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73rd AnnualTexas Association
of County Auditors Fall Conference
Holiday Inn San Antonio RiverwalkSan Antonio, Texas
October 16-19, 2018
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Welcome to the River City
Workshop: Hack Your Brain: Tools and Tips for
Building Emotional Intelligence
Wednesday, October 17
8:15-9:30 a.m.
Dr. Lindsay Bira, LLC, Clinical Health Psychologist
This workshop will expand upon Dr. Bira’s keynote presentation to elaborate
on brain function as it relates to work stress, building emotional intelligence,
and mindfulness. Attendees will be able to explain the brain’s basic response to
work-related stress, define emotional intelligence and its benefits, describe mindfulness, and practice tools and
techniques designed to stimulate the frontal lobe and regulate emotion,
attention, and behavior in a way that benefits work. government and laws
related to the auditor’s office.
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Dr. Lindsay Bira, LLC, Clinical
Health Psychologist, San Antonio
Dr. Bira is a clinical health psychologist,
TEDx speaker, and served as assistant
professor of psychiatry at UT Health San
Antonio. She has clinical research
specialty in behavioral medicine and
PTSD/trauma. She speaks often on the
topic of mental health and wellbeing,
serves as a consultant on projects that
seek to incorporate mental health, and
runs a private practice, treating adults
and teens for a range of issues. She
received her Ph.D. in clinical health
psychology from University of Miami.
She completed residency with Harvard
Medical School and Boston University
School of Medicine before completing an
additional two-year fellowship in trauma
psychology. Dr. Bira has been featured
by TEDx, Texas Public Radio, Women’s
Health Magazine, Headspace, Science,
Nature Biotech, and more for her work in
PTSD, mindfulness, brain health and
personal growth. She is passionate about
breaking stigma around mental health to
improve wellbeing and works to bridge
the gap between complex research and
global understanding.
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STRESS
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Resick et al. (2017)
Resick et al. (2017)
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Resick et al. (2017)
Resick et al. (2017)
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Resick et al. (2017)
Resick et al. (2017)
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Resick et al. (2017)
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Diaphragmatic Breathing
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Diaphragmatic Breathing
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COMPASSIONMINDFULNESSEXERCISE
INFORMAL:
• Beginwithsomediaphragmaticbreathing.• Now,whereveryouare,lookaroundyou.• Whodoyousee?• Noticeyourimmediatejudgments,negativeandpositive.Thosearenormal.Buttrytodropthem.• Remindyourselfthateveryoneisexactlyhowtheyareforareason.• Remindyourselfthateveryoneistryingthebesttheycan.• Allreactionsmakesensewhenconsideredincontext:whereapersoncamefrom,earlyexperiences,
geneticmakeup,recentevents….• Thinkabouteachpersonandfeelcompassiontowardtheirstruggles.Focusongrowingthatfeeling.• Wishthemwellinyourheadwiththefollowingwords:
WISHINGWELLDIALOGUE:Iwishyouhappiness.Iwishyouhealth.Iwishyoueaseinridingthewavesoflife.
FORMAL:
• Closeyoureyes.• Imaginesomeoneyoulove.Feelthatloveandcompassion.Wishthemwell.• Nowimagineanacquaintanceyouarefondof.Bringupthefeelingsoflove.Wishthemwell.• Nowimaginesomeonewhogratesonyournerves.Trytobringupthosefeelingsofcompassion
towardthem.Wishthemwell.• Nowmaybeimaginesomeonewhoyoureally,reallydislike.Trytobringupthosefeelingsof
compassiontowardthem.Spendtimeonthis.Rememberwhatitfeelslikewhenitcomeseasy.Letitgrow.Wishthemwell.
• Now,imagineyourself.Noticewhatyoufeel.Trytobringupfeelingsofcompassiontowardyourself.Wishyourselfwell.
