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HakolMarch/April 2016 Adar/Nisan 5776
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Rabbi’s Word | Rabbi Pete Synagogue membership: Lifelong commitment or lifestyle choice?
S everal hundred years ago, membership of
a synagogue was not a question for Jews. It was a certainty. You lived in a town or village. You belonged to a synagogue - usually THE synagogue, because it was likely that there was only one in whatever place you lived in. You contributed to that synagogue’s coffers to the best of your ability because your entire life centred around it and its activities. Its main functions were (in order of priority): burying the dead, educating the children, (i.e. boys), providing a focal point for life-cycle events and communal worship, supporting a rabbi whose role was to ensure that Jewish law was properly observed. Every aspect of your life would be governed by the synagogue and the cycle of the Jewish calendar
- from the moment you were born until the moment you died.
Then came the Enlightenment and Jews became more and more assimilated into the wider societies in which they lived. Gradually synagogues and membership of/involvement in the Jewish community became an option rather than the central element of Jews’ lives. Of course people still needed to be buried, wanted their children to be educated, even occasionally yearned to pray or find out something about Jewish practice. But with the change in the position of Jews in society, these aspects of their lives had to vie with several other obligations and opportunities: employment, secular education, leisure options. Increasing amounts of time
and money were being devoted to employment, demands of state education and involvement in activities ranging from gyms and golf clubs to hobbies and vacations. Add to those the cost of maintaining a household and keeping up with the latest gadgets and fashions, and participation in, and commitment to synagogue life moved slowly down the list of priorities in the lives of Jewish families.
In many ways the synagogue became increasingly irrelevant. Strict observance of Jewish law was no longer an issue for the majority of Jews. Attendance at synagogue services dwindled as the pattern of people’s lives became moulded to the secular calendar. Jewish education was seen as being less important than its secular equivalent -
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and then came Jewish
schools, which ostensibly
combined the demands
of state education with
the infusion of Jewish
knowledge (though it
is fairly clear that the
Jewish element of
their pupils’ education
comes a poor second to
the demand for GCSE
and ’A’ level success).
So what’s left? Bar-/
bat-mitzvah, maybe
marriage, and burial.
High Holyday and other
services perhaps? Bar-/
bat-mitzvah comes when
you’re thirteen; the time
for the other life-cycle
moments is less easy to
predict. Attendance at
religious services - even
High Holydays - is on the
wane.
For centuries the
synagogue has been
there for Jews whenever
they have needed it.
Now that they need it
less, because there is so
much on offer beyond
its walls, many of them
only return to it on those
occasions when they feel
it has something specific
to offer them. In the
intervening time, when
it seems to have nothing
to give them, many are
reluctant to pay what
is needed to sustain an
institution that has been
in existence for more
than two millennia. It
simply isn’t a priority. So
synagogue membership
has changed from being
a lifelong commitment to
being a lifestyle choice.
The question that
demands to be asked is
surely this: if synagogue
membership is a choice
that is only made
when it fits in with an
individual’s or family’s
lifestyle, how long will
it be before synagogues
become starved of
resources? The time is
surely coming when,
having decided for many
years that membership
of and contribution to
a synagogue is not a
priority, a family suddenly
encounters a need for
what the synagogue
has to offer. But it’s no
longer there, because for
too long, it didn’t fit into
people’s lifestyles and it
simply could not sustain
itself…
Of course there are those
who remain committed
to the synagogue even
during those times in
their lives when they
appear to have little or
no need of its services.
But there is a serious
question here that needs
to be debated. Why is it
that some people see
synagogue membership
as a lifelong commitment
while others,
increasingly, see it only
as a lifestyle choice? That
question speaks to the
future of Judaism in this
country, to the future of
The Liberal Synagogue
Elstree. Any contributions
to the debate - either
through the pages of
Hakol, by e-mail to me or
attendance at one of our
open council meetings
or the AGM - will be
most welcome, and most
necessary.
Rabbi Pete Tobias
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TLSE COUNCIL MEETINGS:
With most people maintaining such busy lives, working long hours and keeping
their families organized and happy… there isn’t much time left over for Volunteering as a member of the TLSE Council!
Attending Council meetings has become more and more challenging in terms of getting people together mid week. And although monthly meetings still take place as stipulated by the constitution, the structure of those meetings has now changed and is achieving a much more productive result. For those Council members unavailable mid week, they can now still make a contribution to the running of the synagogue.
Formal Council meetings will now take place every other month on a Wednesday between 8-10pm in February, April, June, August, October, December.
