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VOL 10, NO 8 FEBRUARY 25, 2011 /21 ADAR I, 5771 WWW.THEJEWISHSTAR.COM POLITICO TO GO: Obama’s broken veto Page 5 DAVID’S HARP: Moshiach’s travel agent Page 4 Local yeshiva hockey helps OHEL goals Page 6 OU serves up job fair Page 3 THE JEWISH STAR From Russia with lawsuit Chabad Library missing its core By Sergey Kadinsky Far away from the courtrooms and art gal- leries that are the focus of an international custody dispute, bookshelves hold treasures hearkening back to the origins of the Chabad Lubavitch movement. But even with 15,000 volumes, the curators feel a void in the price- less collection. “It was a part of the Rebbe and all the generations of Chabad rebbes. Its value is that they belong to us,” said librarian Efraim Keller. “The communists confiscated them and Russia refuses to give them back.” Some 12,000 books and 50,000 religious documents remain in Russian custody, part of a larger collection properly called Library of Agudas Chassidei Chabad –Ohel Yosef Yitzchok. The U.S. collection is housed at 770 East- ern Parkway, the Chabad headquarters. Visi- tors are buzzed in through two doors before entering the exhibition hall on the third floor, a quiet space above the ever-crowded sanctu- ary where learning and prayer take place at any given hour. “This library is not open to the public, it’s only for researchers who cannot find their books in any other library,” Keller said. The collection dates to the first rebbe, Sh- neur Zalman of Liadi, who began the collec- tion with a few hundred Jewish books. Even then, the library suffered setbacks, with fires in 1810 and 1813. But the greatest setback Continued on page 3 By David F. Nesenoff He was called Pickles, The Yeled, The Little Guy and K’tantan, but this week surrounded by family and loved ones the miracle baby was named Avraham Natanel Libin. On Monday as the Woodmere com- munity gathered for morning minyan at Young Israel, one of the youngest of Israel exemplified faith and prayer to the congre- gation. Avraham, whose English name is James Abraham, was born in the 30th week of pregnancy. Compounding the peril of his 10-week premature birth, Avraham suf- fered from Intrauterine Growth Restriction (IUGR) causing his size to be even smaller with a gestated age of actually 26 weeks. At the time of birth he was 2.1 lbs and for one month breathed through a respirator. For 67 days his parents, Marc and Chaviva Libin, were familiar fixtures at the Weill Cornell Medical Center until last Friday when they finally celebrated their baby’s first Shabbos at home. Although Jewish boys are usually giv- en their name at the time of the circum- cision, the question regarding this little one’s naming lingered. “He’s too small for a bris,” Marc Libin explained. “The doc- tors recommended holding off for a few months. But we were told he shouldn’t go too long without a name. When you call a baby by a nickname, if the name gets too strong, then that nickname could be con- sidered his halachic name. So he needed a name.” In attendance were grandparents Elly and Suzie Libin of Woodmere and Stuie and Claire Hershkowitz of Baka, Israel. “We saw a glimpse of Hashem’s hand,” Elly said. “It’s a Purim story, from a terri- ble prediction to a beautiful baby.” During the breakfast, following the naming, Stuie Hershkowitz explained to those gathered that Avraham was named after his father- in-law and he hoped the baby would grow up to learn of his namesake’s life, “He was a Holocaust survivor.” The Libin family is a multi generation well-respected member of the Young Israel of Woodmere and the entire community has been praying for the baby’s survival and his struggle to beat all the odds against him. As they celebrated his coming home, his new name, and his 6 lb weight, great grandmother Beverly Libin joyously pro- claimed, “We are so excited; it is truly she- hechiyanu, v’kiyamanu, v’higiyanu lazman hazeh!” Photo by David F. Nesenoff Avraham Natanel Libin’s naming inspires the community. Shabbat Candlelighting: 5:24 p.m. Shabbat ends 6:26 p.m. 72 minute zman 6:54 p.m. Torah Reading Parshat Vayakhel PRST STD US POSTAGE PAID GARDEN CITY, NY 11530 PERMIT NO 301 Stay up to date with The Jewish Star. Sign up for our weekly newsletter. Send us an e-mail with “sign me up” in the subject line to [email protected] Like us on Facebook The Jewish Star newspaper (Long Island, NY) Follow us on Twitter www.twitter.com/JewishStarNY Glimpse of Hashem’s hand Young Israel of Woodmere welcomes miracle baby

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THE JEWISH STARFrom Russia with lawsuit

Chabad Library missing its coreBy Sergey Kadinsky

Far away from the courtrooms and art gal-leries that are the focus of an international custody dispute, bookshelves hold treasures hearkening back to the origins of the Chabad Lubavitch movement. But even with 15,000 volumes, the curators feel a void in the price-less collection.