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HackYourBrain:APOLOGIES
DON’T!• Say"I'msorrybut..."=justify/excuse• Blametheotherperson("becauseyou..."or"I'msorryyou...")• Minimizeconsequences("itwasajoke!")• Expectforgivenessoracertainreaction• Usenon-verbalsthatconflict
DO!• Startwith:"I'msorry"• Focusonyourroleinthechaos-responsibility("I'msorryI...")• Expressemotion&empathytoconnect• OfferafixorGivehope-promisebetter• Usematchingnon-verbals
5StepstoaGoodApology1. Aclear"I'msorry"statement2. Expressregret3. Acknowledgenorms/expectations/valueswereviolated4. Empathystatementstoacknowledgefullimpactonotherperson5. Requestforgiveness;promisebettertrying
WAYSTOFACETHEMUSIC:
• Getintouchwithyourvalues.Itdoesn’tmatterwhattheotherpersondid….howdidyouactthatdoesn’tmatchthetypeofpersonyouvaluebeing?Focusonthat.
• Makesureyouremotionisappropriate.o Isithardtofacebecauseyouarefeelingshame?Isitappropriatetofeelbadaboutwhoyou
areasapersonorisguiltmoreappropriate–feelingbadforawayyouacted?o Ifintentionofharmwasn’tthere…thenit’snotevenguilt.Maybeyouactedoutoflineand
neglectedaresponsibility?Muchdifferent.Peeloffunnecessaryemotions.• Thinkaboutapologiesasawaytobuildtrustinarelationshipofanykind.Or,iftherelationshipcan’t
besavedorisn’tahealthyone,lookatisasawaytogrowasaperson.• VULNERABILITY=GROWTH&POWER….thebestleadersareoneswhoexpressempathyand
acknowledgetheirwrongdoings,nomatterhowsmallorseeminglyjustified.
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APOLOGIES:Plugitin
ADDRESSDIFFICULTSITUATIONS:• “Inotice_____,Iworry______,Iwonder”
• “Inoticethisprojectismovingmuchslowerthanitneedstobe.Iworrywearenotonthesamepageandwillkeephavingproblemsunlesswegetthere.Iwonderhowwecanallcontributemoreefficiently?”
• Statewhatyoucandobettertogetpeopletobeopentobeingbetterthemselves• “Inoticethisprojectismovingmuchslowerthanitneedstobe.Iworrywearenotonthe
samepageandwillkeephavingproblemsunlesswegetthere.IknowIpersonallyhavebeendraggingmyfeetbecauseofotherdemandsbutalsobecausethisjustisn’tfun.ThatisnotagoodexcusethoughandIamgoingtobebetter.Iwonderwhatyourexperiencehasbeen?Thoughts?”
APOLOGYEXAMPLE:“I’msorryfor_________.”(focusingonyouractions)“IwishIhadsaidordone_____instead.”(expressregretandabetterway)“Doing____wasnotokbecause_____.”(whatvalue/norm/expectationdiditviolate?)“Irealizemyactionscausedyouto_________.”(empathizewiththeimpact)“Iunderstanditmaytakeawhile,butIhopeyoucanforgiveme.”OR“I’mgoingtobebetteraboutkeeping_____incheck.Ipromiseitwon’tbeaproblemagain.CanI____tooffsetthewrong?”(requestforgiveness,promisebettertrying,offersolution)KeepinmindthatyouCANoffersomeexplanationofwhyyouactedthewayyoudid,butbeclearthatitisNOTanexcuseanddoesnotjustifyyourbehavior.Usethisonlyinawaythatcanpromoteempathyintheotherperson;notasawaytoshowyouwereright.
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Describe target situation:
All factors involved:
Guilt Level (0-100%)
(people, timing, weather, etc.)
What did you do and why?
Why didn't you do something else?
What was your intention?
If responsible, for what or who?
LOOK AT THE FACTS: APPROPRIATE EMOTION:
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What can you say to yourself now about what happened?
Responsibility Pie
Guilt Level (0-100%)
Bothersome thoughts: Healthy Questions:
Who else neglected a responsibility?
Why was the responsibility neglect by you, others?
Were there conflicting roles and responsibilities?
How does responsibility get distributed?
"I should / shouldn't have _____."
"If I would have ____, then it wouldn't
have happened / it would be better."
"It's my / their fault it happened."
Why didn't I? What else was going on?
What was the info I had then?
How do I know this? What other factors were
involved? What else could have happened?
So, I / they intended the harm? What was the
intention? Who, if anyone, intended the harm?
"Things like this should not happen."What are the actual stats? Under what
circumstances does this happen?
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