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WALKING THIS VALLEY- Tucson Chapter Vol. 38 No. 1 January-February 2020
Frost
On a cold winter’s day, Frost etches a beautiful artistry
On everything it touches, every blade of grass It glitters and sparkles, and for moments
Before the sun comes out and the master piece evaporates before our eyes, we stand memorized cherishing the wondrous sight.
Like frost, our children were only here for a brief moment But, while they were here
Whether it was moments in the womb Days, months or many years
They etched their beautiful artistry of love On our hearts and lives and all of those
They touched. Unlike frost, what they etched is forever,
It is something that we can cherish and hold onto always. We stand here tonight lighting a candle to remember children we will never forget.
Their light, their spirits, their artistry lives on and like the flame of the candle gives warmth on a cold winter’s night
And light in the darkness The love our children gave us still remains.
It keeps us warm when the cold winds of grief blow. It lights our way through the darkness and loneliness
That we feel, And it gives us hope!
Julie Short 2007 Southeastern TCF
Candle Lighting Ceremony In Memory of Kyra
Tucson Chapter
P.O. Box 30733
Tucson, AZ 85751-0733
(520) 721-8042
www.tucsontcf.org
National Headquarters
P.O. Box 3696
Oak Brook, IL 60522
Toll free (877) 969-0010
www.compassionatefriends.org
Welcome! All bereaved parents, grandparents, and adult siblings are welcome at our support group meetings. Here you will find comfort, caring people, and most of all-HOPE. Coming to the first meeting is hard, but you have nothing to lose and much to gain. For
many it is the first real step toward healing. Although it may seem overwhelming, we encourage you to come to several meetings to give yourself a chance to become comfortable. The hope of The Compassionate Friends is that those who need us would find us and that those that find us would be helped. TCF also provides information to help members be supportive to
each other. We are not professional counselors. We are bereaved families who want to help each other.
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Past Events:
Chapter Candle Lighting: October 23, 2019
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All Souls Procession: November 8, 2019
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Worldwide Candle Lighting: December 8, 2019
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January Birthdays
JACK ATKINSON ROBERT BREMOND SHANTI CARLISI
LARRY CASTAÑEDA ZAC CLARK COLLEEN CONTER
KATIE EDMONDS KATHRYN EIDE RYKEN EVERETT
KAREN FORD ALEX GRADIAS EDNA HERRERA
TIMOTHY HESKIN ROLAND JAMES MEGHAN JONES
JOSEPH (JAY) KAPLINSKI MIA MATHESON SWAIN TAYLOR KOENIG
SEBASTIAN MEYER AARON MILLER PENELOPE OSWALT
DONN OWENS MICHAEL JOHN PADILLA KYLE PETTEYS
CHRISTOPHER PULLEN DAVID RADTKE BECKA ROSENWALD
MICHEAL P SHEATS NICHOLAS SIMS ERIC TAYLOR
ANTHONY THOMASON EMILY TRENT ROBERT ERIC TURNER
RAMES VALENZUELA MARIO VERDUGO JR LINDSAY WAKEFIELD
PHILIP WORKMAN TIMOTHY BYMP NICHOLAS A. BUONAVOLONTA JOVAN ANTONIO ESCARCEGA
KETZIA AMAIRANY FLORES GARY DURRENBERGER
JAMESON GILES PERSONIUS GREGORY RAMIREZ JR.
