Parenting and the Internet
Everything you ever wanted to knowabout what your kids knowabout the Internet!
Who am I? “The Internet is the
first thing that humanity has built that humanity doesn't understand, the largest experiment in anarchy that we have ever had.” Eric Schmidt, Chairman and CEO of Google Inc.
Objectives…
Give a general overview of how kids are using the internet today
Point out areas that may need guidance and direction
Give tips on how you can help your child be a responsible and safe user
Answer your questions
Brief History of the Internet
"When I took office, only high energy physicists had ever heard of what is called the Worldwide Web.... Now even my cat has its own page." President Clinton
The future of the internet & kids
Kids and the Internet – Where do they go on?
Me & the Internet
Teen (& Parent) Internet Usage
More parents and teens are online Some 93% of youth are online and
94% of their parents are online. Overall, 87% of parents who have a child ages 12-17 use the internet, up from 80% in the 2004 survey.
PEW/Internet: Parent & Teenager Internet Use, October 24, 2007
Big Dangers… XXX Online Gambling Cyberbullying – Aggressor, Bystander or
Victim Predators
Target & prey on “vulnerable” kids Groom over long period of time Try to be a best friend Send gifts, blackmail with secrets
“Addiction”
How kids are using the internet … INFORMATION: News, Blogs, Databases,
GoogleBook, Wikipedia COMMUNICATION: Email, Instant
Messaging, Blogs, SOCIALIZATION: Social Networking Sites-
MySpace, Facebook, YouTube, ENTERTAINMENT: YouTube, Games COMMERCE: Amazon, EBay, Banking &
Finance ….& combinations of everything!
INFORMATION
"Getting information off the Internet is like taking a drink from a fire hydrant." Mitch Kapor
Real or Hoax?
http://www.museumofhoaxes.com/tests
Love it or hate it? www.google.com www.wikipedia.com TRY… www.lii.org www.ipl.org Online
Databases Talk to your
librarian
INFORMATION: Things to consider
Authoritative Sites Plagiarism Intellectual Property Rights Accidental visits to bad websites
COMMUNICATION
User agreements
http://collect.myspace.com/misc/terms.html
http://about.aol.com/aolnetwork/aolcom_terms
COMMUNICATION :Things to consider There is no privacy Beware of lurkers, predators, phishers
(identity theft) Open to spam, viruses Permanence of blogs, webpages, social
sites Who do you *really* know Netiquette http://www.albion.com/netiquette/ Downloading can be criminal Developmental stages and maturity of the
child
Internet Sex Offenders
Often adult men who use the internet to meet and seduce adolescents into sexual encounters (not pedophiles)
Often use chat rooms to solicit adolescents
Seek those who are susceptible to seduction
Rarely violent
Online “Predators” and Their Victims (Feb 2008): University of New Hampshire Internet Solutions for Kids, Inc.
Internet Victims 99% Adolescents (13-17), Girls are more
vulnerable 73% of the victims had more than one
sexual encounter with the offender Sexual curious, may be confused about
their sexual orientation (especially boys) Send personal information to unknown
people Suffer from sadness, loneliness, depression
and/or more likely to engage in risky behavior
Online “Predators” and Their Victims (Feb. 2008): University of New Hampshire Internet Solutions for Kids, Inc.
Chat acronyms ASL: Age/Sex/Location POS: Parent over shoulder PIR: Parent in room PAW: Parents are watching PAL: Parents are listening KPC: Keeping parents clueless WYCM?: Will you call me LMIRL: Let’s meet in real life KFY: Kiss for you TDTM: Talk dirty to me
Web cams – new & emerging
New computers are being shipped with web cams
Live chats NIFOC:Nude in front of computer
SOCIALIZATION
SOCIALIZATION :Things to consider
User agreement How much information to reveal A picture is worth a thousand words Who will use this information How will this information be spread Privacy options Lurkers, predators
College applications, internships, school conduct…
…education company Kaplan, a unit of Washington Post Co.,surveyed 500 top colleges. The study found that 10% of admissions officers acknowledged researching social network profiles to evaluate applicants. 38% of the colleges that factor information gathered from the social web revealed that their findings "negatively affected" their views of the applicant, with several admissions officers rejecting students because of the publicly shared content.
College Applicants, Beware: Your Facebook Page Is Showing By JOHN HECHINGER, Wall Street Journal, September 18, 2008
Socialization*different ages –different developmental phases*
Teens & Social Media: Pew Report December 2007
55% of online teens (ages 12-17) have created a social networking site such as MySpace or Facebook
47% of online teens have uploaded photos where others can see them (39% restrict access “most of the time”)
14% of online teens have posted videos
Let’s take a look…
www.myspace.com www.facebook.com www.clubpenguin.com Instant messaging www.youtube.com
ENTERTAINMENT
ENTERTAINMENT:Things to consider
Sites are not rated Lurkers, predators Time spent on these sites
COMMERCE
COMMERCE:Things to consider
Teaching to kids to be a savvy consumer
Secure payment options Identity theft
More, more, more-all at once!
The good news is…
YOU know your child best! YOU have parenting instincts…trust
them! YOU are the most influential teacher
and model for your child! YOU know more than you think you
do about the internet! YOU can be a part of the cyber world
Learning to drive the information highway
Hints & Ideas Warn kids not to reveal any
identifying information or to have an in-person meeting from someone online
Work to set reasonable expectations Be a part of the virtual world Join same networks, share passwords,
etc. – Learn how the site operates Ask questions
Hints & Ideas
Find fun sites you can share > Start with your shared interests: knitting, cooking, travel, science
Teachable moments Require that all online activity take
place in a central area of the home Remind kids to trust their instincts Remind kids that they can trust you
Hints & ideas Discuss the possibilities of cyberbullying:
victim, participant, bystander Discuss the possibility of telling on a friend
who is in trouble or in danger from online activity
Discuss pornography and your views Discuss relationships and sexual
relationships: what they entail, what is a healthy relationship, etc.
Internet safety is an ongoing lesson
Hints & Ideas
Internet History Filtering Logging Nanny software *These usually do not work
And just a few more :>)
Help kids practice goodergonomics Help kids learn organizational skills Help kids learn tech-tidiness Help kids learn to save & back-up Help kids learn computer time
management
Some warning signs
Becomes more withdrawn or other marked change in behavior
Quickly clicks out of a web page when you come in the room
Child has manyon-line accounts
YOUR instincts
Concerned?
Reach out to child Contact Internet sites & providers Work with school Contact authorities Contact legislators
Internet Sites I-Safe :: www.isafe.org www.WiredSafety.org http://www.cyberbullying http://www.enough.org http://www.ryanpatrickhalligan.org/ A website that highlights the personal story of one boy
and cyberbullying. This site also gives specifics on Vermont’s laws and policies.
http://www.cyberbullyhelp.com/ http://www.netfamilynews.org http://www.ikeepsafe.org/
Questions?
Objectives…did we meet them?
Give a general overview of how kids are using the internet today
Point out areas that may need guidance and direction
Give tips on how you can help your child be a responsible and safe user
Answer your questions
The End
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