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Wk 5:The A, B, C’s to Relationships

“Relationships”What Did God Have In Mind?

Genesis 2:18

It is NOT good for Man to be Alone Because….

Prevents Isolation

Fosters Mental, Emotional & Spiritual Maturity

“Relationships”

Jack Nicholson & Helen Hunt

“you make me want to be a better man”

As Good As it Gets

ABC’s of Relationships Dr. Pamela

Reeve

“Acquaintances”“Friends along the way”

WHO they are

“Buddies”“Friends for the Hike”WHAT they’re about

“Close”WHY they are

“ABC Concept of Relationships”

Acquaintance

Close

Buddies

“Snags to Avoid” (Dating Context)Too Close, Too Soon

Moving too fast to C-level too quicklyCauses confusion & requires DTR talk

Proverbs 12:26a A righteous man is cautious in friendship,

“Snags to Avoid” (Dating Context)Too Close, Too Soon (Prov. 12:26)

Control Trap

How Much Is Too Much? (Prov.25:17)

Moving too fast to C-level too quicklyCauses confusion & requires DTR talk

Possessive or Co-DependencyCauses Withdrawal or Feelings of Suffocation

One person desires more than the otherCauses the other the pull away

Proverbs 25:17 NLTDon't visit your neighbors too often, or you will wear out your welcome.

True Love Waits True Love Waits (Cont’d)(Cont’d)

True Love Waits True Love Waits (Cont’d)(Cont’d)

Dating Non-Christian/DTR/Break UpDating Non-Christian/DTR/Break Up

Dating a Non-Christian• Biblical Reasons For Not Dating a Non-

Christian2Cor 6:14-16 NLT

Don't team up with those who are unbelievers. How can goodness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? [15] What harmony can there be between Christ and the Devil? How can a believer be a partner with an unbeliever? [16] And what union can there be between God's temple and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God said:

"I will live in them and walk among them. I will be their God, and they will be my people.

Dating a Non-Christian• Biblical Reasons For Not Dating a Non-

Christian(2Cor 6:14-16)

• Different Perspective or PhilosophyOur Loyalties Galatians 2:20 I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. Galatians 5:16-17

So I say, live by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the sinful nature. [17] For the sinful nature desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the sinful nature. They are in conflict with each other, so that you do not do what you want.

Dating a Non-Christian• Biblical Reasons For Not Dating a Non-

Christian(2Cor 6:14-18)

• Different Perspective or PhilosophyOur Loyalties (Gal 2:20, 5: 16-

17)Our Loves will come in Conflict

• Playing With Fire (Prov 6:27, 28)

Proverbs 6:27-28 Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? [28] Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched?

Practical Reasons

• Pull You Down

• Lack Spiritual Sharing

• Think Long Term Affects(Real Life Examples)

DTR Talk

“Determine The Relationship Talk”Definition of Dating: “A growing friendship between guy & girl which honors Jesus Christ as each person puts the other’s needs first.”

“Let’s Just Be Friends”

Commitment To Date

Two Possible Outcomes

Legitimate Reasons To Break Up

• You realize your date has negative character qualities

• You realize your date is a non-Christian• You are distracted to your commitment

to Christ• Your parents are opposed to you dating (HS)• You are involved in physical impurity• You realize the other person is not “the one”

How To Break Up (Appropriately)

• Ask God’s Guidance (James 1:5)• Get Some Godly Advice• Think Through Your Words• Talk In Person (face to face)• Accept Your Responsibility• Give the Relationship Time to Heal• Don’t Put It Off

Recovery From A Break Up

• Change Your Focus• Stay Busy• Make Needed Changes• Talk To A Friend• Avoid Another Close Relationship• Continue Your Friendship