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The Home is a blessing, Allah says:The Home is a blessing, Allah says:

“And Allah has made for you in your homes an abode…”

[al-Nahl 16:80]

Ibn Katheer says:Ibn Katheer says:

““Here Allaah is mentioning Here Allaah is mentioning His complete blessing to His complete blessing to His slaves: His slaves:

He has given them homes He has given them homes which are a peaceful which are a peaceful abode for them, to which abode for them, to which they retreat as a haven they retreat as a haven which covers them and which covers them and gives them all kinds of gives them all kinds of benefits.”benefits.”

There are many motives for a Believer to pay There are many motives for a Believer to pay attention to putting his house in order such as:attention to putting his house in order such as:

..Protecting himself and his family Protecting himself and his family from the Fire of Hell, and keeping from the Fire of Hell, and keeping them safe from the burning them safe from the burning punishment: punishment:

““O you who believe! Ward off from O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Commands they receive from Allaah, but do that which they are Allaah, but do that which they are commanded.” commanded.”

[al-Tahreem 66:6 ][al-Tahreem 66:6 ]

Also Also the great responsibility borne by the the great responsibility borne by the head of the household on the Day of head of the household on the Day of

Reckoning.Reckoning.

The Prophet said:The Prophet said:

““Allah will ask every shepherd Allah will ask every shepherd or responsible person or responsible person about those for whom he about those for whom he was responsible, whether was responsible, whether he took care of it or he took care of it or neglected it..”neglected it..”

The home is a place to protect oneself, to keep away from evil and to keep The home is a place to protect oneself, to keep away from evil and to keep one's own evil away from people. It is the refuge prescribed by Islam at one's own evil away from people. It is the refuge prescribed by Islam at

times of fitnah times of fitnah

The Prophet said: The Prophet said:

““Blessed is the one who controls his Blessed is the one who controls his tongue, whose house is sufficient for tongue, whose house is sufficient for him, and who weeps over his him, and who weeps over his mistakes.”mistakes.”

The Prophet said: The Prophet said:

““There are five things, whoever does There are five things, whoever does one of them, Allaah will be with him: one of them, Allaah will be with him: visiting the sick, going out for jihaad, visiting the sick, going out for jihaad, entering upon his leader with the entering upon his leader with the intention of rebuking and respecting intention of rebuking and respecting him , or sitting in his home so that him , or sitting in his home so that the people are safe from him and he the people are safe from him and he is safe from the people.”is safe from the people.”

The Prophet said: The Prophet said:

““The safety of a man at times of fitnah The safety of a man at times of fitnah is in his staying home.”is in his staying home.”

Finally the following also contribute in making the Finally the following also contribute in making the home a blessing:home a blessing:

People usually spend most People usually spend most of their time at homeof their time at home

Paying attention to the Paying attention to the home is the most home is the most important means of important means of building a Muslim society, building a Muslim society, because the society is because the society is formed of the households formed of the households and families that form its and families that form its building blocks. building blocks.

First step in Establishing the First step in Establishing the Muslim Home:Muslim Home:

Forming the Muslim Forming the Muslim HouseholdHousehold

Forming the household begind with choosing a good Forming the household begind with choosing a good mate. Allah says:mate. Allah says:

““And marry those among you who And marry those among you who are single (i.e., a man who has are single (i.e., a man who has no wife and a woman who has no wife and a woman who has no husband) and (also marry) no husband) and (also marry) the saalihoon (pious, fit and the saalihoon (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid-servants slaves and maid-servants (female slaves). If they be poor, (female slaves). If they be poor, Allaah will enrich them out of His Allaah will enrich them out of His Bounty. And Allaah is All-Bounty. And Allaah is All-Sufficient for His creatures’ Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All-Knowing (about the needs, All-Knowing (about the state of the people).” state of the people).”

[al-Noor 24:32 ].[al-Noor 24:32 ].

