Author of The Special Parent’s Handbook
Speaker; Trainer; WHIS Ambassador, Autism,
Learning Disabilities & Families
Autism
School for Change Agents Graduate 2017
PENNA Outstanding Contribution to Patient
Experience Award 2016
2015
Award 2014
AND DISABILITIES, VIOLENT & CHALLENGING BEHAVIOUR
I N C H I L D R E N & A D U LT S W I T H A N E U R O D E V E LO P M E N TA L C O N D I T I O N S U C H A S
AUTISM, INCL PDA ADHD
OR AN INTELLECTUAL DISABILITY
Presented by Yvonne Newbold
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Slide 7 THE SPECIAL
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+ 15 In-depth Questions
= Masses of very powerful data
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Slide 13 We asked parents about
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Your worst ever
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of each
In adults with a Learning Disability prevalence of
Verbal Aggression 62%
"Identifying the prevalence of aggressive
behaviour reported by Registered Intellectual
Disability Nurses in residential intellectual
disability services: an Irish perspective
In children with an ASD Diagnosis
Aggression towards others 56%
adolescents with autism spectrum
M Kanne, Ericka L Wodka. (2014)
Thompson Centre, University of
Slide 16 THIS IS NOT MY FAULT
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Instead, we have to
rescue our children
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DIAGNOSTIC OVERSHADOWING
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Slide 20 Our child’s behaviour is only the tip of the iceberg, the outward expression of
their emotions. We can’t start to change that behaviour unless we begin to
understand what’s going on beneath the surface – until we can understand
how our child is feeling deep down and why
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All Behaviour is a Form of Communication
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What does Anxiety look like?
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Slide 26 Frightened children who find the world confusing and scary
often try to control their environment and everyone around
them.
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Sensory Processing
Plus three more –
• Any transition, routine or change needs careful
management
reminders
• Allow child time to process change, transitions
or new routines
• Be aware of how a child may rely on routine to
help with their emotional regulation
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Yvonne Newbold yvonne@yvonnenewbold.com April 2019
Slide 31 Transitions – work out how to take away the iPad!
• Some of our children use them to self-regulate
• Always give plenty of warnings that it’s time to
stop
• Move onto another enjoyable activity
• Always let the child know when they can have
it back
Slide 32 Communication
• Expressive and receptive speech – a child may be excellent at one and not the
other
• Written and visual prompts can help to augment understanding
• Children with additional needs often need much longer to process instructions or
information
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THE BRAIN IN THE PALM OF YOUR HAND – DR DAN SIEGAL
© Yvonne Newbold 2019
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painful feeling or experience of
believing that we are flawed and
therefore unworthy of love and
belonging – something we've
makes us unworthy of
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Become your child’s Behaviour Detective
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Fight or Flight Mode too
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Slide 43 You can’t “Fix” behaviour
Instead you can change the way you
• Think
• Communicate
• Respond
Behaviour
Detective
SHORT SENTENCES 5-8 WORDS
Slide 46 Try to catch the meltdown before it happens
Plan strategies with the following in mind -
• Sensory issues
• Help you child build a toolbox of
calming strategies they can use
• Distraction
Always be aware of how
this is affecting you and
making you feel too.
Don’t think “How can I make a child
behave?”
feel safe, secure and happy?”
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Slowly and
decisions as he manage
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