“It was a part of the Rebbe and all the generations of Chabad rebbes. Its value is that they belong to us,” said librarian Efraim Keller. “The communists confi scated them and Russia refuses to give them back.”

Some 12,000 books and 50,000 religious documents remain in Russian custody, part of a larger collection properly called Library of Agudas Chassidei Chabad –Ohel Yosef Yitzchok.

The U.S. collection is housed at 770 East-ern Parkway, the Chabad headquarters. Visi-tors are buzzed in through two doors before entering the exhibition hall on the third fl oor, a quiet space above the ever-crowded sanctu-ary where learning and prayer take place at any given hour.

“This library is not open to the public, it’s only for researchers who cannot fi nd their books in any other library,” Keller said.

The collection dates to the fi rst rebbe, Sh-neur Zalman of Liadi, who began the collec-tion with a few hundred Jewish books. Even then, the library suffered setbacks, with fi res in 1810 and 1813. But the greatest setback

Continued on page 3

By David F. Nesenoff

He was called Pickles, The Yeled, The Little Guy and K’tantan, but this week surrounded by family and loved ones the miracle baby was named Avraham Natanel Libin. On Monday as the Woodmere com-munity gathered for morning minyan at Young Israel, one of the youngest of Israel exemplifi ed faith and prayer to the congre-gation.

Avraham, whose English name is James Abraham, was born in the 30th week of pregnancy. Compounding the peril of his 10-week premature birth, Avraham suf-fered from Intrauterine Growth Restriction (IUGR) causing his size to be even smaller with a gestated age of actually 26 weeks. At the time of birth he was 2.1 lbs and for one month breathed through a respirator. For 67 days his parents, Marc and Chaviva Libin, were familiar fi xtures at the Weill Cornell Medical Center until last Friday when they fi nally celebrated their baby’s fi rst Shabbos at home.

Although Jewish boys are usually giv-en their name at the time of the circum-cision, the question regarding this little one’s naming lingered. “He’s too small for a bris,” Marc Libin explained. “The doc-tors recommended holding off for a few months. But we were told he shouldn’t go too long without a name. When you call a baby by a nickname, if the name gets too strong, then that nickname could be con-sidered his halachic name. So he needed a name.”

In attendance were grandparents Elly and Suzie Libin of Woodmere and Stuie and Claire Hershkowitz of Baka, Israel. “We saw a glimpse of Hashem’s hand,” Elly said. “It’s a Purim story, from a terri-ble prediction to a beautiful baby.” During the breakfast, following the naming, Stuie

Hershkowitz explained to those gathered that Avraham was named after his father-in-law and he hoped the baby would grow up to learn of his namesake’s life, “He was a Holocaust survivor.”

The Libin family is a multi generation well-respected member of the Young Israel of Woodmere and the entire community

has been praying for the baby’s survival and his struggle to beat all the odds against him. As they celebrated his coming home, his new name, and his 6 lb weight, great grandmother Beverly Libin joyously pro-claimed, “We are so excited; it is truly she-hechiyanu, v’kiyamanu, v’higiyanu lazman hazeh!”

Photo by David F. Nesenoff

Avraham Natanel Libin’s naming inspires the community.

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occurred during the First World War. Fearing a German reprisal, Fifth Rebbe

Sholom Dovber Schneersohn fl ed the village of Lyubavichy and sent the library to Mos-cow. Following the war, communist authori-ties had it confi scated and it remains in cus-tody of the Russian State Library.

“We fi rst located the collection in 1988 after their denials that it existed,” said chief librarian Rabbi Sholom Dovber Levine. “We wanted to see the collection but they did not let us.”

Showing the Russians a catalog of the books, Rabbi Levine received access to them. “Most of them had the handwriting of the rebbeim of Chabad.”

Chabad won in a 1991 Russian court rul-ing, but the Russian government negated it and the fi ght continues in American courts.

“They actively litigated it for fi ve years, but when they lost the battle, they turned tail, ran home and ignored the court,” said Chabad lawyer Seth Gerber. “It’s unjustifi -able under international law.”

In the mean time, the Brooklyn collection continues to expand. On the display shelves, a Russian ruble from 1918 has a handwritten blessing from the Fifth Rebbe and a reddish shtreimel worn by the Sixth Rebbe. “It’s like a Lubavitch Library of Congress. It has fl yers, photographs, videos, everything you could imagine,” said Rabbi Eli Blokh, director of Chabad of Rego Park in Queens, who previ-ously worked at the library. Born in Moscow, Blokh was fascinated to fi nd photographs sent in from the Soviet Union.

“It was a time when shlichus was an un-derground activity and they took pictures of farbrengens in people’s apartments,” Rabbi Blokh said.

While the library remains under tight se-curity, the public can get a glimpse through “Mibeis HaGenozim - Treasures From The Chabad Library,” a coffee-table album con-taining images from the collection, edited by Rabbi Levine.

