The Guide

CAKES I FLOWERS I STATIONERY I JEWELLERY I DRESSES I TABELSETTINGS

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CONTENTSWho’s who... who to invite

Maid to order...who chooses the dress?

The big picture...make sure you get the right shots

Scentsability...flowers by season

Event planner...timeline

The grooms guide...responsibilities

Tie the tie...we show you how

Bar code...policies and packages

Boy’s toys...gifts for the groomsmen

Get set and glow...beauty tips for the bride

Naming rights...what surname will you take?

Well Suited...to tuxedo or not to tuxedo?

We’re getting married...modern day etiquette

The classiest stationery of all...off the shelf or bespoke

Buck up...the bucks night

Getting carried away...how to travel

It’s a fact of l i fe, so many people we all know and like…yet comparatively few guests can be invited, the imbalance is always the same no matter how big the wedding. Organising the final invitee list needs some planning techniques and a strong determination that only the truly deserving will end up dancing at your wedding. A process of elimination will lead to the right number and more importantly, the right people.

First of all, check out all the contenders so that nobody is overlooked. Trawl through email and address books and compile the names of all those you would both like to share the big day. From that group the cull can begin. When doing the sums, consider inviting a similar number from each family, it’s good for balance and will avoid one side feeling badly done by.

On average, about 15 percent of guests will not be able to make it; with that in mind, make an A list with all the must-haves and a B list as the back ups. As the R S V P S arrive, for each regret send an invitation from the B list.

The most important people in the lives of the bride and groom will be at the top of the A list; these are the priority invitees who cannot be bumped.

When it comes to sorting through friends, try the one-year rule. If there hasn’t been a meaningful conversation or a meal with a person within the past year, it is quite safe to draw a line through their name no matter how much fun they are at get togethers. Single friends without serious partners should not be asked to bring a guest.

Large families can be an emotional trap. Compulsory invitations are a concept to be avoided. It’s not essential to invite all cousins, aunties and uncles; invite only those who pass the truly up-close and meaningful test.

Don’t be conned into playing the tit for tat game. It’s easy to feel obliged to invite all the couples who have invited you to their weddings. Relationships change, invite those people who are important now and who you plan to keep in your life for years to come.

Workmates with purely professional relationships could be placed low on the B list. These relationships are strong in the workplace but often don’t endure when people move on. Keep the list limited to personal friends.

A child-free wedding should be clearly emphasised on the invitation by leaving the children’s names off the invitation should be a pretty clear hint. A phrase at the end of the reply card stating ‘w e h o p e t h e t w o

o f y o u w i l l b e a b l e t o j o i N u s ’ spells out how many guests are invited.

Show the final lists to parents, their wise eyes might spot an important name that’s missing. They might even like a handful of invitations to send to their closest friends.

The guest list represents the tone of the wedding on paper, audit the names to see that caring friends who really share the happiness of the event and will give a joyous mood to the day are all there. Rent-a-crowd acquaintances after a free drink will not give the same heartfelt, emotional buzz.

Every name should be happily ticked off by the bride and groom so that there aren’t any people there who could ruin the day for either one.

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ETIQUETTE

who’s whoBe tough when naming the names on the guest list and end up with the people who really count at the wedding. A strong sense of obligation can mess up the day.

It’s not essentIal to InvIte all cousIns,

auntIes and uncles; InvIte only

those who pass the truly up-close and

meanIngful test.

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FASHION

It seems as though everyone has an anecdote about a bridesmaids’ cat fight where even the nicest girls have turned into banshees during the frock talks. It’s not surprising, it’s only natural for any girl to fight for the dress that will make her look best in front of a crowd. An authoritative, opinionated bride can save potential hissy fits, dramas and even walk-outs. As a rule, the more freedom the bridal party is given, the more anxiety it will cause the bride. Unfortunately un-controlled bridesmaids have been known to upstage the bride. Can there be a worse nightmare?

Never send the bridesmaids off shopping for their gowns unsupervised. The result could be an ego-tussle that will end in tears, the bride’s tears.

The attendants will respect strength and confidence and will warm to the bride’s decisions in the end if they are true friends.

Democracy is a winner in politics, but not essential in bridal party planning. The bride is numero uno and holds the casting vote in all her attendants’ dress and accessory decisions. It’s the golden rule. Her wedding, her day, her photos; the bride must have her way.

There are many interesting ways to manage the bridesmaids’ look. The bride generally selects her dress style first, then moves onto the style and more importantly colour choice of her attendants’ wardrobe.

If the bride has a colour theme in mind for the decorative aspects of the ceremony and reception, that is the clue to the maids’ colour direction. What they wear will impact on the overall look of the wedding.

The bride should listen to the maids’ ideas and preferences; their gowns should be comfortable, have a f lattering fit and suit the formality of the venue.

The larger the number of bridesmaids the more complex the matter as there are more tastes, hair colourways and figures.

The options for the attendants’ style are many and varied. To cater for a variety of body shapes each maid can have the most suitable dress si lhouette for her figure but the group is dressed in identical colours. Or, if f igures are similar, the same style in a pre-selected palette of colours can cater for dif ferent hair colours. All the dresses can be in the same style and colour but in dif ferent shades so they can complement skin tones.

If there are more than four bridesmaids, take the maid of honour on a store check-out to give her an idea of the styles that are suitable. The wedding party can then start shopping sooner rather than later, sensible if payment by lay-by is involved.

The bridesmaids don’t have to wear the same shoes but they should be compatible styles especially if the dresses are short. Shoe comfort is important, weddings are hard on the feet.

Colour can be used to advantage with shoes that are the same style but in dif ferent colours, or shoes that are in the same colours but dif ferent styles, they all work. Matching the bouquet and accessories with the shoe colour looks ef fective.

