Don’t Feel Injunction

Prepared By Manu Melwin JoyResearch Scholar

School of Management StudiesCUSAT, Kerala, India.Phone – 9744551114

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Don’t Feel

Don’t Feel may be

modeled by parents who

themselves bottle up

their feelings.

Sometimes, there is an

embargo on any show of

feeling in the family.

Don’t Feel

More often, particular

feelings are prohibited

while others are allowed.

Thus the Don’t feel

injunction may be

interpreted as “Don’t

feel anger”, “Don’t feel

fear” and so on.

Don’t Feel

Sometimes the message

is read as “experience the

feeling but don’t show it”.

Other children receive

more extreme version

which enjoins them not

even to experience a

particular emotion.

Don’t Feel

Little boys, for instance are

often instructed time and

time again by their fathers:

“ Big boys don’t cry” or “Be

a brave soldier”. These

mottoes translate to “Don’t

experience sadness” and

“Don’t experience fear.”

Don’t Feel

In some families, the Don’t

feel message implies “Don’t

experience physical

sensations”. This injunction

is often given in early

infancy, if given powerfully,

it can be the source of

some severe problems in

adulthood.

Don’t Feel

For instance, a child

enjoined against feeling

hunger may later develop

an eating disorder. In the

opinion of some TA

therapist, the Don’t feel

sensations message lies at

the root of certain kind of

psychosis.

Don’t Feel

Some parents covey a

version that goes : “Don’t

feel what you feel, feel

what I feel.” Mother say to

young son: “ I am hungry.

What do you want to eat?”

or “ I am cold, go put on

your sweater.”

Thank You

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