When choosing a wife consider the following as When choosing a wife consider the following as taught to us by the Prophet (sa):taught to us by the Prophet (sa):

““A woman may be married A woman may be married for four things: her for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her wealth, her lineage, her beauty or her religion. beauty or her religion. Choose the one who is Choose the one who is religious, may your hands religious, may your hands be rubbed with dust ”be rubbed with dust ”

(Agreed upon).(Agreed upon).

““This world is all temporary This world is all temporary conveniences, and the conveniences, and the greatest joy in this life is a greatest joy in this life is a righteous wife.”righteous wife.”

(Reported by Muslim).(Reported by Muslim).

Also The Prophet Said:Also The Prophet Said:

Let every one of you have a Let every one of you have a thankful heart, a remembering thankful heart, a remembering tongue [remembering Allaah] tongue [remembering Allaah] and a believing wife who will and a believing wife who will help him with regard to the help him with regard to the Hereafter.” Hereafter.”

(Reported by Ahmad,).(Reported by Ahmad,).

According to another report: According to another report:

““A righteous wife to help you with A righteous wife to help you with your worldly and religious affairs your worldly and religious affairs is the best treasure anyone is the best treasure anyone could have.” could have.”

(Reported by al-Bayhaqi).(Reported by al-Bayhaqi).

And Finally:And Finally:

““Marry one who is loving and Marry one who is loving and fertile, for I will be proud fertile, for I will be proud before the other Prophets of before the other Prophets of your great numbers on the your great numbers on the Day of Resurrection.”Day of Resurrection.”

(Reported by Ahmad).(Reported by Ahmad).

““I advise you to marry virgins, I advise you to marry virgins, for their wombs are more for their wombs are more fresh, their mouths are more fresh, their mouths are more sweet and they are more sweet and they are more content with little.” According content with little.” According to another report: “… and to another report: “… and they are less likely to they are less likely to deceive.” deceive.”

(Reported by Ibn Maajah)(Reported by Ibn Maajah)

In addition women must look closely at the men:In addition women must look closely at the men:

The Prophet said: The Prophet said:

““If there comes to you one If there comes to you one with whose religion and with whose religion and character you are character you are pleased, then marry your pleased, then marry your daughter [or sister, etc.] daughter [or sister, etc.] to him, otherwise there to him, otherwise there will be fitnah and great will be fitnah and great corruption in the land.”corruption in the land.”

Also Remember to seek only:Also Remember to seek only:

The most PiousThe most Pious

The Most CapableThe Most Capable

The Most fitThe Most fit

Dont settle for less!Dont settle for less!

Also Keep in mind:Also Keep in mind:

If one's wife is righteous, If one's wife is righteous, this is a blessing indeed, this is a blessing indeed, and this is from the and this is from the Bounty of Allaah. If she is Bounty of Allaah. If she is not that righteous, then it not that righteous, then it is the duty of the head of is the duty of the head of the household to strive to the household to strive to guide herguide her

Guide her by doin the following:Guide her by doin the following:

Paying attention to correcting her Paying attention to correcting her worship of Allaah in all its worship of Allaah in all its aspectsaspects

encouraging her to pray at night encouraging her to pray at night (qiyaam al-layl)(qiyaam al-layl)

encouraging her to read Qur’aanencouraging her to read Qur’aan

encouraging her to memorize encouraging her to memorize supplications and remember the supplications and remember the appropriate times and occasions appropriate times and occasions for saying themfor saying them

encouraging her to give charityencouraging her to give charity

encouraging her to read useful encouraging her to read useful Islamic booksIslamic books

Also:Also:

Encouraging her to listen to useful Encouraging her to listen to useful Islamic cassettes that can Islamic cassettes that can increase knowledge and increase knowledge and strengthen eemaan – and strengthen eemaan – and continuing to supply her with continuing to supply her with them.them.

choosing good, religious friends for choosing good, religious friends for her, with whom she can form ties her, with whom she can form ties of sisterhood and have good of sisterhood and have good conversations and purposeful conversations and purposeful visits.visits.

protecting her from evil and blocking protecting her from evil and blocking off all avenues for it to reach her, off all avenues for it to reach her, by keeping her away from bad by keeping her away from bad companions and bad places.companions and bad places.

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