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T H E

W A Y

O F

G R A C EF I N D I N G G O D O N T H E

P A T H O F S U R R E N D E R

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W A Y

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F I N D I N G G O D O N T H E

P A T H O F S U R R E N D E R

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Foreword by Richard J Foster 983089983089

983089 Facing Reality 983089983093he Grace of Acceptance

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he Grace of Compassion

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he Grace of Simplicity

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he Grace of Hope

983089983088 Streams of Grace 983089983091983093 he Grace of Living a New Way

Acknowledgments 983089983092983095

Notes 9830899830921048633About the Authors 983089983093983091

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I am Glandion

I am a contemplative

I embrace the life and role of the Holy Spirit

I love a good wine

I love fellowship and friendships

I am a deep caring person

I am a worrier and a burden bearer I take time to notice

I am soft-spoken yet strong in spirit

I love jazz as well as the Gregorian chant

I am consciously aware of my sinful nature

I am a great listener

I am a priest a husband and father of four adult children I am a grandpa affectionately called ldquoPapardquo

I long to remain in the presence of God

I like to celebrate

I donrsquot have to act in a cultural manner to define my African

American identity

I am a crosscultural man I think about my death about once a week

I think about my life and want to do the things that matter

I love to laugh yet I cry easily

I love poetry especially S Eliot and Garrison Keillor

I love coffee

I question myself all the time

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I have never sensed the condemnation of God

I donrsquot think about former accomplishments as much as my failures I believe in justice

I have stood in lines in Ethiopia with the hungry and the poor

I have traveled to eastern Africa during the time of genocide

war and famine

I minister in one of the wealthiest communities in the United States

I have learned that the rich in resources can also be poor in spirit I embrace the Scriptures and see them as a guidepost for life

I have struggled to accept the diagnosis of a disease and tried to

cover it up

I love the Father Son and Holy Spirit

I love the Eucharist

I embrace another personrsquos heart whatever their religious practice I believe evil will be overcome

I love to see the sunset

I take time to look in the eyes of others to get a glimpse of their heart

I like to raid the cookie jar in the middle of the night

I love theological discussions

I am loved

I am loving

I am Glandion

I have Parkinsonrsquos

I am learning to walk in grace

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The Grace of Acceptance

IT HAPPENED SO FASTmdashmy body wouldnrsquot cooperate with

my mind Never had I struggled with such simple things Iseemed to be all thumbs as I put on my clerical collar It wouldnrsquot go on straight no matter what I did My jacket gotstuck halfway on it felt like a straightjacket binding my armsand preventing me from moving correctly What was going on

Why was I suddenly so clumsy

It was 1048626104862410486241048632 and I was leading a pastorsrsquo conference in KigaliRwanda walking men from many countries through steps ofmeditation reflection and communion with God During mytrip to Africa I had become increasingly tired more so than Ihad ever been in the past Te work was grueling and the hours

were long but I had done this before and it had never bothered

me It felt like my thoughts were being stolen from my mind I

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would begin a sentence and then midway I would not know

where the thought was goingMy good friend William Wilson had gone along to minister

with me A former rappist monk he was now an Anglicanpriest like me William noticed how sluggish and stiff my move-ments were becoming At his encouragement I decided to go tothe doctor for a physical when we got home It seemed logical

that I had picked up a virus or other illness while travelingMy physician did his usual examination but then asked me

to do simple movements like walk a few steps and bend at the waist He inspected my arms knees and legs and tested my re-flexes He shined a light in my eyes and then said simply ldquoYouhave Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquo

Stunned I questioned him ldquoHow do you know How can you say lsquoYou have Parkinsonrsquosrsquo when yoursquove done no test orbloodwork to determine this diagnosisrdquo

He looked me straight in the eyes and responded ldquoYou arenot smiling like you used to and your face looks frozen in afrown Your movements are difficult Your joints are in pain All

this points to Parkinsonrsquos You can get a second opinion from aneurologist but he will tell you the same thingrdquo

Words escaped me I felt nothing I was empty Numb Tere was no brilliant logic to apply Tere were no prayers to

pray Tere was no believing or trusting in God for the future ofmy life in general or my ministry All was blank as if erased I

walked out of his office in a fog When I got to my car I wept

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like a baby leaning on the steering wheel for support I called

my wife and told her ldquoTe doctor says I have ParkinsonrsquosrdquoMarion dropped what she was doing at work and came home

to sit with me in silence Tatrsquos when feeling nothing moved todarkness and hopelessness Like Job and his friend in Scripture

we sat in the ash heap of despairAt that point I couldnrsquot see any applications of grace No

Bible verses immediately came to mind to soothe my dark andforeboding spirit Te words ldquoyou have Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquoplayed over and over in my mind like a record stuck on a trackI felt sabotaged ears of hurt grief and fear fell unceasingly Icouldnrsquot stop them if I tried

Many saints through the centuries have referred to tears as a gift

Te ldquogift of tearsrdquo written about by the desert elders andseveral centuries later by St Ignatius of Loyola are notabout finding meaning in our pain and suffering Tey donot give answers but instead call us to a deep attentivenessto the longings of our heart Tey continue to flow until wedrop our masks and self-deception and return to the sourceof our lives and longing Tey are a sign that we havecrossed a threshold into a profound sense of humility1

I couldnrsquot come up with any longing in my heart except forthis new diagnosis to be recalled It was easier to deceivemyself with the drug of denial than to begin the hard work of

acceptance

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A DIFFERENT DIRECTION

Te physician recommended I seek physical therapy He re-minded me this disease would take its toll over time to slow theprocess I needed to change my lifestyle Get more rest Exercisemore Start medication Eat well It was all so overwhelming

When I got up the courage I made an appointment with thephysical therapist I walked into the rehab hospital not knowing

what to expect I was blown away Hunchbacked patientsshaking violently were straining to remain balanced while they

walked Most were suffering with the visible effects of Lou Geh-rigrsquos disease multiple sclerosis or Parkinsonrsquos So many diseasesand disabilities were representedmdashyou name it and they had itI saw myself in them and I was scared

When the therapist called my name I jerked to attentionInstead of following him into the therapy session I ran out ofthe waiting room in tears I left and did not go back for a year Ihave never confessed this to anyone before now

Tis was not supposed to be my journey How could I face itI had no direction or sense of destination I didnrsquot even have

a compass Te nothingness I had felt earlier turned into a darkshadow of gray with shades of anger I was on a journey with noend in sight not one I wanted anyway Severe difficulties hadsuddenly been thrust on me and they hovered over my head likedarkening clouds in a storm Questions tormented me Will Idie Where is God in the midst of this Where is my courage

I went to see a neurologist who was also a member of our

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church After he confirmed the diagnosis he explained that Par-

kinsonrsquos is a disorder of the brain that leads to shaking and dif-ficulty with walking movement and coordination and it con-tinues to get worse Seeing the immediate tears in my eyes hecame to my side took me by the hand and said ldquoJust prayGlandion God will show you the wayrdquo

Even after two doctors confirmed the diagnosis it took me

twelve months to accept it During that year I concealed mydifficulties Even though my wife studied to learn more aboutthe disease I refused to do so I hid out like a fugitive I deniedeverything I foolishly thought that if I didnrsquot acknowledge thesymptoms they would just go away

One Sunday morning I was shaving in preparation for church

when I heard these words in my heart ldquoGlandion you donrsquottrust me You say you do but you donrsquot You masquerade andcover up your weaknesses You hide because you will not accept

what I have allowedrdquoIt was Jesus speaking to my heart at the deepest level It

wasnrsquot a harsh rebuke it was a gentle voice asking me to admit

my weakness and come to the truth Tat morning I stood before my congregation as associate

pastor and spoke these words ldquoAs your priest today I need tomake a confession I have Parkinsonrsquos disease I have been cov-ering up my weakness and I need to share it openly Irsquom tryingto accept it as a grace I hope you will pray for merdquo

Many came up afterward to speak to me ldquoMy weakness is

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drug addictionrdquo ldquoMy weakness is pornographyrdquo ldquoMy weakness

is controlling othersrdquo ldquoMy weakness is alcoholismrdquo We wepttogether held by a powerful cord of acceptance and confession

Te spiritual director in me wanted to sit down with each ofthem over a cup of coffee to validate their experiences of in-tegrity honesty and true confession You see my conviction isthat we donrsquot walk alone on the path of faith We explore it

together learning about grace trials and new beginnings Wemay have different paths on the journey but we all end at thesame destinationmdashthe discovery of Godrsquos faithfulness in

whatever we faceBut how could I express this truth to them when I had not

experienced it myself I admitted my weakness and began to

accept it Now I had to act on it It was the first step to healingand freedom Tere would be many others

A year after I initially visited that rehab hospital I returnedfor physical therapy Tis time I knew what to expect and I wasready to do the work Now what I noticed in the other tor-mented bodies was not their dysfunction but their eyes Teir

eyes conveyed hope courage and a will to overcome Te graceof acceptance allowed me to see them in a different light In-stead of running away from these fellow sufferers I was moti-

vated to join them And I was moved to offer up deep prayer forthem as a sign of accepting our common experience

Another turning point in this journey of acceptance was

the night my wife and I ate dinner at the home of my co-

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author Marjean Brooks and her husband Ricky After dinner

they shared a video with us saying it reminded them ofMarion and me In the video a man was sleeping on thecouch His wife talked excitedly about a new home im-provement tool as she walked up to the camera drawing us inShe guaranteed results and encouraged all viewers to watchher demonstrate Marion was getting interested She needed

some things done around the house and had been trying tomotivate me to do them

As the woman on the video spoke she rolled up a catalog inher hands When she finished her spiel she walked over to herreclining husband whacked his backside with the catalog and

yelled ldquoGet yorsquo butt uprdquo

Marion and I laughed hard at that unexpected ending In factthat line has been a standing joke with us ever since AfterwardI felt as if I had been prompted ldquoOkay Glandion when are you going to lsquoget yorsquo butt uprsquo and work on your liferdquo

Like the main character Much Afraid in the classic allegoryHindsrsquo Feet on High Places by Hannah Hurnard I glimpsed the

journey with all its peaks valleys and shadows Just as MuchAfraid took the hands of her companions Sorrow and SufferingI took the first step of acceptance Without realizing it I hadbeen blocking grace by refusing to be humbled Now I made thechoice to embrace a different way to live and a fresh power tolove through Godrsquos empowering grace I had no idea what lay

ahead But I was ready

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BEGINNING THE JOURNEY

In the course of Much Afraidrsquos journey to the High Places shefaced tremendous difficulties After each mountain was scaledor each terror was over she would put a small stone in the poucharound her waist Tey became trophies of grace remembrancesof all that the Shepherd had brought her through In the endthey were turned into beautiful jewels placed in a crown for her

to wearI havenrsquot picked up stones along my journey Instead God has

shown me many different aspects of grace that have spurred meon my way I have carried them until I am used to their weightin my backpack Tey once seemed heavy but now they are

weightless Tey are so much a part of me that I could not live

without them Godrsquos grace has been manifested to me in beau-tiful yet challenging ways He gives this kind of grace to all ofusmdashif we learn to recognize accept and embrace it to live vic-toriously in this world

eresa of Aacutevila a sixteenth-century Spanish mystic philos-opher and Catholic saint described the journey through dif-

ferent graces in her book Te Interior Castle

Let us imagine that there are many rooms in this castleof which some are above some below others at the sidein the centre in the very midst of them all is the principalchamber in which God and the soul hold their most secret

intercourse Tink over this comparison very carefully

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God grant it may enlighten you about the different kinds

of graces He is pleased to bestow upon the soul No onecan know all about them much less a person so ignorantas I am Te knowledge that such things are possible willconsole you greatly should our Lord ever grant you any ofthese favours2

As I began to look differently at my circumstances I wantedGod to show me all the rooms in my castle I especially wantedto see the principal chamber where he and I could hold the mostsecret intercourse And I was anxious to be enlightened aboutthe grace he would bestow

JESUS F ULL OF GRACE AND TRUTH

On this journey into grace I was led to see Jesus as one whoboth gave and modeled grace in his earthly life It started withhis acceptance to come to this world Philippians 10486261048630-1048632 speaksof his willingness to be humbled and to empty himself of therights of heaven in order to take his assignment on earth Chris

iegreen has explained this truth by writing ldquoJesus went fromheavenly riches to earthly rags from exaltation to humiliationfrom authority to obedience from ultimate significance to ul-timate rejection from comfort to hardship from safety to dangerfrom glory to sacrifice and from life to death And he calls us togo into the world in exactly the same way rdquo3

Jesusrsquo acceptance and obedience brought about the saving

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grace of God Grace is simply Godrsquos unmerited favor In other

words he gives us what we donrsquot deserve (grace) and doesnrsquot giveus what we do deserve (judgment) because of Jesusrsquo death on thecross But itrsquos more intimate than that Grace is Godrsquos blessingoverflowing into our lives o experience Godrsquos grace is to opengift upon gift of comfort companionship and empowerment Inhis grace God saves us strengthens us and sanctifies us He

freely offers us the gift of grace but we must accept it We celebrate grace and thank God for the liberating power

that comes to us through it But it doesnrsquot stop theremdashthere areother aspects of grace God longs to show us Te foreword tothe participantrsquos guide of Max Lucadorsquos book Grace reads ldquoWeknow grace as a noun but Max tells us to think of grace as a verb

It is an action Itrsquos not enough to read about grace we mustexperience itrdquo4

When he came to earth Jesus was ldquofull of grace and truthrdquo(John 104862510486251048628) And if we as believers have accepted him into ourlives then ldquofrom his fullness we have all received grace upongracerdquo (John 104862510486251048630) If Jesus is full of grace and truth and he is

in us then we too can experience lives full of grace and truth What a privilege

Te ldquoway of gracerdquo is the phrase I have used to describe the journey Whether we embark on this road is up to us It can bethe chosen path or a rejected course God offers it freely andopenly He will not force it on us

God issues an invitation to venture to a new land It is much

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like the children of Israel journeying to the Promised Land

Tere are dangers and giants in this foreign country but thereare also mysteries to be revealed and provisions along the waythat only God can give Te invitation is to cross over into theland of grace Te question is Will we go

THE GRACE OF A CCEPTANCE

Tis book is simply a recounting of the grace God has workedin my life Each chapter will highlight a different dimensionof grace much like the facets of a diamond My prayer is thatas you read you will find a new way to see the grace that isbeing offered in your own life whatever your place of difficultymay be

We start with the grace of acceptance (chapter one) for it wasthe first step of many in letting go of the control I thought I hadFor me it became a three-step process of acceptance submissionand relinquishment (continued in chapters two and three) Tegrace of acceptance is not a new concept but one that must beexperienced before moving on Godrsquos coming alongside to

extend grace not just once but every day humbles me as hepours out grace upon grace Acceptance is simply this I receiveGodrsquos invitation or offer and willingly embrace what he gives Icome to terms with the fact that I donrsquot have all the answers Iaccept his gift of grace even when it comes alongside illness

weakness or death I move from a place of depression self-pity

and denial into the grace of acceptance

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Tis is what I might have become had I not experienced this

gracebull an alcoholic abusing a substance in order to find peace

bull a bad husband seeking mental and emotional health fromothers while neglecting my wife

bull a disbelieving priest all the while acting out the role of a life

lived in faithAcceptance changed everything

bull Instead of thinking about death I began to embrace life

bull Instead of ignoring people who were handicapped I prayedfor them

bull

When I needed help I asked for it even from strangersbull Instead of hiding I tried to live openly and honestly about

my condition

bull Even though I still had tears I welcomed laughter

bull Instead of being afraid to open up to others I relished deephonest relationships

It was revolutionaryGrace enlarges the capacity of our heart It allows us to be

guided into truth It gives us courage to accept and a reason tocelebrate and opens our eyes to glimpse wonders from God Tefoundation for experiencing this unique call is the knowledge

that we are saved by grace live by grace and are filled with grace

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if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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T H E

W A Y

O FG R A C E

F I N D I N G G O D O N T H E

P A T H O F S U R R E N D E R

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Foreword by Richard J Foster 983089983089

983089 Facing Reality 983089983093he Grace of Acceptance

983090 Experiencing the Presence 9830901048633he Grace of Submission

983091 Giving Up 9830911048633

he Grace of Relinquishment 983092 Stuck in an Airport 983093983088

he Grace of Compassion

983093 God Is Not Mad at You 983094983091he Grace of rust

983094 Wounded Healers 983095983095he Grace of Community

983095 A Cup of Cool Water 1048633983091he Grace of Comfort

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he Grace of Simplicity

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he Grace of Hope

983089983088 Streams of Grace 983089983091983093 he Grace of Living a New Way

Acknowledgments 983089983092983095

Notes 9830899830921048633About the Authors 983089983093983091

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I am Glandion

I am a contemplative

I embrace the life and role of the Holy Spirit

I love a good wine

I love fellowship and friendships

I am a deep caring person

I am a worrier and a burden bearer I take time to notice

I am soft-spoken yet strong in spirit

I love jazz as well as the Gregorian chant

I am consciously aware of my sinful nature

I am a great listener

I am a priest a husband and father of four adult children I am a grandpa affectionately called ldquoPapardquo

I long to remain in the presence of God

I like to celebrate

I donrsquot have to act in a cultural manner to define my African

American identity

I am a crosscultural man I think about my death about once a week

I think about my life and want to do the things that matter

I love to laugh yet I cry easily

I love poetry especially S Eliot and Garrison Keillor

I love coffee

I question myself all the time

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I have never sensed the condemnation of God

I donrsquot think about former accomplishments as much as my failures I believe in justice

I have stood in lines in Ethiopia with the hungry and the poor

I have traveled to eastern Africa during the time of genocide

war and famine

I minister in one of the wealthiest communities in the United States

I have learned that the rich in resources can also be poor in spirit I embrace the Scriptures and see them as a guidepost for life

I have struggled to accept the diagnosis of a disease and tried to

cover it up

I love the Father Son and Holy Spirit

I love the Eucharist

I embrace another personrsquos heart whatever their religious practice I believe evil will be overcome

I love to see the sunset

I take time to look in the eyes of others to get a glimpse of their heart

I like to raid the cookie jar in the middle of the night

I love theological discussions

I am loved

I am loving

I am Glandion

I have Parkinsonrsquos

I am learning to walk in grace

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The Grace of Acceptance

IT HAPPENED SO FASTmdashmy body wouldnrsquot cooperate with

my mind Never had I struggled with such simple things Iseemed to be all thumbs as I put on my clerical collar It wouldnrsquot go on straight no matter what I did My jacket gotstuck halfway on it felt like a straightjacket binding my armsand preventing me from moving correctly What was going on

Why was I suddenly so clumsy

It was 1048626104862410486241048632 and I was leading a pastorsrsquo conference in KigaliRwanda walking men from many countries through steps ofmeditation reflection and communion with God During mytrip to Africa I had become increasingly tired more so than Ihad ever been in the past Te work was grueling and the hours

were long but I had done this before and it had never bothered

me It felt like my thoughts were being stolen from my mind I

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would begin a sentence and then midway I would not know

where the thought was goingMy good friend William Wilson had gone along to minister

with me A former rappist monk he was now an Anglicanpriest like me William noticed how sluggish and stiff my move-ments were becoming At his encouragement I decided to go tothe doctor for a physical when we got home It seemed logical

that I had picked up a virus or other illness while travelingMy physician did his usual examination but then asked me

to do simple movements like walk a few steps and bend at the waist He inspected my arms knees and legs and tested my re-flexes He shined a light in my eyes and then said simply ldquoYouhave Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquo

Stunned I questioned him ldquoHow do you know How can you say lsquoYou have Parkinsonrsquosrsquo when yoursquove done no test orbloodwork to determine this diagnosisrdquo

He looked me straight in the eyes and responded ldquoYou arenot smiling like you used to and your face looks frozen in afrown Your movements are difficult Your joints are in pain All

this points to Parkinsonrsquos You can get a second opinion from aneurologist but he will tell you the same thingrdquo

Words escaped me I felt nothing I was empty Numb Tere was no brilliant logic to apply Tere were no prayers to

pray Tere was no believing or trusting in God for the future ofmy life in general or my ministry All was blank as if erased I

walked out of his office in a fog When I got to my car I wept

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like a baby leaning on the steering wheel for support I called

my wife and told her ldquoTe doctor says I have ParkinsonrsquosrdquoMarion dropped what she was doing at work and came home

to sit with me in silence Tatrsquos when feeling nothing moved todarkness and hopelessness Like Job and his friend in Scripture

we sat in the ash heap of despairAt that point I couldnrsquot see any applications of grace No

Bible verses immediately came to mind to soothe my dark andforeboding spirit Te words ldquoyou have Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquoplayed over and over in my mind like a record stuck on a trackI felt sabotaged ears of hurt grief and fear fell unceasingly Icouldnrsquot stop them if I tried

Many saints through the centuries have referred to tears as a gift

Te ldquogift of tearsrdquo written about by the desert elders andseveral centuries later by St Ignatius of Loyola are notabout finding meaning in our pain and suffering Tey donot give answers but instead call us to a deep attentivenessto the longings of our heart Tey continue to flow until wedrop our masks and self-deception and return to the sourceof our lives and longing Tey are a sign that we havecrossed a threshold into a profound sense of humility1

I couldnrsquot come up with any longing in my heart except forthis new diagnosis to be recalled It was easier to deceivemyself with the drug of denial than to begin the hard work of

acceptance

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A DIFFERENT DIRECTION

Te physician recommended I seek physical therapy He re-minded me this disease would take its toll over time to slow theprocess I needed to change my lifestyle Get more rest Exercisemore Start medication Eat well It was all so overwhelming

When I got up the courage I made an appointment with thephysical therapist I walked into the rehab hospital not knowing

what to expect I was blown away Hunchbacked patientsshaking violently were straining to remain balanced while they

walked Most were suffering with the visible effects of Lou Geh-rigrsquos disease multiple sclerosis or Parkinsonrsquos So many diseasesand disabilities were representedmdashyou name it and they had itI saw myself in them and I was scared

When the therapist called my name I jerked to attentionInstead of following him into the therapy session I ran out ofthe waiting room in tears I left and did not go back for a year Ihave never confessed this to anyone before now

Tis was not supposed to be my journey How could I face itI had no direction or sense of destination I didnrsquot even have

a compass Te nothingness I had felt earlier turned into a darkshadow of gray with shades of anger I was on a journey with noend in sight not one I wanted anyway Severe difficulties hadsuddenly been thrust on me and they hovered over my head likedarkening clouds in a storm Questions tormented me Will Idie Where is God in the midst of this Where is my courage

I went to see a neurologist who was also a member of our

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church After he confirmed the diagnosis he explained that Par-

kinsonrsquos is a disorder of the brain that leads to shaking and dif-ficulty with walking movement and coordination and it con-tinues to get worse Seeing the immediate tears in my eyes hecame to my side took me by the hand and said ldquoJust prayGlandion God will show you the wayrdquo

Even after two doctors confirmed the diagnosis it took me

twelve months to accept it During that year I concealed mydifficulties Even though my wife studied to learn more aboutthe disease I refused to do so I hid out like a fugitive I deniedeverything I foolishly thought that if I didnrsquot acknowledge thesymptoms they would just go away

One Sunday morning I was shaving in preparation for church

when I heard these words in my heart ldquoGlandion you donrsquottrust me You say you do but you donrsquot You masquerade andcover up your weaknesses You hide because you will not accept

what I have allowedrdquoIt was Jesus speaking to my heart at the deepest level It

wasnrsquot a harsh rebuke it was a gentle voice asking me to admit

my weakness and come to the truth Tat morning I stood before my congregation as associate

pastor and spoke these words ldquoAs your priest today I need tomake a confession I have Parkinsonrsquos disease I have been cov-ering up my weakness and I need to share it openly Irsquom tryingto accept it as a grace I hope you will pray for merdquo

Many came up afterward to speak to me ldquoMy weakness is

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drug addictionrdquo ldquoMy weakness is pornographyrdquo ldquoMy weakness

is controlling othersrdquo ldquoMy weakness is alcoholismrdquo We wepttogether held by a powerful cord of acceptance and confession

Te spiritual director in me wanted to sit down with each ofthem over a cup of coffee to validate their experiences of in-tegrity honesty and true confession You see my conviction isthat we donrsquot walk alone on the path of faith We explore it

together learning about grace trials and new beginnings Wemay have different paths on the journey but we all end at thesame destinationmdashthe discovery of Godrsquos faithfulness in

whatever we faceBut how could I express this truth to them when I had not

experienced it myself I admitted my weakness and began to

accept it Now I had to act on it It was the first step to healingand freedom Tere would be many others

A year after I initially visited that rehab hospital I returnedfor physical therapy Tis time I knew what to expect and I wasready to do the work Now what I noticed in the other tor-mented bodies was not their dysfunction but their eyes Teir

eyes conveyed hope courage and a will to overcome Te graceof acceptance allowed me to see them in a different light In-stead of running away from these fellow sufferers I was moti-

vated to join them And I was moved to offer up deep prayer forthem as a sign of accepting our common experience

Another turning point in this journey of acceptance was

the night my wife and I ate dinner at the home of my co-

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author Marjean Brooks and her husband Ricky After dinner

they shared a video with us saying it reminded them ofMarion and me In the video a man was sleeping on thecouch His wife talked excitedly about a new home im-provement tool as she walked up to the camera drawing us inShe guaranteed results and encouraged all viewers to watchher demonstrate Marion was getting interested She needed

some things done around the house and had been trying tomotivate me to do them

As the woman on the video spoke she rolled up a catalog inher hands When she finished her spiel she walked over to herreclining husband whacked his backside with the catalog and

yelled ldquoGet yorsquo butt uprdquo

Marion and I laughed hard at that unexpected ending In factthat line has been a standing joke with us ever since AfterwardI felt as if I had been prompted ldquoOkay Glandion when are you going to lsquoget yorsquo butt uprsquo and work on your liferdquo

Like the main character Much Afraid in the classic allegoryHindsrsquo Feet on High Places by Hannah Hurnard I glimpsed the

journey with all its peaks valleys and shadows Just as MuchAfraid took the hands of her companions Sorrow and SufferingI took the first step of acceptance Without realizing it I hadbeen blocking grace by refusing to be humbled Now I made thechoice to embrace a different way to live and a fresh power tolove through Godrsquos empowering grace I had no idea what lay

ahead But I was ready

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BEGINNING THE JOURNEY

In the course of Much Afraidrsquos journey to the High Places shefaced tremendous difficulties After each mountain was scaledor each terror was over she would put a small stone in the poucharound her waist Tey became trophies of grace remembrancesof all that the Shepherd had brought her through In the endthey were turned into beautiful jewels placed in a crown for her

to wearI havenrsquot picked up stones along my journey Instead God has

shown me many different aspects of grace that have spurred meon my way I have carried them until I am used to their weightin my backpack Tey once seemed heavy but now they are

weightless Tey are so much a part of me that I could not live

without them Godrsquos grace has been manifested to me in beau-tiful yet challenging ways He gives this kind of grace to all ofusmdashif we learn to recognize accept and embrace it to live vic-toriously in this world

eresa of Aacutevila a sixteenth-century Spanish mystic philos-opher and Catholic saint described the journey through dif-

ferent graces in her book Te Interior Castle

Let us imagine that there are many rooms in this castleof which some are above some below others at the sidein the centre in the very midst of them all is the principalchamber in which God and the soul hold their most secret

intercourse Tink over this comparison very carefully

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God grant it may enlighten you about the different kinds

of graces He is pleased to bestow upon the soul No onecan know all about them much less a person so ignorantas I am Te knowledge that such things are possible willconsole you greatly should our Lord ever grant you any ofthese favours2