The bride may picture her maids dressed in pure simplicity or extravagant opulence, the deciding factors will be style and the all important budget. Each attendant should be comfortable with the expense.

It’s accepted that bridesmaids pay for their dresses, shoes and accessories so it’s important to discuss costs with the girls at the beginning. If however, the bride’s choices are extravagant, it ’s not unusual for her to contribute to the costs. The bride might pay for the fabric and the bridesmaids cover the dressmaking. Or, the bridesmaids could pay for the dresses and the bride picks up the tab for the shoes and accessories.

The bridesmaids are the bride’s best accessory; just a step down from her in glamour, but radiant, lovely and happy, enhancing the wedding in their highly prestigious role.

Think of their gowns as the corporate uniforms of the event projecting unity, friendship and a great look.

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THE GUIDE

the big picture

b e f o r e t h e w e d d i n g

bride getting ready

bride with family

bride with bridesmaids

bride leaving for ceremony

groom getting ready

groom with family

groom with groomsmen

groom leaving for ceremony

c e r e m o n y p h o t o s

ushers handing out programs

program shot

flowers

pew bows

guests arriving

groom and groomsmen waiting

wedding cars arriving

flowergirls and pageboys walking down aisle

bridesmaids walking down aisle

bride walking down the aisle

the exchange of rings

the exchange of vows

bride and groom kissing

signing of the register

bride and groom walking back

guests throwing petals, bubbles etc

guests congratulating bride and groom

group shot of guests

a f t e r c e r e m o n y

bride

groom

bride and groom

bride with bridesmaids

groom with groomsmen

page boy and flower girl

bride & groom with bridesmaids & groomsmen

bride with bride’s family

bride and groom with bride’s family

groom with groom’s family

bride and groom with groom’s families

bride and groom with both families

r e c e p t i o n

venue

tablecentres

favours

placecards

wedding cake

guests enjoying pre-dinner drinks

bride and groom arriving

speeches

bride and groom’s first dance

band

guests dancing

cutting of the cake

throwing the bouquet

bride and groom leaving venue

the shots that can’t be missed…

say Cheese, please

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FLOWERS

scentsabilitya floweR ChaRt foR all seasoNswhite/cream

Flower Name Months Available Price Range Style

Anemone August-September * Country,garden,Spring

Antherium Allyear *** Tropical

Blossom August-September * Spring,pretty

Bouvardia December ** Pretty,spring,classic.

Camellia June-August ** Classic,garden

Carnation Allyear * Classic,country,garden

Chrysanthemum-Daisy Allyear *** Country,garden

Cornflower August-October ** Spring,country

Dahlia January-March ** Country

Delphinium Allyear *** Elegant,country,garden

Frangapani December-January ** Beach,summer

Freesia Allyear **** Spring,timeless,elegant

Gardenia EarlyDecember-March ***** Timeless,effortless,classic

Gladioli Allyear ** Classic,elegant

Hyacinth June-September **** Spring,fresh

Hydrangea December-February ** Country,garden

Iris Allyear *** Elegant

Jasmine December-February ** Classic,elegant,garden

Jonquil July-September * Spring,fresh,country

Lily-Arum September-November * Contemporary,country,simple

Lily-Asiatic Allyear *** Contemporary

Lily-Calla December-March ** Classic,elegant

Lily-Oriental Allyear ***** Contemporary

LilyoftheValley October *** Classic,elegant

Lissianthus October-May *** Soft,romantic

Magnolia-Buddy August-October *** Sophisticated,elegant

Orchid-Cymbidium June-September *** Timeless,elegant,sophisticated

Orchid-Phalaenopsis Allyear ***** Timeless,elegant,sophisticated

Orchid-Singapore Allyear *** Contemporary

Peony October-November ***** Soft,romantic

Ranunculus September-November * Country,garden,Spring

Rose-DavidAustin October-May *** Classic,country,garden

Rose-Fieldgrown October-May *** Classic,country,garden

Rose-Glasshouse Allyear **** Timeless,elegant

Stephanotis LateNovember ***** Timeless,elegant,sophisticated

SweetPea August-October ** Spring,fresh

Tulip May-October **** Classic,elegant

blue



Cornflower August-October ** Spring,country





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green








Malaccabalm Allyear *** Fresh,contemporary,country




orange/red


Anemone(red) August-September * Country,garden,Spring









Poppy June-September * Fun,simple






yellow









Jonquil July-September * Spring,fresh,country






Poppy June-September * Fun,simple







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FLOWERS

purple/lavender






Freesias Allyear **** Spring,timeless,elegant





Lavender October-May * Country

Lilac October ** Country,garden










pink




Blossom August-September * Spring,pretty

Bouvardia December ** Pretty,Spring,classic
















Peony October-November ***** Soft,romantic







* Least expensive

***** Most expensive

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TWELVE MONTH PLANNER

get oRgaNiseD Now!

