The Feel Technique Book

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INTRODUCTION

This book is about feeling better and feeling better more often.

While the first two chapters of this book describe how this method works, they contain ideas and

concepts that might be unfamiliar. Fortunately, understanding the theory about how the Feel Technique

works is much less important than simply using it. Understanding how anengine works doesnt help you to drive, only practice does that. Same principle here.

How to use the Feel Technique is covered in the third chapter.

This book about feeling better and getting more out of life, so how do we do that?

By developing your capacity to feel more than you do now.

To feel more, your nervous system has to be stimulated.

Your nervous system keeps you alive, providing the ability to respond and feel.

These are a few of the more important functions of what your nervous system does best.

Youre not aware of how your organs keep you alive.Unless you have a background in medicine or physiology, you dont know whats going on inside you.

You are aware, though, of your feelings.

You mostly do know how you feel.

A bell works best when its rung.A wheel works best when it spins.

And a lamp works best when it shines.

You work best when you feel the most.

What helps you work at your best is a nervous system that can function at full capacity.

When the nervous system functions at full capacity, it increases your ability to feel more.

To help the nervous system function at full capacity, we want to stimulate it.

Vitamins, good food, and adequate sleep maximize the nervous systems potential.

Stimulating it, though, requires effort, such as exercise and meditation.

Exercise stimulates the nervous system through exertion.Meditation stimulates it through repetition.

The Feel Technique is a meditation that stimulates the nervous system.This method uses the subconscious mind to reach unconscious processes.

When we stimulate the nervous system to feel more to its capacity, you feel more.

The nervous systems job is to help you feel.Thats what it was designed to do:

Help you feel.

Chapter three describes how to use the Feel Technique in three different ways:

First, as a simple meditation, focusing on a sound of a word.

Second, as a body focus meditation, in order to undo tension.And third, socially, when youre with people.

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The Feel Technique can be used mentally, physically and socially.

Each of the three variations of the technique uses the word feel as a silent vibration.Each method uses repetition as a way to activate the subconscious to influence unconscious processes.

For the purposes of this book, the practice of this technique is called FEEL.During FEEL you silently focus on the sound of the word feel.

The technique is on of simply repeating feel again and again in your mind.Sound, even silent, carries a vibration within the brain, where it is heard.Thought itself is a vibration, measurable on an EKG.

Repetition makes that vibration resonate within the psyche.

When you repeat a word over and over again, after a while, the word loses its meaning.

After repeating feel for a while, you will go into a light naturalistic trance.

In this naturalistic trance, youre not thinking of what the word feel means.However, unconsciously, the vibration of feel still contains meaning and a command.

This technique uses the subconscious to transport the vibration of feel to the unconscious mind.

This vibration contains a request /command that is delivered to the core of self.

New research demonstrates that stress ages us by disrupting our DNA.

Stress physically gets to the tips of the DNA strands and undoes them!Stress disrupts your DNA; however, vibration calms and stimulates it.

Though the sound is silent, the vibration is heard within the psyche.Repetition activates the subconscious to carry the signal to the nervous system.

The vibration then stimulates the nervous system to feel more to its capacity.

When the nervous system is stimulated to feel more, naturally, you feel more.

A lot of people are interested in outer space, the moon and mars.

Others want to know more about creatures living on the ocean floor.

Not very many have an interest in a journey of their inner being.Since youre reading this, you must be one of them.

You must be an Inner Space Explorer!

The journey of the inner mind sounds like a dark and scary place.

And, at times, it can be.

Fortunately, knowledge overcomes fear.

For those inclined to make the journey within, the subconscious mind isa wonderfully rich resource of information that makes a significant

difference in day to day living.

The conscious mind may be compared to a fountain playing in the sun and

falling back into the great subterranean pool of the subconscious from which it arises.

Sigmund Freud

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I THE PSYCHE

Information that makes a difference is knowledge.Knowledge of self leads to empowerment and confidence.

Confidence leads to new possibilities.

Most thoughts and feelings originate within the subconscious.Thoughts and feelings come from your inner being.

But what is your inner being?

Whats it made of?

Its made of soul and it contains identity, programming and the innate.

The innate is the reflex within you that cannot be conditioned.Innate is the reflex inside that cannot be compromised.

Innate is a significant part of your total core.

Innate is hard to identify because it makes up so much of who you are.

The Feel Technique brings conscious and unconscious processes closer together.

Joining conscious and unconscious processes puts you more in touch with your core.

The better the connected you are to your core, the more in control you feel.The more in control you feel, the more powerful you are.

Feelings of power and control is the stuff self-confidence is made

of.Self-confidence is a road that leads to all kinds of new possibilities.

However, keep in mind that on the journey to a more integrated self, emotions may come up that areoverwhelming. Since FEEL increases your capacity to feel, that can happen. So, as you start to use this

technique, you want to feel like youre going into it feeling in control. If you feel in control, it will

make it that much easier to let go of it when exploring the feelings that come up during FEEL. One

hallmark of emotional strength is the ability to feel in control even when it might appear that youre not.

Archimedes gave a great definition of control when he said With the right place to stand and a very

long lever I could move the world. The Feel Technique produces benefits that allow you to discoverplaces

inside where we can find new resources, new foundations, and new perspectives on how to accomplish

long sought after goals.

Circumstances can easily appear to look like the source of a problem.

Yet, if you look inside, youll see that your feelings have more to do with the obstacles in your life thananything else. So whats the best place for you to make your stand to move your world?

The best place, of course, is within you.

But where?

Its easy to say its all in the mind, as most of it is.However, when it comes to feelings, the heart is also involved.

While the Feel Technique is initiated in the mind, it then stimulates the heart.

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This method utilizes your mind, your heart, as well as your nervous system.

Since everyone has negative feelings and unwanted behaviors, that includes you.

So how can you attain control over unwanted feelings?

By developing inner strength!

Thoughts and feelings originate in the inner self.

So access to the inner self provides new points of control.New points of control help develop inner strength.

Inner strength makes it easier for you to stand your ground.

Inner strength supplies the power for a more controlled response.Inner strength provides the unity of emotions for greater ease of self-expression.

Inner strength affords the emotional latitude to explore how you really feel.

Inner strength allows you to more easily recognize and stop manipulations.Inner strength allows you to hold your feelings in, but in a healthy way.

How can holding feelings back be the healthy thing to do?

Holding feelings in come from a decision that comes from one of two places:Inner strength or fear.

When you walk away from a fight because youre afraid, it leaves a bitter taste.When you walk away because you choose to, youre ok with it.

Discretion is always the better part of valor.

And youll never regret something you didnt say.However, if it is fear that keeps you from speaking up, youll feel angry and helpless.

Without inner strength, choices are limited.Inner strength breeds confidence.

That confidence opens the mind to new perspectives on achieving old goals.

Inner strength and empowerment doesnt come from a seminar or a class.It comes from you.

It comes from emotional strength youre in touch with.It also comes from powers and abilities youre not aware of.

The subconscious demonstrates a wisdom that is many stepsand perhaps even years ahead of the conscious mind.

Nathaniel Branden

Add up all the hours spent in classes and seminars.Of all the subjects covered and ideas explored:

How much can you remember?

How many of their actual words can you write down?An amazingly, fantastically, incredibly small fraction.

Words are forgotten.

But feelings arent.

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If the ease of doing nothing or the discomfort of resistance makes you want to stop, push through it.

Push through it by doing the process daily!

Consider trying the process more than once a day.

Using it everyday gives your innate intelligence a chance to get stronger within you.

Wisdom available within the innate is not the kind of knowledge that can be taught.

The innate is a reflex you were born with, but lost touch with along the way.The innate mind has information youre not conscious of yet.

As with any muscle you develop, it takes time and repetition to make it strong.

Some believe that innate intelligence guides the bodys natural capacity to heal.

Innate intelligence is certainly the force behind the psyches ability to form reality.

Innate intelligence is part of the package we come pre-wired with.And we all come pre-wired in some ways.

Infants are born with an innate desire to suckle.

When an infant is put on a treadmill, he can walk.That means were born with the ability to walk even before we do.

