WHAT DOES VALUE MEAN? · AWARENESS HAPPINESS PROSPERITY BEING PRESENT HEALTH QUALITY BEING REAL...
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WHAT DOES VALUE MEAN?
Values:______________________________________________________________ Towards Values:______________________________________________________ Away Values:_________________________________________________________
Examples of Away Values: THEY STEM FROM ‘FEAR’
ANGER HOPELESS REMORSE
ANNOYED HATRED REGRET
ANXIETY HUMILIATION RESENTMENT
APATHY INADEQUATE RAGE
BORED INFERIOR RACISM
BLAME INDECISIVE SELFISH
CREATE SEPARATION
BETWEEN PEOPLE
INSIGNIFICANT SELF-HATE
CONDEMNATION IMPATIENCE STRESS
DEPRESSION ISOLATION STAGNANT
DEFENSIVE INTOLERANCE STUBBORNNESS
DESPAIR INFLEXIBILITY SELF-CENTRED
DESPERATION JEALOUSY SCARED
DEFEAT JUDGEMENTAL SHAME
DISHONESTY JUSTIFICATIONS SELF-PITY
DISCONNECTED LACK OF DIRECTION SADNESS
DEPENDENCE LACK CONFIDENCE UNAPPRECIATED
DISAPPOINTMENT LONELINESS UNFORGIVENESS
DISLIKE LAZINESS USELESS
DEVASTATED MULTI-TASKING UNWANTED
DECEIT NUMBNESS UNATTRACTIVE
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EGO NO LEARNING & GROWTH UNSATISFIED
EXHAUSTION NOT GRATEFUL UNLOVED
EMPTINESS NONE-TRUSTING UNWORTHY
ENVY NEGATIVITY
EMBARRASSMENT NO RESPONSIBILITY
EXPECTATIONS NOT BEING REAL
FEAR NEGATIVELY
CHALLENGED
FRUSTRATION PASSIVENESS
FAILURE PERFECTIONISM
GREED PESSIMISTIC
GUILT REJECTION
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Examples of Towards Values: THEY STEM FROM ‘FREEDOM BASED EMOTIONS’
ABUNDANCE FINANCIAL FREEDOM PEACE
ACCOMPLISHMENT FAIRNESS POSITIVELY CHALLENGED
ACCOUNTABILITY GENEROSITY PATIENCE
ADVANCEMENT GIVING PLAYFULNESS
AFFECTION GRATITUDE POLITENESS
APPRECIATION GREATNESS POSITIVITY
AUTHENTIC GROWTH POWER
AWARENESS HAPPINESS PROSPERITY
BEING PRESENT HEALTH QUALITY
BEING REAL HEART REALISTIC
BALANCE HELPFULNESS RECOGNITION
CARING HELPING INDIVIDUALS RELAXATION
CHALLENGE HELPING SOCIETY REPUTATION
COMMITMENT HELPING THE WORLD RESPECT
COMPASSION HIGHER POWER RESTED
COMPETENCE HONESTY SAINTLINESS
CONFIDENCE HOPE SATISFACTION
CONNECTION HUMBLENESS SECURITY
CONTRIBUTION HUMOR SELF RESPECT
COURAGE HARMONY SERENITY
CREATIVITY INFLUENCING OTHERS SIGNIFICANCE
CONSISTENCY INNER HARMONY SINCERITY
DETERMINATION INSPIRING OTHERS SOPHISTICATION
DEVOTION INTEGRITY STRENGTH
DOING MY BEST AT ALL
TIME
INTELLIGENCE TRANQUILITY
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EMPATHY INVIGORATED TEAM WORK
EMPOWERMENT ILLUMINATED THANKFULNESS
ENERGIZED IMPECCABLE TRUST
ENLIGHTENMENT JOY TRUTH
ENRICHED KINDNESS UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
ENTHUSIASM KNOWLEDGE UNDERSTANDING
ETHICS LAUGHTER UNIQUE
EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE LEADERSHIP VISION
EXCELLENCE LOYALTY WEALTH
EXCITEMENT MERCY WISDOM
EXPERTISE MEANING
FAITH MONEY
FAMILY NONE JUDGMENTAL
FEARS IS ALWAYS FALSE OPENNESS
FLEXIBILITY PASSION
FOCUS RESPONSIBILITY
FORGIVENESS ROMANCE
FREEDOM
FRIENDSHIP
FUN
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LET’S TEST WHAT COULD BE
YOUR PASSION & VALUES IN LIFE
WHAT IS YOUR HEART & SOUL CALLING YOU TO BE & DO?
The following questions are to assist you in surfacing what might drive you at the core.
The answers will help you identify your current towards & away values as well as
your Mission and Visions. With most of the questions, please also write down the
Towards/ Away Values (emotions) experienced as you be/have/do the things in
your answers unless the title of the Towards/Away Values column states otherwise.
As you answer the following questions, “BEING HONEST WITH YOURSELF” is the key.
For example, do not allow yourself to go “hmm..this sounds better than what I’m really
feeling..let me write this instead…”. Whatever that has surfaced from your mind, heart
and soul, just write the answers down without judging them.