As I began to look differently at my circumstances I wantedGod to show me all the rooms in my castle I especially wantedto see the principal chamber where he and I could hold the mostsecret intercourse And I was anxious to be enlightened aboutthe grace he would bestow

JESUS F ULL OF GRACE AND TRUTH

On this journey into grace I was led to see Jesus as one whoboth gave and modeled grace in his earthly life It started withhis acceptance to come to this world Philippians 10486261048630-1048632 speaksof his willingness to be humbled and to empty himself of therights of heaven in order to take his assignment on earth Chris

iegreen has explained this truth by writing ldquoJesus went fromheavenly riches to earthly rags from exaltation to humiliationfrom authority to obedience from ultimate significance to ul-timate rejection from comfort to hardship from safety to dangerfrom glory to sacrifice and from life to death And he calls us togo into the world in exactly the same way rdquo3

Jesusrsquo acceptance and obedience brought about the saving

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grace of God Grace is simply Godrsquos unmerited favor In other

words he gives us what we donrsquot deserve (grace) and doesnrsquot giveus what we do deserve (judgment) because of Jesusrsquo death on thecross But itrsquos more intimate than that Grace is Godrsquos blessingoverflowing into our lives o experience Godrsquos grace is to opengift upon gift of comfort companionship and empowerment Inhis grace God saves us strengthens us and sanctifies us He

freely offers us the gift of grace but we must accept it We celebrate grace and thank God for the liberating power

that comes to us through it But it doesnrsquot stop theremdashthere areother aspects of grace God longs to show us Te foreword tothe participantrsquos guide of Max Lucadorsquos book Grace reads ldquoWeknow grace as a noun but Max tells us to think of grace as a verb

It is an action Itrsquos not enough to read about grace we mustexperience itrdquo4

When he came to earth Jesus was ldquofull of grace and truthrdquo(John 104862510486251048628) And if we as believers have accepted him into ourlives then ldquofrom his fullness we have all received grace upongracerdquo (John 104862510486251048630) If Jesus is full of grace and truth and he is

in us then we too can experience lives full of grace and truth What a privilege

Te ldquoway of gracerdquo is the phrase I have used to describe the journey Whether we embark on this road is up to us It can bethe chosen path or a rejected course God offers it freely andopenly He will not force it on us

God issues an invitation to venture to a new land It is much

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like the children of Israel journeying to the Promised Land

Tere are dangers and giants in this foreign country but thereare also mysteries to be revealed and provisions along the waythat only God can give Te invitation is to cross over into theland of grace Te question is Will we go

THE GRACE OF A CCEPTANCE

Tis book is simply a recounting of the grace God has workedin my life Each chapter will highlight a different dimensionof grace much like the facets of a diamond My prayer is thatas you read you will find a new way to see the grace that isbeing offered in your own life whatever your place of difficultymay be

We start with the grace of acceptance (chapter one) for it wasthe first step of many in letting go of the control I thought I hadFor me it became a three-step process of acceptance submissionand relinquishment (continued in chapters two and three) Tegrace of acceptance is not a new concept but one that must beexperienced before moving on Godrsquos coming alongside to

extend grace not just once but every day humbles me as hepours out grace upon grace Acceptance is simply this I receiveGodrsquos invitation or offer and willingly embrace what he gives Icome to terms with the fact that I donrsquot have all the answers Iaccept his gift of grace even when it comes alongside illness

weakness or death I move from a place of depression self-pity

and denial into the grace of acceptance

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Tis is what I might have become had I not experienced this

gracebull an alcoholic abusing a substance in order to find peace

bull a bad husband seeking mental and emotional health fromothers while neglecting my wife

bull a disbelieving priest all the while acting out the role of a life

lived in faithAcceptance changed everything

bull Instead of thinking about death I began to embrace life

bull Instead of ignoring people who were handicapped I prayedfor them

bull

When I needed help I asked for it even from strangersbull Instead of hiding I tried to live openly and honestly about

my condition

bull Even though I still had tears I welcomed laughter

bull Instead of being afraid to open up to others I relished deephonest relationships

It was revolutionaryGrace enlarges the capacity of our heart It allows us to be

guided into truth It gives us courage to accept and a reason tocelebrate and opens our eyes to glimpse wonders from God Tefoundation for experiencing this unique call is the knowledge

that we are saved by grace live by grace and are filled with grace

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if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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T H E

W A Y

O FG R A C E

F I N D I N G G O D O N T H E

P A T H O F S U R R E N D E R

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Foreword by Richard J Foster 983089983089

983089 Facing Reality 983089983093he Grace of Acceptance

983090 Experiencing the Presence 9830901048633he Grace of Submission

983091 Giving Up 9830911048633

he Grace of Relinquishment 983092 Stuck in an Airport 983093983088

he Grace of Compassion

983093 God Is Not Mad at You 983094983091he Grace of rust

983094 Wounded Healers 983095983095he Grace of Community

983095 A Cup of Cool Water 1048633983091he Grace of Comfort

983096 Life in the Slow Lane 983089983088983095

he Grace of Simplicity

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he Grace of Hope

983089983088 Streams of Grace 983089983091983093 he Grace of Living a New Way

Acknowledgments 983089983092983095

Notes 9830899830921048633About the Authors 983089983093983091

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I am Glandion

I am a contemplative

I embrace the life and role of the Holy Spirit

I love a good wine

I love fellowship and friendships

I am a deep caring person

I am a worrier and a burden bearer I take time to notice

I am soft-spoken yet strong in spirit

I love jazz as well as the Gregorian chant

I am consciously aware of my sinful nature

I am a great listener

I am a priest a husband and father of four adult children I am a grandpa affectionately called ldquoPapardquo

I long to remain in the presence of God

I like to celebrate

I donrsquot have to act in a cultural manner to define my African

American identity

I am a crosscultural man I think about my death about once a week

I think about my life and want to do the things that matter

I love to laugh yet I cry easily

I love poetry especially S Eliot and Garrison Keillor

I love coffee

I question myself all the time

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I have never sensed the condemnation of God

I donrsquot think about former accomplishments as much as my failures I believe in justice

I have stood in lines in Ethiopia with the hungry and the poor

I have traveled to eastern Africa during the time of genocide

war and famine

I minister in one of the wealthiest communities in the United States

I have learned that the rich in resources can also be poor in spirit I embrace the Scriptures and see them as a guidepost for life

I have struggled to accept the diagnosis of a disease and tried to

cover it up

I love the Father Son and Holy Spirit

I love the Eucharist

I embrace another personrsquos heart whatever their religious practice I believe evil will be overcome

I love to see the sunset

I take time to look in the eyes of others to get a glimpse of their heart

I like to raid the cookie jar in the middle of the night

I love theological discussions

I am loved

I am loving

I am Glandion

I have Parkinsonrsquos

I am learning to walk in grace

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The Grace of Acceptance

IT HAPPENED SO FASTmdashmy body wouldnrsquot cooperate with

my mind Never had I struggled with such simple things Iseemed to be all thumbs as I put on my clerical collar It wouldnrsquot go on straight no matter what I did My jacket gotstuck halfway on it felt like a straightjacket binding my armsand preventing me from moving correctly What was going on

Why was I suddenly so clumsy

It was 1048626104862410486241048632 and I was leading a pastorsrsquo conference in KigaliRwanda walking men from many countries through steps ofmeditation reflection and communion with God During mytrip to Africa I had become increasingly tired more so than Ihad ever been in the past Te work was grueling and the hours

were long but I had done this before and it had never bothered

me It felt like my thoughts were being stolen from my mind I

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would begin a sentence and then midway I would not know

where the thought was goingMy good friend William Wilson had gone along to minister

with me A former rappist monk he was now an Anglicanpriest like me William noticed how sluggish and stiff my move-ments were becoming At his encouragement I decided to go tothe doctor for a physical when we got home It seemed logical

that I had picked up a virus or other illness while travelingMy physician did his usual examination but then asked me

to do simple movements like walk a few steps and bend at the waist He inspected my arms knees and legs and tested my re-flexes He shined a light in my eyes and then said simply ldquoYouhave Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquo

Stunned I questioned him ldquoHow do you know How can you say lsquoYou have Parkinsonrsquosrsquo when yoursquove done no test orbloodwork to determine this diagnosisrdquo

He looked me straight in the eyes and responded ldquoYou arenot smiling like you used to and your face looks frozen in afrown Your movements are difficult Your joints are in pain All

this points to Parkinsonrsquos You can get a second opinion from aneurologist but he will tell you the same thingrdquo

Words escaped me I felt nothing I was empty Numb Tere was no brilliant logic to apply Tere were no prayers to

pray Tere was no believing or trusting in God for the future ofmy life in general or my ministry All was blank as if erased I

walked out of his office in a fog When I got to my car I wept

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like a baby leaning on the steering wheel for support I called

my wife and told her ldquoTe doctor says I have ParkinsonrsquosrdquoMarion dropped what she was doing at work and came home

to sit with me in silence Tatrsquos when feeling nothing moved todarkness and hopelessness Like Job and his friend in Scripture

we sat in the ash heap of despairAt that point I couldnrsquot see any applications of grace No

Bible verses immediately came to mind to soothe my dark andforeboding spirit Te words ldquoyou have Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquoplayed over and over in my mind like a record stuck on a trackI felt sabotaged ears of hurt grief and fear fell unceasingly Icouldnrsquot stop them if I tried

Many saints through the centuries have referred to tears as a gift

Te ldquogift of tearsrdquo written about by the desert elders andseveral centuries later by St Ignatius of Loyola are notabout finding meaning in our pain and suffering Tey donot give answers but instead call us to a deep attentivenessto the longings of our heart Tey continue to flow until wedrop our masks and self-deception and return to the sourceof our lives and longing Tey are a sign that we havecrossed a threshold into a profound sense of humility1

I couldnrsquot come up with any longing in my heart except forthis new diagnosis to be recalled It was easier to deceivemyself with the drug of denial than to begin the hard work of

acceptance

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A DIFFERENT DIRECTION

Te physician recommended I seek physical therapy He re-minded me this disease would take its toll over time to slow theprocess I needed to change my lifestyle Get more rest Exercisemore Start medication Eat well It was all so overwhelming

When I got up the courage I made an appointment with thephysical therapist I walked into the rehab hospital not knowing

what to expect I was blown away Hunchbacked patientsshaking violently were straining to remain balanced while they

walked Most were suffering with the visible effects of Lou Geh-rigrsquos disease multiple sclerosis or Parkinsonrsquos So many diseasesand disabilities were representedmdashyou name it and they had itI saw myself in them and I was scared

When the therapist called my name I jerked to attentionInstead of following him into the therapy session I ran out ofthe waiting room in tears I left and did not go back for a year Ihave never confessed this to anyone before now

Tis was not supposed to be my journey How could I face itI had no direction or sense of destination I didnrsquot even have

a compass Te nothingness I had felt earlier turned into a darkshadow of gray with shades of anger I was on a journey with noend in sight not one I wanted anyway Severe difficulties hadsuddenly been thrust on me and they hovered over my head likedarkening clouds in a storm Questions tormented me Will Idie Where is God in the midst of this Where is my courage

I went to see a neurologist who was also a member of our

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church After he confirmed the diagnosis he explained that Par-

kinsonrsquos is a disorder of the brain that leads to shaking and dif-ficulty with walking movement and coordination and it con-tinues to get worse Seeing the immediate tears in my eyes hecame to my side took me by the hand and said ldquoJust prayGlandion God will show you the wayrdquo

Even after two doctors confirmed the diagnosis it took me

twelve months to accept it During that year I concealed mydifficulties Even though my wife studied to learn more aboutthe disease I refused to do so I hid out like a fugitive I deniedeverything I foolishly thought that if I didnrsquot acknowledge thesymptoms they would just go away

One Sunday morning I was shaving in preparation for church

when I heard these words in my heart ldquoGlandion you donrsquottrust me You say you do but you donrsquot You masquerade andcover up your weaknesses You hide because you will not accept

what I have allowedrdquoIt was Jesus speaking to my heart at the deepest level It

wasnrsquot a harsh rebuke it was a gentle voice asking me to admit

my weakness and come to the truth Tat morning I stood before my congregation as associate

pastor and spoke these words ldquoAs your priest today I need tomake a confession I have Parkinsonrsquos disease I have been cov-ering up my weakness and I need to share it openly Irsquom tryingto accept it as a grace I hope you will pray for merdquo

Many came up afterward to speak to me ldquoMy weakness is

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drug addictionrdquo ldquoMy weakness is pornographyrdquo ldquoMy weakness

is controlling othersrdquo ldquoMy weakness is alcoholismrdquo We wepttogether held by a powerful cord of acceptance and confession

Te spiritual director in me wanted to sit down with each ofthem over a cup of coffee to validate their experiences of in-tegrity honesty and true confession You see my conviction isthat we donrsquot walk alone on the path of faith We explore it

together learning about grace trials and new beginnings Wemay have different paths on the journey but we all end at thesame destinationmdashthe discovery of Godrsquos faithfulness in

whatever we faceBut how could I express this truth to them when I had not

experienced it myself I admitted my weakness and began to

accept it Now I had to act on it It was the first step to healingand freedom Tere would be many others

A year after I initially visited that rehab hospital I returnedfor physical therapy Tis time I knew what to expect and I wasready to do the work Now what I noticed in the other tor-mented bodies was not their dysfunction but their eyes Teir

eyes conveyed hope courage and a will to overcome Te graceof acceptance allowed me to see them in a different light In-stead of running away from these fellow sufferers I was moti-

vated to join them And I was moved to offer up deep prayer forthem as a sign of accepting our common experience

Another turning point in this journey of acceptance was

the night my wife and I ate dinner at the home of my co-

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author Marjean Brooks and her husband Ricky After dinner

they shared a video with us saying it reminded them ofMarion and me In the video a man was sleeping on thecouch His wife talked excitedly about a new home im-provement tool as she walked up to the camera drawing us inShe guaranteed results and encouraged all viewers to watchher demonstrate Marion was getting interested She needed

some things done around the house and had been trying tomotivate me to do them

As the woman on the video spoke she rolled up a catalog inher hands When she finished her spiel she walked over to herreclining husband whacked his backside with the catalog and

yelled ldquoGet yorsquo butt uprdquo

Marion and I laughed hard at that unexpected ending In factthat line has been a standing joke with us ever since AfterwardI felt as if I had been prompted ldquoOkay Glandion when are you going to lsquoget yorsquo butt uprsquo and work on your liferdquo

Like the main character Much Afraid in the classic allegoryHindsrsquo Feet on High Places by Hannah Hurnard I glimpsed the

journey with all its peaks valleys and shadows Just as MuchAfraid took the hands of her companions Sorrow and SufferingI took the first step of acceptance Without realizing it I hadbeen blocking grace by refusing to be humbled Now I made thechoice to embrace a different way to live and a fresh power tolove through Godrsquos empowering grace I had no idea what lay

ahead But I was ready

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BEGINNING THE JOURNEY

In the course of Much Afraidrsquos journey to the High Places shefaced tremendous difficulties After each mountain was scaledor each terror was over she would put a small stone in the poucharound her waist Tey became trophies of grace remembrancesof all that the Shepherd had brought her through In the endthey were turned into beautiful jewels placed in a crown for her

to wearI havenrsquot picked up stones along my journey Instead God has

shown me many different aspects of grace that have spurred meon my way I have carried them until I am used to their weightin my backpack Tey once seemed heavy but now they are

weightless Tey are so much a part of me that I could not live

without them Godrsquos grace has been manifested to me in beau-tiful yet challenging ways He gives this kind of grace to all ofusmdashif we learn to recognize accept and embrace it to live vic-toriously in this world

eresa of Aacutevila a sixteenth-century Spanish mystic philos-opher and Catholic saint described the journey through dif-

ferent graces in her book Te Interior Castle

Let us imagine that there are many rooms in this castleof which some are above some below others at the sidein the centre in the very midst of them all is the principalchamber in which God and the soul hold their most secret

intercourse Tink over this comparison very carefully

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God grant it may enlighten you about the different kinds

of graces He is pleased to bestow upon the soul No onecan know all about them much less a person so ignorantas I am Te knowledge that such things are possible willconsole you greatly should our Lord ever grant you any ofthese favours2

As I began to look differently at my circumstances I wantedGod to show me all the rooms in my castle I especially wantedto see the principal chamber where he and I could hold the mostsecret intercourse And I was anxious to be enlightened aboutthe grace he would bestow

JESUS F ULL OF GRACE AND TRUTH

On this journey into grace I was led to see Jesus as one whoboth gave and modeled grace in his earthly life It started withhis acceptance to come to this world Philippians 10486261048630-1048632 speaksof his willingness to be humbled and to empty himself of therights of heaven in order to take his assignment on earth Chris

iegreen has explained this truth by writing ldquoJesus went fromheavenly riches to earthly rags from exaltation to humiliationfrom authority to obedience from ultimate significance to ul-timate rejection from comfort to hardship from safety to dangerfrom glory to sacrifice and from life to death And he calls us togo into the world in exactly the same way rdquo3

Jesusrsquo acceptance and obedience brought about the saving

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grace of God Grace is simply Godrsquos unmerited favor In other

words he gives us what we donrsquot deserve (grace) and doesnrsquot giveus what we do deserve (judgment) because of Jesusrsquo death on thecross But itrsquos more intimate than that Grace is Godrsquos blessingoverflowing into our lives o experience Godrsquos grace is to opengift upon gift of comfort companionship and empowerment Inhis grace God saves us strengthens us and sanctifies us He

freely offers us the gift of grace but we must accept it We celebrate grace and thank God for the liberating power

that comes to us through it But it doesnrsquot stop theremdashthere areother aspects of grace God longs to show us Te foreword tothe participantrsquos guide of Max Lucadorsquos book Grace reads ldquoWeknow grace as a noun but Max tells us to think of grace as a verb

It is an action Itrsquos not enough to read about grace we mustexperience itrdquo4

When he came to earth Jesus was ldquofull of grace and truthrdquo(John 104862510486251048628) And if we as believers have accepted him into ourlives then ldquofrom his fullness we have all received grace upongracerdquo (John 104862510486251048630) If Jesus is full of grace and truth and he is

in us then we too can experience lives full of grace and truth What a privilege

Te ldquoway of gracerdquo is the phrase I have used to describe the journey Whether we embark on this road is up to us It can bethe chosen path or a rejected course God offers it freely andopenly He will not force it on us

God issues an invitation to venture to a new land It is much

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like the children of Israel journeying to the Promised Land

Tere are dangers and giants in this foreign country but thereare also mysteries to be revealed and provisions along the waythat only God can give Te invitation is to cross over into theland of grace Te question is Will we go

THE GRACE OF A CCEPTANCE

Tis book is simply a recounting of the grace God has workedin my life Each chapter will highlight a different dimensionof grace much like the facets of a diamond My prayer is thatas you read you will find a new way to see the grace that isbeing offered in your own life whatever your place of difficultymay be

We start with the grace of acceptance (chapter one) for it wasthe first step of many in letting go of the control I thought I hadFor me it became a three-step process of acceptance submissionand relinquishment (continued in chapters two and three) Tegrace of acceptance is not a new concept but one that must beexperienced before moving on Godrsquos coming alongside to

extend grace not just once but every day humbles me as hepours out grace upon grace Acceptance is simply this I receiveGodrsquos invitation or offer and willingly embrace what he gives Icome to terms with the fact that I donrsquot have all the answers Iaccept his gift of grace even when it comes alongside illness

weakness or death I move from a place of depression self-pity

and denial into the grace of acceptance

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Tis is what I might have become had I not experienced this

gracebull an alcoholic abusing a substance in order to find peace

bull a bad husband seeking mental and emotional health fromothers while neglecting my wife

bull a disbelieving priest all the while acting out the role of a life

lived in faithAcceptance changed everything

bull Instead of thinking about death I began to embrace life

bull Instead of ignoring people who were handicapped I prayedfor them

bull

When I needed help I asked for it even from strangersbull Instead of hiding I tried to live openly and honestly about

my condition

bull Even though I still had tears I welcomed laughter

bull Instead of being afraid to open up to others I relished deephonest relationships

It was revolutionaryGrace enlarges the capacity of our heart It allows us to be

guided into truth It gives us courage to accept and a reason tocelebrate and opens our eyes to glimpse wonders from God Tefoundation for experiencing this unique call is the knowledge

that we are saved by grace live by grace and are filled with grace

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if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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Foreword by Richard J Foster 983089983089

983089 Facing Reality 983089983093he Grace of Acceptance

983090 Experiencing the Presence 9830901048633he Grace of Submission

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he Grace of Relinquishment 983092 Stuck in an Airport 983093983088

he Grace of Compassion

983093 God Is Not Mad at You 983094983091he Grace of rust

983094 Wounded Healers 983095983095he Grace of Community

983095 A Cup of Cool Water 1048633983091he Grace of Comfort

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he Grace of Simplicity

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he Grace of Hope

983089983088 Streams of Grace 983089983091983093 he Grace of Living a New Way

Acknowledgments 983089983092983095

Notes 9830899830921048633About the Authors 983089983093983091

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I am Glandion

I am a contemplative

I embrace the life and role of the Holy Spirit

I love a good wine

I love fellowship and friendships

I am a deep caring person

I am a worrier and a burden bearer I take time to notice

I am soft-spoken yet strong in spirit

I love jazz as well as the Gregorian chant

I am consciously aware of my sinful nature

I am a great listener

I am a priest a husband and father of four adult children I am a grandpa affectionately called ldquoPapardquo

I long to remain in the presence of God

I like to celebrate

I donrsquot have to act in a cultural manner to define my African

American identity

I am a crosscultural man I think about my death about once a week

I think about my life and want to do the things that matter

I love to laugh yet I cry easily

I love poetry especially S Eliot and Garrison Keillor

I love coffee

I question myself all the time

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I have never sensed the condemnation of God

I donrsquot think about former accomplishments as much as my failures I believe in justice

I have stood in lines in Ethiopia with the hungry and the poor

I have traveled to eastern Africa during the time of genocide

war and famine

I minister in one of the wealthiest communities in the United States

I have learned that the rich in resources can also be poor in spirit I embrace the Scriptures and see them as a guidepost for life

I have struggled to accept the diagnosis of a disease and tried to

cover it up

I love the Father Son and Holy Spirit

I love the Eucharist

I embrace another personrsquos heart whatever their religious practice I believe evil will be overcome

I love to see the sunset

I take time to look in the eyes of others to get a glimpse of their heart

I like to raid the cookie jar in the middle of the night

I love theological discussions

I am loved

I am loving

I am Glandion

I have Parkinsonrsquos

I am learning to walk in grace

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The Grace of Acceptance

IT HAPPENED SO FASTmdashmy body wouldnrsquot cooperate with

my mind Never had I struggled with such simple things Iseemed to be all thumbs as I put on my clerical collar It wouldnrsquot go on straight no matter what I did My jacket gotstuck halfway on it felt like a straightjacket binding my armsand preventing me from moving correctly What was going on

Why was I suddenly so clumsy

It was 1048626104862410486241048632 and I was leading a pastorsrsquo conference in KigaliRwanda walking men from many countries through steps ofmeditation reflection and communion with God During mytrip to Africa I had become increasingly tired more so than Ihad ever been in the past Te work was grueling and the hours

were long but I had done this before and it had never bothered

me It felt like my thoughts were being stolen from my mind I

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would begin a sentence and then midway I would not know

where the thought was goingMy good friend William Wilson had gone along to minister

with me A former rappist monk he was now an Anglicanpriest like me William noticed how sluggish and stiff my move-ments were becoming At his encouragement I decided to go tothe doctor for a physical when we got home It seemed logical

that I had picked up a virus or other illness while travelingMy physician did his usual examination but then asked me

to do simple movements like walk a few steps and bend at the waist He inspected my arms knees and legs and tested my re-flexes He shined a light in my eyes and then said simply ldquoYouhave Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquo

Stunned I questioned him ldquoHow do you know How can you say lsquoYou have Parkinsonrsquosrsquo when yoursquove done no test orbloodwork to determine this diagnosisrdquo

He looked me straight in the eyes and responded ldquoYou arenot smiling like you used to and your face looks frozen in afrown Your movements are difficult Your joints are in pain All

this points to Parkinsonrsquos You can get a second opinion from aneurologist but he will tell you the same thingrdquo

Words escaped me I felt nothing I was empty Numb Tere was no brilliant logic to apply Tere were no prayers to

pray Tere was no believing or trusting in God for the future ofmy life in general or my ministry All was blank as if erased I

walked out of his office in a fog When I got to my car I wept

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like a baby leaning on the steering wheel for support I called

my wife and told her ldquoTe doctor says I have ParkinsonrsquosrdquoMarion dropped what she was doing at work and came home

to sit with me in silence Tatrsquos when feeling nothing moved todarkness and hopelessness Like Job and his friend in Scripture

we sat in the ash heap of despairAt that point I couldnrsquot see any applications of grace No

Bible verses immediately came to mind to soothe my dark andforeboding spirit Te words ldquoyou have Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquoplayed over and over in my mind like a record stuck on a trackI felt sabotaged ears of hurt grief and fear fell unceasingly Icouldnrsquot stop them if I tried

Many saints through the centuries have referred to tears as a gift

Te ldquogift of tearsrdquo written about by the desert elders andseveral centuries later by St Ignatius of Loyola are notabout finding meaning in our pain and suffering Tey donot give answers but instead call us to a deep attentivenessto the longings of our heart Tey continue to flow until wedrop our masks and self-deception and return to the sourceof our lives and longing Tey are a sign that we havecrossed a threshold into a profound sense of humility1

I couldnrsquot come up with any longing in my heart except forthis new diagnosis to be recalled It was easier to deceivemyself with the drug of denial than to begin the hard work of

acceptance

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A DIFFERENT DIRECTION

Te physician recommended I seek physical therapy He re-minded me this disease would take its toll over time to slow theprocess I needed to change my lifestyle Get more rest Exercisemore Start medication Eat well It was all so overwhelming

When I got up the courage I made an appointment with thephysical therapist I walked into the rehab hospital not knowing

what to expect I was blown away Hunchbacked patientsshaking violently were straining to remain balanced while they

walked Most were suffering with the visible effects of Lou Geh-rigrsquos disease multiple sclerosis or Parkinsonrsquos So many diseasesand disabilities were representedmdashyou name it and they had itI saw myself in them and I was scared

When the therapist called my name I jerked to attentionInstead of following him into the therapy session I ran out ofthe waiting room in tears I left and did not go back for a year Ihave never confessed this to anyone before now

