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Valentine’s Day 2015 -‐ An observation of The Heart, Mature Love and Emotional Capital AB022015 This year, I decided to send an observation message VS the typical cute picture everyone shares of a darling Cupid “wishing you a Happy Valentine’s Day” from XYZ… While my observation may, or may not be received as “equitable”, it serves not to offend anyone but merely as “food for thought” in a world that could always use a little more Heart, Mature Love and Emotional Capital.
It is fascinating to learn what happens when one experiences true, mature love or a feeling of acceptance by people closest or important to them. What happens when one experiences a sense of connection and belonging. I define the heart, mature love and emotional capital in a relationship as the sharing an exchange of pure energy and a deep connection of a flowing bond communicated with words, with the body, with the mind-‐ heart and soul-‐ pure energy, absolutely true and part of this world. It is fantastic and real. Mature love is more complex than writing a symphony. It is an exchange of pure energy, emotionally vested and committed to staying connected to that deep bond with one another that has driven the evolution of the human heart and mature love to be the most complex “anything” in all of existence.
Some might argue that “love” is merely an imagined sensation with no connection to the heart-‐ rather a chemical cocktail of neurotransmitters1 where adrenaline, dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and vasopressin all entertain for a short period of time the limbic cortex, nothing more. While all play a part, new neuroscience, research reveals, love is in the heart. That the heart is more than a ten-‐ounce muscle only serving to pump blood and maintain circulation. The heart also serves as a hormonal gland, manufacturing and secreting numerous hormones and neurotransmitters that profoundly affect emotion, the brain and body function.
New scientific evidence confirms that the heart is responsible for feelings and emotions. It uses neurological, biochemical and biophysical ways to send emotional and intuitive signals to our brain. Electrophysiological studies have indicated that the heart appears to play a key role in emotional capital and intuition. In fact, scientists are now discovering that the heart may be the actual intelligent force, which is behind the intuitive thoughts, feelings and emotions experienced by us. As new discoveries prove the heart has direct links to the “intelligence” force, we have a new window into understanding our emotions. In fact, emotions of love are connected with the rhythm of the heart.
The heart has been referred to as a source of love and virtue for many centuries. It is recognized as the source of intelligence by Hebrew, Christian, Hindu, Chinese and Islamic traditions. We often talk about “following the heart”, but it is only recently that scientists have begun to show that there is literal truth in the cliché; that the throbbing lump of muscle absolutely contributes to our emotions and the mysterious feelings of love in a very real way. While the heart is certainly a remarkable pump, intriguingly, new scientific research has begun to provide real evidence that many of these long-‐surviving historical associations may well be more than simply metaphorical. Research has also shown that the heart is a key component of the emotional system. Science has only begun to understand the effects of the electromagnetic fields produced by the heart. That it not only responds to emotion but that it signals rhythmic activity that actually play a major role synchronizing in determining the quality of our loving and emotional experience from moment to moment.
The ancient practices of yoga, acupuncture, reflexology, etc. and the not so ancient practices of reiki, iridology, demonstrate the interconnectivity of all parts of the body/mind systems. It never ceases to amaze me, that many ancient wisdoms are only now being 'rediscovered' by modern science. New research is reinforcing these ideas, which actually go back to ancient times, and demonstrate the interconnectivity with all parts of our existence. Now that I have shared my thoughts, I offer a Valentine blessing, symbolizing what the value of love means to me. That you each have or find true, mature love in your life.
Saint Valentine’s Day, aka Valentine’s Day or the Feast of Saint Valentine, is observed on February 14 and is celebrated worldwide, although not an official “Holiday”-‐ While the origins of the celebratory occasion did not have any romantic connotations until the high middle Ages, it eventually evolved into a day of honoring loved ones.
When emotions of true, mature love manifest themselves, the effects can be very powerful. When you truly love someone, you are emotionally vested. You integrate that special person into the very fiber of your existence. When you are emotionally vested, you work at the partnership-‐ it is an emotional investment of a lifelong partnership requiring work and commitment, honesty and trust.
Even from a distance, you remain committed, supportive and caring. You each bring your individual influences to the relationship like a spiritual awakening where an emotional ballet takes flight. You think about them, you carry them in your heart; they become a special part of you whether you are in the same room, or a million miles away. You help them do things, solve problems, grow, evolve, communicate and exist along with you. Recognize however, that everyone comes with baggage-‐ if you truly love someone, help him or her unpack…
True love is vulnerable. Embrace vulnerability, it is what allows true love to enter your life. The willingness to say I love you first, to invest your heart into a relationship with no guarantees, the courage to be imperfect, the compassion to be kind, the connection as a result of authenticity of choice that the whole-‐hearted worthiness holds-‐ a strong sense of loving and belonging, of trust above all.
True love equals confidence in your love for one another. You think together yet respect each other’s individuality and can agree to disagree. You find ways to embrace your very different backgrounds, different disciplines, different ways of thinking, different experiences-‐ it is through true love and passionate devotion that you can engage in constructive conflict while maintaining respect, love, and heart for one another. When you truly love someone, you behave responsibly. You remain exclusively intimate. You don’t stray… You share a special bond and connection. Recognize, cherish and respect true, mature love (emotional capital)… it is a rare gift and a real tragedy to abandon or squander.
1-‐ Research reference for technical components of this article: scientificamerican.com – AB2015