STAGE ONE:
1. Imagine you are now 90 years old, sitting on a rocking chair at your
favourite place, looking at what you love to look at, hearing what you want
to hear and feeling peaceful. You know that you may be moving on from
this world soon. Looking back at your life, is there anything you wish you
could have been / could have experienced/ could have done/could have
had before you leave this world? What are the regrets?
2. Imagine you only have one more day to live, looking back at your life, is
there anything you wish you could have been/could have
experienced/could have done/could have had before you leave this world?
What are the regrets and what would you do/be in your last day?
3. If for whatever reason, you now only have one minute to live, the minute is
counting down-60 seconds, 59 seconds, 58 seconds…your body has served
you well and now it is time to leave, your body is getting quieter and
quieter..52 seconds..51..50.., what do you wish you could have done before
you leave this world?
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(i)
I wish I could have done… Towards/Away Values
(ii) Why do you believe those wishes were never fulfilled? What held you back?
Reasons why dreams are not fulfilled Away Values
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4. Look at your photos of every 5 years increment up to your current age and
ask yourself “what were my dreams as a child and as a teenager? What did I
want to be/do/have?”
Also, can you recognise any ‘COMMON THEMES’ about you? Any common
threads? For example, you tend to be drawn to certain things, or think/feel
certain ways? Or certain similar situations kept on happening to you?
Childhood/Teenage Dreams Towards/Away Values
“Common Themes” about you Towards/Away Values
5. What are the things you can do for free and still feel very happy?
Things I can do for free Towards/Away Values
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6. What activities make you lose track of time?
Activities Towards/Away Values
7. What would enable you to wake up & get out of bed with joy/excitement in
the morning?
What makes me wake up with
excitement
Towards/Away Values
8. If you are financially free and you can choose not to work, what would you
be/do/want to have?
Activities Towards/Away Values
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What are the things that you will never stop doing (doesn’t need to be work
related, can be anything) even if you are offered by someone/some organisation
SGD $1 billion to stop doing them?
Activities Towards/Away Values
9. If you had to sacrifice your life for a purpose /purposes, what would be the
purpose/purposes that you are willing to sacrifice you life for?
If your almighty divine says to you that by giving your one life, you will
allow one million people/animals/the entire environments on earth to
live/achieve certain purposes and results, for what purposes and results
you would like one million people/animals/the entire environment to
experience and that you are willing to sacrifice your life for?
Activities Towards/Away Values
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STAGE TWO
1. What do you feel are your positive characteristics?
2. What are the things you notice that you are naturally good at (you may or may not be using them)?
I’m naturally good at… Towards/Away Values
3. What are you trained to be good at (e.g through your job or training
programs..etc)?
I’m trained to be good at… Towards/Away Values
4. What are the things that you feel you can potentially be good at?
I can be potentially good at… Towards/Away Values
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5. What were the top 10 life challenges and pain you’ve experienced?
Life Challenges Towards/Away Values experienced
during the life challenges
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6. What were the ones you were able to overcome?
Life Challenges Overcome Towards/Away Values you took on to
help you overcome the challenges
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7. How did you overcome the challenges?
8. How do you think you can help others to overcome similar issues?
9. What excites you about the world and people?
10. What would you stand up and fight for?
11. What makes you unhappy about people or what’s going on with the planet?
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12. What would you be passionate about to teach to wake people up?
Topics that I’ll teach Towards/Away Values
13. What do you find to be meaningful in your life?
Things that are meaningful to me Towards/Away Values
14. How do you want to contribute to help people/creatures/environment or planet?
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STAGE 3:
1. What would you do if it was absolutely guaranteed that you’ll be successful?
What would I do? Towards/Away Values
2. What type of business or work do you believe would help you learn and grow to be the person you want to be?
Business/Work Towards/Away Values
3. Who are the top 5 people you are most inspired by and why are you inspired
by them? These people can be anyone-whether you know them personally or
not and whether they are still alive or not. Please also list the Towards Values
associated to the reasons why you are inspired by these people.
Top 5 people of inspiration Towards Values associated with them
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4. What would you like to see created in the world? What kind of legacy or gift
would you like to leave people and the planet?
Legacy Towards Values associated with the
legacy you want to leave behind
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CURRENT TOWARDS & AWAY VALUES
Questions from the last section have assisted you to surface your possible main
Towards & Away values. Questions in this section are designed to further test what are
your current values.
1. Imagine you are not concerned about what others think of you. When you are your most ideal self, what are the top 10 words you would like to show up as?
1. 2. 3. 4. 5.
6. 7. 8. 9. 10.
2. Write down top 10 Happiest Moments in your life. Please also list the Towards Values experienced in the 10 Happiest Moments.
TOP 10 HAPPIEST MOMENTS TOWARDS VALUES EXPERIENCED
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3. What were the top 10 ‘screw ups’ you have had and please write down the away
values you experienced that caused the screw up AND the away values you felt
during and after the event.
