T o o l k i tW E E K 3

Date Night

S E X U A L I N T I M A C Y I N M A R R I A G E

Read out loud together Colossians 1:16-17 and Psalm 139:1-18. What do theseverses tell you about God’s awareness of and presence within your sex life?  As a couple, how can you grow in bringing God’s truth and presence intosexual intimacy into your marriage? What difference do you think that mightmake?  What barriers do you face to praying about sexual intimacy? Sexual strugglesand temptation?  What are some practical ways you can include prayer in your sex life? Talktogether about the when?

Week 3

HOMEWORK

Using the ACTS structure, spend some time together praying about sexualintimacy in your marriage. Below are some prompts that may help you getstarted: Adoration: Reflect back to God what sexual intimacy has taught you about Hischaracter. You might praise Him for His covenant love, His faithfulness to us evenwhen we are unfaithful, and the passion of His love for you. You might praise Himfor the ways in which you and your spouse are “fearfully and wonderfully made.”  Confession: I John 1 and Psalm 32 are just a few places that contrast whathappens when we hide our sin instead of confessing it. Spend some timetogether and separately confessing ways that sex in your marriage has beentwisted by sin like lust, selfishness, and unforgiveness.  Thanksgiving: Spend time thanking the Lord for the gift of your bodies; the giftof sexual pleasure, and oneness. Thank Him for the ways in which He has broughthealing to you personally and as a couple. Thank Him for His kindness and graceto you in this intimate and sacred area of your life.  Supplication: Cry out to God, your Father. Call out to Jesus, your friend. Ask theLord to help you together experience the fullness of His gift of sexual intimacy inmarriage. Ask Him to give you supernatural love for each other in and out of thebedroom. He will teach you to be patient, kind, forgiving, gentle, and humble. Askthe Lord to heal areas of your marriage and sexuality that are broken.

Week 3

HOMEWORK

CONVERSATION starters

We want to ask God’s blessing on us before sexual intimacy. We want to thank God for sexual intimacy after sex. We want to learn more about God’s design for our sexual relationshipby reading a book, studying Song of Solomon, or listening to a podcastor sermon on biblical sexuality. We want to pray and fast, asking God to tear down a stronghold of sin,temptation, brokenness, shame, or bitterness in our sex life. We want to place something  (a plaque, Bible verse, symbol, etc…)  in ourbedroom to remind us that sexual intimacy is something that Godcreated and cares about.

While specific times of prayer like this one are precious, prayer is theacknowledgement of God’s presence at all times. Create regularopportunities to invite God into this most intimate area of your life andmarriage. Choose one or more of the following ways to make prayer a regular part ofyour sex life together: 1.2.3.

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