Simple magic tricks hold the interest of babies longer than other presentations.

This suggests we come with an innate set of expectations of how the world should work.

You also come pre-wired emotionally.

You came into this world pre-wired to want love and need love.

When that need wasnt met, you detached your self from yourself.

You unconsciously, automatically did this so as to reduce the emotional pain.Emotional pain physically hurts.

Disconnection reduces that pain.

The attempt to regulate affect, to minimize unpleasant feelings andto maximize pleasant ones, is the driving force in human motivation.

Drew Westen

There is a close connection between your built in, innate reflex and your ability to feel.

The more disconnected the less youll feel.

The less you feel, the less your innate can work for you.

For example, your conscience is part of your innate. When a person is detached from their emotions,

their conscience wont be their strong point. When youre not in touch with you feelings, the subtletiesof a gut reaction or a pang at the back of the heart wont be felt very much. The independent little voiceinside becomes more distant the more its neglected. Your conscience cant be silenced, but it can be

muffled by compromise and justification.

When access to self is cut off, the intelligence of intuition is less available.

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The innate is part of the nervous system and contains intelligence and information the conscious mind

does not have. The innate contains a depth that is hard to conceive of. The innate knows alternativesand options the conscious mind isnt aware of.

The innate is a hidden resource, rich in qualities that can help you get more out of life.

There is no logical way to the discovery of these elemental laws.

There is only the way of intuition, which is helped by a feeling for the order lying behind theappearance.Albert

Einstein

Intuition is a product of the innate.

When Einstein was asked where he got his ideas from, he attributed it to his intuition.

He attributed his insights to intuition and ability to see the order lying behind things.

Its no coincidence that Einstein was a man whose feelings ran deep.His depth and intensity of feeling made him a man very much in touch with his innate.

It was his innate intelligence that led him to understand the order of the universe.

As you get more in touch with your feelings, youll better understand the order of yours.

Intuition reveals information you dont realize you have.

Intuition contains insights you dont consciously possess.When a revelation comes out of the blue, what urges that information to the surface?

The automatic processes of the psyche as guided by the innate!

Initially, getting in more touch with your innate mind may be interesting and exciting.

However, it may also be uncomfortable and you might feel resistance to continuing.

Pushing through this discomfort yields the potential of feeling more.

Pushing through opens up the capacity of knowing more.

Knowing more offers possibilities not available before.

The heart always sees before the head can.Thomas Carlyle

You have qualities and abilities you dont know you have.

When strengths or skills are long forgotten about, it feels like those abilities are lost.Getting in touch with feelings means getting in touch with lost characteristics of self.

Discovering qualities and characteristics thought to be lost is a wonderful experience.

Yet, how can you ever discover that which youre not aware of to begin with?

How can you know what you dont know?How can you know that youre not fully awake if youre not fully awake?This is not a play on words, but a call to consciousness because youve fallen asleep!

Fallen asleep in that you live more in an automatic, automated mode than not.

Going through the motions needed to take care of life, but not the needs of life.Asleep is a state of unconsciousness, missing the aliveness of the here and now.

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Routines are necessary, but they deaden spontaneity. Also, as independent and unique as you are, you

cant help but reflect your surroundings to some extent. If you live on a farm, squash will enter yourdreams or your conversation. When you live in society as most of us do, consciousness is unconsciously

shaped by its influence.

Living in an automated world, you live within an automated milieu.

Living in automated world automates your thinking and your behavior, just to live in it.

The Feel Technique promotes feeling and reverses the effects of unconsciousness.The technique helps you to feel feelings you havent been in touch with.

It expands your capacity to feel emotions with greater intensity.

Feeling more feelings and feeling them more deeply strengthens the connection to self.As well as the connection to life!

Connecting with your self promotes an emotional atmosphere of safety within.Feeling safe inside increases the comfort level of living within your own skin.

Feeling comfortable inside your own skin cannot be overrated.

Conscious effort cant reach innate and unconscious processes.The core of self is unreachable by the conscious mind.

Yet, the action of repeating a sound carries the vibration to the deepest parts of self.

The vibration reaches the core, resonates with the innate, and links you to that core.

Connecting with your core brings hidden attributes of self to the surface.

These unseen parts of self contain strengths that are useful in meeting sought after goals.Archimedes once said that a long lever and the right spot could move the world.

A powerful word or a new idea could move yours.

There are many words that can be considered more powerful than others.

Why would the sound of the word feel have any special capacity or property to it?

Wouldnt any word be just as effective if its used with repetition?

No; and heres the reason why.

Lets say youre going to visit the White House tomorrow.If your name is in the Presidents appointment book, youll get in to see him.

If your name isnt in his book, the best you can hope for is a tour.

There would be only one reason you wouldnt get in to see the President: Your name is not in his

calendar. If you arrive and your name is in his appointment book, however, you would be welcome to a

place of power and influence few gain access to.

Its the same thing with your nervous system. Calm down, relax, sleep are all good suggestions, but

they dont get in to the central executive command of your mind and the nervous system. Suggestions

and affirmations can be positive and consistent with your needs, yet their effect within the psyche islimited and usually temporary.

However, the word feel does get in. And it goes to the core of you because feeling is what yournervous system is all about. Positive affirmations dont last because they dont get in to the

unconscious processes of your minds core, control center.

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Instructions to the nervous system dont get in.The nervous system doesnt take orders.

Sometimes, however, it does take requests.

Especially when theyre repeated.

An internal energy transmission system within the human body operates at all times.

The energy transmission system within the body is also called your life-force.Energy is distributed and redistributed as needed within the body as an energy flow.FEEL promotes an alignment of this energy flow within the body.

The Feel Technique is powerful for three reasons.First, we are using vibration as an agent of change.

Second, we are employing a vibration that contains meaning.

And third, were using repetition.

Lets explore each of these reasons briefly:

The first reason is that vibrations are effective agents of change.Vibrations have an effect on a physical level thats visible as well as not visible to the eye.

Vibrations move through the air.You can feel the vibration in front of a speaker playing music.

Vibrations can carry unheard sound waves in the air, which you can hear on the radio.

All matter is made up of energy and all energy is vibrating.

There are some forms of energy that you can see, hear or measure.

And there are some forms of energy that arent readily apparent.

Vibrations can have physiological effects, as well.

Music creates moods with definite physiological effects.

Music produces an increased in physical energy, stimulating the flow of endorphins.An increased flow of endorphins enhances well-being and positive mental thoughts.

An increase in endorphins also helps the body to block the perception of physical pain.

As a meditation, FEEL improves memory, clarity of thought, and creativity.

As an inner command, FEEL stimulates the nervous system to work more to capacity.

As a vibration, it connects you to the rumblings of self and the hum of the universe.

Sound has vibration and vibration has power. The extent of that power was discovered recently by

scientists who found a direct link between men exposed to high noise levels for a long time and an

increased risk of heart attacks. (Willich)

Annoyance wasnt a factor, but volume was.

Vibrations are powerful.

As a vibration, music has the power to lift your spirits.

As a vibration, sound can shatter glass.As a vibration, all existence sings.

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I am convinced that there are universal currents of Divine Thought vibrating the ether everywhere, and

that anyone who can feel these vibrations is inspired.Richard Wagner

The second reason the Feel Technique is effective is the vibration used carries meaning.

The meaning of the word is lost in the redundancy of repetition.Yet the meaning is still delivered to unconscious processes on a vibrational level.

The third important explanation for its effectiveness is the use of repetition.Its well known that repetition has a strong influence on the subconscious mind.

The repetition of feel uses the subconscious to carry the vibration of feel to your core.

The psyche can change when given the opportunity, through repetition and concentration.

The Feel Technique has power, impact and influence within the psyche and the body.

It uses the right word, delivered in the right way, to the right place.

The goal of using FEEL is unity of self.

However, harmony is reached by first feeling disharmony.

There is an emotional disharmony in each of us, to one extent or another.We live with this internal tension all the time, so were mostly not aware of it.

These disconnections within the psyche keep you from feeling whole.

So any attempt to experience wholeness will likely bring up these divisions within you.

You can expect to feel blocked along the way.

