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Personality PlusPersonality Plus
Understanding Others By Understanding Others By Understanding YourselfUnderstanding YourselfUnderstanding YourselfUnderstanding Yourself
Prepared by: Susan Moffat
Extension EducatorCleveland County
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Discover the person you’ve Discover the person you’ve always wanted to be!always wanted to be!
• When we know who we are and why we act like we do, we begin to
• When we know who we are and why we act like we do, we begin to understand our inner self and learn how to get along better with others.
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There is only one YOU!There is only one YOU!
• No two people are alike
• It’s what’s
• Examine your strengths and your weaknesses
• It’s what’s underneaththat counts
• Each person is unique
• Accentuate positives & eliminate negatives
• Realize that different does not mean wrong
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A Look at Your PersonalityA Look at Your Personality
• Emotions
• As a Parent• As a Parent
• At Work
• As a Friend
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Personality ProfilePersonality Profile
• Place an X in front of the ONE word that most applies in each row.
• If in doubt, ask a friend, spouse or • If in doubt, ask a friend, spouse or co-worker.
• Add the strengths and weaknesses together for a combined total.
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Personality ProfilePersonality Profile
• Your personality profile is the highest combined total of the four profiles Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholy, and Phlegmatic. Phlegmatic.
• You may be strong in more than one area.
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FourFour Personality Types:Personality Types:
• Sanquine—Fun & Popular
• Melancholy--Perfectionist• Melancholy--Perfectionist
• Choleric—Born Leaders
• Phlegmatic--Peaceful
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Popular Sanquine StrengthsPopular Sanquine StrengthsThe Extrovert * The Talker * The OptimistThe Extrovert * The Talker * The Optimist
• Seem exciting
• Friendly and fun
• Love people
• Outgoing
• Hold on to listener
• Good on stage
• Enthusiastic
• Expressive• Outgoing
• Expect the best
• Good temperament
• Talkative, storyteller
• Life of the party
• Memory for color
• Expressive
• Volunteer for jobs
• Creative & colorful
• Inspire and charm
• Make friends easily
• Always a child
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Perfect Melancholy StrengthsPerfect Melancholy StrengthsThe Introvert * The Thinker * The PessimistThe Introvert * The Thinker * The Pessimist
• Deep, thoughtful,
• Analytical
• Serious & purposeful
• Neat & tidy
• Perfectionist• Serious & purposeful
• Intellectual, genius
• Talented & creative
• Detail oriented
• Lists, charts, graphs
• Orderly & organized
• Perfectionist
• High standards
• Economical
• Compassionate
• Seek ideal mate
• Deep Concern for others
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Powerful Choleric PersonalityPowerful Choleric PersonalityThe Extrovert * The Doer * The OptimistThe Extrovert * The Doer * The Optimist
• Born leader
• Need for change• Need for change
• Strong-willed
• Decisive
• Can run anything
• Goal oriented
• Organizes well
• Delegates work
• Thrives on opposition
• Little need for friends
• Is usually right
• Excels in emergencies
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Peaceful Phlegmatic PersonalityPeaceful Phlegmatic PersonalityThe Introvert * The Watcher * The PessimistThe Introvert * The Watcher * The Pessimist
• All purpose person
• Low-key personality
• Mediates problems
• Gets along well with others
personality
• Easygoing
• Cool, calm, collected
• Patient, well balanced
• Reconciled to life
• Gets along well with others
• Has many friends
• Good listener
• Has administrative ability
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Positives Carried to Extremes Positives Carried to Extremes Become NegativesBecome Negatives
• Popular Sanquines are constantly talking, monopolizing, interrupting and straying from the truth.
• Perfect Melancholy’s analytical thinking creates • Perfect Melancholy’s analytical thinking creates moodiness & depression.
• Powerful Choleric’s leadership can appear to be bossy and controlling.
• Peaceful Phlegmatic’s easygoing nature leads others to think they are indecisive and indifferent.