The legal battle has now drawn in the Metropolitan Museum of Art and the Nation-al Gallery of Art in Washington, which werescheduled to borrow artworks from Russia. Russia cancelled the deal, fearing that Amer-ican courts would hold the Russian-owned works to ensure Russian compliance with the Chabad Library verdict.

“There is no justifi cation for holding sto-len properties, and we will seek all appropri-ate legal remedies,” said Gerber.

As the legal fi ght intensifi es, Rabbi Levine does not expect reprisal towards Chabad in Russia.

“They understand that it’s only a court case,” Rabbi Levine said. “It’s the core of our book collection.”

Chief Chabad librarian Rabbi Sha-lom Dovber Levine examines Russian Lubavitcher documents.

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The Sasson V’Simcha catering hall on Co-ney Island Avenue has seen many weddings. On Feb. 17, it hosted a matchmaking event of a different nature, as some 700 job seekers packed the hall for interviews.

“I look at the job sites for work, but 98 percent of them do not reply,” Brooklyn resi-dent Marc Rosenbaum said. “It’s not like in the old days where you had a name. Today, it’s very impersonal.”

The face-to-face opportunities brought the part-time online advertiser to the fair, as he candidly described his family’s needs. “I work in sales, and it’s not enough to support my family. My twin boys have a bar mitzvah in a few months.”

Job seekers were required to pre-register, submit their resumes, and check in with se-curity at the door.

“This is defi nitely a step up from the last job fair, it is more tailored to the jobs we have,” said Dovid Becker of the Joel Paul Group, an employment agency. “We’ve found the OU job board useful. It has jobs on all levels.”

At each table, fi rms provided a list of available positions with the number of em-ployees needed. Becker had nine positions available at the fair, including development associate, public relations assistant, and ex-ecutive assistant.

“We work with nonprofi ts on an executive level, and fi nd them the people. We are head-hunters,” Becker said.

The job fair hosted 49 employers, ranging from a Brooklyn car rental fi rm seeking cus-tomer service reps to hospitals seeking physi-cians. Numerous Jewish nonprofi ts and agen-cies were also on hand seeking web designers to boost their online presence.

“I know the OU and they have good tal-ent,” said Boruch Igal Hatanian executive of Frumster.com a leading matchmaking ser-vice. “We have an immediate opening for a

web developer.”Frumster CEO Ben Rabizadeh said that

there is no comparison between shiduchim and hiring. “For computer programming it’s about intelligence, but for customer service it’s personality. Each job has a different per-son in mind.”

Examining the website of a competing Jewish matchmaking site, Rabizadeh noted the importance of good web design. “When a site is designed properly, people are more serious, and this could lead to more marriag-es,” said Rabizadeh.

The professional staff of the event includ-ed motivational speaker Red Katz, who spoke about his past unemployment and divorce.

“I had two kids, a mortgage to pay for, and

I got fi red. I had a gut-wrenching divorce and lived in my brother’s apartment,” Katz said.

Katz purchased a women’s accessory busi-ness by collecting funds from family and friends. “It’s a state of mind, you count your blessings and fi nd your silver lining,” Katz explained.

Michael Rosner, the OU Job Board direc-tor agreed that part of the success in landing a job is confi dence. “One of the reasons for the job fair is that it’s face to face and people had good conversations. People should never put themselves down. This fair gives them chizuk,” Rosner said, using the Hebrew term for strength.

Employers expressed a strong likelihood of a same-day hire as they were impressed

with the quality of applicants. “We did well, we found some 25 leads, but I still can’t be-lieve so many people don’t have jobs,” saidShulamis Adelman of the New Jersey-basedAutomation Management Systems, which in-stalls fi re alarms and home automatic equip-ment. “This is our opportunity to expand intoNew York.”

To gauge the success of the job fair, Ros-ner said that employers are sent question-naires on how many people they interviewed and how many were hired.

Brooklyn Assemblyman Dov Hikind co-sponsored the event. “When I saw this long line, it hit me emotionally. Anyone on that line could be the head of a household,” Hikind said. “This is the ultimate form of tzedaka.”

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Rabbi Noam Himelstein studied in Yeshivat Har Etzion and served in the Tanks Corps of the IDF. He has taught in yeshiva high schools, post-high school women’s seminaries, and headed the Torah MiTzion Kollel in Melbourne, Australia. He currently teaches at Yeshivat Orayta in Jerusalem, and lives with his wife and six children in Neve Daniel, Gush Etzion.

What’s important nowBy Rabbi Noam Himelstein

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Two ships that pass in the nightWashington was preparing for vacation

by trying to debunk Obamacare despite the inevitable futility. Wisconsin teachers took vacation a week early with protests to their Governor’s budget plans. A Scottish Deer Hound named Hickory walked away with Westminster’s Best in Show. And qui-etly two ships passed in the night and will change the world.

