YOU, ME AND WE –– BABY, I GOT YOUR B. A. C. K.

- Ecclesiastes 4:9 – 12 – TWO ARE BETTER THAN ONE; because they have a good reward for their labour. 10 For if they fall, the one

will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth;

for he hath not another to help him up. 11 Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? 12 And if one

prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and A THREEFOLD

CORD IS NOT QUICKLY BROKEN.

- Introduction: Praise the Lord! We bring you greetings from Destiny Christian Center where we are illuminating the pathway to purpose

through the teaching of God's Word. We are delighted to be a part of

this conference. So many things have been said, and we are the better for it. Thank You Dr. Smith and First Lady Smith for having us. We

are honored to be here. We are blessed to see our Vegas connection

here and we greet you. We also want to give honor to our beloved Bishop Nathaniel Holcomb who is resting in heaven. We are who we

are today because of what he and our mother in the faith Pastor

Valerie have instilled in us.

- Your conference is called Energize. It is time of refreshment, revival

and renewal. The word Energize means to give energy to; rouse into activity: it means to give vitality and energy to; enliven, stimulate,

encourage, motivate, invigorate etc. These are all terms synonymous with refreshment, revival and renewal.

- The theme for our subject matter is You, Me and We. I thought of it

in terms of you + me = we. One of the things Dr. Poole and I say at home is in marriage, there is no more I, me, my but us, we and our.

The Bible says in Genesis 2:26 that the two became one flesh i.e. you

+ me = we. "We" connotes togetherness suggesting that we are in this thing called life together, becoming what God wants us to be.

- EXAMPLE: Play Dough - When we are in something together, in essence we are saying that I

Got Your B. A. C. K. - For our time together, we will share the importance of togetherness

and what it means to say, Baby, I Got Your B. A. C. K. - So let's take a look at this acronym for B. A. C. K. - I Got Your B. A. C. K. is a military phrase stemming from WWI

fighter pilots telling their comrades, I'm not going to let anything come up from you and attack you from behind, referencing the rear of

the airplane. - It connotes I'm with you, I support you. I'll help you. - A little about us.

BE WITH HIM 736 start time - Mark 3:14 – And he ordained twelve, THAT THEY SHOULD BE

WITH HIM, and that he might send them forth to preach, - Matthew 6:33 – But SEEK YE FIRST the kingdom of God, and his

righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. - Hebrews 11:6 – But WITHOUT FAITH it is impossible to please

him: for he that cometh to God MUST BELIEVE THAT he is, and

that he is a rewarder of them that DILIGENTLY SEEK HIM. - DILIGENTLY SEEK HIM! - Philippians 3:10 (AMPC) – [For MY DETERMINED PURPOSE

is] that I may know Him [THAT I MAY PROGRESSIVELY

BECOME MORE DEEPLY AND INTIMATELY ACQUAINTED WITH HIM, perceiving and recognizing and understanding the

wonders of His Person more strongly and more clearly], and that I

may in that same way come to know the power outflowing from His resurrection [which it exerts over believers], and that I may so share

His sufferings as to be continually transformed [in spirit into His

likeness even] to His death, [in the hope].

- ILLUSTRATION:🔺 Triangle Principle

- The ONLY reason a Christian marriage fails is because one and or

both refuse to obey the scripture. - The only exception to this is abuse; abuse is NEVER okay. - First things first. - Relationship with the Lord is our number one priority.

- Matthew 22:37 – 40 – Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the

Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. 38 This is the first and great commandment. 39 And the

second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. 40 On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.

- Jesus quotes Deuteronomy 6:4,5 known as the Shema (pronounced

Sh' mah). - Shema is the Hebrew word of this verse; the entire verse is recited

as the Jewish confession of faith! - In order to support someone else unconditionally, you must Be With

the One who loves you unconditionally.

- In order to say, "Baby, I Got Your B. A. C. K., you must Be with Him

first."

