Train Up A Child. "Train up" – proper conduct is not automatic; it is the duty of the parents to...
-
Upload
osborn-clarke -
Category
Documents
-
view
215 -
download
0
Transcript of Train Up A Child. "Train up" – proper conduct is not automatic; it is the duty of the parents to...
Train Up A Child
• "Train up" – proper conduct is not automatic; it is the duty of the parents to teach it (Eph. 6:1-4)
• "A child" – you must start early
• "In the way he should go" – there is a proper way to live according to God’s word
• "And when he is old" – we take with us what we were taught in childhood
Train Up A Child
• Instructive discipline – teaching with words, both positive and negative reinforcement (Prov. 1:8; 3:11-12)
• Corrective discipline – spanking (Prov. 13:24; 19:18; 22:15; 23:13-14; 29:15,17,19)
• Self-discipline – the goal of teaching and spanking early on is to develop self-control later in life (Prov. 20:11; 22:6)
Discipline Is Teaching & Training
Discipline Is Teaching & Training
Prov. 13:24 - - -Prov. 19:18 - - -Prov. 22:15 - - -
Prov. 23:13-14 - -Prov. 29:15,17 - -
Loving & diligentTimely & controlledAppropriate &correctivePainful & savingEducational & rewarding
• Note four important words:
– "rod" (use something other than your hand)
– "beat" (pain without abuse; 19:18b in KJV)
– "chasten" (instruct, correction, wisdom)
– "reproof" (calmly explain why they are getting a spanking)
Discipline Is Teaching & Training
• Give both positive and negative statements
• Make the punishment equal to the misbehavior and age appropriate
• Express disappointment without demeaning words: stupid, moron, idiot, etc.
• Set rules and boundaries and keep them
• Be consistent; don't make empty threats
Discipline Is Teaching & Training
• Say “No” and meant it; don’t lie to your child
• Punishment needs to be immediate
• Distinguish between willful disobedience and accidents
Discipline Is Teaching & Training
• Do not spank when you are out of control
• Do not spank in a way that abuses (lacerations, bruising, broken bones, scarring, etc.)
• Do not spank without cause; no constant hitting
• Do not spank without explaining why; use it as an opportunity to teach; reaffirm love
Discipline Is Teaching & Training
• Respect for authority and obedience is established early on with instructive and corrective discipline: home (Eph. 6:1), civil (Rom. 13:1), and church (Heb. 13:17)
• Disobedience to parents is a sin (Rom. 1:30; 2 Tim. 3:2)!
Discipline Is Teaching & Training
• Don’t ignore disobedience and the need for correction!
• Many parents are permissive like David; he wouldn’t question his child (1 K. 1:6)
• Many parents are permissive like Eli; he said “No”, but he didn’t enforce it (1 Sam. 2:22-26; 3:13; see Deut. 21:18)
No Discipline = Permissiveness
• Early to bed on Saturday night; naps on Sunday afternoon if necessary
• Face them forward so as not to distract themselves and others; adults should not "play" with them from across the room
• Bring quiet, Bible related activities (cloth books); wean them off of these as soon as possible so they can hold a song book or their own Bible; later they can take notes
In the Worship Service
• Use the break time to get all your “needs” done; constant “in and out” during the service is disruptive; emergencies are one thing, bad habits are another
• Use the nursery for accidents or discipline only, not for playtime or sleep time
• When you take them out for discipline, make it count: “take them out, wear them out, and bring them back in”
In the Worship Service
• The building is not a place to play
• Parents, take turns with the discipline
• “Practice” at home to have a time to sit still and be quiet; we can’t expect them to behave at the church building if they are not made to behave at home; quiet and still behavior is learned at home
• Be consistent at every service (Heb. 10:25)
In the Worship Service
• Love them by speaking the truth to them (Eph. 4:15) and love them by correcting and disciplining them (Prov. 13:24; Rev. 3:19)
• Save them (Gen. 18:19)
Love Them, Save Them