For the fi rst time since 1979 Iranian war-ships have been given permission by Egypt to sail the Suez Canal. Two ships armed with missiles are headed for Syria. As Egypt displayed its new alliance with the terrorist state of Iran, and as Israeli Foreign Minister Avigdor Lieberman pronounced the act as a “provocation” by Iran and begged the inter-national community to “speedily” take ac-tion, the Obama administration did, what it does best, nothing.

First the State Department said it was “skeptical” and then it had “concerns.” And fi nally the White House explained that it was “monitoring” the situation. While Washington was giving the Obama-stare or the Obama-glare or perhaps the Obama-I-don’t-care, Egypt continued having some more fi rsts. A Sunni Sheik delivered his fi rst public address in 50 years, in Cairo. He is banned from the United States and Great Britain for aiding violence against Israel and America.

The military, which now runs Egypt, banned striking Egyptians from that demo-cratic activity. It also recognized the Wasat party, an Islamic group tied to the Muslim Brotherhood. In Tunisia, where all the Arab democratization began, anti-Jewish rallies were held outside the main synagogue by Moslems chanting, “Jews wait, the army of Mohammed is coming back.” There are ad-ditional reports from Tunisia of a Torah and a synagogue being burned.

Obama’s long awaited physical presence in the State of Israel is clearly a non-start-er event. But his state of mind concerning Israel’s continued presence in the world is

clearly one of apathy at best and sympathy toward Moslem extremists at worst. Where is he? Perhaps he cannot throw on a fl ak jacket and jump out of a plane over the Suez. And yes he has to watch his diplo-matic tongue concerning the Arab region during these volatile times of Middle East transformation. But in between his vaca-tions, his concerts honoring Paul McCart-ney, his post-shellacking maneuvers and coaching his daughter’s basketball team, he can open his mouth.

What should he say? He should say: “Is-rael is one of America’s strongest allies. We share common values, and fi ght common enemies in the form of violent extremism. The people of Israel have sacrifi ced for the sake of peace and stability. With change coming rapidly to the Middle East, the Unit-ed States is committed to standing by our close ally to maintain peace and stability in the region.”

That’s exactly what the new Speaker of the House John Boehner asserted to Israel last week. He fi gured out that there was growing instability, that violent extremism was an imminent threat and that a strong friend and ally needed a public statement of assurance.

John Boehner should be extolled for his thoughtfulness to a friend and his great diplomatic courage in the face of the world while the president, as he sits back, should take a lesson from a seasoned leader.

And so two ships pass in the night. Henry Wadsworth Longfellow concludes his fa-mous poetry: “On the ocean of life, we pass and speak one another, only a look and a voice; then darkness again and a silence.” It is clear that as we journey through these rough waters we only have a “look and a voice.” The president’s got the look; but a voice is needed. Even the Scottish Deer Hound who won Best in Show did some barking.

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“H ello; Israel Tour and Travel Agency, may I help you?” The female voice

over the phone asks. “Yes, I would like to go to Jerusalem,” the deeper voice on the other end of the phone responds. “Have you traveled with us before?” she questions. “No, this will be my fi rst time going to Israel,” he answers. “Then I just need to take a few moments to fi ll out some in-formation; what is your name?” She asks. “I am Moshiah,” he declares.

“Okay, so that’s… last name Shiach, fi rst name Moe. Now Mr. Shiach what is the purpose of your

trip?” The pitter-patter of her keyboard can be heard dancing in the backg round. He explains, “I’m going to bring to the Jewish peo-ple a sense of b rot herhood and sisterhood where they will treat each oth-er with respect and kindness. They will cease from envy,

Lashon Horah and pettiness and they will rebuild their former holy sanctu-ary of peace. All mankind will come to know the potential of a world fi lled with love.” After listening carefully she confi rms, “Got it, so that would be… business. You are going to need a work visa if you plan on staying for longer than three months. When will you be traveling, Mr. Shiach?”

He doesn’t hesitate, “As soon as possible. It is important that I catch the earliest and most direct fl ight.” She is very obliging and immediately starts booking the important details. “What kind of kosher meal will you need? There are a number of op-tions. Of course, there’s the regular kosher fare that the airline provides, but I wouldn’t recommend it. Some halachik issues bring doubt to the

continuity and strength of the su-pervision. I would suggest any of the additional kosher offerings. There is glatt kosher, kosher chicken, kosher fi sh, kosher vegetarian, kosher low salt, kosher diabetic, kosher glutenfree, kosher low lactose, kosher lac-tose intolerant, kosher vegetarian Lacto-Ovo, kosher vegetarian Hindu,kosher fruit platter and then there are the mehadrin strictly kosher meals which can be ordered underany of the following 12 hashgachic rabbinical authorities…” He inter-rupts, “I’ll have the fi sh.”

