Understanding the Opposite Sex- The Female Single

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Understanding the opposite sex- the female single

Sammy just did not understand why some women are gullible; he has watched Dan whois popularly known as the DON because of the way he had his way with women, had his

way with women he expects to be smart. He had heard of his (Dan) exploit long before he

even got to know him personally; when he relates with Dan, he talks so proudly about hisexploit with the opposite sex and how it is impossible for any lady he is interested in to

say no to his advances. This is the way he said he goes about it…

Dan said, he knows that most women love externality than the real thing. According to

him, women do not love to be told the truth, so the best way to catch them is to show

them the shadow of the real thing and they will come licking your shoe. To catch his prey,

all he needs do is go and get his friend (Alex) clothes. He (Alex) has lots of designer clothes because he travels a lot abroad; whenever he is not in town, Sammy will have

access to his car and cruise it around town.

He will then go for the lady he wants; first he will try to give her a lift, then he will do allhe can to be Mr. Perfect Gentleman until he had gotten her and ‘bed’ her. Then he would

move on to another lady. According to him, he has mastered this act over the years that hehas become good at it. He has proves of his exploits; he always kept a souvenir- their

parties.

What hurt Sammy however, is that Janet the lady he had confessed his undying love for ishis present catch. Sammy had expressed his feelings for her and how he has a promising

future though the present situation he is in may not seem smooth. She just smiled and

never gave him a response to his offer, it was weeks later that he heard that the DON haswon her heart.

This is the story that some men have; they never stop wondering why the women theylove never seem to show interest for them beyond that of the platonic feeling. These men

never stop wondering why women love the bad guys.

If you do not understand the opposite sex, they will never stop to be a mystery to you.

Knowing why they do things the way they do, is vital to wining their heats. I have listed

below some of the things you need to understand about the opposite sex- the female

single…

She is designed to be emotional- Unlike her male counterpart; the female is designed to

be primarily emotional. She easily gets attracted to the opposite sex that has touched her in the area of her emotion, than any man that competes against her. I have said this over

again in singles conferences that I have been privileged to speak in, if you can get the

attention of a woman’s ears, you can win her heart.

If a woman loves a man, she loves him passionately. She will do practically anything to

get and keep the man who appeals to her emotion. One of the reason that a woman will

give her body to a man is because the man had won her heart; her virginity is a price



possession that she will give to a guy that makes her feel special. This is one of the

reasons that it is difficult for a woman to forget her first love.

Due to the emotional state of the woman, she can easily live with hatred and

unforgiveness for years if the man she gave her heart to breaks it. Women can be

vengeful; hurt one real bad and pray for your dear life.

Some women have attempted suicide (commit one to), because the man they gave their

heart to, broke it. In my book why ‘good’ women marry ‘bad’ men, I wrote whatsomeone discovered in one of the psychiatric hospital in Nigeria; he discovered that 70%

of their female inmate are married women. Their hubby hurt them so bad that they just

did not let it go until they went crazy.

Single men, should not make the conclusion that a woman is in love with them because

of how she expressed herself emotional. Men should understand that love is more than

emotion; love is more of a character thing. Note the way she treats the people around; it

will ultimately determine how she will relate with you in the future.

Most single women are skilled prey- Men feel that the women they are dating was primary their decision; they believe that they are the don who got what they want. The

one who won the battle against other suitors that were interested in their lady. That my

friend (to the men) is a joke.

The reality is that women like most smart preys, stoke their hunters until if care is not

taken on their part (the hunter), gain the upper hand against them. Lions are known to kill

men who hurt them; they are not just savage beast, they are quite intelligent too.

If men only knew that the women they feel they conquered by making their own, are

actually the ones that conquered them. If the lady that you are dating does not choose youamongst the other suitors, you would have been amongst the ones that lost out. I feel that

women have what I call a magnetic web- aura, which draws men they are attracted to in;

if she does not have feelings for a guy, the aura around her will be pungent. She is likehoney that attracts the ant she wants.

I guess some men have stories of how they chased a lady they love for years, but she

never seems to show any interested. Then they eventually give up; the day they meet theguy she gave her consent to, they never to stop wondering if she has gone mad.

