Why do we stay in an unhealthy relationship- Family Empowerment

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Family empowerment is to be done thoughtfully. Empowering the family is empowering the society. I have planned a narrative therapy for families with internal problems. The Story of Ruth Ellis, The Story of Ramu and Latha, and The Story of Divorce are delivered in three consecutive days and on the fourth day "Why do we stay in unhealthy relationship" is delivered. It will work out a therapeutic effect for sure. Try this when you conduct Family empowerment sessions, or else do call me to deliver it in its actual style.

Transcript of Why do we stay in an unhealthy relationship- Family Empowerment

  • Why Do We Stay In An Unhealthy Relationship? Babu Appat
  • There are some strong reasons to stay together even when the relation between, goes bad to worse and from worse to really intolerable a state
  • Is love really enough?
  • I often hear people say I love him/her even if their relationship is harmful, abusive or unhealthy
  • Its difficult even in difficult times They stay in this relationship for the wrong reasons and sometimes they find it extremely difficult to leave the relationship.
  • Leaving can be more complicated than it seems It may seem simple. But the more you try to leave or give it up, youll find its not that easy
  • There are many reason why men and women stay in an unhealthy relationship The following will explain some of the reasons why people decide to stay in a harmful relationship
  • 1. Reliance or Codependency Someone can become financially dependent on their partner and believe that without money they will not have a lavish lifestyle or simply believe that they wont be able to stand on their own feet
  • The Provisions Some people may stay in an abusive or unhealthy relationship because their partner provides with lavish and grandiose things.
  • Shopping at high end stores or buying big brands is glamorous But when you love it more than your partner it becomes unhealthy
  • someone may think that they have nowhere to go if they leave There may dwell a feeling of helplessness in their mind
  • The prevailing social and cultural background is important here It may be aggravated by the individual financial freedom of either of the partners
  • In all these situations They will be strong when they decide to stay in the relationship, .
  • So try to understand And decide to stay together peacefully Try to be happy with what you have
  • If you cant do it yourself Get some professional help
  • 2. Believing abuse is normal Perhaps someone grew up in an environment where abuse was common and do not recognize that their relationship is unhealthy
  • 3. Low self esteem A person with low self- esteem may believe that the abuse or maltreatment is their fault because their partner constantly blames them or puts them down
  • 4. Pregnancy or Parenting A person may feel pressured to stay in an unhealthy relationship because of pregnancy or may feel pressured to raise their child by both parents.
  • Fear of losing the child The abusive partner may threaten to take away their child if they leave
  • 5. Change A person may stay in an unhealthy relationship because their partner promises that they will change and they hope that they eventually will
  • 6. Settle Some people may settle being in an unhealthy relationship rather than being alone.
  • Fear of being left alone The thought of being alone may scare someone and would rather be with anyone.
  • According to Dr. Wendy Walsh, who wrote Should I Stay or Should I Go? a partner is afraid to be single, he or she imagines that being in a bad relationship better than being alone
  • Apprehensions about single life He or she also distorts the future by really thinking that single life will be far worse than it actually turns out to be
  • 7. Good Enough Someone may believe that the abusive partner is good-enough for me and may feel that they do not deserve better
  • No one else will be good enough Or the abusive partner may have already convinced them that no one else will love them more than they do, that they will only love them and their weaknesses and that they are not good enough for others
  • 8. Cognitive Dissonance Cognitive dissonance is a way to justify our actions so that we may never have to feel that we did something wrong
  • Facing the fact that its a mistake People have a hard time breaking free from bad relationships because it means coming to terms that you stayed in a bad relationship for a long time, and facing the fact that it was a mistake
  • Present Commitment If you cant accept and come to terms that it is a mistake you will continue to justify your present commitment to the relationship
  • 9. Personal Needs It is important to not compromise your self-worth. Know what your needs are and how to find happiness. Stick to your needs and find the confidence to work it away
  • If you think You CANNOT
  • If you cant do it yourself Get some professional help
  • Of course you can walk away If you can build it up again, and make it better than what it has been
  • I pray Both of you must be HAPPY both ways
  • THANK YOU Thank you very much God Bless [email protected]