She notes his request, “I don’t blame you, one can never be too care-ful. I also need to know about your return fl ight and if you need addition-al luggage checked. It’s $50 for each piece and $79 for overweight bags in excess of 70 lbs. Oh and blankets are $25 and pillows are 10, headsets are fi rst come fi rst serve at $15 with a lim-it of two per family. Will you be travel-ing with a spouse or children?” The Moshiach makes it clear, “I am fl ying alone, one-way and without any lug-gage.” There is silence and then the travel agent cautiously speaks, “I see, well, I’m afraid there are some secu-rity issues that might red-fl ag your travel plans. We are going to have to refer you to the National Transporta-tion Safety Board.

The Moshiach is fi rm, “Do you know who I am? I need to be on the next fl ight and I don’t won’t to hear any excuses or nonsense.” He is no match for the travel agent. “Now lis-ten up, Moe, I’m just doing my job. There’s no reason to take that tonewith me. Everyone is important butrules are rules. The world will survive if Moe Shiach is a little bit delayed. You’ve apparently taken this long to go to Israel; what’s a few more days or weeks? Is there anyone awaiting your arrival?” The Moshiach quickly and loudly answers, “Yes, as a mat-ter of fact, Bnai Yisroel!” Before slamming down the phone she says, “Well, then you’ll just have to call and say you’re going to be late; andthe waiting will just have to continue for Mr. Benny Yisroel.”

Moshiach’s travel agent

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The United States vetoed a UN Security Council Resolution that would have condemned Israel for its “settlements”

in the disputed territories of Judea, Samaria and East Jerusalem.

The vote followed a week of scrambling where the US tried to substitute a toned down vote to be issued not as a resolution

but as a weaker “Presi-dent’s Statement.” It would have objected to any non-negotiated change in status, a slap at the Palestinian goal of a unilateral state-hood, and it would have also condemned “all forms of violence, including rocket fi re from Gaza.”

Palestinian leader Mahmoud Abbas ob-jected to this change and insisted the origi-nal resolution be of-fered up for vote. The outcome: 14 to 1 to condemn Israel. Imme-

diately after her veto, U.S. Ambassador Su-san Rice launched into speech, agreeing with the vetoed resolution:

“While we agree with our fellow Council members and indeed with the wider world

about the folly and the illegitimacy of con-tinued Israeli settlement activity, we think it unwise for this Council to attempt to resolve the core issues that divide Israelis and Pales-tinians… We therefore, regrettably, have op-posed this draft resolution.”

Translation: “We really wanted to vote for this, but our donations from the Jew-ish community are down and we have to run for re-election in less than two years.”

There was no mention of terrorism or non-negotiated change of status. Nor was there any mention of the Palestinian refusal to negotiate. They are biding their time till the spring when they plan to fi ght in the same venue for a unilateral declaration of Palestin-ian Statehood.

It was the Obama administration’s naiveté that made the “settlements” a major issue to begin with. While the Palestinians have al-ways objected to the building, the issue never before disrupted talks. On the other hand, based on agreements it made with the United States during the Bush Administration, Israel had understood not to build new communi-ties (except in Jerusalem) but would con-tinue to expand existing ones to account for natural growth.

What Obama and his advisers perceived as a minor concession was for Israel a grave sacrifi ce. From the Israeli point of view the president was telling Israeli parents that their

children could no longer purchase homes near them. Worse yet, Obama included East Jerusalem in his demands.

Obama, through Secretary of State Clin-ton, said there was never an agreement be-tween Israel and the US about natural expan-sion of existing settlements. Elliot Abrams who negotiated the agreement for the United States says that Obama’s contention is simply not true. (“Hillary Is Wrong About the Settle-ments,” Wall Street Journal, 6/26/2009)

Seizing the opportunity to avoid talks, the Palestinians used Obama’s demands to make a settlement freeze their precondition to further talks, even though there were on-going construction projects concurrent to the negotiations which occurred during the Bush administration.

In August 2009 Prime Minister Netanyahu announced a one-time 10-month freeze. The Palestinians wasted the fi rst nine months of the freeze and did not come to the negotia-tion table till September 2010, three weeks before the freeze ended. Not once did the Obama administration question the Palestin-ian Authority’s refusal talk for the fi rst nine months of the freeze.

The mostly Democratic New York con-gressional delegation has been strangely si-lent in criticizing Obama’s passive-aggressive treatment of Israel. Some of them will sign non-binding letters of support for Israel. With the exception of Anthony Weiner and

Republican Peter King, not one has stood up and criticized Obama for his unfair treatment of the Jewish State. (Senator Schumer criti-cized the President on a Jewish radio show,but when asked about his statement by the mainstream press, he backed off.)