A.G.A.P.E. - 1 Corinthians 12:31 – But covet earnestly the best gifts: and yet

show I unto you A MORE EXCELLENT WAY. - 1 Corinthians 13:7, 8 – Beareth all things, believeth all things,

hopeth all things, endureth all things. 8 Charity never faileth: but

whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall

vanish away. - 1 Corinthians 13:7, 8 (NLT) – Love NEVER gives up, NEVER

loses faith, is ALWAYS hopeful, and endures through EVERY

circumstance. 8 Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and

special knowledge will become useless. But love will last FOREVER!

- 1 Corinthians 13:7 (NAMP) – Love bears ALL things [REGARDLESS OF WHAT COMES], believes ALL things

[LOOKING FOR THE BEST IN EACH ONE], hopes ALL things

[REMAINING STEADFAST DURING DIFFICULT TIMES], endures ALL things [WITHOUT WEAKENING].

- 1 Corinthians 13:8 (PASSION) – LOVE NEVER STOPS

LOVING. It extends beyond the gift of prophecy, which eventually fades away. It is more enduring than tongues, which will one day

fall silent. Love remains long after words of knowledge are

forgotten. - Agape, Greek word for charity or love - It is a love of the will, not the feel and comes from the Father. - The acronym Always Giving Above Personal Expectations - L. U. S. T. –– Loving Until Satisfy Temptation - Important to note, there is no "I" in love. - Love vs. Like. "I" is in "like" because it connotes IAAM, not IAAH - In order to say, Baby, I Got Your B. A. C. K., we need a revelation of

A.G.A.P.E.

CONTEND - Ephesians 6:12 – FOR WE WRESTLE NOT against flesh and

blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high

places. - Ephesians 6:12 (MSG) – This is no afternoon athletic contest that

we'll walk away from and forget about in a couple of hours. THIS

IS FOR KEEPS, a life-or-death fight to the finish against the Devil

and all his angels. - Marriage is for keeps. - Fight is not against spouse. - Accuser of the brethren. - Tool or a toy? Selah! - Jude 1:3 (PASSION) – Dearly loved friend, I was fully intending to

write to you about our amazing salvation we all participate in, but felt the need instead to challenge you to VIGOROUSLY DEFEND

AND CONTEND FOR THE BELIEFS THAT WE CHERISH.

For God, through the apostles, has once for all entrusted these truths to his holy believers.

- Ephesians 6:18 (VOICE) – PRAY ALWAYS. Pray in the Spirit. Pray

about everything in every way you know how! And keeping all this in mind, pray on behalf of God’s people. KEEP ON PRAYING

FEVERISHLY, and be on the lookout UNTIL EVIL HAS BEEN

STAYED.

- The one who says, "I Got Your B. A. C. K.," will do warfare in prayer

until the marriage destroying demon is annihilated.

KEEP YOUR VOWS - Matthew 19:3 – 6 – The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting

him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife FOR EVERY CAUSE? 4 And he answered and said unto

them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning

made them male and female, 5 And said, FOR THIS CAUSE shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and

they twain shall be one flesh? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain,

but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

- We are living in a day and time where people want out of marriage for

any cause. - Luke 16:18 – Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth

another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is

put away from her husband committeth adultery. - Luke 16:18 (MSG) – Using the legalities of divorce AS A COVER

FOR LUST is adultery; Using the legalities of marriage AS A

COVER FOR LUST is adultery. - Luke 16:18 (PASSION) – “It is wrong for you to divorce your wife

SO THAT you can marry another—that is adultery. And when you

take that one you have LUSTED AFTER as your wife, and

CONTRIBUTE TO THE BREAKUP of her marriage, you are

once again guilty of adultery.” - Keep your vows unto God! - One of the ways we keep vows fresh is to stay under cover. - Proverbs 27:7 – The full soul loatheth an honeycomb; but to the

hungry soul every bitter thing is sweet. - Proverbs 27:7 (PASSION) – When your soul is full, you turn down

even the sweetest honey. But WHEN YOUR SOUL IS STARVING,

every bitter thing becomes sweet. - Due Benevolence! - 1 Corinthians 7:1 – 5 – Now concerning the things whereof ye

wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2

Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband

render unto the wife DUE BENEVOLENCE: and likewise also the

wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of

his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it

be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for

your incontinency. - Proverbs 5:15 – 20 (NKJV) – Drink water from your own cistern,