Congratulations–an engagement is an exciting time. Now the fun begins. The planning of a wedding can be a big deal, but there’s no need for sleepless nights or knotted stomachs. Relax knowing the day will be perfect.

engaged• Announce your engagement to family and friends

• Finalise the wedding date

• Plan initial guest l ist

• Discuss and set budget with family members

• Choose and purchase your engagement ring (if not already presented)

• Consider and ask significant friends and family to be members of the wedding party and other important roles (the sooner the better to avoid confusion amongst friends, and to help with organising and planning)

• Consider health, beauty and exercise routine

• Research honeymoon options

the date is set• Think about the theme and style of your wedding

• Book church, celebrant or religious officiant

• Begin shopping for gown and bridal party dresses

• Decide and confirm ceremony and reception location

• Hire wedding coordinators/stylists

• Send out ‘s a v e t h e D a t e ’ cards (once you’ve set a theme and date)

• Begin researching photographers

• Join a gym, and start regular skin treatments with your beauty therapist

six months before• Arrange meeting with marriage officiant to discuss

ceremony and legal requirements

• Start shopping for wedding bands (rings)

• Pay a deposit on your gown or book a dressmaker

• Book catering and hire companies

• Start dance lessons

• Visit graphic designer or stationery supplier

• Choose guest favours

• Book f lorist

• Book ceremony and reception music

• Book photographer and/or videographer

• Enjoy cake tasting and book your cake

• Book hair and make up for bride and bridal party

• Book honeymoon, f l ights and accommodation

three months before•Ask the people who you would like to speak at both

ceremony and reception

• Decide on ceremony vows, hymns and prayers

• Make alternative arrangements for potential bad weather

• Reserve accommodation for interstate guests

• Dress fittings for bride and bridesmaids

• Order wedding bands (rings)

• Buy shoes and accessories

• Arrange groom’s and groomsmen’s outfits

• Inform parents of colour scheme and f lowers chosen, so they can coordinate their outfits

• Finalise all arrangements and details with venue, coordinator and caterers

• Finalise and order stationery (extra for second-round invites)

• Finalise gift registries and lists

• Ensure all passports, visas, insurance and health checks are organised for overseas honeymoon travel

8 weeks before• File ‘N o t i C e o f i N t e N D e D M a R R i a g e ’ (needs to be

done at least one month and one day before wedding)

• Prepare necessary documents for changing your name if you intend to do so

• Compile and have ‘o R D e R o f s e Rv i C e ’ booklets printed

• Dress fittings for bride and bridesmaids

• Finalise guest l ist

• Send out invitations (mail overseas invitations eight weeks before the wedding and interstate and local invitations six weeks beforehand)

• Record all R S V P S as they arrive

• Consider seating layout for reception venue

• Organise guest transport if necessary

• Finalise f lowers with f lorist

• Finalise all music and specific music to be played (eg bridal waltz)

• Finalise plans with photographer and/or videographer

• Trial hairstyle and make-up with veil for bride

• Advise employers of leave required from work

• Book wedding night accommodation suite

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TWELVE MONTH PLANNER

3 weeks before• Make sure officiant has all necessary details and papers

• Ensure all speeches are prepared including toasts and speeches for rehearsal night

• Confirm duties of those responsible (ushers, spokespeople etc)

• Send ‘t h a N K y o u ’ notes as gifts arrive or compile a l ist of gifts received if sending cards after the wedding

• Pick up rings

• Have engagement ring cleaned

• Final dress fittings

• Purchase underwear

• Break in your wedding shoes at home

• Notify caterer of guest count

• Confirm seating arrangements with reception venues

• Have placecards organised for tables

• Confirm transport details

• Confirm f lower order and time of delivery

• Confirm music and time that they arrive and begin playing

• Confirm photographer and/or videographer and check time of arrival

• Organise cake knife

• Organise takeaway plans (boxes, bags, serviettes) for cake for guests

• Trial spray tan

• Men to have haircuts

• Buy wedding party gifts

• Organise someone to look after your home and your pets while on honeymoon

• Organise credit cards and currency for honeymoon

• Collect tickets for honeymoon

1 week before• Full rehearsal of ceremony at the ceremony destination

• Hold rehearsal dinner and give presents to those necessary (attendants, parents, each other)

• Compile an ‘o R D e R o f t h e D a y ’ schedule for all people involved

• Prepare payment envelopes for suppliers, officiants and vendors, and make arrangements for someone to distribute them on your behalf

• Pick up all dresses for bride and bridesmaids

• Arrange pick-up or delivery of hired wear

• All bridal party to try on completed outfits to ensure it looks as planned and fits correctly

• Confirm all details and times with venue of ceremony and reception

• Group place cards in order of table seating for your coordinator or reception venue manager and print off alphabetically-ordered list for seating guests

• Reconfirm timing of pick-up and drop-offs by your arranged transport

• Confirm times for hair and make-up appointments on the wedding day

• Manicure and pedicure

• Ensure you have early nights for beauty sleep

• Pack for honeymoon and wedding night

• Confirm accommodation for your wedding night

on the day• Ensure you both eat a wholesome breakfast

• Arrive at hair and makeup appointments on time

• Allow enough time to dress without rushing

• Take time to appreciate this time with family and friends

• Relax and enjoy yourselves!

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GROOM’S GUIDE

responsIbIlItIes, responsIbIlItIes…

groom’s guidegroom’s responsIbIlItIes1. organIse the honeymoon

2. pay for engagement and weddIng rIng/s

3. arrange weddIng cars

4. choose gIfts for best man, groomsmen and ushers

5. pay clergyman or make a church donatIon

6. make a speech at the receptIon

7. organIse musIc and mc for the receptIon

best man’s responsIbIlItIes1. organIse the buck’s nIght

2. be responsIble for the groom’s gIft wIth the help of other groomsmen

3. help dress the groom and get hIm to the church on tIme

4. keep the weddIng rIng safe In the lead-up to the ceremony

5. act as offIcIal wItness If requIred

6. make a speech at the receptIon

groomsmen’s responsIbIlItIes1. gIve the groom a buck’s nIght under the dIrectIon of best man

2. hand out order of servIce booklets and make sure hymn books are dIstrIbuted at the ceremony

the groom’s parents’ responsIbIlItypay for the alcohol at the weddIng

However, the groom’s parents will often match the bride’s parents contribution.

the windsor knotthe wIndsor knot looks specIal and dressy for tradItIonal elegance

1. Cross the broad end over the thin end.

2. Bring the broad end up through the loop between the collar and tie and back down.

3. Pull the broad end underneath the thin end and to the right, back through the loop and to the right again so that the broad end is inside out.

