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Tiptoeingaroundthedinosaur
ByElaineCharkowski
Inresponsetomystatementmaleviolenceistheworstproblemintheworld,a
womanemailedmeandwrote:"Idonotbelievethatmaleviolenceisthecauseoftheworld'sproblems,butasymptomofaverysicksystemthatproducesviolentmenandsubmissivewomen.Ifyousaythatviolentmenaretheproblem,thenwhat
isthesolutionshortofsuppressingoreliminatingthem?"SoIwrote:
Violentmencreatedthe"verysicksystemthatproducesviolentmenand
submissivewomen,"whichispatriarchy.Thus,Istandbymystatementthatmaleviolenceistheworstproblemintheworld.Furthermore,Itracethesourceofallthe
ismsandoppressionstomaleviolence.Theseincluderacism,sexismand
colonization,bothexternalandinternal.Internalcolonizationisseeingonesselfthroughtheeyesoftheoppressor.
Maleviolenceisalsothesourceofgenocide,war,homophobia,nationalism,crueltytoanimals,slavery,economicoppression,prostitutionandallsexualslavery,and
childabuse.
MaleviolenceincludestheplunderofEarthandallherresources(animal,vegetable
andmineral).ItisthesystematicmurderoftheLivingWorld,uponwhichhumanityandallotherlivingbeingsdepend.
Howcanwesolvetheproblemofmaleviolence,theworstproblemintheworld?
Wheredowebegin?Mencontrolallthepowerinstitutions.Theseincludethe
military,education,technology,law,theeconomy,mediaandmale-godreligions(spiritualbackupfortheirearthlyatrocities).
Icantsolvetheproblemofmaleviolencesinglehandedly.However,whatIcandoisnamemaleviolenceastheworstproblemintheworld.Thisisbecausenamingan
oppressionandtheoppresorsisthefirststeptowardendingit.Iwillnotbediscouraged,deflectedordistracted.
Iholdallmenresponsibleforendingmaleviolence.Thisincludesnon-violentmenbecauseallmenprofitfromaworldinwhichmaleviolenceexists,especiallymale
violenceagainstwomen.
Asmoreandmorewomenandmentakeupthecryandshoutfromtherooftopsthat
maleviolenceistheworstproblemintheworld,moreandmorepeoplecanoffertheirsolutions.Wecanlearnfromeachotherandcreatethesynergynecessaryto
endthishorror.Hopefullyhundredsofmillionsofwomenandmenwillsoonbe
joiningthisdiscussion.
QuestionstoAskOurselves
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Isnamingmaleviolenceastheworstproblemintheworldaseriousthreattopatriarchy,thesocialstructureofviolentmalepower?Ibelieveitisbecausethe
linguisticcontortions,generalizations,obfuscationsanddenialsareincrediblynumerousandvaried.Theirendlessrepetitionrevealsthatmaleviolencemust
neverbenamedastheworstproblemintheworld.Namingmaleviolencewouldthreatenthepowerofviolentmen-andalsoofmeningeneralwhobenefitfromthepatriarchalsystem.Anypossibleevasionmustbeusedtoavoidnamingmale
violenceastheworstproblemintheworld!
Theseinclude:"Notallmenareviolent,"Itscapitalism,"Womenareviolenttoo,"
"Itsracism,Itscolonization,"Itsgenocide,"Womencolludewithmenagainstwomen,""Womenprofitfrommaleviolence,""Itsgunviolence,""Menalsosuffer
underpatriarchy,""Violentsocietycreatesviolentmen,""WhataboutMargaret
Thatcher?""Womenalsooppresswomen,""Ilovethemeninmylifewhoarenotviolent,"etc.
Thesufferingofthosewhoaredirectlyaffectedbythevarioustypesofmaleviolencefurthercloudsthefocusonmaleviolence.Thus,womenwouldsaysexism
istheworstproblem,peopleofcolorwouldsayitsracism,Jewishpeoplewouldsayitsanti-Semitismandsoon.However,thefactisthatMENarethecommon
denominatorinalltheseabuses.Evenwhenwomencolludewithmen,oramember
ofadominatedracecolludewithracists,itstilldoesnotchangethefactthatmenareincharge,justascollaboratorsdidnotchangethefactthattheNaziswereincharge.