FEEL puts you in touch with blocked feelings.Blockages are experienced as inner tension or vague feelings of negativity.

You can expect some resistance towards feeling unwanted feelings and negative blocks.

Your initial experience of any disconnected-ness will not be a comfortable one.

By nature, we dont like to feel uncomfortable and will go out of our way to avoid it.FEEL can help you through the blocks as well as resistance, if youre willing and able.

Without your full consent, youve been trained and programmed to resist feeling more.

Your mind has been the target of teachers and society with the shoulds of socialization.

All the minutes and hours and days of all the years spent in school were spent in the effort to train your

mind and civilize you. Little to none of it was spent exploring or checking the emotional condition of

your heart. Not to mention the needs neglected by your family. In sum, you learned that growing up

meant putting your feelings aside.

What usually happens in the educational process is that the faculties are dulled, over-loaded, stuffed andparalyzed so that by the time most people mature, they have lost their innate capabilities.R. Buckminster Fuller

In the process of socialization, some innate capabilities have been sacrificed.

Your head has been given dominion over the realm.One thing we know about power is that its never willingly abdicated.

Using FEEL can produce resistance from your head about whos in charge:

The head or the heart.

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If asked to point to yourself, youll point to the middle of your chest.If asked to point to your control center, you will likely point to your head.

This is the normal, if not unnatural balance between the mind and the heart.Normal, because we are all like that.

Unnatural, because thats not a good thing.

I once read that there is no such thing as an emotional mistake.Even though my head knew that it wasnt true, my heart knew that it was.

Early in life, the heart learns to hand over the reigns of control to the mind.Parents encourage it, school teaches it.

But one thing empowers the mind to take over more than anything else.

When the heart shuts down.

When something awful happens or is about to happen, within the blink of an eye, the heart can negotiate

with the mind to immediately stop feeling. Its not something youre aware within the moment it

happens, but that process happens to all of us at some time.

Ive heard We only use 10% of our brains, but we also only use 10% of our hearts.

When I heard this, I immediately knew it was true.How could I tell?

I could feel it!

DEFENSE MECHANISMS

You want to feel good. In fact, feeling good is at the top of your list. Whether its a pastime, hobby, a

movie, coffee break, meeting a friend, or having dinner out, there are any number of things youll do

during the day to feel better.

To feel better than what?

Than the moment before.

We do things to feel better because, to varying degrees, we are driven by the pleasure principle.

Sometimes feeling better is a part of our natural cycle, such as when we withdraw from the world to

refresh, recover or just have fun.

However, there is one thing you do to feel better that youre not aware of.

Its unconscious because you do it often and you do it automatically.

That is, you stop feeling.

One way to make sure you feel good is to make sure you dont feel bad.

When feelings are hurt or threatened, the heart shuts itself off, which shuts you down.

To protect itself, the psyche forms a defense mechanism to help the heart stop feeling.

Most defense mechanisms are a reaction to emotional pain the heart cannot bear to feel.

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Neurosis is always a substitute for legitimate suffering.

Carl Jung

The effort to stop feeling condemns the heart to a perpetual struggle with the pain.

In the effort to stop feeling, you lose the direct connection to the core of self and being.

In an effort to stop feeling, the loss of connection becomes a loss of control.

Ironically, that loss of control then appears to come from external sources.The worlds a tough place and parts of it are out of control.For those who lack inner control, the obligations of the world can be too demanding.

It easily appears that unmet goals are due to circumstances or external restraint.

Its really often from a lack of control from within.

A lack of control comes from the inability to get past unseen emotional pain.

Many of us spend our whole lives running from feeling with the mistaken belief that you cannot bear thepain. But you have already borne the pain. What you have not done is feel all you are beyond the pain.

Kahlil Gibran

In the effort to avoid emotional pain, we stop feeling.

Defense mechanisms are defined as psychological forces that prevent undesirable impulses from

entering consciousness. Defense mechanisms are ways the heart can pretend to not feel. For example,when youre rejected, neglected, betrayed, or abused, rationalization and denial soften the blow so it

doesnt hurt as much. To lesson or tone down the pain, the psyche helps the heart convince itself that it

doesnt matter.

Heres a good example: Years ago in high school I had a study partner I would visit every so often at his

home. Steve had an aquarium with a large collection of exotic fish and tropical marine life. It took a

while for me to realize it, but one day something caught my attention that I had seen every time Id beenthere, but never really noticed.

There was a large turtle sitting on a six-foot plastic oval platform. The platform was also large and

looked like a miniature racetrack. What struck me at that moment was the realization that whenever I

had visited, that turtle never, ever moved. Never! From the time I arrived there to the time I left, the

turtle just sat there, motionless.

When I realized this turtle never moved, I asked him why and he said, You want to see it move?

Watch this! Within a moment he grabbed one of the fish from one of the tanks and threw it onto theoval plastic racetrack. As quickly and as fast as the fish hit the deck, so did that turtle! In a flash, it

raced over and scooped up and swallowed the fish, moving at a speed I would have bet money on thatreptile never reaching.

And if that wasnt amazing enough, what happened next was even more interesting. The turtle, which I

had never even seen move, was now moving at mach turtle speed. It was in search of more fish and it

wasnt stopping! For the rest of my time there that day, I watched that turtle race around that deck,looking for another meal. I didnt get the whole picture until I left, when Steve walked me to the door.

As I walked out the door, he called out to me saying, I never feed the turtle.

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Theres a reason for bringing up the story about this poor creature.In some ways you are like that turtle.

When your needs arent met, you shut down and become unresponsive.

Wanting a fish thats not available hurts.So you stop feeling your needs by feeling less.

Allowing the want is uncomfortable, yet it germinates the seed of motivation.Motivation moves us from dependency to self-reliance.And thats where the fish are.

When feelings are disowned, they manifest in other ways, such as projection. Projection is the defensewhere disallowed feelings seem to come from someone else. Others may appear sneaky, even as youre

not in touch with your own dishonesty.

People can appear seductive, though youre not aware of your own hungry looks.

Others seem angry, even as you reject that quality in yourself.

When feelings are easily disowned, its an indication of disconnection and hiding from yourself. Onefavorite place to hide from feelings and the real you is in the head. Hiding inside your intellect with

defense mechanisms such as denial, suppression, or projection, you get to ignore how you really feel.

As defense mechanisms shield the psyche from emotional scarring, they help you to hide from yourself.Hiding in your head can include obsessing about answers and explanations that seem important but

mostly serve to distract you from how you really feel.

Defense mechanisms defend the psyche from emotional pain.

Part of that defense is the forming of emotional armor to ease or quiet the pain.

Emotional armor is a tightness in the muscles that is so constant, youre not aware of it.The emotional nature and real physicality of this armor limits input from the heart.

Since most quality solutions include input from the heart, this becomes a problem.

Good decisions require quality answers and feedback from your innerguidance system. Information needed for a good decision wont surface

easily when the heart is shut off.

Defense mechanisms protect us from the conscious awareness of thoughts

and feelings that are too uncomfortable to feel. For the heart,

defense mechanisms aid the heart in the denial of its own feelings.For the mind, its a way of not knowing what you know.

Defense mechanisms help protect us. Sometimes, it is best to put off letting yourself know how you

really feel until a later date. Defenses can also protect the psyche from being overloaded and blowing afuse. An unfortunate byproduct though, is that these mechanisms shut your heart down, thus limiting

your capacity to feel.

In the course of growing up we all lose parts of self. The trade-offs and compromises we make are part

of the socialization that comes with the territory of being part of a society. But some things take bigger

chunks out of us than others. It can happen suddenly, as with trauma. Or it can take place over time,such as the continual shaming of feelings until they are safely tucked away.

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In the moment before, or during an awful event, part of the psyche detaches from itself.

In that moment of detachment, a part of self unconsciously goes somewhere else.Its not astral projection, but a way of avoiding the next awful moment.

For example, a woman who was molested said: He ran after me, and then he caught me, and then hethrew me to the ground. But I cant remember what happened next because I just went up to the ceiling

during the whole mess.