CHADWICK THOMAS KENYON ANDREW INGARGIOLA
January Remembrance Days
DANIELLE BARNETT PHILLIP BECKER
JAKE BOUDREAU CESAR TIZOK GONZALEZ ERICA LYN BOWDEN CLYDE BURKEY
JOHN JOSEPH CEPIN IV
GEORGIA COLEHOUR LUKE DAINS STEFAN ENRIQUEZ
ANDREW GAINES LAURA GORMAN BRIAN JOEL HARPER
EDNA HERRERA TYGE IRSKENS II AMY KRUPPENBACHER
KENNETH LUIKART STEPHEN MAHAFFEY MIA MATHESON
DAMION MATTHEWS DANIEL J. McCLAIN ALEX ANDRU MENDOZA
MARIELLE MENTZER JARED PATRICK JASON PHANCO
TRACY ANN POLLINS LUKE RUTHERFORD SHERYL SCHUBERT
CLINT SMITH JANESSA JACLYN SMITH LINDA STUBBINS
JESUS TARAZON-ROSAS ANTHONY THOMASON MARCOS RENE TORRES
OLANDO TRUJILLO EDWARD SAMUEL WEISS ANTHONY JOEL WELLS
CONNIE CHRISTINE WILSON CHRISTOPHER (Son of Mike and
Debbie) NICHOLAS A. BUONAVOLONTA MICAYLA JASMINE FULLER
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Empty Places I drove the old way yesterday. It’d been a while, you see. And there, without a warning, the pain washed over me. I drove the old way yesterday and sadness came on strong, taken back by so much feeling, since you’ve been gone so long. Places seem to lie in wait to summon up the tears, to say remember yesterday, those days when you were here. Places where you laughed and played are places where I cry. These places hold the memories that will live as long as I. -Genesse Gentry TCF Marin County, CA In Memory of Lori Gentry
Angels Among Us Our Angels are among us
We see them everyday In all the forms that God created... They are with us along life’s way.
We see them in the sunrise, That brightens and warms our soul. We feel them in the summer breeze
That chases away our cold. They are there among the flowers... Their sweet scent a memory of love.
They soar with the eagles, As they fly so high above.
The night will find them in the stars, Lighting our path below.
And even in our dreams, Their presence we’ll still know.
As the snow melts with the sun, And spring flowers peek through their beds,
They come on the wings of butterflies, And flutter about our heads.
They are telling us they are with us, And will be forever more...
Until it’s time for us to meet again, As we pass through heaven’s door.
- Jacquelyn M. Comeaux Copyright 2001 Reprinted by permission of author
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February Birthdays JASON BAKE DAVID BAKER ISAIAH BATES-SCOTT
JOSHUA BEDELL JEREMY BRIGHT LUKE DAINS
AISLYNN TIANA DAVIS JENNIFER DUTTON ROGER PAUL EAGLE
MATTHIAS EDWIN ENLOW D. FRANCES ENRIQUEZ SAHARA FAHMY
PETER JAMES "PJ" FARRELL WESTON FOARD BRIAN FRAZIN
RAUL (BUDDY) GARCIA KEVIN GEIS DANIEL LEE GEIS
JOSHUA GIBSON SHAY EMMA HAMMER BRIAN JOEL HARPER
KYLE HENSON PETER KJOLSRUD ERIC SETH KOVITZ
JOSE EDY LEYVA PAIGE LOVE DANIEL LOWE
BRIDGET MEMBRILA ROLANDO MONGE JOSHUA MOSS
THOMAS WILLIAM NEAL NICHOLAS PUTNAM CASSIE RAIO
AZAR IAN RUST REBECCA SIEGEL DAREK SLAYTON
ANTONIO TIRADO JAMES TURNER HOLLY VICKERS
CHANCE MORGAN ALLISON NICHOLAS ANDREW SAN ANGELO
CHARLES A. (CJ) GRAHAM CHRISTOPHER J.R. HESSE
SEAN ALEXANDER KINCAID AISLYNN TIANA MAGUIRE
MICHELLE VICTORIA PADILLA
KATELYN NICOLE STANES
CHRISTOPHER SCOTT CURTIS
February Remembrance Days
BILL ANDERSON DAVID BAKER
NICK BARNETT TAMARA DAWN BASS
PHILIP BIGGERS JADEN ELIJAH BLUE
KELLI BONN CALEB CANDLER CARM-IDRELLE CASSEUS
JOHN PATRICK CLINE JENNY CRIM KATIE DECKER
ALAN DOYLE ELISA GASTELLUM DONALD GREENE
RAAD HALABY CINDY HARTRANFT NATHAN HUBBLE
JAY JOHNSON REBECCA KATZ CHARLES JOSEPH KEEN
CHRISTIAN LAWSON ZEMIRA BAYLA LENC ANGEL LEON
BRIDGET MCCABE DALE MELLBERG PAUL METZGER
SHAWN NOBLE CHRISTOPHER PULLEN PAUL ROBOLD
SHAWN DOUGLAS RAMON II AZAR IAN RUST DAREK SLAYTON
EMILY RENEE SORKIN JULIO C. VERGARA KENNETH WALTER
JA-MUS WHITFIELD NOAH ZACARIAS RANDY ZIMMERMAN
TIMOTHY O'DONNELL GREGGORY RYAN KAISER
BENJAMIN ROHEN-TRAPP KATELYN NICOLE STANES
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Upcoming Events:
Steering Committee Meeting: January 29th, 6pm at Viscount Suite on Broadway. Quarterly on a non-meeting Wednesday. We thank the Viscount for the donation of a meeting room. All are welcome to attend.