Tis was not supposed to be my journey How could I face itI had no direction or sense of destination I didnrsquot even have

a compass Te nothingness I had felt earlier turned into a darkshadow of gray with shades of anger I was on a journey with noend in sight not one I wanted anyway Severe difficulties hadsuddenly been thrust on me and they hovered over my head likedarkening clouds in a storm Questions tormented me Will Idie Where is God in the midst of this Where is my courage

I went to see a neurologist who was also a member of our

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church After he confirmed the diagnosis he explained that Par-

kinsonrsquos is a disorder of the brain that leads to shaking and dif-ficulty with walking movement and coordination and it con-tinues to get worse Seeing the immediate tears in my eyes hecame to my side took me by the hand and said ldquoJust prayGlandion God will show you the wayrdquo

Even after two doctors confirmed the diagnosis it took me

twelve months to accept it During that year I concealed mydifficulties Even though my wife studied to learn more aboutthe disease I refused to do so I hid out like a fugitive I deniedeverything I foolishly thought that if I didnrsquot acknowledge thesymptoms they would just go away

One Sunday morning I was shaving in preparation for church

when I heard these words in my heart ldquoGlandion you donrsquottrust me You say you do but you donrsquot You masquerade andcover up your weaknesses You hide because you will not accept

what I have allowedrdquoIt was Jesus speaking to my heart at the deepest level It

wasnrsquot a harsh rebuke it was a gentle voice asking me to admit

my weakness and come to the truth Tat morning I stood before my congregation as associate

pastor and spoke these words ldquoAs your priest today I need tomake a confession I have Parkinsonrsquos disease I have been cov-ering up my weakness and I need to share it openly Irsquom tryingto accept it as a grace I hope you will pray for merdquo

Many came up afterward to speak to me ldquoMy weakness is

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drug addictionrdquo ldquoMy weakness is pornographyrdquo ldquoMy weakness

is controlling othersrdquo ldquoMy weakness is alcoholismrdquo We wepttogether held by a powerful cord of acceptance and confession

Te spiritual director in me wanted to sit down with each ofthem over a cup of coffee to validate their experiences of in-tegrity honesty and true confession You see my conviction isthat we donrsquot walk alone on the path of faith We explore it

together learning about grace trials and new beginnings Wemay have different paths on the journey but we all end at thesame destinationmdashthe discovery of Godrsquos faithfulness in

whatever we faceBut how could I express this truth to them when I had not

experienced it myself I admitted my weakness and began to

accept it Now I had to act on it It was the first step to healingand freedom Tere would be many others

A year after I initially visited that rehab hospital I returnedfor physical therapy Tis time I knew what to expect and I wasready to do the work Now what I noticed in the other tor-mented bodies was not their dysfunction but their eyes Teir

eyes conveyed hope courage and a will to overcome Te graceof acceptance allowed me to see them in a different light In-stead of running away from these fellow sufferers I was moti-

vated to join them And I was moved to offer up deep prayer forthem as a sign of accepting our common experience

Another turning point in this journey of acceptance was

the night my wife and I ate dinner at the home of my co-

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author Marjean Brooks and her husband Ricky After dinner

they shared a video with us saying it reminded them ofMarion and me In the video a man was sleeping on thecouch His wife talked excitedly about a new home im-provement tool as she walked up to the camera drawing us inShe guaranteed results and encouraged all viewers to watchher demonstrate Marion was getting interested She needed

some things done around the house and had been trying tomotivate me to do them

As the woman on the video spoke she rolled up a catalog inher hands When she finished her spiel she walked over to herreclining husband whacked his backside with the catalog and

yelled ldquoGet yorsquo butt uprdquo

Marion and I laughed hard at that unexpected ending In factthat line has been a standing joke with us ever since AfterwardI felt as if I had been prompted ldquoOkay Glandion when are you going to lsquoget yorsquo butt uprsquo and work on your liferdquo

Like the main character Much Afraid in the classic allegoryHindsrsquo Feet on High Places by Hannah Hurnard I glimpsed the

journey with all its peaks valleys and shadows Just as MuchAfraid took the hands of her companions Sorrow and SufferingI took the first step of acceptance Without realizing it I hadbeen blocking grace by refusing to be humbled Now I made thechoice to embrace a different way to live and a fresh power tolove through Godrsquos empowering grace I had no idea what lay

ahead But I was ready

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BEGINNING THE JOURNEY

In the course of Much Afraidrsquos journey to the High Places shefaced tremendous difficulties After each mountain was scaledor each terror was over she would put a small stone in the poucharound her waist Tey became trophies of grace remembrancesof all that the Shepherd had brought her through In the endthey were turned into beautiful jewels placed in a crown for her

to wearI havenrsquot picked up stones along my journey Instead God has

shown me many different aspects of grace that have spurred meon my way I have carried them until I am used to their weightin my backpack Tey once seemed heavy but now they are

weightless Tey are so much a part of me that I could not live

without them Godrsquos grace has been manifested to me in beau-tiful yet challenging ways He gives this kind of grace to all ofusmdashif we learn to recognize accept and embrace it to live vic-toriously in this world

eresa of Aacutevila a sixteenth-century Spanish mystic philos-opher and Catholic saint described the journey through dif-

ferent graces in her book Te Interior Castle

Let us imagine that there are many rooms in this castleof which some are above some below others at the sidein the centre in the very midst of them all is the principalchamber in which God and the soul hold their most secret

intercourse Tink over this comparison very carefully

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God grant it may enlighten you about the different kinds

of graces He is pleased to bestow upon the soul No onecan know all about them much less a person so ignorantas I am Te knowledge that such things are possible willconsole you greatly should our Lord ever grant you any ofthese favours2

As I began to look differently at my circumstances I wantedGod to show me all the rooms in my castle I especially wantedto see the principal chamber where he and I could hold the mostsecret intercourse And I was anxious to be enlightened aboutthe grace he would bestow

JESUS F ULL OF GRACE AND TRUTH

On this journey into grace I was led to see Jesus as one whoboth gave and modeled grace in his earthly life It started withhis acceptance to come to this world Philippians 10486261048630-1048632 speaksof his willingness to be humbled and to empty himself of therights of heaven in order to take his assignment on earth Chris

iegreen has explained this truth by writing ldquoJesus went fromheavenly riches to earthly rags from exaltation to humiliationfrom authority to obedience from ultimate significance to ul-timate rejection from comfort to hardship from safety to dangerfrom glory to sacrifice and from life to death And he calls us togo into the world in exactly the same way rdquo3

Jesusrsquo acceptance and obedience brought about the saving

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grace of God Grace is simply Godrsquos unmerited favor In other

words he gives us what we donrsquot deserve (grace) and doesnrsquot giveus what we do deserve (judgment) because of Jesusrsquo death on thecross But itrsquos more intimate than that Grace is Godrsquos blessingoverflowing into our lives o experience Godrsquos grace is to opengift upon gift of comfort companionship and empowerment Inhis grace God saves us strengthens us and sanctifies us He

freely offers us the gift of grace but we must accept it We celebrate grace and thank God for the liberating power

that comes to us through it But it doesnrsquot stop theremdashthere areother aspects of grace God longs to show us Te foreword tothe participantrsquos guide of Max Lucadorsquos book Grace reads ldquoWeknow grace as a noun but Max tells us to think of grace as a verb

It is an action Itrsquos not enough to read about grace we mustexperience itrdquo4

When he came to earth Jesus was ldquofull of grace and truthrdquo(John 104862510486251048628) And if we as believers have accepted him into ourlives then ldquofrom his fullness we have all received grace upongracerdquo (John 104862510486251048630) If Jesus is full of grace and truth and he is

in us then we too can experience lives full of grace and truth What a privilege

Te ldquoway of gracerdquo is the phrase I have used to describe the journey Whether we embark on this road is up to us It can bethe chosen path or a rejected course God offers it freely andopenly He will not force it on us

God issues an invitation to venture to a new land It is much

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like the children of Israel journeying to the Promised Land

Tere are dangers and giants in this foreign country but thereare also mysteries to be revealed and provisions along the waythat only God can give Te invitation is to cross over into theland of grace Te question is Will we go

THE GRACE OF A CCEPTANCE

Tis book is simply a recounting of the grace God has workedin my life Each chapter will highlight a different dimensionof grace much like the facets of a diamond My prayer is thatas you read you will find a new way to see the grace that isbeing offered in your own life whatever your place of difficultymay be

We start with the grace of acceptance (chapter one) for it wasthe first step of many in letting go of the control I thought I hadFor me it became a three-step process of acceptance submissionand relinquishment (continued in chapters two and three) Tegrace of acceptance is not a new concept but one that must beexperienced before moving on Godrsquos coming alongside to

extend grace not just once but every day humbles me as hepours out grace upon grace Acceptance is simply this I receiveGodrsquos invitation or offer and willingly embrace what he gives Icome to terms with the fact that I donrsquot have all the answers Iaccept his gift of grace even when it comes alongside illness

weakness or death I move from a place of depression self-pity

and denial into the grace of acceptance

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Tis is what I might have become had I not experienced this

gracebull an alcoholic abusing a substance in order to find peace

bull a bad husband seeking mental and emotional health fromothers while neglecting my wife

bull a disbelieving priest all the while acting out the role of a life

lived in faithAcceptance changed everything

bull Instead of thinking about death I began to embrace life

bull Instead of ignoring people who were handicapped I prayedfor them

bull

When I needed help I asked for it even from strangersbull Instead of hiding I tried to live openly and honestly about

my condition

bull Even though I still had tears I welcomed laughter

bull Instead of being afraid to open up to others I relished deephonest relationships

It was revolutionaryGrace enlarges the capacity of our heart It allows us to be

guided into truth It gives us courage to accept and a reason tocelebrate and opens our eyes to glimpse wonders from God Tefoundation for experiencing this unique call is the knowledge

that we are saved by grace live by grace and are filled with grace

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if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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Foreword by Richard J Foster 983089983089

983089 Facing Reality 983089983093he Grace of Acceptance

983090 Experiencing the Presence 9830901048633he Grace of Submission

983091 Giving Up 9830911048633

he Grace of Relinquishment 983092 Stuck in an Airport 983093983088

he Grace of Compassion

983093 God Is Not Mad at You 983094983091he Grace of rust

983094 Wounded Healers 983095983095he Grace of Community

983095 A Cup of Cool Water 1048633983091he Grace of Comfort

983096 Life in the Slow Lane 983089983088983095

he Grace of Simplicity

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he Grace of Hope

983089983088 Streams of Grace 983089983091983093 he Grace of Living a New Way

Acknowledgments 983089983092983095

Notes 9830899830921048633About the Authors 983089983093983091

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I am Glandion

I am a contemplative

I embrace the life and role of the Holy Spirit

I love a good wine

I love fellowship and friendships

I am a deep caring person

I am a worrier and a burden bearer I take time to notice

I am soft-spoken yet strong in spirit

I love jazz as well as the Gregorian chant

I am consciously aware of my sinful nature

I am a great listener

I am a priest a husband and father of four adult children I am a grandpa affectionately called ldquoPapardquo

I long to remain in the presence of God

I like to celebrate

I donrsquot have to act in a cultural manner to define my African

American identity

I am a crosscultural man I think about my death about once a week

I think about my life and want to do the things that matter

I love to laugh yet I cry easily

I love poetry especially S Eliot and Garrison Keillor

I love coffee

I question myself all the time

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I have never sensed the condemnation of God

I donrsquot think about former accomplishments as much as my failures I believe in justice

I have stood in lines in Ethiopia with the hungry and the poor

I have traveled to eastern Africa during the time of genocide

war and famine

I minister in one of the wealthiest communities in the United States

I have learned that the rich in resources can also be poor in spirit I embrace the Scriptures and see them as a guidepost for life

I have struggled to accept the diagnosis of a disease and tried to

cover it up

I love the Father Son and Holy Spirit

I love the Eucharist

I embrace another personrsquos heart whatever their religious practice I believe evil will be overcome

I love to see the sunset

I take time to look in the eyes of others to get a glimpse of their heart

I like to raid the cookie jar in the middle of the night

I love theological discussions

I am loved

I am loving

I am Glandion

I have Parkinsonrsquos

I am learning to walk in grace

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The Grace of Acceptance

IT HAPPENED SO FASTmdashmy body wouldnrsquot cooperate with

my mind Never had I struggled with such simple things Iseemed to be all thumbs as I put on my clerical collar It wouldnrsquot go on straight no matter what I did My jacket gotstuck halfway on it felt like a straightjacket binding my armsand preventing me from moving correctly What was going on

Why was I suddenly so clumsy

It was 1048626104862410486241048632 and I was leading a pastorsrsquo conference in KigaliRwanda walking men from many countries through steps ofmeditation reflection and communion with God During mytrip to Africa I had become increasingly tired more so than Ihad ever been in the past Te work was grueling and the hours

were long but I had done this before and it had never bothered

me It felt like my thoughts were being stolen from my mind I

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would begin a sentence and then midway I would not know

where the thought was goingMy good friend William Wilson had gone along to minister

with me A former rappist monk he was now an Anglicanpriest like me William noticed how sluggish and stiff my move-ments were becoming At his encouragement I decided to go tothe doctor for a physical when we got home It seemed logical

that I had picked up a virus or other illness while travelingMy physician did his usual examination but then asked me

to do simple movements like walk a few steps and bend at the waist He inspected my arms knees and legs and tested my re-flexes He shined a light in my eyes and then said simply ldquoYouhave Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquo

Stunned I questioned him ldquoHow do you know How can you say lsquoYou have Parkinsonrsquosrsquo when yoursquove done no test orbloodwork to determine this diagnosisrdquo

He looked me straight in the eyes and responded ldquoYou arenot smiling like you used to and your face looks frozen in afrown Your movements are difficult Your joints are in pain All

this points to Parkinsonrsquos You can get a second opinion from aneurologist but he will tell you the same thingrdquo

Words escaped me I felt nothing I was empty Numb Tere was no brilliant logic to apply Tere were no prayers to

pray Tere was no believing or trusting in God for the future ofmy life in general or my ministry All was blank as if erased I

walked out of his office in a fog When I got to my car I wept

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like a baby leaning on the steering wheel for support I called

my wife and told her ldquoTe doctor says I have ParkinsonrsquosrdquoMarion dropped what she was doing at work and came home

to sit with me in silence Tatrsquos when feeling nothing moved todarkness and hopelessness Like Job and his friend in Scripture

we sat in the ash heap of despairAt that point I couldnrsquot see any applications of grace No

Bible verses immediately came to mind to soothe my dark andforeboding spirit Te words ldquoyou have Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquoplayed over and over in my mind like a record stuck on a trackI felt sabotaged ears of hurt grief and fear fell unceasingly Icouldnrsquot stop them if I tried

Many saints through the centuries have referred to tears as a gift

Te ldquogift of tearsrdquo written about by the desert elders andseveral centuries later by St Ignatius of Loyola are notabout finding meaning in our pain and suffering Tey donot give answers but instead call us to a deep attentivenessto the longings of our heart Tey continue to flow until wedrop our masks and self-deception and return to the sourceof our lives and longing Tey are a sign that we havecrossed a threshold into a profound sense of humility1

I couldnrsquot come up with any longing in my heart except forthis new diagnosis to be recalled It was easier to deceivemyself with the drug of denial than to begin the hard work of

acceptance

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A DIFFERENT DIRECTION

Te physician recommended I seek physical therapy He re-minded me this disease would take its toll over time to slow theprocess I needed to change my lifestyle Get more rest Exercisemore Start medication Eat well It was all so overwhelming

When I got up the courage I made an appointment with thephysical therapist I walked into the rehab hospital not knowing

what to expect I was blown away Hunchbacked patientsshaking violently were straining to remain balanced while they

walked Most were suffering with the visible effects of Lou Geh-rigrsquos disease multiple sclerosis or Parkinsonrsquos So many diseasesand disabilities were representedmdashyou name it and they had itI saw myself in them and I was scared

When the therapist called my name I jerked to attentionInstead of following him into the therapy session I ran out ofthe waiting room in tears I left and did not go back for a year Ihave never confessed this to anyone before now

Tis was not supposed to be my journey How could I face itI had no direction or sense of destination I didnrsquot even have

a compass Te nothingness I had felt earlier turned into a darkshadow of gray with shades of anger I was on a journey with noend in sight not one I wanted anyway Severe difficulties hadsuddenly been thrust on me and they hovered over my head likedarkening clouds in a storm Questions tormented me Will Idie Where is God in the midst of this Where is my courage

I went to see a neurologist who was also a member of our

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church After he confirmed the diagnosis he explained that Par-

kinsonrsquos is a disorder of the brain that leads to shaking and dif-ficulty with walking movement and coordination and it con-tinues to get worse Seeing the immediate tears in my eyes hecame to my side took me by the hand and said ldquoJust prayGlandion God will show you the wayrdquo

Even after two doctors confirmed the diagnosis it took me

twelve months to accept it During that year I concealed mydifficulties Even though my wife studied to learn more aboutthe disease I refused to do so I hid out like a fugitive I deniedeverything I foolishly thought that if I didnrsquot acknowledge thesymptoms they would just go away

One Sunday morning I was shaving in preparation for church

when I heard these words in my heart ldquoGlandion you donrsquottrust me You say you do but you donrsquot You masquerade andcover up your weaknesses You hide because you will not accept

what I have allowedrdquoIt was Jesus speaking to my heart at the deepest level It

wasnrsquot a harsh rebuke it was a gentle voice asking me to admit

my weakness and come to the truth Tat morning I stood before my congregation as associate

pastor and spoke these words ldquoAs your priest today I need tomake a confession I have Parkinsonrsquos disease I have been cov-ering up my weakness and I need to share it openly Irsquom tryingto accept it as a grace I hope you will pray for merdquo

Many came up afterward to speak to me ldquoMy weakness is

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drug addictionrdquo ldquoMy weakness is pornographyrdquo ldquoMy weakness

is controlling othersrdquo ldquoMy weakness is alcoholismrdquo We wepttogether held by a powerful cord of acceptance and confession

Te spiritual director in me wanted to sit down with each ofthem over a cup of coffee to validate their experiences of in-tegrity honesty and true confession You see my conviction isthat we donrsquot walk alone on the path of faith We explore it

together learning about grace trials and new beginnings Wemay have different paths on the journey but we all end at thesame destinationmdashthe discovery of Godrsquos faithfulness in

whatever we faceBut how could I express this truth to them when I had not

experienced it myself I admitted my weakness and began to

accept it Now I had to act on it It was the first step to healingand freedom Tere would be many others

A year after I initially visited that rehab hospital I returnedfor physical therapy Tis time I knew what to expect and I wasready to do the work Now what I noticed in the other tor-mented bodies was not their dysfunction but their eyes Teir

eyes conveyed hope courage and a will to overcome Te graceof acceptance allowed me to see them in a different light In-stead of running away from these fellow sufferers I was moti-

vated to join them And I was moved to offer up deep prayer forthem as a sign of accepting our common experience

Another turning point in this journey of acceptance was

the night my wife and I ate dinner at the home of my co-

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author Marjean Brooks and her husband Ricky After dinner

they shared a video with us saying it reminded them ofMarion and me In the video a man was sleeping on thecouch His wife talked excitedly about a new home im-provement tool as she walked up to the camera drawing us inShe guaranteed results and encouraged all viewers to watchher demonstrate Marion was getting interested She needed

some things done around the house and had been trying tomotivate me to do them

As the woman on the video spoke she rolled up a catalog inher hands When she finished her spiel she walked over to herreclining husband whacked his backside with the catalog and

yelled ldquoGet yorsquo butt uprdquo

Marion and I laughed hard at that unexpected ending In factthat line has been a standing joke with us ever since AfterwardI felt as if I had been prompted ldquoOkay Glandion when are you going to lsquoget yorsquo butt uprsquo and work on your liferdquo

Like the main character Much Afraid in the classic allegoryHindsrsquo Feet on High Places by Hannah Hurnard I glimpsed the

journey with all its peaks valleys and shadows Just as MuchAfraid took the hands of her companions Sorrow and SufferingI took the first step of acceptance Without realizing it I hadbeen blocking grace by refusing to be humbled Now I made thechoice to embrace a different way to live and a fresh power tolove through Godrsquos empowering grace I had no idea what lay

ahead But I was ready

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BEGINNING THE JOURNEY

In the course of Much Afraidrsquos journey to the High Places shefaced tremendous difficulties After each mountain was scaledor each terror was over she would put a small stone in the poucharound her waist Tey became trophies of grace remembrancesof all that the Shepherd had brought her through In the endthey were turned into beautiful jewels placed in a crown for her

to wearI havenrsquot picked up stones along my journey Instead God has

shown me many different aspects of grace that have spurred meon my way I have carried them until I am used to their weightin my backpack Tey once seemed heavy but now they are

weightless Tey are so much a part of me that I could not live

without them Godrsquos grace has been manifested to me in beau-tiful yet challenging ways He gives this kind of grace to all ofusmdashif we learn to recognize accept and embrace it to live vic-toriously in this world

eresa of Aacutevila a sixteenth-century Spanish mystic philos-opher and Catholic saint described the journey through dif-

ferent graces in her book Te Interior Castle

Let us imagine that there are many rooms in this castleof which some are above some below others at the sidein the centre in the very midst of them all is the principalchamber in which God and the soul hold their most secret

intercourse Tink over this comparison very carefully

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God grant it may enlighten you about the different kinds

of graces He is pleased to bestow upon the soul No onecan know all about them much less a person so ignorantas I am Te knowledge that such things are possible willconsole you greatly should our Lord ever grant you any ofthese favours2

As I began to look differently at my circumstances I wantedGod to show me all the rooms in my castle I especially wantedto see the principal chamber where he and I could hold the mostsecret intercourse And I was anxious to be enlightened aboutthe grace he would bestow

JESUS F ULL OF GRACE AND TRUTH

On this journey into grace I was led to see Jesus as one whoboth gave and modeled grace in his earthly life It started withhis acceptance to come to this world Philippians 10486261048630-1048632 speaksof his willingness to be humbled and to empty himself of therights of heaven in order to take his assignment on earth Chris

iegreen has explained this truth by writing ldquoJesus went fromheavenly riches to earthly rags from exaltation to humiliationfrom authority to obedience from ultimate significance to ul-timate rejection from comfort to hardship from safety to dangerfrom glory to sacrifice and from life to death And he calls us togo into the world in exactly the same way rdquo3

Jesusrsquo acceptance and obedience brought about the saving

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grace of God Grace is simply Godrsquos unmerited favor In other

words he gives us what we donrsquot deserve (grace) and doesnrsquot giveus what we do deserve (judgment) because of Jesusrsquo death on thecross But itrsquos more intimate than that Grace is Godrsquos blessingoverflowing into our lives o experience Godrsquos grace is to opengift upon gift of comfort companionship and empowerment Inhis grace God saves us strengthens us and sanctifies us He

freely offers us the gift of grace but we must accept it We celebrate grace and thank God for the liberating power

that comes to us through it But it doesnrsquot stop theremdashthere areother aspects of grace God longs to show us Te foreword tothe participantrsquos guide of Max Lucadorsquos book Grace reads ldquoWeknow grace as a noun but Max tells us to think of grace as a verb

It is an action Itrsquos not enough to read about grace we mustexperience itrdquo4

When he came to earth Jesus was ldquofull of grace and truthrdquo(John 104862510486251048628) And if we as believers have accepted him into ourlives then ldquofrom his fullness we have all received grace upongracerdquo (John 104862510486251048630) If Jesus is full of grace and truth and he is

in us then we too can experience lives full of grace and truth What a privilege

Te ldquoway of gracerdquo is the phrase I have used to describe the journey Whether we embark on this road is up to us It can bethe chosen path or a rejected course God offers it freely andopenly He will not force it on us

God issues an invitation to venture to a new land It is much

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like the children of Israel journeying to the Promised Land

Tere are dangers and giants in this foreign country but thereare also mysteries to be revealed and provisions along the waythat only God can give Te invitation is to cross over into theland of grace Te question is Will we go

THE GRACE OF A CCEPTANCE

Tis book is simply a recounting of the grace God has workedin my life Each chapter will highlight a different dimensionof grace much like the facets of a diamond My prayer is thatas you read you will find a new way to see the grace that isbeing offered in your own life whatever your place of difficultymay be

We start with the grace of acceptance (chapter one) for it wasthe first step of many in letting go of the control I thought I hadFor me it became a three-step process of acceptance submissionand relinquishment (continued in chapters two and three) Tegrace of acceptance is not a new concept but one that must beexperienced before moving on Godrsquos coming alongside to

extend grace not just once but every day humbles me as hepours out grace upon grace Acceptance is simply this I receiveGodrsquos invitation or offer and willingly embrace what he gives Icome to terms with the fact that I donrsquot have all the answers Iaccept his gift of grace even when it comes alongside illness

weakness or death I move from a place of depression self-pity

and denial into the grace of acceptance

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Tis is what I might have become had I not experienced this

gracebull an alcoholic abusing a substance in order to find peace

bull a bad husband seeking mental and emotional health fromothers while neglecting my wife

bull a disbelieving priest all the while acting out the role of a life

lived in faithAcceptance changed everything

bull Instead of thinking about death I began to embrace life

bull Instead of ignoring people who were handicapped I prayedfor them

bull

When I needed help I asked for it even from strangersbull Instead of hiding I tried to live openly and honestly about

my condition

bull Even though I still had tears I welcomed laughter

bull Instead of being afraid to open up to others I relished deephonest relationships

It was revolutionaryGrace enlarges the capacity of our heart It allows us to be

guided into truth It gives us courage to accept and a reason tocelebrate and opens our eyes to glimpse wonders from God Tefoundation for experiencing this unique call is the knowledge

that we are saved by grace live by grace and are filled with grace

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if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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he Grace of Hope

983089983088 Streams of Grace 983089983091983093 he Grace of Living a New Way

Acknowledgments 983089983092983095

Notes 9830899830921048633About the Authors 983089983093983091

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I am Glandion

I am a contemplative

I embrace the life and role of the Holy Spirit

I love a good wine

I love fellowship and friendships

I am a deep caring person

I am a worrier and a burden bearer I take time to notice

I am soft-spoken yet strong in spirit

I love jazz as well as the Gregorian chant

I am consciously aware of my sinful nature

I am a great listener

I am a priest a husband and father of four adult children I am a grandpa affectionately called ldquoPapardquo

I long to remain in the presence of God

I like to celebrate

I donrsquot have to act in a cultural manner to define my African

American identity

I am a crosscultural man I think about my death about once a week

I think about my life and want to do the things that matter

I love to laugh yet I cry easily

I love poetry especially S Eliot and Garrison Keillor

I love coffee

I question myself all the time

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I have never sensed the condemnation of God

I donrsquot think about former accomplishments as much as my failures I believe in justice

I have stood in lines in Ethiopia with the hungry and the poor

I have traveled to eastern Africa during the time of genocide

war and famine

I minister in one of the wealthiest communities in the United States

I have learned that the rich in resources can also be poor in spirit I embrace the Scriptures and see them as a guidepost for life

I have struggled to accept the diagnosis of a disease and tried to

cover it up

I love the Father Son and Holy Spirit

I love the Eucharist

I embrace another personrsquos heart whatever their religious practice I believe evil will be overcome