Another example is a man who thought he was going to die in a plane crash. Though the plane didntcrash, it looked like it was going to in those moments the plane took a nosedive. In those few minutes,

he thought he was going to die very shortly. When asked if he had lived through that plane ride, he

thought carefully for a moment and then softly said No. He felt like he hadnt lived through it becausehis psyche froze in the moment before (the expected) death, in order to avoid it.

Rather than face certain death, part of self freezes in that moment.Then it splits and goes somewhere else to avoid whats about to happen.

Dissociation allows the mind to go somewhere else during the expected, awful event.

During a traumatic event, your body is stuck where it is at that moment.Though youre stuck in that situation, it doesnt stop the psyche from going elsewhere.

Once a part of self splits, it doesnt usually return on its own.When the self disconnects from self, the fragment goes somewhere else.

The psyche can go up to the ceiling, out the window, or deep within.

When a child dissociates, he or she can also go behind or under the furniture.When a child dissociates, they can go into the crack of a wall or the wallpaper.

In time, the awful event fades from memory.Time heals all wounds, even if superficially.

You pick yourself up by your bootstraps and move on with your life.

You try to put the memory of the event behind because thats all you can do.

A piece of self is left behind either before or during the trauma (or abuse or neglect).But theres nothing you can do to get it back, so you try to be the best adult you can.

It is the nature of reality that time keeps moving forward, even when we dont.So, even as you are in the here and now, parts of self are stuck in the past.

Some memories are particularly strong because thats where were the most stuck.

The memory still has a charge to it because you are frozen somewhere in that memory.Or frozen just before the event in order to avoid the whole thing from ever happening.

The Chronology of Dissociation:An awful event.

Intolerably bad feelings.

Heart stops feeling.The self fragments.

A hole appears.

The process of losing a part of self leaves an emotional hole in the psyche.

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Deep in the mind, the hole is real and produces persistent uncomfortable feelings.

Negative feelings are felt emotionally or physically and can be vague or specific.Vague, in that you cant put your finger on exactly whats wrong.

Or specific in that you know what the negative feeling is.

Negative feelings can come from emotional holes or from circumstances.

Negative feelings that come from circumstances pass in time.

Negative feelings that come from emotional holes dont.Negative feelings that come from emotional holes never really go away.They are just masked, repressed, medicated or tolerated.

You cant see beyond yourself any more than anyone can.You have to accept your version of reality because there is no sane alternative.

If negative feelings become pervasive in your experience, then that is your reality.

Reality is often just a reflection of your emotional state.

Mans mind is a mirror of the universe that mirrors mans mind.

Joseph Chilton Pearce

Your nervous system houses your capacity to feel.

Your body and nervous system is the home YOU live in.

The condition of your nervous system paints your view of the world.

No one can see beyond their own understanding and reality of the world.

What you can develop beyond your current capacity, though, is your ability to feel.You can feel more than youre feeling now

You can feel more alive than you generally feel.

Why feel more?

An increased capacity to feel more of self leads to unity and wholeness.

Wholeness of self produces quietness of mind and spirit.Quietness of mind and spirit allows you to use your own eyes.

A quiet mind allows you to see a bit more than your self.

The quiet mind allows you to see a bit more outside of you.

Whats in the way of that quietness and unity of self is dissociation. Dissociation freezes chunks of self

in the past, even as time moves on. This is an unconscious process, so you never fully realize this is all

going on, whether it happens suddenly or even gradually, over time. What you are aware of, though, isan unquiet, restless mind and persistent uncomfortable feelings.

While youre unaware of any loss of self, the inner mind knows of the loss.The inner, unconscious mind works overtime to cover the deficit.

This constant compensation keeps the mind busy trying to stay one step ahead.

If you had the wholeness you were born with, it wouldnt be so hard to figure things out.

If you had the wholeness you were born with, it would be easier to get things done.

If you had the wholeness you were born with, you would have confidence few possess.

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Dissociation is the unconscious act of the self disconnecting from the self.

Dissociation leaves holes in the soul that cause feelings of emptiness and pain.You can fill these holes with stimulation from sex, food, alcohol or gambling.

This kind of stimulation bypasses the heart as its source.

Stimulation that bypasses the heart as its source leaves a bigger hole.

Addiction to sensation and stimulation helps to avoid pain and emptiness.

It also keeps you from knowing yourself, your soul, and your higher power.

Dissociation is a natural operation of the psyche to protect itself.

As an unconscious function, you dont realize it when its happening.

We all have dissociated to one degree or another. Every one of us!We all have a well-developed shell we can hide behind without anyone noticing.

Youre not aware that youve shut down and a piece of you is now snagged in time.You can feel, though, the uncomfortable feelings this loss has left.

Persistent uncomfortable feelings are often born in the moments of dissociation.

They are at the base of most depression, anxiety, phobias, compulsions, and obsessions.

If feelings come up during the use of FEEL that are depressing, feel them.

If you feel depressed, seek a professional first before using the technique.

The state of depression is best explored with therapy, not FEEL.However, if depressed feelings emerge during FEEL, they should be felt.

Its easy to lose parts of self while growing up.Parts of self get lost through socialization, dissociation and compromise.

In the process of growing up, your sense of identity gets firmer and firmer.

Once its fully developed, other peoples ideas dont get in as easily as they did before.Until your sense of self develops, its easy for external ideas to get inside.

Once an idea takes root, you could live your life based on the assumptions of that idea.

The more of self thats left behind, the more easily others can have influence over you.When you dont trust your own sense of direction, youll accept others points of view.

When you depend on others, its harder to make important decisions on your own.

The reality is: Any action you take can have unexpected negative consequence.

That means that any decision can turn out to be a mistake.

Relying on others has a downside that cant be avoided.If a mistake is made based on your decision, youll feel bad about it.

If you make a mistake and it wasnt your idea, youll feel much worse.

Dissociation keeps you from trusting your feelings and knowing your innate.The innate has the knowledge you want and need.

Did you know that you have a second brain?Its not a brain you might recognize because its in your stomach.

THE ENTERIC SYSTEM

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The enteric system sounds like a sector of space out of a Star Trek episode, but its actually a place

inside of you. The enteric system is a separate nervous system in your body that begins where the foodgoes in and ends where it all comes out. In other words, your whole digestive system is endowed with

its own, local nervous system.

Scientists consider the enteric nervous system a complex integrated brain in its own right and call it a

second brain. It has as many nerves as the spinal cord, and is just as complex. Most of the enteric

system is in the lining of your stomach. It is made of millions of neurons that, in essence, are a secondbrain. The effects of this system on you is commonly referred to as your gut sense.

Now thats a lot to think about and maybe hard to understand.

What that means is that your gut sense is an expression of innate intelligence.Messages from the gut are usually practical, sensible, and sometimes valuable.

Feelings from your gut could contain wisdom thats good for you to know about.

There is value in being in touch with your gut.

Can you see that? Do you know that? Can you feel that?

An interesting side note about the enteric system is that the actual shape of the neurons in that systemresemble that of simple invertebrates. An invertebrate is an animal with a backbone. So, its almost like

having a backbone in your gut, if you could only trust it.

When you ignore gut feelings, you lose a valuable piece of your own real estate.

When someone lies to you, you might not notice the body language inconsistent with what theyresaying. You might not focus in on a facial expression that doesnt match their tone of voice in the

moment it happens. While youre not aware of all the visual cues incongruous with their statements, a

lot of it does register with the subconscious.

Studies shows that whenever someone tells a lie, at some point, in some way, it registers in their face or

body language or both. You might not consciously pick up on the features and details within the small,

split second their real face comes out, but in that snapshot of a moment, it registers somewhere withinyou; as you feel it in your gut, your heart, or both.

The heart sees better than the eye.Hebrew Proverb

If you rely on others, you might miss the moment of their inconsistency.

If you depend on logic, you might not read between the lines.If you dont trust yourself, you may not feel your stomach twinge when you hear a lie.

The heart sometimes finds out things that reason cannot.Robert Benson

Detachment from feelings leaves gaps in awareness.

Down the avenue of life, gaps in awareness can cause you to be blindsided.Imagine using only part of your heart and brain.

It would restrict your ability to function.

However, in time, you would adjust to the limitations.

