Interpersonal Communication ProjectCommunicating with a Fierce Conversation
Santosha Deen HSER 508Liberty University
Communication Where Humanness Happens
• Communication is the continuous, complex, collaborative process of verbal and nonverbal meaning making. (Stewart, 2012)
• Communication derives from the root word “commune” sharing information and connecting with others. (Peterson, 2007)
• The spiritually minded believe you can also commune with God. (Peterson, 2007)
Overarching GoalObtaining a Fierce Conversation
IntenseStrongPowerfulPassionateEagerRobust
conversation
(Stewart, 2012)
Overarching Goal Obtaining a Fierce Conversation
• Not to operate in anger or hostility;
Being genuinely present
Authentic in as many as possible
of the conversations you experience (Stewart, 2012)
• “The goal of an intense conversation is to get reality on the table where you can deal with it”(McVey, 2010)
• A recent study shows that most students engineer responses to
please the teacher without conversation or collaboration. They
are just wanting to get the right answer (Kipp-Newbold, 2010)
Obtaining a Fierce ConversationFor the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.Hebrews 4:12
Enlarging the conversationObtaining a Fierce Conversation
• Enlarging the conversation is when we conquer the flaws/demons that can hinder our personalities from operating to its fullest. This means we are able to function with different personalities and are capable of responding to people who may think or respond differently than we do.
• I have concluded that enlarging the conversation has a lot to do with self-control.
The Four Temperament Model of Human Behavior
• Passive/People-oriented
• Steady, stable, shy, specialists, submissive
• Passive/ Task-oriented
• Cautious, competent, careful, compliant
• Active/People –oriented
• Inspiring, influencing, interested in people
• Active/ Task-oriented
• Directing, driving, demanding
D I
SC
(Carbonell,2008)
My Behavioral BlendI am expected to be an SThis is me C/S
D I S C
Graph 1
D I S C
Graph 2
Uniquely You Profile
My DISC Tendencies I AM
D - is direct to the point
I - promoting, encouraging, smiling happy
S - True Blue, Calm Obedient, Compassionate, Generous, Loyal, Sweet, Merciful
C- Conscientious, Thinker, Inquisitive
I’M NOT
D - demanding, opinionated, controlling
I - Popular, clowning, talkative
S - soft spoken , timidC - Perfectionists,
Precise
Uniquely You Profile
Interpersonal Skills Test• Can interpret
other people’s words and actions
• Few misunderstandings
• See things from other peoples perspective
• Empathy • Will adjust
yourself according to what other people are thinking
Interpersonal Communi-cation Skills
1 Insightful
Quenching The Fierce Conversation
Being Out Of Control
• Fear• Not speaking out• Not allowing time for
myself• Only listening to people• “Sucker”
(Carbonell, 2008)
Fueling The Fierce Conversation
Mature or In Control• Education and
experience has a way of strengthening my personality
• Although considered an introvert I can act like and extrovert
• People no longer see me as a nerd but a knowledgeable person.
(Carbonell,2008)
• Not Having a Response To Malevolent or Benevolent lies “Let her lie”• Listening with the “Flat-
Brain”• Out of Control thoughts• Not allowing the speaker
to talk• Not studying the Bible
Potential barriers to interpersonal communication
Dealing with potential barriers to interpersonal communication
• Play detective• Restore truth• Non judgmental• Empathetic Listening• Taking ownership of
thoughts and feelings• Help the Talker give birth to
their conversation• Transform my mind
(Romans 12:1-2)
Noise Pollution
• My beliefs• My Experiences• Actual Noise• Visual Distractions
Solution To External Noise PollutionDo• Listen with understanding • Be non judgmentally and
noncritical• Have eye contact• Face the person with an
open relaxed posture• Acknowledge the talker by Nodding head Leaning forward Making facial expressions that match the talkers feelings
Do Not• Interrupt• Fidget• Tune out
what the other person is saying
( Burley-Allen, 1995)
Solutions To Internal Noise Pollution
• Listen to yourself (Burley-Allen,1995)
Going Somewhere Cycle
Situation
Thought
Process
Behavior
Feelings
A Plan of Action Obtaining a Fierce Conversation
• Search for Something to use; find areas of common interest
• Take the initiative• Work at listening• Focus Your Attention on Ideas• Make meaningful Notes• Resist External Distractions• Hold Rebuttal; Watch Out for Hot Buttons• Keep an Open Mind: Ask Questions to
Clarify for Understanding• Summarize• Practice Regularly• Analyze What Is Said Nonverbally• Evaluate and Be Critical of Content, Not
the Speaker’s Delivery
Burley-Allen ,1995
A Plan of Action Obtaining a Fierce Conversation
Study The Word Of God And Apply It To My Conversation
Colossians 4:6
Bibliography
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Bibliography Continued
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