Women are possessive by nature- Women love to own forever, anyone or thing thatignites their emotion. They have natural tendency to be possessive; that nature can make

them very deceptive. Observe your girl friend and your mum or sister; they likely will be

best of friends now, but after marriage, it will be another story. The reason is because of the possessive nature of women.

Some men feel that they can just walk into a woman’s life; sleep with her and assume that

that is all between them. The day a man sleeps with a lady, he should know that he is



actually having sex with a lady who wants to tie him down. Sexual intercourse is more

than fun to women; it is actually the giving out of her body and soul. Once she gives that

out, she expects to keep whoever she gave it to.

I feel that men should play safe by not getting into anything intimate with the lady they

do not have the picture to get married to in the future.

They love men who are in charge- I guess most of the singles that will read this write

ups will have either watched or read at least one love story. You will have noted that inthose films or novel, the prince is always depicted as a strong figure and not a weakling.

He is not depicted as man who cannot eat or sleep because of a lady; he seems to play

them around. Then he meets a lady that catches his attention, and he over time professes

his undying love for her.

Every man should know that if they have watched or read at least a love story presently,

an average single lady has read or watched at least 5. So she carries a picture of a man

who will be in charge; not a Lilly livered guy that do not even know how to ask a ladyout. Neither does she have a picture of a man that she can boss around all through her life

time if she makes a mistake of getting married to him; she wants a man.

In the war of who will keep a lady amongst the suitors available; the one who will win

her heart is not the one who can only write and speak Shakespeare. The one who will

likely win will be the bold, daring and economically comfortable person amongst them.

Women are very imaginative- Do not dream of a simple marriage around a woman; you

will be wasting your time. Women have a fairy tale picture of what their wedding daywill be like; they have it so imbedded in their mind that the only thing that can make they

alter it is if the circumstances is beyond their control (e.g. in the situation of pregnancy

before they tie the knot).

Women have such creative minds; I can remember about six years ago when I was going

to get married to my wife. There was nothing I said that made her change her mind on thekind of wedding she had dreamt of; she had such a lovely expensive wedding gown and

lovely plans for the wedding day. Thank God for mercy that part of her plans was altered;

today, she cannot even put the wedding gown on again (you are free to guess what her

size will be now after 2 children). She was happy about the wedding she got, but you canguess the expenses it incurred.

If you are making your marriage arrangement, put it at the back of your mind that it isnatural for your lady to have the kind of fantastic imaginations she has. The role of the

man is not to emotionally react to the bills that he has to pay, rather he should logically

find a way of cutting down the cost.

They think more of the future- Single women often make decision of who they will go

into intimate relationship based on how they perceive the future will be like with the

person. I call this, security consciousness. I really do not accept the Nigerian adage,



which makes women appear to only love men with money. I believe that women love a

secure future; it is however, how they define security that differentiates them from one

another. I believe that this came with the females make up; the first female was created ina secured environment (do bear with me, this is my religious view). Her hubby had a job,

was in charge and a house of his own. If a man has all this, he will appear to be the DON

amongst his pears who are not fortunate to be doing to well with the opposite sex. It isoften the challenges that men have; many single men have got it in their psychic that no

woman can truly love them in the state they are in. I believe that this is not true. You can

indeed be loved at whatever level of financial stand that you may be now.

How women define security defers, but the smart ones define it from the perspective of a

purpose driven life than from what a man has physically accumulated alone. It is not all

women that will accept your present status (if you are not financially buoyant), but if youcan communicate your passion and pursue it, you will discover that you are as charming

as those with only cash in their pockets.

Women are potential heartbreakers- Due to the consciousness of the future, it is possible for a single lady to leave the love of her life to get married to someone she feels

that her future will be secured with.

Another reason why women are potential heartbreakers is because of their emotional

state; emotion is never stable. Except a lady has built a life of character, emotional swings

may make her go for someone who makes her heart skip beats despite the fact that shemay be in a stable relationship.

Every male singles should therefore learn to let their primary essence- logic, prevailagainst their emotion in their choice of a partner. Care must be taken not to choose a

partner that makes you feel young alone, but someone who will be able stay with you till

death do you both part irrespective of the uncertainties of the future.

Olufemi Fasanya

08037257479, 08083906495 (no flashing please)

www.relationship-singles.blogspot.com

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