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Babs Quincy, CounselorNeal Edman, VP for Student Affairs
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Your Communication Maintain communication even if your son
or daughter ignores you
On the other hand, don’t call them too much
Listen to their problems; don’t always rush to solve
The best thing to do: Have a conversation about how and when you will communicate
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You can reach them all the time!
That’s the good news&
That’s the bad news
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Boundaries should apply here, too
Have the cell be a bridge not a leash
Discuss expectations ahead of time
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How often do you expect to hear from them?
What topics do they need to discuss with you?
What works for you and them in terms of who initiates?
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Beliefs, Ideas and Friends
Students will be exposed to new and different things at Westminster
They will “try on” different hats or “identities”
Give them space to explore
Pick your battles wisely
Resist lecturing. This can negatively impact communication
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Behaviors
They might pull away
They might spend more time with friends
They will explore independence and autonomy
Respect and encourage this
Let them make mistakes
Use the same patience you did when they were learning to walk
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There is more time for yourself and your partner!
More opportunity for new adventures
But there is the sadness of letting go
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Showing your son or daughter the door prematurely may be very difficult for them
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There is a process of transition going on:
adult-child relationship
adult-adult relationship
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You will need to decide how to handle the question Who is in charge?
“As long as you are under my roof…….” or “As long as I am paying the bills…”
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These should be discussed and negotiated
Set your house rules
What are your expectations when your student is home on
breaks?
How do you communicate any concerns you have about their
behavior?
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Cheerleader
Encourager
Consultant
Safety net
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Lecturer or dictator Ignorer Dropper inner Private investigator Attorney Being their voice in matters that
are theirs
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Listen
State your concerns
Be ready to compromise - as long as their demands or behavior are not disruptive to the family unit
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They will appreciate your open ears and mind, and that you have the time to listen
Believe it or not, your student will continue to take your words of wisdom seriously
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Respect their privacy
Try not to intrude
Allow them to settle their problems by themselves. Westminster has plenty of professionals to help them along the way
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Please leave that to us. The Residence Life and other professional staff members will be happy to keep an eye on or intervene if you fear that your student is having emotional, drug/alcohol-related, or other serious problems.
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Since college is not a court of law, the best thing to do is to help your student learn to:
negotiate problems
be assertive, but not aggressive
be an educated consumer
become independent and self-reliant
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You want them to be articulate self-advocates
Your role is to be a sounding board and coach. Let them take it from there
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You got them this far, and this is quite an accomplishment
Have faith in your parenting skills and your ability to make the
transition in your parenting style
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