Hello, my friends.

As I sit here writing this article, my heart is heavy and my eyes are filled with tears. Once again, a person filled with hate for the Jewish people has done the unthinkable. He has chosen to murder eleven and injure at least 4 individuals because of his hatred and selfishness. I send out prayers to the congregants of Tree of Life Synagogue (Etz Chaim) and the Pittsburgh officers who were killed or injured in a senseless act of violence. Too much hate and anger exists in our world today. STOP! ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! My heart aches for our people and all the people who experience such cruelty and violence against them. In this week’s Torah portion, Vayera, we learn about how our actions and choices, not only affect our own lives, but also, the lives of everyone we engage with. God’s message is “not to eradicate the evil doer, but wipe out the evil from their

SCHEDULE OF EVENTS

NOVEMBER 2018

The Kibbitzer

Temple Am Shalom

Mentor, Ohio

CHESHVAN-KISLEV 5779

A WORD FROM RENÉE

Shabbat Services 7:30pm FRIDAY NOVEMBER 2 7:30pm FRIDAY NOVEMBER 16

7:30pm FRIDAY NOVEMBER 30

Sisterhood 10a.m. SUNDAY NOVEMBER TBA

Manhattan Deli, Mentor Contact Rita

Rose at (440) 867-2268

heart and turn them toward God in repentance.” How is it possible to turn around what is evil in one’s heart? Is it possible to reverse the hatred, the Anti-Semitism, xenophobia, the bitterness and the divisiveness felt in our country at this time? I am continually praying for peace to exist in our world. We all need to pray for our country, our government, and our world’s leaders to make peace happen, NOW. I invite all of you to attend services on Friday evening, November 2nd, at 7:30 p.m., to worship together, as we pray for answers to these many questions. Shabbat is a day of rest, relaxation and prayer, not one of violence, gunfire and death. SAVE THE DATE: Our Chanukah dinner will be at the temple on Sunday, December 9 at 5:00 p.m. *Please note the changes. Due to the popularity of this event, we have moved it back to the Temple instead of at the Goodman’s home. We greatly thank them for their hospitality

Men’s Fellowship Group 8:00a.m. SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 18

Mentor Family Restaurant. Contact Lee

Hawthorne at (440) 725-6852.

Hebrew Class 10a.m. SUNDAY NOVEMBER 4

10a.m. SUNDAY NOVEMBER 11

Board Meeting 7:30pm WEDNESDAY NOVEMBER 7 Congregants, get involved!

Activities Committee

6:30pm WEDNESDAY NOVEMBER 7

Your ideas are most welcome!!!

offer and promise to take them up on it at another time. The Temple will supply the entire meal, including brisket, chicken, potato latkes, salad, applesauce, beverages and dessert. The cost for adults will be $18.00 and for children under 13-$13.00. Money can be collected that evening, but please RSVP to the Temple @440-255-1544 by December 3rd. I will have some boxes of candles at the Temple if you need them. Hope you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving and Chanukah celebration.

B’ahava v’Shalom, (with love & peace)

Renee

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October’s Chili dinner!!!

A handful of members got together be-fore Shabbat Services Friday October

26. I wasn’t able to make it this year, but Mark said the food and fellowship was

good. Thank you to those who made the food for others to enjoy!!

CLEVELAND INDIANS!!

On August 9 Temple members attended the Cleveland Indians vs Minnesota Twins game.. Looks like Fred had a

good time. And YES the Indians won!!!

GAME DAY!!!

Sunday November18

At 2 PM

Please bring game of your choosing and a guest to share the fun!!

Message from your Secretary

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Shalom everyone!!!

I wanted to thank everyone for the love and prayers I received while out of town. I’m sorry the November issue of the Kibbitzer has gone out late, my trip up north had to be extended a week. But it’s done and we can get back to normal.

My holiday project is going well. The lay-away was paid for in the first month. I was able to get the kids a couple of toys each. I was able to get the aunt a gift card so she can get her hair done. Thank you to everyone for helping out.

My final step in the holiday project is putting together a food basket. If I could get folks to bring food item to Shabbat Services and pitch in that would be Awesome!! I’m hoping to have this complete by the second week of De-cember.

If you feel the desire to help, please contact Pene Obenour - amshalommentor@gmail.com or 440-231-5754. Any small donation will be appreciated.

