The Amazing Online Dating Guide - Tips and Advice for Men
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The Amazing Online Dating Guide
Tips and Advice for Men
Getting no responses? Getting too many responses?
Want to perhaps try online dating for the first time?
This guide has everything you need for online dating.
If you find it useful please share it!
Note: This guide demonstrates the perspective of both genders.
Researching the plights of the opposite sex is also beneficial after all!
Part 1: Establish Your Profile
Your profile is who you are in the online dating world so be sure to not make it too clich. Many
people copy profile templates from the Internet but it makes them look the same as everyone else and
ultimately boring! It is obvious to many that you would be a good friend and you like to have fun and
things such as that. Who doesnt like to have fun? What you should actually put on your profile are
your true interests such as arts or sports. Be very specific about this which means that instead of
saying I love films you would say something such as I love The Titanic because the film epitomises
how certain love stories can end in tragedy yet still be gripping and fulfilling. I personally dont have
any interest in Titanic by the way; that was purely an example for examples sake!
Another pothole that people fall down in their profile is directly stating they have a sense of humor; so
does everyone else and it is highly subjective from person to person. Instead of saying what you are
directly you need to demonstrate it through how you word your profile.
Never use abbreviations such as i luv boatz n smokez as it makes you look illiterate. If you struggle
to type in plain English then use a word processor. Google drive has a built in word processor with full
spell checking for example. If you dont have Microsoft Word installed or something similar then sign
up to Google and click on Drive at the top. Problem solved.
Keep the profile brief but effective. You are not writing your autobiography you are writing a summary
of what makes you special for potential suitors to see. It should go without saying but never lie on
your profile if you are seeking a more long term relationship. Its not a case of if your lies are found
out its a case of when they will be found out and given enough time they will be! Keep your profile
funny and confident without sounding like a fool and be sure to list your best features. Overall you
need to sell yourself.
One more key thing to note about your profile is to never use innuendo. Things such as I really enjoy
flying in the mile high club. are not only unnecessary but off putting to many potential suitors. Men
are usually the ones to do this but women who are down on their luck can often use similar words. It
is strongly recommend you avoid them at all costs because at the end of the day everyone enjoys sex
so you have no need to prove this to anyone.
Part 2: Your Profile Picture
A good profile picture of yourself is critical for a excellent profile. There are statistics out there that
show that if someone has a profile on their picture they are twice as likely to get a response to mails
they send out. Dont hide away - get your best pictures up there.
Be sure that the picture is at the most 11 months old. As an example do not use an old picture from
school if you are nearly in your 30s now. When you meet the person and they see someone other
than the picture it will be an instant red flag to them and will ensure that both you and the person you
are meeting have wasted their time. No one wants to date a liar.
In terms of the photo itself be sure its a normal looking photo. If you are a man and flexing your
muscles without your shirt on it may look nice to the women but it gives off the signal of you being a
player or not taking the dating seriously enough. Alternatively they could assume that you would
spend more time at the gym than with them if you have big muscles. As a woman it is best to not do
the infamous trout pout pose. Men cringe at this kind of photo. Your best bet is to put up photos
where you are either smiling naturally at the camera or smiling at something other than the camera. A
smile goes a long way with men ladies! Also it is recommended that you keep your chest contained
within your clothes because you will receive many messages from men seeking one thing only. If that
is what you are looking for then flaunt the two girls as required!
You probably shouldnt take a photo like this!
Part 3: Responses
You may find that you will receive an overwhelming amount of response. Try not to panic; you should
be flattered with all this attention! Simply go through the emails one a time and see if any of them
interest you. Build a shortlist from the ones that you find interesting by adding them to favourites if
the dating site has a feature such as that. If not simply make a note with good old pen and paper!
Alternatively if you dont receive many responses then dont be disappointed. Be sure to double check
your profile and photo. Submit it to one of the many profile review websites found online and above
all sit tight and wait. This can happen to men or women so dont assume your gender is anything to do
with this. If you give up now you will never find Mr or Mrs right.
When it comes to your first response be sure to comment on their interests and ask them questions
on it as required. Alternatively if the person genuinely does not interest you then kindly turn them
down. If they continue to harass you after that report them - the admins on dating websites really
enjoy removing bad apples from their sites! Think of it as doing someone else a favour; by reporting
their immature rejection behaviour you have stopped them acting like that to someone else.
Be sure that in any message you send you dont come across as creepy. Using terms such as sexy or
gorgeous far too early would set off a major red flag in womens heads if sent as a man. Likewise if
you are a woman and give off similar signals then the man is likely to flag you as a woman who is
easy to sleep with and is less likely to take you seriously. Naturally if you have met a few times in
person dont worry about such things but in the early phases keep it civil. Pretend the person you are
talking to is someone you work with - build comfortable rapport with them.
A key bit of advice for men (and sometimes women) is to never escalate the communication to
outside of the dating website too early. If you ask for an email address or msn address too soon it
becomes a big red flag. Take it calm and steady before escalating it beyond the scope of the dating
website. As you communicate more with your potential partner you will get more of a feel for them.
Never force anything upon a potential suitor.
Part 4: The First Date
The general consensus of asking for the first meetup is that it is something that men should do. Never
be pushing for the first meetup. Build rapport through the dating site message system first. Nobody
likes to be pressured into meeting and it will lead to frustration over and over if you keep pushing for
meetings as people reject you over and over. On the flip side dont drag it on forever, once you feel
you know the basics about the person then its time to arrange that first date. Dont hesitate
regardless of your gender - if you have had plenty of messages between each other then it is time to
escalate it to real life.
When you do meet then treat it as you would a normal date - dress nicely but not like you are going to
a prom or a business meeting, get the small talk going based on what you know about each other and
try to embrace their sense of humour. If you just dont feel it on the first date then try and give it one
more try before you close the door for good with the person. The person could have just had a bad day
or have been under pressure at work and they tried their best to not bring it to the date but failed. If
they are the same on the second date then time to depart. Alternatively if you both feel it then you
have something really good going and no amount of guides or advice could possibly tell you what to
do from this point. You will know instinctively if this person is right for you and you will be able to
keep moving forward with him or her.
If it doesnt work then its fine. Tell the person and move on.
Part 5: Diversify
If you have only tried one or two online dating websites it is strongly recommended that you sign up
to many as this significantly increasing your chances of finding what you want; be it a long term
relationship or a casual relationship. See below for some of the best dating sites.
CupidThere has been a lot of controversy surrounding this sitein its early days as a google search will demonstrate butthey have picked up the pieces and now the site is now asolid contender. The core focus of the site is the matchpeople up and get them going out together.
Age: 18+Focus: Relationships
Click here to check out Cupid.com
FlirtFlirt has more emphasis on the dating side of things thanbuilding relationships so it is more suitable for peoplewho edge towards the casual side of things. That beingsaid there have been many success stories of long termrelationships materialising from sites such as this.
Age: 18+Focus: Dating and Casual Relationships
Click here to check out Flirt
LoveAgainLoveAgain is targeted almost exc