THREE PILLARS OF RESPONSIBILITY By Jackie Agnew, Counsellor, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker.
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Transcript of THREE PILLARS OF RESPONSIBILITY By Jackie Agnew, Counsellor, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker.
THREE PILLARS
OF RESPONSIBILITY
By Jackie Agnew, Counsellor, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker
The Environment
You
Beware the Bullets
OTHER PEOPLES BEHAVIOUR
NEGATIVE WORK ENVIRONMENT
Negative World View
Changing Environments
Past experiences
Determinism Theory
The Environment
You
Beware the Bullets
OTHER PEOPLES BEHAVIOUR
NEGATIVE WORK ENVIRONMENT
Negative World View
Changing Environments
Past experiences
Determinism Theory
Ouch!
What affects us at work?• Negative Work Environment• No one appreciates your contributions• Too Much Work-Not Enough Help• Unrealistic Deadlines• Longer Hours...Additional Work• Poor Management/Direction• Budget Constraints• Job Insecurity
• Outside Influences• Family• Divorce/Custody Issues• Illness• Finances• Daycare Issues
• Other People’s Behaviour• Gossips• Complainers• Whiners• Brown nosers• Backstabbers• Walking Wounded• Clams• Exploders• Controllers• Negatives• Bulldozers• Patronisers
• Changing Environment• “The only person who likes change is a wet baby”• CHANGE...• Challenges our paradigms• Alters the way we think• Makes life more difficult for awhile• Causes Stress• Is an ongoing fact of life
Determinism Theory
GENETIC: My Grandparents did it to me.(Inherited Traits)
PSYCHIC: My parents did it to me.(Upbringing)
ENVIRONMENTAL: My Spouse, My Boss, The Company, The Economy etc... Is doing this to me.
(Surroundings)
Life’s Little Question
“Are some people just born positivethinkers...Or is it their CHOICE?”
Choose the Right Luggage
Dodge Bullets
Be Bulletproof
The Problem with Dodging Bullets?You’re going to get hit!
Wear Bulletproof Armour
Bulletproof Armour comes from
Self Change
Put on your armour by changing 3 things!
Attitude Thinking Behaviour
How to Change Your Attitude
Changes happen
personally from the
INSIDE OUT!
Attitude
Take Control
From the inside out!
How to Change Your Thinking
Thinking
THINKING
Changes come from observing
logically inevery situation
Observe Your ThinkingWhat can I do to
defuse this? I refuse to let
this hook me
This is all very interestingTomorrow it will look very different
I’d lik
e to beat
the…
It sucks to be him
Thinking
Manage Your Self-TalkIf you think you Can or think you Can’t…YOU’RE RIGHT! Henry Ford
This is going to be a wonderful
day!
This is going to be a
crappy day!
Thinking
Ce
How To Change Your Behaviour
BEHAVIOUR
Changes take true assessment,
determination & discipline
Choose Your BehaviourReactive
StimulasStimulasRespons
e
Responsible
StimulasStimulas My Choice
MyRESPONSE
BehaviourBehaviour
Steps Toward Changing Behaviour
BehaviourBehaviour
Unconscious incompetence
Conscience incompetence
Conscience Competence
Unconscious Competence
Influence Your EnvironmentAdd Posi + ive Behaviour
Replace the BAD HABITS!
Spread a SMILE aroundSprinkle some “positive” on the negativesFocus on the good each dayStay out of the “feeding frenzies”Say “Please” and “Thank You”Practice EMPATHYEvaluate YOUR BehaviourNever miss an opportunity to compliment
BehaviourBehaviour
More Posi + ive Contributions
•Before you say anything to anyone, ask yourself three things
1.Is it true?2.Is it harmful?3.Is it necessary?
•Keep promises•Have a forgiving view of people•Keep an open mind with changes•Count to 1000 if necessary•See criticism as opportunity to improve•Cultivate your sense of humour
Remember to . . .
Watch your definitions -they become thoughtsthey become thoughts
Watch your thoughts -They become wordsThey become words
Watch your words -They become actionsThey become actions
Watch your actions -They become your destinyThey become your destiny
The Choice is Yours
With a bad attitude . . .You can never have a positive day
With a positive attitude . . . you can manage any bad day!
Take Responsibility for Your LifeChoose Positive Living!