This is where more formal synagogue matters are discussed relating to the financial security and operational efficiency of the TLSE charity.
Sunday working party sessions take place every other
month on a Sunday between 2-5pm in March, May, July, September, November.
These meetings, although they have a set agenda, are less structured and focus on areas of TLSE such as Education, Social Events and Care & Welfare.
If you are interested in getting involved in the running of your synagogue, please contact the office and Virginia Jaffe, our Vice Chair, will contact you to chat further.
What’s been happening
recently at TLSE?
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SUPERBOWL OR SOUP BOWL?
While Rabbi Pete was in LA spending time with family and supporting his team, Denver Broncos to win Super Bowl 50, we were fortunate to have Student Rabbi Danny Newman lead TLSE through Shabbat services.
Kabbalat Shabbat supper, we sat around the trestle tables as a community, where Student Rabbi Danny led us through candle lighting, “enjoying” the kiddush wine and brought traditions from his father of tearing the challah and throwing it to the diners. After the immortal words, “it’s time for dinner”, we ate, chatted and righted the wrongs of the world. Even after a bowl of profiteroles were devoured, Student Rabbi Danny managed to engage the younger generation into more singing.
For our Shabbat morning service, Student Rabbi Danny led an informal, thought-provoking service with a sermon filled with anecdotes of his personal journey that led him to be where he is today, studying to be a Liberal Rabbi. Again, at every Jewish gathering, food must be included, so we shared the wine, freshly-baked homemade challah and other delights around the kiddush table.
We may have our one of a kind Rabbi Pete who has very large shoes to fill, but Student Rabbi Danny is certainly on the right track of paving his own path.
A GOODBYE BUT NOT FAREWELL
After 6 years of running the TLSE office, Rebecca Davey is now moving onto pastures new,
as at the end of February. As chairman, I would like to be the first to thank Rebecca for
her loyalty, commitment and continuous effort in keeping everything behind the scenes
happening as it should, during all of her time with us. Running the TLSE Office, on the
surface, may appear as a straightforward role. But those closer to the action, know the
amount of tasks that need to be coordinated, chased up, typed up, followed through, not
to mention the fair bit of coercing required to make it all come together smoothly. Rebecca
has, over those 6 years, shared an office with Rabbi Pete…..that alone deserves a special
mention and a hearty well done!
Rebecca, on behalf of the Council who have worked closely
with you plus all of the members you have taken care of over
this time, we all wish you really good luck in the next chapter
of your life and look forward to seeing you and Connor
around TLSE…in a less formal capacity.
Nick Belkin
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KABBALAT TORAH SERVICE—30TH JANUARY 2016
The three members of the 2015 Kabbalat Torah group took part in a memorable Holocaust Memorial service in January. The focus of the service was the Kindertransport, with particular emphasis on the role of Sir Nichols Winton, who died in July 2015.
Arranged around the shul were several displays that the KT participants had prepared in the weeks leading
up to their service . Congregants moved between H3 and the shul on more than one occasion in an effort to simulate to a tiny extent the disruption faced by those families who bade farewell to their children. Readings and recordings of statements made by Sir Nichols and the children he saved featured during the service.
After reading from the Torah, Max, Talia and Oliver were presented with certificates and the books they had chosen. Thus ended the 2015 KT experience - and immediately after the service, KT 2016 began...
What’s been happening
recently at TLSE?
THE GATE RETURNS...
Members will have noticed that for the last nine months, our entrance gate has not been functioning. At all.
Thanks to the brave and tireless efforts of our Honorary Secretary, Davina Bennett, there is now a new gate in place. It opens smoothly and silently, its mechanism is safely located underground and the communication system between the office and the gate now works. The code number remains unchanged (if you do not know what it is, please ask the office).
Please drive slowly and carefully up to and through the gate. Thank you.
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TOTS & SCHOLARS PRE SCHOOL HAS FINALLY ARRIVED!
If you only visited TLSE after 5pm on a Friday and before 8am on a Monday, apart from a new sign on the front of our building, you would not be able to tell that starting in mid March, Tots and Scholars pre-school (children aged 24 months to 5 years) owned and run by Demi Jaiyeola, now operates a pre-school nursery from our premises. Having passed a very successful Ofsted inspection on Thursday 4th February, Tots and Scholars will officially open its doors to children from the middle of March. A great deal of preparation has been underway to ensure everything was in place and ready for the launch - with much clearing, sorting, tidying, cleaning and organising!
The pre-school operating hours are Monday to Thursday 8am to 6pm and Fridays 8am to 5pm. The pre-school is closed during all of the Jewish Holidays and operates a slightly different schedule to normal for the last Tuesday of the month when the lunch club is in full swing.