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Life would go on and you would accept your disabilities.

The fact is that to some degree, this is just about what has happened to you.

Socialization has decompartmentalized you.Awful events have dissociated you.

Conditioning has repressed you.

And fragments of self have split.

When using FEEL, you invite yourself to feel more.

In time, as you feel more, you begin to trust yourself more, as well.

In time, that trust of self expands to thoughts and decisions.In time, that trust of self expands, becoming a safe space around you.

Like a comfort zone.

A comfort zone is not only comfortable.

It is a space to more comfortably make a stand.

EMOTIONS

What are emotions?

Emotions are the central nervous systems reaction to events based on beliefs formed within the

conscious mind. In other words, if you tell me that you hate me, my immediate, automatic reaction willcome from my belief about what that means to me. If Im glad youre out of my life or will miss you

terribly will directly influence how I feel about what youve said.

Feelings can best be understood in the context of meaning.

What does the event or circumstance mean to you?

Children are at the affect of their emotions and are greatly influenced by them. Their bodies are smalland so feelings dont have very far to travel. Poke an infant in the stomach and their whole body reacts.

In a childs small frame, feelings dont have far too go, and there is little to no disconnection yet.

While beliefs are formed through experience, the mind can be programmed with ideas that are foreign to

its nature. Children dont have the emotional boundaries that adults have in order to fend off external

ideas and beliefs. A parents mind-set or set of feelings can integrate into a childs psyche, becomingaccepted realities or personality traits. Like osmosis, a mothers anger can find its way into a childs

emotional makeup and stay there, forever. If youve been angry as long as you can remember, youll

accept this trait as part of your personality, never questioning that these feelings might not have been

yours to begin with.

Formed in childhood, our emotional mindset often lasts a lifetime.

However, your mindset is also formed by experience and programming.Experience is the natural process of learning.

Programming occurs when the mind swallows an idea whole.

Few are those who see with their own eyes and feel with their own hearts.

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Albert Einstein

When something very good or very bad happens to you, it causes a strong emotional response. To better

insure that it never happens again or that it happens more often, you form fixed or idiosyncratic

responses. As certain thoughts, feelings and reactions become characteristic of how you respond and

react, in time you accept these reactive responses as part of your personality; as just part of who you are.

If you were slapped down when you tried to assert yourself as a child, the inner restraints developed inthose moments can last forever. If you were shamed when you expressed vulnerability, your sensitiveside may not come out very often any more. When you develop a fixed response, over time it feels like

its a natural response. But its not so much from you, as it is your conditioning.

When you were born, you didnt arrive with the ability to hold back your emotions.

You learned to hold them in with the help from unconscious, automatic mechanisms.

The body unconsciously tightens to help you hold back your feelings.

Over time, this self-control integrates into the psyche, manifesting as rigid responses.

Sometimes the best thing to do is hold back, especially when the situation is volatile. However, when

you hold your self and your feelings back so often you hardly notice it, its not healthy and its notsatisfying.

It takes tension to hold feelings in.Tension that holds in feelings becomes fixed and chronic.

You dont feel the tightness because it is always there.

The tension of a watch mostly goes unnoticed for a lifetime.So too, can the inner tensions that hold back your emotions.

Inner emotional restraints over time give birth to chronic responses.

These habitual responses then become accepted as personality traits.

Chronic emotional restrains turn honest feelings into safe half-truths.

Self-expression becomes muted and censored and subdued.When self-expression is lost, feelings arent expressed well or fully.

Aspects of love, anger and vulnerability get lost in the translation of feelings into words.

Getting in touch with the inner you automatically aids and encourages self-expression.

Emotions are from the innate, from your inner being.

You dont have to think about what you feel.You just feel it!

Why, because the nervous system is designed to feel.

You may see yourself one way while others see you another.

Inner being bypasses these relative points of view and attitudes.

Inner being comes from your center and your innate.Using FEEL creates a naturalistic trance that brings you closer to the inner you.

When youre in touch with the inner self, feelings are more comfortable to feel.

FEEL isnt programming.

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FEEL is an experiential process of learning.

FEEL resonates to your inner being.FEEL reverberates to your core.

FEEL vibrates within your center.

FEEL enlivens your emotions and makes you feel more and feel more alive.

Emotions come from one of three places:

1] Internal tension2] External programming3] A natural response from self, and the innate.

Feelings originating from internal tension vibrate on one level.Feelings programmed externally by others resonate on another.

Feelings that come from the heart have a very special resonance.

Tension, programming and the innate each have their own frequency or vibration.

Its hard to tell if feelings are coming from tension, programming or from your self.

Its hard to contrast the subtle differences in these kinds of feelings or vibrations.

The innate, however, can tell the difference.

The vibration of feel enables the innate to help you sort your feelings out.

Feel has a vibration that encourages and stimulates the nervous system to feel more.

Feel is a vibration that empowers the innate as it resonates within the core of self.

The innate knows what belongs in the psyche and whats foreign to it.The innate knows the difference between real emotions and reactive ones.

The innate can tell if a feeling comes from tension or from the heart.

When feelings surface, you dont stop to think what kinds of feelings they are.

You just know that the feeling came up without any effort on your part.

A thought could come from the heart or from an idea planted years ago.

While you might not know the difference, the innate does.

Using FEEL daily produces benefits because feel vibrates and the innate responds.

Innate can help sort what belongs and what doesnt, whats you and whats not.Innate heightens conscious awareness and helps determine whats not a part of it.

When feelings are sorted out, whats left is you.

Heightened awareness encourages more of that which is really you to the forefront.

Clearer and more definite feelings make it easier to find the right direction.

Your body may be what you eat, but you are what you feel.

FEEL helps the innate help you.

The innate is a natural force.The dynamism behind anti-bodies attacking germs is from the innate.

The innate also has the potential to help the heart fill in some missing pieces.

The more a heart is restored and can feel, the more it can feel satisfied.When a heart is satisfied, the body can hold a positive charge for a longer period of time.

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FEEL increases your ability to feel and hold a positive charge, longer.

The more positive you feel, the clearer perceptions, judgments and insights become.Perception, judgment and insight are all qualities of discernment.

A heightened ability to feel your feelings promotes better discernment.

Distinguishing whether feelings come from you or your history is not easy.

We all carry the legacy of our parents emotional mind-set.

We also contain some of the generational history that preceded them.

FEEL helps sort out what belongs and what doesnt, whats you and whats added.

Again, when you sort out feelings, whats left is you.

Using FEEL is a journey of self-discovery about who you are.In time, negative, unwanted feelings transform into positive emotions.

Using the Feel Technique on positive emotions is then a journey of who you can be.

The thing you set your mind on is the thing you ultimately become.

Nathaniel Hawthorne

The Feel Technique makes you feel more.Feel is a vibration that brings blocks and disconnections to the surface.

Feel can dissolve some disconnections.

The ones it cant dissolve or reduce need therapy.

When disconnections surface they can release their energy.

When a block releases its energy, without its charge, it can then transform.Disconnections that surface can then dissolve, forging more unity within.

The Feel Technique makes you feel more.

The purpose of FEEL is to create unity of self.

Unity of self makes you more comfortable being in your own skin.Unity of self makes setting boundaries easier.

Unity of self produces greater inner strength.Unity of self makes for a sweeter essence within you and without.

The goal of FEEL is unity of self, but what is the purpose of unity?To be comfortable with yourself.

To be comfortable within your own skin.

A unified mind dissolves or lessons anxiety and negative feelings.

Decisions that come from the heart, not tension or programming, produce more solid and satisfactory

results. However, decisions that come from the heart can also be wrong or even evil. And, for all itswisdom, the heart is capable of greatly deceiving itself for a time. So wisdom, reason and logic areessential ingredients in any decision. And, while even a wise decision is no guarantee of success, any

decision that considers the needs of the heart is still more likely to be fruitful and nurturing.

Feelings have a profound influence on how your life turns out.

Feelings of achievement or purpose help to determine your goals.

Feelings of confidence then help you to achieve them.

Feelings of uncertainty can get in the way.

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Feelings can make us feel right when were wrong and wrong when were right.

