Work-Life Balance: Pulling Your Own Strings
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Work-Life Balance: Pulling Your Own Strings
Presentation to
Ruby Tuesdays
October 17, 2006
Bryan Hiebert
Faculty of EducationDivision of Applied Psychology
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Overview
• Stress revisited• What is resilience?
Resilience comes in people
• Some environments are more easy to be resilient in than others
• Leaders are responsibility for creating an environment conducive to resilience and balance
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Demands ≠ Stress
Intensity- DemandNature
- Coping Resources- Coping Resources
- Consequences
Appraisal
DEMAND
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What is stress? – Revisited
Intensity- DemandNature
- Coping Resources- Coping Resources- Consequences
Appraisal
DEMAND
Demand Coping
Demand
Coping
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Avoid self-blame
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What is resilience?
The ability to bounce back (recover) when hit with unexpected demands out of out of the blue
Take things in stride
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Resilience Model
• Stressors• Environmental contexts• Person-environment transactional process• Internal resiliency factors
Personal agencyPeoples’ beliefs in their ability to control their
own functioning + control what occurs in the environment
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Creating Resilience: Who’s job is it?
• It’s a leadership job BUT don’t wait for your boss
• Learn how to train your bossApproach your boss with solutions,
not problemsStroke your boss,
what goes around comes aroundYou can make a difference in YOUR
emotional climate
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Who is in charge of your life anyway?
• It depends on how you look at it
• Can you count on others to look out for your best interest?Usually not
The answer needs to be MEI’m in control
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Work – Life Balance:Who’s in charge?
The answer needs to be ME
I’m in charge
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Watch your perspective
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Creating a Sense of Control
• Start smallWhat you eat affects how you feelBe hydrated
• Give yourself permission to negotiate demands
• Be self-directed
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Perspective is Important
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Giving yourself voice
If you ask me and nobody has…
Don’t wait to be asked
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Creating Resilient Communities
• 3 factors are predictably difficult to deal withIntense and unpleasant demandsUncertainty (about outcomes)Ambiguity (regarding expectations)
• Not all demands are reasonable
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A Starting Point
All things To all peopleAll the time
is
All over
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Plan for Balance
• If you are a schedule personSchedule your leisure time
• Start with the small stuff
• Create non-work-like balance points
• Listen to your bodyBefore it sends you a message you
can’t ignore
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Keep your priorities on track
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Plan for Balance
It’s fun to have funbut you have to know how
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Creating A Positive Climate
• Say something nice to colleaguesEvery day
• Message seen is stronger than message spoken
• Need to model what we are trying to accomplish
• Walk the Talk• Create slogans to keep a positive focus
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Slogans to sustain a positive focus
• No one can insult you
Without your permission
• Stop Psychosclerosis
(hardening of the attitudes)
• I will not should on my self today
• Change is inevitable
Growth is optional
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Say NO! to zero tolerance
Zero
A little tolerance is a good thing
Tolerance
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Creating a Resilient Workplace:
Who’s job is it?• It’s a leadership job to create a
healthy work environment
• Model the goal – set a good example
• Jump on mistakes OR jump on successes
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Bosses want motivated employees
2 key factors for motivation• The goals must be valued
(valuable)
• The goal must be perceived as achievable (achievable)
• Create a motivation-oriented environment
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A New Approach to Leadership
• If it goes wrong,say “I did it.”
• If it goes sort of OK,say “we did it.”
• If it goes really wellsay “you did it.”
• Reduce “Look at me, look at me.”And replace it with “Look at us” or better yet, “Look at them.”
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Control and Choice
• Lobby for structural changes• Some people always will feel they
have no control• Many workers feel that the clocks are
controlled in head officeConsider ditching the clock?
• Demands gravitate towards competence(so be prepared or be less competent)
• Basic assertiveness helps keep balance• Bottom line …
I need to be pulling my own strings
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Summary: Tell them what you told them
• What is stress?Stress comes in people
• What is resilience?Resiliency comes in people
• Work-life balance I’m an active player in managing my lifeHow do you contribute to your own balance?How do you interfere with it?
• Some environments are more conducive to being resilient and balancedWhat have you done to
make your life more balanced?
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High above the hushed crowd, Rex tried to remain focused. Still he couldn’t shack one nagging thought, he was an old dog and this was a new trick.
Work-Life Balance: Pulling Your Own Strings
Presentation to
Ruby Tuesdays
October 17, 2006
Bryan Hiebert
Faculty of EducationDivision of Applied Psychology