Winter 2012 Newsletter Final

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NEWSLETTER FOR BETWEEN FRIENDS WINTER 2012: VOL. 14, ISSUE 1

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Celebrating 25 Years of Building a Community Without Domestic Violence

Between Friends Clinical Supervisor NancyToncy perormed an interpretative dance,

reecting the healing process ater trauma.

Between Friends collaborated withApna Ghar, KAN-WIN, and KovlerCenter to kick o their Journey toHealing Through the Arts exhibiton Wednesday, September 26that the Budlong Woods Branch othe Chicago Public Library. The ex-hibit eatured various artistic expres-

sions and perormances that wereinspired by the healing processater violence and tragedy.

Kovler Art Circle eatured two per-ormers, Native American autistBill Buchholtz and Ethiopian circusartist Meshu Tamarat. Buchholtzshared his music and his purposebehind it, detailing that his NativeAmerican traditions have inspiredhim to play in an eort to heal oth-

ers. Tamarat, a member o KovlerArt Circle and proessional circusartist or sixteen years, entertainedwith juggling and KAN-WIN,perormed traditional Korean drummusic beautiully played by thegroup KKUM-AH. A highlight othe night included an inspirationalpoetry reading by domestic vio-lence survivor and Between Friends

HEALING TRAUMA THROUGH ARTclient, Dawn Reselle Fowler, entitledFlowers, reective o her personalhealing process through therapy.Between Friends also eatured ourClinical Supervisor, Nancy Toncy,in a dance piece entitled Suppli-cation. Apna Ghar presented amoving poetry reading by Beena J.

Mathew, entitled Mask, and aanother beautiul dance peror-mance by Rakhi Rangparia.

From start to fnish, the nightwas flled with impressive art andmoving pieces. Thank you to ourellow hosts and to everyonewho attended or making thisnight truly special.

Our 1stannual Day of Actionwas a huge success! Youth camerom all over the city to take partin the activities. The day beganwith a scavenger hunt whereyouth between the ages o 13and 19 learned what constitutesdating violence and what makes

up a healthy relationship. Teensthen took those lessons andcreated various art projects toteach their peers how to avoidabusive relationships. Featuringgrafti, sketches, dancing, andcreative writing, the teens wereable to explore the themes oteen dating violence, as well asgain leadership skills throughhands on and interactive activi-ties. Once the day was over they

came away rom the event withmore inormation and, more im-portantly, the skills that will helpthem spread this knowledge toother youth across the city.

TEENS TAKE CHARGE

Excited teens displayed and explainedtheir grafti art collage that depicted andencouraged healthy relationships.


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THE EXECUTIVE DIRECTORS CORNER

Dear Friends,

As we wind down our 25th anniversary celebration and move intoour 26th year, we thank all o you who made this a special year. In1986, fve women joined together rom the National Council o JewishWomen and the Junior League o Evanston-North Shore to incorporate

as Friends o Battered Women and Their Children. Their vision andhard work has touched over 149,000 lives.

Most o us came ater those original fve women, and we continuedto build upon their passion and commitment to saving the lives owomen and children impacted by domestic violence. This past year,we celebrated 25 Forces o Change honoring those who helped bringthis issue to the oreront. Yet, all o us are a orce o changeeverysta person, volunteer and donor, but most importantly the women andchildren who come though our doors. Together we have changed, arechanging and will continue to change the ace o domestic violence inour community.

Kathleen A. DohertyExecutive Director

A NIGHT OF ENTERTAINMENTOn Wednesday, November 16,Between Friends presented a newormat or A Taste o Art, a varietyshow, at Stage 773 in Chicago.The show eatured an impressivearray o local talent rom Chicagoartists and was hosted by NBC 5sEntertainment reporter, Lee AnnTrotter. She charmingly emceeda night flled with laughter andastounding talentall or agreat cause.

With a great line-up: stand-upcomedy troupe the kates, sketchcomedy group Think Tankandproessional magician the

Amazing Tomas, the crowdroared with laughter throughoutthe evening. Might Could, a 3piece acoustic guitar group alsoentertained the audience withtheir beautiul harmonies andsoulul music.

Thank you to everyone who cameout and supported A Taste o Art.

(Let) The Amazing Tomas thrills a mystifedLee Ann Trotter, NBC 5 Entertainment Repor teand emcee o A Taste o Art.

It was a highly entertaining andsuccessul evening that let everyonesmiling on their way home.

Check out a video o Might

Coulds perormance and picturesrom the event on our Facebook,http://www.acebook.com/BetweenFriendsChicago.