I love to see the sunset

I take time to look in the eyes of others to get a glimpse of their heart

I like to raid the cookie jar in the middle of the night

I love theological discussions

I am loved

I am loving

I am Glandion

I have Parkinsonrsquos

I am learning to walk in grace

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The Grace of Acceptance

IT HAPPENED SO FASTmdashmy body wouldnrsquot cooperate with

my mind Never had I struggled with such simple things Iseemed to be all thumbs as I put on my clerical collar It wouldnrsquot go on straight no matter what I did My jacket gotstuck halfway on it felt like a straightjacket binding my armsand preventing me from moving correctly What was going on

Why was I suddenly so clumsy

It was 1048626104862410486241048632 and I was leading a pastorsrsquo conference in KigaliRwanda walking men from many countries through steps ofmeditation reflection and communion with God During mytrip to Africa I had become increasingly tired more so than Ihad ever been in the past Te work was grueling and the hours

were long but I had done this before and it had never bothered

me It felt like my thoughts were being stolen from my mind I

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would begin a sentence and then midway I would not know

where the thought was goingMy good friend William Wilson had gone along to minister

with me A former rappist monk he was now an Anglicanpriest like me William noticed how sluggish and stiff my move-ments were becoming At his encouragement I decided to go tothe doctor for a physical when we got home It seemed logical

that I had picked up a virus or other illness while travelingMy physician did his usual examination but then asked me

to do simple movements like walk a few steps and bend at the waist He inspected my arms knees and legs and tested my re-flexes He shined a light in my eyes and then said simply ldquoYouhave Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquo

Stunned I questioned him ldquoHow do you know How can you say lsquoYou have Parkinsonrsquosrsquo when yoursquove done no test orbloodwork to determine this diagnosisrdquo

He looked me straight in the eyes and responded ldquoYou arenot smiling like you used to and your face looks frozen in afrown Your movements are difficult Your joints are in pain All

this points to Parkinsonrsquos You can get a second opinion from aneurologist but he will tell you the same thingrdquo

Words escaped me I felt nothing I was empty Numb Tere was no brilliant logic to apply Tere were no prayers to

pray Tere was no believing or trusting in God for the future ofmy life in general or my ministry All was blank as if erased I

walked out of his office in a fog When I got to my car I wept

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like a baby leaning on the steering wheel for support I called

my wife and told her ldquoTe doctor says I have ParkinsonrsquosrdquoMarion dropped what she was doing at work and came home

to sit with me in silence Tatrsquos when feeling nothing moved todarkness and hopelessness Like Job and his friend in Scripture

we sat in the ash heap of despairAt that point I couldnrsquot see any applications of grace No

Bible verses immediately came to mind to soothe my dark andforeboding spirit Te words ldquoyou have Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquoplayed over and over in my mind like a record stuck on a trackI felt sabotaged ears of hurt grief and fear fell unceasingly Icouldnrsquot stop them if I tried

Many saints through the centuries have referred to tears as a gift

Te ldquogift of tearsrdquo written about by the desert elders andseveral centuries later by St Ignatius of Loyola are notabout finding meaning in our pain and suffering Tey donot give answers but instead call us to a deep attentivenessto the longings of our heart Tey continue to flow until wedrop our masks and self-deception and return to the sourceof our lives and longing Tey are a sign that we havecrossed a threshold into a profound sense of humility1

I couldnrsquot come up with any longing in my heart except forthis new diagnosis to be recalled It was easier to deceivemyself with the drug of denial than to begin the hard work of

acceptance

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A DIFFERENT DIRECTION

Te physician recommended I seek physical therapy He re-minded me this disease would take its toll over time to slow theprocess I needed to change my lifestyle Get more rest Exercisemore Start medication Eat well It was all so overwhelming

When I got up the courage I made an appointment with thephysical therapist I walked into the rehab hospital not knowing

what to expect I was blown away Hunchbacked patientsshaking violently were straining to remain balanced while they

walked Most were suffering with the visible effects of Lou Geh-rigrsquos disease multiple sclerosis or Parkinsonrsquos So many diseasesand disabilities were representedmdashyou name it and they had itI saw myself in them and I was scared

When the therapist called my name I jerked to attentionInstead of following him into the therapy session I ran out ofthe waiting room in tears I left and did not go back for a year Ihave never confessed this to anyone before now

Tis was not supposed to be my journey How could I face itI had no direction or sense of destination I didnrsquot even have

a compass Te nothingness I had felt earlier turned into a darkshadow of gray with shades of anger I was on a journey with noend in sight not one I wanted anyway Severe difficulties hadsuddenly been thrust on me and they hovered over my head likedarkening clouds in a storm Questions tormented me Will Idie Where is God in the midst of this Where is my courage

I went to see a neurologist who was also a member of our

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church After he confirmed the diagnosis he explained that Par-

kinsonrsquos is a disorder of the brain that leads to shaking and dif-ficulty with walking movement and coordination and it con-tinues to get worse Seeing the immediate tears in my eyes hecame to my side took me by the hand and said ldquoJust prayGlandion God will show you the wayrdquo

Even after two doctors confirmed the diagnosis it took me

twelve months to accept it During that year I concealed mydifficulties Even though my wife studied to learn more aboutthe disease I refused to do so I hid out like a fugitive I deniedeverything I foolishly thought that if I didnrsquot acknowledge thesymptoms they would just go away

One Sunday morning I was shaving in preparation for church

when I heard these words in my heart ldquoGlandion you donrsquottrust me You say you do but you donrsquot You masquerade andcover up your weaknesses You hide because you will not accept

what I have allowedrdquoIt was Jesus speaking to my heart at the deepest level It

wasnrsquot a harsh rebuke it was a gentle voice asking me to admit

my weakness and come to the truth Tat morning I stood before my congregation as associate

pastor and spoke these words ldquoAs your priest today I need tomake a confession I have Parkinsonrsquos disease I have been cov-ering up my weakness and I need to share it openly Irsquom tryingto accept it as a grace I hope you will pray for merdquo

Many came up afterward to speak to me ldquoMy weakness is

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drug addictionrdquo ldquoMy weakness is pornographyrdquo ldquoMy weakness

is controlling othersrdquo ldquoMy weakness is alcoholismrdquo We wepttogether held by a powerful cord of acceptance and confession

Te spiritual director in me wanted to sit down with each ofthem over a cup of coffee to validate their experiences of in-tegrity honesty and true confession You see my conviction isthat we donrsquot walk alone on the path of faith We explore it

together learning about grace trials and new beginnings Wemay have different paths on the journey but we all end at thesame destinationmdashthe discovery of Godrsquos faithfulness in

whatever we faceBut how could I express this truth to them when I had not

experienced it myself I admitted my weakness and began to

accept it Now I had to act on it It was the first step to healingand freedom Tere would be many others

A year after I initially visited that rehab hospital I returnedfor physical therapy Tis time I knew what to expect and I wasready to do the work Now what I noticed in the other tor-mented bodies was not their dysfunction but their eyes Teir

eyes conveyed hope courage and a will to overcome Te graceof acceptance allowed me to see them in a different light In-stead of running away from these fellow sufferers I was moti-

vated to join them And I was moved to offer up deep prayer forthem as a sign of accepting our common experience

Another turning point in this journey of acceptance was

the night my wife and I ate dinner at the home of my co-

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author Marjean Brooks and her husband Ricky After dinner

they shared a video with us saying it reminded them ofMarion and me In the video a man was sleeping on thecouch His wife talked excitedly about a new home im-provement tool as she walked up to the camera drawing us inShe guaranteed results and encouraged all viewers to watchher demonstrate Marion was getting interested She needed

some things done around the house and had been trying tomotivate me to do them

As the woman on the video spoke she rolled up a catalog inher hands When she finished her spiel she walked over to herreclining husband whacked his backside with the catalog and

yelled ldquoGet yorsquo butt uprdquo

Marion and I laughed hard at that unexpected ending In factthat line has been a standing joke with us ever since AfterwardI felt as if I had been prompted ldquoOkay Glandion when are you going to lsquoget yorsquo butt uprsquo and work on your liferdquo

Like the main character Much Afraid in the classic allegoryHindsrsquo Feet on High Places by Hannah Hurnard I glimpsed the

journey with all its peaks valleys and shadows Just as MuchAfraid took the hands of her companions Sorrow and SufferingI took the first step of acceptance Without realizing it I hadbeen blocking grace by refusing to be humbled Now I made thechoice to embrace a different way to live and a fresh power tolove through Godrsquos empowering grace I had no idea what lay

ahead But I was ready

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BEGINNING THE JOURNEY

In the course of Much Afraidrsquos journey to the High Places shefaced tremendous difficulties After each mountain was scaledor each terror was over she would put a small stone in the poucharound her waist Tey became trophies of grace remembrancesof all that the Shepherd had brought her through In the endthey were turned into beautiful jewels placed in a crown for her

to wearI havenrsquot picked up stones along my journey Instead God has

shown me many different aspects of grace that have spurred meon my way I have carried them until I am used to their weightin my backpack Tey once seemed heavy but now they are

weightless Tey are so much a part of me that I could not live

without them Godrsquos grace has been manifested to me in beau-tiful yet challenging ways He gives this kind of grace to all ofusmdashif we learn to recognize accept and embrace it to live vic-toriously in this world

eresa of Aacutevila a sixteenth-century Spanish mystic philos-opher and Catholic saint described the journey through dif-

ferent graces in her book Te Interior Castle

Let us imagine that there are many rooms in this castleof which some are above some below others at the sidein the centre in the very midst of them all is the principalchamber in which God and the soul hold their most secret

intercourse Tink over this comparison very carefully

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God grant it may enlighten you about the different kinds

of graces He is pleased to bestow upon the soul No onecan know all about them much less a person so ignorantas I am Te knowledge that such things are possible willconsole you greatly should our Lord ever grant you any ofthese favours2

As I began to look differently at my circumstances I wantedGod to show me all the rooms in my castle I especially wantedto see the principal chamber where he and I could hold the mostsecret intercourse And I was anxious to be enlightened aboutthe grace he would bestow

JESUS F ULL OF GRACE AND TRUTH

On this journey into grace I was led to see Jesus as one whoboth gave and modeled grace in his earthly life It started withhis acceptance to come to this world Philippians 10486261048630-1048632 speaksof his willingness to be humbled and to empty himself of therights of heaven in order to take his assignment on earth Chris

iegreen has explained this truth by writing ldquoJesus went fromheavenly riches to earthly rags from exaltation to humiliationfrom authority to obedience from ultimate significance to ul-timate rejection from comfort to hardship from safety to dangerfrom glory to sacrifice and from life to death And he calls us togo into the world in exactly the same way rdquo3

Jesusrsquo acceptance and obedience brought about the saving

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grace of God Grace is simply Godrsquos unmerited favor In other

words he gives us what we donrsquot deserve (grace) and doesnrsquot giveus what we do deserve (judgment) because of Jesusrsquo death on thecross But itrsquos more intimate than that Grace is Godrsquos blessingoverflowing into our lives o experience Godrsquos grace is to opengift upon gift of comfort companionship and empowerment Inhis grace God saves us strengthens us and sanctifies us He

freely offers us the gift of grace but we must accept it We celebrate grace and thank God for the liberating power

that comes to us through it But it doesnrsquot stop theremdashthere areother aspects of grace God longs to show us Te foreword tothe participantrsquos guide of Max Lucadorsquos book Grace reads ldquoWeknow grace as a noun but Max tells us to think of grace as a verb

It is an action Itrsquos not enough to read about grace we mustexperience itrdquo4

When he came to earth Jesus was ldquofull of grace and truthrdquo(John 104862510486251048628) And if we as believers have accepted him into ourlives then ldquofrom his fullness we have all received grace upongracerdquo (John 104862510486251048630) If Jesus is full of grace and truth and he is

in us then we too can experience lives full of grace and truth What a privilege

Te ldquoway of gracerdquo is the phrase I have used to describe the journey Whether we embark on this road is up to us It can bethe chosen path or a rejected course God offers it freely andopenly He will not force it on us

God issues an invitation to venture to a new land It is much

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like the children of Israel journeying to the Promised Land

Tere are dangers and giants in this foreign country but thereare also mysteries to be revealed and provisions along the waythat only God can give Te invitation is to cross over into theland of grace Te question is Will we go

THE GRACE OF A CCEPTANCE

Tis book is simply a recounting of the grace God has workedin my life Each chapter will highlight a different dimensionof grace much like the facets of a diamond My prayer is thatas you read you will find a new way to see the grace that isbeing offered in your own life whatever your place of difficultymay be

We start with the grace of acceptance (chapter one) for it wasthe first step of many in letting go of the control I thought I hadFor me it became a three-step process of acceptance submissionand relinquishment (continued in chapters two and three) Tegrace of acceptance is not a new concept but one that must beexperienced before moving on Godrsquos coming alongside to

extend grace not just once but every day humbles me as hepours out grace upon grace Acceptance is simply this I receiveGodrsquos invitation or offer and willingly embrace what he gives Icome to terms with the fact that I donrsquot have all the answers Iaccept his gift of grace even when it comes alongside illness

weakness or death I move from a place of depression self-pity

and denial into the grace of acceptance

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Tis is what I might have become had I not experienced this

gracebull an alcoholic abusing a substance in order to find peace

bull a bad husband seeking mental and emotional health fromothers while neglecting my wife

bull a disbelieving priest all the while acting out the role of a life

lived in faithAcceptance changed everything

bull Instead of thinking about death I began to embrace life

bull Instead of ignoring people who were handicapped I prayedfor them

bull

When I needed help I asked for it even from strangersbull Instead of hiding I tried to live openly and honestly about

my condition

bull Even though I still had tears I welcomed laughter

bull Instead of being afraid to open up to others I relished deephonest relationships

It was revolutionaryGrace enlarges the capacity of our heart It allows us to be

guided into truth It gives us courage to accept and a reason tocelebrate and opens our eyes to glimpse wonders from God Tefoundation for experiencing this unique call is the knowledge

that we are saved by grace live by grace and are filled with grace

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if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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I am Glandion

I am a contemplative

I embrace the life and role of the Holy Spirit

I love a good wine

I love fellowship and friendships

I am a deep caring person

I am a worrier and a burden bearer I take time to notice

I am soft-spoken yet strong in spirit

I love jazz as well as the Gregorian chant

I am consciously aware of my sinful nature

I am a great listener

I am a priest a husband and father of four adult children I am a grandpa affectionately called ldquoPapardquo

I long to remain in the presence of God

I like to celebrate

I donrsquot have to act in a cultural manner to define my African

American identity

I am a crosscultural man I think about my death about once a week

I think about my life and want to do the things that matter

I love to laugh yet I cry easily

I love poetry especially S Eliot and Garrison Keillor

I love coffee

I question myself all the time

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I have never sensed the condemnation of God

I donrsquot think about former accomplishments as much as my failures I believe in justice

I have stood in lines in Ethiopia with the hungry and the poor

I have traveled to eastern Africa during the time of genocide

war and famine

I minister in one of the wealthiest communities in the United States

I have learned that the rich in resources can also be poor in spirit I embrace the Scriptures and see them as a guidepost for life

I have struggled to accept the diagnosis of a disease and tried to

cover it up

I love the Father Son and Holy Spirit

I love the Eucharist

I embrace another personrsquos heart whatever their religious practice I believe evil will be overcome

I love to see the sunset

I take time to look in the eyes of others to get a glimpse of their heart

I like to raid the cookie jar in the middle of the night

I love theological discussions

I am loved

I am loving

I am Glandion

I have Parkinsonrsquos

I am learning to walk in grace

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The Grace of Acceptance

IT HAPPENED SO FASTmdashmy body wouldnrsquot cooperate with

my mind Never had I struggled with such simple things Iseemed to be all thumbs as I put on my clerical collar It wouldnrsquot go on straight no matter what I did My jacket gotstuck halfway on it felt like a straightjacket binding my armsand preventing me from moving correctly What was going on

Why was I suddenly so clumsy

It was 1048626104862410486241048632 and I was leading a pastorsrsquo conference in KigaliRwanda walking men from many countries through steps ofmeditation reflection and communion with God During mytrip to Africa I had become increasingly tired more so than Ihad ever been in the past Te work was grueling and the hours

were long but I had done this before and it had never bothered

me It felt like my thoughts were being stolen from my mind I

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would begin a sentence and then midway I would not know

where the thought was goingMy good friend William Wilson had gone along to minister

with me A former rappist monk he was now an Anglicanpriest like me William noticed how sluggish and stiff my move-ments were becoming At his encouragement I decided to go tothe doctor for a physical when we got home It seemed logical

that I had picked up a virus or other illness while travelingMy physician did his usual examination but then asked me

to do simple movements like walk a few steps and bend at the waist He inspected my arms knees and legs and tested my re-flexes He shined a light in my eyes and then said simply ldquoYouhave Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquo

Stunned I questioned him ldquoHow do you know How can you say lsquoYou have Parkinsonrsquosrsquo when yoursquove done no test orbloodwork to determine this diagnosisrdquo

He looked me straight in the eyes and responded ldquoYou arenot smiling like you used to and your face looks frozen in afrown Your movements are difficult Your joints are in pain All

this points to Parkinsonrsquos You can get a second opinion from aneurologist but he will tell you the same thingrdquo

Words escaped me I felt nothing I was empty Numb Tere was no brilliant logic to apply Tere were no prayers to

pray Tere was no believing or trusting in God for the future ofmy life in general or my ministry All was blank as if erased I

walked out of his office in a fog When I got to my car I wept

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like a baby leaning on the steering wheel for support I called

my wife and told her ldquoTe doctor says I have ParkinsonrsquosrdquoMarion dropped what she was doing at work and came home

to sit with me in silence Tatrsquos when feeling nothing moved todarkness and hopelessness Like Job and his friend in Scripture

we sat in the ash heap of despairAt that point I couldnrsquot see any applications of grace No

Bible verses immediately came to mind to soothe my dark andforeboding spirit Te words ldquoyou have Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquoplayed over and over in my mind like a record stuck on a trackI felt sabotaged ears of hurt grief and fear fell unceasingly Icouldnrsquot stop them if I tried

Many saints through the centuries have referred to tears as a gift

Te ldquogift of tearsrdquo written about by the desert elders andseveral centuries later by St Ignatius of Loyola are notabout finding meaning in our pain and suffering Tey donot give answers but instead call us to a deep attentivenessto the longings of our heart Tey continue to flow until wedrop our masks and self-deception and return to the sourceof our lives and longing Tey are a sign that we havecrossed a threshold into a profound sense of humility1

I couldnrsquot come up with any longing in my heart except forthis new diagnosis to be recalled It was easier to deceivemyself with the drug of denial than to begin the hard work of

acceptance

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A DIFFERENT DIRECTION

Te physician recommended I seek physical therapy He re-minded me this disease would take its toll over time to slow theprocess I needed to change my lifestyle Get more rest Exercisemore Start medication Eat well It was all so overwhelming

When I got up the courage I made an appointment with thephysical therapist I walked into the rehab hospital not knowing

what to expect I was blown away Hunchbacked patientsshaking violently were straining to remain balanced while they

walked Most were suffering with the visible effects of Lou Geh-rigrsquos disease multiple sclerosis or Parkinsonrsquos So many diseasesand disabilities were representedmdashyou name it and they had itI saw myself in them and I was scared

When the therapist called my name I jerked to attentionInstead of following him into the therapy session I ran out ofthe waiting room in tears I left and did not go back for a year Ihave never confessed this to anyone before now

Tis was not supposed to be my journey How could I face itI had no direction or sense of destination I didnrsquot even have

a compass Te nothingness I had felt earlier turned into a darkshadow of gray with shades of anger I was on a journey with noend in sight not one I wanted anyway Severe difficulties hadsuddenly been thrust on me and they hovered over my head likedarkening clouds in a storm Questions tormented me Will Idie Where is God in the midst of this Where is my courage

I went to see a neurologist who was also a member of our

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church After he confirmed the diagnosis he explained that Par-

kinsonrsquos is a disorder of the brain that leads to shaking and dif-ficulty with walking movement and coordination and it con-tinues to get worse Seeing the immediate tears in my eyes hecame to my side took me by the hand and said ldquoJust prayGlandion God will show you the wayrdquo

Even after two doctors confirmed the diagnosis it took me

twelve months to accept it During that year I concealed mydifficulties Even though my wife studied to learn more aboutthe disease I refused to do so I hid out like a fugitive I deniedeverything I foolishly thought that if I didnrsquot acknowledge thesymptoms they would just go away

One Sunday morning I was shaving in preparation for church

when I heard these words in my heart ldquoGlandion you donrsquottrust me You say you do but you donrsquot You masquerade andcover up your weaknesses You hide because you will not accept

what I have allowedrdquoIt was Jesus speaking to my heart at the deepest level It

wasnrsquot a harsh rebuke it was a gentle voice asking me to admit

my weakness and come to the truth Tat morning I stood before my congregation as associate

pastor and spoke these words ldquoAs your priest today I need tomake a confession I have Parkinsonrsquos disease I have been cov-ering up my weakness and I need to share it openly Irsquom tryingto accept it as a grace I hope you will pray for merdquo

Many came up afterward to speak to me ldquoMy weakness is

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drug addictionrdquo ldquoMy weakness is pornographyrdquo ldquoMy weakness

is controlling othersrdquo ldquoMy weakness is alcoholismrdquo We wepttogether held by a powerful cord of acceptance and confession

Te spiritual director in me wanted to sit down with each ofthem over a cup of coffee to validate their experiences of in-tegrity honesty and true confession You see my conviction isthat we donrsquot walk alone on the path of faith We explore it

together learning about grace trials and new beginnings Wemay have different paths on the journey but we all end at thesame destinationmdashthe discovery of Godrsquos faithfulness in

whatever we faceBut how could I express this truth to them when I had not

experienced it myself I admitted my weakness and began to

accept it Now I had to act on it It was the first step to healingand freedom Tere would be many others

A year after I initially visited that rehab hospital I returnedfor physical therapy Tis time I knew what to expect and I wasready to do the work Now what I noticed in the other tor-mented bodies was not their dysfunction but their eyes Teir

eyes conveyed hope courage and a will to overcome Te graceof acceptance allowed me to see them in a different light In-stead of running away from these fellow sufferers I was moti-

vated to join them And I was moved to offer up deep prayer forthem as a sign of accepting our common experience

Another turning point in this journey of acceptance was

the night my wife and I ate dinner at the home of my co-

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author Marjean Brooks and her husband Ricky After dinner

they shared a video with us saying it reminded them ofMarion and me In the video a man was sleeping on thecouch His wife talked excitedly about a new home im-provement tool as she walked up to the camera drawing us inShe guaranteed results and encouraged all viewers to watchher demonstrate Marion was getting interested She needed

some things done around the house and had been trying tomotivate me to do them

As the woman on the video spoke she rolled up a catalog inher hands When she finished her spiel she walked over to herreclining husband whacked his backside with the catalog and

yelled ldquoGet yorsquo butt uprdquo

Marion and I laughed hard at that unexpected ending In factthat line has been a standing joke with us ever since AfterwardI felt as if I had been prompted ldquoOkay Glandion when are you going to lsquoget yorsquo butt uprsquo and work on your liferdquo

Like the main character Much Afraid in the classic allegoryHindsrsquo Feet on High Places by Hannah Hurnard I glimpsed the

journey with all its peaks valleys and shadows Just as MuchAfraid took the hands of her companions Sorrow and SufferingI took the first step of acceptance Without realizing it I hadbeen blocking grace by refusing to be humbled Now I made thechoice to embrace a different way to live and a fresh power tolove through Godrsquos empowering grace I had no idea what lay

ahead But I was ready

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BEGINNING THE JOURNEY

In the course of Much Afraidrsquos journey to the High Places shefaced tremendous difficulties After each mountain was scaledor each terror was over she would put a small stone in the poucharound her waist Tey became trophies of grace remembrancesof all that the Shepherd had brought her through In the endthey were turned into beautiful jewels placed in a crown for her

to wearI havenrsquot picked up stones along my journey Instead God has

shown me many different aspects of grace that have spurred meon my way I have carried them until I am used to their weightin my backpack Tey once seemed heavy but now they are

weightless Tey are so much a part of me that I could not live

without them Godrsquos grace has been manifested to me in beau-tiful yet challenging ways He gives this kind of grace to all ofusmdashif we learn to recognize accept and embrace it to live vic-toriously in this world

eresa of Aacutevila a sixteenth-century Spanish mystic philos-opher and Catholic saint described the journey through dif-

ferent graces in her book Te Interior Castle

Let us imagine that there are many rooms in this castleof which some are above some below others at the sidein the centre in the very midst of them all is the principalchamber in which God and the soul hold their most secret

intercourse Tink over this comparison very carefully

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God grant it may enlighten you about the different kinds

of graces He is pleased to bestow upon the soul No onecan know all about them much less a person so ignorantas I am Te knowledge that such things are possible willconsole you greatly should our Lord ever grant you any ofthese favours2

As I began to look differently at my circumstances I wantedGod to show me all the rooms in my castle I especially wantedto see the principal chamber where he and I could hold the mostsecret intercourse And I was anxious to be enlightened aboutthe grace he would bestow

JESUS F ULL OF GRACE AND TRUTH

On this journey into grace I was led to see Jesus as one whoboth gave and modeled grace in his earthly life It started withhis acceptance to come to this world Philippians 10486261048630-1048632 speaksof his willingness to be humbled and to empty himself of therights of heaven in order to take his assignment on earth Chris

iegreen has explained this truth by writing ldquoJesus went fromheavenly riches to earthly rags from exaltation to humiliationfrom authority to obedience from ultimate significance to ul-timate rejection from comfort to hardship from safety to dangerfrom glory to sacrifice and from life to death And he calls us togo into the world in exactly the same way rdquo3

Jesusrsquo acceptance and obedience brought about the saving

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grace of God Grace is simply Godrsquos unmerited favor In other

words he gives us what we donrsquot deserve (grace) and doesnrsquot giveus what we do deserve (judgment) because of Jesusrsquo death on thecross But itrsquos more intimate than that Grace is Godrsquos blessingoverflowing into our lives o experience Godrsquos grace is to opengift upon gift of comfort companionship and empowerment Inhis grace God saves us strengthens us and sanctifies us He

freely offers us the gift of grace but we must accept it We celebrate grace and thank God for the liberating power

that comes to us through it But it doesnrsquot stop theremdashthere areother aspects of grace God longs to show us Te foreword tothe participantrsquos guide of Max Lucadorsquos book Grace reads ldquoWeknow grace as a noun but Max tells us to think of grace as a verb

It is an action Itrsquos not enough to read about grace we mustexperience itrdquo4

When he came to earth Jesus was ldquofull of grace and truthrdquo(John 104862510486251048628) And if we as believers have accepted him into ourlives then ldquofrom his fullness we have all received grace upongracerdquo (John 104862510486251048630) If Jesus is full of grace and truth and he is

in us then we too can experience lives full of grace and truth What a privilege

Te ldquoway of gracerdquo is the phrase I have used to describe the journey Whether we embark on this road is up to us It can bethe chosen path or a rejected course God offers it freely andopenly He will not force it on us