4. Bring the broad end across the front from right to left.

5. Pull the broad end up through the loop again.

6. Bring the broad end down through the knot in front. tighten the knot carefully and draw it up towards the collar.

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GROOM’S GUIDE

as a guIde – for each 100 guests you wIll need… 10 cases of beer: 4 domestIc, 3 Imported, 3 lIght

5 cases of sparklIng wIne or champagne (It’s a celebratory drInk, and even people who won’t usually drInk It wIll)

12 cases of wIne (approx 1.5 bottles per person) 65% whIte, 35% red

7 cases of stIll sprIng water (more In summer)

7 cases of mIneral water (more In summer)

If supplyIng spIrIts, 1 lItre each of: baIleys, grand marnIer, brandy, frangelIco, dry vermouth

5 lItres of vodka

3 lItres of gIn

2 lItres of rum

4 lItres of scotch

3 lItres of kahlua

2 cases of dessert wIne

1 case of port

If the cocktaIl bar Is goIng to be open, the mIxers wIll have to be on hand to whIp up guests’ favourIte drInks. the shoppIng lIst should Include:

Ice

coolers

cocktaIl glasses

garnIshes: lemons, lImes, cherrIes, berrIes and olIves

IngredIents: lIme juIce, tabasco and worcestershIre sauces, mIlk, orange juIce, cranberry juIce, tomato juIce, soda water, tonIc water, cola, lemonade, lemon squash, gInger ale

straws

cocktaIl stIrrers

dIscuss these quantItIes and beverages wIth your caterer to ensure that they are adequate and suItable, and that the servIce of them Is realIstIc.

two rules–keep It sImple and at the end of the day It Is better to have more than not enough–try not to be too conservatIve!

how much will we drink?determInIng the amount of beverage for a weddIng Is dIffIcult but some Important aspects need to be ascertaIned.

the tIme of year wIll Influence the decIsIon – In wInter more red wIne wIll be consumed whereas In summer more water

and beer wIll be requested. the tIme of the weddIng wIll also change how many beverages wIll need to be supplIed,

as more wIll be needed In an evenIng weddIng than a lunchtIme weddIng.

look at the demographIc of your guests. the mId to late 20s wIll drInk dIfferent drInks to the older age group. be sure

to cater for all demographIcs. stand up cocktaIl weddIngs wIll tend to need more bubbles and whIte wIne whereas

sIt-down dInner weddIngs may requIre more reds. keep the selectIon sImple, too many wIne, beers or cocktaIls wIll

only confuse and make the waIters stressed out and on edge!

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GROOM’S GUIDE

bar codeDelicious drinks kick-start the celebrations after the ceremony and keep the fun firing. Somebody has to take responsibility for planning the bar stock. The groom is in the driver’s seat for this important job.

The clinking of glasses as the happy couple is toasted again and again at the reception is nearly as much a part of the wedding tradition as saying the vows. Toasting with special drinks adds a celebratory mood and happiness and is a way to spoil guests from the very beginning and make them most welcome.

What to pour into those empty glasses that will be lined up and waiting to be filled on the big day involves some thought by the groom. It’s his call to select the brands and styles of beer and wine to be served. It’s a good idea to check with potential venues on their drinks policies. Some venues may have deals with particular wine brands which might not be appealing.

If the venue agrees to B YO , corkage per head is another point to clarify. Self-supplying the alcohol can be a money saver, however some venues charge exorbitant corkage to discourage the practice. It’s a point to watch very closely; do the sums.

It’s best to choose the drinks after the menu has been signed off so that wines can be selected to complement each course.

It’s a good Idea to check wIth

potentIal venues on theIr drInks polIcIes.

some venues may have deals wIth partIcular wIne

brands whIch mIght not be appealIng.

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GROOM’S GUIDE

boys’ toysIt takes input from many people to organise a wedding. The groom’s support team has to be remembered when it comes to those that should get heart-felt recognition.

The groomsmen have offered moral support and encouragement in the lead-up and on the wedding day, so a token of thanks is the time-honoured way of marking the event.

The gift is a memento that will remind friends of the whole wedding scenario from suit fittings to the buck’s show, guest seating, and all the other important groomsmen’s duties.

If the gift is to be worn at the wedding, the gifts would be presented at the rehearsal dinner. These gifts might include cuff links or pocket watches.

It’s also appropriate to make presentations on the wedding day while the guys are gathered all together in the dressing area, or later during the reception. To make the moment personal, take each groomsman aside and give the gift individually. There’s no need to make a public speech. This is a personal moment between friends.

The gift doesn’t have to be ‘one size fits all’ gifts can be individual, personalised and unique for each person.

to make the moment personal,

take each groomsman asIde

and gIve the gIft IndIvIdually.

there’s no need to make a publIc

speech. thIs Is a personal moment

between frIends.

great groomsman gIft Ideasengraved drInkIng mug

monogrammed cuff lInks to wear on the weddIng day

monogrammed money or tIe clIp

poker sets

boxed wIne

engraved swIss army knIfe

tIckets to a sportIng event or concert

personalIsed tool boxes

sIlver busIness card holders

personalIsed golf balls and towels

pocket watches

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NATURAL HEALTH

written by GREGORY DAMASKOS

An early focus on increasing fitness or beginning a path to

realistic and sustainable weight management can optimise

health and develop a fit, healthy glow in time for the

wedding.