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Organize the Popular SanguineOrganize the Popular Sanguine
Problems:
• Talks too much
• Self-Centered
Solutions:
• Talk half as much
• Watch for boredom• Self-Centered
• Doesn’t follow through
• Do not think they have faults
• Watch for boredom
• Condense comments
• Stop exaggerating
• Learn to Listen
• Be sensitive to others
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Organize the Popular Sanguine Organize the Popular Sanguine Some moreSome more……
Problems:
• Poor memory
• Disorganized
Solutions:
• Pull life together
• Grow up• Disorganized
• Immature
• Fickle
• Loses car and kids
• Grow up
• Avoid filling in the gaps
• Put others first
• Make lists
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Cheer Up the MelancholyCheer Up the Melancholy
Problems:
• Think they are perfect
Solutions:
• Make self cheerful• Avoid negative thinkingperfect
• Take things personally
• Get Depressed• Procrastinate• Put unrealistic
demands on self• Low self image
• Avoid negative thinking• Don’t be easily hurt• Look for positives• Don’t be own worst enemy• Relax standards• Find insecurities and correct them
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Tone Down the CholericTone Down the Choleric
Problems:• Never has a fault
• Compulsive worker
• Pressures others
Solutions:• Learn to relax• Avoid Guilt• Take off pressure• Pressures others
• Must be in control
• Cannot tolerate weakness
• Lacks patience
• Wants to correct others
• Take off pressure• Respond to other leaders• Stop looking down• Admit faults, apologize• Practice patience• Stop arguing• Keep advice to self
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MotivateMotivatePhlegmaticsPhlegmatics
Problems:
• Not exciting
Solutions:• Get Enthused• Try something new• Not exciting
• Resist Change• Appear lazy• Procrastinate• Stubborn• Communication• Will of iron• Pessimistic
• Try something new• Accept responsibility• Do it today• Open up • Motivate yourself• Learn to communicate• Set goals & make rewards
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Natural BlendsNatural BlendsPopular Sanquine/Powerful Choleric
BothOutgoingOptimisticOutspoken
Sanquine talksfor Pleasure
Choleric talksfor Business
Greatestpotential forLeadership
Can direct others andmake them
enjoy the work
Outspoken
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Natural BlendsNatural Blends
Perfect Melancholy/Peaceful Phlegmatic
Both are:introvertedpessimistic
Makes thegreatest
educators
Melancholy'slove to studyand research
Phlegmatics getalong and
presents well
pessimisticsoft-spoken
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Complementary BlendsComplementary Blends
Powerful Choleric/Perfect Melancholy
Makes goodbusiness
leadership
Choleric:Leadership
drive and goals
Melancholy:Analytical
detail-consciousscheduled
Be sucessfulno matterhow long it
takes
leadership
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Complementary BlendsComplementary Blends
Popular Sanquine/ Peaceful Phlegmatic
Makesthebest
Takes it easy,and has fun.
Warm & relaxed
Best fordealing with
people but poorwith money
Good inpersonnel, civic
work and asparents
bestfriends
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OppositesOppositesPopular Sanquine/ Perfect MelancholyPowerful Choleric/Peaceful Phlegmatic
The Introvert/ ExtrovertOptimistic/Pessimistic
natures & outlooks
Sanquine/Melancholymost emotional
One wants to partyand the other cancels the plans
Choleric/Phlegmaticdeal with conflict to work
or not to work
Phlegmatic wants totake it easy, the Choleric
feels guilty if notproducing
natures & outlooks
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How to Get Along With OthersHow to Get Along With Others
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The Popular Sanquine PersonalityThe Popular Sanquine Personality
• Recognize their inability to follow through.
• Realize they talk without thinking first.
• Realize they like variety and flexibility.
• Help them to keep from accepting more.
• Don’t expect them to be on time.• Don’t expect them to be on time.
• Praise them for everything they accomplish.
• Remember they are controlled by circumstances
• Bring them presents, they like new toys.
• Accept that they will make fun of what would be embarrassing for others.
• Realize they mean well.
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The Perfect Melancholy PersonalityThe Perfect Melancholy Personality
• Know that they are very sensitive and get hurt.
• Realize they are programmed to be pessimistic.
• Learn to deal with depression.
• Compliment them sincerely and lovingly.• Compliment them sincerely and lovingly.
• Accept that they like to be quiet sometimes.
• Try to keep a reasonable schedule.
• Realize that neatness is a necessity.
• Help them not to become slaves to family.
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The Powerful Choleric PersonalityThe Powerful Choleric Personality
• Recognize they are born leaders.
• Insist on two-way conversation.
• Know that they do not mean to hurt.
• Don’t push your luck.• Don’t push your luck.
• Try to divide areas of responsibility.
• Realize that they are not compassionate.
• Know that they are always right.
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The Peaceful Phlegmatic PersonalityThe Peaceful Phlegmatic Personality
• Realize they need direct motivation.
• Help them set goals and give them rewards.
• Don’t expect enthusiasm.
• Realize that putting things off is their way of • Realize that putting things off is their way of having quiet control.
• Force them to make decisions.
• Don’t heap all the blame on them.
• Encourage them to accept responsibilities.
• Appreciate their even dispositions.
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Make a Personal Plan:Make a Personal Plan:
• Understand basic temperament
• Admit your weaknesses
• Assess your strengths
• Evaluate your weaknesses• Evaluate your weaknesses
• Seek other opinions
• Plan your steps for Personal Improvement
• Ask family members for help