The Seven Elements of Charisma

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Chapter I

The Seven Elements Of Charisma

Charisma (n): a personal attractiveness that enables you to influence others

Seduction has always been the most talked about art and that is because it is more easily

!rasped" #earnin! the art of seduction is e$trospective (lookin! outward) while charisma is

introspective (lookin! inward)" Once it is developed it is a powerful tool that you can use toeasily influence the people around you" %ave you heard the story of the &ied &iper'"""

%e advanced to the counciltable:nd *&lease your honours++ said he *I+m able

*,y means of a secret charm to draw

*ll creatures livin! beneath the sun

*That creep or swim or fly or run*fter me so as you never saw-

*nd I chiefly use my charm*On creatures that do people harm

*The mole and toad and newt and viper.

*nd people call me the &ied &iper"++

T%E SE/E0 E#E1E0TS O2 C%3IS1

IT+S T%E S1E O#4 SCE03IO: 5ou and your friends want to han! out and !o to a club

but you want a club where the women are attractive and have some class" There mi!ht be

twenty or so ni!htclubs to choose from but with standards like these you really only have

four or five" nd for!et it as much as your optimisticadrenalinetestosterone self would

like to believe there is no such place as *Club Or!y"* ,ar hop all ni!ht and you+ll comecloser to findin! The #ost City of tlantis before you+ll find a club where the women that

ou+ve set your standards for are down for the one ni!ht action you+ve !ot on your mind"

6nless of course you+ve !ot some serious !ame" *7ame* translates in all cultures to a similar

state of mind: Charisma" ,ut what e$actly is Charisma' 8e+ll tell you what it+s not It+snot arro!ance" nd it+s not pretentiousness" It+s an aura that surrounds you that attracts

people to you" 7reat leaders in history understood this %itler entranced the small countryof 7ermany into followin! him in a pursuit of 8orld 4omination" The !reatest con artists

used charisma to lull their victims into sometimes !ivin! up fortunes and life savin!s" nd

actor+s on screen portray it in their carefully written lines and parts when in all realitythey may lack true charisma off the set" ,rad &itt has charisma on the screen and you canbet that he+s not as charismatic off it" nd remember Tom Cruise in Top 7un every !uy

wanted to be like him for years after that movie came out"


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,oth of these actors are merican icons their onscreen personas developed over the years

by numerous writers directors and people paid to teach *presence"* 5ou know the same

kind of people that instruct runway models how to enter a room and command the attentionof all 9ust by the way they carry themselves"

1aybe an easy way to make the word charisma understandable is to define it as knowin!

when to speak and what to say when you speak knowin! when not to speak and knowin! how

to carry yourself throu!hout " This takes discipline which is acuired with practice" ctors

are e$pected to rehearse the same parts over and over a!ain to !et thin!s 9ust ri!ht forthe camera" 8riters rewrite their pieces sometimes repeatedly before their scripts are

finally approved to be!in a film shoot"

s an e$ample of what we mention above look hard at the fine detail that %ollywood uses to

craft the *onscreen presence* of a main or central character" main or central character

must command attention throu!hout the film to hold the audience+s interest" The moreattention they command throu!h elements of intri!ue mystery and action the !reater

their onscreen presence " 1any elements !o in to this *onscreen presence* these are

elements of charisma"

,ut this is real life not %ollywood" In reality and as charisma applies to the social scene

and to the women involved in the social scene it+s all about diplomacy"

T%E 2I3ST E#E1E0T: &3ESE0CE

The first element of charisma is *presence"* &resence as used here refers to the ualityof commandin! respectful attention"

To further define presence think of it more specifically as how you carry yourself " &icturea #otus in a parkin! lot of 2ords" The #otus stands alone as a European sports car it+ssleek and stylishly detailed compared to the conservative and borin! 2ords" It+s not movin!

it+s not talkin! it+s not doin! a thin! and yet you+ve taken notice of it because of itsdetailed features" That is presence"

&resence is important""" It is the very first step to makin! a hi!hly effective first

impression" s numerous elements make up charisma so do numerous elements make uppresence"

8hat do you need to do create presence' The followin! steps will !et you well on your way:


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Ima!e is Everythin!: So &ay ttention to 4etail

; 4ress in a style that is considered fashionable" 8ear clothes that will !et you

compliments" 5ou care about your ima!e and it shows" 8hile it+s !ood to have an ima!e thatsays that you care about how you look you don+t have to e$actly mimic the trendy crowd

around you which by tradition is all +into looks+" ,e a little creative lookin! for those items

that will make your wardrobe more ori!inal than the avera!e welldressed !uy" ,utreco!ni


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ow let+s say that you prefer country music however where you work the

women are more

into hip hop""" The easiest way then to seduce these women is to first keep

your musical

preferences to yourself and second reco!niey Element In

2irstImpressions

2or the most part how you are re!arded by others is how people you come into

contact with

will re!ard you" ,ut if they don+t know you from dam if you+re a complete

stran!er to

them then they will subconsciously pre9ud!e you and form an early opinion oyou before

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It is human instinct to look for patterns in the world around us" It is

psycholo!ical it is

subconscious" 8e relate the situations we+re presented with based on our

passede$periences"

8hen creatin! an aura of charisma you+re usin! this instinct to your advanta!e

(which most

people can+t control because they+re unaware that it is somethin! happenin! in

their

subconscious)" %ere+s an analo!y: If you look like a thu! you+ll be pre9ud!edas probably

bein! a thu!" If you look like your !ay you+ll be pre9ud!ed as probably bein!