Developing good fitness does not start or stop at the gym door,

it involves being more active in general - climbing stairs

instead of taking the elevator, moving around instead of sitting

still, sitting up instead of lying down as well as showing some

enthusiasm instead of boredom.

The next step involves a personal health assessment with

a naturopath or doctor, then a visit with personal trainer for

an exercise plan and goal-setting session. A personalised

approach rather than a generic one is most likely to succeed.

A lifestyle counsellor or life coach can also be of help with

goal setting and positive reinforcement.

People who think starvation diets are a way to control

weight, need to think again. Dieting without exercise often

ends in weight gain. Although weight may initially drop

while 'dieting', such weight loss consists mostly of water and

muscle. When the weight returns, it comes back as fat.

The right way to avoid gaining weight over time is to

increase metabolism by exercising regularly. When

exercising, the body, especially during long low impact

sustained activities such as walking, creates a fat-breaking

enzyme ca l l ed H O R M O N E S E N S I T I V E L I P A S E which is

released. Studies have revealed that this fat breaking activity

is sustained for up to twelve hours from the moment it has

been triggered. The same enzyme is also involved in

cleaning all blood vessels of fatty plaques and deposits. So,

no amount or type of dieting will produce positive

results without exercise.

Start a fitness and diet journal to keep track of food intake

and exercise schedule.

Do not skip meals - skipping meals lowers metabolism,

decreasing energy, slowing weight loss and also decreasing

the ability to use food to an advantage. Weight may even

be gained by skipping meals. Regularity is the key here,

the body likes rhythm.

Make food fun and exciting; eat fresh, small regular meals.

Breakfast on sensational ENERGY SMOOTHIES with fresh fruits

or PORRIDGE. Allow half an hour break after breakfast then

head to the gym or local park for a high energy or muscle

focused workout, start the day with power!

Lunch on salads, fruits or soups, eat cheese or nuts for

protein, try to avoid breads and pastries, for beverages

use water (the body is 75% water), fresh juices and

supplementation. Seek support for this weight management

journey, whenever needed use a team of professionals -

there's no need to 'go it alone'.

Late afternoon or evening, go for a walk or jog, attend a class

or visit a personal trainer before preparing a healthy dinner

with plenty of fresh vegetables. Dinner is a great chance to

share achievements of the day with a friend or chronicle

them in a fitness journal.

Looking great for the wedding day is the priority, but by

maintaining regular exercise there will be life long affects as

this lifestyle may help to prevent:

OBESITY

MENTALILLNESS

BREAST CANCER

INJURY

CARDIOVASCULAR DISEASE

COLON CANCER

OSTEOPOROSIS

EARLY DEATH

Daily group classes can fast track results - utilise a

combination of aerobic, resistance and yoga exercise.

Flexibility training (stretching) helps balance muscle groups

that might be overused during exercise or physical activity or

as a result of bad posture. Flexibility is a joint's ability to move

through a full range of motion, include cardio-aerobic

workouts, martial arts for increased coordination, power and

stamina.

Try resistance based exercise (weights) for toning and

strengthening tired muscles-suitable for all levels of fitness

and strength.

A rest day each week will help the body to recover

and power through the following days.

The motto is flexibility, agility, strength and, balance.

Fun and active outings and

exercises like bike rides and walks at the

beach, decrease boredom and time

available for snacking or grazing during

the day.

At the completion of the pre- wedding

program, the benefits from increased

energy, skills and motivation will help to

keep long

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Some women can’t wait to assume their husband’s name and be called mrs; others prefer to spend their lives known by their maiden name and stay a ms. Legally, you can call yourself anything you like. I have been married three times and have named myself three ways. Finally I have found the perfect fit, for me.

After my first wedding, I took my husband’s name. I became m r S ‘ H I S FA m I LY ’ and obviously had the name of his mother. I quite liked it – on one hand, it did feel very married, but I felt that I had left my own family behind, and as an only child, that made me a bit sad. I liked the name I was born with and wasn’t really happy about letting it go. I even graduated from university under my married name, something I now regret as my degree carries a name with which I now don’t feel any affinity.

After my second marriage I thought I would right the emotional niggle and I reverted to my maiden name and obviously became m S . That wasn’t really perfect either; I had lost my mrs, it was a bit disturbing, people didn’t immediately classify me as married. of course you can’t be m r S and use your maiden name; that’s your own mother.

Socially my husband and I would be invited as m r A N D m r S ‘ H I S N A m E ’ , but technically it wasn’t my name. I was forever re-introducing myself; I was in the no-man’s-land of names. Some knew me under my maiden name, others assumed I had my husband’s name. It just didn’t work.

When it came to my third marriage, I decided to have it all, the best of both worlds for me; keep my maiden name and add my husband’s name. It has turned out to be just right. Luckily both our surnames have a good fit, my European name and his short English one. There are benefits, I am back to being m r S , I still have my own family’s identity and my last name matches my husband’s, something that is very handy when making airline bookings and checking into overseas hotels. A perfect balance.

my two surnames aren’t hyphenated I didn’t want to do that because the names are two unique words and were not meant to be joined. It’s not a ‘family’ name that has come down through history, it’s my unique, married name.

Things tend to go more smoothly in life when one name is used consistently, this is especially important for I D .

by Z I N TA J U r J A N S H E A r D

naming rightsThink out all the implications of the surname you will use after the wedding. The options are many but the consequences are not always right.

I learnt the I D lesson when at one point quite recently, we were opening a new business bank account and I had to come up with 100 I D points. I had a driver’s licence in my maiden name, a passport in the double- barrel-third-wedding version, and a vast assortment of cards in either.