During the week between Monday to Friday (only)
• Tots & Scholars DO NOT use the main sanctuary at any time and COMPLETELY pack away by 5pm on a Friday
• Tots & Scholars pay TLSE for the sole use of H3, library, toilets opposite H3, Sukkah area, upstairs classroom, beanbag room and upstairs office. During their agreed operating hours these areas are out of use to TLSE
• TLSE & Tots and Scholars share the use of the entrance way & kitchen facilities. The pre-school have a small amount of allocated storage space in a kitchen, the fridge & the freezer which is clearly marked
• Tots and Scholars DO NOT use the kitchen facilities on the last Tuesday of the month (Lunch club) until after 3pm
• The exit gate is out of use to everyone during the week, as there is a children’s play area situated just outside the main shul front door. The removable fence & gate securing the play area allows access for ALL visitors to the shul, via the pedestrian gate
• For security and safety purposes, given the increased flow of visitor traffic into the synagogue, ALL visitors to TLSE during pre-school operating hours, are asked to simply sign in & out of the premises in a book held in the TLSE entrance foyer so as to keep track of all persons in the building at any one time
• A team of commercial cleaners, employed by Tots & Scholars pre-school, maintain the cleanliness of the synagogue daily
• You will notice the TLSE car park lines have been refreshed to create a entry / exit path for parents dropping their children off at the pre-school on weekdays.
• TLSE parking at weekends, is EXACTLY the same as always!
• Designated parking spaces have been allocated to TLSE staff, TLSE visitors (including members), Pre-School staff , as well as two local companies who pay TLSE to park specifically agreed cars during the week, along the back wall of the car park
If there is anything more you would like to know about how the pre-school operates alongside the synagogue, please feel free to contact me on [email protected] or 07870 234775 and I’ll be happy to chat. Virginia (Ginny) Jaffe, Vice chairman.
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AGM Notice is hereby given that...The Liberal Synagogue Elstree 47th Annual General Meeting
Will take place on Wednesday 11th May 2016 at 8.00 pm
Nomination forms for members of the congregation to stand for Council and the
agenda will be published at a later date.
L iberal Judaism has officially launched the
Biennial Weekend 2016, 'Thinking Outside the Book'. We are pleased to be able to announce that our Early Bird Prices are even LOWER than 2014 - £250 for adults, £60 for students and children aged 5-16 and £40 for those under 5. These will end on 29 February 2016, when prices will go up to £310 for adults, £100 for children aged 5-16 and £60 for those under 5. Student tickets will remain at £60. So book now!
Liberal Judaism's Biennial Conference is the biggest event in our calendar and will take place from 7pm on Friday 1 July until 4pm on Sunday 3 July 2016, at a brand new venue - the St Johns Hotel in Solihull. This wonderful Conference and Leisure hotel is only an eight minute walk from Solihull
station, minutes away from the M42 and close to Birmingham International Airport. Liberal Judaism will have exclusive occupancy of this spacious and stylish hotel.
Liberal Judaism is in the initial stages of developing a new Siddur, this is a chance to be part of thinking what this will look like, but even more so it is an opportunity to think of new ways to use music, literature and arts within our communities. The Conference aims to combine study with practical explorations of what it means to enliven and enrich our congregations and our own personal spiritual, cultural and social Jewish lives. Rabbi Charley Baginsky, chair of the Biennial Weekend organising committee, said:
"Liberal Judaism has always been at the forefront of Progressive Jewish life,
pushing us to think about the future in ways that can build on our heritage and our past"
Of course the social aspect of Biennial is always an essential part of the weekend, with plenty of opportunities to see old friends and make new ones, learn, discuss, share, sing and pray in a warm and friendly environment.
Book now online, in order to secure your place, by following the linkhttp://tinyurl.com/bien2016 or for more information call Aaron at the Montagu Centre on 020 7631 9830
The rate is per person and includes accommodation, all meals and materials. All delegates will receive complimentary access to the hotel’s health club, swimming pool and spa. Day attendance bookings are also available.
LJ Biennial weekend
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Molly Berger; Isaac Cyzer; Renee Cyzer; Talia Jones; Leon Leighton; Alisha Pearl-Constantinescu; Amelia San; James Savage; Angelina Curshen.
Jamie Berger for his Bar-mitzvah on Saturday 5th March.
Deadline for next issue of Hakol will
be Thursday 12th April
Dear Editor,
It comes to something when I start writing to myself so perhaps this should be addressed
to TLSE Council members.
