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welcome to
Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)
Level 3 | Advanced Practitioner Course
Changing the world the only way you ever can;by changing yourself.
Presented by Bennie Naudé
www.deepliving.com
A D V A N C E D E F T L E V E L 3 | M A G I C & T R A N S F O R M A T I O N | B E N N I E N A U D E
EFT Level 3 Workbook v0.1 19-May-2017 Bennie Naudé | www.deepliving.com | [email protected]
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I have always been delighted at the prospect of a new day, a fresh try, one more start, with perhaps a bit of magic waiting somewhere behind the morning.
B. Priestley
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Table of contents
Table of Contents About me, Level 3 and this workbook................................................................................................... 1
EFT, Matrix Reimprinting training and I ............................................................................................ 1
EFT Level 3: A whole different ballgame .......................................................................................... 1
Show me the money ......................................................................................................................... 1
Training with other trainers .............................................................................................................. 1
Other resources ................................................................................................................................ 1
Feedback ........................................................................................................................................... 2
Mentoring ............................................................................................................................................. 2
How to get the most out of this workbook ........................................................................................... 2
I’m not where I used to be… ................................................................................................................. 3
My intentions, dreams and goals .......................................................................................................... 4
It’s all about RELATIONSHIP .................................................................................................................. 6
How you feel ABOUT the issue ......................................................................................................... 6
Acceptance ....................................................................................................................................... 6
6 x PR’s: ISSAID.................................................................................................................................. 7
Dig for Trauma .................................................................................................................................. 7
Powerful Sentence Completion Exercises ......................................................................................... 8
Dissociation: A Protective Distancing Technique .................................................................................. 9
Why? ................................................................................................................................................. 9
Associated versus Dissociated....................................................................................................... 9
Money and YOU : Guided Group Exercise ....................................................................................... 10
The Morph Technique......................................................................................................................... 11
Me, myself, I ................................................................................................................................... 11
Shame ............................................................................................................................................. 11
Purpose ........................................................................................................................................... 11
Building blocks: Pronouns, intonation, and sneaking up on self love............................................. 11
Mix & match ................................................................................................................................... 12
The Morph Technique in practice ................................................................................................... 12
Set-up statement ........................................................................................................................ 12
Reminder phrases ....................................................................................................................... 12
Validate, validate, validate (with humour) .......................................................................................... 14
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Validation ........................................................................................................................................ 14
Acceptance ..................................................................................................................................... 14
‘So-what’ and ‘of course’ tapping ................................................................................................... 14
I’m allowed to… .............................................................................................................................. 15
Why wouldn’t I? .............................................................................................................................. 15
Turns out I’m human after all ......................................................................................................... 15
It makes perfect sense .................................................................................................................... 16
Lightness into the seriousness - gently ........................................................................................... 16
“Especially because” ....................................................................................................................... 17
“Especially because” set-up statement ....................................................................................... 17
Matching reminder phrases ........................................................................................................ 17
I still deserve kindness (love etc) – don’t I? .................................................................................... 17
I choose to be kind and patient with myself ................................................................................... 18
I wonder what would happen if… ................................................................................................... 18
The truth is… ................................................................................................................................... 18
Rapport, rapport, rapport [not provoke, provoke, provoke] .......................................................... 18
Empowering your client ...................................................................................................................... 19
I choose ........................................................................................................................................... 19
Let them complete the sentence .................................................................................................... 19
Gurus we’re not .............................................................................................................................. 19
Homework ...................................................................................................................................... 19
Drawing and Symbols ......................................................................................................................... 20
Drawing ........................................................................................................................................... 20
Symbols ........................................................................................................................................... 20
Get a room!..................................................................................................................................... 22
As within, so without ...................................................................................................................... 24
Money and YOU .............................................................................................................................. 24
Working with metaphor...................................................................................................................... 25
Metaphors ...................................................................................................................................... 25
Why metaphors are so powerful .................................................................................................... 25
Ways to identify client metaphors .................................................................................................. 26
The body as mirror .......................................................................................................................... 26
Other metaphors ............................................................................................................................ 26
Create a few of your own................................................................................................................ 26
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Positive tapping .................................................................................................................................. 27
Modalities and Sub-modalities ........................................................................................................... 28
Your internal representation is all that matters (and you can change it) ........................................ 28
It’s all about perception .................................................................................................................. 28
The VAKOG Modalities .................................................................................................................... 28
Sub-modalities ................................................................................................................................ 29
Visual .......................................................................................................................................... 29
Auditory ...................................................................................................................................... 29
Kinesthetic .................................................................................................................................. 29
Olfactory ..................................................................................................................................... 29