For me it was nearly impossible to reach 100 points because of the name mess. Finally I scraped the score together, a humble medicare card got me over the line. As you can imagine, I immediately changed all my I D to the name I now use, it was a big job.

There can be awkward moments when you have two names on the go; you do forget under which name you have registered at doctors, dentists and pharmacies. many times I was asked for my name and had to answer ‘I’m not sure’. It’s not a good look for a grown woman.

But all the name confusion is behind me now; my life neat, I now know who I am when I’m asked and it all finally feels grown up. I admit my own search for the perfect married name is a bit extreme, but it does show that anything is possible, the choice has to feel right, be practical and consistent.

Some women even keep their former married name; this choice could be comfortable if there are children from the previous marriage for family consistency. It does require a tolerant groom and name complications can arise if there are children from the new marriage.

To make the full change to the groom’s family name or to add the married name to the maiden name, the time to do this is after the wedding.

The driver’s licence and passport should be the first to correct so that the 100 ID points are in place.

If the honeymoon involves overseas travel; there won’t be time to change the name on the passport, so the maiden name should be used on bookings and reservations.

If the overseas travel is delayed, update the driver’s licence first as it will be required along with the marriage certificate, with the passport application.

Ultimately, the name decision is emotional, it involves family conventions and attitudes and should meet both your and your husband’s needs, hopefully for a long, long time.

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well suitedThe English call it a dinner suit, the Americans a tuxedo and Europeans a ‘smoking’ jacket. Whatever the name, the tux is a traditional uniform with dress rules to follow.

When buying the dinner suit, there are some important things to consider. H E N r Y B U C k S in melbourne is one of the world’s great menswear stores. m A r G A r E T

m cD o N N E L L , the marketing manager, says one of the most important things to consider is comfort. “The suit needs to stand up to the rigours of the ceremony and dancing so the fabric is very important. The best suits are made of lightweight wool. The lighter the suit, the more comfortable; heavier suits are more rigid making the wearer feel more rigid” she says.

According to margaret, the most popular style is the single breasted with a peak lapel. Black is most popular but H E N r Y B U C k S is seeing a slight move towards a white jacket. “Think James Bond and cary grant, he always wore a white jacket, very smart” she says.

It’s especially important to have expert fitting and tailoring. The length of trousers is very important, they should be not too long and not too short. And surprise, surprise, most men choose their own suit without their partner; then groomsmen choose their suits to match or complement the groom’s.

The price increases with the quality of tailoring, quality of cloth and detail in construction. The average cost is $1300.

accessoriesThe dinner suit should be matched with beautiful accessories;

s h i r t The shirt should be pure cotton because it breathes. A classic m a R c e l l a (pique) or pintucked are most popular with a standard collar. Wing collars are definitely out of favour. Studs can be an expression of personal taste but they should always match the watch. Cufflinks should also be teamed with the watch and the studs.

t i e A black tie is the most appropriate to wear with a classic dinner suit, but it is an opportunity to express individuality. If wearing a buttonhole, never team it with a handkerchief. It’s one or the other.

s h o e s on the feet, black silk socks and black patent shoes are the formal look, preferably not lace-ups.

d e ta i l s Belts are never worn with a dinner suit, the trousers should not have belt loops; suspenders are a quirky addition, but not very popular. A cummerbund is acceptable and traditional.

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“ walking into a room with good posture, a bright smile and a confident stride will go a long way towards cultivating (this) respect. wearing the right clothes, however, will drive the point home.”

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“ dinner jackets should not be seen before 6pm; though if you are a guest at a daytime wedding and the invitation says black tie, then you have no choice but to grin and bear it. if you are being married in the day, and really want to follow conventional etiquette, you must wear morning dress.”

“ personally i’m not too big on waistcoats which clutter the snow white shirt front. matching sets of patterned waistcoats and bow ties are to be avoided; they make you look like a small town pharmacist trying to be original…and the bow tie, needless to say, must be real, that is to say, self-tied and not horrifyingly “made-up.”

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“ the whole point of black tie, the whole reason all us men look like we do (identical) is in order to allow women to shine.”

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WE’rE GETTING MarrIED!

You’ve dec i ded to ti e th e knot, l i fe is pu r e bliss, love is i n th e ai r, th e r i ng is a r eal spar kler; but what n ext? c h ec k out th e an nou nc ement

etiqu ette an d avoi d fr i en ds an d r elli es havi ng u n expected h issY fits.

THE INS AND OUTS OF MODERN DAY ETIQUETTE

Where children are concerned, they should always be informed first and in private.

When informing people in tiers, it’s appropriate to ask them to delay calling others until the bride has informed them herself. Sometimes the sequence in which friends and family are told can lead to resentment.

Once close-ones have been personally apprised of your engagement, a notice in the newspaper is completely acceptable.

The engagement can be as long or short as you like, there are no rules.

and the bonding of the two families? Unless the in-laws truly get on like a house on fire, it’s not a good idea to force them to get along. It’s better to allow them to keep a polite distance than to put everybody through close encounters of an uncomfortable kind.

Vogue’s Book of etiquette by MILLIcENT

FENWIck, SIMON & ScHUSTEr 1948. Vera Wang

on Weddings, by VEra WaNG, HarpEr cOLLINS

2001. the Penguin Book of etiquette by MarION VON aDLErSTEIN, pENGUIN

pUbLISHErS 2002.

You might be walking on air, but an engagement and pending marriage

affects a lot of people, they can get sensitive if they feel overlooked. So know the rules and get things right.