For better or worse, feelings are our emotional compass in the sea of life.

Feelings lead to decisions and decisions lead to action.

Your place in the journey of life is a direct result of those actions.Increasing your capacity to feel will lead you further down the road in that journey.

FEELINGS AND RELATIONSHIPS

Feelings are the foundation of our decisions and actions. For instance, when buying a product or a

service, you have practical and logical reasons why you did so. Yet, if you take a step back and examineyour reasons for buying, youll find the reasons are really based on your emotions.

Usually, we make up our minds based on how we feel, and then add on the reasons why.

Most decisions are based on three things:

Feelings of comfort, confidence and trust.

Decisions entail how comfortable you feel getting involved.Theyre about how confident you feel about the outcome.

And about how much you feel you can trust the people involved.

You can have any number of good reasons for making a decision.

But theyre really based on feelings of comfort, confidence and trust.

Any venture, emotional or financial, can involve significant risk.The greater the importance of the venture, usually the more risk.

The ability to feel more is the result of a heart thats more open.An open heart in a sea of closed hearts is a risky venture.

People will take advantage, if you let them.

Thats why being taken advantage of is most everyones number one fear.

Yet, with an open heart comes aliveness and a renewed interest in life.

Aliveness and interest have unique rewards.

Aliveness and interest are their own rewards.

Aliveness makes you feel closer to people.

Relationships are like investments.They can pay off in emotionally satisfying ways.

And they can make you vulnerable to the risk of loss.

Yet theres little to no reward without risk.

Do you feel emotionally strong enough to take the chance to feel more?

When you feel more, theres greater involvement with others.

What can happen then?You can be betrayed.

You can be hurt to the core.

You can make a new friend that enhances the quality of your time here.

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When deciding who to get close to and who to keep at a distance, you can factor in any number of

things. Determining whos safe to confide in and who isnt requires some judgment. As you weigh thepros and cons of friendship with someone, as you rummage through all the ideas you have about them, it

really all comes down to this:

How comfortable do you feel with them?

How much confidence do you have in them?

How much can you trust them with personal information?Your decisions are based on feelings.Feelings of comfort, confidence and, most of all, trust.

Next time you have an important decision, ask yourself:How comfortable will I be if I do this?

How confident am I about how well this will turn out?

Do I feel I can trust them to do what they say they will?If any reservation comes to mind, or your gut flinches:

Trust your feelings!

The paradigm of comfort, confidence and trust is not a new one.The cornerstone of any good relationship is trust and respect.

But reaching your goals requires that you know when its safe to disclose information.

It means knowing who to trust and what they can be trusted with.Some will earn your trust while others betray it.

Life is a series of losing things, and sometimes that includes friends.

But since so much of life and the decisions you make come from your feelings, its in your best interest

to get to know your emotions and how they influence you. You want to meditate with feel until you

get past the influence of those feelings on your actions. You want to come from a place of action, notreaction.

And yet, regardless of how you feel or what you feel, theres no guarantee of success.

Those who are in touch with their feelings make mistakes, too.Very smart and fairly wise people screw up and have regrets all the time.

But heres what feeling more does for you.It creates a space inside that feels safe to be in.

When you feel safe inside, its easier to stand your ground.

When you feel more, actions that come from the heart may make waves.Unity of self and harmony of feelings limit the influences of those external forces.

Inside that safe space within your center, other peoples actions have less effect on you.

HOLES

Dissociation leaves holes within the psyche that create uncomfortable feelings. Persistentuncomfortable feelings are the foundation of depression and anxiety. Phobias, compulsions and

obsessions are attempts to manage or control them.

Persistent uncomfortable feelings are born in the moments of dissociation.

Self disconnects from self and leaves holes that cant be seen, only felt.

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They generate vague feelings of discomfort that are hard to describe.

They can also manifest as somatic symptoms in specific areas of the body.

Holes reside in the unconscious, so we have no conscious control over them.

Holes in the soul make you feel like enough is not enough no matter what you do. When you cant

hold a positive charge for very long, something is missing inside. Its uncomfortable going through life

feeling the emptiness that comes from a hole.

Experimentation and lifestyles can fill holes for a while, but they both have their costs.

People, things and elements can fill them, but only for so long.

When you try to control others, it is usually an attempt to fill a hole.Controlling others is an attempt to quell persistent uncomfortable feelings.

The center that I cannot find is known to my unconscious mind.W.H. Auden

Most people never find out how to expand their senses, nor get to know their inner mind.

The Feel Technique provides a way to best contact and activate that unconscious center.Holes in the soul are in, or near that center of self.

So when you use FEEL, you can expect to encounter holes.

After a time, some holes will dissolve.When that happens, new points of control are conceived.

However, you dont have to push yourself to make this work.You dont have to push yourself to feel more than you want to or are ready to.

As the old saying goes, dont push the river.

Use FEEL to feel the holes coming from negative feelings when youre ready to.

Parts of the journey of self-exploration are uncomfortable. Are you ok with that?Start the journey of self-discovery with FEEL when youre sure it is.

Archimedes believed that a long enough lever and the right place to stand could empower him to move

the world. The lever is your innate and the ground is your core. FEEL connects your conscious mind to

its source, where thoughts and feelings come from, providing new points of control.

Feel your way through the negativity instead of doing something to make your self feel better.

When you have to do something to feel better, the hole controls you.

Feeling your way through the negativity loosens its hold on you.Controlling others is usually an attempt to make you feel better.

When negative feelings lose their grip, so does the need to control other people.

Allowing is liberating.

Allowing stops the struggle.

Allowing diminishes the charge within the negative emotion.A negative emotion with a diminished charge is easier to change.

If the negative feelings dont subside, then therapy, medication or both could be warranted.

If anxiety turns to panic, again its a call for treatment.

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There is one set of emotions that are tough to get through on your own.They are called enmeshed feelings, and are several feelings mixed into one.

Enmeshed feelings are two are more feelings that overlap and occupy the same space.

For example, ANger, GUIlt, and SHame can be enmeshed and experienced as ANGUISH. Enmeshed

feelings wont dissipate until they are first separated. You cant consciously separate feelings that are

unconsciously entangled. If you feel you are shame based, or that guilt controls your emotions or angerruns your life, sort out your feelings with a professional first. Then use the vibration of feel.

II THE DEEP END

THE MIND

Now if all that wasnt deep enough, we now go into the deep end.

Some decisions have to be made in a moments notice. When you have to make a decision within a

second, what does the mind do to help you? It sorts through a lifetime of information and then showsyou the relevant pictures needed for your decision. From moment to moment, youre aware of how you

feel, but know nothing of the unconscious processes that produced that feeling.

For example, a strange dog comes out of nowhere while walking with a friend down the street. Within

seconds hes in front of both of you. You bend over and pet the animal, but your friend backs off. What

caused the different reactions to the same animal?

You both saw different pictures of what you thought was likely to happen next. Youre not aware of

those pictures as they flashed before your eyes for about 1/10 of a second. Though too fast toconsciously see, it creates a sense in you of feeling safe or unsafe.

Where do feelings of safety or danger come from?

Feelings come from pictures that originate in the subconscious mind and flash or pop up too quickly to

consciously see. Though youre not aware of having seen them, these pictures exert a strong power,

anyway. These pictures flash before your eyes for a fraction of a second, and you trust the informationcoming from this inner, hidden guidance system. You trust it enough that you unconsciously base your

reality on it.

Somewhere between the conscious mind and the unconscious mind is the subconscious.

The unconscious is that pool of knowledge completely hidden from consciousness.

The subconscious is the information just below the surface of conscious awareness.

The subconscious can be our vehicle to the psyches deepest part, the unconscious mind.The unconscious mind is the most direct link to the unconscious processes of the body.

Though the sound of feel is a silent thought, it is heard within the subconscious. Repetition causes thesubconscious to carry the invitation/command to the unconscious. It is the vibration (with meaning) that

prompts the nervous system to respond.

The realm of vibrations is a difficult world to understand.

The realm of vibrations is different then our level of existence.

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The realm of the subconscious and unconscious is also hard to grasp.

Fortunately, understanding is not necessary to get results.