God issues an invitation to venture to a new land It is much

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like the children of Israel journeying to the Promised Land

Tere are dangers and giants in this foreign country but thereare also mysteries to be revealed and provisions along the waythat only God can give Te invitation is to cross over into theland of grace Te question is Will we go

THE GRACE OF A CCEPTANCE

Tis book is simply a recounting of the grace God has workedin my life Each chapter will highlight a different dimensionof grace much like the facets of a diamond My prayer is thatas you read you will find a new way to see the grace that isbeing offered in your own life whatever your place of difficultymay be

We start with the grace of acceptance (chapter one) for it wasthe first step of many in letting go of the control I thought I hadFor me it became a three-step process of acceptance submissionand relinquishment (continued in chapters two and three) Tegrace of acceptance is not a new concept but one that must beexperienced before moving on Godrsquos coming alongside to

extend grace not just once but every day humbles me as hepours out grace upon grace Acceptance is simply this I receiveGodrsquos invitation or offer and willingly embrace what he gives Icome to terms with the fact that I donrsquot have all the answers Iaccept his gift of grace even when it comes alongside illness

weakness or death I move from a place of depression self-pity

and denial into the grace of acceptance

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Tis is what I might have become had I not experienced this

gracebull an alcoholic abusing a substance in order to find peace

bull a bad husband seeking mental and emotional health fromothers while neglecting my wife

bull a disbelieving priest all the while acting out the role of a life

lived in faithAcceptance changed everything

bull Instead of thinking about death I began to embrace life

bull Instead of ignoring people who were handicapped I prayedfor them

bull

When I needed help I asked for it even from strangersbull Instead of hiding I tried to live openly and honestly about

my condition

bull Even though I still had tears I welcomed laughter

bull Instead of being afraid to open up to others I relished deephonest relationships

It was revolutionaryGrace enlarges the capacity of our heart It allows us to be

guided into truth It gives us courage to accept and a reason tocelebrate and opens our eyes to glimpse wonders from God Tefoundation for experiencing this unique call is the knowledge

that we are saved by grace live by grace and are filled with grace

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if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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I have never sensed the condemnation of God

I donrsquot think about former accomplishments as much as my failures I believe in justice

I have stood in lines in Ethiopia with the hungry and the poor

I have traveled to eastern Africa during the time of genocide

war and famine

I minister in one of the wealthiest communities in the United States

I have learned that the rich in resources can also be poor in spirit I embrace the Scriptures and see them as a guidepost for life

I have struggled to accept the diagnosis of a disease and tried to

cover it up

I love the Father Son and Holy Spirit

I love the Eucharist

I embrace another personrsquos heart whatever their religious practice I believe evil will be overcome

I love to see the sunset

I take time to look in the eyes of others to get a glimpse of their heart

I like to raid the cookie jar in the middle of the night

I love theological discussions

I am loved

I am loving

I am Glandion

I have Parkinsonrsquos

I am learning to walk in grace

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The Grace of Acceptance

IT HAPPENED SO FASTmdashmy body wouldnrsquot cooperate with

my mind Never had I struggled with such simple things Iseemed to be all thumbs as I put on my clerical collar It wouldnrsquot go on straight no matter what I did My jacket gotstuck halfway on it felt like a straightjacket binding my armsand preventing me from moving correctly What was going on

Why was I suddenly so clumsy

It was 1048626104862410486241048632 and I was leading a pastorsrsquo conference in KigaliRwanda walking men from many countries through steps ofmeditation reflection and communion with God During mytrip to Africa I had become increasingly tired more so than Ihad ever been in the past Te work was grueling and the hours

were long but I had done this before and it had never bothered

me It felt like my thoughts were being stolen from my mind I

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would begin a sentence and then midway I would not know

where the thought was goingMy good friend William Wilson had gone along to minister

with me A former rappist monk he was now an Anglicanpriest like me William noticed how sluggish and stiff my move-ments were becoming At his encouragement I decided to go tothe doctor for a physical when we got home It seemed logical

that I had picked up a virus or other illness while travelingMy physician did his usual examination but then asked me

to do simple movements like walk a few steps and bend at the waist He inspected my arms knees and legs and tested my re-flexes He shined a light in my eyes and then said simply ldquoYouhave Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquo

Stunned I questioned him ldquoHow do you know How can you say lsquoYou have Parkinsonrsquosrsquo when yoursquove done no test orbloodwork to determine this diagnosisrdquo

He looked me straight in the eyes and responded ldquoYou arenot smiling like you used to and your face looks frozen in afrown Your movements are difficult Your joints are in pain All

this points to Parkinsonrsquos You can get a second opinion from aneurologist but he will tell you the same thingrdquo

Words escaped me I felt nothing I was empty Numb Tere was no brilliant logic to apply Tere were no prayers to

pray Tere was no believing or trusting in God for the future ofmy life in general or my ministry All was blank as if erased I

walked out of his office in a fog When I got to my car I wept

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like a baby leaning on the steering wheel for support I called

my wife and told her ldquoTe doctor says I have ParkinsonrsquosrdquoMarion dropped what she was doing at work and came home

to sit with me in silence Tatrsquos when feeling nothing moved todarkness and hopelessness Like Job and his friend in Scripture

we sat in the ash heap of despairAt that point I couldnrsquot see any applications of grace No

Bible verses immediately came to mind to soothe my dark andforeboding spirit Te words ldquoyou have Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquoplayed over and over in my mind like a record stuck on a trackI felt sabotaged ears of hurt grief and fear fell unceasingly Icouldnrsquot stop them if I tried

Many saints through the centuries have referred to tears as a gift

Te ldquogift of tearsrdquo written about by the desert elders andseveral centuries later by St Ignatius of Loyola are notabout finding meaning in our pain and suffering Tey donot give answers but instead call us to a deep attentivenessto the longings of our heart Tey continue to flow until wedrop our masks and self-deception and return to the sourceof our lives and longing Tey are a sign that we havecrossed a threshold into a profound sense of humility1

I couldnrsquot come up with any longing in my heart except forthis new diagnosis to be recalled It was easier to deceivemyself with the drug of denial than to begin the hard work of

acceptance

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A DIFFERENT DIRECTION

Te physician recommended I seek physical therapy He re-minded me this disease would take its toll over time to slow theprocess I needed to change my lifestyle Get more rest Exercisemore Start medication Eat well It was all so overwhelming

When I got up the courage I made an appointment with thephysical therapist I walked into the rehab hospital not knowing

what to expect I was blown away Hunchbacked patientsshaking violently were straining to remain balanced while they

walked Most were suffering with the visible effects of Lou Geh-rigrsquos disease multiple sclerosis or Parkinsonrsquos So many diseasesand disabilities were representedmdashyou name it and they had itI saw myself in them and I was scared

When the therapist called my name I jerked to attentionInstead of following him into the therapy session I ran out ofthe waiting room in tears I left and did not go back for a year Ihave never confessed this to anyone before now

Tis was not supposed to be my journey How could I face itI had no direction or sense of destination I didnrsquot even have

a compass Te nothingness I had felt earlier turned into a darkshadow of gray with shades of anger I was on a journey with noend in sight not one I wanted anyway Severe difficulties hadsuddenly been thrust on me and they hovered over my head likedarkening clouds in a storm Questions tormented me Will Idie Where is God in the midst of this Where is my courage

I went to see a neurologist who was also a member of our

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church After he confirmed the diagnosis he explained that Par-

kinsonrsquos is a disorder of the brain that leads to shaking and dif-ficulty with walking movement and coordination and it con-tinues to get worse Seeing the immediate tears in my eyes hecame to my side took me by the hand and said ldquoJust prayGlandion God will show you the wayrdquo

Even after two doctors confirmed the diagnosis it took me

twelve months to accept it During that year I concealed mydifficulties Even though my wife studied to learn more aboutthe disease I refused to do so I hid out like a fugitive I deniedeverything I foolishly thought that if I didnrsquot acknowledge thesymptoms they would just go away

One Sunday morning I was shaving in preparation for church

when I heard these words in my heart ldquoGlandion you donrsquottrust me You say you do but you donrsquot You masquerade andcover up your weaknesses You hide because you will not accept

what I have allowedrdquoIt was Jesus speaking to my heart at the deepest level It

wasnrsquot a harsh rebuke it was a gentle voice asking me to admit

my weakness and come to the truth Tat morning I stood before my congregation as associate

pastor and spoke these words ldquoAs your priest today I need tomake a confession I have Parkinsonrsquos disease I have been cov-ering up my weakness and I need to share it openly Irsquom tryingto accept it as a grace I hope you will pray for merdquo

Many came up afterward to speak to me ldquoMy weakness is

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drug addictionrdquo ldquoMy weakness is pornographyrdquo ldquoMy weakness

is controlling othersrdquo ldquoMy weakness is alcoholismrdquo We wepttogether held by a powerful cord of acceptance and confession

Te spiritual director in me wanted to sit down with each ofthem over a cup of coffee to validate their experiences of in-tegrity honesty and true confession You see my conviction isthat we donrsquot walk alone on the path of faith We explore it

together learning about grace trials and new beginnings Wemay have different paths on the journey but we all end at thesame destinationmdashthe discovery of Godrsquos faithfulness in

whatever we faceBut how could I express this truth to them when I had not

experienced it myself I admitted my weakness and began to

accept it Now I had to act on it It was the first step to healingand freedom Tere would be many others

A year after I initially visited that rehab hospital I returnedfor physical therapy Tis time I knew what to expect and I wasready to do the work Now what I noticed in the other tor-mented bodies was not their dysfunction but their eyes Teir

eyes conveyed hope courage and a will to overcome Te graceof acceptance allowed me to see them in a different light In-stead of running away from these fellow sufferers I was moti-

vated to join them And I was moved to offer up deep prayer forthem as a sign of accepting our common experience

Another turning point in this journey of acceptance was

the night my wife and I ate dinner at the home of my co-

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author Marjean Brooks and her husband Ricky After dinner

they shared a video with us saying it reminded them ofMarion and me In the video a man was sleeping on thecouch His wife talked excitedly about a new home im-provement tool as she walked up to the camera drawing us inShe guaranteed results and encouraged all viewers to watchher demonstrate Marion was getting interested She needed

some things done around the house and had been trying tomotivate me to do them

As the woman on the video spoke she rolled up a catalog inher hands When she finished her spiel she walked over to herreclining husband whacked his backside with the catalog and

yelled ldquoGet yorsquo butt uprdquo

Marion and I laughed hard at that unexpected ending In factthat line has been a standing joke with us ever since AfterwardI felt as if I had been prompted ldquoOkay Glandion when are you going to lsquoget yorsquo butt uprsquo and work on your liferdquo

Like the main character Much Afraid in the classic allegoryHindsrsquo Feet on High Places by Hannah Hurnard I glimpsed the

journey with all its peaks valleys and shadows Just as MuchAfraid took the hands of her companions Sorrow and SufferingI took the first step of acceptance Without realizing it I hadbeen blocking grace by refusing to be humbled Now I made thechoice to embrace a different way to live and a fresh power tolove through Godrsquos empowering grace I had no idea what lay

ahead But I was ready

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BEGINNING THE JOURNEY

In the course of Much Afraidrsquos journey to the High Places shefaced tremendous difficulties After each mountain was scaledor each terror was over she would put a small stone in the poucharound her waist Tey became trophies of grace remembrancesof all that the Shepherd had brought her through In the endthey were turned into beautiful jewels placed in a crown for her

to wearI havenrsquot picked up stones along my journey Instead God has

shown me many different aspects of grace that have spurred meon my way I have carried them until I am used to their weightin my backpack Tey once seemed heavy but now they are

weightless Tey are so much a part of me that I could not live

without them Godrsquos grace has been manifested to me in beau-tiful yet challenging ways He gives this kind of grace to all ofusmdashif we learn to recognize accept and embrace it to live vic-toriously in this world

eresa of Aacutevila a sixteenth-century Spanish mystic philos-opher and Catholic saint described the journey through dif-

ferent graces in her book Te Interior Castle

Let us imagine that there are many rooms in this castleof which some are above some below others at the sidein the centre in the very midst of them all is the principalchamber in which God and the soul hold their most secret

intercourse Tink over this comparison very carefully

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God grant it may enlighten you about the different kinds

of graces He is pleased to bestow upon the soul No onecan know all about them much less a person so ignorantas I am Te knowledge that such things are possible willconsole you greatly should our Lord ever grant you any ofthese favours2

As I began to look differently at my circumstances I wantedGod to show me all the rooms in my castle I especially wantedto see the principal chamber where he and I could hold the mostsecret intercourse And I was anxious to be enlightened aboutthe grace he would bestow

JESUS F ULL OF GRACE AND TRUTH

On this journey into grace I was led to see Jesus as one whoboth gave and modeled grace in his earthly life It started withhis acceptance to come to this world Philippians 10486261048630-1048632 speaksof his willingness to be humbled and to empty himself of therights of heaven in order to take his assignment on earth Chris

iegreen has explained this truth by writing ldquoJesus went fromheavenly riches to earthly rags from exaltation to humiliationfrom authority to obedience from ultimate significance to ul-timate rejection from comfort to hardship from safety to dangerfrom glory to sacrifice and from life to death And he calls us togo into the world in exactly the same way rdquo3

Jesusrsquo acceptance and obedience brought about the saving

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grace of God Grace is simply Godrsquos unmerited favor In other

words he gives us what we donrsquot deserve (grace) and doesnrsquot giveus what we do deserve (judgment) because of Jesusrsquo death on thecross But itrsquos more intimate than that Grace is Godrsquos blessingoverflowing into our lives o experience Godrsquos grace is to opengift upon gift of comfort companionship and empowerment Inhis grace God saves us strengthens us and sanctifies us He

freely offers us the gift of grace but we must accept it We celebrate grace and thank God for the liberating power

that comes to us through it But it doesnrsquot stop theremdashthere areother aspects of grace God longs to show us Te foreword tothe participantrsquos guide of Max Lucadorsquos book Grace reads ldquoWeknow grace as a noun but Max tells us to think of grace as a verb

It is an action Itrsquos not enough to read about grace we mustexperience itrdquo4

When he came to earth Jesus was ldquofull of grace and truthrdquo(John 104862510486251048628) And if we as believers have accepted him into ourlives then ldquofrom his fullness we have all received grace upongracerdquo (John 104862510486251048630) If Jesus is full of grace and truth and he is

in us then we too can experience lives full of grace and truth What a privilege

Te ldquoway of gracerdquo is the phrase I have used to describe the journey Whether we embark on this road is up to us It can bethe chosen path or a rejected course God offers it freely andopenly He will not force it on us

God issues an invitation to venture to a new land It is much

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like the children of Israel journeying to the Promised Land

Tere are dangers and giants in this foreign country but thereare also mysteries to be revealed and provisions along the waythat only God can give Te invitation is to cross over into theland of grace Te question is Will we go

THE GRACE OF A CCEPTANCE

Tis book is simply a recounting of the grace God has workedin my life Each chapter will highlight a different dimensionof grace much like the facets of a diamond My prayer is thatas you read you will find a new way to see the grace that isbeing offered in your own life whatever your place of difficultymay be

We start with the grace of acceptance (chapter one) for it wasthe first step of many in letting go of the control I thought I hadFor me it became a three-step process of acceptance submissionand relinquishment (continued in chapters two and three) Tegrace of acceptance is not a new concept but one that must beexperienced before moving on Godrsquos coming alongside to

extend grace not just once but every day humbles me as hepours out grace upon grace Acceptance is simply this I receiveGodrsquos invitation or offer and willingly embrace what he gives Icome to terms with the fact that I donrsquot have all the answers Iaccept his gift of grace even when it comes alongside illness

weakness or death I move from a place of depression self-pity

and denial into the grace of acceptance

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Tis is what I might have become had I not experienced this

gracebull an alcoholic abusing a substance in order to find peace

bull a bad husband seeking mental and emotional health fromothers while neglecting my wife

bull a disbelieving priest all the while acting out the role of a life

lived in faithAcceptance changed everything

bull Instead of thinking about death I began to embrace life

bull Instead of ignoring people who were handicapped I prayedfor them

bull

When I needed help I asked for it even from strangersbull Instead of hiding I tried to live openly and honestly about

my condition

bull Even though I still had tears I welcomed laughter

bull Instead of being afraid to open up to others I relished deephonest relationships

It was revolutionaryGrace enlarges the capacity of our heart It allows us to be

guided into truth It gives us courage to accept and a reason tocelebrate and opens our eyes to glimpse wonders from God Tefoundation for experiencing this unique call is the knowledge

that we are saved by grace live by grace and are filled with grace

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if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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The Grace of Acceptance

IT HAPPENED SO FASTmdashmy body wouldnrsquot cooperate with

my mind Never had I struggled with such simple things Iseemed to be all thumbs as I put on my clerical collar It wouldnrsquot go on straight no matter what I did My jacket gotstuck halfway on it felt like a straightjacket binding my armsand preventing me from moving correctly What was going on

Why was I suddenly so clumsy

It was 1048626104862410486241048632 and I was leading a pastorsrsquo conference in KigaliRwanda walking men from many countries through steps ofmeditation reflection and communion with God During mytrip to Africa I had become increasingly tired more so than Ihad ever been in the past Te work was grueling and the hours

were long but I had done this before and it had never bothered

me It felt like my thoughts were being stolen from my mind I

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would begin a sentence and then midway I would not know

where the thought was goingMy good friend William Wilson had gone along to minister

with me A former rappist monk he was now an Anglicanpriest like me William noticed how sluggish and stiff my move-ments were becoming At his encouragement I decided to go tothe doctor for a physical when we got home It seemed logical

that I had picked up a virus or other illness while travelingMy physician did his usual examination but then asked me

to do simple movements like walk a few steps and bend at the waist He inspected my arms knees and legs and tested my re-flexes He shined a light in my eyes and then said simply ldquoYouhave Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquo

Stunned I questioned him ldquoHow do you know How can you say lsquoYou have Parkinsonrsquosrsquo when yoursquove done no test orbloodwork to determine this diagnosisrdquo

He looked me straight in the eyes and responded ldquoYou arenot smiling like you used to and your face looks frozen in afrown Your movements are difficult Your joints are in pain All

this points to Parkinsonrsquos You can get a second opinion from aneurologist but he will tell you the same thingrdquo

Words escaped me I felt nothing I was empty Numb Tere was no brilliant logic to apply Tere were no prayers to

pray Tere was no believing or trusting in God for the future ofmy life in general or my ministry All was blank as if erased I

walked out of his office in a fog When I got to my car I wept

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like a baby leaning on the steering wheel for support I called

my wife and told her ldquoTe doctor says I have ParkinsonrsquosrdquoMarion dropped what she was doing at work and came home

to sit with me in silence Tatrsquos when feeling nothing moved todarkness and hopelessness Like Job and his friend in Scripture

we sat in the ash heap of despairAt that point I couldnrsquot see any applications of grace No

Bible verses immediately came to mind to soothe my dark andforeboding spirit Te words ldquoyou have Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquoplayed over and over in my mind like a record stuck on a trackI felt sabotaged ears of hurt grief and fear fell unceasingly Icouldnrsquot stop them if I tried

Many saints through the centuries have referred to tears as a gift

Te ldquogift of tearsrdquo written about by the desert elders andseveral centuries later by St Ignatius of Loyola are notabout finding meaning in our pain and suffering Tey donot give answers but instead call us to a deep attentivenessto the longings of our heart Tey continue to flow until wedrop our masks and self-deception and return to the sourceof our lives and longing Tey are a sign that we havecrossed a threshold into a profound sense of humility1

I couldnrsquot come up with any longing in my heart except forthis new diagnosis to be recalled It was easier to deceivemyself with the drug of denial than to begin the hard work of

acceptance

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A DIFFERENT DIRECTION

Te physician recommended I seek physical therapy He re-minded me this disease would take its toll over time to slow theprocess I needed to change my lifestyle Get more rest Exercisemore Start medication Eat well It was all so overwhelming

When I got up the courage I made an appointment with thephysical therapist I walked into the rehab hospital not knowing

what to expect I was blown away Hunchbacked patientsshaking violently were straining to remain balanced while they

walked Most were suffering with the visible effects of Lou Geh-rigrsquos disease multiple sclerosis or Parkinsonrsquos So many diseasesand disabilities were representedmdashyou name it and they had itI saw myself in them and I was scared

When the therapist called my name I jerked to attentionInstead of following him into the therapy session I ran out ofthe waiting room in tears I left and did not go back for a year Ihave never confessed this to anyone before now

Tis was not supposed to be my journey How could I face itI had no direction or sense of destination I didnrsquot even have

a compass Te nothingness I had felt earlier turned into a darkshadow of gray with shades of anger I was on a journey with noend in sight not one I wanted anyway Severe difficulties hadsuddenly been thrust on me and they hovered over my head likedarkening clouds in a storm Questions tormented me Will Idie Where is God in the midst of this Where is my courage

I went to see a neurologist who was also a member of our

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church After he confirmed the diagnosis he explained that Par-

kinsonrsquos is a disorder of the brain that leads to shaking and dif-ficulty with walking movement and coordination and it con-tinues to get worse Seeing the immediate tears in my eyes hecame to my side took me by the hand and said ldquoJust prayGlandion God will show you the wayrdquo

Even after two doctors confirmed the diagnosis it took me

twelve months to accept it During that year I concealed mydifficulties Even though my wife studied to learn more aboutthe disease I refused to do so I hid out like a fugitive I deniedeverything I foolishly thought that if I didnrsquot acknowledge thesymptoms they would just go away

One Sunday morning I was shaving in preparation for church

when I heard these words in my heart ldquoGlandion you donrsquottrust me You say you do but you donrsquot You masquerade andcover up your weaknesses You hide because you will not accept

what I have allowedrdquoIt was Jesus speaking to my heart at the deepest level It

wasnrsquot a harsh rebuke it was a gentle voice asking me to admit

my weakness and come to the truth Tat morning I stood before my congregation as associate

pastor and spoke these words ldquoAs your priest today I need tomake a confession I have Parkinsonrsquos disease I have been cov-ering up my weakness and I need to share it openly Irsquom tryingto accept it as a grace I hope you will pray for merdquo

Many came up afterward to speak to me ldquoMy weakness is

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drug addictionrdquo ldquoMy weakness is pornographyrdquo ldquoMy weakness

is controlling othersrdquo ldquoMy weakness is alcoholismrdquo We wepttogether held by a powerful cord of acceptance and confession

Te spiritual director in me wanted to sit down with each ofthem over a cup of coffee to validate their experiences of in-tegrity honesty and true confession You see my conviction isthat we donrsquot walk alone on the path of faith We explore it

together learning about grace trials and new beginnings Wemay have different paths on the journey but we all end at thesame destinationmdashthe discovery of Godrsquos faithfulness in

whatever we faceBut how could I express this truth to them when I had not

experienced it myself I admitted my weakness and began to

accept it Now I had to act on it It was the first step to healingand freedom Tere would be many others

A year after I initially visited that rehab hospital I returnedfor physical therapy Tis time I knew what to expect and I wasready to do the work Now what I noticed in the other tor-mented bodies was not their dysfunction but their eyes Teir

eyes conveyed hope courage and a will to overcome Te graceof acceptance allowed me to see them in a different light In-stead of running away from these fellow sufferers I was moti-

vated to join them And I was moved to offer up deep prayer forthem as a sign of accepting our common experience

Another turning point in this journey of acceptance was

the night my wife and I ate dinner at the home of my co-

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author Marjean Brooks and her husband Ricky After dinner

they shared a video with us saying it reminded them ofMarion and me In the video a man was sleeping on thecouch His wife talked excitedly about a new home im-provement tool as she walked up to the camera drawing us inShe guaranteed results and encouraged all viewers to watchher demonstrate Marion was getting interested She needed

some things done around the house and had been trying tomotivate me to do them

As the woman on the video spoke she rolled up a catalog inher hands When she finished her spiel she walked over to herreclining husband whacked his backside with the catalog and

yelled ldquoGet yorsquo butt uprdquo

Marion and I laughed hard at that unexpected ending In factthat line has been a standing joke with us ever since AfterwardI felt as if I had been prompted ldquoOkay Glandion when are you going to lsquoget yorsquo butt uprsquo and work on your liferdquo

Like the main character Much Afraid in the classic allegoryHindsrsquo Feet on High Places by Hannah Hurnard I glimpsed the

journey with all its peaks valleys and shadows Just as MuchAfraid took the hands of her companions Sorrow and SufferingI took the first step of acceptance Without realizing it I hadbeen blocking grace by refusing to be humbled Now I made thechoice to embrace a different way to live and a fresh power tolove through Godrsquos empowering grace I had no idea what lay

ahead But I was ready

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BEGINNING THE JOURNEY

In the course of Much Afraidrsquos journey to the High Places shefaced tremendous difficulties After each mountain was scaledor each terror was over she would put a small stone in the poucharound her waist Tey became trophies of grace remembrancesof all that the Shepherd had brought her through In the endthey were turned into beautiful jewels placed in a crown for her

to wearI havenrsquot picked up stones along my journey Instead God has

shown me many different aspects of grace that have spurred meon my way I have carried them until I am used to their weightin my backpack Tey once seemed heavy but now they are

weightless Tey are so much a part of me that I could not live

without them Godrsquos grace has been manifested to me in beau-tiful yet challenging ways He gives this kind of grace to all ofusmdashif we learn to recognize accept and embrace it to live vic-toriously in this world

eresa of Aacutevila a sixteenth-century Spanish mystic philos-opher and Catholic saint described the journey through dif-

ferent graces in her book Te Interior Castle

Let us imagine that there are many rooms in this castleof which some are above some below others at the sidein the centre in the very midst of them all is the principalchamber in which God and the soul hold their most secret

intercourse Tink over this comparison very carefully

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God grant it may enlighten you about the different kinds

of graces He is pleased to bestow upon the soul No onecan know all about them much less a person so ignorantas I am Te knowledge that such things are possible willconsole you greatly should our Lord ever grant you any ofthese favours2

As I began to look differently at my circumstances I wantedGod to show me all the rooms in my castle I especially wantedto see the principal chamber where he and I could hold the mostsecret intercourse And I was anxious to be enlightened aboutthe grace he would bestow

JESUS F ULL OF GRACE AND TRUTH

On this journey into grace I was led to see Jesus as one whoboth gave and modeled grace in his earthly life It started withhis acceptance to come to this world Philippians 10486261048630-1048632 speaksof his willingness to be humbled and to empty himself of therights of heaven in order to take his assignment on earth Chris

iegreen has explained this truth by writing ldquoJesus went fromheavenly riches to earthly rags from exaltation to humiliationfrom authority to obedience from ultimate significance to ul-timate rejection from comfort to hardship from safety to dangerfrom glory to sacrifice and from life to death And he calls us togo into the world in exactly the same way rdquo3