!ay" nd if you

look like a charismatic person used to respect and even admiration you will be

re ud ed as

1any elements make up charisma. presence is but one" 1ost people don+t understand the

charismatic persona and can only assume that it comes naturally to some people" 1aybe for a

ery rare and select few" 2or the rest of us it is an acuired art somethin! that wepractice in our daily encounters with others until it is developed over time" Charisma opens

many doors and will !et you into many places otherwise far off limits" It is a very influentialtool when you want somethin!" Of the three arts we !o over Charisma is the most powerful "

8e discuss it indepth first because the other two arts reuire it to be truly effective

(interestin!ly charisma and how it applies to meetin! and datin! women is overlooked in

even the most popular selfhelp books on the current market")


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T%E SECO04 E#E1E0T: 3E7# ,E3I07

,earin! (n) : The manner in which one carries or conducts oneselfThe most inclusive of the elements bearin! applies to both physical posture and !eneral

conduct: *%e has the poise and bearin! of a champion"*

,earin!: Standin! Tall

; The way you carry yourself will often determine how you are treated" If you carry

ourself as if you+re a person aware of social !races and if you carry yourself as if you+re a

person of presti!e (you+re used to havin! respect) for the most part you will be re!arded in

the same fashion" ct like an important person to be treated like one"

T%E T%I34 E#E1E0T: 100E3

1anner (n) : a way of actin! or behavin!

If your presence and re!al bearin! have !iven women the impression that

you+re an

important person and that you+re considered an important person by others

manner as we

use it here refers to how you act and behave in relation" 8hat then is the

manner of a

charismatic persona'

5ou put thou!ht into your words and actions you base what you do and say

on how the

other person will most likely react"

; ,efore speakin! to a person you ask yourself: %ow is this person !oin! to

interpret my

ne$t few words' 8hat kind of effect are they !oin! to have' 8hat effect is it

that I+m

!oin! for' 8ill I sound like I know what I+m talkin! about' Or will I sound

like a fool' 8ill I

sound confident' Or will I sound cocky' 8ill I sound sincere or will I sound

fake' 8ill Icome across as a !ood conversationalist someone who listens more than he

speaks' Or will I

seem as thou!h I talk too much and therefore am not a !ood conversationalist'

charismatic persona is thou!ht of as bein! a !ood conversationalist amon! other thin!s

and for you to continue to !ive off the aura of charisma that you initially !ave off with your

presence and re!al bearin! then you need to be !ood at conversation" If you foul up theconversation process then your whole charismatic presence and re!al bearin! are thrown

out the window" nd now that this woman has met you she+s made a new 9ud!ement of you"

On the other hand if you are (or at least seem to be) an e$ceptional conversationalist the

charismatic effect that you are !oin! for will only be hei!htened"


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T%E 2O63T% E#E1E0T: 2I0ESSE

2inesse (n): 3efinement and delicacy of performance e$ecution or artisanship,y now you+ve reali


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The attraction of eni!ma can be e$plained as follows: It invites layers of interpretation

e$cites women+s ima!ination deceives them into believin! that it conceals somethin!e$citin!"

In the datin! ? relationship arena if you+ve !ot true charisma women will come to you " They

can read by your presence bearin! and manner if you+re the rare kind of !uy that is used

to havin! women pursue him as a person with true charisma is and in a woman+s

subconscious mind her dream !uy (1r" 3i!ht) is a !uy with true charisma " (1ost womennever meet their dream !uy") So if you put off the aura suddenly her ima!ination is !oin! to

take over and she+s !oin! to wonder" " " Take note she hasn+t even met you and

subconsciously she+s already comparin! you to 1r" 3i!ht" In the end her ima!ination fuels

the attraction"

Ima!ination" " " This is why eni!ma is a powerful element of charisma" It was one of

Casanova+s secrets women who had heard of his accomplishments wondered what made him

so romantically successful" Their ima!inations i!nited they had to find out for themselves"Scholars like to say that it was Casanova+s skills of seduction that landed him all his women

but seduction really didn+t have much to do with it in this case" %e+d never met thesewomen and yet they wanted to !et with him" *&opularity* is a common result of charisma" In

this case it elevated Casanova to near celebrity status"

There you are with your presence bearin! manner and finesse women notice you andthink 8hat is it about him that makes him stand out' 8hy does he look so confident' %e

looks like a success in life" " " 8hat is it about him'

Eni!ma: 1ystery in the 1akin!