TOP 10 ‘SCREW UPS’ AWAY VALUES EXPERIENCED THAT
CAUSED THE SCREW UPS & FELT
DURING & AFTER THE EVENT
1.
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4. What are you afraid of the most in your life? Please also list the Away Values
that you would experience if the things that you are afraid of the most happen.
WHAT ARE YOU AFRAID OF THE MOST?
AWAY VALUES EXPERIENCED
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WHAT ARE YOUR TOP 10 TOWARDS VALUES AND AWAY VALUES?
Please now go through your answers for the questions under section titled “Let’s Test What
Could Be Your Passion & Value in Life” and the section titled “Current Towards& Away
Values”. Tally the top10 Towards Values and top 10 Away Values that appear most frequent.
These values could be your current core values.
Your current Top 10 Towards Values:
1. 2. 3. 4. 5.
6. 7. 8. 9. 10.
Your current Top 10 Away Values:
1. 2. 3. 4. 5.
6. 7. 8. 9. 10.
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IDENTIFY YOUR CURRENT RULES FOR YOUR
TOWARDS VALUES
Rules:________________________________________________________
Please write down your Top 10 Current Values and write down the Rules for the values.
CURRENT TOP 10 VALUES CURRENT RULES
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CURRENT TOP 10 VALUES CURRENT RULES
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DESIGNING YOUR NEW VALUES & RULES
Below is from Anthony Robbins’ Mastery University-Date With Destiny Seminar (with
changes to some of the words from us):
CHOOSING YOUR TOWARDS VALUES:
1. Clarify your destiny: a. What kind of person do I want to ultimately become in my lifetime? b. What do I want my life to be about?
2. What do my highest values need to be in order to live my ideal life?
3. View your current list and ask: What do I gain by having this value in this position on my list?
4. What could it cost me to have this value in this position on my list?
5. What values do I need to eliminate in order to live my ideal life?
6. What other values do I need to add to my list in order to live my ideal life?
7. What order do these values need to be in, in order to live my ideal life?
8. Make certain there are no conflicts in the hierarchy.
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DEFINING YOUR TOWARD RULES:
The three points below are from Anthony Robbins’ Mastery University-Date With
Destiny Seminar:
1. Make it easy to experience-language your Toward Rules this way: “Anytime I..”
2. Make a menu: “Anytime I do” a) or b) or c), or d).
3. You must be in control: the outside world does not determine it.
For example:
Success
I experience Success anytime I:
• I am grateful for being alive • I achieve an outcome • I hold myself to my standards • I stretch myself beyond my present limits • I get other people to be the most they can be Being Present I’m present when I
• Live life by intention, not by expectation. • Am in the flow. • Do not allow past negative experiences to affect myself in interacting with
people and handling situations. • Fully experience the moment
Abundance Abundance of everything I would like to manifest. Growth physically (health and
appearance), emotionally, growth of mindset and Enlightenment. Abundance
financially. Abundance of Trust. Abundance of Happiness. Abundance of love and
passion. Abundance of romance. Abundance of fun. Abundance of contribution and all
other values I’m living with.
I experience Abundance anytime I
• Feel any of the values I must live by. • Feel, Trust and Visualize I AM the outcomes I would like to achieve and
manifest. • Am happy • Contribute
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• Train • Give my unconditional love to another • Donate money • Money comes into my account. • Feel I don’t need anything to be happy! Ahahah! • Feel I don’t desire anything • Feel “Wu So Wei” • Feel Enlightened
Health I experience Health anytime I
• Trust I’m Healthy no matter what is happening with me at the very moment
• Breath in the right way • Exercise • Drink the right water of PH above 7.4, small water molecule, oxygenated,
high positive power • Eat Vegetables • Eat fruits • Eat 5 grains • Eat Sweet potatoes or other roots like Yam • Sleep before 12am • Feel Happy • Meditate • Take best quality supplements • Have Massage/Spa • Get Medical Check UP • Get a great Chinese Medical Doctor’s evaluation and take what they
prescribe for me. • Feel energized • No Physical uncomforted • Don’t eat junk food
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Love I experience Love anytime I:
• Give Love Unconditionally • Live life by intention, not by expectation. • Accept and appreciate everything. • Remember the love I always have in my heart • Give a smile to another • Help someone and contribute • Give present to another • Give someone a hug • Hold someone’s hand • Look into some one’s eyes and connect deeply and lovingly • Experience and/or remember someone’s love, care and warmth to me • Experience and/or remember my parents and brothers’ love for me • Experience and /or remember my friends’ love, care and warmth for me. • Experience my lover’s love for me. • Notice the love in others • See children • Experience and remember my divine • Do something for the greater good
WHAT IS THE ORDER OF YOUR TOP 10 TOWARDS VALUES?
1.
2.
3.
4.
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6.
7.
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9.
10.
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LIST THE TOWARDS VALUES IN ORDER AND DEFINE THE NEW RULES:
NEW TOP 10 VALUES NEW RULES
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NEW TOP 10 VALUES NEW RULES
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NEW TOP 10 VALUES NEW RULES
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NEW TOP 10 VALUES NEW RULES