Your inner critic

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Your "inner critic."

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Your "inner critic."

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You most likely know this voice,

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even though you may never have identified it as an "inner critic."

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The first step is to identify that voice and identify the times when you hear it.

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These are situations where you are brought back to a fixed rather than a growth mindset.

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To do this, you simply need to

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practice awareness.

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Start by identifying the voice

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when you hear it.

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Next, try to remember what event preceded those negative thoughts.

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It's a bit like trying to identify what is causing a stomach ache.

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You have to go back and try to remember what you ate just before.

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If you're not sure you've identified your inner critic yet, try looking for cues.

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For example, look for times when you find that you're doubting yourself, saying something like,

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"Can I really do this?"

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Or be aware of when you're focusing on failure rather than success;

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for example, where you're worrying about what will happen

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if you fail at something.

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A good place to look for

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your fixed mindset voice

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is any time

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you're trying something new or challenging.

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These are the most common situations where this negative voice arises.

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Now let's reframe these thoughts.

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Once you can recognize the voice,

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you can learn to control it.

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The way that you interpret challenges, obstacles, or criticism that you face is up to you.

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But this is the most challenging step

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for most people.

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It is difficult to reframe the voice

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when you have well-grooved patterns.

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The way to think about reframing is to imagine giving advice to a friend.

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Naturally, you would never use a

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harsh, critical voice when trying to

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help a friend.

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If you would never do this with a friend, why are you doing it with yourself?

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We are generally harsher on ourselves than we are with others,

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so instead of talking to yourself, imagine that

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you're giving advice to a good friend.

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Take each statement that your inner voice gives you and imagine if it were a friend, your partner, or a family member who was saying it to themselves.

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Now, imagine that you're giving them advice and reframe the negative statement that was made.

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For example

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"Are you sure you can do that?

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You don't have the right skills to take that on."

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BECOMES

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"I'm not sure I can do it, but I can learn with practice and effort. "

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"What if I fail? I'll be a failure"

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BECOMES All successful people have failures.

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I can learn from my failure."

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"She's a natural at business. Besides, her family runs a business.

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I could never be as good as her."

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BECOMES "She's successful in her business, and

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I can learn from her."

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For example, some Intelligence examples

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"I can't do that. I'm not smart enough to take that on."

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BECOMES

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"I'm not sure I can do it, but

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I can learn with practice and effort."

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"She's a natural at business.

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Besides, she has an MBA.

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I could never be as good as her."

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" BECOMES She's successful in her business,

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and I can learn from her."

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After the activity of reframing comes Action.

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What challenges can you take on

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in order to foster and

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nurture a growth mindset?

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What challenges have you been avoiding? More next week.

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To learn techniques to have a success mindset, go to http://jgtips.com/smindset.