Gustatory .................................................................................................................................... 29
Money and you : Exercise ............................................................................................................... 30
Anchors ............................................................................................................................................... 32
Terms .............................................................................................................................................. 32
Attributes of effective anchors ....................................................................................................... 32
How to set up an anchor: ................................................................................................................ 32
Safety anchors ................................................................................................................................ 33
Creation anchors ............................................................................................................................. 33
Money and YOU : Group Exercise ................................................................................................... 34
“Away-from” versus “towards” motivation ........................................................................................ 35
Why it is important ......................................................................................................................... 36
Get conscious .................................................................................................................................. 36
Clarity is everything, change is optional .......................................................................................... 36
First things first ............................................................................................................................... 36
Examples ..................................................................................................................................... 37
How to elicit motivation ................................................................................................................. 37
Format ........................................................................................................................................ 37
Quantum linguistics ........................................................................................................................ 38
Format ........................................................................................................................................ 38
Important distinctions................................................................................................................. 38
Examples ..................................................................................................................................... 39
Practitioner notes ....................................................................................................................... 39
Money and YOU : Exercise .............................................................................................................. 40
Origins and evolution of problems...................................................................................................... 43
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Consider .......................................................................................................................................... 43
Healing approaches ........................................................................................................................ 44
Explore ............................................................................................................................................ 44
Resolution of Inner Conflicts ............................................................................................................... 45
“As within, so without.” .................................................................................................................. 45
Inner parts ...................................................................................................................................... 45
Inner conflict ................................................................................................................................... 45
Doing what seems unnatural, until it’s the most natural thing there is .......................................... 46
The more you push parts away, the more they push back ............................................................. 46
Effective ways of working with inner conflict ................................................................................. 47
Resolving inner conflict with metaphors ..................................................................................... 48
Accepting all parts ....................................................................................................................... 48
The sovereign .................................................................................................................................. 48
Money and YOU : Exercise .............................................................................................................. 49
Reflection .................................................................................................................................... 49
EFT – The quick fix? ............................................................................................................................. 50
When clients get upset ................................................................................................................... 50
Relapses .......................................................................................................................................... 50
The role of love and forgiveness in therapy ........................................................................................ 51
Easy easy, at their own pace ........................................................................................................... 51
Reframes ......................................................................................................................................... 51
An inside job ................................................................................................................................... 51
Common reasons why people don’t want to forgive ...................................................................... 52
God-forgiveness .............................................................................................................................. 52
Self-forgiveness ............................................................................................................................... 52
Tips ................................................................................................................................................. 53
Lead by example ............................................................................................................................. 53
The ultimate reframe ...................................................................................................................... 53
Money and you : Exercise ............................................................................................................... 54
Mirror, mirror on the wall ................................................................................................................... 55
Your stuff ........................................................................................................................................ 55
Doubts and Limiting beliefs ................................................................................................................ 56
Limiting ‘belief’ or ‘decision’? ......................................................................................................... 56
Examples of yours limiting decisions getting in the way ................................................................. 56
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Not right, wrong or real .................................................................................................................. 56
Their beliefs & decisions ................................................................................................................. 57
Memory reconsolidation................................................................................................................. 58
Money and You : Exercise ............................................................................................................... 59
Distinctions ................................................................................................................................. 59
More on questioning techniques ........................................................................................................ 60
Open and closed questions ............................................................................................................. 60
Advantages of open-ended questions: ....................................................................................... 60
Advantages of closed questions .................................................................................................. 61
Differences ...................................................................................................................................... 61
Choose the right tool for the job at hand ....................................................................................... 61
Money and You : Exercise 1 ............................................................................................................ 62
Money and You : Exercise 2 ............................................................................................................ 62
Discuss ............................................................................................................................................ 62
Because ........................................................................................................................................... 64
Getting to the point ........................................................................................................................ 64
And with all of that… ....................................................................................................................... 65
Sentence completion exercises ....................................................................................................... 65
Reframing & pre-framing .................................................................................................................... 66
Reframing Example ......................................................................................................................... 66
Reframes usually land better when….............................................................................................. 67
The other’s perspective .................................................................................................................. 67