Between Friends Director o ProgramsYesenia Maldonado, tied purple ribbons onthe trees at St. Francis Hospital in support oDomestic Violence Awareness Month.

In honor oDomestic ViolenceAwareness Month, Between Friendstied purple ribbons to trees aroundChicago; we were on MagnifcentMile at the Fourth PresbyterianChurch, at St. Francis Hospital inEvanston, and at the Rogers Park

24th Police District. Thanks to thosewho helped tie ribbons and spreadawareness. The ribbons helpedsend a message o solidarity,support, and hope!

RIBBONS OF AWARENESS

BUBBLE BALL 2012

Save the Date! March 10,2012 marks the date oour annual gala. Join usas we dine and danceunderneath the stars. Mix,mingle and marvel at thespectacular view providedby the River East Art Center,

all while helping raisesupport and awarenessor amilies aectedby domestic violence.


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The odd choice oPitchfork Mu-sic Festival organizers to includethe group Odd Future, known ortheir misogynistic lyrics, providedthe perect platorm or creating adialogue that was heard aroundthe world about violence against

women and the LGBTQ community.Colleen Norton, Prevention & Edu-cation Manager enlisted the help oseveral other organizationsRapeVictim Advocates, the YWCA oMetropolitan Chicago, Center onHalsted, Chicago Alliance AgainstSexual Exploitation and others, tocreate a successul campaign toraise awareness about how suchviolence is oten glorifed, mini-mized or ignored.

This campaign generated a hugeresponse rom the local, nationaland international community. Onewoman wrote: Im rom Australiaand Ive been very concernedabout Odd Futures lyrics and per-ormances. Even i theyre

meant to be ironic or protestingin some way against all the toxicrubbish in the media, I absolutelyoppose their approach...so I justwanted to send a message osupport to you or your awareness-raising campaign at Pitchork.

I I was in Chicago that day Iwould defnitely join you! Backin Chicago, as we ran out o the7,000 fans passed out to concert-goers, a young woman, who tookone, came back ater reading itand said, It really means a lot.Thank you or being here. Moretelling are the numbers o concert-goers that came to us ater OddFutures perormance, voicing theirdiscomort with the lyrics and ask-ing or the ans we used todecorate our booth!

Others completely missed the objec-tive o the campaign by questioningthe lack o protest. Maybe weare watching too much reality TVto understand the art o generating

real conversations that lead to ashared understanding? Odd Futurebeing booked at Pitchork wasindeed a catalyst or us to seek apresence at the estival. However,picketing Odd Futures perorm-ance would have been shortsighted

and distracting rom our real goals.Instead, our ans were in the handso 7,000 supporters waving themessage: Cool it! Dont be a fanof violence.

So what did we accomplish?We mobilized others to think criti-cally about how violence againstwomen and the LGBTQ communityis portrayed in their communitythrough music, art, and the media.

We encouraged a dialogue aboutways to end such violence, andhow to seek help rom the resourcesprovided. The conversation spreadquickly with every online article,blog, picture, and comment postedengaging everyone in the dialogueboth locally and around the world!

FIND US ON FACEBOOK& TWITTER!

With one click, you canconnect with us and stayup to date on our events,discuss current news stories,and share inormation.You can fnd us on Twitter@Between_Friends andon Facebook at http://www.acebook.com/

BetweenFriendsChicago.

Find, ollow, riend!

CREATING SAFE FUTURES, NOT ODD ONES

Yesenia Maldonado, Between Friends Director o Programs, joined volunteers tohelp distribute ans at Pitchork. The ans, which say Cool it, dont be a ano violence, helped create a dialogue about misogynistic lyrics by one o theeatured acts, Odd Future.


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I art reects reality, then the lyricso todays popular songs are moreinormative than we think. Our real-ity is this: one in our women willexperience domestic violence in herlietime. One in six women has ex-perienced an attempted or complet-

ed rape. To continue the dialoguewe started at Pitchork, BetweenFriends, Rape Victims Advocates,YWCA, and the Center on Halstedorganized a panel on Wednesday,October 26 at The Hideoutin Chi-cago. The event eatured botha discussion and music peror-mances, dedicated to creating adialogue and promoting actionaround homophobia and violenceagainst women in music.

