The Call to Leadership The Ateneo Graduate School of Business Session 4: Transformation & Self Awareness January 15, 2014 The Prayer for Generosity Dearest Lord, Teach me to be generous. Teach me to serve you as I should: To give and not to count the cost, To fight and not to heed the wounds, To toil and not to seek for rest, To labor and ask not for reward; Save that of knowing that I do Your Most Holy Will. Mary Seat of Wisdom. Pray for us. Recap & Re-entry Last time we watched a docu on Ninoy & asked the question how do we become leaders? What important ideas to you remember from last week? How do we become leaders? We grow up and become unique individuals. At young adulthood, we become responsible, develop passions/interests, expertise, talents. We are moved to make a difference, answer a need/call. In the process, we inspire others to follow or work with us. Part of that growing up has significant experiences & transforming experiences. The Heros Transformation NinoySt. IgnatiusMulan Present TRAPO & ambitious Soldier & bad boy Who am I? Torn by duty Transformation & Call Imprisoned by dictatorship Cannon ball & convalescence Duty as a soldier Hero/Leader Fight for Freedom Gods soliderIcon of Duty Present Happy go-lucky. Attached to the Shire. Doesnt like conflict. Clark Kent Young Bruce Wayne Transformation & Call Bring the ring & the journey Discovering his identity & powers Parents murdered Seeks justice as mercenary Hero The Ring BearerSupermanBatman Frodo Lord of the Rings Superman Batman Batman Returns Present Slave boy but talented Jedi & Young man in love Darth Vader Right hand of Emperor Transformation & Call Jedi training Slowly being corrupted by Emperor who uses love Luke appeals to love Hero JediDarth Vader Anakin, Lukes father Paduan Anakin SW Ep 1 & 2 Anakin Skywalker SW Ep 3 Darth Vader SW Ep 4 - 6 Transformation begins from within And the first step is to know ourselves & our many layers more completely Intro to the Self-awareness Self-Awareness Family Structure & History Personal History Personality Genogram Lifebook Enneagram Thesis Statements 1. Leadership requires knowing and managing oneself in order to know and manage others better. 2. Leadership creates change. It requires influencing others to work towards a shared vision and a purpose larger than themselves. So that they appreciate their role as change agents in whatever context they find themselves. 3. Defining ones purpose for leadership is an interplay of self and context: your personality, your history and family influence. 4. Leaders need to be aware of their social, economic and environmental context in order to effectively respond to the challenges of todays world. Self Awareness What is self-awareness? There are things that happen on the outside of us & inside of us. We want awareness of stuff inside of us. Awareness of who I am - strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats Emotional self-awareness. Current emotions. Gut level reactions Awareness of patterns of thinking, reacting, and behaving. 2 kinds of pyschosis: neurotic & character disorder 1. Stimulus 2. Sense stimuli 3. Interpret stimuli 4. Feel 5. Decide on response 6. Response/Behavior Behavior Pattern SELF + CONTEXT CALL TO LEADERSHIP THE WORK OF LEADERS The nature of leadership What it entails The development process There is behavior that we do that is subconsciously motivated. (i.e, that we may not be aware of) Some hungers critical to leaders Power & control Affirmation & importance Intimacy & delight Hunger for Power & Control Has a disproportionate need for control Requires to know everything Tends to take over when things become confusing or ambivalent Gets angry when things dont turn out as they wanted In wanting power, loses sight of the work/goals Focuses on maintaining order as an end undo itself Hunger for Affirmation & Importance You believe all the good things said about you Strong need to hear from others that they did well Cannot accept criticism and negative feedback Driven to meet all the expectations & hopes of subordinates Does not communicate bad news Think they are the only ones who can save the day, that everything will fall apart without them Hunger for Intimacy & Delight Finds it difficult to be alone Has deep fear of abandonment Crosses boundaries inappropriately (ex. too touchy) Strong need to get close to others Feels power is a great aphrodisiac Through power, they take advantage of others Small Group Discussion 1. Find 4 or 5 people around you. 2. Sharing rules: Use I, me, my & What happens in Boracay stays in Boracay. 3. Answer the question: 1. What is my more dominant hunger: power & control, affirmation & importance, intimacy & delight 2. Try to look for examples in your life? 3. How is it good? How is it bad? Homework Take the free RHETI personality test on& read up on your top 3 results. Next we we start talking about your personality by using the Enneagram.