Congressmen Steve Israel of Long Islandagreed to lend his name to J Street, at the urging of the President, giving the group some “street cred” in the pro-Israel commu-nity. Steve Israel was rewarded for following Obama’s policy regarding the Jewish State with a high-profi le party position, head of the Democratic Congressional Campaign Committee for the 2012 election cycle, which will make Israel the fi fth highest ranking Democrat in the leadership.

The United States’ passive-aggressive vote indeed angered the Arab world and simulta-neously increased mistrust by supporters of Israel. Ultimately the US veto and Ambas-sador Rice’s words admonished Israel for a problem that the President created.

I shudder to think what that vote would have been if Obama’s approval ratings were higher or if it occurred during a second Barack Obama administration.

Jeff Dunetz is the Editor/Publisher of the political blog “The Lid” (www.jeffdunetz.com). Jeff contributes to some of the largest politi-cal sites on the internet including American Thinker, Big Government, Big Journalism, NewsReal and Pajama’s Media, and has been a guest on national radio shows including G. Gordon Liddy, Tammy Bruce and Glenn Beck. Jeff lives in Long Island.

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POLITICO TO GO

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Great Neck’s North Shore Hebrew Acad-emy (NSHA) Lions and Little Neck’s Har To-rah Hat Trix middle schools hockey teams, of the Metropolitan Yeshiva Junior High Hock-ey League (MYJHHL), faced off in a dou-bly exciting game Saturday night, February 19th, at Yehiva Har Torah to benefi t OHEL’s Hewlett House. Over 250 spectators ap-plauded as six special guests were welcomed from OHEL Children’s Home and Family Ser-vices. Between the fi rst and second periods the two cross-town rival hockey teams united to present their guests with their own hockey sticks and custom-made hockey jerseys bear-ing the logos of each team and OHEL. The teams then led their OHEL guests in a hockey clinic and shoot out with cheering and en-couragement from all the fans. The OHEL

guests were given front row VIP seats to watch the rest of the game, which was won by NSHA, 6-2, clinching fi rst place in their division for the fi rst time in the team’s history which catapulted them into the playoffs. The Lions coached by Daniel Horowitz and Isaac Greszes, and the Hat Trix coached by Rabbi Tuvia Fried, all pride themselves on their dedication to Torah and mitzvot in addition to their hockey skills. The coaches motivated the players to raise funds for this wonder-ful organization through a goal-a-thon and selling snacks raising over $1000. NSHA co-captain Bailey Greszes said, “It is my belief that when rival teams come together to share in one event as one community to help chal-lenged kids, we score real goals!”

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Open up a chumash with Rashi on this parsha, and the fi rst thing you notice is… no Rashi. You can count on your hand the num-ber of comments Rashi provides on chapters 36 and 37; after all, he’s already commented on these topics in parshat Terumah, chapters 25 and 26.

Why does the Torah painstakingly repeat every detail of the mishkan? It could have written, “They did exactly as they were in-structed to do?” Were the Torah to have done so, there would be no question as to Rashi’s whereabouts, because the summary verse would speak for itself.

There are other places in the Torah where a tale or episode is recounted, either by the narrative or a narrator in the text. Some ex-

amples are: the Cre-ation story, told dif-ferently in Bereshit chapters 1 and 2; the introduction to the fl ood tale in Bereshit 7:6-19; Avraham’s ser-vant’s experience fi nd-ing a wife for Yitzchak in Bereshit 24. In all these cases, Rashi has a fi eld day with the re-telling.

In our parsha’s rep-etition of the mishkan details, however, Rashi is silent.

One example where details are not repeat-ed is when Moshe is given signs to convince the people of his divine calling. He turns a staff to a snake, his hand becomes affl icted with tzara’at, and he is told to spill river wa-

ter to the ground where it will become blood (Shmot 4:1-10). When he actually performs them, the Torah summarizes saying, “He did the signs.” (Shmot 4:30-31)

Perhaps the difference between the signs Moshe performs and the building of the mishkan rests in who was instructed to carry out the tasks. The details of Moshe’s signs-performance were a formality in a task that was his alone. We saw the instructions and we know what it means when we’re told “He did the signs.”

The mishkan, on the other hand, was in-structed to Moshe, but it was not Moshe’s job to build and to create. Thus we must see that every detail is followed according to the in-struction, so we can be the auditors who en-sure that all was done correctly. Here it is not just the actions of one man. There is much more chance of error and of the possibility of instructions not being followed properly.

Parshat Vayakhel is therefore presenting one of the fi rst examples of a true transmis-sion of mesorah (a heritage passed from teacher to student/follower.)

Perhaps Rashi remains silent because he does not want to distract us from the im-portant details that are taking place. He ex-plained it for us already, and now he wants us to do our legwork and to check for ourselves if the instructions were carried out properly.

