Agility is UnsettlingPedro Pimentel
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Liminality
Definition
The quality of ambiguity or disorientation that occurs in the middle stage of rituals, when participants no longer hold their pre-ritual status but have not yet begun the transition to the status they will hold when the ritual is complete. (wikipedia)
Liminal Thinking
What do I know about this?
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A Coach
Liminal Roles ==
Growth & Change
Beliefs
Homework #1
Think of something in your life that you believe it will never change.
Beliefs are Models
Beliefs are Models
1 reality
6 Different Experiences
idea != reality
Beliefs are Models
They are not Wrong
But also not Right
Homework #2
Think of Donald Trump. Think about your beliefs regarding him. Now think of someone who has different beliefs about him. Try your best to listen and put yourself on their shoes.
Beliefs are Created
reality
experience
reality
experience
attention
reality
experience
attention
theories
judgements
reality
experience
attention
theories
judgements
beliefs
reality
experience
attention
theories
judgements
beliefs
the obvious
reality
experience
attention
theories
judgements
beliefs
the obvious
LiminalSpace
Homework #3
Choose one of your beliefsWhat personal experiences created it?What did you actually notice in those experiences? What theories and judgements were made to support this belief?Can you list different experiences that could have led to a different belief?
Beliefs Create a Shared World
Angry Cat
need belief action result
needs
beliefs
actions
results
feed
back
learning loop
Angry Cat Again
problematic cat
Punish
cat protects
food
doom loop
good cat, learn
new behaviour
reward
spend time
with cat
delight loop
Kid Tantrum
Homework #4
Think of a doom loop on your lifeDraw a diagram of the doom loop pattern.Try to convert it to a delight loop.What could you do differently?
Beliefs Create Blind Spots
Limiting Belief
Homework #5
Think of people on your life who have a belief that might be limiting you.Do you have beliefs that might be limiting others?
Beliefs Defend Themselves
They are there, we just haven’t found
them yet
US went to Iraq for a reason:WMDs
No WMDs found
Still Haven’t found them
There must be a reason or we wouldn’t have
gone in
WMD: Weapons of Mass Destruction
Self-sealing logic
seal
reality
experience
attention
theories
judgements
beliefs
Bubble of Belief
5 monkeys, 1 ladder
Introducing Change
We know people like Stability
Introducing Change
How people make sense of new ideas?
#1 Is it coherent in my bubble?
#2 Is it externally valid?
People rarely test ideas for external validity when they don’t have internal coherence.
Homework #6
Think about your relationships with family, friends, coworkers…What beliefs you share?How do you defend your beliefs when questioned?Try to sketch a diagram of the self-sealing logic.
Beliefs are Tied to Identity
Everything is going to hell
When you do everything you can but not having success or traction.
What could it be?
Governing Beliefs
Are connected to your identity.
Define YOU.
Homework #7
What do you think your governing beliefs are? Which of them create the foundations for your choices in life? Talk to someone you trust, explain what a governing belief is and ask her what she thinks your governing belief is.
What to do about it?
#1 Assume you are not objective#2 Empty your cup.#3 Create safe space#4 Triangulate and Validate#5 Ask questions, make connections#6 Disrupt routines#7 Act as if in the here and now#8 Make sense with stories#9 Evolve yourself
A) be an agent of change
Everyone can learn - but it’s not easy.
B) bring an coach
An external coach isn’t biased by the existing belief bubbles
Thank you!pedropimentel.com
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