Practice of the technique is.

Physicists tell us that while your chair is solid enough to hold you, it is vibrating on an unseen, atomic

level. This atomic, unseen world is nothing like ours, yet is the basis of all that is. The fundamental

substrate of the universe is an atomic world of vibration.

All life is vibration

All life has a vibration.

All existence vibrates.

Activating a deeper level of awareness to stimulate the lower leagues of the innate mind is a potent

strategy. Using vibration, the underlying level of existence, to stimulate the innate yields a new level ofawareness.

Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them.

Albert Einstein

Vibrations are very powerful.

Thats one reason why truth resonates.Vibration is the language of all matter and energy in existence.

Vibrations operate on an unseen level we cant fully comprehend.

The subconscious also operates on an unseen level that we dont understand.

With the exception of when youre sleeping and your conscious mind is shut off, you dont usually see

the contents of your subconscious mind. Even so, the unseen subconscious does influence most of our

thoughts and feelings. You can tell youre receiving help by unseen inner forces due to the ease with

which thoughts come to you and how simply reactions arise.

Psychology talks about the cognitive world were aware of as well as the subconscious world we knowlittle about. Physics states that the world functions on a plane of existence we can see as well as an

atomic level we dont. Whether we look at the surface or consider that which cant be seen, all

existence is unified through vibration.

Whether a man looks passionately at the surface or dispassionately at the core, the core and the surface

are essentially one in the same, words only making them seem different in order to express appearance.

Lao-Tzu

All existence and everything in it share the common property of vibration.Vibrations resonate on and through solid, liquid, atmospheric, and energetic levels.Vibrations exist on the level of thought.

Vibration speaks to the core of being.

A vibration with meaning speaks to the core of self.Understanding is not necessary.

Doing is.

The world is never quiet, even its silence eternally resounds

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with the same notes, in vibrations that escape our ears.

Albert Camus

The vibration of life is unceasing, so it cannot be heard in the quietest moment.

FEEL induces a light trance that sends a vibration to the core.

The hum of existence is too constant and unchanging to be heard.But the hum of being within resonates when the mind is in trance.

Trance means going within to the core of self.Trance tunes into the vibration of being.

The earth moves, but due to size and consistency, we dont feel it.However, we can feel the gravity that its movement produces.

Existence has a vibration, but since its constant, we cannot hear it.

Existence resonates at a pitch beyond our sight and hearing.

Yet countless vibrations are all around us all the time.

Vibration speaks to physical matter and meaning speaks to the core of self.

Therefore, using a vibration with meaning has a strong influence within.All matter, all objects, all things in the universe have a vibration.

Inviting one vibration to another vibration is a potent intervention.The place where one vibration meets another is called a point of contact.

Points of contact are wonderful opportunities for change.

And you want to change.

You came into this world as a completely feeling person.

Your feelings got shut off and now you want to turn them back on.

To be more alive and awake, you have to connect with your very foundation.

There is a very big word for what feelings are based on.Its called epistemology.

The definition of epistemology is:

How you know what you know.

But how do you know what you know?

You can feel it.

If youre hurt or angry, ask yourself how you can tell.

The answer will always be: Because I can feel it!

FEAR

Fear comes from the unknown.

And while knowledge overcomes fear, fear can also comes from insecurity.

Disconnections build a constitutional sense of insecurity within.

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When disconnected parts have an opportunity to mend there is an increased sense of security. When that

happens, the pressure and electricity of fear lessens. However, undoing fear and its effects is a paradox,much like the Chinese finger test.

To release your fingers from the trap, you must push them in, towards each other.You must first go further in before you can get out.

Its the same thing with fear.

You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience

in which you really stop to look fear in the face.

Eleanor Roosevelt

Overcoming fear first requires a step towards it.

The vibration of FEEL activates and awakens you.

Sometimes, waking up is uncomfortable.Sometimes you wont like what you feel or come to realize.

Sometimes feeling afraid is a real possibility.

Heres an example of someone who dealt with his fears directly.

Buddha grappled with fear fairly head on.After Buddha found enlightenment, fear was never an issue.

By definition, enlightenment means to lighten up.

Buddha found enlightenment, but how did he do it?

Buddha was a Prince whose parents kept him locked in their castle until he was an adult.

His every possible need was attended to so he wouldnt want to go outside of the palace.

Sheltering him from the realities of life, he never saw the pain and suffering of others.

His parents created a mythical world of safety and security to keep him happy.They didnt want him to know what was going on beyond the palace walls.

And they didnt want him to leave.

One day, he looked over the castle walls and discovered some terrible conditions.

While he lived in a world of affluence and comfort, he saw poverty and death.Seeing such terrible conditions for the first time in his adult life, he was devastated.

He didnt know what to believe anymore.

He was certain though, that everything he was told, knew, and ever believed was wrong.Realizing nearly all that he knew to be a lie, the Prince felt scared and very out of control.

He was royalty, so he had the best instructors and teachers.But they had perpetuated his parents mythical world of comfort behind the palace walls.

Knowing his sense of reality had been distorted, he wanted to know what truth was.

But what would be the basis of his new sense of reality and his place in it?He didnt know where to begin or what direction to go.

He knew he couldnt count on his educators.

He knew he couldnt trust his friends.

And he knew his parents had lied to him about the nature of life since he was born.

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Very confused, he left the castle to search for truth.

Everywhere he went he saw suffering, poverty and death.

Buddha questioned the meaning of what he saw and how he felt.

He had many questions with few or no answers.He had nowhere to go and no one to rely on for explanations.

So, in the search for truth, he went inside himself.

He picked a spot with a tree to sit under and then sat there for many, many weeks.

The tree had a stream nearby so he wouldnt have to go far for a drink.

During the time he sat there, he got hungry and horny and scared and confused.Over the long weeks, he had many strong feelings and a lot of mixed emotions.

The nerve endings in his back and bottom ached from sitting for so long.

His doubts would visit daily, pounding on his head that his actions were unheard of.Fear would come and whisper that hed soon be dead if he didnt eat something soon.

Anxiety would scream in his mind that his sanity could not bear the strain much longer.

Yet, except to drink and relieve himself, he sat there week after week, hardly moving.

He felt his feelings more strongly because there was nothing else to do.

He was uncomfortable and had more negative feelings then positive ones.The tree he sat under was out in the open and he could drink from the stream.

But sitting there day after day was more like solitary confinement.

So how did Buddha reach enlightenment?

He faced his fears until they were faced down.He faced his fears until they lost their context and form.

He faced them until they no longer had meaning within his experience.

He faced them until they had no basis in his reality.

He faced his fears until they could no longer come back.He was not God and never claimed to be.

He was just a guy who would do anything to feel in control.

Buddha had to sit under a tree for a real long time to conquer his fears.

You can use FEEL at your convenience and at your pace to face yours.

A good many people spend a good part of their lives in fear.

We are afraid of not being prepared, not being right or not being what we should.

When fear escalates to the point of feeling scared, thats when it gets uncomfortable.

Our natural response is to get away from the source of the feelings that make us scared.

Though fear is a feeling that comes from inside, the source seems external.

Feelings dont exist independently of you, but the cause usually appears to.

If you get scared during FEEL, youll notice there is no external source to the fear.

When the source of the feeling is clearly within and not outside, it can be a relief.The insight that fear emanates from within is another step towards dissolving it.

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Some advocate denying or ignoring fear in favor of love.

Denying fear is a betrayal to the heart because thats where fear comes from.Life can be scary. Can you let it be ok to be scared sometimes?

Life is scary, so fear is an emotion best allowed until its energy extinguishes itself.

Fear can also contain or mask other emotions such as anger or sadness.

When feelings of fear lessen to the point of diminishing, other feelings can then surface.

When those feelings surface and are felt, they can release their energy, too.

Feelings that are felt have a fairly short shelf life.

If you begin to feel afraid while meditating on feel, you can do one of three things.First, you can continue with FEEL until the feeling subsides.

Or invite the sound of feel to the area where the fear is located.

Or you can stop using the technique for a day or so.

FEEL connects you to yourself.

FEEL connects you with emotions.