Whatisthesourceofourresistancetonamingmaleviolenceastheworstproblem
intheworld?Isitoriginalthoughtsfromourownmindsor,haveweinternalized
thisresistanceafterbeinginflictedfromthepatriarchytoprotectitself?Havewebeenmentallycolonizedtoavoidnamingmaleviolencesowewontwakeupand
endits6,000yearsofcarnage?
Inthearticle"WhatisitAboutMenThatthey'reCommittingTheseHorrible
Massacres?"ByMeghanMurphyhttp://www.alternet.org/gender/what-it-about-men-theyre-committing-these-
horrible-massacres?page=0%2C1&paging=off,shewrites,
Butwhataboutthemen?Itsaquestionthatsbeenavoidedbythemainstream
withinthecontextofmassshootings.TherecenttragedyinNewtown,Connecticut
sparkedthousandsofconversationsacrossthecontinentaboutgunlaws,mentalillness,andviolence.Andsadly,wevebeenherebefore."
Sheadds,"Inthemidstofallthishorror,weare,understandably,upinarms,
demandingchange,grievingallthewhile.Butwithinallthisrighteousanger,weare
verycarefullytiptoeingaroundthecommondenominator.In31oftheschoolshootingsthathavetakenplacesince1999,themurdererswereallmen."
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Whydobothwomenandmenoftenflinchawayfromspeakingthetruth,thatmale
violenceistheworstproblemintheworld?Dowomenfearthatnamingmaleviolencewillmakeviolentmenrapeandkillthem?Theyalreadyare.
GoingOutofOurMindsisabookbySoniaJohnsoninwhichshefocusesonmale
violenceagainstwomen.InChapter10TellingtheTruth,Johnsonwrote,Tobefemaleisreasoninitselftobeinservitude,tobehatedwoundedandkilledineverycountry,everycultureoftheworld.
Arewomenafraidthatthemenintheirliveswillstoplovingthemiftheyspeakupandnamemaleviolence?Ifthesemenopposemaleviolence,theywillunderstand
andtheirlovewillendure.
Dowomenfearfacingthepainfulandheartbreakingfactthatweliveinaworldin
whichsomanymenhateandhavecontemptforthem?Isnttheglobalepidemicofmaleviolenceagainstwomenandthemulti-billiondollarmale-dominatedporn
industry,inwhichwomenaredegraded,torturedandevenmurdered,proofofmenswidespreadhatredandcontempt?SoniaJohnsonwroteofthetimeherdaughterphonedheronenight.Shesaidinanuncharacteristicallysmallvoice,an
anguished,bewildered,veryshakyvoice,Mom,whydomenhateussomuch?
Donon-violentmenfearthatviolentmenwillridicule,beatandevenmurderthem
forbetrayingthemasculineBrotherhoodbyopposingmaleviolence?Theyalreadyare.
Themessagetonon-violentmenisthatbetrayingthe"Brotherhood"willgetthem
ridiculed,scorned,beatenandevenkilled.Whitemenwhoopposedracistmale
violenceintheUSwereoftenbeatenorevenmurderedbyviolentracistwhitemen.
Toomuchspacehasbeencreatedfortheacceptanceofviolentmentoactouttheir
unlimiteddepravity(themassmurdersofJewishpeople,indigenouspeople,blackpeople,womenduringthewitchburnings,nationalistgenocides,ethniccleansing
etc.).However,notenoughsafespaceexistsfornon-violentmentospeakout.The
messagenon-violentmengotfromthemurdersofGandhi,MLK,theKennedysand
othernon-violentmeniscleartosee.Non-violentmengetthecarrotandthestick.Thestickisridicule,beatingsandeven
murder.However,thecarrotismaleprivilege,thelossofwhichmayalsosilence
manynon-violentmen.
Thesearereasonsforsilencebutnotanexcuse.Non-violentmenmustnolongerremainsilentandavoidnamingmaleviolenceastheworstproblemintheworld.
Silenceiscomplicity.
Arewomenandmenafraidthatwewontknowhowtobuildanewworldbasedonkindnessandrespect?Areweafraidoftakingpersonalresponsibilityforcreating
suchaworld?
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Violentmenarealreadykillingtheworldandeverythinginit!So,whatdowehavetolosebynamingmaleviolenceastheworstproblemintheworldandaddressing
it?