the nine personalitytypes

a. they are idealists – world of truth, justice and moral order

b. often gifted leaders, who strive to go forward, following a good modelc. they have hard time accepting their own

and other people’s imperfectionsd. childhood: tried to be model children

- “be good”, “behave yourself”, “try hard”, “do it better”

type one. The Need to be Perfect

e. often one of the parents is moralistic, perfectionist or eternally dissatisfied

f. a major role is played by training cleanliness

g. try to be good so that we won’t be punished

h. too soon they have had to act like adults- they have to take on responsibility very early on or as oldest child they had to take over and become a role model for the younger brothers and sisters

a. employ their gifts for the needs of others b. can share generously and give “their last

shirt” for others c. childhood: real security and a feeling of

having a home were sometimes lacking- the love of important persons in their life had to be bought by good behaviourd. they had to make themselves useful in order to be noticed and lovede. if their love is not returned, they feel betrayed and exploited

type two. The Need to be Needed

f. it was beautiful to be needed that they really couldn’t resist and said yes

g. can cry easily because they are sensitive and emotional

h. they change continually in order to meet the needs of whatever person may be present – “multiple self”

i. tend to label people as their “friends” very quickly

j. they are inclined to give good advice too quickly and to offer promising

solutions k. they like to flatter and affirm other people

a. cause them to radiate an ease and assurance that inspire confidence

b. they have an easy time getting jobs done efficiently and competently

c. “I am good when I win” – show-people, achievers, careerists, status-seekers

d. many 3’s are also physically attractive e. seem optimistic, youthful, intelligent,

dynamic and productive f. successful types who go through the world

smiling

type three. The Need to Succeed

g. they like to talk about their successful moments

h. they do everything for praise

a. put their gift to work to awaken a sense of beauty and harmony in their surroundings

b. artistically gifted – they can express their feelings in dance, music, painting, the theater or literature

c. they grasp the moods and feelings of other people

d. they are by nature ecumenically oriented e. at home in the realm of the unconscious,

of symbols and dreams than in the real world

type four. The Need to be Special

f. they strive to be aesthetically attractive, to be exceptional, to be creative

g. childhood: often had the experience of the present being unbearable and

meaningless – e.g. a very painful experience of loss

h. they are ruled by a hidden shame – thereby they keep producing situations in which they are rejected or abandoned

i. they usually feel themselves to be strangers and outsiders by nature

j. they are easy to recognize – they have the tendency to wear odd clothes

k. longing is more important than having – as soon as they possess the object of their desire, they are generally disappointed

l. Hate everything that is stale, old-fashioned, plain, average, styleless and “normal”

a. being open and receptive to new facts and impressions

b. good listeners because they pay close attention

c. contemplative gifts – quite inner power and are tender, gentle and polite

d. their primary experience is a sort of emptiness

e. as children they perceive a little tenderness and intimacy

type five. The Need to Perceive

f. their own capacity to show their feelings or express them physically remained underdeveloped

g. go through life and gather what they can get – obsessed with taking

h. can hoard the most remarkable things: books, stamps, old newspapers etc.

i. most are introverts – monks, ascetics, bookworms, librarians

j. they often wear glasses

k. often were connected to those who are absent than to those who are present

l. they communicate as little as possible but they listen well to what other people

say m. they protect their private spheres

a. they are cooperative, team players, reliable

b. their friendship are marked by warm-hearted and deep feelings

c. they do their utmost, give body and soul, for the people they love

d. know how to combine holding on to sound traditions

e. they easily succumb to self-doubt

type six. The Need for Security/ Certainty

f. emotionally dependent on others g. childhood: many were punished or

beaten without evident reason h. the lack of genuine self-confidence leads

them looking for authorities i. they are pessimist and anxious about

success j. they have hard time accepting praise –

they suspect there’s a trick behind it

a. people who radiate joy and optimism b. they give the impression that there’s

enough of everything beautiful and good c. they have an infectious sense of humor

and can laugh at themselves d. they repressed or whitewashed their

negative and painful experience e. they need change, stimulation, new

experiences

type seven. The Need to avoid Pain

f. their chatter and storytelling mystifies and fascinates

g. they don’t mind carrying out several interesting jobs at the same time

a. impress us as strong and mighty b. have a second sense for justice and truth c. a rock of reliableness for others and

develop a tremendous sense of responsibility and solicitude

d. they want to be bad boys and bad girls e. childhood: the experience of being

repressed or pushed around f. developed the feeling that the strong rule

the world

type eight. The Need to be Against

g. they have a hard time admitting mistakes – don’t find it easy to ask for forgiveness

h. they seek conflict or come right out and create it

i. often take side with the oppressed and defenseless

j. usually express their anger immediately and directly

k. outstanding of playing cards and competitive sports

a. they are peacemakers b. have the gift of accepting others without

prejudice c. they express harsh truths calmly d. can do a little of everything but are never

masters e. they don’t consider themselves important

enough to display their talents in front of other people

type nine. The Need to Avoid

f. childhood: they were overlooked or “swamped” – ignored or rejected

g. prefer the path of least resistance h. they are honest, they have no hidden

motives