; 0ever make it too clear what you are doin! or about to do" 0ever reveal your plans or

intentions"

; 4on+t show all your cards" >eep thin!s back by bein! purposely va!ue"

; ,e subtly unpredictable" 2ocus on the little thin!s: If you+re out on the ni!htscene mi$ up

our selection of drinks from time to time. don+t freuent the same clubs. chan!e your

appearance sli!htly. !row a !oatee for a few days. don+t return a phone call immediately

return a phone call immediately" 1ake plans and be early the ne$t time be late. etc" " "


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; Important people impress by sayin! less you should keep your words to a minimum 9ust

enou!h to keep the conversation rollin!""" nd don+t volunteer much information about

ourself instead !et her to volunteer information about herself " ,ut do this in a way that

doesn+t make you seem too inuisitive or too interested both si!ns of someone with littleselfcontrol and therefore someone lackin! true charisma" The key here to this

conversation is to be casual and nona!!ressive " To accomplish the casual nona!!ressive

attitude one trick is to make yourself believe that you+re not interested in her unless she!oes out of her way to impress you" 1ake her *sell* herself to you with her words andpersonality " (8hen it+s all said and done she should be thinkin! that you were a *!reat

person to talk to* and then she+ll reali


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4iplomacy: The Secret to %i!hly Effective Social Skills

; 0ever 9oke about someone else+s appearances or taste !enerally two hi!hly sensitiveareas"

; 7ive compliments" #ook for one or two ualities about a woman that make her stand out" It

can be somethin! in her personality or simply the way she wears her eyeliner" ,y e$pressin!compliments you subconsciously call attention to thin!s to compliment you on (even if she

doesn+t say them aloud)" The ability to e$press compliments and be sincere is a rare talentand usually she+ll really appreciate it"

; ,e selfobservant" %old up a mirror to your words and actions" This can sometimes come

from other people tellin! you what they see in you but that+s not the most trustworthymethod" 5ou must learn to put yourself in other people+s shoes and see yourself as they see

ou" re you kissin!ass' re you actin! toocool' 4o you seem tooserious' re you actin!

toocomical' 4o you seem desperate for attention' ,y keepin! an eye on your words and

actions you will avoid a thousand mistakes"

; &ractice modesty" 8hile it+s !ood to make your talents known you can easily come acrossas bra!!in! if you+re not careful" ll bra!!in! will do is !et you brushed away no one likes

hearin! it"

; 1aster your emotions Aust like an actor you must learn to cry and lau!h on commandwhen it+s appropriate" 5ou must be able to dis!uise your an!er and frustration and to fake

our satisfaction and a!reement" 6se the same skills to cover up any nervousness you may

e$perience If you+re ever even sli!htly nervous hide it by focusin! on appearin! confident

look the other person in the eye speak clearly and audibly (don+t mumble or stutter)

force a sincere smile"

; #earn to be sensitive to the other person listenin! for what they+re really sayin!"

; #earn to make people feel !ood about themselves (but do it subtly as if you+re unaware

that this is what you+re doin! remember eni!ma and make them wonder" " ")"

These are the social skills your parents never tau!ht you" In one word they all represent

charm" Think about it !uy with sincere charm is usually liked by all" %e+s careful never to

insult never seems overbearin! he+s always sensitive to the other person+s likes and

dislikes and he never suffers social mishaps because he+s constantly aware of what theeffects will be of his words and actions"


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T%E SE/E0T% E#E1E0T: ##63E

llure (n): the power to entice or attract throu!h personal charm

h the last of the elements" It is the essence of charisma" ,ut without the other elements

it would never be reached" 8hen we+ve mentioned *aura* as a part of charisma allure is

that aura" It is infective" 8omen and !uys alike are drawn in" Suddenly you find yourselfsurrounded by many friends and !irlfriends (*!roupies*)" nd once in your presence (The

2irst Element) it+s hard for them to distance themselves as lon! as you continue to payattention to each individual element" 2or e$ample diplomacy: 8hen you e$cel in diplomacy

(The Si$th Element) you learn to make others feel better about themselves becomin! a

source of pleasure to them" In fact they !row dependent on your manner (The Third

Element) to feel !ood about themselves" 5ou may call them friends but psycholo!ically theybecome your followers" Other people read this and eni!ma kicks in and hei!htens the

effect: these other people start to wonder subconsciously: There must be somethin!

e$ceptional (*cool* or *charmin!*) about you that+s makin! people want to be around you" " "

8hat is it' Ima!inations start to race"

Suddenly we+ve revealed the truth to you charisma and manipulation are very similar" tthe be!innin! of this article we !ave you a dictionary definition for the word charisma:

Charisma (n): a personal attractiveness that enables you to influence others

nd now we+ll do the same for manipulation:1anipulation (n): e$ertin! shrewd or devious influence especially for one+s own advanta!e If

manipulation is a skill that is learned then so is charisma" Con artists it can be said are the

epitome of manipulation" 8hen you think of a manipulator you probably think of some slick

talkin! salesman or womani

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