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NEXT LEVEL MINISTRY INT.
For such a time as this
Yes the Church has hurt me. Host: Bishop TM. Slowe.
Co-Host: Pastor Lewis Guy.
Tel # 347-636-0943Email: [email protected]
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This session will explore healthy and effective ways of dealing with pain and conflict.
Clarify how to deal with hurt and disappointments within the body of Christ.
Introduction
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• Healthy and effective ways of dealing with pain and conflict,
• For the Church &
• For the believer
• Getting it straight!
• Understanding The Church.
• Understanding Hurt.
• Who really hurt you
• Categories of hurt people.
Agenda
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Statistics shows that a great percentage of persons who cease attending church, do so because of some type of offense or injury to their feelings that happened there.
Sometimes these occur because of the insensitivity of the church; other times, people are themselves at fault for being too touchy or sensitive to misunderstandings.
Overview
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So, the Church hurt me, I am not going back!
I will tell as much persons as I can, cry as much as I can and allow a seed of bitterness to develop.
Will God pity me and excuse a trip to Hell?
Pity Party
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Understand two words
Church
Hurt.
Getting it straight!
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The universal church consists of all those who have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.
The local church is described a local body of believers.
Ephesians 1:22-23
The word “church” comes from the Greek word ekklesia which is defined as “an assembly” or “called-out ones.”
The church is the body of Christ, of which He is the head.
What is the Church?
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The church is a reflection of society, people from various background, cultures and levels.
Matt 13:47
"Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a large net thrown into the sea that ...
Understand This!
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Strong's H7489 ra`a`
When someone is hurt, something bad, evil, displeasing, sad or injurious has been done to them
It cause the person to be injured, broken or shattered. (Mentally, emotionally, ….
To cause pain or injury to (yourself, someone else, or a part of your body)
spiritually and/or physiologically)
What is hurt?
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Strong's G984 – blaptō to hurt - harm, injure
Synonyms: affliction, agony, anguish, distress, misery, pain, torment, torture, travail, tribulation, woe.
What is hurt? Cont.
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The universal church,
The Organization,
The local church
Or an individual
Which are you trying to avoid?
Question: Who really hurt you?
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Children
Youths
Adults
Seniors
Leaders
Special needs people
Categories of hurt people
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No children church
sit for 8 hrs. with the adults, act like, learn like and behave like them.
average attention span varies.
Children
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BOORING!!!
Children Describe Church
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Is Cognitive development a secular term – not relevant for Church circle?
(The process that continues from the birth of the baby to adulthood)
we need trained teachers who understand child development.
Children
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Dry static stories, instead of surround sounds and electronic (audio video) learning
The three most common types of learning styles are visual, auditory, and kinesthetic. (kin·es·the·sia)
{the student carrying out a physical activity }
Children cont..
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• No senior club
• Facilities
• Consideration
• Visiting for the shut-ins
Seniors.
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Seniors are expected to:
• Sit on the same hard pews
• Ignore their arthritis pains
• Skip their medication
• Disregard the facts of their health
Seniors Cont..
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Senior day care and live-in facilities – Hugh business
Billions allocated for senior care,
mentally challenged and foster care
All passing over us!
Fact.
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No dreamers club for college students
Go to college, get edu, come back and act uneducated
youths
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Depressed & Out of place.
How our youths feel
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Their personal and marital life is our concern.
“Just get it together and act like saints”
Adults
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• Marriage ministry
• Family forum
• Professional counselors.
• Holistic Ministry
Urgent need
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• No compensation,
mercy or vision for the leaders
• Lack of ability to transition
• Untrained, uncultured,
uneducated department leaders.
Equation for hurt.
Leaders..
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How relevant is 1 Cor. 9:9-14 ; 1 Tim 5:8
YOU SHALL NOT MUZZLE THE OX WHILE HE IS THRESHING,” and “The laborer is worthy of his wages.”
Leaders…
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• Become proactive instead of reactive
• Have ethics committee in place
• Train and constantly upgrade leaders
• Establish deliverance time and counseling department
• Teach biblical conflict management
Healthy and effective ways of dealing with pain and conflict (for the Church).
The ChurchDealing with pain and conflict
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• Practice biblical conflict management
• Learn to forgive and release people Matt 6;14
• Understand Church is a reflection of society
Matt 13..
Believer Dealing with pain and conflict
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1. IF THERE IS CONFLICT
2. YOU
3. GO
4. TO THE PERSON
5. IN PRIVATE
6. AND DISCUSS THE PROBLEM
7. FOR THE PURPOSE OF RECONCILIATION
Seven steps to resolving conflict:
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Honestly identify what you are feeling.
Anger, sorrow, disappointment, rejection, hurt feelings, jealousy, threatened, fear, rebellion, pride, feeling foolish, ashamed, embarrassed, blame, loss…
Turn your focus away from the people involved and the church itself
Identify the root cause of your pain, turmoil, and disillusionment.
Believer Dealing with pain and conflict..
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Find out what is at the core of your hurt—not what someone said or did to you, but what is really causing your pain?
Then search the Scriptures to discover what God says about what is really hurting you.
Believer Dealing with pain and conflict..
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Unmet needs or expectations = PAIN
"d-needs": esteem, friendship and love, security, and physical needs
Believer Dealing with pain and conflict..
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Understand the needs theory and practice it to produce less hurt.
Understand the needs theory
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Review
Application
Feed back
Conclusion
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NEXT LEVEL MINISTRY INT.
For such a time as this
Yes the Church has hurt me.
Host: Bishop TM. Slowe.Co-Host : Pastor Lewis GuyTel # 347-636-0943Email: [email protected]