In Vogue’s Book of etiquette , Millicent Fenwick gives the advice that it’s bad form to let family or close friends receive their first news of the engagement through an announcement in the paper. She says letters should be sent by the engaged couple or by their mothers to all those who are close.

although this advice was written over 50 years ago and letterwriting is a dying art, it’s common sense that people should not hear sensitive news like this on the grapevine. However, these days the news might be broken personally by phone or email rather than by post.

In the Penguin Book of etiquette, author Marion von adlerstein agrees that family should be informed before anyone else.

Vera Wang in Vera Wang on Weddings points out that relating the good news can be one of the most joyful parts of the wedding experience. The possibilities include a formal announcement, dinner with the family, a telephone call or email to close friends.

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t he work of graphic designers includes creating brands, strong visual communication that has at-a-g lance recognit ion. Beauti ful wedding

stat ionery unites al l the printed bits and pieces under the umbrel la of the couple’s ‘brand’.

finding a designer who wil l interpret the desired look of the brand may require some legwork. keep an eye out for beauti ful design work and fol low the lead. a web search is convenient, samples of the designer’s work wil l be up and si tes may include the costs, which can vary greatly. looking under graphic designers in the yellow pages wil l yield hundreds of names, people close-by are worth a cal l . assess their suitabi l i ty on the phone, ask them to email examples of their work. it al l cuts t ime.

every profess ional designer wil l have a portfol io of work which has been created for cl ients’ specif ic requests. so, although the style may not be total ly suitable i t wil l give an idea of their creativity, use of typefaces, colours and paper. ask the designer about budgets for the projects shown; anything is possible with an unlimited budget. an experienced designer wil l know ways to reduce production costs and del iver superior products to cl ients.

make sure the designers have wedding stat ionery experience, they wil l be more understanding of al l the detai l required. it ’s not necessary to pick the f ir st designer who pops up with an appealing portfol io, a co-operative personali ty is also essential . the person must be happy to discuss options, make changes and add items to the suite.

commissioning a profess ional is going to be more expensive than d i y or asking a fr iend or relat ive to whip up a design. But a profess ional job is worth the price. costs range from $30 per hour upwards, consultat ion rates are $100 per hour plus; the cost of printing the stat ionery is on top of the designwork.

to ensure things go smoothly, get everything in writ ing. this wil l e l iminate mis-understandings on what is required of the designer and the costs. include deadlines, contact addresses and any other important infor mation that may af fect the outcome of the del ivery. email is a great way to keep track of the decis ions made; i f the designer doesn’t supply a copy of the commission in writ ing, send an email to confir m agreements, just to make sure.

attend the meeting with a budget in mind. a good designer can work within any budget and advise how to achieve the best result for the money. costs can blow out very easi ly so i t ’s important everyone knows their l imit .

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discuss the options with the designer, i t may be more economical to have fewer, better quali ty i tems than many bits that end up looking disappointing. fewer colours can reduce printing costs, consider al l the options suggested.

a bit of research is necessary before the f ir st meeting with the designer; compile magazine cl ippings that show the desired look; take along colour swatches, fabric samples of bride’s and bridesmaids’ dresses and images of favourite f lowers. the season in which the wedding is to be held may also inf luence the design and colour palette. al l these factors wil l help the designer understand the style and type of event that is being planned.

these inspiration pieces don’t have to be wedding related; a sat in r ibbon, a favourite book, a quote, a pebble col lected during a romantic moment on the beach wil l al l help to st ir creativity. a l is t of key words that best describe the couple is helpful . anything that speaks to the couple can be the start ing point for a unique and innovative stat ionery suite and wil l help the designer deter mine colours, papers and typefaces.

dis l ikes are important for the designer to understand, too. i f certain colours are a turn-of f, they should be named at the start . limit changes once work is underway, they add to costs.

for design and printing, lead t imes should be generous. more detai led designs or more extensive stat ionery suites wil l take t ime to prepare; di f ferent printing methods take longer than others. timing is very important says samantHa fray from cHapel press in melbourne. “allow lo ts o f t ime, cus tom des ign and l e t t e rpress pr in t ing are labour in t ens iv e. we recommend cl i en ts v i s i t four to s ix months pr ior to the i r wedding. i f the y can suppl y us wi th a v i s ion o f the i r s ta t ioner y, i t i s per fec t .”

invitat ions should be sent out s ix weeks before the wedding, even earl ier for overseas guests or i f a dest ination wedding is being planned, so i t i s imperative the designer knows the key dates. this wil l al low the designer to prepare a schedule that accommodates design, cl ient changes and printing, al l within the t ime frame.

when deter mining the print run, remember that each guest won’t need an invitat ion as many guests wil l be one half of a couple or a member of a family. work out how many invitat ions are required, this wil l af fect the printing cost .

the number of i tems in the suite may vary from as few as an invitat ion and matching envelope to a ful l suite of stat ionery complete with bonbonniere swing tags and thank you cards. whatever the extent of the suite, organise a priority l i s t so expendable i tems can be deleted i f the budget looks l ike blowing out. Be prepared to l is ten to the designer’s advice. the designer has valuable experience in the design and production of stat ionery.

the wording for al l e lements of the suite won’t be required at the f ir st meeting with the designer, but i t ’s worth considering i f i t wi l l be tradit ional or contemporary wording; this wil l be deter mined by the style of wedding. for mal wording would look incongruous on a modern design, l ikewise contemporary wording doesn’t f i t a for mal design.

while i t may cost more upfront to engage profess ional services, beauti ful bespoke stat ionery, on t ime and on budget is worth every penny.

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Thecontemporarybuck’snightisintendedtobeanightofgoodcleanfun,althoughsomehavebeenknowntogooverthetop.however,withluckandabitofgoodmanagement,thegroomshouldhaveagreatnightwithhisdignityintact.