Matrix Reimprinting ........................................................................................................................ 67
Example .......................................................................................................................................... 67
Pre-frames ...................................................................................................................................... 68
Unstructured tapping & your intuition ............................................................................................... 69
Never assume ................................................................................................................................. 69
Offer it ............................................................................................................................................ 69
It really is none of your business ..................................................................................................... 69
Asking for guidance ......................................................................................................................... 70
Money and You : Group Exercise .................................................................................................... 71
Introduction to working with serious disease ..................................................................................... 72
It’s all energy ................................................................................................................................... 72
Useful reframes .............................................................................................................................. 72
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Stressed body versus relaxed body. ................................................................................................ 72
Help with physical and emotional symptoms of treatment ............................................................ 73
Reading ........................................................................................................................................... 73
Transference and Countertransference .............................................................................................. 74
Transference ................................................................................................................................... 74
What to do with transference ..................................................................................................... 74
Countertransference ....................................................................................................................... 75
What to do with countertransference ........................................................................................ 75
Projection ........................................................................................................................................... 76
Reading: .......................................................................................................................................... 76
How to tell ...................................................................................................................................... 76
When it happens ............................................................................................................................. 76
What to do with your projection onto your clients ......................................................................... 77
Clients are human; they project ...................................................................................................... 78
What to do with their projection? .................................................................................................. 78
Outcome Attachment ......................................................................................................................... 79
Signs of outcome attachment ......................................................................................................... 79
Rescuing isn’t possible .................................................................................................................... 79
What to do with outcome attachment ........................................................................................... 79
More on Psychological Reversal ......................................................................................................... 80
Money and YOU .............................................................................................................................. 82
Introduction to Psychological Disorders ............................................................................................. 83
Labels .............................................................................................................................................. 83
Be informed .................................................................................................................................... 83
Symptoms ....................................................................................................................................... 83
The relief of understanding............................................................................................................. 83
Possibility and healing..................................................................................................................... 84
Medication ...................................................................................................................................... 84
Love and accept what IS ................................................................................................................. 84
Specific approaches ........................................................................................................................ 85
Ongoing personal awareness, self-work, mentoring and supervision ................................................ 86
Self-work ......................................................................................................................................... 86
When clients are unable to access emotion ....................................................................................... 87
There’s always a good reason ......................................................................................................... 87
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Commonalities ................................................................................................................................ 87
FEELING VERSUS THINKING ............................................................................................................ 87
Effective facilitation language ......................................................................................................... 88
In EFT, guessing is as good as knowing or feeling ........................................................................... 88
More on working with trauma ............................................................................................................ 89
Ways to work with trauma.......................................................................................................... 90
Other metaphors ............................................................................................................................ 92
Working with clients where English is not their first language. .......................................................... 93
Welcoming your creativity .................................................................................................................. 94
What do you want?......................................................................................................................... 95
Choose a niche ................................................................................................................................ 95
Dream ............................................................................................................................................. 95
More on choices ................................................................................................................................. 97
EFT Choices ..................................................................................................................................... 97
Instructions for the Choices Trio ..................................................................................................... 98
The Wording of Choices .................................................................................................................. 99
Choices Rule 1: Be Specific ....................................................................................................... 100
Choices Rule 2: Create a Pulling Choice ................................................................................... 100
Choices Rule 3: Go for the Best Possible Outcome .................................................................. 101
Choices Rule 4: State Your Choices in the Positive .................................................................. 101
Choices Rule 5: Do Not Choose for Others .............................................................................. 101
Choices Rule 6: Make Choices that are easily pronounced and rolls off the tongue!............... 102
4 Techniques For Active Listening ..................................................................................................... 103
Encouraging .................................................................................................................................. 103
Restating & Rephrasing ................................................................................................................. 103
Reflecting ...................................................................................................................................... 103
Summarising/Re-Capping.............................................................................................................. 104
Logical Levels .................................................................................................................................... 105
The Milton Model ............................................................................................................................. 106
The Meta Model ........................................................................................................................... 106
The Milton Model ......................................................................................................................... 106
Milton Erickson ............................................................................................................................. 107
Pacing and Leading ....................................................................................................................... 107
Milton Model: Hypnotic Language Patterns ................................................................................. 108
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Understanding Archetypes ............................................................................................................... 111