The Talmud (Yebamot 87b) says “silence is like agreement.” Rashi agreed with the im-portance of the transmission of the mesorah and felt no need to comment because the no-tion stands for itself.

In this case, his silence speaks volumes, loud and clear.

Parshat Vayakhel

When Rashi doesn’t comment

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The 4th annual concert to benefi t chil-dren of the Cahal special ed program and Tova mentoring program was a great success. The February 12th Lawrence High School venue featured Shalsheles, Shloime Dachs, Shalsheles Junior, and special guest star Ya-cov Young. “The event is our most important

of the year and helps our scholarship fund which subsidizes tuition for numerous stu-dents,” Executive Director of Cahal, Shimmie Ehrenreich said. “Cahal provides special edu-cation for over 10 children, in 13 classes, in 11 yeshivas in the Five Towns Far Rockaway community.”

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My cousin on the Upper West Side had disapproving things to say and one of my Twitter followers posted negativity as well. But I went undeterred to experience Talia’s Steakhouse for myself.

This was not my fi rst time at Talia’s, and each time I have been there the experience has been slightly different. When the restaurant fi rst opened, the UWS posh scene had not yet reached 92nd street and Talia’s was a place for destination dining. As the UWS made its slow crawl further uptown, it became a more regular dining establishment for kosher patrons looking for a high end eat. Now as New Yorkers fi nd themselves in an economic rut, Talia’s has adapted to keep the upscale feel while

catering to people in a tighter fi nancial position.Talia’s was just as I remembered it from previous years. Dark wood and exposed brick seem to meld

together in the intentionally dusky light that provides the phantasmal dating atmosphere so beloved by the shidduch scene. Only an hour and a half after Shabbat had ended, the restaurant was half full. What I found most interesting was that there were a number of tables fi lled with non-Jews. This is a rare phe-nomenon in the kosher world. Kosher restaurants have mostly kosher patrons but when you have other customers coming in, that’s when you know you’re doing something right.

My wife and I were seated and the live music began. We ordered an Elvi Classico wine and waited for someone to come and take our meal order. This is where I began to understand the negativity. Talia’s weak spot is with its slow service. Customers overwhelmed the staff and I sat for almost 40 minutes waiting for my order to be taken. I can see why this would annoy most people.

When my server fi nally came to take my order, I asked for a smattering of both Talia’s upscale cuisine and the food that I knew I would want if it were two a.m. and I had been drinking.

I started with the buffalo chicken wings that were fried, crispy and carried a seriously spicy kick. I also had the beef and mushroom medley that is served in fi lo dough surrounded by mashed potatoes smothered in thick gravy. This dish was earthy and sweet and felt vaguely like comfort food. For the main course, I had a perfectly cooked steak and a thick medium rare burger covered with soy cheese. The burger was so perfectly cooked and complimented by the parve soy cheese that I consider it to be one of the fi ve best burgers in the kosher world. My wife ordered the barbecued short ribs. When biting

into them you get an initial crunch from the bark that comes from the grilling process, which is followed by a sweet honey and sesame fl avor in the meat that is so tender it slides right off the bone.

Overall I really enjoyed both my meal and the ambiance. The food is well made and has a very comfort food sort of feel. My visit was not the same as my preceding visits, and made me consider the restaurant’s evolution and the realization that it is better as a stylish local haunt rather then a snooty eatery. Talia’s caters to all budgets and tastes while fi rmly preserving the class it has maintained for the past two decades. What’s even better is the knowledge that I don’t need to be in the mood for duck confi t or roast lamb to go to Talia’s anymore.

If I am craving something as simple as wings and a burger, Talia’s Steakhouse is there to provide it. But I will make sure I don’t have any pressing engagements to rush to after the meal.

Zechariah Mehler is a widely published food writer and expert in social marketing. Follow him on Twitter @thekoshercritic

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Upscale yet comfortable at Talia’s

THE KOSHER CRITIC

Zechariah Mehler

Every drop counts at HAFTRThe HAFTR Middle School Blood Drive took place on Wednesday, February 16th with great attendance and an unprecedented amount of blood donations. The record-breaking turnout, with 64 pints of blood collected, was coordinated by Nurse Claudia Han-sen, RN, BSN and the Long Island Blood Services. The success was also credited to hard working stu-dent volunteers.

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Purim celebrates the defeat of Haman, who plotted to kill

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In mid-October, I stopped putting out my hat in the Old City Square to play cello for personal profi t. Seeing the beggars, who desperately needed donations made me real-ize that I did not need the money and made me feel guilty. Instead, I built a Magen David Adom sign and played to raise charity funds. Gradually the frequency of my playing less-

ened, as my schedule fi lled, and when unpre-dictable winter weath-er set in I stopped alto-gether.

