as the target
walks past, and
* phone abuse, nasty notes,
Internet, email, SMS texting and
other electronic forms.
Types of bullying
Social. Spreading rumors, intentionally leaving others out of activities on purpose, breaking up friendships are all examples of social bullying.
* pretending to be friendly to the target and then sporadically turning against him
* as the target approaches, the group giving him ‘the silent treatment’ and turning their backs
* the bully saying something to the target and walking off before he can reply
* pointing, staring, sniggering, laughing, making faces, mimicking, or whispering with others while looking at the target
· threatening poses, menacing gestures, ‘the
look’
· excluding the child from the peer group, conversation, planned activities or games
· not sharing a seat while pretending to save it
for someone else.
· malicious gossip and rumours designed to make
other children denigrate the target, e.g. exposing his
secrets to others, and
· extortion and threats, e.g. ‘I won’t be your friend if
you don’t buy me a snack’, ‘You won’t come to my
party if you don’t give me your project to copy’.
Types of bullyingPhysical. This traditional form of bullying involves hitting, punching, shoving and other acts of intention physical harm.
· pushing, shoving, kicking, pinching,
punching, bumping, knocking, hair-pulling,
physical restraint, tripping up, and the use
of weapons
· stealing books, lunch or other possessions
from a desk or locker
· throwing someone’s belongings around
the classroom
· interfering with or damaging a child’s clothes,
belongings in his desk, locker or elsewhere, e.g.
pushed over, broken or hidden
· taking away the chair as a child is about to sit on
it
· locking him in a room or cupboard, putting his
head in a toilet
· flicking water at the child from the tap, flicking
bits of paper or rubber bands, and
· sabotaging homework or computer studies.
Types of bullyingCyberbullying. This method of bullying involves using the Internet, texting, email and other digital technologies to harm others.
Refer to the HandoutHow to Spot a Bully
Bullying Behavior
Types of Bullies: Saltwater Crocodiles; Fowls that Play Foul;
How to Spot a Target
How One Becomes a Target
Warning Signs: Physical, Academic, Emotional, Social,
Refer to the Handout
Effects of Bullying: Physical, Intellectual, Social, Self-Esteem, Emotional, Psychological
Long-Term Psychological Damage
Action Plan at Home
Poorly chosen words can stifle enthusiasm, dampen spirits, and be both offensive and hurtful. In short, they can poison the atmosphere.
- Prof. Erwin Hall
1. Bragging
2. Swearing/Vulgar Words
3. Gossip
4. Angry Words
5. Lies
6. Hurtful Words
7. Judgemental Words
8. Self-Pity Words
9. Discouraging Remarks
10. Embarrassing/Humiliating
11. Criticism/Fault-Finding
12. Complaining/Whining
13. Rude/Inconsiderate
14. Teasing
15. Manipulation
16. Insincere Compliments/Flattery
17. Ethnic/Racial Slurs
18. Sexist Comments
19. Age-related Putdowns
20. Being Negative
21. Threats
22. Arguing
23. Interrupting
24. Pasikatan
25. Being a know-it-all
26. Sarcasm
27. Yelling/Screaming
Let’s make our homes and schools better places. We can start by banning
all toxic verbal weapons.
- L. Harry Goldman
1. Give encouragement
2. Express Thanks
3. Acknowledge Others
4. Extend Greetings
5. Give a Compliment
6. Congratulate Someone
7. Teach, Give Instruction
8. Offer Words of Comfort
9. Inspire Others
10. Celebrate and Cheer
11. Express Interest
12. Mend Relationships
13. Make Others Laugh
14. Show Faith & Trust
15. Share Good News
16. Praise, Honor
17. Express Caring
18. Show Understanding
19. Give Approval
20. Extend an Invitation
21. Show Courtesy/Respect
22. Give Helpful Advice
23. Apologize
24. Forgive
25. Offer to Help
26. Tell the Truth
27. Point out the Good
Research Showed:1. Good schools ensure a clean and secure physical environment.
2. Good schools promote and model fairness, equity, caring and respect.
3. In good schools, students contribute in meaningful ways.
4. Good schools promote a caring community and positive social relationships.
Choosing an Atmosphere
Rude CourteousInconsiderateConsiderateDisrespectful RespectfulOffensive Polite
James Stenson
Children develop character by what they
see, what they hear, and what they are
repeatedly led to do.
Improving School Climate
Preventing Bullying Through Character Formation
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