I was very sorry not to see TLSE represented in the Mitzvah Day pictures in LJ today, or
for that matter in any other publication. Of course, I understand that this was because
we had no specific Mitzvah Day activity. I know a small number of members help with
the Borehamwood Food Bank and we are looking at ways to help Syrian refugees, but I
wonder if we could arrange to get involved in a Mitzvah Day activity next year?
You may respond by telling me to organize something myself, instead of having a
moan but, if I were to, it would probably be in St Albans which doesn’t seem the most
appropriate venue.
Come on Council- can’t we give it a go for next year.
Tina Shaw.
Stuart & Anne Abrahams;
John & Lilly Ainley;
Vivienne Schuster;
Paul & Judith Maisner;
Andrea Clare;
Ben Abrahams / Lucy Isaacs;
Jamie Dalton & Rachel Tredler;
Rachel Esner & Paul Christian.
Welcome to New Members!
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A large crowd attended a further meeting
which was held in St
Albans on 31st January
(although I didn’t spot any
other Jewish participants
except Rabbi Pete).
Several speakers gave
an update on progress in
enabling Syrian families
and unaccompanied
children to settle in
the UK and sadly the
progress is depressingly
slow.
1000 people have arrived
under the government’s
Vulnerable Person’s
Scheme (VPS) and so far none have been placed in Hertfordshire. 500 of those who have arrived are children and the families include some of
the most vulnerable and traumatized, as identified by UNHCR. The government are offering a high level of funding for the first year and further funding for up to five years. They will already have refugee status, so will be able to work, and will be offered free language tuition for one year, as well as free health care and education.
Private accommodation for rental, foster homes for the children and befriending will all be needed.
There were further
speakers, including a
Syrian surgeon who has
been in UK for eleven
years, having fled the
brutality of the Assad
regime, and his wife who
spoke about the cultural
differences which the
families would need help
adjusting to. There was
also a therapist who
spoke about working with
traumatized children
and their families, and a
report on women within
Syria finding non-violent
ways forward.
Overall, it was heartening
to see so much goodwill
amongst the audience
but just as disheartening
to learn that it may take
until June to see the first
family arrive in St Albans.
We were urged to lobby
our MPs and the Council
to make our support for
refugees known.
Tina Shaw
Herts Welcome Syrian Families (HWSF)
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16th Jan Study
Service Schmooze
13th Feb Study
Service Schmooze
19th March Study Service
Schmooze &
Penny Beral’s 60th Kiddush
23rd March Purim
15th April Friday Night Rock
21st May QUIZ
11th & 12th June
Shauv’ot
26th July Lunch Club
25th Nov Lunch Club
24th Dec 1st Night
Chanukkah
27th Sept Lunch Club
TLSE Annual Calendar of Events
3rd October Rosh
Hashanah
23rd April Study Service
Schmooze
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16th Jan Study
Service Schmooze
13th Feb Study
Service Schmooze
19th March Study Service
Schmooze &
Penny Beral’s 60th Kiddush
23rd March Purim
15th April Friday Night Rock
21st May QUIZ
11th & 12th June
Shauv’ot
26th July Lunch Club
25th Nov Lunch Club
24th Dec 1st Night
Chanukkah
27th Sept Lunch Club
TLSE Annual Calendar of Events
3rd October Rosh
Hashanah
23rd April Study Service
Schmooze
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A-B Barbara 020 8953 1369
C-F Leone 07702 349350
G-I Carol 020 8950 1862
J-M Estelle 020 8954 9569
N-Q Peter 020 8953 1369
R-S Rita 020 8953 4439
T-Z Judy 01582 468100
Nicky 07788 751275
We are sorry to announce that Rachel
Gordon has passed away and we send our
condolences to her daughters Laureen
and Shelley and their families.
We are saddened to announce that
Elizabeth Shaine has passed away.
We send a get well soon message to Terry
Benson after his recent operation.
Alzheimer’s Society Dementia Friends talk
Learn more about dementia – what
it’s like to live with and actions you
can take.
On Wednesday 18th May 7.45 p.m. at
the synagogue, there will be a short
presentation and talk. Please put
the date in your diary, and watch out
for next Hakol for more details, or
phone Carol Hurst.
Pesach AnnouncementIf anyone requires home hospitality or can offer transport for Pesach,
please contact Carol Hurst
On Saturday 12th March, Harry & Carol Hurst are celebrating their Golden Wedding.
The service will be followed by a kiddush to which all are invited.
Jill & Ken Wright would like to wish their son James Wright mazeltov on his forthcoming marriage to Gemma Blass Sunday 13th March in Hove.