SETTINGUPThegroomdecideshowhewouldliketospendtheeveningandthebestmanorganisesit,whetherhefollowsinstructionsfullyIsanotherstory.Apopularoptionistobookaprivateroomatarestaurantorpubsotheguestscanenjoyaninexpensivemealandsomedrinks.Italsoallowssomeprivacysothatotherpatronswon’thearthespeecheswhicharequiteoftendesignedtocausethegroomembarrassment.oftenentertainmentisinvolvedwhichmightbebetterkeptbehindcloseddoors.

INVITATIONSGenerallythegroomwillgivethebestmanalistofpeopletoinviteandthebestmanwillseetoit.Traditionallyonthelistarethegroomsmen,ushers,brothersofthebrideandgroom,andthegroom’sclosefriends.Itisalsoconsideredacourtesytoinvitethefathersofboththebrideandgroom.

MONEYMATTERSGuestsusuallypayatleastpartofthecost.sometimesthegroomwillpayforthemeal,whiletheguestsbuytheirowndrinks.Agenerousideaisforthegueststocombineresourcesandpayforthegroom’snightout.Thebestmanshouldmakethisdecisionandletguestsknowwhatmonetaryarrangementshavebeendecided.heshouldalsotakechargeofthemoney,toensurethereisenoughandthatnooneforgetstheirshare.

SETTINGADATETraditionally,thebuck’snightwasheldontheeveofthewedding.however,thishasprovedtobetooclosetothebigdayanddidn’tallowenoughtimeforadecentrecovery.Besensible,chooseanightsomedays,evenweeks,beforethebigday.

THESPEEcHTraditionally,thebestmandeliversabuck’snightspeech.Thetopicislikelytorevolvearoundhisfriendshipwiththegroomandwillpossiblytouchonsomedisreputableepisodesfromthegroom’spast.

SAFELYHOMEThebestmanisresponsiblefororganisingtheafter-partytransport.undernocircumstancesshouldanyguestdrivehome.Poolingtaxisworkswellandisquiteeconomical.Toavoidconfusion,thebestmancancompilealistofpartygoerswiththeaddressandphonenumberforeachforthetaxidrivers.Thebestmanshouldensurethatthegroomarriveshomeandisseensafelyinside,tuckedupinbedsafeandsound.

IT’SAbOYTHINGALTERnATIvEsToABucK’snIGhTIncLudE:

high adventure:skydiving,whitewaterrafting,go-kartracing,mountainbiking,horsebacktrailriding,parasailing,waterskiing,snowskiing,gunshooting,camping,deepseafishingcharter,kitesurfing.

sports mad:Playgolf,agameoffootball,cricketorfrisbeeatalocalpark,playbackyardtennis.Russellcrowehostedacricketmatchbetweenhisfamilyandfriendsversusdaniellespencer’sfamilyandfriendsforhisbuck’sshow,andhadshirtsmadeupforthetwoteams.

the rat pack:hirefavouritedreamcars,Porsche,Lamborghiniorferrarifortheday;goforacruisetoafavouritedestination;hireacasinotocometoyou(www.funcasino.com.auorwww.pokerama.com.au)andenjoymartinisandcigars.hireabusandgowinetastingtofavouritewineries.

good plain fun: Paintball,tenpinbowling,lawnbowls,bouncingboxingonabouncycastle,hireamechanicalbullorsurfboard,hiresumosuitsforsumowrestling.

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Getting carried away

What style of wedding do you have in mind? a buick or chevrolet would suit a retro wedding, a mercedes benz or

bmW would be just right for an urban sophisticate, a vintage rolls royce or Jaguar would be right for a traditional theme. maybe a horse? Yes, horse. What could be more romantic than riding across the paddocks with the groom, veil blowing in the wind; perfect country style; but that’s another story. The wedding’s theme drives the choice of transport.

back to motor transport, by far the most popular choice; quotes will be determined by whether the wedding is in high season, the type of cars and how many hours you will need the transport. The number of people in the bridal party will affect the size of the fleet and the clock starts ticking from the pick-up and finishes at the reception.

Enquire about overtime rates if transport is required at end of night; the price quoted is firm and cannot be changed, that includes overtime. allow extra time for photos with your wedding cars and be sure to state that requirement clearly in advance.

check out what will be included in the package, details like champagne, nibbles and red carpet. Enquire if the cars in the fleet are all matching and available on the day. Inspect the vehicles in the showrooms to make sure you know what you are getting and that the entire bridal party will fit in air- conditioned comfort.

To ensure the cars you see on inspection are the cars you actually have on the day, write down registration numbers.

If using an older vintage car, check the hinges of the doors for grease or oil. also, look to see if there is a covering over the wheels at the back so as grease and dirt will not get onto dresses. carry a small container of talcum powder to absorb the grease if the worst happens, then brush off before you disembark the car.

be sure that the operator is accredited. In most states, the motor Transport Department issues an operator license to reputable companies and the cars themselves are licensed.

The vehicle should be insured and the company must carry Public Liability Insurance. Enquire if there is back-up and another car available if there is a breakdown.

Will you get an experienced driver who is keen to make your day special? check him out. Provide him with sound direction and a map with collection points and exact times stated clearly. a running sheet will ensure your transport runs smoothly.

If you would like refreshments provided in your car, and the company does not provide them, ask a member of the bridal party to organise refreshments and nibbles, especially if the travelling time is longer than half an hour.

It is usually the groom’s responsibility to organise transport for guests if the wedding venue is out of the city. In most cases, a bus is the most appropriate option. Guests meet at a certain place and return to the same place after the wedding. This way guests can enjoy their night out to the full. be sure to book a bus with air-conditioning if the weather is warm.

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