Jesusrsquo acceptance and obedience brought about the saving

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grace of God Grace is simply Godrsquos unmerited favor In other

words he gives us what we donrsquot deserve (grace) and doesnrsquot giveus what we do deserve (judgment) because of Jesusrsquo death on thecross But itrsquos more intimate than that Grace is Godrsquos blessingoverflowing into our lives o experience Godrsquos grace is to opengift upon gift of comfort companionship and empowerment Inhis grace God saves us strengthens us and sanctifies us He

freely offers us the gift of grace but we must accept it We celebrate grace and thank God for the liberating power

that comes to us through it But it doesnrsquot stop theremdashthere areother aspects of grace God longs to show us Te foreword tothe participantrsquos guide of Max Lucadorsquos book Grace reads ldquoWeknow grace as a noun but Max tells us to think of grace as a verb

It is an action Itrsquos not enough to read about grace we mustexperience itrdquo4

When he came to earth Jesus was ldquofull of grace and truthrdquo(John 104862510486251048628) And if we as believers have accepted him into ourlives then ldquofrom his fullness we have all received grace upongracerdquo (John 104862510486251048630) If Jesus is full of grace and truth and he is

in us then we too can experience lives full of grace and truth What a privilege

Te ldquoway of gracerdquo is the phrase I have used to describe the journey Whether we embark on this road is up to us It can bethe chosen path or a rejected course God offers it freely andopenly He will not force it on us

God issues an invitation to venture to a new land It is much

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like the children of Israel journeying to the Promised Land

Tere are dangers and giants in this foreign country but thereare also mysteries to be revealed and provisions along the waythat only God can give Te invitation is to cross over into theland of grace Te question is Will we go

THE GRACE OF A CCEPTANCE

Tis book is simply a recounting of the grace God has workedin my life Each chapter will highlight a different dimensionof grace much like the facets of a diamond My prayer is thatas you read you will find a new way to see the grace that isbeing offered in your own life whatever your place of difficultymay be

We start with the grace of acceptance (chapter one) for it wasthe first step of many in letting go of the control I thought I hadFor me it became a three-step process of acceptance submissionand relinquishment (continued in chapters two and three) Tegrace of acceptance is not a new concept but one that must beexperienced before moving on Godrsquos coming alongside to

extend grace not just once but every day humbles me as hepours out grace upon grace Acceptance is simply this I receiveGodrsquos invitation or offer and willingly embrace what he gives Icome to terms with the fact that I donrsquot have all the answers Iaccept his gift of grace even when it comes alongside illness

weakness or death I move from a place of depression self-pity

and denial into the grace of acceptance

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Tis is what I might have become had I not experienced this

gracebull an alcoholic abusing a substance in order to find peace

bull a bad husband seeking mental and emotional health fromothers while neglecting my wife

bull a disbelieving priest all the while acting out the role of a life

lived in faithAcceptance changed everything

bull Instead of thinking about death I began to embrace life

bull Instead of ignoring people who were handicapped I prayedfor them

bull

When I needed help I asked for it even from strangersbull Instead of hiding I tried to live openly and honestly about

my condition

bull Even though I still had tears I welcomed laughter

bull Instead of being afraid to open up to others I relished deephonest relationships

It was revolutionaryGrace enlarges the capacity of our heart It allows us to be

guided into truth It gives us courage to accept and a reason tocelebrate and opens our eyes to glimpse wonders from God Tefoundation for experiencing this unique call is the knowledge

that we are saved by grace live by grace and are filled with grace

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if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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would begin a sentence and then midway I would not know

where the thought was goingMy good friend William Wilson had gone along to minister

with me A former rappist monk he was now an Anglicanpriest like me William noticed how sluggish and stiff my move-ments were becoming At his encouragement I decided to go tothe doctor for a physical when we got home It seemed logical

that I had picked up a virus or other illness while travelingMy physician did his usual examination but then asked me

to do simple movements like walk a few steps and bend at the waist He inspected my arms knees and legs and tested my re-flexes He shined a light in my eyes and then said simply ldquoYouhave Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquo

Stunned I questioned him ldquoHow do you know How can you say lsquoYou have Parkinsonrsquosrsquo when yoursquove done no test orbloodwork to determine this diagnosisrdquo

He looked me straight in the eyes and responded ldquoYou arenot smiling like you used to and your face looks frozen in afrown Your movements are difficult Your joints are in pain All

this points to Parkinsonrsquos You can get a second opinion from aneurologist but he will tell you the same thingrdquo

Words escaped me I felt nothing I was empty Numb Tere was no brilliant logic to apply Tere were no prayers to

pray Tere was no believing or trusting in God for the future ofmy life in general or my ministry All was blank as if erased I

walked out of his office in a fog When I got to my car I wept

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like a baby leaning on the steering wheel for support I called

my wife and told her ldquoTe doctor says I have ParkinsonrsquosrdquoMarion dropped what she was doing at work and came home

to sit with me in silence Tatrsquos when feeling nothing moved todarkness and hopelessness Like Job and his friend in Scripture

we sat in the ash heap of despairAt that point I couldnrsquot see any applications of grace No

Bible verses immediately came to mind to soothe my dark andforeboding spirit Te words ldquoyou have Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquoplayed over and over in my mind like a record stuck on a trackI felt sabotaged ears of hurt grief and fear fell unceasingly Icouldnrsquot stop them if I tried

Many saints through the centuries have referred to tears as a gift

Te ldquogift of tearsrdquo written about by the desert elders andseveral centuries later by St Ignatius of Loyola are notabout finding meaning in our pain and suffering Tey donot give answers but instead call us to a deep attentivenessto the longings of our heart Tey continue to flow until wedrop our masks and self-deception and return to the sourceof our lives and longing Tey are a sign that we havecrossed a threshold into a profound sense of humility1

I couldnrsquot come up with any longing in my heart except forthis new diagnosis to be recalled It was easier to deceivemyself with the drug of denial than to begin the hard work of

acceptance

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A DIFFERENT DIRECTION

Te physician recommended I seek physical therapy He re-minded me this disease would take its toll over time to slow theprocess I needed to change my lifestyle Get more rest Exercisemore Start medication Eat well It was all so overwhelming

When I got up the courage I made an appointment with thephysical therapist I walked into the rehab hospital not knowing

what to expect I was blown away Hunchbacked patientsshaking violently were straining to remain balanced while they

walked Most were suffering with the visible effects of Lou Geh-rigrsquos disease multiple sclerosis or Parkinsonrsquos So many diseasesand disabilities were representedmdashyou name it and they had itI saw myself in them and I was scared

When the therapist called my name I jerked to attentionInstead of following him into the therapy session I ran out ofthe waiting room in tears I left and did not go back for a year Ihave never confessed this to anyone before now

Tis was not supposed to be my journey How could I face itI had no direction or sense of destination I didnrsquot even have

a compass Te nothingness I had felt earlier turned into a darkshadow of gray with shades of anger I was on a journey with noend in sight not one I wanted anyway Severe difficulties hadsuddenly been thrust on me and they hovered over my head likedarkening clouds in a storm Questions tormented me Will Idie Where is God in the midst of this Where is my courage

I went to see a neurologist who was also a member of our

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church After he confirmed the diagnosis he explained that Par-

kinsonrsquos is a disorder of the brain that leads to shaking and dif-ficulty with walking movement and coordination and it con-tinues to get worse Seeing the immediate tears in my eyes hecame to my side took me by the hand and said ldquoJust prayGlandion God will show you the wayrdquo

Even after two doctors confirmed the diagnosis it took me

twelve months to accept it During that year I concealed mydifficulties Even though my wife studied to learn more aboutthe disease I refused to do so I hid out like a fugitive I deniedeverything I foolishly thought that if I didnrsquot acknowledge thesymptoms they would just go away

One Sunday morning I was shaving in preparation for church

when I heard these words in my heart ldquoGlandion you donrsquottrust me You say you do but you donrsquot You masquerade andcover up your weaknesses You hide because you will not accept

what I have allowedrdquoIt was Jesus speaking to my heart at the deepest level It

wasnrsquot a harsh rebuke it was a gentle voice asking me to admit

my weakness and come to the truth Tat morning I stood before my congregation as associate

pastor and spoke these words ldquoAs your priest today I need tomake a confession I have Parkinsonrsquos disease I have been cov-ering up my weakness and I need to share it openly Irsquom tryingto accept it as a grace I hope you will pray for merdquo

Many came up afterward to speak to me ldquoMy weakness is

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drug addictionrdquo ldquoMy weakness is pornographyrdquo ldquoMy weakness

is controlling othersrdquo ldquoMy weakness is alcoholismrdquo We wepttogether held by a powerful cord of acceptance and confession

Te spiritual director in me wanted to sit down with each ofthem over a cup of coffee to validate their experiences of in-tegrity honesty and true confession You see my conviction isthat we donrsquot walk alone on the path of faith We explore it

together learning about grace trials and new beginnings Wemay have different paths on the journey but we all end at thesame destinationmdashthe discovery of Godrsquos faithfulness in

whatever we faceBut how could I express this truth to them when I had not

experienced it myself I admitted my weakness and began to

accept it Now I had to act on it It was the first step to healingand freedom Tere would be many others

A year after I initially visited that rehab hospital I returnedfor physical therapy Tis time I knew what to expect and I wasready to do the work Now what I noticed in the other tor-mented bodies was not their dysfunction but their eyes Teir

eyes conveyed hope courage and a will to overcome Te graceof acceptance allowed me to see them in a different light In-stead of running away from these fellow sufferers I was moti-

vated to join them And I was moved to offer up deep prayer forthem as a sign of accepting our common experience

Another turning point in this journey of acceptance was

the night my wife and I ate dinner at the home of my co-

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author Marjean Brooks and her husband Ricky After dinner

they shared a video with us saying it reminded them ofMarion and me In the video a man was sleeping on thecouch His wife talked excitedly about a new home im-provement tool as she walked up to the camera drawing us inShe guaranteed results and encouraged all viewers to watchher demonstrate Marion was getting interested She needed

some things done around the house and had been trying tomotivate me to do them

As the woman on the video spoke she rolled up a catalog inher hands When she finished her spiel she walked over to herreclining husband whacked his backside with the catalog and

yelled ldquoGet yorsquo butt uprdquo

Marion and I laughed hard at that unexpected ending In factthat line has been a standing joke with us ever since AfterwardI felt as if I had been prompted ldquoOkay Glandion when are you going to lsquoget yorsquo butt uprsquo and work on your liferdquo

Like the main character Much Afraid in the classic allegoryHindsrsquo Feet on High Places by Hannah Hurnard I glimpsed the

journey with all its peaks valleys and shadows Just as MuchAfraid took the hands of her companions Sorrow and SufferingI took the first step of acceptance Without realizing it I hadbeen blocking grace by refusing to be humbled Now I made thechoice to embrace a different way to live and a fresh power tolove through Godrsquos empowering grace I had no idea what lay

ahead But I was ready

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BEGINNING THE JOURNEY

In the course of Much Afraidrsquos journey to the High Places shefaced tremendous difficulties After each mountain was scaledor each terror was over she would put a small stone in the poucharound her waist Tey became trophies of grace remembrancesof all that the Shepherd had brought her through In the endthey were turned into beautiful jewels placed in a crown for her

to wearI havenrsquot picked up stones along my journey Instead God has

shown me many different aspects of grace that have spurred meon my way I have carried them until I am used to their weightin my backpack Tey once seemed heavy but now they are

weightless Tey are so much a part of me that I could not live

without them Godrsquos grace has been manifested to me in beau-tiful yet challenging ways He gives this kind of grace to all ofusmdashif we learn to recognize accept and embrace it to live vic-toriously in this world

eresa of Aacutevila a sixteenth-century Spanish mystic philos-opher and Catholic saint described the journey through dif-

ferent graces in her book Te Interior Castle

Let us imagine that there are many rooms in this castleof which some are above some below others at the sidein the centre in the very midst of them all is the principalchamber in which God and the soul hold their most secret

intercourse Tink over this comparison very carefully

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God grant it may enlighten you about the different kinds

of graces He is pleased to bestow upon the soul No onecan know all about them much less a person so ignorantas I am Te knowledge that such things are possible willconsole you greatly should our Lord ever grant you any ofthese favours2

As I began to look differently at my circumstances I wantedGod to show me all the rooms in my castle I especially wantedto see the principal chamber where he and I could hold the mostsecret intercourse And I was anxious to be enlightened aboutthe grace he would bestow

JESUS F ULL OF GRACE AND TRUTH

On this journey into grace I was led to see Jesus as one whoboth gave and modeled grace in his earthly life It started withhis acceptance to come to this world Philippians 10486261048630-1048632 speaksof his willingness to be humbled and to empty himself of therights of heaven in order to take his assignment on earth Chris

iegreen has explained this truth by writing ldquoJesus went fromheavenly riches to earthly rags from exaltation to humiliationfrom authority to obedience from ultimate significance to ul-timate rejection from comfort to hardship from safety to dangerfrom glory to sacrifice and from life to death And he calls us togo into the world in exactly the same way rdquo3

Jesusrsquo acceptance and obedience brought about the saving

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grace of God Grace is simply Godrsquos unmerited favor In other

words he gives us what we donrsquot deserve (grace) and doesnrsquot giveus what we do deserve (judgment) because of Jesusrsquo death on thecross But itrsquos more intimate than that Grace is Godrsquos blessingoverflowing into our lives o experience Godrsquos grace is to opengift upon gift of comfort companionship and empowerment Inhis grace God saves us strengthens us and sanctifies us He

freely offers us the gift of grace but we must accept it We celebrate grace and thank God for the liberating power

that comes to us through it But it doesnrsquot stop theremdashthere areother aspects of grace God longs to show us Te foreword tothe participantrsquos guide of Max Lucadorsquos book Grace reads ldquoWeknow grace as a noun but Max tells us to think of grace as a verb

It is an action Itrsquos not enough to read about grace we mustexperience itrdquo4

When he came to earth Jesus was ldquofull of grace and truthrdquo(John 104862510486251048628) And if we as believers have accepted him into ourlives then ldquofrom his fullness we have all received grace upongracerdquo (John 104862510486251048630) If Jesus is full of grace and truth and he is

in us then we too can experience lives full of grace and truth What a privilege

Te ldquoway of gracerdquo is the phrase I have used to describe the journey Whether we embark on this road is up to us It can bethe chosen path or a rejected course God offers it freely andopenly He will not force it on us

God issues an invitation to venture to a new land It is much

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like the children of Israel journeying to the Promised Land

Tere are dangers and giants in this foreign country but thereare also mysteries to be revealed and provisions along the waythat only God can give Te invitation is to cross over into theland of grace Te question is Will we go

THE GRACE OF A CCEPTANCE

Tis book is simply a recounting of the grace God has workedin my life Each chapter will highlight a different dimensionof grace much like the facets of a diamond My prayer is thatas you read you will find a new way to see the grace that isbeing offered in your own life whatever your place of difficultymay be

We start with the grace of acceptance (chapter one) for it wasthe first step of many in letting go of the control I thought I hadFor me it became a three-step process of acceptance submissionand relinquishment (continued in chapters two and three) Tegrace of acceptance is not a new concept but one that must beexperienced before moving on Godrsquos coming alongside to

extend grace not just once but every day humbles me as hepours out grace upon grace Acceptance is simply this I receiveGodrsquos invitation or offer and willingly embrace what he gives Icome to terms with the fact that I donrsquot have all the answers Iaccept his gift of grace even when it comes alongside illness

weakness or death I move from a place of depression self-pity

and denial into the grace of acceptance

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Tis is what I might have become had I not experienced this

gracebull an alcoholic abusing a substance in order to find peace

bull a bad husband seeking mental and emotional health fromothers while neglecting my wife

bull a disbelieving priest all the while acting out the role of a life

lived in faithAcceptance changed everything

bull Instead of thinking about death I began to embrace life

bull Instead of ignoring people who were handicapped I prayedfor them

bull

When I needed help I asked for it even from strangersbull Instead of hiding I tried to live openly and honestly about

my condition

bull Even though I still had tears I welcomed laughter

bull Instead of being afraid to open up to others I relished deephonest relationships

It was revolutionaryGrace enlarges the capacity of our heart It allows us to be

guided into truth It gives us courage to accept and a reason tocelebrate and opens our eyes to glimpse wonders from God Tefoundation for experiencing this unique call is the knowledge

that we are saved by grace live by grace and are filled with grace

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if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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like a baby leaning on the steering wheel for support I called

my wife and told her ldquoTe doctor says I have ParkinsonrsquosrdquoMarion dropped what she was doing at work and came home

to sit with me in silence Tatrsquos when feeling nothing moved todarkness and hopelessness Like Job and his friend in Scripture

we sat in the ash heap of despairAt that point I couldnrsquot see any applications of grace No

Bible verses immediately came to mind to soothe my dark andforeboding spirit Te words ldquoyou have Parkinsonrsquos diseaserdquoplayed over and over in my mind like a record stuck on a trackI felt sabotaged ears of hurt grief and fear fell unceasingly Icouldnrsquot stop them if I tried

Many saints through the centuries have referred to tears as a gift

Te ldquogift of tearsrdquo written about by the desert elders andseveral centuries later by St Ignatius of Loyola are notabout finding meaning in our pain and suffering Tey donot give answers but instead call us to a deep attentivenessto the longings of our heart Tey continue to flow until wedrop our masks and self-deception and return to the sourceof our lives and longing Tey are a sign that we havecrossed a threshold into a profound sense of humility1

I couldnrsquot come up with any longing in my heart except forthis new diagnosis to be recalled It was easier to deceivemyself with the drug of denial than to begin the hard work of

acceptance

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A DIFFERENT DIRECTION

Te physician recommended I seek physical therapy He re-minded me this disease would take its toll over time to slow theprocess I needed to change my lifestyle Get more rest Exercisemore Start medication Eat well It was all so overwhelming

When I got up the courage I made an appointment with thephysical therapist I walked into the rehab hospital not knowing

what to expect I was blown away Hunchbacked patientsshaking violently were straining to remain balanced while they

walked Most were suffering with the visible effects of Lou Geh-rigrsquos disease multiple sclerosis or Parkinsonrsquos So many diseasesand disabilities were representedmdashyou name it and they had itI saw myself in them and I was scared

When the therapist called my name I jerked to attentionInstead of following him into the therapy session I ran out ofthe waiting room in tears I left and did not go back for a year Ihave never confessed this to anyone before now

Tis was not supposed to be my journey How could I face itI had no direction or sense of destination I didnrsquot even have

a compass Te nothingness I had felt earlier turned into a darkshadow of gray with shades of anger I was on a journey with noend in sight not one I wanted anyway Severe difficulties hadsuddenly been thrust on me and they hovered over my head likedarkening clouds in a storm Questions tormented me Will Idie Where is God in the midst of this Where is my courage

I went to see a neurologist who was also a member of our

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church After he confirmed the diagnosis he explained that Par-

kinsonrsquos is a disorder of the brain that leads to shaking and dif-ficulty with walking movement and coordination and it con-tinues to get worse Seeing the immediate tears in my eyes hecame to my side took me by the hand and said ldquoJust prayGlandion God will show you the wayrdquo

Even after two doctors confirmed the diagnosis it took me

twelve months to accept it During that year I concealed mydifficulties Even though my wife studied to learn more aboutthe disease I refused to do so I hid out like a fugitive I deniedeverything I foolishly thought that if I didnrsquot acknowledge thesymptoms they would just go away

One Sunday morning I was shaving in preparation for church

when I heard these words in my heart ldquoGlandion you donrsquottrust me You say you do but you donrsquot You masquerade andcover up your weaknesses You hide because you will not accept

what I have allowedrdquoIt was Jesus speaking to my heart at the deepest level It

wasnrsquot a harsh rebuke it was a gentle voice asking me to admit

my weakness and come to the truth Tat morning I stood before my congregation as associate

pastor and spoke these words ldquoAs your priest today I need tomake a confession I have Parkinsonrsquos disease I have been cov-ering up my weakness and I need to share it openly Irsquom tryingto accept it as a grace I hope you will pray for merdquo

Many came up afterward to speak to me ldquoMy weakness is

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drug addictionrdquo ldquoMy weakness is pornographyrdquo ldquoMy weakness

is controlling othersrdquo ldquoMy weakness is alcoholismrdquo We wepttogether held by a powerful cord of acceptance and confession

Te spiritual director in me wanted to sit down with each ofthem over a cup of coffee to validate their experiences of in-tegrity honesty and true confession You see my conviction isthat we donrsquot walk alone on the path of faith We explore it

together learning about grace trials and new beginnings Wemay have different paths on the journey but we all end at thesame destinationmdashthe discovery of Godrsquos faithfulness in

whatever we faceBut how could I express this truth to them when I had not

experienced it myself I admitted my weakness and began to

accept it Now I had to act on it It was the first step to healingand freedom Tere would be many others

A year after I initially visited that rehab hospital I returnedfor physical therapy Tis time I knew what to expect and I wasready to do the work Now what I noticed in the other tor-mented bodies was not their dysfunction but their eyes Teir

eyes conveyed hope courage and a will to overcome Te graceof acceptance allowed me to see them in a different light In-stead of running away from these fellow sufferers I was moti-

vated to join them And I was moved to offer up deep prayer forthem as a sign of accepting our common experience

Another turning point in this journey of acceptance was

the night my wife and I ate dinner at the home of my co-

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author Marjean Brooks and her husband Ricky After dinner

they shared a video with us saying it reminded them ofMarion and me In the video a man was sleeping on thecouch His wife talked excitedly about a new home im-provement tool as she walked up to the camera drawing us inShe guaranteed results and encouraged all viewers to watchher demonstrate Marion was getting interested She needed

some things done around the house and had been trying tomotivate me to do them

As the woman on the video spoke she rolled up a catalog inher hands When she finished her spiel she walked over to herreclining husband whacked his backside with the catalog and

yelled ldquoGet yorsquo butt uprdquo

Marion and I laughed hard at that unexpected ending In factthat line has been a standing joke with us ever since AfterwardI felt as if I had been prompted ldquoOkay Glandion when are you going to lsquoget yorsquo butt uprsquo and work on your liferdquo

Like the main character Much Afraid in the classic allegoryHindsrsquo Feet on High Places by Hannah Hurnard I glimpsed the

journey with all its peaks valleys and shadows Just as MuchAfraid took the hands of her companions Sorrow and SufferingI took the first step of acceptance Without realizing it I hadbeen blocking grace by refusing to be humbled Now I made thechoice to embrace a different way to live and a fresh power tolove through Godrsquos empowering grace I had no idea what lay

ahead But I was ready

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BEGINNING THE JOURNEY

In the course of Much Afraidrsquos journey to the High Places shefaced tremendous difficulties After each mountain was scaledor each terror was over she would put a small stone in the poucharound her waist Tey became trophies of grace remembrancesof all that the Shepherd had brought her through In the endthey were turned into beautiful jewels placed in a crown for her

to wearI havenrsquot picked up stones along my journey Instead God has

shown me many different aspects of grace that have spurred meon my way I have carried them until I am used to their weightin my backpack Tey once seemed heavy but now they are

weightless Tey are so much a part of me that I could not live

without them Godrsquos grace has been manifested to me in beau-tiful yet challenging ways He gives this kind of grace to all ofusmdashif we learn to recognize accept and embrace it to live vic-toriously in this world

eresa of Aacutevila a sixteenth-century Spanish mystic philos-opher and Catholic saint described the journey through dif-

ferent graces in her book Te Interior Castle

Let us imagine that there are many rooms in this castleof which some are above some below others at the sidein the centre in the very midst of them all is the principalchamber in which God and the soul hold their most secret

intercourse Tink over this comparison very carefully

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God grant it may enlighten you about the different kinds

of graces He is pleased to bestow upon the soul No onecan know all about them much less a person so ignorantas I am Te knowledge that such things are possible willconsole you greatly should our Lord ever grant you any ofthese favours2

As I began to look differently at my circumstances I wantedGod to show me all the rooms in my castle I especially wantedto see the principal chamber where he and I could hold the mostsecret intercourse And I was anxious to be enlightened aboutthe grace he would bestow

JESUS F ULL OF GRACE AND TRUTH

On this journey into grace I was led to see Jesus as one whoboth gave and modeled grace in his earthly life It started withhis acceptance to come to this world Philippians 10486261048630-1048632 speaksof his willingness to be humbled and to empty himself of therights of heaven in order to take his assignment on earth Chris

iegreen has explained this truth by writing ldquoJesus went fromheavenly riches to earthly rags from exaltation to humiliationfrom authority to obedience from ultimate significance to ul-timate rejection from comfort to hardship from safety to dangerfrom glory to sacrifice and from life to death And he calls us togo into the world in exactly the same way rdquo3

Jesusrsquo acceptance and obedience brought about the saving

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grace of God Grace is simply Godrsquos unmerited favor In other

words he gives us what we donrsquot deserve (grace) and doesnrsquot giveus what we do deserve (judgment) because of Jesusrsquo death on thecross But itrsquos more intimate than that Grace is Godrsquos blessingoverflowing into our lives o experience Godrsquos grace is to opengift upon gift of comfort companionship and empowerment Inhis grace God saves us strengthens us and sanctifies us He

freely offers us the gift of grace but we must accept it We celebrate grace and thank God for the liberating power

that comes to us through it But it doesnrsquot stop theremdashthere areother aspects of grace God longs to show us Te foreword tothe participantrsquos guide of Max Lucadorsquos book Grace reads ldquoWeknow grace as a noun but Max tells us to think of grace as a verb

It is an action Itrsquos not enough to read about grace we mustexperience itrdquo4

When he came to earth Jesus was ldquofull of grace and truthrdquo(John 104862510486251048628) And if we as believers have accepted him into ourlives then ldquofrom his fullness we have all received grace upongracerdquo (John 104862510486251048630) If Jesus is full of grace and truth and he is

in us then we too can experience lives full of grace and truth What a privilege

Te ldquoway of gracerdquo is the phrase I have used to describe the journey Whether we embark on this road is up to us It can bethe chosen path or a rejected course God offers it freely andopenly He will not force it on us

God issues an invitation to venture to a new land It is much

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like the children of Israel journeying to the Promised Land

Tere are dangers and giants in this foreign country but thereare also mysteries to be revealed and provisions along the waythat only God can give Te invitation is to cross over into theland of grace Te question is Will we go

THE GRACE OF A CCEPTANCE

Tis book is simply a recounting of the grace God has workedin my life Each chapter will highlight a different dimensionof grace much like the facets of a diamond My prayer is thatas you read you will find a new way to see the grace that isbeing offered in your own life whatever your place of difficultymay be

We start with the grace of acceptance (chapter one) for it wasthe first step of many in letting go of the control I thought I hadFor me it became a three-step process of acceptance submissionand relinquishment (continued in chapters two and three) Tegrace of acceptance is not a new concept but one that must beexperienced before moving on Godrsquos coming alongside to

extend grace not just once but every day humbles me as hepours out grace upon grace Acceptance is simply this I receiveGodrsquos invitation or offer and willingly embrace what he gives Icome to terms with the fact that I donrsquot have all the answers Iaccept his gift of grace even when it comes alongside illness

weakness or death I move from a place of depression self-pity

and denial into the grace of acceptance

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Tis is what I might have become had I not experienced this

gracebull an alcoholic abusing a substance in order to find peace

bull a bad husband seeking mental and emotional health fromothers while neglecting my wife

bull a disbelieving priest all the while acting out the role of a life

lived in faithAcceptance changed everything

bull Instead of thinking about death I began to embrace life

bull Instead of ignoring people who were handicapped I prayedfor them

bull

When I needed help I asked for it even from strangersbull Instead of hiding I tried to live openly and honestly about

my condition

bull Even though I still had tears I welcomed laughter

bull Instead of being afraid to open up to others I relished deephonest relationships