Regional Conference-Honolulu, Hawaii Friday, March 27 7am-Saturday, March 28 2pm. Multiple workshops, luncheon, closing candle lighting.
April TBA: Annual Ice Cream Social and Remembrance.
National Conference. The Compassionate Friends National annual event. Workshops, Craft opportunities, Speakers, lunch, dinner, Candle lighting, and Walk-to-Remember event. Atlanta, Georgia. Check Facebook page or www.compassionatefriends.org to register and reserve rooms. The registration usually opens late January or early February.
The Compassionate Friends National:
Online Support information is available on the National Compassionate Friends Website at www.compassionatefriends.org. There are over 26 private Facebook groups available for parents, grandparents, and siblings. There are also “virtual chapters” through an online support community (live chats). Visit www.compassionatefriends.org/find-support/online-communities/online-support/ for more information and to register.
Remembrance Cards
In order to receive remembrance cards during your loved ones birthday month and the
death anniversary month, you must individually sign-up, with your complete information,
for the memorial book located on the national website found under the “Find Support” tab
after clicking on “To The Newly Bereaved” (https://www.compassionatefriends.org/find-
support/to-the-newly-bereaved/).
To contact the Tucson Chapter with questions on events, to volunteer, or to submit articles/poems to the newsletter please email us at [email protected]
Photo buttons: We no longer have a button machine. We have snap together kits so that you can make your own. If you don’t see them out, just ask at a meeting.
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CRISIS HOTLINE INFORMATION
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1-800-273-8255
Suicide Hotline
1-800-Suicide
Depression & Crisis Hotline 1-800-784-2433
The National Institute for Trauma & Loss in Children (TLC)
1-877-306-5256
Families Anonymous
(Addiction/Recovery)
1-800-736-9805
Al-Anon Family Groups (Addiction/Recovery)
1-888-425-2666
Post Partum Depression 1-800-944-4773
Unless expressly stated, the views expressed in articles, poetry, etc. in Walking This Valley are not necessarily
the views of The Compassionate Friends, The Chapter Steering Committee or the Editorial Team. The Editor
reserves the right to edit any contributions.
OTHER TUCSON SUPPORT GROUPS
Information & Referral Services….
http://www.211arizona.org/
Homicide Survivors, Inc….
520-740-5729
FOOTPRINTS-
Pregnancy and Infant loss...
520-873-6590
Tu Nidito/Children to Children…
520-322-9155
Alive Alone
http://www.alivealone.org/
-for parent(s) who have lost their only
child
MISS FOUNDATION
http://www.missfoundation.org/
Survivors of Suicide……. 520-989-0467
Chapter Steering Committee
Leader: Tara Chico
Co Leader: Sharon Farrell/Kirsten Bice
Editor: Diane Allison
Contributing Editors: All members- contributions wanted!
Outreach/ Correspondence: Estella Salazar
Facebook: Melissa Chico, Cat Morrow
Website: Julie Shulick
New Attendee Coordinator: Cat Morrow
Library: Debbie Russell
Treasurer: Sharon Farrell
Facilitators: Cindy Walter, Tara/Melissa Chico, Diane/Kenny
Allison, Deanna Dillon, Sharon Farrell, Cat Morrow,
Debbie Russell, Donna Ruboyianes
Regional Coordinators:
Barb & Gene Caligari, Chandler, AZ;
Denise Dean
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A National self-help, non-profit organization for families who have
experienced the death of a child
THE TUCSON CHAPTER
P.O. 30733
Tucson, AZ 85751-0733
Return Service Requested
January-February 2020
We’re sorry for the reason you’re here, but we’re
glad you’ve found us. –Tucson TCF
Tucson Chapter Meetings: CHRIST CHURCH
UNITED METHODIST 655 N. CRAYCROFT
Second and Fourth Wednesdays 7:00pm-9:00pm
January 8, 22 February 12, 26 March 11, 25
Non-Profit Org.
U.S. Postage
Paid
Tucson, AZ
Permit No. 2296