Emotions include fear.Allow yourself to feel scared.

However, allowing yourself to feel the sting of fear has its limits. Dont want to allow yourself to beoverwhelmed by fear unless it feels right to push through that feelings. Take all the time you need

during the mediation to be certain that that feels like the right way to go.

Emotions include fear, which comes from the heart, but panic is in the head.

DO NOT USE this technique if you feel high anxiety or are subject to panic attacks!

Panic is a symptom of an earlier disconnect or the inability to nurture yourself.(The inability to nurture your self is the unlearned ability to do so.)

If you use FEEL when feeling panic or while under emotional assault youll feel worse.

FEEL may activate a memory where a part of you is still stuck. You can tell when a memory isunfinished because you have an aversion to recalling it and when you do, it seems to go on and on

forever. If an unpleasant memory comes up while using FEEL, continue to focus on the sound unless

you feel overwhelmed.

One feeling thats good to allow yourself to feel overwhelmed by, however, is grief.

It is the nature of grief to be overpowering, so its ok to feel it.When a feeling is intense, yet it feels right to stay with it, allow the feeling.

Otherwise, stop and use the Feel Technique another time.

If overwhelming feelings continue, its a sign of unresolved issues and inner pain.Severe emotional pain may require more attention than a technique can offer.

If the feelings get worse and memories wont go away, therapy might be the answer.

If feelings come up during the use of FEEL that are depressing, feel them.

If you feel depressed before using the technique, seek a professional first.

The state of depression is best explored with therapy, not FEEL.Yet, if feelings come up while meditating that are depressing, allow them if you can.

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Unless the feelings are panic or emotionally overpowering, or are

getting in the way of daily functioning, let it be ok to feel yourfeelings for as long as you can. When the roots of fear are from a time

when emotional or survival needs were threatened, facing fear can feel like facing death itself.

On one TV show, a character went into therapy to learn how to express feelings of anger and

dissatisfaction to those closest to her. Her newfound expressiveness began to positively impact her

relationships as each person she confronted acknowledged her feelings and agreed to change. With eachencounter, the positive feedback increased her certainty that she was right to feel the way she did andcorrect to say something about it.

The positive reinforcement she received made her voice stronger and firmer as she progressed fromperson to person. Her ability to clearly, concisely and with heartfelt assertiveness express herself began

to dramatically change her life and transform her closest relationships in a concrete and meaningful way.

Life began tasting sweet as things started to go more her way, as she felt in control for the first time inher life.

Her husband couldnt take it, however, and killed her.

The fact that her death was, in part, accidental, added all the more irony to this scenario because her TV

death plays to our worst fears that we will die or something terrible will happen if we say what we really

feel.

Our fear of death, of course, is not rational.

The death of others is not your death, though it can feel that way.You have never died, so death is only a concept.

Though death is only an idea, the concept seems like more than a notion.

Its hard to see past your fear about death to fully know that its only an idea.

The fear of death is one of the scariest feelings you can have.

When you face it, though, you discover its only a feeling.

Feelings pass.

Feelings of fear pass.

As fear diminishes, you realize its only power over you was as a thought, nothing else.When you realize your fear is only an idea and a concept, something changes.

The power given over to the thought immediately then transfers to you.

Knowledge overcomes fear.

The knowledge needed to overcome fear isnt always obvious.

Thats why its helpful to learn how to see outside the box.

Seeing outside the box provides a new perspective and new information.

Trusting your feelings helps you to think outside the box.

Preparation is a requirement for success and achievement.Having a new or different perspective provides an advantage, as well.

An alternative is a choice you dont know you have until you see it.

Knowledge tells you what is needed.

Wisdom tells you which direction to take.

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The eye sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend.Henri L. Bergson

Alternatives can help you avoid experiences that are avoidable.

More alternatives mean more options and choices.More choice means better results and more satisfaction.

Increasing your ability to feel adds input from the heart.Input from the heart helps the mind to think outside the box.

Thinking outside the box provides different views and new options.

At worst, alternatives show you a way to avoid unpleasant situations.At best, they show you how to reach your goals.

You no longer have to face fear unprepared, without a plan.

What can you do now that you couldnt do before? FEEL!

Facing down fear and achieving unity of self is not easy.

Fortunately, the Feel Technique is.

ARE YOU ALIVE?

Heres a tough (and unusual) question that you can take a moment to consider:

Do you feel totally alive or do you feel partly shut down?

There are times when we all feel totally alive or partially shut down.

And sometimes, you can feel somewhere and anywhere in between.

However, most people feel shut down more often than they feel totally alive.

Since almost everyone feels this way, its a safe guess that you do, too.

Why do most people feel more shut down than alive?

Well, we do follow routines. And routines are, by nature, boring.

Putting life on automatic while taking care of standard operating procedures can dull things down a bit.

But its more than that.

Lets look at it from the perspective of your emotional condition when you first arrived.

After you won the race to get here, you arrived kicking and screaming and letting your needs be known,pretty immediately. Self-expression was not an issue upon your arrival. From birth to infant to toddler,expressing your needs was easy. From that point however, through childhood, adolescence, to young

adult and then into adulthood, you learned to curb those needs and tuck them away.

In the process of tucking, the heart, by degrees, shuts itself off.

We come into this world with a heart as a tender root.

The only way the heart can protect itself is to shut off or shut down.

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It is a tender organ and has no other way to stop emotional pain.

The heart only knows how to feel!

If that becomes too painful, it finds a way to stop.

To the degree you didnt get enough love growing up, your heart stopped feeling.

Once shut down, it doesnt often return to its former capacity to feel on its own.

Turned off, fear of pain wont allow the heart to fully feel the need again.

The cause of most intimacy disorders is due to a heart that is shut-down.

All relationships in love, friendship and business depend on connection.

If your ability to respond is hampered, it will hurt your connection with others.We all do the dance of intimacy where we get close and back away and get close again.

But disconnections within the psyche restrict how attached were able to become at all.

By definition, an opportunity is a window that closes in time. When the opportunity to be satisfied

comes around, you may not react fast enough to take advantage of it. If your heart is shut down, its

easy to miss opportunities for satisfaction.

We are symbolic creatures and symbols are more than important to us.

Symbols hit so close to home that we trade away personal power for them.

Symbols have such great significance, we easily lose ourselves in their trappings.A Cross, Star of David, or a Crescent Moon can instigate actions other things wouldnt.

When the heart is shut down, its easier to get lost in symbols.

We identify so intimately with symbols, we give up a lot of self to be closer to them.

Many trade in feelings of aliveness and identity for symbols of money, love or power.

Money buys freedom but it doesnt buy soul.

Love feels good but it doesnt buy peace of mind.

Power always feels good, but how much of it do you already give away?

The Feel Technique creates a feeling off centered-ness and grounded-ness.

Centered and grounded people are not very willing to give up their power.

EMPTINESS

If youre doing things youd rather not be doing, emptiness is running your life.

Emptiness is an emotion that controls you if youre doing things to make it go away.

The experience of emptiness is a difficult emotion to allow yourself to feel.The feeling of emptiness is a difficult space to allow yourself to remain in.

Emptiness is scary and uncomfortable, especially if you feel powerless to change it.

However, the Feel Technique offers a new approach and a new perspective.

You no longer have to face the emptiness unprepared, without a plan.

So what can you do now that you couldnt do before?

FEEL!

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BOUNDARIES

Your skin and your sense of self separates you from others.A boundary is the space between you and someone else.

A request that doesnt serve your interests is an invasion of your boundaries.

A boundary is where you end and someone else begins, and visa versa.

Boundaries are also your ability to say no.

You want to define your boundaries and defend them.

Its human nature that if you wont, no one else will.

Defining and defending your boundaries is on of the best ways to keep mentally healthy.

FEEL strengthens feelings.

A stronger emotional base bolsters the balance between the heart and mind.

A good heart / mind connection fosters more secure boundaries.

Respecting and protecting your boundaries may still take effort.But a stronger sense and a willingness to say no, builds confidence.

And confidence reinforces boundaries.

Firmer boundaries help keep others negativity and doubts out of your head.

Or at least to a minimum.

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