It was revolutionaryGrace enlarges the capacity of our heart It allows us to be

guided into truth It gives us courage to accept and a reason tocelebrate and opens our eyes to glimpse wonders from God Tefoundation for experiencing this unique call is the knowledge

that we are saved by grace live by grace and are filled with grace

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if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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A DIFFERENT DIRECTION

Te physician recommended I seek physical therapy He re-minded me this disease would take its toll over time to slow theprocess I needed to change my lifestyle Get more rest Exercisemore Start medication Eat well It was all so overwhelming

When I got up the courage I made an appointment with thephysical therapist I walked into the rehab hospital not knowing

what to expect I was blown away Hunchbacked patientsshaking violently were straining to remain balanced while they

walked Most were suffering with the visible effects of Lou Geh-rigrsquos disease multiple sclerosis or Parkinsonrsquos So many diseasesand disabilities were representedmdashyou name it and they had itI saw myself in them and I was scared

When the therapist called my name I jerked to attentionInstead of following him into the therapy session I ran out ofthe waiting room in tears I left and did not go back for a year Ihave never confessed this to anyone before now

Tis was not supposed to be my journey How could I face itI had no direction or sense of destination I didnrsquot even have

a compass Te nothingness I had felt earlier turned into a darkshadow of gray with shades of anger I was on a journey with noend in sight not one I wanted anyway Severe difficulties hadsuddenly been thrust on me and they hovered over my head likedarkening clouds in a storm Questions tormented me Will Idie Where is God in the midst of this Where is my courage

I went to see a neurologist who was also a member of our

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church After he confirmed the diagnosis he explained that Par-

kinsonrsquos is a disorder of the brain that leads to shaking and dif-ficulty with walking movement and coordination and it con-tinues to get worse Seeing the immediate tears in my eyes hecame to my side took me by the hand and said ldquoJust prayGlandion God will show you the wayrdquo

Even after two doctors confirmed the diagnosis it took me

twelve months to accept it During that year I concealed mydifficulties Even though my wife studied to learn more aboutthe disease I refused to do so I hid out like a fugitive I deniedeverything I foolishly thought that if I didnrsquot acknowledge thesymptoms they would just go away

One Sunday morning I was shaving in preparation for church

when I heard these words in my heart ldquoGlandion you donrsquottrust me You say you do but you donrsquot You masquerade andcover up your weaknesses You hide because you will not accept

what I have allowedrdquoIt was Jesus speaking to my heart at the deepest level It

wasnrsquot a harsh rebuke it was a gentle voice asking me to admit

my weakness and come to the truth Tat morning I stood before my congregation as associate

pastor and spoke these words ldquoAs your priest today I need tomake a confession I have Parkinsonrsquos disease I have been cov-ering up my weakness and I need to share it openly Irsquom tryingto accept it as a grace I hope you will pray for merdquo

Many came up afterward to speak to me ldquoMy weakness is

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drug addictionrdquo ldquoMy weakness is pornographyrdquo ldquoMy weakness

is controlling othersrdquo ldquoMy weakness is alcoholismrdquo We wepttogether held by a powerful cord of acceptance and confession

Te spiritual director in me wanted to sit down with each ofthem over a cup of coffee to validate their experiences of in-tegrity honesty and true confession You see my conviction isthat we donrsquot walk alone on the path of faith We explore it

together learning about grace trials and new beginnings Wemay have different paths on the journey but we all end at thesame destinationmdashthe discovery of Godrsquos faithfulness in

whatever we faceBut how could I express this truth to them when I had not

experienced it myself I admitted my weakness and began to

accept it Now I had to act on it It was the first step to healingand freedom Tere would be many others

A year after I initially visited that rehab hospital I returnedfor physical therapy Tis time I knew what to expect and I wasready to do the work Now what I noticed in the other tor-mented bodies was not their dysfunction but their eyes Teir

eyes conveyed hope courage and a will to overcome Te graceof acceptance allowed me to see them in a different light In-stead of running away from these fellow sufferers I was moti-

vated to join them And I was moved to offer up deep prayer forthem as a sign of accepting our common experience

Another turning point in this journey of acceptance was

the night my wife and I ate dinner at the home of my co-

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author Marjean Brooks and her husband Ricky After dinner

they shared a video with us saying it reminded them ofMarion and me In the video a man was sleeping on thecouch His wife talked excitedly about a new home im-provement tool as she walked up to the camera drawing us inShe guaranteed results and encouraged all viewers to watchher demonstrate Marion was getting interested She needed

some things done around the house and had been trying tomotivate me to do them

As the woman on the video spoke she rolled up a catalog inher hands When she finished her spiel she walked over to herreclining husband whacked his backside with the catalog and

yelled ldquoGet yorsquo butt uprdquo

Marion and I laughed hard at that unexpected ending In factthat line has been a standing joke with us ever since AfterwardI felt as if I had been prompted ldquoOkay Glandion when are you going to lsquoget yorsquo butt uprsquo and work on your liferdquo

Like the main character Much Afraid in the classic allegoryHindsrsquo Feet on High Places by Hannah Hurnard I glimpsed the

journey with all its peaks valleys and shadows Just as MuchAfraid took the hands of her companions Sorrow and SufferingI took the first step of acceptance Without realizing it I hadbeen blocking grace by refusing to be humbled Now I made thechoice to embrace a different way to live and a fresh power tolove through Godrsquos empowering grace I had no idea what lay

ahead But I was ready

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BEGINNING THE JOURNEY

In the course of Much Afraidrsquos journey to the High Places shefaced tremendous difficulties After each mountain was scaledor each terror was over she would put a small stone in the poucharound her waist Tey became trophies of grace remembrancesof all that the Shepherd had brought her through In the endthey were turned into beautiful jewels placed in a crown for her

to wearI havenrsquot picked up stones along my journey Instead God has

shown me many different aspects of grace that have spurred meon my way I have carried them until I am used to their weightin my backpack Tey once seemed heavy but now they are

weightless Tey are so much a part of me that I could not live

without them Godrsquos grace has been manifested to me in beau-tiful yet challenging ways He gives this kind of grace to all ofusmdashif we learn to recognize accept and embrace it to live vic-toriously in this world

eresa of Aacutevila a sixteenth-century Spanish mystic philos-opher and Catholic saint described the journey through dif-

ferent graces in her book Te Interior Castle

Let us imagine that there are many rooms in this castleof which some are above some below others at the sidein the centre in the very midst of them all is the principalchamber in which God and the soul hold their most secret

intercourse Tink over this comparison very carefully

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God grant it may enlighten you about the different kinds

of graces He is pleased to bestow upon the soul No onecan know all about them much less a person so ignorantas I am Te knowledge that such things are possible willconsole you greatly should our Lord ever grant you any ofthese favours2

As I began to look differently at my circumstances I wantedGod to show me all the rooms in my castle I especially wantedto see the principal chamber where he and I could hold the mostsecret intercourse And I was anxious to be enlightened aboutthe grace he would bestow

JESUS F ULL OF GRACE AND TRUTH

On this journey into grace I was led to see Jesus as one whoboth gave and modeled grace in his earthly life It started withhis acceptance to come to this world Philippians 10486261048630-1048632 speaksof his willingness to be humbled and to empty himself of therights of heaven in order to take his assignment on earth Chris

iegreen has explained this truth by writing ldquoJesus went fromheavenly riches to earthly rags from exaltation to humiliationfrom authority to obedience from ultimate significance to ul-timate rejection from comfort to hardship from safety to dangerfrom glory to sacrifice and from life to death And he calls us togo into the world in exactly the same way rdquo3

Jesusrsquo acceptance and obedience brought about the saving

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grace of God Grace is simply Godrsquos unmerited favor In other

words he gives us what we donrsquot deserve (grace) and doesnrsquot giveus what we do deserve (judgment) because of Jesusrsquo death on thecross But itrsquos more intimate than that Grace is Godrsquos blessingoverflowing into our lives o experience Godrsquos grace is to opengift upon gift of comfort companionship and empowerment Inhis grace God saves us strengthens us and sanctifies us He

freely offers us the gift of grace but we must accept it We celebrate grace and thank God for the liberating power

that comes to us through it But it doesnrsquot stop theremdashthere areother aspects of grace God longs to show us Te foreword tothe participantrsquos guide of Max Lucadorsquos book Grace reads ldquoWeknow grace as a noun but Max tells us to think of grace as a verb

It is an action Itrsquos not enough to read about grace we mustexperience itrdquo4

When he came to earth Jesus was ldquofull of grace and truthrdquo(John 104862510486251048628) And if we as believers have accepted him into ourlives then ldquofrom his fullness we have all received grace upongracerdquo (John 104862510486251048630) If Jesus is full of grace and truth and he is

in us then we too can experience lives full of grace and truth What a privilege

Te ldquoway of gracerdquo is the phrase I have used to describe the journey Whether we embark on this road is up to us It can bethe chosen path or a rejected course God offers it freely andopenly He will not force it on us

God issues an invitation to venture to a new land It is much

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like the children of Israel journeying to the Promised Land

Tere are dangers and giants in this foreign country but thereare also mysteries to be revealed and provisions along the waythat only God can give Te invitation is to cross over into theland of grace Te question is Will we go

THE GRACE OF A CCEPTANCE

Tis book is simply a recounting of the grace God has workedin my life Each chapter will highlight a different dimensionof grace much like the facets of a diamond My prayer is thatas you read you will find a new way to see the grace that isbeing offered in your own life whatever your place of difficultymay be

We start with the grace of acceptance (chapter one) for it wasthe first step of many in letting go of the control I thought I hadFor me it became a three-step process of acceptance submissionand relinquishment (continued in chapters two and three) Tegrace of acceptance is not a new concept but one that must beexperienced before moving on Godrsquos coming alongside to

extend grace not just once but every day humbles me as hepours out grace upon grace Acceptance is simply this I receiveGodrsquos invitation or offer and willingly embrace what he gives Icome to terms with the fact that I donrsquot have all the answers Iaccept his gift of grace even when it comes alongside illness

weakness or death I move from a place of depression self-pity

and denial into the grace of acceptance

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Tis is what I might have become had I not experienced this

gracebull an alcoholic abusing a substance in order to find peace

bull a bad husband seeking mental and emotional health fromothers while neglecting my wife

bull a disbelieving priest all the while acting out the role of a life

lived in faithAcceptance changed everything

bull Instead of thinking about death I began to embrace life

bull Instead of ignoring people who were handicapped I prayedfor them

bull

When I needed help I asked for it even from strangersbull Instead of hiding I tried to live openly and honestly about

my condition

bull Even though I still had tears I welcomed laughter

bull Instead of being afraid to open up to others I relished deephonest relationships

It was revolutionaryGrace enlarges the capacity of our heart It allows us to be

guided into truth It gives us courage to accept and a reason tocelebrate and opens our eyes to glimpse wonders from God Tefoundation for experiencing this unique call is the knowledge

that we are saved by grace live by grace and are filled with grace

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if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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church After he confirmed the diagnosis he explained that Par-

kinsonrsquos is a disorder of the brain that leads to shaking and dif-ficulty with walking movement and coordination and it con-tinues to get worse Seeing the immediate tears in my eyes hecame to my side took me by the hand and said ldquoJust prayGlandion God will show you the wayrdquo

Even after two doctors confirmed the diagnosis it took me

twelve months to accept it During that year I concealed mydifficulties Even though my wife studied to learn more aboutthe disease I refused to do so I hid out like a fugitive I deniedeverything I foolishly thought that if I didnrsquot acknowledge thesymptoms they would just go away

One Sunday morning I was shaving in preparation for church

when I heard these words in my heart ldquoGlandion you donrsquottrust me You say you do but you donrsquot You masquerade andcover up your weaknesses You hide because you will not accept

what I have allowedrdquoIt was Jesus speaking to my heart at the deepest level It

wasnrsquot a harsh rebuke it was a gentle voice asking me to admit

my weakness and come to the truth Tat morning I stood before my congregation as associate

pastor and spoke these words ldquoAs your priest today I need tomake a confession I have Parkinsonrsquos disease I have been cov-ering up my weakness and I need to share it openly Irsquom tryingto accept it as a grace I hope you will pray for merdquo

Many came up afterward to speak to me ldquoMy weakness is

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drug addictionrdquo ldquoMy weakness is pornographyrdquo ldquoMy weakness

is controlling othersrdquo ldquoMy weakness is alcoholismrdquo We wepttogether held by a powerful cord of acceptance and confession

Te spiritual director in me wanted to sit down with each ofthem over a cup of coffee to validate their experiences of in-tegrity honesty and true confession You see my conviction isthat we donrsquot walk alone on the path of faith We explore it

together learning about grace trials and new beginnings Wemay have different paths on the journey but we all end at thesame destinationmdashthe discovery of Godrsquos faithfulness in

whatever we faceBut how could I express this truth to them when I had not

experienced it myself I admitted my weakness and began to

accept it Now I had to act on it It was the first step to healingand freedom Tere would be many others

A year after I initially visited that rehab hospital I returnedfor physical therapy Tis time I knew what to expect and I wasready to do the work Now what I noticed in the other tor-mented bodies was not their dysfunction but their eyes Teir

eyes conveyed hope courage and a will to overcome Te graceof acceptance allowed me to see them in a different light In-stead of running away from these fellow sufferers I was moti-

vated to join them And I was moved to offer up deep prayer forthem as a sign of accepting our common experience

Another turning point in this journey of acceptance was

the night my wife and I ate dinner at the home of my co-

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author Marjean Brooks and her husband Ricky After dinner

they shared a video with us saying it reminded them ofMarion and me In the video a man was sleeping on thecouch His wife talked excitedly about a new home im-provement tool as she walked up to the camera drawing us inShe guaranteed results and encouraged all viewers to watchher demonstrate Marion was getting interested She needed

some things done around the house and had been trying tomotivate me to do them

As the woman on the video spoke she rolled up a catalog inher hands When she finished her spiel she walked over to herreclining husband whacked his backside with the catalog and

yelled ldquoGet yorsquo butt uprdquo

Marion and I laughed hard at that unexpected ending In factthat line has been a standing joke with us ever since AfterwardI felt as if I had been prompted ldquoOkay Glandion when are you going to lsquoget yorsquo butt uprsquo and work on your liferdquo

Like the main character Much Afraid in the classic allegoryHindsrsquo Feet on High Places by Hannah Hurnard I glimpsed the

journey with all its peaks valleys and shadows Just as MuchAfraid took the hands of her companions Sorrow and SufferingI took the first step of acceptance Without realizing it I hadbeen blocking grace by refusing to be humbled Now I made thechoice to embrace a different way to live and a fresh power tolove through Godrsquos empowering grace I had no idea what lay

ahead But I was ready

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BEGINNING THE JOURNEY

In the course of Much Afraidrsquos journey to the High Places shefaced tremendous difficulties After each mountain was scaledor each terror was over she would put a small stone in the poucharound her waist Tey became trophies of grace remembrancesof all that the Shepherd had brought her through In the endthey were turned into beautiful jewels placed in a crown for her

to wearI havenrsquot picked up stones along my journey Instead God has

shown me many different aspects of grace that have spurred meon my way I have carried them until I am used to their weightin my backpack Tey once seemed heavy but now they are

weightless Tey are so much a part of me that I could not live

without them Godrsquos grace has been manifested to me in beau-tiful yet challenging ways He gives this kind of grace to all ofusmdashif we learn to recognize accept and embrace it to live vic-toriously in this world

eresa of Aacutevila a sixteenth-century Spanish mystic philos-opher and Catholic saint described the journey through dif-

ferent graces in her book Te Interior Castle

Let us imagine that there are many rooms in this castleof which some are above some below others at the sidein the centre in the very midst of them all is the principalchamber in which God and the soul hold their most secret

intercourse Tink over this comparison very carefully

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God grant it may enlighten you about the different kinds

of graces He is pleased to bestow upon the soul No onecan know all about them much less a person so ignorantas I am Te knowledge that such things are possible willconsole you greatly should our Lord ever grant you any ofthese favours2

As I began to look differently at my circumstances I wantedGod to show me all the rooms in my castle I especially wantedto see the principal chamber where he and I could hold the mostsecret intercourse And I was anxious to be enlightened aboutthe grace he would bestow

JESUS F ULL OF GRACE AND TRUTH

On this journey into grace I was led to see Jesus as one whoboth gave and modeled grace in his earthly life It started withhis acceptance to come to this world Philippians 10486261048630-1048632 speaksof his willingness to be humbled and to empty himself of therights of heaven in order to take his assignment on earth Chris

iegreen has explained this truth by writing ldquoJesus went fromheavenly riches to earthly rags from exaltation to humiliationfrom authority to obedience from ultimate significance to ul-timate rejection from comfort to hardship from safety to dangerfrom glory to sacrifice and from life to death And he calls us togo into the world in exactly the same way rdquo3

Jesusrsquo acceptance and obedience brought about the saving

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grace of God Grace is simply Godrsquos unmerited favor In other

words he gives us what we donrsquot deserve (grace) and doesnrsquot giveus what we do deserve (judgment) because of Jesusrsquo death on thecross But itrsquos more intimate than that Grace is Godrsquos blessingoverflowing into our lives o experience Godrsquos grace is to opengift upon gift of comfort companionship and empowerment Inhis grace God saves us strengthens us and sanctifies us He

freely offers us the gift of grace but we must accept it We celebrate grace and thank God for the liberating power

that comes to us through it But it doesnrsquot stop theremdashthere areother aspects of grace God longs to show us Te foreword tothe participantrsquos guide of Max Lucadorsquos book Grace reads ldquoWeknow grace as a noun but Max tells us to think of grace as a verb

It is an action Itrsquos not enough to read about grace we mustexperience itrdquo4

When he came to earth Jesus was ldquofull of grace and truthrdquo(John 104862510486251048628) And if we as believers have accepted him into ourlives then ldquofrom his fullness we have all received grace upongracerdquo (John 104862510486251048630) If Jesus is full of grace and truth and he is

in us then we too can experience lives full of grace and truth What a privilege

Te ldquoway of gracerdquo is the phrase I have used to describe the journey Whether we embark on this road is up to us It can bethe chosen path or a rejected course God offers it freely andopenly He will not force it on us

God issues an invitation to venture to a new land It is much

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like the children of Israel journeying to the Promised Land

Tere are dangers and giants in this foreign country but thereare also mysteries to be revealed and provisions along the waythat only God can give Te invitation is to cross over into theland of grace Te question is Will we go

THE GRACE OF A CCEPTANCE

Tis book is simply a recounting of the grace God has workedin my life Each chapter will highlight a different dimensionof grace much like the facets of a diamond My prayer is thatas you read you will find a new way to see the grace that isbeing offered in your own life whatever your place of difficultymay be

We start with the grace of acceptance (chapter one) for it wasthe first step of many in letting go of the control I thought I hadFor me it became a three-step process of acceptance submissionand relinquishment (continued in chapters two and three) Tegrace of acceptance is not a new concept but one that must beexperienced before moving on Godrsquos coming alongside to

extend grace not just once but every day humbles me as hepours out grace upon grace Acceptance is simply this I receiveGodrsquos invitation or offer and willingly embrace what he gives Icome to terms with the fact that I donrsquot have all the answers Iaccept his gift of grace even when it comes alongside illness

weakness or death I move from a place of depression self-pity

and denial into the grace of acceptance

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Tis is what I might have become had I not experienced this

gracebull an alcoholic abusing a substance in order to find peace

bull a bad husband seeking mental and emotional health fromothers while neglecting my wife

bull a disbelieving priest all the while acting out the role of a life

lived in faithAcceptance changed everything

bull Instead of thinking about death I began to embrace life

bull Instead of ignoring people who were handicapped I prayedfor them

bull

When I needed help I asked for it even from strangersbull Instead of hiding I tried to live openly and honestly about

my condition

bull Even though I still had tears I welcomed laughter

bull Instead of being afraid to open up to others I relished deephonest relationships

It was revolutionaryGrace enlarges the capacity of our heart It allows us to be

guided into truth It gives us courage to accept and a reason tocelebrate and opens our eyes to glimpse wonders from God Tefoundation for experiencing this unique call is the knowledge

that we are saved by grace live by grace and are filled with grace

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if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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drug addictionrdquo ldquoMy weakness is pornographyrdquo ldquoMy weakness

is controlling othersrdquo ldquoMy weakness is alcoholismrdquo We wepttogether held by a powerful cord of acceptance and confession

Te spiritual director in me wanted to sit down with each ofthem over a cup of coffee to validate their experiences of in-tegrity honesty and true confession You see my conviction isthat we donrsquot walk alone on the path of faith We explore it

together learning about grace trials and new beginnings Wemay have different paths on the journey but we all end at thesame destinationmdashthe discovery of Godrsquos faithfulness in

whatever we faceBut how could I express this truth to them when I had not

experienced it myself I admitted my weakness and began to

accept it Now I had to act on it It was the first step to healingand freedom Tere would be many others

A year after I initially visited that rehab hospital I returnedfor physical therapy Tis time I knew what to expect and I wasready to do the work Now what I noticed in the other tor-mented bodies was not their dysfunction but their eyes Teir

eyes conveyed hope courage and a will to overcome Te graceof acceptance allowed me to see them in a different light In-stead of running away from these fellow sufferers I was moti-

vated to join them And I was moved to offer up deep prayer forthem as a sign of accepting our common experience

Another turning point in this journey of acceptance was

the night my wife and I ate dinner at the home of my co-

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author Marjean Brooks and her husband Ricky After dinner

they shared a video with us saying it reminded them ofMarion and me In the video a man was sleeping on thecouch His wife talked excitedly about a new home im-provement tool as she walked up to the camera drawing us inShe guaranteed results and encouraged all viewers to watchher demonstrate Marion was getting interested She needed

some things done around the house and had been trying tomotivate me to do them

As the woman on the video spoke she rolled up a catalog inher hands When she finished her spiel she walked over to herreclining husband whacked his backside with the catalog and

yelled ldquoGet yorsquo butt uprdquo

Marion and I laughed hard at that unexpected ending In factthat line has been a standing joke with us ever since AfterwardI felt as if I had been prompted ldquoOkay Glandion when are you going to lsquoget yorsquo butt uprsquo and work on your liferdquo

Like the main character Much Afraid in the classic allegoryHindsrsquo Feet on High Places by Hannah Hurnard I glimpsed the

journey with all its peaks valleys and shadows Just as MuchAfraid took the hands of her companions Sorrow and SufferingI took the first step of acceptance Without realizing it I hadbeen blocking grace by refusing to be humbled Now I made thechoice to embrace a different way to live and a fresh power tolove through Godrsquos empowering grace I had no idea what lay

ahead But I was ready

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BEGINNING THE JOURNEY

In the course of Much Afraidrsquos journey to the High Places shefaced tremendous difficulties After each mountain was scaledor each terror was over she would put a small stone in the poucharound her waist Tey became trophies of grace remembrancesof all that the Shepherd had brought her through In the endthey were turned into beautiful jewels placed in a crown for her

to wearI havenrsquot picked up stones along my journey Instead God has

shown me many different aspects of grace that have spurred meon my way I have carried them until I am used to their weightin my backpack Tey once seemed heavy but now they are

weightless Tey are so much a part of me that I could not live

without them Godrsquos grace has been manifested to me in beau-tiful yet challenging ways He gives this kind of grace to all ofusmdashif we learn to recognize accept and embrace it to live vic-toriously in this world

eresa of Aacutevila a sixteenth-century Spanish mystic philos-opher and Catholic saint described the journey through dif-

ferent graces in her book Te Interior Castle

Let us imagine that there are many rooms in this castleof which some are above some below others at the sidein the centre in the very midst of them all is the principalchamber in which God and the soul hold their most secret

intercourse Tink over this comparison very carefully

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God grant it may enlighten you about the different kinds

of graces He is pleased to bestow upon the soul No onecan know all about them much less a person so ignorantas I am Te knowledge that such things are possible willconsole you greatly should our Lord ever grant you any ofthese favours2

As I began to look differently at my circumstances I wantedGod to show me all the rooms in my castle I especially wantedto see the principal chamber where he and I could hold the mostsecret intercourse And I was anxious to be enlightened aboutthe grace he would bestow

JESUS F ULL OF GRACE AND TRUTH

On this journey into grace I was led to see Jesus as one whoboth gave and modeled grace in his earthly life It started withhis acceptance to come to this world Philippians 10486261048630-1048632 speaksof his willingness to be humbled and to empty himself of therights of heaven in order to take his assignment on earth Chris

iegreen has explained this truth by writing ldquoJesus went fromheavenly riches to earthly rags from exaltation to humiliationfrom authority to obedience from ultimate significance to ul-timate rejection from comfort to hardship from safety to dangerfrom glory to sacrifice and from life to death And he calls us togo into the world in exactly the same way rdquo3

Jesusrsquo acceptance and obedience brought about the saving

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grace of God Grace is simply Godrsquos unmerited favor In other

words he gives us what we donrsquot deserve (grace) and doesnrsquot giveus what we do deserve (judgment) because of Jesusrsquo death on thecross But itrsquos more intimate than that Grace is Godrsquos blessingoverflowing into our lives o experience Godrsquos grace is to opengift upon gift of comfort companionship and empowerment Inhis grace God saves us strengthens us and sanctifies us He

freely offers us the gift of grace but we must accept it We celebrate grace and thank God for the liberating power

that comes to us through it But it doesnrsquot stop theremdashthere areother aspects of grace God longs to show us Te foreword tothe participantrsquos guide of Max Lucadorsquos book Grace reads ldquoWeknow grace as a noun but Max tells us to think of grace as a verb

It is an action Itrsquos not enough to read about grace we mustexperience itrdquo4

When he came to earth Jesus was ldquofull of grace and truthrdquo(John 104862510486251048628) And if we as believers have accepted him into ourlives then ldquofrom his fullness we have all received grace upongracerdquo (John 104862510486251048630) If Jesus is full of grace and truth and he is

in us then we too can experience lives full of grace and truth What a privilege

Te ldquoway of gracerdquo is the phrase I have used to describe the journey Whether we embark on this road is up to us It can bethe chosen path or a rejected course God offers it freely andopenly He will not force it on us

God issues an invitation to venture to a new land It is much

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Facing Reality 983090983093

like the children of Israel journeying to the Promised Land

Tere are dangers and giants in this foreign country but thereare also mysteries to be revealed and provisions along the waythat only God can give Te invitation is to cross over into theland of grace Te question is Will we go

THE GRACE OF A CCEPTANCE

Tis book is simply a recounting of the grace God has workedin my life Each chapter will highlight a different dimensionof grace much like the facets of a diamond My prayer is thatas you read you will find a new way to see the grace that isbeing offered in your own life whatever your place of difficultymay be