Michael & Carole Woodcock are delighted to announce their daughter, Louisa Woodcock got married to Matthew Evans on 16th January 2016.
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TLSE members: £4 Non-Members: £5
Tuesday 29 March
Tuesday 26 April
Religious Education
in State Schools
with Dame Helen Hyde Head of Watford Grammar School for Girls
If you are coming, please contact Carol
Tel: 020 8950 1862, email: [email protected]
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Date: Saturday19 MarchMeet: Bedmond Playing Fields, Toms
Lane, Bedmond WD5 0RB for a 3 to 4 mile walk
Bedmond is north of Abbots Langley. The playing fields are near the top of Toms Lane on
the west side of the villageTime: 2.15pm
Leader: Sue WoolfMobile: 07749 726650
Date: Saturday 30 April Meet: TLSE for a walk to Shenley Park This will be a one way walk and we will make sure that there will be enough cars already at
Shenley to bring everyone back to TLSETime: 2pm for 2.15pm
Leader: Lisa and Leigh RenakMobile: 07958 502526
We will be staying for a cup of tea in the tearooms after the walk
Ros, Ann and Tina on the January walk
Nancy and Sue and practicing the February walk
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P esach this year will mark the 19th anniversary of
our Shabbat walks. The first walk was on Sunday 27 April 1997 and it is wonderful to find that we are still going strong nineteen years later. The April walk this year will be on Saturday 30th April and will be led by Lisa and Leigh Renak.
At Pesach in 1997 we decided to have a matzo ramble. On Sunday 27 April we met at Redbourn for a figure of eight walk with a picnic lunch stop in the middle. Everybody enjoyed it so much that we decided to make it a regular monthly walk and to hold it on a Shabbat afternoon. Since then we have walked in all sorts of locations and in all sorts of weather and have thoroughly enjoyed every one.
I co-ordinate the walks but have a list of volunteers who take it in turns to lead the walks. The leader gets to choose the location and the length of the walk and, consequently, we have a variety of walks to suit all tastes. Over the last
nineteen years we have had many wonderful walks in some very beautiful locations. We have had many walks where the sun has been shining and just as many where the weather hasn't been quite so kind to us. Our worst weather was a walk lead by David Blake through a torrential downpour when, to my amazement, six people turned up. Lawrence took the sensible option – he drove me to the start of the walk and met me at the end but went home to sit by the fire whilst the rest of us braved the elements. We walkers all thoroughly enjoyed ourselves.
At the beginning of January Sue Woolf, Ann Etkind and I went out to practice my February walk, a four mile walk from Shenley to Ridge and back. The weather reminded me very much of David's walk all those years ago. It was raining so hard that I think we would have been better off not even starting but we braved the elements and set off. After only about a mile
or so we were all three genuinely soaked to the skin, despite having all our waterproof gear on. This time, I'm afraid, we decided to give up and made another date to practice the walk when we hoped the weather would be a little kinder to us.
If you’ve never been on one of our walks why not give it a try. Bring the children, bring the dog and join us for a stroll and a chat; it’s the ideal way to spend a Shabbat afternoon. If you come on some of the walks and enjoy them you might like to think about leading one at some time in the future. We are always looking for people willing to lead a walk, and I would be delighted to add you to the select band of volunteers who do this. Details of the walk each month, together with a contact phone number, are in Hakol and on the TLSE Facebook page, otherwise phone me on 01923 853609 or 07872 983720 or email me at [email protected].
Nancy Shavick
TLSE 19th Anniversary Shabbat Walk
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TLSE does Bake OffCalling all budding bakers!
A small group of members are putting together a Bake Off competition, this will be held in September. Would you be interested in helping to run this event? Can you bake and if so would you like to take part in a fun afternoon. The idea is to have 3 sections to the afternoon: contestants decorating a cake with a Jewish theme; a separate competition of cakes (Victoria Sponges) to be judged and a children’s activity of decorating cakes. We will need volunteers to help run the afternoon and of course take part and eat the cakes over a cup of Tea.
For details please contact Penny Beral [email protected]; or ring 01923 855367
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KT (L to R) Talia Cohen, Oliver Mendelsohn and Max Elman
Dates For Your Diary - March/April 2016
WHAT’S HAPPENING AT TLSE?
DATES FOR YOUR DIARY—MARCH/APRIL 2016
WEDNESDAY 23RD MARCH
6.00 - 7.00 pm
PURIM CELEBRATION!
SATURDAY 23RD APRIL
COMMUNAL
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