But I missed it. When February brought stable sunny weather I was eager to resume my post. With allowance funds dwin-dling and with-out any alter-nate source of income I lusted for pocket money. Maybe just this once I could play for personal profi t.

Next week I could resume my charitable routine for the Magen David Adom.

That day I made a fat, heavy profi t. All Shabbos I couldn’t stop thinking about my suc-cess. I started to feel exceed-ingly powerful. I planned to play multiple times a week to crank in the big bucks.

Without wasting a minute of my Sunday lunch break, I took my seat in the square. I placed my cello case open in front of me, ready for the coins to start rolling in. Before I even be-gan playing, a small crowd had gathered to listen. Tourists were captivated by the romantic appear-ance of the instrument and some were already taking photos.

I calmly pulled my bow out of the case and began to tighten it. I turned the knob on the bow slowly. Ten seconds

passed. Twenty seconds and then thirty sec-onds. It was time to start playing. But still, my bow hairs were limp. I turned the screw more quickly but nothing was happening. Gradually I began to panic. As I turned fran-tically, my hands began to shake. The bow was broken.

Without a functional bow I could do noth-ing but sit. An audience was still crowded around me, waiting. They saw something was wrong, and their pity made me feel na-ked. In a second, feelings of extraordinary talent turned to pathetic helplessness. I was humiliated as I hurried to pack up and go.

Now that I refl ect back on this incident I see with great clarity that there was in fact

a reason this happened. My street perfor-mance success had twisted my percep-

tion. Financial profi ts had become a testament to greatness. And most striking of all, it was precisely when conceit started to clog my vision that my bow fell apart.

I fi nally saw how powerless I really was. I was nothing without a proper bow, without cello strings, without my dedi-cated teacher and without the hours my dad devoted to practicing with me. The list goes on.

I see that the gifts in my life are not birthrights. Accomplishments that

looked like personal triumphs were actually blessings. And then G-d held them back. Nor is the ideal to never play for income, but self-indulgence and asceticism can be vicious extremes. Halachah estab-lished a minimum percentage of income for charity, not to dissuade business but rather

to remind the successful that G-d is the source of all prosperity. If

only I can appreciate G-d’s generosity, I trust the music will keep playing.

Samuel Fisher grew up in Newton, Massachusetts and graduated from Mai-monides School in 2010. He is spending the year studying in Yeshivat Oray-ta in the Old City of Jeru-

salem after which he will at-tend Harvard College.

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Opinion

FROM THE HEART OF JERUSALEM

Samuel Fisher

Dear Aviva,I was disappointed with your response

to “Strangled in Marriage” (1/27/2011). I think you missed the point and your advice was narrow-minded.

When I read the husband’s letter, I heard a young wife who wants love and attention from her husband. It’s obviously hard for her to express her needs directly, but love and attention are the strongest needs of ev-ery woman. If her husband is out for FOUR HOURS it’s no wonder she makes up a reason to call him. A healthy couple should want to enjoy spending time together. My husband is happiest when I am happy and we cherish every opportunity to hang out together.

You give advice that the wife should relax more, but that’s not going to work like magic if they are lacking a healthy relationship. Her husband is her best friend (hopefully) and nothing else will fi ll that void if he is not attentive and loving enough.

The husband sounded like he needed ad-vice on being a good husband and enhancing his most important relationship.

I don’t think your advice helped, but prob-ably exacerbated their problem by making him feel justifi ed and not putting the wife’s feelings into consideration at all. She is probably not controlling, nor are many other wives...they just want some attention. And this is the husband’s obligation.

-An Understanding Woman

Dear Understanding Woman,You should call yourself “A Fortunate

Woman” due to your uxorious husband. (Don’t worry; I didn’t know what that word meant either until my uxorious husband taught it to me yesterday.)

Here’s the deal—you are 100% right with your goal. A perfect marriage is a marriage of best friends. Hate to burst your bubble, but there are many spouses out there who cannot stand their other half. How can we say, “Be friends!” when they have very harsh feelings for each other? The way I picture it,

if I just told the husband to spend more time with his wife and be home more, he would not have listened to me because he clearly doesn’t want to be at home. (I’ve seen it in my practice).

Validating him is not empowering him to be a worse husband. It’s meeting his needs so that he now has something to give. I also saw the wife’s pain through her husband’s letter. But I acted as if the letter writer was my cli-ent and addressed his needs fi rst while tryingto squeeze in her needs.

If you noticed, I did manipulate the situa-tion a bit by advising him to fi rst tell her that he sees that she’s under stress and wants to help her more. Then I told him to help her and be around for two weeks. After that, hecan ask for more space. The hope was that after two weeks of helping, he would need less space.

And just for the record, I have seen plentyof childish, abusive, manipulative wives.

Ladies—speak honestly and politely!

-Aviva

Aviva Rizel is a Marriage and Family Ther-apist in private practice who can be reached at [email protected].

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