We start with the grace of acceptance (chapter one) for it wasthe first step of many in letting go of the control I thought I hadFor me it became a three-step process of acceptance submissionand relinquishment (continued in chapters two and three) Tegrace of acceptance is not a new concept but one that must beexperienced before moving on Godrsquos coming alongside to

extend grace not just once but every day humbles me as hepours out grace upon grace Acceptance is simply this I receiveGodrsquos invitation or offer and willingly embrace what he gives Icome to terms with the fact that I donrsquot have all the answers Iaccept his gift of grace even when it comes alongside illness

weakness or death I move from a place of depression self-pity

and denial into the grace of acceptance

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Tis is what I might have become had I not experienced this

gracebull an alcoholic abusing a substance in order to find peace

bull a bad husband seeking mental and emotional health fromothers while neglecting my wife

bull a disbelieving priest all the while acting out the role of a life

lived in faithAcceptance changed everything

bull Instead of thinking about death I began to embrace life

bull Instead of ignoring people who were handicapped I prayedfor them

bull

When I needed help I asked for it even from strangersbull Instead of hiding I tried to live openly and honestly about

my condition

bull Even though I still had tears I welcomed laughter

bull Instead of being afraid to open up to others I relished deephonest relationships

It was revolutionaryGrace enlarges the capacity of our heart It allows us to be

guided into truth It gives us courage to accept and a reason tocelebrate and opens our eyes to glimpse wonders from God Tefoundation for experiencing this unique call is the knowledge

that we are saved by grace live by grace and are filled with grace

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Facing Reality 983090983095

if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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author Marjean Brooks and her husband Ricky After dinner

they shared a video with us saying it reminded them ofMarion and me In the video a man was sleeping on thecouch His wife talked excitedly about a new home im-provement tool as she walked up to the camera drawing us inShe guaranteed results and encouraged all viewers to watchher demonstrate Marion was getting interested She needed

some things done around the house and had been trying tomotivate me to do them

As the woman on the video spoke she rolled up a catalog inher hands When she finished her spiel she walked over to herreclining husband whacked his backside with the catalog and

yelled ldquoGet yorsquo butt uprdquo

Marion and I laughed hard at that unexpected ending In factthat line has been a standing joke with us ever since AfterwardI felt as if I had been prompted ldquoOkay Glandion when are you going to lsquoget yorsquo butt uprsquo and work on your liferdquo

Like the main character Much Afraid in the classic allegoryHindsrsquo Feet on High Places by Hannah Hurnard I glimpsed the

journey with all its peaks valleys and shadows Just as MuchAfraid took the hands of her companions Sorrow and SufferingI took the first step of acceptance Without realizing it I hadbeen blocking grace by refusing to be humbled Now I made thechoice to embrace a different way to live and a fresh power tolove through Godrsquos empowering grace I had no idea what lay

ahead But I was ready

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BEGINNING THE JOURNEY

In the course of Much Afraidrsquos journey to the High Places shefaced tremendous difficulties After each mountain was scaledor each terror was over she would put a small stone in the poucharound her waist Tey became trophies of grace remembrancesof all that the Shepherd had brought her through In the endthey were turned into beautiful jewels placed in a crown for her

to wearI havenrsquot picked up stones along my journey Instead God has

shown me many different aspects of grace that have spurred meon my way I have carried them until I am used to their weightin my backpack Tey once seemed heavy but now they are

weightless Tey are so much a part of me that I could not live

without them Godrsquos grace has been manifested to me in beau-tiful yet challenging ways He gives this kind of grace to all ofusmdashif we learn to recognize accept and embrace it to live vic-toriously in this world

eresa of Aacutevila a sixteenth-century Spanish mystic philos-opher and Catholic saint described the journey through dif-

ferent graces in her book Te Interior Castle

Let us imagine that there are many rooms in this castleof which some are above some below others at the sidein the centre in the very midst of them all is the principalchamber in which God and the soul hold their most secret

intercourse Tink over this comparison very carefully

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God grant it may enlighten you about the different kinds

of graces He is pleased to bestow upon the soul No onecan know all about them much less a person so ignorantas I am Te knowledge that such things are possible willconsole you greatly should our Lord ever grant you any ofthese favours2

As I began to look differently at my circumstances I wantedGod to show me all the rooms in my castle I especially wantedto see the principal chamber where he and I could hold the mostsecret intercourse And I was anxious to be enlightened aboutthe grace he would bestow

JESUS F ULL OF GRACE AND TRUTH

On this journey into grace I was led to see Jesus as one whoboth gave and modeled grace in his earthly life It started withhis acceptance to come to this world Philippians 10486261048630-1048632 speaksof his willingness to be humbled and to empty himself of therights of heaven in order to take his assignment on earth Chris

iegreen has explained this truth by writing ldquoJesus went fromheavenly riches to earthly rags from exaltation to humiliationfrom authority to obedience from ultimate significance to ul-timate rejection from comfort to hardship from safety to dangerfrom glory to sacrifice and from life to death And he calls us togo into the world in exactly the same way rdquo3

Jesusrsquo acceptance and obedience brought about the saving

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grace of God Grace is simply Godrsquos unmerited favor In other

words he gives us what we donrsquot deserve (grace) and doesnrsquot giveus what we do deserve (judgment) because of Jesusrsquo death on thecross But itrsquos more intimate than that Grace is Godrsquos blessingoverflowing into our lives o experience Godrsquos grace is to opengift upon gift of comfort companionship and empowerment Inhis grace God saves us strengthens us and sanctifies us He

freely offers us the gift of grace but we must accept it We celebrate grace and thank God for the liberating power

that comes to us through it But it doesnrsquot stop theremdashthere areother aspects of grace God longs to show us Te foreword tothe participantrsquos guide of Max Lucadorsquos book Grace reads ldquoWeknow grace as a noun but Max tells us to think of grace as a verb

It is an action Itrsquos not enough to read about grace we mustexperience itrdquo4

When he came to earth Jesus was ldquofull of grace and truthrdquo(John 104862510486251048628) And if we as believers have accepted him into ourlives then ldquofrom his fullness we have all received grace upongracerdquo (John 104862510486251048630) If Jesus is full of grace and truth and he is

in us then we too can experience lives full of grace and truth What a privilege

Te ldquoway of gracerdquo is the phrase I have used to describe the journey Whether we embark on this road is up to us It can bethe chosen path or a rejected course God offers it freely andopenly He will not force it on us

God issues an invitation to venture to a new land It is much

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Facing Reality 983090983093

like the children of Israel journeying to the Promised Land

Tere are dangers and giants in this foreign country but thereare also mysteries to be revealed and provisions along the waythat only God can give Te invitation is to cross over into theland of grace Te question is Will we go

THE GRACE OF A CCEPTANCE

Tis book is simply a recounting of the grace God has workedin my life Each chapter will highlight a different dimensionof grace much like the facets of a diamond My prayer is thatas you read you will find a new way to see the grace that isbeing offered in your own life whatever your place of difficultymay be

We start with the grace of acceptance (chapter one) for it wasthe first step of many in letting go of the control I thought I hadFor me it became a three-step process of acceptance submissionand relinquishment (continued in chapters two and three) Tegrace of acceptance is not a new concept but one that must beexperienced before moving on Godrsquos coming alongside to

extend grace not just once but every day humbles me as hepours out grace upon grace Acceptance is simply this I receiveGodrsquos invitation or offer and willingly embrace what he gives Icome to terms with the fact that I donrsquot have all the answers Iaccept his gift of grace even when it comes alongside illness

weakness or death I move from a place of depression self-pity

and denial into the grace of acceptance

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Tis is what I might have become had I not experienced this

gracebull an alcoholic abusing a substance in order to find peace

bull a bad husband seeking mental and emotional health fromothers while neglecting my wife

bull a disbelieving priest all the while acting out the role of a life

lived in faithAcceptance changed everything

bull Instead of thinking about death I began to embrace life

bull Instead of ignoring people who were handicapped I prayedfor them

bull

When I needed help I asked for it even from strangersbull Instead of hiding I tried to live openly and honestly about

my condition

bull Even though I still had tears I welcomed laughter

bull Instead of being afraid to open up to others I relished deephonest relationships

It was revolutionaryGrace enlarges the capacity of our heart It allows us to be

guided into truth It gives us courage to accept and a reason tocelebrate and opens our eyes to glimpse wonders from God Tefoundation for experiencing this unique call is the knowledge

that we are saved by grace live by grace and are filled with grace

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Facing Reality 983090983095

if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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BEGINNING THE JOURNEY

In the course of Much Afraidrsquos journey to the High Places shefaced tremendous difficulties After each mountain was scaledor each terror was over she would put a small stone in the poucharound her waist Tey became trophies of grace remembrancesof all that the Shepherd had brought her through In the endthey were turned into beautiful jewels placed in a crown for her

to wearI havenrsquot picked up stones along my journey Instead God has

shown me many different aspects of grace that have spurred meon my way I have carried them until I am used to their weightin my backpack Tey once seemed heavy but now they are

weightless Tey are so much a part of me that I could not live

without them Godrsquos grace has been manifested to me in beau-tiful yet challenging ways He gives this kind of grace to all ofusmdashif we learn to recognize accept and embrace it to live vic-toriously in this world

eresa of Aacutevila a sixteenth-century Spanish mystic philos-opher and Catholic saint described the journey through dif-

ferent graces in her book Te Interior Castle

Let us imagine that there are many rooms in this castleof which some are above some below others at the sidein the centre in the very midst of them all is the principalchamber in which God and the soul hold their most secret

intercourse Tink over this comparison very carefully

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Facing Reality 983090983091

God grant it may enlighten you about the different kinds

of graces He is pleased to bestow upon the soul No onecan know all about them much less a person so ignorantas I am Te knowledge that such things are possible willconsole you greatly should our Lord ever grant you any ofthese favours2

As I began to look differently at my circumstances I wantedGod to show me all the rooms in my castle I especially wantedto see the principal chamber where he and I could hold the mostsecret intercourse And I was anxious to be enlightened aboutthe grace he would bestow

JESUS F ULL OF GRACE AND TRUTH

On this journey into grace I was led to see Jesus as one whoboth gave and modeled grace in his earthly life It started withhis acceptance to come to this world Philippians 10486261048630-1048632 speaksof his willingness to be humbled and to empty himself of therights of heaven in order to take his assignment on earth Chris

iegreen has explained this truth by writing ldquoJesus went fromheavenly riches to earthly rags from exaltation to humiliationfrom authority to obedience from ultimate significance to ul-timate rejection from comfort to hardship from safety to dangerfrom glory to sacrifice and from life to death And he calls us togo into the world in exactly the same way rdquo3

Jesusrsquo acceptance and obedience brought about the saving

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grace of God Grace is simply Godrsquos unmerited favor In other

words he gives us what we donrsquot deserve (grace) and doesnrsquot giveus what we do deserve (judgment) because of Jesusrsquo death on thecross But itrsquos more intimate than that Grace is Godrsquos blessingoverflowing into our lives o experience Godrsquos grace is to opengift upon gift of comfort companionship and empowerment Inhis grace God saves us strengthens us and sanctifies us He

freely offers us the gift of grace but we must accept it We celebrate grace and thank God for the liberating power

that comes to us through it But it doesnrsquot stop theremdashthere areother aspects of grace God longs to show us Te foreword tothe participantrsquos guide of Max Lucadorsquos book Grace reads ldquoWeknow grace as a noun but Max tells us to think of grace as a verb

It is an action Itrsquos not enough to read about grace we mustexperience itrdquo4

When he came to earth Jesus was ldquofull of grace and truthrdquo(John 104862510486251048628) And if we as believers have accepted him into ourlives then ldquofrom his fullness we have all received grace upongracerdquo (John 104862510486251048630) If Jesus is full of grace and truth and he is

in us then we too can experience lives full of grace and truth What a privilege

Te ldquoway of gracerdquo is the phrase I have used to describe the journey Whether we embark on this road is up to us It can bethe chosen path or a rejected course God offers it freely andopenly He will not force it on us

God issues an invitation to venture to a new land It is much

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Facing Reality 983090983093

like the children of Israel journeying to the Promised Land

Tere are dangers and giants in this foreign country but thereare also mysteries to be revealed and provisions along the waythat only God can give Te invitation is to cross over into theland of grace Te question is Will we go

THE GRACE OF A CCEPTANCE

Tis book is simply a recounting of the grace God has workedin my life Each chapter will highlight a different dimensionof grace much like the facets of a diamond My prayer is thatas you read you will find a new way to see the grace that isbeing offered in your own life whatever your place of difficultymay be

We start with the grace of acceptance (chapter one) for it wasthe first step of many in letting go of the control I thought I hadFor me it became a three-step process of acceptance submissionand relinquishment (continued in chapters two and three) Tegrace of acceptance is not a new concept but one that must beexperienced before moving on Godrsquos coming alongside to

extend grace not just once but every day humbles me as hepours out grace upon grace Acceptance is simply this I receiveGodrsquos invitation or offer and willingly embrace what he gives Icome to terms with the fact that I donrsquot have all the answers Iaccept his gift of grace even when it comes alongside illness

weakness or death I move from a place of depression self-pity

and denial into the grace of acceptance

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Tis is what I might have become had I not experienced this

gracebull an alcoholic abusing a substance in order to find peace

bull a bad husband seeking mental and emotional health fromothers while neglecting my wife

bull a disbelieving priest all the while acting out the role of a life

lived in faithAcceptance changed everything

bull Instead of thinking about death I began to embrace life

bull Instead of ignoring people who were handicapped I prayedfor them

bull

When I needed help I asked for it even from strangersbull Instead of hiding I tried to live openly and honestly about

my condition

bull Even though I still had tears I welcomed laughter

bull Instead of being afraid to open up to others I relished deephonest relationships

It was revolutionaryGrace enlarges the capacity of our heart It allows us to be

guided into truth It gives us courage to accept and a reason tocelebrate and opens our eyes to glimpse wonders from God Tefoundation for experiencing this unique call is the knowledge

that we are saved by grace live by grace and are filled with grace

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Facing Reality 983090983095

if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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God grant it may enlighten you about the different kinds

of graces He is pleased to bestow upon the soul No onecan know all about them much less a person so ignorantas I am Te knowledge that such things are possible willconsole you greatly should our Lord ever grant you any ofthese favours2

As I began to look differently at my circumstances I wantedGod to show me all the rooms in my castle I especially wantedto see the principal chamber where he and I could hold the mostsecret intercourse And I was anxious to be enlightened aboutthe grace he would bestow

JESUS F ULL OF GRACE AND TRUTH

On this journey into grace I was led to see Jesus as one whoboth gave and modeled grace in his earthly life It started withhis acceptance to come to this world Philippians 10486261048630-1048632 speaksof his willingness to be humbled and to empty himself of therights of heaven in order to take his assignment on earth Chris

iegreen has explained this truth by writing ldquoJesus went fromheavenly riches to earthly rags from exaltation to humiliationfrom authority to obedience from ultimate significance to ul-timate rejection from comfort to hardship from safety to dangerfrom glory to sacrifice and from life to death And he calls us togo into the world in exactly the same way rdquo3

Jesusrsquo acceptance and obedience brought about the saving

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grace of God Grace is simply Godrsquos unmerited favor In other

words he gives us what we donrsquot deserve (grace) and doesnrsquot giveus what we do deserve (judgment) because of Jesusrsquo death on thecross But itrsquos more intimate than that Grace is Godrsquos blessingoverflowing into our lives o experience Godrsquos grace is to opengift upon gift of comfort companionship and empowerment Inhis grace God saves us strengthens us and sanctifies us He

freely offers us the gift of grace but we must accept it We celebrate grace and thank God for the liberating power

that comes to us through it But it doesnrsquot stop theremdashthere areother aspects of grace God longs to show us Te foreword tothe participantrsquos guide of Max Lucadorsquos book Grace reads ldquoWeknow grace as a noun but Max tells us to think of grace as a verb

It is an action Itrsquos not enough to read about grace we mustexperience itrdquo4

When he came to earth Jesus was ldquofull of grace and truthrdquo(John 104862510486251048628) And if we as believers have accepted him into ourlives then ldquofrom his fullness we have all received grace upongracerdquo (John 104862510486251048630) If Jesus is full of grace and truth and he is

in us then we too can experience lives full of grace and truth What a privilege

Te ldquoway of gracerdquo is the phrase I have used to describe the journey Whether we embark on this road is up to us It can bethe chosen path or a rejected course God offers it freely andopenly He will not force it on us

God issues an invitation to venture to a new land It is much

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Facing Reality 983090983093

like the children of Israel journeying to the Promised Land

Tere are dangers and giants in this foreign country but thereare also mysteries to be revealed and provisions along the waythat only God can give Te invitation is to cross over into theland of grace Te question is Will we go

THE GRACE OF A CCEPTANCE

Tis book is simply a recounting of the grace God has workedin my life Each chapter will highlight a different dimensionof grace much like the facets of a diamond My prayer is thatas you read you will find a new way to see the grace that isbeing offered in your own life whatever your place of difficultymay be

We start with the grace of acceptance (chapter one) for it wasthe first step of many in letting go of the control I thought I hadFor me it became a three-step process of acceptance submissionand relinquishment (continued in chapters two and three) Tegrace of acceptance is not a new concept but one that must beexperienced before moving on Godrsquos coming alongside to

extend grace not just once but every day humbles me as hepours out grace upon grace Acceptance is simply this I receiveGodrsquos invitation or offer and willingly embrace what he gives Icome to terms with the fact that I donrsquot have all the answers Iaccept his gift of grace even when it comes alongside illness

weakness or death I move from a place of depression self-pity

and denial into the grace of acceptance

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Tis is what I might have become had I not experienced this

gracebull an alcoholic abusing a substance in order to find peace

bull a bad husband seeking mental and emotional health fromothers while neglecting my wife

bull a disbelieving priest all the while acting out the role of a life

lived in faithAcceptance changed everything

bull Instead of thinking about death I began to embrace life

bull Instead of ignoring people who were handicapped I prayedfor them

bull

When I needed help I asked for it even from strangersbull Instead of hiding I tried to live openly and honestly about

my condition

bull Even though I still had tears I welcomed laughter

bull Instead of being afraid to open up to others I relished deephonest relationships

It was revolutionaryGrace enlarges the capacity of our heart It allows us to be

guided into truth It gives us courage to accept and a reason tocelebrate and opens our eyes to glimpse wonders from God Tefoundation for experiencing this unique call is the knowledge

that we are saved by grace live by grace and are filled with grace

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Facing Reality 983090983095

if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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983090983096 983144983141 W983137983161 983151983142 G983154 983137983139983141

are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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grace of God Grace is simply Godrsquos unmerited favor In other

words he gives us what we donrsquot deserve (grace) and doesnrsquot giveus what we do deserve (judgment) because of Jesusrsquo death on thecross But itrsquos more intimate than that Grace is Godrsquos blessingoverflowing into our lives o experience Godrsquos grace is to opengift upon gift of comfort companionship and empowerment Inhis grace God saves us strengthens us and sanctifies us He

freely offers us the gift of grace but we must accept it We celebrate grace and thank God for the liberating power

that comes to us through it But it doesnrsquot stop theremdashthere areother aspects of grace God longs to show us Te foreword tothe participantrsquos guide of Max Lucadorsquos book Grace reads ldquoWeknow grace as a noun but Max tells us to think of grace as a verb

It is an action Itrsquos not enough to read about grace we mustexperience itrdquo4

When he came to earth Jesus was ldquofull of grace and truthrdquo(John 104862510486251048628) And if we as believers have accepted him into ourlives then ldquofrom his fullness we have all received grace upongracerdquo (John 104862510486251048630) If Jesus is full of grace and truth and he is

in us then we too can experience lives full of grace and truth What a privilege

Te ldquoway of gracerdquo is the phrase I have used to describe the journey Whether we embark on this road is up to us It can bethe chosen path or a rejected course God offers it freely andopenly He will not force it on us

God issues an invitation to venture to a new land It is much

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like the children of Israel journeying to the Promised Land

Tere are dangers and giants in this foreign country but thereare also mysteries to be revealed and provisions along the waythat only God can give Te invitation is to cross over into theland of grace Te question is Will we go

THE GRACE OF A CCEPTANCE

Tis book is simply a recounting of the grace God has workedin my life Each chapter will highlight a different dimensionof grace much like the facets of a diamond My prayer is thatas you read you will find a new way to see the grace that isbeing offered in your own life whatever your place of difficultymay be

We start with the grace of acceptance (chapter one) for it wasthe first step of many in letting go of the control I thought I hadFor me it became a three-step process of acceptance submissionand relinquishment (continued in chapters two and three) Tegrace of acceptance is not a new concept but one that must beexperienced before moving on Godrsquos coming alongside to

extend grace not just once but every day humbles me as hepours out grace upon grace Acceptance is simply this I receiveGodrsquos invitation or offer and willingly embrace what he gives Icome to terms with the fact that I donrsquot have all the answers Iaccept his gift of grace even when it comes alongside illness

weakness or death I move from a place of depression self-pity

and denial into the grace of acceptance

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Tis is what I might have become had I not experienced this

gracebull an alcoholic abusing a substance in order to find peace

bull a bad husband seeking mental and emotional health fromothers while neglecting my wife

bull a disbelieving priest all the while acting out the role of a life

lived in faithAcceptance changed everything

bull Instead of thinking about death I began to embrace life

bull Instead of ignoring people who were handicapped I prayedfor them

bull

When I needed help I asked for it even from strangersbull Instead of hiding I tried to live openly and honestly about

my condition

bull Even though I still had tears I welcomed laughter

bull Instead of being afraid to open up to others I relished deephonest relationships

It was revolutionaryGrace enlarges the capacity of our heart It allows us to be

guided into truth It gives us courage to accept and a reason tocelebrate and opens our eyes to glimpse wonders from God Tefoundation for experiencing this unique call is the knowledge

that we are saved by grace live by grace and are filled with grace

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Facing Reality 983090983095

if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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like the children of Israel journeying to the Promised Land

Tere are dangers and giants in this foreign country but thereare also mysteries to be revealed and provisions along the waythat only God can give Te invitation is to cross over into theland of grace Te question is Will we go

THE GRACE OF A CCEPTANCE

Tis book is simply a recounting of the grace God has workedin my life Each chapter will highlight a different dimensionof grace much like the facets of a diamond My prayer is thatas you read you will find a new way to see the grace that isbeing offered in your own life whatever your place of difficultymay be

We start with the grace of acceptance (chapter one) for it wasthe first step of many in letting go of the control I thought I hadFor me it became a three-step process of acceptance submissionand relinquishment (continued in chapters two and three) Tegrace of acceptance is not a new concept but one that must beexperienced before moving on Godrsquos coming alongside to

extend grace not just once but every day humbles me as hepours out grace upon grace Acceptance is simply this I receiveGodrsquos invitation or offer and willingly embrace what he gives Icome to terms with the fact that I donrsquot have all the answers Iaccept his gift of grace even when it comes alongside illness

weakness or death I move from a place of depression self-pity

and denial into the grace of acceptance

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Tis is what I might have become had I not experienced this

gracebull an alcoholic abusing a substance in order to find peace

bull a bad husband seeking mental and emotional health fromothers while neglecting my wife

bull a disbelieving priest all the while acting out the role of a life

lived in faithAcceptance changed everything

bull Instead of thinking about death I began to embrace life

bull Instead of ignoring people who were handicapped I prayedfor them

bull

When I needed help I asked for it even from strangersbull Instead of hiding I tried to live openly and honestly about

my condition

bull Even though I still had tears I welcomed laughter

bull Instead of being afraid to open up to others I relished deephonest relationships

It was revolutionaryGrace enlarges the capacity of our heart It allows us to be

guided into truth It gives us courage to accept and a reason tocelebrate and opens our eyes to glimpse wonders from God Tefoundation for experiencing this unique call is the knowledge

that we are saved by grace live by grace and are filled with grace

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Facing Reality 983090983095

if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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Tis is what I might have become had I not experienced this

gracebull an alcoholic abusing a substance in order to find peace

bull a bad husband seeking mental and emotional health fromothers while neglecting my wife

bull a disbelieving priest all the while acting out the role of a life

lived in faithAcceptance changed everything

bull Instead of thinking about death I began to embrace life

bull Instead of ignoring people who were handicapped I prayedfor them

bull

When I needed help I asked for it even from strangersbull Instead of hiding I tried to live openly and honestly about

my condition

bull Even though I still had tears I welcomed laughter

bull Instead of being afraid to open up to others I relished deephonest relationships

It was revolutionaryGrace enlarges the capacity of our heart It allows us to be

guided into truth It gives us courage to accept and a reason tocelebrate and opens our eyes to glimpse wonders from God Tefoundation for experiencing this unique call is the knowledge

that we are saved by grace live by grace and are filled with grace

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Facing Reality 983090983095

if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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Facing Reality 983090983095

if we are in relationship with God through Jesus

I talked with Christian philosopher and friend Dallas Willardabout my struggle to understand grace He leaned his tall frametoward me gazed at me with his deep blue eyes and said ldquoGrace

you know doesnrsquot have to do with forgiveness of sins aloneGrace is for all of liferdquo

Another friend Richard Foster told me ldquoWhat happens

after grace Is there anything after grace Te answer is no thereis just gracerdquo Te greatest thing I want to experience and passon to others is the reality and totality of Godrsquos grace How toapply it to any situation and be nurtured and empowered by itIt is greater than we could ever imagine

R EFLECTION

What about you What is the circumstance or difficulty that ishard for you to embrace It may look completely different frommine but no one gets through life without a cross to bear athorn to embrace or a difficulty to overcome

I heard a unique story while traveling in Africa with a

Bedouin tribe It goes back hundreds of years wo Bedouin men were traveling in the desert and came across a man who had diedat an oasis One man asked ldquoHow could he have diedmdashhersquosright at the oasis Tere is shade to cover his body and plenty of

water to drinkrdquo Te other man replied ldquoHe died out of fear What he thought was a mirage was in fact realityrdquo

Let us not miss the waters of grace or faint beside them Tey

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983090983096 983144983141 W983137983161 983151983142 G983154 983137983139983141

are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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are not a mirage but true waters of refreshment and life As the

prophet Jeremiah wroteBlessed are those who trust in the L983151983154983140

whose trust is the L983151983154983140 Tey shall be like a tree planted by water

sending out its roots by a streamIt shall not fear when the heat comes

and its leaves shall stay greenin the year of drought it is not anxious

and it does not cease to bear fruit (Jeremiah 104862510486311048631-1048632)

A PPLICATION

ake five minutes to sit quietly and reflect o begin meditate

on John 104862510486251048628 10486251048630 ldquoAnd the Word became flesh and lived amongus and we have seen his glory the glory as of a fatherrsquos only sonfull of grace and truthrdquo ldquoFrom his fullness we have all receivedgrace upon gracerdquo

Meditate on the phrases ldquoJesus full of grace and truthrdquo andldquograce upon gracerdquo Say them over and over in your mind Tink of

them throughout the day when life becomes demanding Let the words become waters of refreshment overflowing into your life

Pray a simple prayer Jesus I thank you for your grace May you impart your gifts to me

Help me to recognize them and to apply your grace in every situation

Grant me the grace of acceptance for what Irsquom struggling with today

Amen

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