Were having Game Day Sunday November 18 @ 2pm. Bring a game to share and a guest. I had wonderful time at our last game day and am looking forward to this event. Come out and have some fun….

Chanukah dinner will be December 9 @ 5pm. The cost is $18 for adults and $13 for children (age 13 and younger). Come and celebrate the holiday with your Temple friends.

Ya all have a great month, and I hope to see you at events or Shabbat Services.

Pene

Bat Mitzvah of

Sarah Snyder!!

Saturday December 8

At 11 A.M.

Come out and join us for this

wonderful event.

Chanukah dinner

Sunday December 9

At 5 PM

Cost is $18 for Adults

$13 Children (Age 13 and younger)

Come out and celebrate with us!!!

NOTE FROM TEMPLE PRESIDENT

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Are we safe in our temple? A relevant ques-

tion, a legitimate question, one that several members have been discussing after the Tree

of Life Synagogue killings in Pittsburgh. As a teacher, this has been a part of my

world for at least fifteen years. Kenston High School where I work, was built to be a “safe” school. The academic section of the building

can be sealed off from the public parts of the building. Once the school day begins you

cannot enter any of our buildings without waiting in a secure lobby for identification. Staff members wear photo I.D.’s and all visi-

tors have immediate background checks and are issued photo I.D. visitor passes to wear. Each building has dozens of security

cameras that can be accessed directly by the Bainbridge Township Police Department.

Staff and students have been trained in the A.L.I.C.E. defense system. Each classroom has an age-appropriate system to secure its

door. We have resource officers on the cam-pus.

So, are we safe when we come to wor-ship? Safety begins outside our building. We

are lucky to have a supportive community in Mentor. The police regularly park in our driveway to monitor traffic on Center Street.

Their presence lets people know that we are being monitored. Over the holidays we asked

them to give us special attention, and they did. We appreciate their security watch. Dur-ing the holiday services, we have extra secu-

rity thanks to George Evangelista. He is an experienced security guard and policeman,

and is armed. George is either in the parking lot watching who enters or sitting in our lob-by.

All of the doors to Temple Am Shalom are kept locked when we worship. If you are late

to services, ring our doorbell. You’ve probably seen me get up and look out the window. My

phone has an ap that alerts me when there is motion at our door. Renee and I also get noti-

fications when we are not at the Temple, and

we can turn on the camera and see who is on the stoop. We also have a security system

that we set when we leave. So, you should feel secure when you are here.

Can we do more? We can always do more, but cost is a factor. It was pointed out that a panic bar on the front door would be better

than our current lock. It would also allow people to leave and it would re-lock. This is

something the Board will consider at our meeting November 7. It should be fairly inex-pensive, but in reality, glass doors are not

very secure. We could replace the doors with attractive metal doors, but this is more ex-

pensive. Because of my school experience, I’ve actually

sat in the sanctuary and thought about how we could make it more secure. We have solid doors in back that could be closed and

locked, but then getting to the restroom would be a challenge. We could add a set of

doors from the lobby to the hall into the sanc-tuary. This may be costly, but do-able. Final-ly, we could build a safe space on the stoop in

front of our doors. This could be pretty expen-sive.

Renee, the Board, and I would like to hear your thoughts on this, so please join us after

the Shabbat Service Friday, November 2 for a community discussion about Temple Am Shalom’s security. Most importantly, don’t be

afraid to join us. Hiding at home is no way to deal with this issue. P.O.P. Pride, Optimism,

Participation. Andy

Healing Prayers

Richard Eisenberg

Marc Steindler

Joel & Arlene Everly

Owen Boerner

Bud Sudar

Marv Guttman

Len Gilbert

Dorothy Epstein

Marilyn Fowler

Marie Vidmar

Alan Simpson

Ronnie Abrams

Janice Sloan

Shooting victims - Pittsburgh/

Kentucky

Injured officers - Pittsburgh/

Kentucky

Literary Club

Our next book club will be

TUESDAY NOVEMBER 13

@ 7 PM

Reading “Table for Five”

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NEW MAILBOX

You may have noticed that we have a new mailbox mounted on the right side of our front door. Beginning November 1, we will no longer be using our post office box number. Please address all Temple Am Shalom correspondence to 7599 Center Street Mentor, OH 44060. The change was made to save over $200 a year. Our original reason for switching to a post office box was because we were losing mail. Part of that may be because we are only around a couple days a week to pick it up. Our new box is lockable, so the mail goes in the top and we have to unlock it to empty it. So, beginning November 1, be sure to use our “new” old address.

