Worldliness

Misuse of the TongueMisuse of the Tongue

Being A Christian Affects The Way One TalksBeing A Christian Affects The Way One Talks

Ps 39:1I said, "I will guard my I said, "I will guard my ways,ways,Lest I sin with my tongue;Lest I sin with my tongue;I will restrain my mouth I will restrain my mouth with a muzzle, While the with a muzzle, While the wicked are before me."wicked are before me."

Many MisusesMany Misusesof theof the

TongueTongueLyingLying

CursingCursingCasual OathsCasual OathsAngry WordsAngry Words

GossipGossipFlatteryFlattery

GrumblingGrumblingComplainingComplaining

How We MisuseHow We MisuseOur TonguesOur Tongues

In Dealing WithIn Dealing WithOne AnotherOne Another


I. I. Tongue Is A DangerTongue Is A Danger

I. Tongue Is A Danger

It is never fully tamedIt is never fully tamed James 3:8 - “no man can tame the James 3:8 - “no man can tame the

tongue”tongue” Illustration: Horse broke - can’t fully Illustration: Horse broke - can’t fully

trust him (Psa. 32:9)trust him (Psa. 32:9) Even most mature - must work at it!Even most mature - must work at it!

I. Tongue Is A Danger

It is never fully tamedIt is never fully tamed Will give an account for every wordWill give an account for every word

(Matt. 12:36-37) (Matt. 12:36-37) Easily guilty of what say is true of Easily guilty of what say is true of

othersothers Can sin with the tongueCan sin with the tongue

Rom. 1:29Rom. 1:29 Gal. 5:20Gal. 5:20 2 Cor. 12:20 2 Cor. 12:20



II. II. What It Can DoWhat It Can Do

II. What It Can Do

Sin against a brotherSin against a brother (Matt. 18:15- (Matt. 18:15-17)17)

SlanderSlander (Jas. 4:11-12; Prov. 10:18; 1 (Jas. 4:11-12; Prov. 10:18; 1 Pet. 2:1)Pet. 2:1)

“Accusing falsely…given to finding fault with the demeanor and conduct of others, and spreading their innuendos and criticisims in the church” (Vine, IV:39)

II. What It Can Do



Gossip / BusybodyGossip / Busybody (1 Tim. 5:13) (1 Tim. 5:13)“To be working round about, instead of at one’s own business…to be meddling with, or bustling about, other people’s matters…some who are not busied in their own business, but are over busied in that of others” (Vines)

II. What It Can Do



Gossip / BusybodyGossip / Busybody (1 Tim. 5:13) (1 Tim. 5:13) BackbitingBackbiting (Rom. 1:30; Prov. 25:23; (Rom. 1:30; Prov. 25:23;

Psa. 15:3)Psa. 15:3)




III. III. Effect It Can HaveEffect It Can Have

III. Effect It Can Have

Destroy neighborDestroy neighbor (Prov. 11:9) (Prov. 11:9) Reveal secretsReveal secrets (Prov. 11:13; 20:19) (Prov. 11:13; 20:19) Sows strifeSows strife (Prov. 16:28) (Prov. 16:28) Separates friendsSeparates friends (Prov. 16:28; 17:9) (Prov. 16:28; 17:9) Destroy a churchDestroy a church (Gal. 5:15) (Gal. 5:15) Like poisonLike poison (Jas. 3:8) (Jas. 3:8) FireFire (Jas. 3:6) (Jas. 3:6)





IV. IV. How To Prevent ItHow To Prevent It

IV. How To Prevent It

RestraintRestraint

Restraint

1.1. Prov. 10:19Prov. 10:19

2.2. Prov. 15:7Prov. 15:7

3.3. Prov. 16:23Prov. 16:23

4.4. Prov. 17:27-28Prov. 17:27-28

5.5. Don’t have to say all you want Don’t have to say all you want to sayto say


RestraintRestraint Careful what say to & about othersCareful what say to & about others

Be Careful

1. What you tell may be confidential1. What you tell may be confidential2. What you say could be taken 2. What you say could be taken

differently than you intenddifferently than you intend3. Prov. 11:133. Prov. 11:134. Prov. 29:114. Prov. 29:115. Jas. 1:195. Jas. 1:196. What you say may be repeated / 6. What you say may be repeated /

quotedquoted


RestraintRestraint Careful what say to & about othersCareful what say to & about others Careful how choose your wordsCareful how choose your words

How

1.1. Make sure you convey what you wantMake sure you convey what you want2.2. How?How?

• Use tact (Prov. 15:1)Use tact (Prov. 15:1)• Think before you speak (Prov. Think before you speak (Prov.

15:28; 12:18)15:28; 12:18)• Watch timing (Prov. 15:23)Watch timing (Prov. 15:23)


RestraintRestraint Careful what say to & about othersCareful what say to & about others Careful how choose your wordsCareful how choose your words Careful what you repeatCareful what you repeat

Repeat

1.1. Two sides to story (Prov. 18:17)Two sides to story (Prov. 18:17)

2. Don’t jump to conclusions (Prov. 2. Don’t jump to conclusions (Prov. 18:13)18:13)


RestraintRestraint Careful what say to & about othersCareful what say to & about others Careful how choose your wordsCareful how choose your words Careful what you repeatCareful what you repeat Give the benefit of the doubtGive the benefit of the doubt

Benefit1 Cor. 13:7

““But it must mean, that in regard to the conduct of others, there But it must mean, that in regard to the conduct of others, there is a disposition to put the best construction on it; to believe that is a disposition to put the best construction on it; to believe that they may be actuated by good motives, and that they intend no they may be actuated by good motives, and that they intend no injury; and that there is a willingness to suppose, as far as can injury; and that there is a willingness to suppose, as far as can be, that what is done is done consistently with friendship, good be, that what is done is done consistently with friendship, good feeling, and virtue.” - Barnesfeeling, and virtue.” - Barnes

““Is ever ready to believe the best of every person, and will Is ever ready to believe the best of every person, and will credit no evil of any but on the most positive evidence.” Clarkecredit no evil of any but on the most positive evidence.” Clarke

Prov. 14:15Prov. 14:15 Do I have Do I have evidence?evidence?

Is there anotherIs there anotherExplanation?Explanation?

Prov. 18:13Prov. 18:13 Prov. 29:20Prov. 29:20Hasty wordsHasty words





IV. IV. How To Prevent ItHow To Prevent It

Every one of us can work harder at being careful

about:

• What we say• How we say it

• To whom we say it

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