Erin Gloria Ryan, writer and contrib-utor to Jezebel, moderated a paneldiscussion including hip hop artistTimm T. West, the Inclusion Directoror Girls Rock! Chicago, Cyndi Tor-res, Miles Raymer o the ChicagoReader, as well as Lucyand E.Nina Jayo POW-WOW, Inc. Fol-lowing the panel, Timm, Lucy andE. Nina Jay perormed and StephenAdler, aka DJ The Tornado and a

Prevention & Education Specialistat Rape Victim Advocates, playedan all-emale producer/MC set aseveryone arrived. Perhaps mostpowerul was a selection o poetryperormed by Lucy, in which shejuxtaposed common emale names

with beatings and rapes committedagainst women, emphasizing thata crime against one is a crimeagainst all.

While mainstream hip hop musicis oten noted and criticized or o-ensive lyrics, Timm observed thathip hop reects society, ratherthan the other way around. He alsonoted that capitalism rewards thistype o violent imagery; rappers are

almost orced to adopt misogynyand homophobia as part o theirpersona in order to becomefnancially successul.

Miles Raymer asserted that shockvalue and transgression are an ac-tive part o pop culture. Oten, anyattention is good attention or peo-ple in the public eye. More atten-tion means more money. Accordingto Lucy, Jay-Z ultimately chose to do

VIOLENCE IN THE MEDIA, VIOLENCE IN OUR LIVESgangsta rap because it would sellmore records and he would makemore money. Even urther, thesehateul messages are presentedthrough innovative beats and crea-tive lyrics, purposeully appealingto a broad range o consumers.

I misogynistic, homophobic at-titudes and violence in hip hop areso pervasive, how do we combatthat imagery on a music-based andsocietal level? E. Nina Jay pointedto the complacency in silence. Sim-ply ignoring this music and reusingto acknowledge its presence andpower prohibits us rom participat-ing in the larger conversation.She also asserted that we should

instead be engaging listeners tocritically analyze and discussthese images and messages.

Erin Gloria Ryan posed the ques-tion; when do we know that wehave reached a conclusion, aturning point in violence againstwomen and the LGBTQ community?Poignantly, Lucy stated that we willdiscuss it until real progressis made, until she is no longer

called big, at, lesbian,or any other term in a slew o de-rogatory epithets, but rather, sheis simply reerred to as Lucy.

Panelists respond to questions rom the crowd about the eects o misogyny and homophobiain todays music.

COOKING WITH FOOD,

FAMILY & FRIENDS

Stressing over Valentines Day?

Stay in and cook ood madewith love! Between Friendshas our very own cookbook,eaturing recipes rom amousches, sta members, boardmembers, and more! Getyours today or only $20 byvisiting our website www.betweenriendschicago.org.


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NBC 5s Marion Brooks with Attorney General, and 25 Forces o Change recipient, LisaMadigan and Between Friends Executive Director, Kathleen Doherty.

LIGHTING UP THE LAKEFRONT

Oak Street Beach was aglow withthe light o3,000 candles, in honoro the women who die each yeardue to domestic violence. This an-nual ceremony serves as a movingreminder o the tragic and severeconsequences o domestic violence,with each candle a visual represen-

tation of a life lost. With the helpo our many volunteers, Light Upthe Lakeront brought attention tothe issue o domestic violence andreminds us that we can aectpositive change in this community.

This event is a chance to payrespect or lives lost but also tocelebrate those who have enactedchange in our community. In honoro our 25th anniversary, we are

celebrating 25 Forces of Changethat have positively impacted thedomestic violence community overthe last 25 years. At the luminariareception,Between Friends cel-ebrated several o the 25 Forces:Yesenia Maldonado, Carl Greer,Dr. Paul Schewe, PhD, Jan Russell,

and Attorney General Lisa Ma-digan, highlighting their specifccontributions, and presenting themwith a congratulatory plaque.

Yesenia Maldonado is currentlyBetween Friends Director oPrograms and the creator o ourRelationship Education: A Choiceor Hope (REACH) preventionprogram, which has educated andinuenced over 72,000 teenagers

on the impact o dating violence.Carl Greer has been an ardent sup-porter o our REACH program andhis generosity has helped us cre-ate meaningul outcome measuresor all o our programs. Dr. PaulSchewe, PhD has led two statewide

teen dating violence preventionevaluation projects and he con-tinues to help Between Friends torefne and better our preventionprograms.Jan Russell is currentlythe Director o the Violence AgainstWomen Policy Project with the

Cook County Sheris Department.She established the frst in-houseprogram providing services tovictims o domestic violence whowere abused by members o thepolice department. Keynote speakeand honoree,Attorney GeneralLisa Madigan, highlighted changesmade by her ofce in support othe fght against domestic violence,including an increase in the numbero abusers who are served withOrders o Protection. She has pro-vided many more domestic violencesurvivors with the legal protectionthey desperately need and deserve.We commend Yesenia Maldonado,Carl Greer, Dr. Paul Schewe, PhD,Jan Russell, Attorney General LisaMadigan, and all the other Forceso Change or their commitment toeradicating domestic violence andenacting positive changes through-

out our community.