And running water from your own well. 16 Should your fountains

be dispersed abroad, Streams of water in the streets? 17 Let them be

only your own, And not for strangers with you. 18 Let your fountain

be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth. 19 As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; And

always be enraptured with her love. 20 For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, And be embraced in the arms

of a seductress. - Better not vow than to vow and break the vow you made before God. - Keep your vows! Due what's Due! Go Under Cover! - Ecclesiastes 5:4, 5 (TLB) – So when you talk to God and vow to him

that you will do something, don't delay in doing it, for God has no pleasure in fools. KEEP YOUR PROMISE TO HIM. 5 It is far

better not to say you'll do something than to say you will and then

not do it. - Deuteronomy 23:21 – 23 (GW) – IF YOU MAKE A VOW TO

THE LORD YOUR GOD, DON’T AVOID KEEPING IT. The

Lord your GOD EXPECTS YOU TO KEEP IT. You would be guilty of a sin if you didn’t. 22 If you didn’t make a vow, you would

not be guilty. 23 Make sure you DO WHAT YOU SAID YOU

WOULD DO ⌜IN YOUR VOW⌟. You freely chose to make your

vow to the Lord your God. - The one who says "I Got Your B. A. C. K.," is saying no matter what I

will keep my vows.

CONCLUSION

- You + Me = We - Baby, Got Your B. A. C. K. - Be with Him, A. G. A. P. E., Contend, Keep Your Vows - Be energized! Protect your marriage! Do the Word!

Grief & Loss

ENERGIZE CONFERNCE 2019DR. E. Dewey Smith Jr.House of Hope Atlanta

PASTOR SHERICE CROSS

AgendaFriday, October 25, 2019

Introduction

Temperature Check

Education

Assessment

Saturday, October 26, 2019

Recap

Temperature Check

Exploration of our loss

What is unique about you?

INTRODUCTIONS

The Grief response can be compared to

snowflakes, where we can look at the flakes and identify them as “snow”. but when you closer, the crystalline structure of each individual flake is unique, and there are an infinite number of patters that can be found.” (Winokuer & Harris)

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Grief We are taught how to acquire things not loose them.~ John James

How do you grieve properly?

Our Humanity

before God

Father, if you are willing, removed this cup from me. Nevertheless, not my will, but yours, be done.’ And there appeared to him an angel from heaven, strengthening him. And being in agony he prayed more earnestly; and his sweat became like great drops of blood falling down to the ground. Luke 22:42-44 NKJV

Jesus made a Request of God

Jesus asked that the Remove

Jesus relinquished his will

Jesus strength was Refreshed by an Angel

Resolved to pray

Divine Comfort

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4

Stages of Grief

FOR THE DYING -KUBLER- ROSS

Denial

Anger

Bargaining

Depression

Acceptance

LIVING AFTER A LOSS (JACOBS)

Disbelief/Shock

Yearning

Anger

Depression

Acceptance

Check- In

Grief Starts with Loss

Six major loss

Material

Relationship

Intrapsychic (loss of a dream)

Functional (muscular or neurological functions of the body)

Role loss

Systemic (change in an institution) (check in with patient, family, and staff)

Grief Process

In Grief there has to be attachment and separation in order to experience loss and then grief.

The genesis of grief lies in the inevitability of both attachment and separation for the sustenance and development of human life.

Grief is inescapable even when its existence and impact are denied.

Assessments

Concept of Loss

Evaluation of Loss

Common Losses

Exercises

Tornado Denial or Acceptance

Time

For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing. Ecclesiastes 3:1-5

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One on One Counseling

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