#ShowUpForShabbat

Temple Am Shalom is planning on honoring the memory of those who died in the Pittsburgh Synagogue

shootings and the Kentucky shootings

at Friday’s November 2 Shabbat

service at 7:30 PM.

We also plan to add the wounded

police officers to our healing prayer

list.

A discussion will follow the service.

ALL are welcome.

Yahrzeits

Light Yahrzeit candles the evening before the date.

These names will be read during services in the month of June:

Name Actual Date of Hebrew Date Yizkor

Death corresponds to: Date Obsrvd

Elaine Metzung 11/2/1999 Cheshvan 23, 5760 11/1 Norman Weinberg 11/2/2014 Cheshvan 9, 5775 * Gerald Alpert 11/3/1994 Cheshvan 29, 5755 11/7 Harry Zeid 11/3/2014 Cheshvan 10, 5775 * Marc Bilsky 11/6/1971 Cheshvan 18, 5732 11/16 Florence Zeid 11/6/2013 Kislev 3, 5774 11/11 Sam Gugliotta 11/10/1987 Cheshvan 18, 5748 11/16 Sadye Schildhouse 11/11/1975 Kislev 7, 5736 11/15 Jean Francis Young 11/11/2004 Cheshvan 27, 5765 11/5 Julian Lobl 11/19/1988 Kislev 10, 5749 11/18 Bertha Clar 11/18/1982 Kislev 2, 5743 11/10 Jack Schildhouse 11/20/1953 Kislev 13, 5714 11/21 Wallace Berkowitz 11/23/2008 Cheshvan 25, 5769 11/3 Marvin Berkens 11/26/1963 Kislev 10, 5724 11/18 Norman Zinner 11/26/1991 Kislev 19, 5752 11/27 Louis Chervin 11/29/1987 Kislev 8, 5748 `11/16 Henry Sobol 11/29/1997 Cheshvan 29, 5758 11/7 * -Due to technical difficulties we were unable to determine this date.

If you are following the civil calendar, then you will light the can-dle the evening before the civil date; if you are following the He-brew calendar, then you will light the candle the evening before the observed Yizkor date.

Help us update our records. Any corrections and/or infor-

mation on the names listed would be appreciated.

Zichronam liv’rachah

May their memory be a blessing

Happy Happy

Birthdays

Matthew Bittinger 11/1 Jason Schuster 11/2 Marc Steindler 11/4 Pene Obenour 11/11 Lori Sweet 11/19 Ashley Sherman 11/19 Jack Bittinger 11/21 Rachel Schuster 11/22 Bari Kessler 11/27 Lauren Sobol 11/30 Anniversaries

Sid & Mariann Rosen 11/5

Peter & Kathy Alscher 11/24

Roberta Brown &

Stephen Krebs 11/29

NOVEMBER 3 — Chayei Sarah Genesis 23:1-25:18

NOVEMBER 10 — Toldot Genesis 25:19-28:9

NOVEMBER 17 — Vayeitzei Genesis 28:10-32:3

NOVEMBER 24 — Vayishlach Genesis 32:4-36:43

Torah Portions for NOVEMBER

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Elise Aitken, Asst. Spiritual Dir. & Cantorial Soloist

T h e T e m p l e B o a r d

President Andrew Kenen

Past President Steve Blau

Vice President Janet Evangelista

Secretary Pene Obenour

Treasurer Brian Zinner

Youth Group Elise Aitken

Education Director Renée Blau

Members at Large :

Bob Sobol & Mark Obenour

Please kibbitz with us by contributing to our

newsletter!

Address your news, articles, suggestions or corrections to Pene Obenour - amshalommentor@gmail.com (be sure to include an identifying Subject line in your email); or send mail to the temple (by the 21

st of the

month prior to the issue you want your information to appear):

7599 Center Street, Mentor, Ohio 44060-6059.

Thank you!

Temple Am Shalom

7599 Center Street

Mentor, OH 44060–6059

(440) 255-1544

www.amshalom.org

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