Predetermined plans and client processes ................................................................................... 111
The illusion of control ................................................................................................................... 111
Swimming upstream … or floating downstream? ......................................................................... 112
Leave it unnoticed or untended at your own peril (and your client’s disadvantage) .................... 112
Truly meeting your clients ............................................................................................................ 113
Maps & models ............................................................................................................................. 114
The opportunity for us as practitioners: ....................................................................................... 114
Archetypes as allies ....................................................................................................................... 115
SHADOWWORK© ......................................................................................................................... 116
It’s not an exact science ................................................................................................................ 116
Ways of expression rather than ‘who you are’ ............................................................................. 116
Weaving ‘n dancing ....................................................................................................................... 117
Different strokes /different strengths ........................................................................................... 118
A bit of this, a bit of that, it’s just a model (and mistake 101) ...................................................... 118
Inflated, deflated or balanced ....................................................................................................... 118
Terminology .................................................................................................................................. 119
Way of connecting .................................................................................................................... 119
Wound / access (or gateway) emotion ..................................................................................... 119
Healing energy .......................................................................................................................... 119
Supporting, encouraging and nurturing the […Archetype…]..................................................... 119
SOVEREIGN (KING/QUEEN) ........................................................................................................... 120
Summary ................................................................................................................................... 120
Sovereign way of expressing itself, connecting and knowing it’s alive ..................................... 120
Sovereign Wound / access (or gateway) emotion..................................................................... 120
Healing the Sovereign ............................................................................................................... 120
The BALANCED Sovereign: ........................................................................................................ 120
The DEFLATED Sovereign .......................................................................................................... 121
The INFLATED Sovereign ........................................................................................................... 121
Common careers ....................................................................................................................... 121
LOVER ........................................................................................................................................... 122
Summary ................................................................................................................................... 122
Lover way of expressing itself, connecting and knowing it’s alive ............................................ 122
Lover wound / access (or gateway) emotion ............................................................................ 122
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Healing the Lover ...................................................................................................................... 122
The BALANCED Lover ................................................................................................................ 122
The DEFLATED Lover ................................................................................................................. 123
The INFLATED Lover .................................................................................................................. 123
Common careers ....................................................................................................................... 123
THE MAGICIAN .............................................................................................................................. 124
Summary ................................................................................................................................... 124
Magician way of expressing itself, connecting and knowing it’s alive ....................................... 124
Magician wound / access (or gateway) emotion ...................................................................... 124
Healing the Magician ................................................................................................................ 124
The BALANCED Magician .......................................................................................................... 125
The DEFLATED Magician ........................................................................................................... 125
The INFLATED Magician ............................................................................................................ 125
Common careers ....................................................................................................................... 125
WARRIOR ...................................................................................................................................... 126
Warrior way of expressing itself, connecting and knowing it’s alive ......................................... 126
Warrior wound / access (or gateway) emotion......................................................................... 126
Healing the Warrior .................................................................................................................. 126
The INFLATED Warrior .............................................................................................................. 126
The Deflated Warrior ................................................................................................................ 127
Common careers ....................................................................................................................... 127
Juxtapositions ............................................................................................................................... 128
Vertical: warrior and sovereign ................................................................................................. 128
Horizontal ................................................................................................................................. 128
Full rather than empty / welcome rather suppress / engage rather than exclude ....................... 128
FACILITATION TOOLS MOST SUITED TO EACH ARCHETYPE ........................................................... 129
Practitioner aspects .................................................................................................................. 129
Client aspects ............................................................................................................................ 129
“WHAT”: Choosing an archetypal-appropriate process ............................................................... 129
HOW: Choosing an archetypal-appropriate way of being ............................................................. 130
Useful strategies ........................................................................................................................... 130
SOVEREIGN FACILITATION ........................................................................................................ 131
MAGICIAN FACILITATION .......................................................................................................... 133
WARRIOR FACILITATION ........................................................................................................... 136
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LOVER FACILITATION................................................................................................................. 138
If you’re still doing once-off sessions for your client, you might want to read this .......................... 139
Your inner world shapes your outer world – always ......................................................................... 141
It’s not about what happens outside; it’s what happens on the inside ............................................ 141
You’re rarely upset for the reason you think you are ....................................................................... 142
Resources.......................................................................................................................................... 143
Other Practitioner Tips ..................................................................................................................... 144
What I’m deciding ............................................................................................................................. 145
What I’m grateful for ........................................................................................................................ 146
What I’m learning about myself........................................................................................................ 147
Session notes .................................................................................................................................... 148
What happened? / What did I learn? How can I use it? .................................................................... 149
Session notes .................................................................................................................................... 150
What happened? / What did I learn? How can I use it? .................................................................... 151
Session notes .................................................................................................................................... 152
What happened? / What did I learn? How can I use it? .................................................................... 153
Your Drawing and Symbols ............................................................................................................... 154
Your Drawing and Symbols ............................................................................................................... 155