(Let) The lights rom our luminaria illuminatedthe crisp October night against backdrop othe Chicago skyline.

On Friday, October 28, BetweenFriends encouraged the communityto wear purple to raise awarenesso domestic violence. Dozens opictures rom all over the worldpoured in!

DRESS TO EXPRESS

The sta o Between Friends proudly donnedpurple or our Dress to Express Day heldduring Domestic Violence Awareness Month.


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ADULT CLIENTS:Git cards to grocery stores,

department stores, movie rentalstores, toy stores, restaurants, gasstations, movie theaters, childrensmuseums and indoor parks. Or Visagit cards so they can be used atany o the above.

CTA and Metra passes (monthly,weekly, or daily)

Dry and canned ood items10 small and medium storage

containersReusable grocery bags120 journalsDonated amily law legal services10 pocket calendars or 2012Domestic Violence Report

Subscription (rom www.civicresearchinstitute.com)

TEENS:A subscription to Teen Voice

magazine2 small dry erase boards with

markers1 iPod and speaker dockNew white t-shirts in small, medium,

and large

CHILDREN:Diapers (size 3 & 4) and wipesBackpacksDress up trunk10 packs o new Crayola markers200 lollipops and 150 pieces o

additional candy or chocolate

GENERAL OFFICE NEEDS:500 purple ribbons and saety pinsOfce desk4 chairs4 drawer fle cabinetWater coolerMagazine rack or our literaturePlastic chest o drawersNew computers

WISHLIST

INDIVIDUALS

$1,000 and upAnonymousNancy BonnerChristopher CoronaTimothy GlaudeChristy RobertsRhonda Woodard

$500 to $999

Lisa CarterAndrea FranceAmy GoodenowLinda HonourSarju Patel

$250 to $499Michelle CohenNancy FreemanCharles & Susan SchwartzMelinda & Kevin ShanklinKen & Lisa Smith

FOUNDATION ANDCORPORATION SUPPORT

$10,000 and aboveBlowitz-Ridgeway FoundationBlue Cross Blue Shield o IllinoisChicago Tribune CharitiesFred J. Brunner FoundationGreer FoundationPierce Family FoundationPolk Bros FoundationRavenswood Healthcare FoundationVerizon Wireless Foundation

$2,500 to $9,999A.G. Cox Charity TrustAllstate FoundationCitadel FoundationFourth Presbyterian Church

Kamerlink, Stark, McCormack, &Powers, LLC

Kluth Family FoundationMcGraw FoundationREAM FoundationWalter J. and Edith E. Best

Foundation

$1,000 to $2,499Elizabeth Morse Charitable TrustOfce on Womens HealthS&C Foundation

$999 and underChicago Bar AssociationRachel B. Williams FoundationRotary Club o Wilmette Harbor

DONATIONS (4/30/1112/1/11)

2012 BOARD OF DIRECTORS:

Christopher Corona, PresidentMargaret Waugh, Vice PresidentNancy Bonner, SecretaryTimothy Glaude, TreasurerLisa CarterAlison ClarkeDana DamyenKirk McLaurinBrenda MollerChristine Wyrick

STAFF:

Mollie Anderson, Grant WriterKathleen Doherty, Executive DirectorAmanda Espitia, Director of

DevelopmentApril Fehrenbacher, Court AdvocateMonica Guzman, CounselorKristen Houser, CounselorYesenia Maldonado, Director of

ProgramsCaryn Moore, Childrens Counselor

Colleen Norton, Prevention andEducation ManagerYolanda Owens, Senior Prevention and

Education SpecialistVictoria Piehowski, Court AdvocatePaul Robinson, Prevention and

Education SpecialistMegan Rose, Court Advocacy

CoordinatorNancy Toncy, Clinical SupervisorCarrie Villa, Associate Director

INTERNS:

Morgan Brown, Melissa Filock, SarahHoliday, Cristyn Hypnar, Derek Pieper,Lauren Rankin, Carla Smith

NEWSLETTER:

Mollie Anderson, EditorDesign Courtesy o Cristyn HypnarPrinting courtesy o Allstate Print

and Communication Center

To make a donation or for moreinformation, please call Amanda,our Director of Development at773-274-5232 ext.16.

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